Moving forward while leaving your wild dance moves behind

Will & Max recap their Mother's Day road trips and their evolving relationships with aging parents; how to rally as a midlifer for your younger friend's wedding bash in Mexico; making the leap to transition to a new career in midlife. 

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Only last time both of us were gonna go see our mothers for Mother's Day. So how did your trip go? Ah, yeah. Okay, so Mother's Day, Mother's Day is always interesting. So I usually go home, my home meaning from the DC area to Winston Salem, North Carolina to visit my mother. And invariably always, before I get there, I always get a call. Well, son, you don't have to come if you don't want to, you know, because I used to, but Is she serious? Or is she? Well, I don't know. Because my mom is dead serious. She's like, I don't want you driving on 95 I don't want to do risking your life. Right and driving that route forever. Right? Say? Yes. Say she's saying that just to kind of let you off the hook. But she really wants to see you. Well, she definitely wants to see me for sure. I'm not sure why she does to be honest with you. Because it doesn't work. I mean, if you know if I don't make the effort to go see here, then the chances are I won't see her. You know, God bless my mother. She's I don't really want her driving up and down the road to be honest with I'll just do it. So my No, Mom, I got it. No big deal. You know, I hate the drive. I'll be honest. And I tell her that all the time. And but you know, something you got to do? Try to be a good son and I do it. How long do you go down for? See? I stayed a little longer than I normally do. So I think I got there Saturday, and I left on the phone Thursday. Okay, that's a good amount of time. Yes. That's, that's the longest I spent with my mother in quite some time. And it was good. Back in the day, you know, when I was in my 20s 30s 40s Maybe? We we couldn't have existed that long together. It'd be harder. Yeah, we changed. I think we just both kind of just, just just like, you know, just, it's not worth it. You know, we'll, we'll get into little tips, per se. already. Yeah. But just to just let it go. Like, alright, my you got it. You know, it's not that big of a deal. Blah, blah, blah. You know, I'm, I'm in her home. You know, I'm on her time doing what she wants to do. And you know, I just I enjoy being with my mother. I love her. So the little petty stuff. You just gotta let go. Yeah, it totally messes with my parents schedule. When I go down there. Maybe that's also why they like don't come. Oh, really? screw up my schedule. Yeah, I mean, they like it. But I think a lot of energy, right? Like, if you if your normal routine is just to be at home most of the time and watching TV and no stress, you know, stressful, I think to change up your schedule. Yeah, for sure. Well, I mean, it's quite, I mean, I'm sure it's a lot different for me. It's just me, and I brought the dog with me this time for you YouTube, but now with our with your family, though, right? Well, this time I just went by myself. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Okay, like one time I went down, and I was with my kids, but I took my mom to some park, and we were walking around, and then she got really tired and dizzy, because she doesn't go out that much out in the sun. Right? So that was scary. You know, like, oh, my gosh, you know, I don't want to push you too hard. Right? Yeah, that's that's happened to me a couple of times, or we've gone off for walks, we went out to a park at a quarry one time and you know, just realized that, you know, your, your, your parents and our moms in this case. They just can't keep up with your pace and you like you guys just remember like, Okay, I gotta slow down, blah, blah, blah. And, you know, always gotta be mindful of like, just moving a lot slower than you are. So once you once you deal with that, and understand that it's okay. For me, it takes a little while, like, you know, like, What can she do this? So she's basically walking by like, she just can't do it. Yeah, I mean, I do wish I would live closer. I mean, do you feel like that to that? At one point, you did say you might move closer to your mom. It's a it's a reoccurring thought almost every day like my mom was good. She doesn't have any significant health issues. Knock on wood. So she's good. It's just, you know, I, for me, being a single person. I don't really have any obligation to be where I am other than friends. Right. So work, work, work. I could, I could move around a little bit, but for me, it's like all right. I'm no I'm going to hit that point where I feel like overwhelming obligation to be closer to my mom just just in case. Yep. And she tells me all the time. I'm good son, you don't need to worry about that right now. I'll let you know when that time comes. But I don't want it to happen too late, you know what I'm saying? So. But yeah, I think about that all the time. Yeah, it's definitely a change as we get older. I think it's, you really appreciate your parents, I think. