The Abundant Practitioner Podcast By Dr Tilean

Ep. 72: The Hidden Reason Your Business Isn’t Scaling And How to Shift It Now

• Dr Tilean • Season 1 • Episode 72

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Are you posting content… but still hiding?
Are you "doing the work"… but not being seen?

In this powerful and activating episode of The Abundant Practitioner Podcast, Dr. Tilean pulls back the curtain on what it really means to show up boldly in your business — especially when fear, doubt, and overthinking have quietly taken the lead.

You’ll be guided through a soulful (and straight-talking!) conversation that challenges:

  • Why showing up isn’t enough (and how to show up differently)
  • Why your content isn’t converting — even when it looks perfect
  • How your unspoken beliefs are sabotaging your soulful sales
  • The critical difference between service and overgiving
  • Why your voice, not a perfectly polished strategy, is what cuts through the algorithm


Using the analogy of “truth wrapped in layers,” Dr. Tilean invites you to strip back the noise, drop the doubt, and embody the message that’s already been placed in your spirit. This isn’t just mindset work, it’s mission activation.

This is the episode to replay when your energy dips or your confidence wavers.

Ready for more?

If you’re ready to stop hiding, start being seen, and scale your faith-first business with clarity and confidence, check out Dr. Tilean’s Business Academy. Visit https://academy.drtilean.com/starthere to learn more.

Thank you for joining me today on The Abundant Practitioner Podcast. I’m so glad you carved out this time for yourself because you 100% deserve soul-nourishing and soul-aligned success!

If you’re keen to dive deeper into my world, here are my socials where you can learn more about how I specifically help Health & Wellbeing practitioners start and scale their own soul-aligned and profitable coaching business. As a fellow practitioner who has been operating in the online coaching world since 2015, I’m excited to help you successfully navigate it too. You can also reach out to me on these platforms, if you have any questions!

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to our podcast designed for psychologists, therapists and counsellors who want to take their business online and live a soul nourished and profitable life without compromise. If you want to know the secrets used by practitioners just like you to navigate the global e-learning market successfully, then you're in the right place. I'm Dr Talib, chartered Psychologist, business Mentor and your host, and welcome to the Abundant Practitioner Podcast. We're talking today on no more hiding, all right, no more hiding how you get to show up boldly. Right, how you get to be seen and also start selling. And I say this because, depending on your mindset and your attitudes around sales, I'm very, very straight up and honest and open to put out there that unless your business is revenue generating, it's not a business, right, and so, therefore, your business to be a business requires to revenue generate and make sales. That doesn't need to be in the sense of being sleazy or icky or manipulative or any of those things, right. But it's about being able to create soulful sales, soul aligned sales. Right, to be able to recognize that you're walking in purpose. Right that to be able to recognize that actually in your business there's going to be a level of you being seen. Right, you presenting the mission before anyone even enters the mission Right In terms of the transformational experience you might take them on in their journey. Right. And so there's the selling of the brand of the mission, which is no monetary exchange. And then there's that higher level of service that they may step into, into your containers, into your offering, into your products, into whatever it is right which is going to amplify them and take them to a next level right, Whether it's in terms of them being able to have deeper access, to be able to have side-by-side support and a step-by-step journey as they go deeper into whatever you are here to help people with. Right.

Speaker 1:

And when you take people from in that space of being in service, where you are supporting and helping and being on mission for free. Right To taking people and stepping them into a container where they choose to step into it because they're in that season of readiness to do the work and invest time, energy, resource, finance into that piece and be like do you know what? I'm seriously stepping out on this path and doing this work? Right, that's a separate level level. Okay. And so there I want to really create, if you don't have it already, just a beautiful expansive feeling about that right About actually being able to hold space to receive financially, to receive clients and support people in this way right, and that recognizing that, as you support people in your containers, in your spaces, in your products, in your services, in whatever it is that you're bringing out there, that that is a beautiful, beautiful next level service that you're giving right. And so there's more right. So, for example, I'm doing this discussion here today with you guys and there's no finance exchange, right.

Speaker 1:

However, I also host a business academy where there is a financial exchange. It's a journey, it's a 12-month journey where I support them. I walk with them side by side, step by step, and it's not just me, it's community, right. They get immersed in community, they know people, they have friendships. We had so many like pictures in the academy people meeting up and you know genuine connections that they're creating of like-minded people around them as they're moving forward on their mission. As they're moving forward on their mission all around the world, get people meeting up, whether they're in America or Hawaii or the UK, like friendship bonds coming together, and I think it's beautiful. And so it's about recognizing that you can totally be seen and be fully seen right On your free level, on your community service, on your like. I'm going to go out and let people know about my mission and actually help people by actually helping them Right, and you can be fully seen and still receive on your next level as well, which is in your paid containers.

