If you’ve been with someone for a while, you have certain ways you typically engage with one another. While some of these patterns of engagement are helpful and work for you, others can be destructive.

Having the same destructive patterns re-occur creates greater disconnection and dysfunction in your relationship. Once you are aware of them, though, you can change them.

But how do you become aware of and change a destructive pattern in your marriage? There’s one I see all the time, and it’s triggered by what I call “the four dreaded words.”
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll find out the words and the pattern, why it happens, and how you can disrupt it and create a new, healthier pattern between you and your partner.

1:45 - The destructive pattern I see every day triggered by these four words
4:42 - What you need to do to break this pattern and receive what you want
7:46 - How you can disrupt this destructive pattern and create a better one
9:40 - Why it isn’t necessary for both of you to be working together to change the pattern
11:52 - An alternative if it feels too scary to do this with your partner right now

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