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I, I don't know if it's physically possible. But it's almost like for me, my love for my parents gets stronger. Like every day, like I, you know, I remember back in the day, like, I wanted to get away from, you know what I mean, but I guess that's the natural thing. Yeah. Yeah. You start to see their you know, their frailties and stuff like that. And you want to be there for you know, I want to be a good son. And you understand, you start to see all the sacrifices. Sure, sure. Going up. 100%. appreciate them more. Yeah, 100%. But I will say this last visit, she kind of warmed me. And I just kind of blew it off, but not blew it off. But I didn't take it that seriously. Okay, we can do this. So, but she did hit me with like, some when you come down here, I want you to review my, my will. And I was like, Oh, I'm not a lawyer when I look at it, but okay. So eventually she brings it out. And I look at it and it's like 35 pages, right? Did she just get it done? Or is she had it for a while? She just it was? for me? It was like proofreading it. Okay. And pages what? Yeah, where'd you get that template? Exactly. And some local lawyer there. And I thought I knew that guy. I thought I went to high school with guy, but I don't think it was the same guy when I saw his name, but I'm looking through it. And she's named, she has named me executor, and, and all this and, you know, my sister has some responsibilities too. But basically, it's just, you know, leaving my me and my sister, you know, my split of what her assets and stuff like that. So I'm just reading and reading and reading and you know, it's legal, legal jargon and stuff like that, like, alright, mom looks good to me. But but, you know, normally, I would say probably, if she had asked me to do that, probably five years ago, I would have refused. I would have refused, refused. Yeah. Because I would have said, Yeah, my, just my time. Yeah. Why are we looking at this? You know, I mean, I don't know. But I, it would have affected me to a point where I can't think about, you know, the outcome of this or whatever. And now I you know, I guess I've matured a little bit or whatever, and come to a realization, okay, this is important stuff, you know, we need to go through this, because, you know, let's say she didn't have a well, then, you know, the state could just take all that stuff or whatever, you know, you hear these horror stories about people that don't have wills, and, and they wind up losing, you know, whatever assets or losing some of their assets or whatever. And so I read through it to the best of my ability, and I say, my look, you know, it looks fine. You know, I, you know, if I were you, I mean you have a lawyer or whatever, I would have somebody that knows a little bit more about this process than I do. But hey, whatever you stated what I needed to do, in this, I'm cool with so, you know, that's what I was able to get for her. No, but I am proud of my mom for, for having that. I'm sure my father. I know he has a well, he's expressed that to me too. But he's never asked me to, to look at I mean, obviously he has a wife and, and a couple of kids down there where he is, but you know, it was It felt good to know that, you know, my mother would kind of like, trust me to like, take care of stuff along with my sister when she transitions. So no, I just got to deal with it. It's part of life. Didn't you go to Mexico recently? I did go to Mexico recently. Yeah, that was my first time. And Mexico proper. Where did you go which city? Beach. It was yes, it was Riviera, Maya Riviera Maya. We want to say. I think it's it's south of Cancun. So a little south of Cancun. was down there for a wedding. Two really great friends of mine that I really only known them for I would say probably the last four or five years, but we have here in this area they live here. Yes. And great, great friends. Great couple. They have two kids. They've all been married before they have two kids one, one each from the previous relationship. They're in their early 40s. So it's a little bit of a younger crowd. I mean, of course their parents were there and there were other some other people there that are a couple other people. They're they're in their 50s but for the most part, their early 40s, mid 40s. So some of them are, are knocking on the door of their midlife. Yeah. And welcome, welcome. We love you Love you all. Come on in the water's fine. But yeah, so we we all trip down to Mexico. I think there were 30 of us on the plane down. And I think there were probably a total of 50 people there for the wedding. Obviously Nice. That's yeah, a lot of people to fly down. That was that was a you know, it's always a situation where like, I was a little I was a little scared because these people are partiers you know, I'm kind of a partier, too, but you know, I thought it was gonna be like a whole debacle the plane ride down, but it was it was chill that you know, everybody went together on the same flight error for the most part. Yes, it's kind of Yeah, I think they're out of the 50 They're probably like I said 27 to 30 people on this on that on that flight down and then you know, the rest came on a different flight or a different day but we got there on Friday. And you know, it was on a resort beautiful resort we all kind of just put our bags away got our swim clothes on and and headed for the pool probably got there around like 1pm 2pm Yeah, was there a beach to beach there is a beach and the wedding was the wedding was on the beach but nobody was trying to see the beach at that point. Right? We just