Speaker 1:

How you allow yourself to grow right is, by number one, acknowledging that you are on assignment, that you have been given a god-given purpose or a purpose-driven mission, or however you want to see it, the mission that you have to help people, to serve people, to have this business to. Whatever it is that you see for yourself, right is not a tease. It's not you making things up, it's of God, it's of source, it's of higher self. Right, it should feel big. If it doesn't feel big, right, then it's of you, okay. So it should feel like how am I even going to do this? Am I even equipped? Can I do this? Right, like you should get these human feelings that it's you're not capable because, honestly, you are not capable without right, god right, without source.

Speaker 1:

So you have to recognize that that's a normal feeling, to recognize like how can I do this? Can I even fund this? Will I make money? Will like these are normal human, fleshly things that happen. Why do they happen? Because, as human, we're exposed to things on our journey, right? We're exposed to things on our journey, no matter how well-meaning, how loving, how much you have a beautiful care and family or not, it doesn't matter. We are exposed to just our life journey and we're going to create beliefs based on our life journey, based on what we see, based on what we feel, based on what we experience, based on what we hear, based on what we feel, based on what we experience, based on what we hear, based on what we all of this stuff, right? So this is what I'm saying.

Speaker 1:

So, like I would like to think you know, I am doing the best, I best I can, for my boys. Right? I've got two little boys, yeah, but that moment in Ghana was when I saw that, no matter like how we navigate through our life, every single human being is going to create belief, perspective, right? All a perspective is is a belief that you've chosen to have, and perspectives can change, right? It's not true. It's not a full truth. What my son said, right? Where the sun shines, that's where the brown people are. Right, that's not truth, right? Yeah, there's sunshines and there's places across the world where there's more, not brown people, right, but it was of his truth, his perspective.

Speaker 1:

So what I'm here to remind you of is that you are carrying truths that may not be serving you and therefore keeping you under the radar. You think it's protection, right? You think it's like. You think like, do you know what I am being productive? You think I'm being busy. You think you know, well, I'm posting every day, or I've got a VA posting me every day, or I've even hired a social media crew to post for me, right? Like, whatever it might be. You think, yeah, I'm showing up, but are you really showing up, like your soul, like you know what I mean? Like, are you being really being seen? Are you really being heard? Or is the actions that you present in your business coming from that place of?

Speaker 1:

Is this the right thing to say? Does this, is this the way you hack the algorithm? Is this the marketing method that I've been taught to use? Right, there's that overanalyzing, overthinking, rewriting, right, rejigging it? Is it right? Does it meet the framework? Is it problem? Agitate, solve, da, da, da. Right, like you're overanalyzing? Like, how am I showing up? Is this the right thing to show up? Who should I talk to? How should I talk to them? Is this the right? Is this the right offer? Show up. Who should I talk to? How should I talk to them? Is this the right? Is this the right offer? Is my offer? Should my offer be 12 weeks, 16 weeks, 12 months? Should my offer be one-to-one group? Should my offer have voice note? Coaching, not voice note? Should I do a product? I don't know. Should I do ML? There's all these noise around what it should look like. What should I be doing? What should I be saying? Is it the right thing? What's going to get the reaction? What's going to get the response? How do I get more people to book a call? How do I get people to show up on my trainings? How do I get people to buy my stuff Right?

Speaker 1:

What if all of these things were the wrong question? What if you're asking the wrong question? You're starting your day and you're going for your day banging your head against the wall, asking the wrong question how do I make this business work? What do I need to do to make this business work? Do I need another qualification? Do I need to retrain? Where is my niche? Who am I niche? Where should I show up? Should I show up in corporate? Should I show up to my people? What did I do All these questions? What if they're the wrong question? What if it's not? That you're not it's not because you don't understand the power of the question, because the power of the question is so powerful. It puts your mind to work on solution, but it can only work on solution if the solution is to the right question. So what if you're starting out with the wrong question and therefore you're showing up and you're showing up and you're being seen, but you're not really being seen because you're leading from the wrong question. You're trying to figure out the how, and the how really isn't got much to do with it.

