The Abundant Practitioner Podcast By Dr Tilean
Welcome to our podcast channel. I'm Dr. Tilean, a Chartered Psychologist and Behaviour Change Expert turned Business Mentor for Practitioners, Coaches and Consultants who want to start and scale their own purpose-led business so they can live a soul-nourished and profitable life without compromise!
The Abundant Practitioner Podcast By Dr Tilean
Ep. 78: Ask the Question. Get the Breakthrough: Live Coaching with Dr. Tilean
In this powerful, soul-shifting episode, Dr. Tilean opens the floor for LIVE coaching and real-time Q&A with purpose-led entrepreneurs inside her community.
What unfolds is a raw, Spirit-led session filled with clarity, healing, identity work, and practical business strategy, all anchored in faith, mission, and purpose.
This is the first time Dr. Tilean has shared a session like this on the podcast… and it’s nothing short of transformational.
You’ll hear women and men bring forward real-life questions that so many of us silently carry:
…What if I feel unqualified to lead the vision God gave me?
…What if I’ve been working hard for a year with little fruit, should I stay the course or pivot?
…How do I make an offer before I’ve finished building it?
…How do I ask my network for paid opportunities without feeling desperate?
…Am I enough?
This is not just coaching, this is about soul-aligned recalibration.
You’ll hear us talk about:
- The truth about calling and why being “unqualified” is often the confirmation that you’ve been chosen.
- Real-time identity shifts from imposter syndrome to God-confidence, from confusion to calm clarity.
- How to co-create your offer with your audience before you’ve built the entire thing.
- Why your roots need to grow deep before the fruit shows up and how to stay joyful during that process.
- How to reach out to your network with boldness and mission-alignment instead of scarcity and shame.
- The mindset of a true CEO from faith-led decision-making to redefining success and sustainability.
- How to trust your timing, trust your gift, and trust God as you build.
If you’ve been in a season of questioning “Am I still called?” or “Is it too late?” this episode is for you. You’ll be reminded that God equips those He calls.
And sometimes, the next level is unlocked not through more strategy, but through the courage to ask for help… out loud.
If this episode blessed you, share it with someone else who needs to hear it.
And if you’re building or scaling a purpose-led business and ready to rise into your next level with guidance, structure, systems, and community, then come join us in The Soul Success Business Academy: https://academy.drtilean.com/starthere
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Welcome to our podcast, designed for psychologists, therapists and counsellors who want to take their business online and live a soul, nourished and profitable life without compromise. If you want to know the secrets used by practitioners just like you to navigate the global e-learning market successfully, then you're in the right place. I'm Dr Talib, chartered Psychologist, business Mentor and your host, and welcome to the Abundant Practitioner Podcast. So welcome to today. Right, we are going to do a live coaching slash question and answer component here. I've got a variety of beautiful people in the room with me today, which is great, and I want to be able to give people the opportunity to ask a question that you might have, that you might have been thinking over and over again. Maybe it's a clarity question, maybe it's a confusion question on I don't know whether to do this or this right. It may be a question around identity mindset challenges. It may be a question around actual strategy right, or pricing, or whatever. It might be okay.
Speaker 1:Sometimes people have come across me and they've gone through my mini course. It's seven hours worth of business training on how to position, price, promote yourself in the marketplace, and maybe you've got questions about that right. Maybe you've got questions about what it's like in the academy, right, maybe you've got questions about my journey or whatever it might be, but this is a chance to be able to just give you some clarity on an area that you are challenged with, right, and the hope is that this information isn't just here to serve you, it's here to serve those that as well will hear this as well, okay. So keep that in mind, right, and if you have a question on your heart, okay, and I would love I could see this beautiful, amazing academy people here as well, but I would love to also hear from those that are not in the academy or in the calm CEO too. So, you know, if you have any kind of question on your heart you would like to ask me, feel free to write it in the um chat so I can answer it. Or put your hands up or just come off mute and let's talk. Right, you don't have to be nervous, all right, but I do know how nerve-wracking it can be to ask a question.
Speaker 1:I remember when I just before we start, I'll share a little story but I remember when I first entered this community of six, seven, seven and eight figure business owners and I spent a lot of the time in the beginning being like there's no way I could have a question that is going to be relevant, right, and I just remember feeling really nervous to ask a question and to sit myself there in that room and actually, right, that was an identity stretch piece and the more that I could ask questions, right and just share, the more it helped me and it would also definitely help others in the room. So, if you have a question, ask it. Ask it away. Okay, ask it away. Who wants to kick off? Right? Who wants to kick off with a question? Let me know, this is a beautiful opportunity to just get some support from me. Okay, we can have a chat. Who's got a question?