jumped in the pool just jumped in the pool was big, big big big pool like but it was like a circuit are a series of pools you know? Like a wave pool I want in and you know, a regular pool and then there's pool that when and how to swim up bar of course. Of course, of course. So we're all in the pool chillin blah blah blahs. Hot as I don't know what out there was 90 Plus. Everybody's bathing suit game Trump game was on point which I knew it wasn't as one of the reasons you're trying to get fit. Yes, yes. Yes. Great point. So I I think I did a halfway decent job. But you know, you know, I'm looking around inspecting I how do I how do I quit because I'm I'm a little bit you know, I'm a little older than most of them. But I feel like fit was you know, body check. You know, I was good. I mean, yeah, I mean, I didn't feel like my stomach stuck out too much. You know, I did a little pre pop in the hotel room just to get the muscles activated a little bit. And I felt like I was hanging in there for sure. I did get put on to a great tip. I don't know if you're a much more traveler than I am. I never heard of Imodium before you're ever in Oh, you mean for diarrhea? Diarrhea, constipation, bloating, blah, blah, blah. So somebody put me on like a couple days before you got to take ammonia, you got to take ammonia and you're not take or you go for interesting before. And I I think that saved me. I really did. So. I've heard a lot of people go into Mexico having issues with either swimming in the water or something swallowing water. Well, yeah, so Montezuma's revenge. I think that's what it's called. Yeah, um, yes. Didn't happen to me, but I'll circle back to that. So I was taking I popped there Modi and he got to it in the morning as preventative. And it worked like I can take it preventative. Yeah, it worked. I did not have any stomach issues. And usually when I travel it's a I think there's a you know, what's his name? Louie. Louie CK. He. I remember one time he said, being in your mid life is a constant battle between constipation and diarrhea. And always now Always think about that. Yeah, always think about that and then like that Imodium? I think that saved me. Like people get sick. Ah, yes, yes that I felt that I told them to take Imodium they did not take it and then they wonder what some stomach issues that we got back. But that saved my life. Well, they saved me from being on the toilet most of the time. So anyway, pool we're out there vibing swim up bar another pro tip when you go to these all inclusive places, bring your own thermos or yetis. Okay, and they'll fill it up. They'll fill it up for my pro tip. Listen, give everybody jewels out here today. So anyway, we did that. That was Friday. I think we went to maybe like, there was a sports bar there. So we just did that. It wasn't a well, I did get drunk. Let me rewind that. I did get drunk and I got lost. I got lost in the resort and the resort because I had only seen part of the resort, right giant resort, right? So my villa or room was directly outside where the pool is the pool. Well, that system of pools was right there in the middle. And my building was just like on the outside of it. But for somehow we went somewhere. And I got turned around and I was behind the building on the other side of the building. Okay, and I couldn't see where the pool was. So I would just walk around and just, I walked for probably 3045 minutes just starting to panic or know a little bit a little bit. I found a friend who got his jumped on Google Maps and kind of helped me out with that. I wonder what a blister on my foot. It was a hole hole. Yeah. Um, so that's how that night ended. So the second day, more of the same. In the pool, I swear, Max, I was in that pool for probably eight hours. I mean, just standing there talking drinks, football, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, eating anything. They did have daily, some somewhat daily activities. They had like some water aerobics they had like some games where they were like, you throw things targets and if you win nice, whatever little cheesy stuff. So yeah, so then, you know, had dinner. And then we went out to the karaoke bar. Nice. Very nice. So I performed gin and juice. Man, nobody killed it. wrecked it, you would have been proud of me do a video. There is video. I'll send it to you. So I was just trying to think of a song that that I kind of know the lyrics to. But if I read them, I could get it. You know what I mean? And the funny thing was, was like, this karaoke bar, they were doing all like, Spanish songs. And that's a large group of us. You know, obviously, we don't want to listen to Spanish music. And we got to change up the vibe here. So I was like, Alright, I'm gonna do gin and juice. On our bus. I go up there which and be your height man. rocked it. Right. That's awesome. So another buddy, he wants to do a song. He wants me to come up there and be his height, man. It's like, alright, I'll come up there and be right man. So he wants he wanted to do scenario by tribe and Buster and all that stuff. So we get up there and he said, Are y'all y'all do the first little parts and when buses turn comes up, I'll do his part. Alright, cool. So um, I'm doing other parts. You know, I'm doing cute to blah, blah. You know, Mr. BUSTA RHYMES, you know, but Well, I hand him the mic. And he freezes. He locks