In The Passenger Seat with Alethea Crimmins
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In The Passenger Seat with Alethea Crimmins
Narcissists, Boundaries, and Peace, Oh My!!!
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Welcome to the Passenger Seat
Speaker 1Welcome back everybody . You are officially in the passenger seat with your girl , alethea Crimmins . Look , the weather was kind of iffy outside , so that's why I'm not in my car . But guess what ? The show must go on , so we have to just move locations . But here I am , baby . We are not just talking about surviving , we are talking about thriving honey . Okay
Understanding Narcissistic Personalities
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Speaker 1So listen , today we are diving into something juicy but very necessary , and y'all ask me about this all the time how to deal with narcissistic personalities . Yep , we going there . We going there Because some of y'all out here thinking that you the problem , y'all really out here thinking that you are the problem , when really you are just surrounded by a grown-up toddler with a God complex . That is all that this is . I mean sips tea and we going to spill it Because I mean , why do you always think that you are the problem ? You are not the problem . So stop making yourself the villain in your own story . That is not your ministry boo . That is not who you are . We have to understand that . It's not you
Signs You're Dealing With a Narcissist
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Speaker 1So let's just dive into exactly what a narcissist is , baby . Let's get this straight A narcissist isn't just someone who takes a lot of selfies and always in the mirror . No , ma'am , pam , a narcissist is someone who thinks the world is their runway and everybody else is just background noise . How many people do we know like that ? I'm sure y'all just sitting there just thinking , yeah , I know somebody like that right now . But here is what makes them stand out . Here is what actually makes them a narcissist . They have a grandiose sense of self . Like baby . They think that they are Beyonce , baby . Like they think they are Beyonce , oprah and Jesus all rolled up in to one . They don't have empathy for anything or anybody . Like they can watch you cry and still be more upset about their coffee order that was wrong than worried about you and why you are so upset .
Speaker 1And let's not get started on the manipulation . They will twist your words like a pretzel at the mall , baby . Yes , they will , because that is what they do . They need constant admiration , and I mean constant . If you don't clap every time they breathe , then suddenly you are the villain and don't you dare criticize them , because then they'll act like you stabbed them in the ego , which you probably did , and you did it by accident , like you wouldn't even know . But this is what they do . But don't get it twisted , because I know that some of y'all were like well , no , that's not always the case , and you're right , not everyone who's selfish or self-centered is a narcissist .
Speaker 1But when these traits are chronic and they become harmful to others , especially in relationships , baby , it is time to open your eyes and pay attention . It is time to see what is staring you in the face , because sometimes we don't see them waving the red flags that are right in front of us , like they're in our face , and sometimes we just do not see it or we don't want to see it because we have these rose colored glasses on . So let me show you how to spot a narcissist without pulling out your magnifying glass and take these rose colored glasses that we like to wear off . So there's a cheat sheet to
Protecting Your Peace With Boundaries
Speaker 1this that I've learned . Number one is everything is about them . You tell them that your Mimi passed away and somehow it turns into their story about how they once had a dog named Mimi Bitch . I wasn't talking about your dog , I was talking about me . So how did this turn into you and your dog ? Like the fuck , love bombing is their superpower . They come in hot with the gifts , the flattery , the baby , you're my everything Like ooh , maybe this is love . I ain't never felt like this in my life . Then , boom , baby . Next week you are crying in your car Talking about I'm not going to cry , I'm not wondering what the hell you did wrong .
Speaker 1Number three they never apologize . They do not hold themselves accountable . Number three they never apologize . They do not hold themselves accountable , and if they do , it's one of them . Fake ass apologies like I'm sorry , you feel like that and oh no , baby , I mean , that's not an apology , that's a trap . They are trying to . Number four gaslight you , because that is what they do . They are pros at gaslighting . They will straight up do something shady in your face and tell you it never happened . Oh no , I didn't say that , that's , that's , that's not what I said .
Speaker 1And then you sit here questioning yourself the whole time , Like you have amnesia , like you wondering , wondering , like wait , did I just fuck up ? Like is my ? Did I see it wrong ? No , they feed off of control . Whether it's emotional manipulation or just jabs , they need to feel superior . Does that sound familiar ? If you're nodding your head right now , you know this . It's not your fault . You are not crazy .
