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The Abundant Practitioner Podcast By Dr Tilean
Ep 60: Align, Rest, Thrive: Why Feeling Good is Your Next Strategy
What if you could turn feeling good into a legitimate business strategy? Discover how the Soul Success Business Retreat, hosted at the opulent Alexander House in West Sussex, is reshaping the way practitioners, coaches, and consultants approach their professional lives. This annual gathering is more than just an escape from the daily grind; it's an invitation to explore the power of rest and ease in achieving clarity and confidence. We'll share insights on how to curate an inspiring work environment, maintain high-energy engagement, and embrace simple practices that foster success without waiting for those elusive milestones.
Explore how your internal rules and expectations could be the very things holding you back. In this episode, we unravel the often-unrecognised patterns that mold our experiences and can transform into self-fulfilling prophecies. Learn how reframing these beliefs with positive expectations can propel you toward consistently signing clients and achieving your business dreams. Plus, we'll walk you through a three-day event that blends intense professional development with luxurious relaxation, from spa indulgences to delightful dinners, ensuring a holistic retreat experience that promises personal and professional growth.
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In this session, like I mentioned, I'm going to be covering about the retreat, the Soul Success Business Retreat. It's an annual retreat that takes place every year in October, right, and we meet together in the beautiful, beautiful Alexander House. It's a five star, beautiful venue, boutique hotel in West Sussex, in West Sussex, and it's just such a great place to bring people together who are like-minded in the sense that they are either a practitioner, coach, consultant, building their business, creating a mission, creating a movement, and just taking that time away from their life to get into that space, to just unwind and really sink into the vision of what's next for them, right. And so the retreat is a beautiful opportunity to step away from the day-to-day, right, um, like whether you are doing your business full-time, whether you are doing your business alongside your job, right. You know, whatever the situation, being able to just carve out that time and step away and just sink back into the vision is super transformational, and so that's what the retreat is about and why I host it every year. Um, one of the great things is we're going to actually, people are like please, let us know the date sooner so we, like, we want to be there next year for people that weren't able to come? Um, so we will be releasing the dates for the next retreat, um, probably before the end of this year, right, so you can stay tuned, um to find out when that is. But it's a great opportunity. People fly in, people get trains in, people drive in, like it's all sorts of um. People get in the room regardless of where they are in the world. We've had people come from the USA, people come from Africa, people come from Scotland right, you know the UK, various various parts of the UK to be in that room and the effort they say is worth it, right, so just a heads up, but I want to talk about that today, so I'll talk about it and then we'll be able to have a bit of a chat. Because it's a three day event and this particular event I covered day one.
Speaker 1:We really went into feeling good as a strategy. Feeling good as a strategy, right, and that was a theme for day one, and it really was their opportunity to to really take a moment, to just sink back in and be away from that constant hustle, to recognize that, actually, when I feel good, when I take moments of like rest and ease, like I can think better, right, I can see things differently. I can hear my vision, I know what I, you know I feel a bit more clearer, I feel a bit more confident, even, right. And so we went into like that feeling good as a strategy for the business success and the movement of your mission, right, the business success and the movement of your mission, right. We also really dived into that from.
Speaker 1:You know like they're coming to this venue. You know some of them have been on retreat before and they were like, yeah, I'm home, like this is where I'm meant to be, and for some people, they're fresh into that environment. Some people come to on retreat. They've never experienced being in that level of venue before, and so there's all these emotions that can come up in terms of like, wow, like I've allowed myself to take time away from the family, I'm allowing myself to be in this space with care and attention and just being loved on and cared for and experience really nice things, and to allow myself to just be in the spa or be in water or just chill on your bed with no distractions, right. And so they were really able to lean into that theme of feeling good as a strategy and what does that mean for them, right? Does it bring up feelings of guilt of feeling good, right? Does it feel him bring up feelings of like oh yeah, this is, for me, like, feeling good is where I need to be, and why we speak about this is because you guys are building a business to make an impact, but also to make an income, and when we think about energy and everything being energy right, making impact and making income are high energy frequencies that you are dealing with, and so it's about ensuring, like, throughout my life, how do I ensure that I am creating these moments to feel good? And I'm not waiting until I get X number of clients. I'm not waiting until I hit specific revenue number. I'm not waiting until the children leave home, I'm not waiting until whatever it might be, but that actually you get to implement feeling good as a strategy now in your day to day, right, and so it really was about recognizing, looking at their lives and their current setup, that when they go back to their home lives, what in their life does not make them feel good, that they could potentially make some changes to Right, you know, and people really stepped away in terms of some people went away and were like.
