In The Passenger Seat with Alethea Crimmins
From the front seat of her car, Alethea has motivated millions—reaching hearts around the world and even catching the attention of icons like Rihanna, Kesha, Madonna, and Viola Davis. Now, she’s bringing that same energy, wisdom, and unshakable confidence to the podcast realm—inviting special guests to ride along and share their own journeys of resilience, purpose, and self-discovery.
No scripts, no filters—just raw, powerful conversations filled with gems, laughter, and the kind of motivation that makes you sit up a little straighter. You never know who will be in the passenger seat next, but one thing’s for sure: every ride is a step toward something greater.
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In The Passenger Seat with Alethea Crimmins
Finding Freedom Through Faith and Self-Discovery
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The pursuit of authenticity often requires breaking free from everything you've been taught to believe about yourself. In this soul-stirring conversation with viral sensation Khian KB, we journey from small-town limitations to global recognition, uncovering what it truly means to step into your power.
Khian opens up about the jarring reality behind social media stardom—having two million followers while struggling financially—and how understanding the business side of creativity ultimately transformed his career. "I had to learn the game," he shares, revealing how brands initially tried to underpay him despite the massive visibility he provided. This raw transparency offers a crucial perspective for aspiring creators navigating similar waters.
Beyond the numbers, our conversation delves into the emotional and spiritual dimensions of Khian's evolution. After living 17 years in the closet, dimming his light to make others comfortable, Khian describes the liberation that came from embracing his truth. "I broke out of that darkness and ever since, it feels like the world is my playground," he reflects. His spiritual awakening, including a pivotal moment when his house burned down, becoming the catalyst that forced him to relocate and pursue his dreams, demonstrates how setbacks often serve as divine redirections.
Fashion emerges as a powerful theme throughout our discussion. For Khian, clothing isn't just fabric—it's a language that allows him to honor both his masculinity and femininity without constraint. "Fashion is fun," he insists, challenging the notion that we should limit our self-expression based on others' perceptions. His parting wisdom resonates deeply: take baby steps outside your comfort zone, practice being uncomfortable, and remember that growth happens when you're pushed beyond familiar boundaries.
Ready to embrace your authentic self? Listen now and discover why, in Khian's words, "What other people think about you is not your business." Then join our community of freedom-seekers who are learning to shine brightly without apology.
Have a Good Day On Purpose...
YA' Welcome
Introducing Viral Sensation Kian KB
Speaker 1Yeah, shine like glitter. Let the light in your life get bigger. I'm in the sky, high, I'm the winner, big and bright like a diamond. I'm a shaker, I'm a shaker. You welcome, hello, hello, hello, welcome back to In the Passenger Seat with your positivity queen. It's your girl, alethea Crimins. What's good, everybody. Did you miss me? I know that you did. I know that you did. I hope that your week was filled with all types of wonderfulness. Okay, because I know that mine was, and we had a good day. On what Purpose? And we were great in that. What Face? Okay, y'all know I already got a show ready for y'all. Listen, before I introduce this guest, before I bring my guest up, let me just cue this clip, because if you do not know who he is yet, this moment right here is going to be the one because, baby, he had the internet on lock. Okay, on lock, and my spirit on fire.
Speaker 2Excuse me, you guys are in my way. Go a little bit that way. Oh my god, excuse me, go a little bit that way, that's just scary.
Speaker 2Oh my god, jesus, don't record me, ma'am, I charge. How much? Uh, too much for you. Oh my god, be honest, sir. This made your day. Alright, give me a smile. There we are, darling. That's what it's all about. I'm gonna be honest. You guys shouldn't be in here. You know that. That's why you're looking like that, and it's fine, it's fine. Excuse me, you guys are in my way. Yo, thank you so so much. How is everyone today?
Speaker 3Don't care, no way.
Speaker 2Can you do me a favor? You're tall. Get that off the top shelf. Don't say the name, because this is not an ad. Don't get smart with me, darling. Thank you. Now you guys take it easy.
Speaker 3You're in my way. You're in my way, Sorry in the mood Excuse me.
Speaker 1Okay, do you see what I mean? Iconic, iconic, iconic. Okay. So today in the passenger seat, it's going to be a whole vibe, a whole, entire vibe. Hailing from a small town in Georgia, he said no, thank you to limiting belief and carved out his own lane in media. Okay, content creation and expression. He went from comedy videos to collabs with Disney, airbnb, spotify. Baby, we are talking about a whole brand, and he was even nominated for the Queer Tease. Okay, baby, he is not new to this. He is true to this. Okay, let's welcome to in the passenger seat and no, aka that was such a beautiful intro.
Speaker 3I was just smiling so hard, I was just like like I'm because you are iconic like I.
Speaker 1I need you to know and understand that you are an icon and if nobody has not told you I, I will tell you that you are a freaking icon I appreciate that so much.
Speaker 3That means a lot like I've come a long way in my journey. So to be living in these days and just like just in my energy and doing what I love, and just like seeing the, the positive response to doing what I love, it's like that that feels good.
Speaker 1So yeah, I'm still like. I was just like, oh, like, let me get a moment, hold on, I need a moment, get your moment, get your take, take a moment, take your moment because you deserve it, and a lot of times we don't get our moments, so I wanted to give you your flowers right now.
Speaker 3I appreciate that. I appreciate that so much. It's hard out here for us. We gotta work a little harder.