Speaker 1:let me know, or what's on your heart, that's that's struggling you're struggling with. It could be a real logical question around the pricing or the name of your program or your business model, or anything. Yeah, let let me know. Let me know, all right, while you guys think of that and just come off mute when you're ready. Okay, don't worry if I'm talking, all right, but really, what I want to, you know, talk to as well is some of the kind of questions that do come up. Okay for people, yeah, or just put your hand up if you've got a question. Okay, I don't want to pick on people.
Speaker 1:I feel, though, that, if you can hear me, you know and there might be a part of like, I really want to ask a question, but I don't want to be the first one, right, like, or it might be like, whatever it might be yeah, but just ask your question. Be okay to stand forward in the room, be OK to be seen. Be OK to be seen, be OK to be heard. Ok, type your question out. Right, type your question out. I don't have to say your name. Yeah, just type it in the chat and I'll answer it. Right, so do that as well. If you don't necessarily want to speak? Ok, speak, okay. Um, the power of the question, though, the power of the ability to allow yourself to get the breakthrough and the help, is so important sometimes. We have access to support. We have access to what is going to help us, right in front of us and because of our own fears, our own discouragement, our own whatever it might be, we don't grab hold of it. I'm giving you guys a perfect opportunity to grab hold of what's going on with you and have a breakthrough. Thank you for this right. Once that come in the chat.
Speaker 1:I won't say the name, I'll just, in just case people don't want that, but I have a vision for a character development platform for pre-teens, young adults, and I've not done anything professionally with kids and I'm not a mum. How do I get around this, please? Ah, beautiful question, beautiful question, right? I really hope this is opening up the floodgates for more questions. You guys have got me for a whole 40 minutes right to answer your questions. Okay, I love this question. I love, love, love this question. I love this question because this is an identity piece, right of I have a vision. Let's read, let's break this down I have a vision for a character development platform for pre-teens and young adults. So let's stop there with the question. Yeah, I have a vision for character development platform for pre-teens and young adults.
Speaker 1:I'm pausing because I want the person with this vision to sit with that Recognize how that makes you feel in terms of the impact, in terms of the possibility, in terms of all what that can be. Yeah, if we remember that God doesn't call the equipped, he equips the called Right. So it's enough. To start with, I have a vision. I have been gifted this vision. What next Right? What next right?
Speaker 1:So now inserts the but god, right, but god, I've not done anything professionally with kids and I'm not a mom. Now is what's being said internally about that? What are you making that mean? What are you making that mean Right Now? I could insert some of those things of what is being made that meaning, and if you would like to to talk about this, please do just press unmute and we can talk about this. If not, I'll continue to talk to it.
Speaker 1:But what is that being made to be meant? Right, that I'm not qualified to talk on this, that I'm not, or else create the platform that people are going to say things about it, that how would I ever start this? How would I ever be credible, be trustworthy, right? How would I create something that's valuable? You then get to and this applies to anybody with this and I know this question can be applied to so many people in this room and it's going to listen to it, people in this room and that's going to listen to it is that you have a vision and then there's a but, but. But insert whatever you want to insert, right, and this person has just been so bold to share their but.
Speaker 1:Right, I have a vision, but this and I'm inserting assumptions about what their butts might be, but it may be related to I'm not skilled enough. How would I be valuable or credible? You know, how do I steward this? Where would I even start? Um, it's outside my zone of expertise. Um, I've not done this before. Whatever that might be, yeah, and so the perfect place to really start is to start, is to connect with the missions, to start having conversations.
Speaker 1:One of the things that happens inside our business academy is that in the business academy, every monday, we have a business strategy conversation and that business strategy conversation and we call it money making monday. Right, all about impact and how do we get on mission as soon as possible and we're not delayed by distraction of let me see what everybody else is doing out there? Aka, let's call it market research, but we'll also call it comparatonitis. Right, like, how do I see what's going on with everybody else to make myself feel even more so? How can I ever possibly do this? Right Versus, how do I actually? I just go out on the field and start having conversations with my mission, out on the field and start having conversations with my mission.