up heat. Well, he first of all, he came in early. And I was like, no banana. Yeah. And I took my back. And that's I didn't know how to go. And he just like stage stage, right? Yeah. I was like, Oh my god. So I had to take the mic away from him and do the part that he wanted to do. It's funny. So yeah, it was it was fine. I want to see that video hinting video. So then somebody says, Let's go to the club. So there was a nightclub there. We had to cross like a little road or something, but it was still on a resort. And I get in there and there's a bunch of cars. It's Memorial Day weekend and it's 18 down there to drink. So there's a bunch of teenagers down there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So we're in there, and I'm dancing. I'm dancing, you know my groove. And then I had a realization. Like someone tapped me on my shoulder and said, Well, it's time it's time we'll, that you you move, or you graduate over to the two step and just stick with the two step. What were you doing? I'm doing because all right, let me give you my subscribers a little, little background here. I've always fancied myself as a good dancer. Okay. You know, we grew up in the 80s 90s blah, blah. You know, we're used to dancing fast. We're used to dancing for a long time doing all the moves. You know, I you know, at one point, Max, I don't know if I've ever revealed this to you, but I want it to be a background dance. Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah, yeah. I don't think I ever saw you dancing. I used it when I was a DJ and I danced all the time. I shut the place down. Tapped you on the shoulder with this. It was me. It was my like my conscious outside of my body. It tapped me on my shoulder. So person. No, no, no, it was it was the midlife will kicked in, tapped me on my shoulder says Hey, buddy. Hey, it's time, bro. It's time. But okay, so do you believe that? I do now? I do. Because I don't, for some reason, or I don't know how I was able to do it. But I was able to examine me. Outside of my body. I don't know how I noticed that physically possible. But I had a moment of clarity. Like, bro, you're you don't need to try to dance like this. I don't know, is that a good thing? I feel like, maybe this is a time to be less inhibited. You know? Like, maybe lose a little bit more, maybe. But that's not what I felt. I felt like, it's time to just tone it down. You're working up a sweat. I checked my heart rate. It was like, yeah, it was like 130 is like, it's just, bro. You know, you're not impressing anybody anymore. You know? It's like, just having fun when I was having fun, but like, that was fun bouncers, like, oh, like, you know, I need to check my heart rate, like you can't have fun. Were you thinking about checking your heart rate, you know, saying? Yeah, so it was like, out of breath. While I was getting tired, yes, I was getting tired. But, you know, it was just like an epiphany. Like, okay, no one cares. What how you dance. You're not You're not impressing anybody. If anything, you know. You just need to just have a little drink. And just do a little two step. Like it's cool to look like you know, the songs now because they were playing like modern songs. That's still cool. You can look cool doing it. But you don't need to look cool. Trying to do the dances. You're out of Abro you're out of your lane. Just just just do a little one to one to shuffle and you'll be fine. So that was a you believe that? I believe that now I believe that now? Yeah, I gotta I gotta. I'm retiring the dancing shoes. gonna hang him up. But the wedding was great. You know, great pictures. fit check. My Fit could have been a little bit better mom. My mom actually helped me pick my fit. Wow. When I was down there, I said hey, I need to fit for the for the wedding. And my mom picked my fit now. My mom and I have different styles but what she helped me fine. I thought was a good look. Right? It was white linen pants and like a linen shirt that had like a print on it. Okay, so like resort where resort where? Yeah. And so sandals. So when the wedding came and I knew this is gonna happen, I'm so stupid. I just like kicking myself. So these are all like dudes again in their early mid 40s. You know, couple of stragglers out there in their 50s and they're fits. We're athletic fit. Okay, okay. So you know the you know, Like a tight shirt? Well, I wouldn't say like, tight tight, but like, you know, fitted cut, you know, to their proportions or their body. I not so much for me, I didn't realize this until I got because my mother, she's like, You need like flowing air breathing stuff, right? So I didn't really realize it till I saw a picture. And so you see what you're gonna say so you there's a picture of all the guys and you know, everything's athletic look fit good blah, blah. Me with this, Billy? Sure. That just that looks like it was strong when blue and it would just take me away. Well, you should have known not to your mother, God bless her. Because I knew I should have wore something more fitted. And so yeah, I hated that hated the pictures of me after wedding. Hey, hey, look, too. Did they make you look away or something? Or, you know, like, bigger than you? I made me look like the shirt didn't fit in with what was going on? Wow. Okay, you look good. I thought it looked fine. billowy, biggest shirt on. Everybody's like, you