Speaker 1It's hard out here, you know, for for us it's hard, you know, we gotta, we gotta work a little harder. It's hard out here for a pimp we do, because you know, a lot of times people will try to try to do what you do. Um, you know people that um don't look like us and try to do the same thing that you do, and so it's harder because you have to work 10, 20 times as hard. Yeah, just to, oh, yeah, get to that level.
From Two Million Followers to Finding Revenue
Speaker 3Oh honey, you are preaching to the choir but you learn a lot when you work hard for it. So you know it's always longevity and like working hard and even though you know things may be harder for you, it's always longevity and like working hard and even though you know things may be harder for you, it's just working hard. Like with me, like with social media. It took me so long to be able to quit a job like I sacrificed so much for social media and I had two million followers and was broke. Million followers and was broke. You know, like I had all these followers, all these views and was broke like you know. You, if you know, you know you can't like depend on the creator fund, you know you cannot.
Speaker 1Because people see the two million followers, three million followers and think, oh my god, like they must be making money. But our money does not come from that. Like you can't live off of that. Like our money comes from brand deals, our money comes from getting bookings yeah, definitely 100, and I remember I was.
Speaker 3So I was like, okay. So in the midst of it I was like you know what, I do have two million followers, like it's okay, like brands were even ripping me off with the brand deals. They were trying to pay me only like $500, or you know what I mean $1,000. And I'm making them go viral, I'm giving them millions of views and they only paying like $1,500, $1,000. So it's like it took me a minute to learn the game, because you know, like with me, I learned how to get people's attention, learned how to get the views, but I didn't understand the business at first.
Speaker 3And you don't understand the business and show business they will. Or like I feel like with anything, if you don't understand the business, you will get ripped off, like you know. And it's just back to what we were saying, with it being harder. Or my strategy was I was like I need to become marketable and I don't know if I should say this, but it's like at first I had to be, I had to look marketable, I had to up my content, plug in more things I had to show and this is like the. This is the. This is the kind of weird thing about it. Like you have to show these brands that hey, you can work with me, like you. Can you know what I mean? Like I don't know, it's just, it's just layers to it. And then like people trying to start social media and they're doing it for the money. And I always tell people do it because you love it, because the money is not always gonna be there even no matter how big it is, you know, like.
Speaker 3So like you gotta do it because you love it. Like you can't be discouraged because of views, because of money, because of just you just gotta do it because you love it, it's in you. It gotta be discouraged because of views, because of money, because of just you just gotta do it because you love it, it's in you, it gotta be in you, it gotta be something in you.
Speaker 1Views views go up and down, like you never know what the like algorithm will do, like even me, like I'm like at some points I'm like way up there and right now the engagement is there, but the numbers are not yeah and you can't let yourself get like oh well, you know and sometimes it's hard because social media plays a very uh mental oh yeah yeah, it's, it's very mental because if if we would let the numbers and things get to us, it would really affect us mentally and just like how you quit, quit your job.
Speaker 1I've taught for 15 years and I couldn't balance teaching and this world anymore, so I had to kind of take a leap and have faith in myself.
Speaker 3Oh yeah, to know that I could do this oh yeah, and that's all it take is that faith and that work and that, just like you know, that like I don't know. It's a feeling you can't explain, that you got to have, like, you just got to have that drive, that flame, like, and nothing can take that away from you, because it's just like a calling. It's like God is telling you you're more.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's a calling, and that is the word God is telling you. You're more. Yeah, it's a calling and that is the word God is telling you that you are more. You are more than what you think you are. You are more than what you're settling for. You are more. So go out there and be more. And we both come from small towns, oh yeah. So from you, coming from a small town in Georgia, like, did you ever imagine that you would be where you are now working with Disney, walking red carpets, like building a global platform? Like did you ever think, oh yeah, this, this will be, be my life one day?
Speaker 3You want me to be completely honest. I always knew this is how strong-minded, how strong-willed, how I like, I knew I was gonna be where I am today. That's how like I'm delusional. You gotta be a little delusional, you gotta you do you, gotta you gotta already be there you gotta already think like you're there you
Speaker 1know, I'll say that all the time.
Taking Leaps of Faith and Finding Your Calling
Speaker 3I say that all the time you know, it's like you're mentally there but you're waiting on the physical reality to catch up to what you feel inside. So it's just like I always knew I was gonna be where I am. But when you're there, it's a different feeling. It's like you knew you was gonna be here, but it's like dang, I'm really here, like I really did it. You know what I mean, like I, you knew you was going to be here, but it's like, dang, I'm really here, like I really did it. You know what I mean, like you know. And then you just start appreciating that journey and like you just, and then you just want more, you want. You know, if I can do this, I can do that. And then you know let's get this started and let's let's venture out into this.
Speaker 1And this, this, this. This is why I now have my own podcast, because it's like, well, if I can do this, then I can have a podcast, and so, off my podcast, I now also have a like magazine, so it's like, um, I'm built like I'm you gotta do.
Speaker 1I'm building this. It's like, well, if I, if I could do this and I could do that, and if I could do that and I could do this. So it's like you always have to dare yourself to go one level up, like you have to believe that you can go one level up, but what can I do next? What can?
Speaker 3I do next. But I feel like, for the people listening that are like, are trying to do a lot of things, I also believe in making sure that that one cup is full. That's what I believe in. I think let's say TikTok, right, make sure your TikTok stuff is booming. Make sure cup number one is booming. Your TikTok stuff is booming. Make sure cup number one is booming.