Speaker 1:Do you know what I'm going to change? My office environment. I, right now, I don't even have an office environment, right, the way I work. It's not set up in a way that I feel excited to work on my mission Right, and we really spoke about that. And it doesn't matter if you have a space where you're operating from a room, like when I started my business, I was just like in a room, right, like it wasn't like a whole house, right. You know, I made that corner of that room inspirational and inspiring, right, and so it was like you know. Or, if you've got an office, how can you change it to make it inspiring? What can you take out? What can you put in to really ensure that you're feeling good when you're going? For that?
Speaker 1:You know, some people were walking away with certain strategies that they were going to implement, like burning a candle while they're working, which smells nice, right. Changing their room. Or playing some nice music Right, I shared with them. I love putting on, sometimes coffee shop jazz, right, yeah, you can go on YouTube and just put on some jazz music and you can even have it like with background sounds and stuff, right. So what can you do to elevate your lifestyle, your working situations, to improve it, to ensure that it's going to allow you to be in that higher frequency right as you move forward your mission. So these were some of the strategies Some people decided that they were going to. When they do their shopping, they're going to pick up that bunch of flowers and bring home for themselves, right, and you know, and really just amplify their energy. We even spoke about sometimes being able to change your environment. So, working in other places, I shared that when I was starting out in my business.
Speaker 1:I remember starting out in my business and at the beginning I was living back at home, right, and some of you know my story. I started my business and I was going through a separation and I moved back home with my mommy and you know I was there and I was building my business and I'd wake up each day like raring to go and my mom would be like, where are you off to? Like you're not working at the moment? And I was like, mom, I am working, I've got a business right, I've got to get dressed, I've got gotta get up, right. And at that point when she's asking me those questions, I didn't have clients, but I would get up, I would get dressed, I would get out and I would, I would move forward.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you know, and I wasn't in that mindset or mentality of like, oh I'm working from home, let me just stick on my dressing gown all day, you know, like I was like in the energy, in the vibration of like how do I lift my spirits up to really like put the right energy behind what I'm doing? And and sometimes I would take myself to the environment. The local gym got to know me very well and they had a coffee shop in the gym and I would set up there and that would be my office, right, right, and I would work and I really work on my business. And so we spoke and shared about, you know, one of the one of the environments that are around you that you might be able to lean into, to work from, in different places. Some, especially if you don't have, like a home office or a home space, that really kind of fuels you up. Maybe you have a local co-working space, maybe you have a local hotel or a local coffee shop or a local library. That just makes you feel a bit different when you come to the work of your business and your mission.
Speaker 1:So we really really dove into that whole concept of feeling good as a strategy and I've spoke about it because, seriously, this is how I've seen people not just two times their results but up to 10 times their results by simply changing the energy that they're leaning into as they move forward their business mission. Right, we spoke about how that might need to shift and change in terms of your boundaries. Yeah, you get to feel good more if you are respecting and honoring your own boundaries, respecting and honoring your own values, right. So we really leaned into what are the tweaks and shifts that you might make in your own environment that help you feel a bit better? Yeah, you know it doesn't. You'll feel a bit better if you wear socks without holes in, right, you know like. You'll feel a bit better if you you know like you just move yourself right, whether it's to walk or you'll feel better if you, you know, really like allow yourself to activate the five senses, right, like what, how, what I'm touching, what I'm tasting, what I'm smelling Right, what I'm hearing and what I'm experiencing Right. So, really like recognizing, like, if I look at all of those, could I make a one percent improvement even on that. Yeah, can I make a one percent improvement of boundaries? Yeah, drop the mic. I love that. Yeah, so it's really, really important of recognizing, like, where is my energy being expended in ways that don't serve me and the mission that God has assigned to me? Right, what needs to shift and change what is around me that actually is less than that I don't need to put up with, right?
Speaker 1:I remember once having a client and know, and we would speak, and she, she mentioned something. She was like ah, I, I made a cup of tea this morning. I really don't like my kettle. I really don't like my kettle. And she'd mentioned it a few times and I said the next time we speak, I want you to get rid of that kettle, because you imagine that that kettle you're boiling with water which you're going to then put in your teacup to drink and absorb into your body and the energy you're emitting to that, just that kettle. I prefer you to just boil the water in a pot on the stove and feel better, so that you can experience better, so that you can receive better, because when you are allowing yourself to experience things that are less than the standards you want to accept for yourself.