know, like these nice printed shirts or lemon? And it's like, it's funny that they all do the dress code. Did they talk beforehand? Or have it just happened that they know, they just knew and I knew I'm gonna be I knew I just got distracted, got distracted. And I knew I should have known only that day. Right? And when I I'm so happy that I I saw a lot of pictures. So most of the pictures, I'm in the background. Right? So I'm glad I did. Because I didn't realize that at the time. I'm just, this is me looking back at the pictures. But there's like one or two pictures I have standing in the forefront. Oh, did anybody say anything? No, they never opened down. I mean, probably did. They? You know, no one's gonna say well, what the hell? Why are you? You know, because who cares about me at this wedding? You know? I'm not the center of attention. But it's like, there's a couple pieces like, oh, well, you knew better why you did that. So but anyway, other than that, everything was cool. Wedding was nice. There weren't too many single girls there. Well, that's why I was gonna ask you like, our age? Like, is it still the same that you hook up with somebody? Or you might? I mean, I think that's not always I think that's always the case. There were some single women there were like two or three, but I've known them forever. This is like, you know, I think maybe there was opportunity with one. But like, no, no, I was like, No, I'm gonna live to regret that. So I started fast. You know, just you can have a good time without that on your mind. Like that. prevailing thought? Yeah, I think. But no, it was cool. Like, I never felt other than seeing that baggy shirt I was wearing, I never felt that I was older than the crew like a home. Like, I was always one of the last ones to go to bed and blah, blah, blah. So I you know, my energy level was cool. Everything was good. Everybody was a vibe, every time there was no drama. So I'm thankful for my friends. And if you're listening, I want to give you all a shout out. Like, you know, I'm probably you know, at least 10 to 15 years older than most of these people. And, you know, they, they, they treat me as a contemporary, they treat me as equal, you know, I might get a joke every now and again about something but but no. And, you know, I'm also want to give a shout out to myself. I'm proud of myself, because I'm proud of the stamina and the energy level that I'm able to maintain. You know, I mean, like something that you are conscious of that you were thinking about, like, Oh, I gotta stay up late because I don't want to seem like an old man. No, no. Okay. And that was just, you know, just this is just me being me. But then, you know, I'm checking my email, and I see this email from the company saying they're going to this has happened before, but it's a voluntary separation program where I think I think they do this for people that have been in a company for a long period of time. And it's basically they're given you an opportunity to exit the company with a significant better package if you would get if you, you know, were terminated or quit or whatever. So it's definitely a somewhat of a reduction in force. But it's a voluntary gun reduction. Okay. That's nice. And opportunity. It is is scary for me, though, because? Because I've been at the same place for 19 years. Yeah. So, but you've been thinking about a change anyhow. Right. Yeah. Yeah, have been thinking about a change. But, you know, the package is, and it's not a guarantee. So let me make sure that that's clear. They're saying, Hey, we're looking for volunteers to take this, it's not a guarantee that we, you know, you're gonna get it, but we just want to see who wants to do it? Right. And so they'll give you I think it's three weeks for every year that you've been there, up to up to 60 weeks? Oh, wow. Yeah. So I'm at the I'm at the, I'm at the limit, and you get a 100% of the projected bonus that you were supposed to get for that year anyway. And you get whatever time that you have for that you get to keep your, your, your medical and your dental. So I it had been offered to me before I had been put out there before, but this was probably five or six years ago, and I wasn't at the cap back back then. And now I'm at the cap. And I'm like, Well, who knows what, like, if I don't take it, and they may be six months, whatever. And they're like, hey, you know, we got it, we gotta let you go. But then you've lost that opportunity. Or maybe it doesn't happen at all. And, you know, this would be an opportunity to, you know, leave, but have, knowing that you have at least you know, a year salary. Even though it's pre tax in the bank, so that you're not like fumbling and like worried super worried about getting another job so quickly. Yeah, that's great. So I am considering it. But that is such a big Oh, I am considering, you know, asking for it. But it's be a big change in my life. I mean, obviously, I would have to try to find another job because I couldn't just live off on your salary. But it'd be nice to have some some gives you a cushion. Yeah. cushion and a little bit of carryover a little bit overlap. That's what I'm trying to say. And yeah, so I'm strongly considering I've talked to a couple of buddies. You're telling me to do it. That's awesome. I would love that. Yeah, but see you back. You're used to change you've