Speaker 3When that start picking up this, that and the third, that cup start overfilling, use that excess water that's falling out of that cup to put into another cup. Because what happened, what I used to do is I used to fill 20 cups at one time and it's just spreading out your energy instead of putting a lot of your energy into one thing, building that one thing and then going on to another thing, building that thing and then like, because you know it, it is harder to maintain a lot of other things when you dive into a whole bunch. So I just I believe in like filling that, filling the cups first, like making sure everything's good, making sure you know, like I don't know, like that's just what I believe in and I don't know that. I feel like that's what took me so long to venture out into other things, because I wanted to make sure my TikTok stuff was good. I wanted to make sure, if I focus on this, this isn't, my TikTok isn't going to go down or like. You know what I mean. Oh, cause, you know I don't.
Speaker 3I hope you get where I'm coming from.
Speaker 1No, I know, I, I, I get it because and I've, I've, I've feel like I was meant to talk to you because it's like you know when, when, when you try to feel several cups, it's like certain things go lacking.
Speaker 3Oh, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1Certain things go lacking. All of your cups are like this full and it's like well, why can't I fill one cup? Because, like you, keep pouring into all these cups, yeah. So it's like you'll never have one cup that's full, exactly, and I love how you said let that one cup overflow and then let that overflow be the thing that fills up your other cup. I've been listening. God makes no mistakes you were meant to be on this podcast today because I needed you to speak. To speak, okay, oh she got a voice hold on y'all.
Speaker 3She got a voice oh, that, that's your next cup is singing yep, oh, I can't wait to come to a performance. I've been waiting, oh.
Speaker 1Lord, not speaking it over my life. Come on now, okay.
Speaker 3Go ahead. Hey, there you go. God says sing, you sung. I said let me tell you something, stop, stop, stop.
Speaker 1I mean I do a little ooze and I stop.
Speaker 3No, listen, no, no, I heard that, look, I'm envious of people that can sing, because if I could sing, like I'm envious of people that don't really use their voice and can sing. I'm like, what is you doing? Like, use that, but I get it because I can draw, I can play the piano and I don't feel like doing it like I don't want to perform piano, I just like to play it, so I get it. But you know singing I can't do so. I'm like y'all need to be singing using that voice.
Speaker 2I'm like.
Speaker 3I'm like the NBA y'all need to be using that, because if I had it, I'd be using it, you know, like I don't know, because I'd be trying to sing, like in the shower, like I love Beyonce, I love like hello by Beyonce, I love, like you know, uh, what's the song? Um, how I go, I don't know, but it's just very emotional. It's very like I feel like her music is very deep and her voice is so amazing and I'll be trying to sing beyonce and um to me I sound good, but when I record myself, because listen I'm delusional, I'm delusional as hell I'll until I record myself.
Speaker 3That's why I stopped recording myself. I just let myself be delusional, because when you record yourself you're like what, like who? I think I'm never singing again. I've never. I think you should sing for me, but I feel like, no matter what I think, I think you have an amazing voice. From what I've heard, I do Cause like you already got the voice. Like do some Some vocal coaching, or something Like not vocal coaching, but like get vocal lessons. I don't know, I'm sure Beyonce go to vocal lessons Every day, or something Like not vocal coaching, but like get vocal lessons. I don't know, I'm sure Beyonce go to vocal lessons every day or something.
Speaker 3Oh yes, honey, like you know, like.
Speaker 1Not you trying to give me the thing and just be a singer.
Breaking Free From Traditional Limitations
Speaker 3No, I'm just saying use that talent you know, use everything. Well, you know, my like intro song is is me now I gotta, now I gotta spin it back and listen to it. I'm gonna call you. I'm like can I get your autograph?
Speaker 1like you're good at like 20 things, I just want your autograph you get on my nerves, you get on my nerves, so okay, so you talk about breaking free from, like, traditional thinking. Oh yeah, and what? What was that moment that made you say like I'm going to just live differently, even if they don't get it, I'm, I'm gonna do it you know I I lived 17 years of my life in the closet.
Speaker 3I hid myself. I dimmed my light. For other people like I was people pleasing, I dimmed my light, so other people couldn't be happy, you know.
Speaker 3So, living my life in the closet, not not even knowing I'm gay. I just know I'm different. I never really explored that, that you know, that that layer of my mind for real, because it's like I was taught. That's wrong, you know, and I had, like a, you know, my dad. I was scared of my dad growing up so I just kept it. You know, I was just like I'm not, I'm not that, I'm just different. You know, I'm just weird. And I hid myself for 17 years, came out. Well, let me backtrack when I was 17, I met a best friend, jarrell, and he was openly gay and we was working together. And that's how we met. And at this time I knew I was gay. I just didn't want to come out. I thought I was going to the grave with it. But, to fast forward the story, he showed me what freedom looked like because he was he was.
Speaker 3He's very, very feminine, like very talks like a girl, get his hair done like a girl, like very feminine, and I needed that around me, like he. He helped me evolve in a way like that. You know, I just needed to be feel free and he allowed me to feel free because no matter what I did in his face. He wouldn't call it, you know, he wouldn't call it weird.
Speaker 1Weird or different.