Speaker 1:And that's the way to really start is to just get out there with the mission before you even feel ready, before you've even had the business established, before anything. You just get out there and you start having conversation, you start connecting with the marketplace, because you'll get clarity. Clarity comes through action. Clarity comes through action. All right, so that's how I would get around this. Okay, I hope this helps. A beautiful question. I'm sure it helped others in the room as well. Okay, very beautiful. Anyone want to speak to that?
Speaker 3:I do this is kim. Can you hear me? It's so good to see you, dr Tillion. So I'm loving this room and I love this question and I want to have a follow up question to that question.
Speaker 3:If you have the vision and you've been staying the course, you know you've made this comment about being equipped and I want to. I can't say the way you said it, so I won't, but I feel like he's equipping me and I'm not. I didn't necessarily feel equipped, but how do you know how long to stay the course or move in a different direction if things are not moving the way you anticipate? How long should you? Because I can be a little stubborn when God gives me a vision. This is going to happen.
Speaker 3:I'm going to be strategic, I'm going to keep moving towards it and for me it's been a year planning and creating and implementing, and you know doing and not doing. And I mean I won't say I'm discouraged because I get excited about the vision, but I'm like am I crazy? Is should I give up? Is this not? Is this not working? Am I just being in denial about the business aspects of it? And I certainly have had some wins, but I've also made some mistakes. Uh, so I guess, in staying the course, what strategies can one employ when they don't feel equipped enough? But they feel more equipped than when they started.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I love this question. I love this question. I've seen other questions come in the chat and I'll go through that as well shortly, and I see hands up as well. We'll get around to these. But I love this question and where it's coming as well, right. So how do you know, like how, how do you do this journey? Like when's the breakthrough coming right? Like how do I know that moment where it's like, okay, I'm equipped, now it's all happening, I'm here, right, yet recognizing that I've been built up in the process as well.
Speaker 1:This is such a great question because it's really important to recognize the learning cycle, that there's a learning cycle in everything. The learning cycle for different things are at different speeds, right. But then mastery, we want to expand at different levels. Ok. So if we think back to being a young one learning to walk, we go through a learning cycle Right Before we can even learn to walk.
Speaker 1:Most little ones will learn how to stabilize themselves sitting up. Right, even before sitting up, you have to learn how to stabilize. Can I lift my little leg off the floor? Can I do this right? Then maybe can I press up, then can I roll over and then can I roll over this way? And then I'm rolling, rolling, rolling, and the caregivers are getting nervous, right, and now I can learn to sit up and I'm going to have to sit up aided for a bit, because I'm going to sit up and I'm going to to the side right and up to the side. So I'm going to get strength. I've got to build strength and muscle, right, and then I'm going to do it and I'm going to practice doing these various different things and intentionally it's going to feel like really weird and uncomfortable because I've never done these things before, I've never done these movements before. But my body's naturally calling me to explore this. My body's like moving to say why don't you, why don't you try and push yourself up? And I'm going to try and push myself up. It's going to feel difficult, it's going to feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 1:And then I'm at a stage where I'm like why don't you try and sit up, right? And then why don't you try and get on all fours? And then, why don't you try and crawl? You don't even know necessarily what crawling is, because you might not even know or see any signs of anyone crawling around you, right, you're just, you don't know. Internally it's like I should go into kind of all fours next.
Speaker 1:Yeah, let's say this child is in a private environment and they've not seen other children and the adults aren't crawling around necessarily on their fours, so they don't know any different other than that internal desire to get on all fours and move. They can't move at first. They go back and forth, they're rocking, they're sliding. Maybe they even do something different. They bum, shuffle across where they need to get to. Right, they make it happen, right. We're going to start this movement thing and every child's development is different. It doesn't all happen at age 10 weeks, age four months, age 10 months, age 12 months, age, whatever. Then they're going to learn to stand up and hold on and hold on unaided and then take a few steps and then they're going to stumble.
Speaker 1:If we look at the reason I'm sharing this is because we've got to remember the learning cycle and I feel like as we get older in life and we go through life and we get, we're given certain visions, we kind of expect that learning cycle to just hurry up. Come on now, right, you know, and we want it done quicker, and maybe because we've done certain things quicker and we've got that praise and glorification. You know from the world standards really quickly and we're like, okay, that should be quick. But we can really look at just the childlike piece, and I say the childlike piece. There's loads of other examples I could use and you could probably all each lean into in your own lives where you went for a learning cycle.
