The Relationship Circle

Avoidant? Anxious? The Truth About Your Attachment Style & Why It’s Not Your Fault with Flora Ong

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Ever wondered why you keep reacting the way you do in relationships—even when you know it’s not helping?

In this episode, I’m joined by Flora Ong, certified life coach and integrated attachment specialist, to explore how our early attachment patterns silently shape our adult relationships—and how to finally break free from the ones that no longer serve us.

Flora opens up about her own post-divorce healing journey, and we unpack the deep, subconscious forces that fuel self-sabotage, emotional reactivity, and insecure attachment.

Inside this episode, we dive into:

  • The difference between anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and how they show up in love
  • Why your “window of tolerance” matters more than you think
  • The sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in dating and relationships
  • How childhood conditioning wires your nervous system for disconnection
  • Why curiosity, not judgment, is the secret weapon in personal growth
  • What it really takes to feel safe in intimacy and connection

Whether you feel stuck in anxious loops, shut down emotionally, or keep replaying painful patterns—you’re not broken. You’re just repeating what once kept you safe.

This conversation is your invitation to slow down, get curious, and start building the emotional resilience that leads to secure, satisfying love.

🎧 Press play now—healing starts here.

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https://www.youtube.com/@RedoLove/shorts

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

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