Speaker 3Exactly or different. But I was already doing YouTube around this time and I was asking God, I'm like why, why am I not doing good? Like I take hours to edit? I was already doing YouTube around this time and I was asking God, I'm like why, why am I not doing good? Like I take hours to edit. I was writing scripts. I was just like I was. I was on my grind, like I've always been on my grind, but like I was like why am I not getting the, the views, the, the, and you know, I wasn't living my truth. My energy wasn't flowing for real, so fast forward again. Energy wasn't flowing for real, so fast forward again.
Speaker 3I went through a phase in my life of like spiritual awakening and I remember I was meditating and I was sitting on the couch. I was like God, if you're real, you should give me a sign. And I went to the grocery store and this lady, just randomly we were checking out she just randomly said God loves you. That's when I woke up to God. I allow God in my life. I started meditating.
Speaker 3I started like getting you know, like searching within, cause I also have a lot of trauma growing up, like with, like you know, there's a lot of stuff going on in my life, so it's just like I've never really had the chance to sit with myself and be like, how do I feel, like, how am I Like? Am I okay, you know? So I finally started doing that inner work. You know, moved to Georgia, started doing that inner work and when I really got to the point where I was like, you know what, I'm gonna live my life, no matter what yes, no matter what Like I broke out of that darkness and ever since it just feels like the world is my playground. Like, once you get out of that, like you know, like the spiritual side, like we're in the matrix, nothing around you. Really, you know what I mean Like we all need.
Speaker 1Definitely, sometimes you have to find yourself by yourself, exactly yourself by yourself, and exactly that that journey is is hard because, just just like you said, like you have to dig deep within. But within is where all the trauma is, within is where all that pain is. But the key is, yes, that pain happened to you, but but it cannot become you Exactly that's the thing it's not letting that pain become who you are. Listen, I as well as the world, we are glad that you said I'm going to do my own thing and you found yourself.
Speaker 1Oh definitely, we are very happy about it. So wait, let's talk about this walk the walk. It was the moment, like what was going through your head when you in, when you actually started doing the the walk, and what, what was going through your head when it blew up, like, did you know that this was going to be life-changing with with this walk?
Speaker 3I didn't. I didn't. You know, it was just like a viral moment I was with. I was with some of my college friends I didn't go to college, but they were in college and we were at her dorm and you know I'm filming videos like not for me but for them, but we were just chilling and I was just making goofy content Like. I was just like very free. You know, I didn't care what I posted, I'm just having fun doing what I love to do. And I was like I know about that trend that's like don't come in here with that BS. And the guy like dancing coming in with the BS. So I was like, okay, I'm gonna do this walk. I vogue. At the time I was like new to vogue.
Speaker 1I'm like getting into vogue and dancing and all that like trying to free my body I knew that you were a vulgar because I was like ain't no way, he can just duck along, just just just cause I wouldn't say I'm a boker, but I do vogue a little bit Like I like to feel my tuna a little bit.
Speaker 3You know, it's just in me, you know. Yes, you know, I haven't even went to my first ball yet, but I'm going to go. When I go to New York, I'm going, I don't care. Okay, yeah, but it felt like I don't know, it was just a viral moment at first. I just kept doing it Like this was before the Bob right. So I'm just doing the vlog and I'm just like making skits out of it and it was just consistent views and I was just like, oh, they love it and I love it and love. So why not keep going? You know?
Speaker 1And I kept going, going in like stores and all kind of stuff.
Speaker 3It just I was just like, listen, it evolved, like just evolved. Like I was just like, oh, we can do this and we can do it. And my friends helped me and I'm just like, okay, because, like cameraman, you get so close with the cameraman, now he creative. I'm like, oh, you, finna, get hired, okay.
Speaker 1Okay, but when? So what was the moment that it changed from oh, but this is this like cute little you know skits to where Edno was born?
Speaker 3Okay. So I wore my hair down. I got curly hair, I got a lot of hair and I had, like the Edno uniform. I used to wear it because I thought it was cute. Okay, edno just came around and just took that from me, it's fine. But I used to just wear that because it was cute and I wore it. I was doing the walk, had my hair down, got my hair down and somebody commented Edna Mode and I was like, hmm, let me go on Amazon and get that wig.
Speaker 1So, baby, and when you put on that wig on like it was the worst and they say it was history, history.
Speaker 3It takes a lot. It took a lot to be able to do that. You know what I mean. It took some I don't give a fuck energy Like. I'm having fun, I'm gonna have fun and live my life and you know, I'm gonna, just I'm gonna do it, fuck it.
Speaker 1So, like you've, you've managed to stay in your own lane Like no copying anybody, no gimmicks. Like you are just you. How do you stay grounded and like authentic in this world that's constantly trying to put you in a box?
Speaker 3taking time off social media. I feel like that's important for me, like stepping away, like when I get to scrolling too much, or just like you know. You know like I just got to step away Because, like, if my mind ain't right, my work, the energy I output ain't going to be right. So I just got to make sure my mind is right, make sure my mind is grounded. And it's so hard, it's so hard, Like in this business.
Speaker 1it's so hard. This takes a toll on you, so hard.
Fashion as Self-Expression and Identity
Speaker 3Oh my God, like I'm trying to get myself out of a little hold right now, like you, I'm like, but just like recentering, like never losing yourself, cause it's so easy to lose yourself in this business. You're seeing everybody else, you're, you're observing everybody else. You're trying to make this amount of money. You trying to, you know, get in the algorithm how you used to be. I don't know, you know, it's just like different things can just deter. It's just a lot.