Speaker 1:For me, when I entered my business, I committed with knowing that this is a vision. This is definitely my purpose, my path, and I have no idea how to execute. I will give it at least 10 years. I will give it at least the length of time I committed to studying to become a psychologist and still at the end of that 10 years, having that, you know, approval of like, yeah, your psychologists go out there and serve the people and be like, oh my God, really Right. So even after that stage, it was there right Of like committing. This is a whole new world I have no idea about, and it doesn't mean that 10 years is going to be the point where I see results. But there is result all the way through that 10 years. I'm 10 years in now. Yeah, result didn't come after 10 years. Result comes on the way.
Speaker 1:But what are we looking at to determine what is the fruit. And in the early years of business, if your fruits are being determined by your fruits of success, you're like determined by how quickly you hit the six figure mark, seven figure mark, eight figure mark or whatever it might be, and you're missing out on the other fruits that are happening along the way. Right, you're really setting yourself up with difficulty, like if we look back at that child's situation and scenario and we only determine their progress was when they would actually walk, or when they could run their first one mile, or when they first one mile, or when they and that's what happens as well is the goalpost moves of art, and success will be achieved when I do this. Oh no, success will be achieved when that happens. Success will be achieved when that happens. What if success is achieved by being on mission? What if that was the the measurement of success? But actually understanding and noticing that this is the gift that you've been given to steward and that by diligently stewarding that and learning on the journey was the measurement of success. That to lean into it, it will become different. What if it was remembering that as a tree starts to grow, or as a flower starts to grow upwards, it has to first grow downwards. It has to a plant.
Speaker 1:You put a seed in a plant pot. It has to have all environments around it to grow. You can't just take a seed and put on my desk and expect it to grow. We've got to put that seed in the right environment. So we've got to put that seed in the soil. But we can't just put it in the soil and expect it to grow either. Right, you've got to water it, you've got to put it in the right lighting. It's got to be in the right environment for it to start to grow.
Speaker 1:And even when it starts to grow, it's going to grow in ways that you cannot see. First it's going to grow its roots. It's going to grow down in the dark, in the soil, in the moist, in the dirt. And if we're not patient enough, we might throw that plant pot out and say it's not growing, it's not doing anything, it's a waste of space. Why did I even bother watering it? I put it on the shelf, I did everything the instruction manual said and it just didn't go. But what if we waited a little bit longer when it just sprouted? And then, even as it sprouts and it starts to grow up, it still continues to grow down, it still continues to grow down. It doesn't just get a certain amount of roots and then pop up. You go. The roots have got to go deeper and stronger and thicker, right.
Speaker 1:So I just I really hope this helps to see of, like, what if the measurement of success and growth and what I've been attaching to that is the needs adjusting, what if the energy around it could should be shifted to more praise and glorification of it as it goes on it? You know, because that's what we would do with a child, right, we would praise them for every step. Oh my God, you lifted your head so good, right. Oh my gosh, it rolled over. You want to capture every moment as well. You'd be taking photos and documenting it. Every sight, every piece of growth excited, every site, every piece of growth excited, and you wouldn't even mind if it was delayed among other people's standards.
Speaker 1:I was at church just this weekend and there was such a testimony there of somebody that stood up and was like praise God, our child, who we never knew when they would start talking, can now talk and is approaching their third birthday. And we praised, we celebrated, we praised. Right. We didn't judge for what might be delay in other people's eyes. It was perfect timing right of that transformation Okay, so I hope that helps. That was a beautiful question, beautiful question, oh.
Speaker 3:Very helpful and I'm laughing. You know, I'm in the baby mode, where I'm seeing babies go through those stages of development, and I have two, you guys, so they're definitely different in terms of when they start crawling and walking and really, uh, being equipped, and I was just thinking about I have to let go of the manual, so I have this idea of how it's supposed to go and I think, because you know, career professionals all have like this standard of excellence, success.
Speaker 3:It feels a little bumpy at times and you wonder is this how it's supposed to be? Because you know. But I will say that I have joy now. I mean, I have joy in it and so I'll just follow the joy exactly, I'll just follow the joy exactly, exactly right.
