Don't Shrink to Fit: Empowering and inspiring women one story at a time.
Don’t Shrink to Fit: The Podcast for women who refuse to play small.
Empowering conversations. Inspiring transformations. Limitless possibilities.
Are you ready to step into your power, break free from limitations, and create the life of abundance and joy you’ve always wanted? Don’t Shrink to Fit is more than a podcast—it’s a movement.
Hosted by Claudia Noriega-Bernstein, an abundance coach, author, and speaker, Don't Shrink to Fit isn’t just a podcast—it’s a movement. Each episode brings you powerful insights from incredible experts who share strategies and mindset shifts to help you break through limitations and step into your fullest potential. You’ll also hear from courageous, driven women who have faced life’s toughest challenges and transformed them into opportunities.
Every episode is an invitation to grow, heal, and evolve as we navigate the ups and downs of life together.
Don't Shrink to Fit: Empowering and inspiring women one story at a time.
I always wanted to be the good girl my mom wanted me to be with Claudia Noriega-Bernstein
This episode is one of the most personal and emotional ones I’ve ever recorded. It’s not just about motherhood, or healing, or family—it’s about my journey of unbecoming the “good girl” I was told I should be, and finally becoming the woman I was always meant to be.
For decades, I tried to earn a kind of love that should have been given freely. I over-gave, over-delivered, and shrank myself to fit into a mold that never truly fit me. I wore the “good girl” costume so well, hoping it would lead to connection, approval, and maybe even pride from the people I loved most. But it never did.
In this episode, I share how going back to old childhood photos triggered a wave of reflection—and how that moment marked the beginning of my healing. I talk about setting boundaries, grieving what could have been, and choosing myself even when it came at a cost.
This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt like they had to prove their worth, for anyone who’s still learning to believe they are enough, and for anyone trying to become the version of themselves they always needed.
Thank you for listening, for witnessing, and for doing this healing work alongside me. Don’t shrink to fit—ever. The world needs your full light.
Key Takeaways:
- You don’t have to earn love. Love that is real is given, not negotiated.
- Setting boundaries with family can be painful, but it’s essential for true healing.
- Choosing yourself is not selfish—it’s necessary for peace and growth.
- The roles we take on—daughter, wife, mother—don’t define our worth.
- Healing often begins with grief: grief for what we never received, and for the version of us that tolerated too much.
- Becoming the parent you never had is possible—and one of the most empowering things you can do.
- You are not responsible for others’ inability to love you properly, but you are responsible for how you love yourself moving forward.
- When you stop shrinking and start showing up fully, you model that strength and self-worth for future generations.
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