Speaker 1You know, I feel like we can have a whole podcast just focus just talking about that, because but I, I, I know one thing about you, just listening to you, that I love and that I admire is that how you bring God into everything that you do. In fact, you said that God is your biggest inspiration and you can feel that in your work. So how has your faith guided you through the highs and lows of your journey?
Speaker 3faith guided you through the highs and lows of your journey.
Speaker 3I don't see when I one, when I found God, that was one thing I was like I knew. I always felt somebody around me. I know it was you, god. You know like I've never felt alone. I've never. I've always felt like somebody or something, or just a feeling is around me, protecting me when I'm going through dark times. Just a feeling is around me, protecting me when I'm going through dark times, but like my faith, also mixed with like spirituality, like keeping myself focused, keeping my energy right, keeping my Because, like you know, if you're not right, sometimes God can't get through to you. So you got to make sure the temple is right.
Speaker 1Listen, you know. Come on, my pastor, preach, preach, preach, preach.
Speaker 3The antenna's got to be able to catch the signals. So it's like just making sure my mind is right and just like you know, when God is telling you to move, because, like I don't know, I don't know, but with me, god will tell me to move and I won't listen, I'm like, no, I'm scared. I'm scared and he'll do something and make you move. He burnt my house down. He did. That's what forced me to new or no, that's what forced me to atlanta. And that's when I really started, like you know, because and he was like, okay, because I was going to atlanta I was like venturing out, doing some networking, collabing. But then I come back to Taylorsville and stay for a couple weeks and just like, and God is like, what are you doing? You need to be out there. Still, why are you in the nest? You scared.
Speaker 1You uncomfortable.
Speaker 3You supposed to be uncomfortable? Get back out there.
Speaker 1I was just about to say, like sometimes God will make us uncomfortable because listen, because this is where you need to be Exactly. He wants you to grow, but we are like starting our own growth, staying where it's comfortable, but comfortable is not always what you need. Like you need to be uncomfortable, like you need to get out that nest, because like I love how you said that Because in order for a baby bird to fly, that mama bird will push it, that mama bird will push that whole little baby bird out that nest Because that's the only way that she knows that it will fly.
Speaker 1And sometimes God will do the same thing. He will push you so that you can fly, literally. You gotta do it, you have to do it.
Speaker 3You got to, and then eventually you'll get used to being in uncomfortable situations, to the point where it don't even phase you, like you know you're uncomfortable, but you're like this is exactly where I need to be to grow. Because you grow so much when you're uncomfortable, like you just grow so much and it's just like you just appreciate the uncomfortable moments, like it's just they turn into beautiful moments, like the outcome is even more beautiful, like I don't know, it's just I love me.
Speaker 1We done brought the podcast to church now, okay, okay let me just tell you this I am looking at you and I'm loving your whole aesthetic, your whole vibe, and I love that. I know that you love dressing up. How has fashion played a part in your identity, in your creativity? What has fashion done for you?
Speaker 3fashion for me. It made me look at myself in different lenses. It it helped me feel more better like I don't know, like clothes to me, like what I have on depicts on it, like it changes my mood, like if I'm looking good, but mind you, but mind you, you also got to feel good when you're not looking good. Working on it, come on working on it.
Speaker 1All these little sermons, honey, come on. All these little sermons, these little sermons.
Speaker 3You know. So for me, you know, when I wear clothes that I feel good. I also like to, I like to wear a masculine look, sometimes to embrace my masculinity. You know, like you, know I like to wear some feminine stuff to embrace my femininity, you know, and it's just like I just have fun with it.
Speaker 1You know, I don't even even have, I don't think I have a personal style, I just like clothes like I'm just because fashion is fun, like, yeah, don't, don't make fashion so serious, it's not fashion, it's fun. Fashion is self-expression. So, however you feel in that moment, dress the part and don't worry about who's looking, who's not looking. What other people think about you is not your fucking business, it's not.
Creating Boundaries and Self-Worth
Speaker 3Just let them think, child, listen, just dress because you're dressing for you and not the world yeah, I feel like it's so hard for people and I want my thing is, I want to inspire people to be more like outgoing, but it's so hard. I feel like a lot of people need examples, like they need like a best friend, that's like that, or like they need a I don't know, but it's it's so many people in that cocoon that's scared to wear certain stuff or scared to step out their comfort zone and it's just like it's so free on the other side, Like even my friends, like I be telling them like it's free.
Speaker 3It's free on the other side, just live Like.
Speaker 1And you, you've been showing different sides of yourself outside of you know, like you, you've been showing different sides of yourself outside of you know, like you've been showing different sides of yourself outside of your work. What has that experience been like? Like revealing that you're not just her, yeah, that you're KB, honey. Like this is me, exactly, exactly this is me. Yeah, like look, look, look at me exactly.
Speaker 3I feel like, um, it's been, it's been fun. They've been taking it well. Like my, my fear in the beginning was I was gonna get known for just this right because, like before I had some, I had some consistent views. You know, I had like 700 000. I was just, you know, talking shit with my best friend like tag. That one friend like I was. I was that content creator. So like I'm kind of used to it, you know. But now in my career it's kind of like how can I show myself without losing the? I don't even know how to put it. How can I show myself without being too much? I don't even know how to put it. How can I show myself without being too much? Like I don't want them to think I'm changing content or whatever?