Speaker 1:Continue to follow the joy, continue to show up. Clarity comes through action, mastery comes through action. Right, all of those pieces. Yeah, so we're going to look at the environment, we're going to look at all those things, you know, um, and yeah, I'm excited you're in the con CEO now. So I'm excited, larry, let's go to you next and then I'll go through the chat next. Can you unmute?
Speaker 2:Yeah, thank you, You're welcome. I just want to encourage the lady that asked that question that she was. She had the calling to reach out to the youth. I am at this stage of my life and I can remember. I was in her shoes and I can encourage her that if God calls you, he will equip you. You will have a lot of discouragement, but the most important thing is just to always remember that it is the one that call you and it put something there for you and you have to act. If you don't act, you won't be able to confirm that calling.
Speaker 2:And when I was doing my journey Tilly knows me very well and that is the product of that book that I've written when I started even the parents will come to me and be asking me how come you know this about my children? And I don't know anything. And I'll tell them how much time do you spend with your children? So if God calls you, you will see that he will just open doors for you, see that he will just open doors for you. The most important thing I tell people is, if you want to help, make sure you help correctly.
Speaker 2:Why did I say that I was in construction? And after my construction, I realized that I used to help a lot of the youths, and then the drug addicts or whatever. I have to go back to university and do a course that will teach me how to help correctly For years. The time of preparation is very, very important. The most important thing is to let God be your guide. Even your pastors might tell you nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, whatever, but the most important thing, have a good time with the Lord, and the Lord will surely guide your footsteps.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. Thank you for that contribution. Thank you for that contribution. Thank you for that contribution. You know, and it really is right, it's like just press forward. Clarity will come through action, right, god will speak through action, you know, and you will continue to hear as you move forward. So thank you for these questions. I'm going to carry on through the questions so I can get through as many as we can before the top of the hour.
Speaker 1:Um, so let me go through this. I have a business question. I'm at work so I can't go on video, no problem. No problem. I can't decide whether I should finish creating my online holistic trauma healing course first, or whether I should go right to offering a program. Oh, I started creating the online course after I was having trouble marketing a group program. I thought an eight week course that was priced lower than a live program might be easier for people to start with. Or should I figure out how to better market the group program first? I did a pilot online program with a grant from a local hospital. Thank you, love this question, right, this question.
Speaker 1:Oh, this is such a good question as well, because so many times people at work are wondering whether I should create product before I start helping people? Do I create the product before I start helping people? What's the best way to create the product as well before I start helping people? What's the best way to create the product as well? Right, do I do it live? Do I create it behind closed doors? Do I? What should I do? How should I start? Like I know how I'm being called to help people? How do I now deliver that in the best and market that? Right, and what logic will say is that to market?
Speaker 1:The thing is it needs to be created first. Right, how could I possibly sell something that I don't have? Yeah, but actually, if we really think about business and business mindset, is it round? How do we create an audience and understand market demand for something and then create it? So it's really important to OK, yes, a pilot online program was done, right, with a grant. So it's like well, do I duplicate and do it that way? But if we're wanting to bring this into the business model of it, it would be just bringing that those people together and creating the course with them, so you get buy-in first and then you create the product after.
Speaker 1:Right, that's certainly my advice, and I'm sure many people would advise that the thing is is, when you create a course almost on your own, in essence right is that when you bring people through it, there's going to be questions, there's going to be things that you didn't see, there's going to be so many ways that you could enhance it, and so, instead of creating it all first behind closed doors, which then there's no necessary deadline, right, and so what can happen is sometimes people are creating something for a long time before it goes to market is that you bring it to market and you, you bring market demand and you can be transparent with that. Right. There's nothing wrong with saying like I'm going to be leading this healing course and it's going to be a journey and I'm it's estimated about eight weeks. Because the thing is, when people are bringing something new to market, the, the mind tells them like well, how would people want to buy into it? Maybe I don don't have any testimonials. Well, the course is not done, right, all of these things, but there's a reason you're bringing it to market. You didn't just wake up, I'm assuming, because I don't know you right, but you didn't just necessarily wake up and say I'm going to do this today. There is backstory, even if we go to the previous question of like I've not done anything like this before, there's something that's led you to have this vision and start there. It's not just a landed in your spirit kind of thing, doesn't make absolute any sense at all. Right, if we really checked into it, there's some sort of connect, the dot that's happening, but maybe you can't see the dots that are happening. That's kind of led there, right, and so it would really be like recognizing that actually, this is, this is what I'm being called to create. I'm going to put it out to market.