Choosing You Over Their Drama
Speaker 1You're just dealing with someone who doesn't operate from a place of empathy or mutual respect . I'm sorry , but you're dealing with a narcissistic personality . I know because I've done it for most of my life . I've done it with my mom , I've done it in relationships . So how do you deal with these type of people without losing your fucking mind Because it happens Now ? Here is the real . You may not be able to change them because you can't , because they have to want to be able to change themselves , but you can change you , you can change how you react . So let me give you some tools on how to protect your peace and just keep yourself good . Okay , so let's get into the reason that you are really here , because I know y'all really want to know how to deal .
Speaker 1Number one the word y'all hate . The people . Pleasers hate this word . Boundaries , baby . And I don't mean being nice . Well , if you don't mind , no bitch , no . What I mean is that does not work for me . Period , full stop . No return policy . No is a complete sentence that does not need an explanation .
Speaker 1Do not take the bait . They will poke , prod and provoke you like it's their full-time job , baby . Let them talk to themselves If they want drama . Guess what ? You're busy , you're booked , you don't have time . That's not your ministry . Listen , give them nothing , don't say anything , be silent , keep it boring as hell . Dry Dryer than a Popeye's biscuit oh , I guess I ain't going to be getting a sponsorship from them but drier than a biscuit with no drink and you'll see how fast they move on .
Speaker 1When they cannot get a reaction from you , they like to get a reaction . Do not give them one . It's all about your peace . Protect your peace like it's your last piece of cheesecake . Piece of cheesecake . Block them , mute them , distance yourself .
Speaker 1Whatever it is that you need to do to sleep at night without grinding your teeth , do it , do it for you . Go to therapy , look in the mirror and tell yourself affirmations , give yourself pep talks , baby , do it all . Rebuild that self-worth , that self-esteem that they tried to tear down . Because , guess what ? You were never broken . You never were . You were just standing in front of someone who could not see your worth . If it smacked them in the damn face , that is not your fault . It's not your fault . They are not healed , they are not fixed , and you need to remember that you are not their fixer .
Speaker 1You can't love someone into empathy . You can't sacrifice your peace hoping that they'll change . That's not love . That's emotional survival . That's emotional survival . And you deserve so much more than just living to survive . You deserve so much more than just living to survive you need to thrive .
Speaker 1So how
Be the Boundary Building Bitch
Speaker 1do you take that power back from somebody like that ? Let's be real . You're not going to fix them . You cannot fix a narcissist . This is not HGTV . You cannot renovate a toxic personality .
Speaker 1But let me tell you what you can do . What you can do is choose you . You can choose you . You can say no , I'm not shrinking myself to keep someone else feeling tall . You can say I deserve my peace . I deserve people who pour into me , not drain me , deplete me . I deserve to be happy . I deserve to be happy and say that shit with your whole chest . Mean it .
Speaker 1Because when you realize that you don't have to participate in someone else's emotional circus , baby , you become free . You should not be held in bondage . You should not be allowing other people to hold you hostage . Let me tell you something from my heart from my heart because I've been there . You are not here to be anybody's emotional punching bag . You are not responsible for their healing . You're not responsible for healing somebody who doesn't even see that they have wounds . That's not your job , this is your life . You get to choose peace , you get to choose joy . You get to say enough is enough . And when you do , you're not just surviving , baby , you driving . You are now in the driver's seat , it is your call . You should be in the driver's seat . Okay , all right , now listen , I hope that this has helped somebody today because , baby , it has blessed me and that is our ride on the passenger seat today .
Speaker 1Baby , if you felt seen , convicted or maybe you just laughed share this with somebody , somebody who really needs to see it . Listen , let's stop letting toxic folks live rent-free in our heads , because we deserve so much more . Do me a favor , subscribe to the channel , leave me a little five star love and remember the best glow up is healing , setting boundaries and walking away with your peace and your edges intact . With your peace and your edges intact . Okay , until next time . Keep shining , keep slaying . Listen , be great in your own face and then you can turn around and be great in theirs .
Speaker 1Baby , you stay in the driver's seat of your own life . Stay in the driver's seat of your own life . Stay in the driver's seat of your own life and know that you deserve peace . You deserve happiness , and do not let anybody take that from you . Hear Now , as you continue to be fabulous , like I know , you can be baby , you go out there and be the boundary building bitch . I know you can be baby . You go out there and be the boundary building bitch . I know you can be . And , as always , you have a good day on purpose . Yeah , you're welcome .