Speaker 2Okay, okay, you know.
Speaker 3So it's kind of like finding that balance and finding that lane to the point where I can do skits with just me doing skits, with Edno doing skits, solely just Edno, you know it's been fun that two can exist at the same time, exactly.
Speaker 3So it's fun, I feel like, because I don't really look at the views, I know when I do stuff like that it ain't going to hit, it ain't going to be millions, so I don't really it don't bother me too much. I'm also saying that because I got some. I got some deals on the way, so I'm confident and shit. I'm confident. I'm like I don't care about the views, like I'm going to get paid anyway. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1But anyway. So, speaking of brand deals, like you have with everything that you've built, brand deals, viral content, like you just fashion, just you building you what's next on your dream list, like Like what's on your vision board?
Speaker 3See, my thing is, I'm so free and like I might get an idea out of nowhere. God might just give me an idea, my antenna's on, he might just drop me an idea, and I'm just, like I'm finna, do that. Like I'm finna, I was finna, I was finna, expose something, but I can't say that yet. But I'll take that and let you know what it is.
Speaker 1Well, when you're ready to come on back, because we gonna be ready for it, okay, but look, I'm gonna give you my number after the show, so like you can be like listen.
Speaker 3We locked in.
Speaker 1Listen, we locked the show so like you can be like I got, yeah, we locked it like I couldn't say it.
Speaker 3But listen, bitch, but yeah, so I don't know it's, I'm just so free, like whatever, whatever ideas I have, you know, I just I just put it out there. Right now I'm focusing on showing more me, um, being a little bit more consistent with posting and just like just having more fun. I did get stuck in the loop of a creator where I'm like it felt like work, like it felt like I had, so I had to step back and just be like I have to remember to have fun with it, the way that you are speaking to my spirit.
Speaker 1I'm, I'm, I'm telling you this, this was this, like you were meant to. Because you have been like dropping things that I needed to hear Speaking of, which we have now come to my favorite segment of the podcast oh, God, I'm nervous.
Speaker 1I'm nervous. So this is where you, my viewers, send in questions for myself and my guests to answer. So let's get into the Ask Alethea question. Okay, today's question is Alethea how do you create boundaries with friends who turn their back on you, especially when it feels like jealousy is involved? I will let you take the center stage first. Kb, kb.
Speaker 3Just get on, you don't need that energy. Just go Run Far, don't stop running.
Speaker 3Get away, just get on, don't let her energy get to you, it'll disrupt what you got going on. No, you don't want to be around nobody like that. Surround yourself with people that bring light, that give you confidence, hype you up, that show you love. A lot of I found out. A lot of people don't know what a true friend feel like and I'm sorry for a lot of people. But at least be that true friend to yourself you got yourself.
Speaker 3Come on, talk to yourself like just cause I had to go through phases where I'm like I love myself but I'm not showing myself. I love myself Like I'm not. You know I'm not putting in time for me Like I'm not. I go on dates by myself just to show myself love. I don't care. So you just show yourself love. Forget those friends that you know. Sometimes you got to find a new circle. Sometimes you got to go where, you got to go in a different location to look for friends sometimes you just have to else that shit and let it go oh yeah, I mean look, first of all, jealousy is a mirror and it's not your problem.
Speaker 1Sometimes people don't. People are jealous of you because you expose everything that they are not and they don't like how they feel around you. They don't like how they feel around you but guess what? That's not your burden. You cannot carry other people's burdens that they don't even want to carry themselves.
Speaker 2Talk to them.
Speaker 1I'm just saying Betray betrayal often comes from the like people that are closest to you. Most of the time, people will sit in the front row while you're winning, until you start winning big oh yeah or bigger, bigger than them, and then it's like oh yeah but that's when you have set us, set a boundary.
Speaker 1You have to set a boundary because who do I love more? Who do I love more? Because self-love is the best love and, just like you said, you have to give that love to yourself. And if they can't give you that, that friendship, that love, that that you require as a friend, baby, also that shit and let it go. Else of that shit, and let it go because it does not mean you any good. Stop explaining yourself, stop shrinking. Stop shrinking so that they can grow. Stop checking on people that just ghosted you. Let them go. This is my challenge. This is my challenge Because your peace is non-refundable.
Speaker 1Challenge of the week is write a list of people that make you feel seen, heard, supported, celebrate it. Write a list of all those people and if they are not on that list, they no longer get that VIP access to your life. Okay, cut them off, not at all. If they are not on that list, then they no longer get that access. So that is what I want you to do this week Make a list. Make a list of everybody in your life that actually treats you like you should, and if these people are not on your list. Then, baby, you know what you got to do.
Speaker 3You got to.
Speaker 1It ain't nothing to cut that bitch off.
Speaker 3I feel like some people's problem is they don't understand that they're worth more, because I heard I might mess up the saying, but it's like people will treat you. You'll allow people to treat you how you feel about yourself.
Speaker 1Ooh, get out of these people's business.
Speaker 3Get out of these people's business. I'm just saying you know them boyfriends don't be shit. I be looking at the girl like that's how you Now let me talk to you, like how you feeling about yourself, like you good, like, because if you love yourself like if you really there you're not going to allow nobody to disrespect you. Thanks. You're going to be precious with your time, your energy, so honey you heard it from both ends.