Speaker 1:If we think about the Calm CEO, right, the Calm CEO has been only going about a month now and the breakthroughs in there are incredible. I had not created it. It's brand new, right, it's brand new, but it literally was like a drop in my spirit of like, this needs to be out there for the marketplace, put it out there. And then there's response, right, that's. And then it was created. And even those that came in, like, immediately I was transparent, I was like God's just given to me. We're going to like, roll out and see how it goes right and see what's meant to go where. But what I do know is. I am skilled at helping people in having identity breakthroughs right and in elevating their success and in elevating all of those things around. That's like my gift, right, and so I know, you know myself and God is not going to lead you wrong, right.
Speaker 1:But in terms of the deliverables of, like, what time are the calls or is there workbooks or whatever it might be, like, that's all figureoutable because nobody's investing in the in the um deliverables nobody want, nobody wants the deliverables. Nobody's looking for an eight-week course. Nobody's looking for a uh uh online course or a this or that. They're looking for their breakthrough, whatever that might be. They're looking that. They're looking for their breakthrough, whatever that might be. They're looking for healing. They're looking for whatever it might be. That's what they want to invest in, where they can seek that support to help them have the breakthrough that they need, that they want, that they're seeking how that comes, whether it's a retreat, an eight-week course or whatever it might be. That's just oh OK, cool, great. But what they're seeking they're not seeking like find me the best eight week online about it.
Speaker 1:The next steps would be like where do what? Do what is this going to be about? And start to let people sign up and maybe create a wait list or a demand list or just an interest list in what's coming up, and then you can put together and say, ok, we're getting started. Yeah, you can start by creating maybe the first module if you wanted. Sometimes people find it helpful to have something concrete or like a new starter form or something to say oh yeah, you joined, fill this out and we'll get going. If that helps, you have more certainty in yourself and what you're offering, right. But then you co-create, and co-creation is the best way to create, in my opinion. Hope that helps.
Speaker 1:Beautiful question, beautiful question. You're welcome. You're welcome. You're welcome. Wow, okay, I can't quite question your voice. Is that background noise here? But here we go. Okay, no problem.
Speaker 1:So how do I make use of my high level network to seek recommendations for paying clients, paid speaking opportunities, without feeling inadequate or desperate? Love this question and your honesty, thank you. I'm always open to support others, but find it difficult to answer introductions without worrying that my connections will misinterpret my request. Oh, this is such a beautiful question, such a beautiful question. I love these questions, you know as well, and before I ask this question, I just want to share, like if any of you are thinking about the calm CEO, but definitely more like a lot of these questions that are coming up.
Speaker 1:These are business academy questions. These are questions we dive into and break through week in, week out, twice a week, and whether people can join live and sometimes people can't. They are on the replays. They still submit questions like this and I answer them just like this. So I just want to say that as well for any of you that are like you know what. I'm finding this really useful and I'm going to need this support week in, week out over the course of the year, as well as like one to one attention from Dr Talene and the beautiful community that we have.
Speaker 1:Then jump in the Business Academy. Guys and girls can put the link. So, but I want to answer this question because this is a great, great question, right? So this person is explaining. I have already got a network and the first thing I want to say for everybody in this room is you all have a network. Some of you might not even recognize that you have a network where you are. This person recognizes that I have a network. Some of you might not even recognize that you have a network where you are. This person recognizes that I have a network. Right, I have a network, yeah, and I want you all to recognize you have a network.
Speaker 1:You all have a network, whether they are what we call primary audience or secondary audience. Primary audience is that these people are for what you do, like they're 100% aligned or 80% plus aligned, right? So, for example, if I was I talk about I'm a psychologist by background, right? So let's say I was doing something that I wanted to find other psychologists and I went to the British Psychological Society, I could feel like that's like a primary audience, like they're aligned, right, I'm a psychologist, they're psychological society aligned primary audience. Yeah, just a kind of example there. Let's say you were doing something for teachers. If you went to schools, you would probably find teachers primary audience, right? Secondary audience, though, is people that are not necessarily your people, but they may know your people, right? So, just to give you a bit of education piece around it and when I do coaching, that's what I do in the academy as well I help people understand as well, so that they can continue to lead their businesses forward. Right, so you have network and you all have a network. If you have a phone, you've got contact list, they're a ready network, all right.
