How We Heal with Ryan Pink
We’re holding space for authentic conversations about healing from the hard things in our past and building resilience for our future. We discuss everything from ancient healing practices, culture, and spirituality, to personal stories of healing, and the newest technological applications and wellness practices. We’re all on a path to healing. And we all want to feel better and be more resilient to pain and trauma. We want to feel free, connected, and whole. Our fundamental belief is that our path to healing is momentously enhanced through shared wisdom, intentional presence (witnessing), sharing stories, and the support of others. In our “Stories of Healing” segment, guests share their personal healing journies. We find the common humanity buried like diamonds within these deeply human stories. They demonstrate how we can all serve as guides for each other, providing both practical insights and inspiration for our community. To help expand our understanding, Ryan speaks with friends of the community and today’s top healing guides about the philosophies and practices of influencers such as Gabor Maté, Thomas Hübl, Lisa Feldman Barrett, Bessel van der Kolk, Richard Schwartz, Peter Levine, and more. Join HopeGuide community founder Ryan Pink as he invites expert practitioners, changemakers, and everyday people to share their stories and wisdom to inspire a trauma-resilient society, where everyone has the support they need to heal.
How We Heal with Ryan Pink
We Are All Worthy Of Love (Jono Decker)
In this conversation, Jono shares his story of being bullied as a child, at home and then at school, and the effect this had on him as a young person. He describes how watching the movie Shrek helped see healing as a process achieved in layers. His own healing began when he found a friend who felt safe to him and who he could relate to.
Jono reflects on his tendency towards kindness and the two motives for it: one was the motive of compassion, the other was the expectation that it could buy him acceptance and love. He references the book Real Love by Greg Baer and talks about conditional love, Getting and Protecting behaviors. He had to come to the place of believing that who he is is lovable.
The story continues with instability in his marriage and how he had to embrace his own worth and lovability to repair it. He states that a key realization was that all of us are worthy of love, or no one is. If only some are worthy of it, you are revealing your prejudices of what is worth loving. He realized he had to place himself in the category of lovable.
They discuss how loving ourselves frees us from needing others to reassure us of our value, and when we see ourselves as worthy and good, we start living up to that standard.
Jono Decker is a skilled therapist and the clinical director at Mended Light where he helps people work through trauma. He also watches movies and talks about them for millions of people on YouTube on Cinema Therapy.
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