Speaker 1I hope that that answered your question, and if you have an ex-alethia that you want to ask me, feel free to DM me or send me an email at pimpingpositivity at gmailcom. Okay, so listen, we have a game, oh, a game, okay, game. Okay, I'm ready. It is a rapid fire time, okay, so you cannot think about it. You just got. It's basically a like this or that, would you do this or would you do that like? Would you like your ex's pics? Or would you comment cute couple, just to be petty, I wouldn't do it neither Shit.
Speaker 1Oh, no See, I am petty, so I'd probably be like cute cute.
Rapid Fire Game and Final Thoughts
Speaker 3I'm not, I don't know. I feel like I'm crazy, like I might do some crazy shit, and then I'll probably leave you alone, like I'll just leave. You know, I feel like I'm crazy, I might do some crazy shit and then I'll probably leave you alone.
Speaker 1I'll just leave you alone. I'm like okay, crazy shit, like I'm busting windows.
Speaker 3I ain't going to say too much, because something might happen in the future and they're going to use this as evidence. It's premeditated. He said it in the podcast.
Speaker 1Well, look, moving on. Okay, would you wear sandals with sock at a red carpet or show up in, or show up in Crocs to a black tie gala? Which one? Which one? I wear Crocs to a black tie gala. Which one? Which one?
Speaker 3I wear Crocs.
Speaker 1Okay, Because socks and sandals is my pet peeve Like what that's crazy. But your face said it all.
Speaker 3I was like, oh, red carpet. As soon as you said red carpet, I was like, oh. I was like, oh, red carpet. As soon as you said red carpet, I was like, oh. I was like, oh, I'm going to have nightmares of that.
Speaker 1Oh, okay. Would you rather be stuck in a group chat full of your ex-friends or stuck in an elevator with your ex and their new boo?
Speaker 3A group chat with my ex-friends. I'm so jealous. No, I'm no, I can't do that.
Speaker 1Okay, okay. Would you rather be the way?
Speaker 3I'm too crazy for that. No, I'm gonna be cool at first. I'll be waiting at the elevator. On the elevator, like oh, we stuck. I'm gonna do a deep breath. They're going to be keying in the background, so listen like what.
Speaker 2This, that's who you. You know how we are. This is who you chose.
Speaker 1well, what, what? What did I not do right? Okay, because clearly, because clearly you wasn't going for looks, because please what's them shoes you got on?
Speaker 3no, I'm not gonna talk to you.
Speaker 1I can't stand you right now. Would you rather be known for a bad lace front or a viral ugly cry meme?
Speaker 3A bad lace front, you would rather be known for I would Like, I feel like with comedy I don't care Like. Have you seen my?
Speaker 1bob when I first started.
Speaker 3If you seen my bob when it first started, it was lean, it was crazy.
Speaker 1No, because your bob be bobbing.
Speaker 3Yeah, I do now, but in the beginning it was rough. So like it's just comedy. Like they loved it. They liked when the wig flew off, like it was comedy. Like I'll turn it into comedy. I'll make a skit and be like how girls be when they feel like. They feel like they look good. It's really how they be. Look, I'll just make it funny.
Speaker 2I don't care, I don't mean myself.
Speaker 3But ugly crying is crazy. I don't cry like that, uh-uh.
Speaker 1Okay, would you rather show up in church in club clothes or show up in a club like you dress for church?
Speaker 3I would go to a club in church clothes.
Speaker 1Would you really? I won't, I don't care, I'm so not caring Like I do not, and I love you for that. I love you for that.
Speaker 3Like you for that like I don't want to see. My thing is, I'm not big on church. I would, I don't want to disrespect church like that, like that that feels like I'll be disrespecting, like I don't know, that feels disrespectful to show. But he did say come as you are, so if I'm leaving the club to go to church or brunch or whatever, I'm coming as I am.
Speaker 1As I am Last one, would you rather, on a first date, accidentally call them your ex's name or let out a loud fart in the middle of laughing?
Speaker 3A first date. Oh God, we're going to break the ice, we're going to fart in front of them Because I feel like if they we're going to break the ice, like if you love me, you can handle a little funk, like that is what love is.
Speaker 3It is what love is. It is what love is. But I don't know, I'm new, I don't know, because what if he don't want to eat it no more? Oh well, like imagine if he was thinking about eating it all day and then I just let one out he don't think about it while he eat it, he don't think about it, he don't like this nigga okay like that's so.
Speaker 3He gonna watch me take a shot. He gonna help me bathe to make sure it's I don't know, like it's just me, it's all in my head, it's just I'm not there yet it's crazy.
Speaker 1You're gonna help me, babe. Oh my god, okay, this. I love this part of the show. This is the final part of the show, but before we get to that, tell everybody where they can find all things you so you can find me on TikTok, instagram and on YouTube.
Speaker 3It's kian kb. K-h-i-a-n dot kb. I also like to tell people easy way. Just look up edna mode, I'll pop up. You know me, darling, but I'm surprised. I'm just now bringing the voice out. But, um know, and yeah, that's where you can find me. I'm also doing a meet and greet when, where I'm not supposed to be. Just stay tuned on my Instagram.
Speaker 1Okay, I'd have gave a little safety. We all more family. I don't know, I might get in trouble, but I love that you did not bring the voice out until the end, because one thing about my podcast is I don't want what you're known for to come on here Because that's been talked about, talked about, talked about, talked about.