Speaker 1:But this question specifically, what I love is I know I've got a network, but how do I reach out to them without feeling inadequate or desperate? Yeah, I'm always open to support others, but I find it difficult to ask for introductions without worrying my connections will misinterpret my request. So this is multi-layered, like. This is like what I call a Wednesday room question and a Monday room question. Right, wednesday room question is about identity and mindset and Monday room questions is around business strategy.
Speaker 1:So first I want to address the identity and mindset piece is the belief in or. You know, this is where it's like grounding yourself into recognizing that you are skilled, you are capable and you don't have to lean into the belief, even if these eyes are like no, I need clients to lean right. Have you seen my account? I need clients, right, even if these eyes are like no, but like I am desperate, right, like I am, like I need something like yesterday, like last year or whatever it might be, yeah, and maybe there's been a delay, and so now you've started to even maybe question your identity and your capabilities. Or can I really do this? If I could have done this well, surely I would have the clients.
Speaker 1:So maybe I'm not as capable, or it's great because I don't, right, all of these are coming it's because of these eyes are telling you things that are questioning your truth, right, and so we've got to realign you back to recognizing your truth, the real truth, the real truth that is spoken over you. Yeah, the real truth is that you are super loved, right, that you are capable, as in, and we can all develop our capabilities and our skills, right, but you are enough in the season of where you are at, yeah, and so I want you to recognize that within that, that if you can ground yourself into your own truth of what you know about you, all the positive, beautiful of what you know about you, all the positive, beautiful, expansive things you know about you, all the positive, amazing, beautiful things that God would tell you about you, that he knows about you, right, and you lean into that, even if you can't lean into it with these eyes, you just lean into it of the knowing, the deeper knowing of like. Remind me, remind me of who I am, remind me of who I am, yeah, and lean into that each and every day. Remind me right. Remind me that I am capable, remind me that I am provided for, right In small ways. Remind me that I am provided for Right In small ways. Remind me that I'm provided for. Thank you, thank you, thank you, for you know, one of the great reminders, when it comes to provision as well, is if you all look at, like, just the last five things you paid for and just thank you, thank you, thank you, no matter how you paid for it, right? Just thank you that that provision was met, thank you, thank you, thank you, I am provided for, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you want to bring back that remembrance of who and whose you are and that you are provided for. Yeah, that you, therefore, you don't need to be desperate, that things are working out, that we can place that aside, that I can feel it, but I don't have to own it. I can feel like I'm desperate, but I don't have to own it, that I'm not on mission because I'm desperate. I'm on mission because I'm called on mission and provision will come if I stay connected to mission. So it is really about setting aside the desperation piece and just breaking up with that agreement that you've made somewhere along the line that I'm desperate, and to anchor yourself into recognizing signs of where actually I am provided for. Actually I am adequate, right, and recognizing that first and foremost Right.
Speaker 1:I would say that, to start with the second thing and that's a work, that's a daily thing, ok, like that's a daily thing, right. You might feel, oh yeah, like revelation here right now as I'm speaking, and then an hour later you're like I wish I felt like that again, do the work again and remind yourself, right, remind yourself continually, remind yourself of that, ok. And then, in terms of the introductions, as you sit into that space of reminding yourself of that, then you make your introductions from that space, from that energy. Then you make your introductions from that space, from that energy, right, because your introductions are not about you, it's about the mission, right, it's about, like, the connections. It's about mission. Yeah, go ahead and speak. I see you come off mute. Does this help?
Speaker 4:Yes, you know what. You absolutely nailed it there and I thought well, I have a chest infection so I sound like I'm speaking from the bottom of a barrel as well. Sorry about that, but, um, uh, yeah, I, I did add here a little bit. I thought I'd I tell you what. What I do is inclusive, sustainability and responsible development, advisory and educating in tourism. So my motivations are obviously to make destinations more accessible, inclusive and compassionate, taking well-being of every local and visitor in mind, because obviously we're, every community, every society is only as humane, as you know, as positive, as as much as we take care of the weakest member of society. So this is really my background, background, sort of uh, motivation and hence, um, you know, when you're, when you're mentioning, um, you know, staying on mission, it kind it really hits home, it really does actually resonate yes, just stay on mission.