Speaker 1:

The anchoring into the belief is actually led by a lot. For some of you unbelief. There's a belief in terms of I believe that this vision I hold is a God-given vision. I believe that I'm meant to have this business and be operating on this level. I believe that I like all should be added onto me. I believe that my needs should be met. I believe this right, but these eyes are giving you unbelief. It's like actually I want to believe. I wish I could fully believe. Help me believe right, because underneath there's unbelief, because I've tried so long I'm 10 years so long. I'm 10 years in. I'm two years in. I got it and I lost it. Can I be good again? I got these qualifications. Maybe I missed out on the qualification. My, now I see I decided I it's a coach, that I'm, I'm meant to be coaching or consulting, and all I see is coaches and consultants. How do I fit in? Where do I fit in? Is there space for me?

Speaker 1:

All these doubts start flooding, in which, even if you are showing up every day, what's really being heard is the unspoken energy, the unspoken conversation, and so, when you are connecting with those around you, there's something that don't feel right. You could be saying all the right things, something just doesn't feel right, and so you might even be like I spoke to them and then they went and hired somebody else, right? What happened? Where did they go? Yeah, we've got to anchor in that certainty within yourself, right in yourself, right, and it's also about like really taking out the voice which is not of where you're going, right, the voice which is not of your truth, if you like, if you really, truly know, and I believe, believe that if you are listening to this. You know, you know. You know there's an ounce of you within you.

Speaker 1:

No matter how worn out, we're, down or nervous or fearful or whatever, right, there's part of you that knows, that knows, that knows that there's. The vision you hold is of truth. The vision you hold is of truth. The vision you hold is of truth. So if the vision you hold is of truth, that means the vision you hold is already done. It's of truth. It's there for you to receive Right. So what stands in between the vision you hold being of truth and you receiving it is all what's been wrapped around it. This is why the business academy right, like I could never.

Speaker 1:

When I made the decision to start the business academy, it was like I cannot do this without psychology. I cannot do this without identity work. I cannot do this without helping people with mindset mastery, without supporting people and being able to serve from their overflow like get their mind right, their identity right, to clean up these beliefs, and the beliefs and all of that that surround it are just keeping you held back. You're only going to go so far. It's going to just feel really, and even if you go far, right, even if you go far, which can be possible. You can go far even with, like the unbelief you can like, even with the orief you can like will, even with the or even with beliefs around, like I've got to work, work, work, work, work. There's possibly time to sleep Like you can go really far with unhelpful beliefs, but you still feel misaligned and out of alignment.

Speaker 1:

How you show up with a soul nourishing and soul aligned business, which is what I'm about and which is what I help people about is by stripping away these identities that have stuck onto you, that just caught onto you. And then there's caught to you and they're caught on to you. Right Is you've got to let that all go bit by bit, step by step. It's a layered approach. That's why the academy is 12 months, because it's really about, like, just shifting that perspective, learning to shift in that perspective, understanding that you are enough already. You are enough already, like you are enough already. That's why you've got the vision, that's why you can see the vision, you can feel the vision. It's all there the opportunities, the resources, the finance, the finance, the time. All of it will lead its way for you.

Speaker 1:

But you got to believe and step out in faith and know that that's true and so you know. One of the things I really want you to recognize is that if you are going to be able to make immediate shift immediate shift like I'm not talking, like you know, like you have to wait weeks, months, years to create shifts in your life. Immediate shifts comes from decision to decide what is no longer coming with you in terms of those mindset, thoughts, patterns, habits, that that I'm going to break that agreement. I'm going to break that belief that this is of my truth. Whatever you've been stating and saying, like this is like it's hard for me. My clients don't find me Right. It's not possible for me.

Speaker 1:

Would anybody, like all of those, have to be annihilated with truth? Like of like, recognizing? Is that of truth? Is it of truth? Is it of truth no, then let it go. Is it of some truth? Yes, is it true to be your truth? No, right. So it's about questioning everything. Take every thought captive and identify is this of service to where I'm going? Is this of service to my mission? And start showing up fully.

Speaker 1:

You all know your mission as well as you know it. You all know your mission as well as you. Don't let that mindset voice tell you that you're confused. You're not confused, you know what you know, what you know Right, what you know what you know right. And so if you go with that right that, if you like, I say on all of my trainings, like if you, if you just have that first part of the 4b marketing framework of be mission led of, like I know, I know my mission, who can I talk to today? Who could I connect with? Who could I serve? What audience can I get in front of? Where should I shift? Right, if you just ask that question, right. So where I said, like the maybe the question you're asking yourself is wrong, the wrong question, the not helpful question, the question it could be like, who show me who I could connect with today? How can I share the message today? How can I be your voice today? Where should I be seen today Saying what If I was to put all fear aside, all worry conside, all doubt aside, if I just chose to believe that I was just fully enough today, that I was totally 100% chosen for this mission because God knew what he was doing, what would I do differently?