Speaker 3Yeah.
Speaker 1I want to know he on.
Speaker 3And I appreciate that.
Speaker 1That's who I wanted to come on here. That's who I want the world to know. I want the world to know you outside of the character.
Speaker 3Oh yeah, and I appreciate that because you know it's kind of hard out here for you know. So a lot of people want to just see you be what you're known for. So I appreciate you allowing me to be you know, or just a lot, opening that door to know who I am and like giving me space to show who I am, you know of course that that is what this is all about Just getting to know who you are.
Speaker 3We're going to have to run this back. We need to. Okay, I like talking to you. It's been an hour already, I know, make it another hour, tell production. Huh, I'll cash out from something, huh.
Speaker 1Cash out from something too.
Speaker 3I'll cash out from a little extra.
Speaker 1Keep it rolling for 30 more minutes. I love you so much Like I swear, like I legit need to get your number because G like you are a vibe and I knew that you would be. I knew that when I met you at the Queer Tees that you would be a vibe. I knew you was going to be a vibe, queer Tees that you would be a vibe.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, I knew you was going to be a vibe too.
Speaker 3Like I was just like oh, her energy is okay and always, always, always, Literally. Like I just felt your aura. Like you put off the I know a lot of people probably tell you this but you put off an aura that like makes people gravitate towards you. That like makes people gravitate towards you, like it's just like I felt that energy and I was like, okay, she's human, she's human, she's not out here on no fake shit, she's human, like she's-.
Speaker 3Not at all, you carry love and I felt that Very positive energy so I had to hop on here.
Speaker 1I had to Well listen speaking of love and positive vibes. Our last segment is called Pass it On, and that is where you give a message from your heart either something that you've heard or just something from you to either our viewers or my next guest. So what message would you like to pass on?
Speaker 3Let's do a message for the viewers. So I feel like, okay, it's going to get deep With me. It took a lot to find who I am. You know. I feel like even no matter if I'm gay or whatever, I still feel like a lot of, you know, heteros or just regular people have the same struggles of finding who they are in this world and they let outside things depict.
Message of Encouragement and Closing
Speaker 3You know who they are and I'd say, go within, spend some time with yourself, figure out what you like. It's baby steps, a lot of things, you know. It ain't going to happen overnight. Just practice loving yourself, introducing yourself to new stuff, new ideas. Stop scrolling so much and put that energy I don't know like read a good book, like a, a mental, you know something that'll help, that that just builds or like adds or or just empowers you, and just every day, just just get out your comfort zone, try. You ain't gotta like wear a pink miniskirt to to walmart, but you can do little things, like when you find yourself being a little scared to do certain stuff, put your little toe out there. See how it feel. You know what I mean. Then put a leg out there. It ain't that bad.
Speaker 1Baby steps yes.
Speaker 3Just go all in, just practice. That Practice being uncomfortable. Take risks, have faith. Take risks Because when you believe and stay, stay, have faith, have faith, always have faith, cause when you take these risks, it's going to be only you and your faith. Try to evolve yourself Always. Try to grow your mind, expand your horizon. No matter what you do, try to be the best at it. If you want to be a doctor, the best doctor, be the doctor they want to. They want to call you because you're so good. Like it's people you, a doctor in atlanta and people in california want to come see you because you're just that good of a doctor like you know what I mean. Like just be a, just be the best at whatever, or strive to be just the best.
Speaker 2And it ain't about the number one, spot it ain't.
Speaker 3I'm not saying try to be number one.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 3I'm just saying try to be the best you can be, you know.
Speaker 1Baby.
Speaker 3And that's. I hope that made sense.
Speaker 1Yes, it did, and that is how you pass it on. Kiant, listen, you are a force. You are a force. You are so impactful. You are a joy spreader. Like that. That is what you are, and your energy and your vibe, like you, can feel it through the screen. Oh, I'm so happy that you are sitting in the passenger seat with me and I hope that you return in all of your fabulosity.
Speaker 3I got to return. We got to do a part two, we got to.
Speaker 1Yes, and hopefully I can go to wherever you are. Or if you are ever in Louisiana again, come visit me, baby.
Speaker 3Yeah, I got you, I don't know when the next time I'll be in Louisiana, but when I come I'll definitely hit you up, because I don't have nothing to do in Louisiana? Well, not, not now. You can do me okay, I can come over there and be like girl what you doing, okay, okay, oh, even better. Now I'm gonna know you always cook I'm gonna just call you gonna give me the address. I'm gonna pop up knock, knock, knock it's 7 pm.
Speaker 3Is dinner ready okay, I'm gonna come in with no and shit oh my god, listen I.
Speaker 1If you have enjoyed this episode as much as I have, look, click like, subscribe, comment, all the things. But listen, take a deep breath, repeat after me. I am enough, I am, I am worthy.
Speaker 2I am worthy.
Speaker 1I am valuable.
Speaker 2I am valuable.
Speaker 1All by my damn self.
Speaker 3All by my damn self.
Speaker 1Yes, now, as you go out there and be exactly who you are, do not let anybody make you think that you cannot be enough, that you cannot be worthy, that you cannot be valuable all by yourself, because being you is your superpower. Okay, so, as you go out there and be great in their face, keep being safe and it's like I know you can be and, as always, you have a good day on purpose here. You're welcome. Don't go nowhere.