Speaker 1:You know, I know there's a whole talk around like in there that floats around in this coaching and coaching industry of like, if you, um, you know, if you are not putting out the energy of you're in this way, then you're going to attract that energy back to you and all of that right, and this whole, yeah, and I'm very faith-based, so a lot of the kind of worldly manifestation, well, ways of of bringing things about, um, is not the way in which I work, right, or belief, because, at the end of the day, you're then chasing this concept of being enough, chasing this concept of proving yourself, chasing this concept of being in the right energy and frequency, um, to in order to attract what you're meant to have and you already skilled enough and you're already skilled enough.
Speaker 1:You are skilled in that and whilst what's going on in your own personal life, let's say, is here, your business life is like, the mission that you're on is the mission that you're on and you want to just stay accountable to that. And, like what I was saying earlier to Kim's question, is that if you can stay accountable to the mission, that's where you see that um, that joy, right, and do a daily record of that, like I would really say for each and every one of you. Like you know, one of the things I speak to of in the academy is like recording your wins, and not wins like monetary, and all of this Like your win is like following your mission, waking up on mission every single day. It's a beautiful question. Keep going for it, right? Thank you.
Speaker 4:Thank you so much. I really really appreciate that.
Speaker 1:You're welcome, I know. All right, let me go for these others that have come up. Okay, um, gail, if you put the link to the business academy, please anyone that wants to check that out, because, uh, I don't even know what direction these questions are coming in, but these are definitely business academy type questions. So if you're looking for a year-long worth of support, um, then do come in and we get um. Um, you get access community, you get access to trainings, you get access to ability to ask me questions twice a week in community format, but you also have access to a Voxer one-to-one line as well.
Speaker 1:So my mission is women in transition, okay, should I? Okay, my mission is women in transition, breakups, career change, motherhood. Should I niche down even further to continue to market support for all transitions? I also want to protect myself from the one-to-one burnout trap. Should I start off with one-to-one and then transition to group on online courses? So it may be that your mission, right where it's like breakups, career change, motherhood it says your mission is in helping women in transition and you can claim that as your field right, when niche is important is for marketing, right? So if you're going to speak in gen, in generic terms of, like women in transition come here. Nobody's really walking around saying I'm in transition season right now, right, they're like I've just become a mum.
Speaker 3:It's hard right.
Speaker 1:Or you know, I'm like just moved my job, or I've got a new job, or I've left my relationship. So those are the words that your audience are using, right, but they will understand they were in transition, but that's not what they're talking. So, when it comes to marketing terminology, you could cycle the different types of people and speak to those different, various people so that they can hear you. And when you talk and I would definitely say that that's a beautiful way to start I'm not sure where you are on your journey, but if you would just say starting out, then maybe you start with the first five people, one to one, and then person six, seven, eight, nine, 10 would come into the community phase in that way. Yeah, so you don't have to, um, you can always shift and transition your business as well.
Speaker 1:All right, I'm a trauma recovery coach. Um, after these questions posted, I'm going to start wrapping up, guys, but thank you for all of these questions. These are beautiful, um, and it's only because the boys are home and they'll be in here soon. Go, mommy, mommy, mommy, can we, can we go for a walk? You promised us, right? So I'm a trauma recovery coach who wants to help other people, not be stuck in talk therapy for decades without healing. I did that for my mpcs, starting me forward. I want to share that in combination with emotional work, yeah. So again, I would say as well, right, like you just start, you just start, you just start. Yeah, you just start that. Okay. Uh, how can I help? How can I help? Okay, the person needs to have a conversation with me. All right, hold on the person or wife. Managed joint account. No pocket money for the children.
Speaker 1:Four children eldest boy, father stopped him due to the abuse of the sorry, I'm mumbling, I'm leaving this question, hasn't the person you know like, yeah, so in terms of helping, like, this question that's come up is like how do, how can I help somebody that doesn't necessarily want help?
Speaker 1:They don't want to access help, right, our role is really important to remember that, not to drag in and drag around people that are not open to receiving the help. You know, and we can create seeds that encourage and inspire people to want to access help, but we cannot drag people in and around to do that. You know. Drag people in and around to do that, you know, um, so I would just say like, really on, however, you can create um visibility of offering that seed of encouragement, then to do so and continue to pray around and change for that as well. How did you roll that out to your audience? Yeah, how did you roll that out to your audience? I'm not sure that was related to I'm joining the calm, see ya, yeah, awesome, I'm excited, I'm excited, yay, yay, yay, awesome.