moved? Yes. To change. Yeah, changing jobs, changing locations, change changing everything. I'm not used to that. I've like I've been there for 19 years, like, you know, and I think the stars like I've been, I've been blessed with some stability, and my work life. Now. I don't always like what I'm doing and don't like, you know, how I do it, or what it entails. But I do think like, it's it's time, like, it's time I like this is like the push that I need to switch it up and like, you know, just do something different. Yeah, I think it's great. So, the more I think about it, the more I'm like, alright, well, you should just at least give it a shot. You know, I think I'm smart enough and cunning enough to be able to find a job that I like this will give me some time to do that. A lot of companies want to see stability with a job for a long time. So I think that's a positive thing. Yeah, but it's just for me, and I'll be honest with you, it's not so much that it's more like the logistics of it. Like I'm scared to like update my resume or not even updated just create a resume because I'm so out of touch with the workforce and that life and and being on LinkedIn and whatever and I'm like yeah, gosh, so do it. I guess I can do it. Yeah, I should do it. But I'm strongly considering for sure. Yeah, I know it's tricky to I think because there is some ageism I noticed you know when I interview I think definitely like people are looking at our age and thinking, Oh, how much longer is this person going to work? Or you know, this person is already right. You know, and it's funny that it's funny that you say that because a buddy of mine, I was telling him all this, and he's like, hey, oh, cool. I'm going to meet a guy who does who I know he has some engineering positions. And you should come out and meet him. I was like, Okay, I'll come out meet him. So we started talking about our personal lives and stuff like that. And my buddy. He said, Because I told him, like, I can't stay very long. I gotta go record the podcast. And he brings up the podcast, right? And so the guy naturally asked, well, what kind of podcast is it? It's a podcast about being in your mid life. You're, so I'm revealing how old I am. You know what I mean? So this is not what I wanted to talk about, like, you know, like, again, like you just said, like, the ageism. And like, if I hire this guy, how long is he gonna be there? You know, like, you know, and I didn't want that they'll kind of come up, but it is what it is, you know, ducking anything or hide? Yeah. And I think I think, you know, we talked about, you know, owning or age and being where we are, and we were talking about this one author who writes about, you know, how to spin it positive, right? Sure. Like to think about the next chapter of your life is, you know, a transformation or something super positive. So, yeah, yeah, I think people can see that, like, if you're confident, and you're excited and enthusiastic, and you can actually be, you know, I was hired for a job with some of my former co workers from over 15 years ago, and I think they probably had doubts too, like, Ooh, you know, we haven't worked with her in a while, is she going to do well, and I actually think I did better than some, you know, maybe a young person that they would hire, you know, so because I was able to kind of just fit right in really quickly. And, and so, but people have to be willing to take a chance, you know, these people knew me. Right. Right. Versus if you going cold to some some company that where you're being compared to all these other people. It's really tough. Yeah, for sure. Not to discourage you. But so so I think use your network as much as you can, right? Yeah. Many people who know you and who can vouch for you? Yeah, I mean, I'm going to and, you know, my friends out there listening, you know, you know, I don't need I don't have you as friends for that. For that, if we were a position and whatever company or whatever you do, but hey, you know, if you need my help, I'm gonna help you if I need your help, you know, help brother out. So I mean, you know, whatever you can. So it's a interesting time in my life, for sure. But scary, but like, you're ready to make the leap. So when do you have to decide by? No next month? So I got some time to think about and I got some time. Set up, my buddy says, Get your resume going right now. Don't wait. Like, don't don't do anything this weekend. Lock in and do your resume. Buddy, relax, but But no, he is right. I do need a lock in. Get all my ducks in a row, get my resume together. You know, maybe hire somebody to do it. I don't know, I don't know these processes anymore. But I can help you know, hundreds of resumes and cover letters. Oh, well, thank you. I'm gonna take you up on that. But yeah, it's I mean, like I like you said, I think it can be a good thing. It's time for a shake up. It's time to get the blood going again, as far as like, you know, not being so complacent. So like, content about what you're doing. It's exciting ever. I'm excited to have a new challenge. Thanks for joining us for this episode of midlife marauders. Follow us on social media and wherever you stream your podcast. We also want to give a big shout out to Frank Moines Des Moines music for providing the beats for our theme music and to our listeners, keep on marauding and see you next time.