Speaker 1:

How would I show up? How would I speak differently? How would I show up, how would I speak differently, how would I back myself more? If you do that every day, you will see a shift. But what happens is like the decades right Of of whatever it is is perspectives, of narratives. They will come onto every single day and so it's a. It's got to be intentional to come back to center and say I can do this, I've got this. God knew what he was doing when he made me and I'm going out there and I'm doing the thing, and so that's a daily reminder.

Speaker 1:

I think so many people kind of feel like there's this whole narrative that went around and maybe still goes around, that like being in business should be ease and flow. And if it's not ease and flow and like we're just like you know, like I'm doing the wrong thing and maybe I should do something differently, like if you are on assignment God given assignment it's not going to be ease and flow, right, like it's going to. It's going to challenge your thoughts, are going to challenge you of like who do you think you are? Can you do that? Because you've got you should have a God-sized vision.

Speaker 1:

So it's really about recognizing like I am going to choose to show up, I'm going to choose to let, like, really show up. You know, like there's a, there's a version of showing up where you're not really showing up, like your heart's not really in it, you don't really believe in it, or you feel tired or whatever. It is like you know, or you feel you might have experienced this in the workplace or, as you like, went through exams or whatever. Right, like you present in a different way, right, yeah, like you bring a different side of you, right? What if you just let all of that go and you just showed up? What if you just showed up to all the people that already know you? What if this wasn't even about finding new people? What if you just started by showing up with all the people that already know you? Right, and letting them know look, this is what I do, this is what I'm calling forward in June. This is what I'm looking for in June. In June, I'm looking for, I'm looking to support X number of people with this, with this, with this Do you know anyone that needs help? Right, what if you was just to start with the people that know you and just show up of truth? Just strip away all of the noise and just show up of truth. What if he was just to show up and give value and just share a story and just explain your truth? A story and just explain your truth that's the messaging that hacks the algorithm. Is truth.

Speaker 1:

Some of you in this day and age need to let go of chat GPT for a little bit and remind yourself of your own voice. You have a voice. You have a message to share to the world. It does not need to be filtered through ChatGPT, it does not need to be designed by ChatGPT. It just needs to take a bit of time, even just 15 minutes. Put on a bit of instrumental jazz music, some instrumental gospel music, some silence, listen to the waves and say what's the message I could share today? Who needs to hear this message? And just speak.

Speaker 1:

Don't worry about the comma in the right place, the full stop. In the right place, the capital letter. Did I make a spelling mistake? It doesn't matter. Just share your message, your truth. Share your message, your truth. It's like business 101, right Is just be findable. How do you be findable? Just share a message. What's getting in the way is all of the stuff that's being put around it. Am I enough? Have I got the right qualification. Is my program right? Is it the right length? What got the right qualification? Is my program right? Is it the right length? What about the pricing? Is the pricing right? What are they like? All of this noise right? So that's what I wanted to say yeah of like. You have it in you already. You already have it within you already. You already have it within you already.

Speaker 1:

All we're at the beginning of the month. All what you can see that you desire to make this month is on the other side of serving other people, all what you see right, like. If you was to think about, like, you know all of whatever right, all your payments, whatever bills, things like that right, those things take money. If you were to really choose and see, because that's the currency of exchange we use. Right To pay our bills and stuff, unless anyone else uses something different, right, but that's what currency of exchange we use. Right, to pay our bills and stuff, unless anyone else uses something different. Right, but that's what we use.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so if you was to see, like, does god really truly see this as my mission and my assignment? Yes, right, am I meant to really like, just fully, one day be fully operating in this. If I'm not already, yes, then the finances that you need to navigate your life will be provided through that right. So it's about recognizing it's already there. It's already there. It's empowering the expectation.

Speaker 1:

So what if I now, now just didn't worry about it, like if I just, you know, had a level of peace that surpassed all understanding, because the understanding of my visible eyes is maybe something different, and I trust and know, and I stopped banging my head over the questions of like, how am I going to do it? How am I going to make it happen? Do I know enough? What do I need to study? Should I do this, should I do that? And I just be the voice of the message and I invite people into journey, which is kind of whole separate conversation. But you have the opening of receiving, to support and work with people. You will see difference. So I think that's everything I wanted to talk about that was flowing through me to you on this topic.