Speaker 1:It means that you're deciding that that is the standard you accept for yourself, right? And so you've got to reassess and re-decide what your standards are, and your standards are what you experience. So sometimes people think about standards as what they aspire to, but your standards are what you are actually set up to experience, right? So if you are living your life where you are drinking, making your tea out of a kettle that you really despise and you're coming to it with that, that kind of energy each time, it means that that is what you are putting as your standard, right, that my standard is to to absorb things into my body from an energy of what I don't like or or or feel for. That's your standard, right? And so you get to elevate that standard.
Speaker 1:If you decide that your standard is that, you know, if you decide, if you realize not even deciding these are realization moments Like if you are realizing, like, oh, when Talene mentioned socks, I got a few socks that I put on, I got a little old in it and I kind of put up with it. That's the standard that you've decided for for your life and living experience if you are in your home office environment or your home working space right, because I get that not everybody is working from an office right at home, but even your space, and in your space you are putting up with, literally like bending over on a chair that doesn't support your knees or you know, you know what I mean. Like you are setting that standard. So how do you make an incremental upgrade, an incremental shift and change to experience it? It doesn't mean that how you have to move from one experience to the other and be like, oh yeah, well, I want my standard up here and so like, let me go out of there and do that. That might not be able for you to do right now, but there will be an ability to raise that standard just slightly. And then, as you raise the standard slightly, you'll be able to raise it again eventually and then raise it again Right, and so really allowing yourself to raise your standards. And that's why, when I meet up with clients in person, I really ensure that they are brought somewhere where they really they really just feel loved and cared for and feel that experience of like, wow, this is a standard that they have set in their establishment and I'm entering it, and so they can come away with really observing, like, what changes am I going to make in my life so that I can ensure that, when it comes to feeling good, that feeling good is a real strategy? Yeah, so it was really about that.
Speaker 1:Like day one was all about that, right. And then it was. We went into the discussion we was having at dinner was around rules, right, the rules that you have set for your, your, your life, the rules and expectations. And to recognize that there are rules and expectations that you have set and that they can be changed, right. And we spoke about some, and you know, in terms of, like, some rules and expectations that people don't even realize are working against them, right, if they have a rule of expectation of like, um, everything's always hard for me, right, everything's always hard for me. Or it might be a rule or expectation that is just set that it doesn't serve them, you know. And or it could be something that you don't even realize that you've started doing it, but it and it might just be.
Speaker 1:You know, someone came up with something unrelated there and was saying, you know, one of the rules and expectations that her and her siblings had growing up was like, oh, when mum creates the plan for us to go out, it always rains and it would always rain, like when mum created the plan. It would always rain, right, and they would just start seeing that thing. But they were inviting that rule and expectation into their life and it was kind of like becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. And then they would set some days where they'd be like let's, let's do the plans and don't tell mom to the last minute, and then the sun would be out, right, and you know these sound like funny things, um, but you know, sometimes people we were talking about, some people, were sharing. You know, oh, sometimes when I go, when I go to the supermarket, I think, oh, please, god, let my favorite car parking space be free. And they were like it's free. When I say that it's free, right, when I really call out for what it is I want to see, I'm more likely to see it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so it was like we started talking about like, what are the rules and expectations that you're setting that are not setting you up for success? Right, are you setting the rules and expectations of? Like business is always going to be hard for me, right, it's like I find it difficult to gain clients. Or are you putting in rules and expectations where it's like I sign clients every month. That's just a rule and expectation that I'm going to lean into and you build that belief around why it's possible for you to do that. Like you really build up your rules and expectations of what you're going to see until you start to see it. And when you start to see it, you start to believe it even more. And we spoke about you know faith and what true faith actually means and how we need to anchor into that faith as you're building your business even more. So those are real, the discussions from day one.
Speaker 1:And, like over the next couple of weeks, I'm going to go through like what we covered on other days, because we went into money and sales and what it means to make money and and sell for something that you absolutely love and feel like is like your God-given passion, and it's like maybe I shouldn't be selling it, right? Can I give it for free? Right? We covered all of that. We covered lots on offers as well and the various types of offers, and we covered lots on actual sales and how to sell and ensure consistency in sales as well. So there was so much that went on the retreat guys.
Speaker 1:Three days right, super intense. There's lots of space, though, for spa activities, relaxation. Every single day people were able to relax and integrate the materials, but then there was like roll our sleeves up and let's get to work, and we had lots of enjoyment in terms of dinners and going to the champagne bar and all of that stuff. So there is really cool event. Like I said, it will happen annually. It does happen annually. The next one will be next October, but we'll definitely have those dates out before the end of this year.