Why Your Body Knows Your True Path Before Your Mind Does

The delicate dance between authentic expression and structured creation has always fascinated me. Today, as rain taps against my window and thunder rolls in the distance, I'm reflecting on how AI has transformed my creative process while preserving my essence. This technology hasn't replaced my voice – it's amplified it, providing guardrails that keep me focused without restricting my natural flow.

After fifteen years of creating content, experiencing both viral success and devastating setbacks, I've learned that external validation never beats internal alignment. My revelation? I'm not designed to work with thousands of clients directly. Instead, my impact comes through deeply supporting fewer people who then create ripple effects in their communities. Quality over quantity isn't just a preference – it's my soul's calling. This approach means waking at 4:30 AM excited rather than dragging myself through strategies that don't resonate with who I truly am.

Your body knows your true path before your logical mind catches up. When preparing for corporate clients made me literally fall asleep at my desk while creative entrepreneur projects energized me before dawn, I finally listened. That physical response was my internal compass pointing toward alignment. Whether you're questioning your business direction, struggling with conventional wisdom that doesn't fit, or seeking a community of like-minded souls, remember: what's meant for you will find you when you stop swimming upstream. Download the Her app, join HER Collective, or apply for deeper work together – because we women are meant to support each other through all of life's personal earthquakes while still changing the world.

Transcript

Co-creating Content with AI

Speaker 1 1:13

You know it's raining out and I'm sitting here just thinking about how this morning I created a series of episodes for the podcast and I used AI for them and it's very much my voice, what I'd like to communicate, and maybe the structure is a little bit more structured or thought through than if I was just word vomiting my thoughts to you guys in real time. And I feel like there's this balance. There's a balance between episodes like this where I'm just sitting here chit-chatting with you guys in the dark, it's storming outside and I figured I'd just turn on the mic. Then there are episodes that I sit on the couch cuddled up with my journal and I write a script, I write a flow, I write, I channel all of the thoughts that I'm having. Or maybe I had a conversation with a friend and she needed help with something, so I create something for them and that becomes an episode. It's 45 minutes to an hour of my time, intentionally put together and then read through because it's more of like an outline than it is a script. And then there are the episodes where I'm using ChatGPT and it's scripted and I know you can hear it At least I can but I don't know.

Speaker 1 2:47

Maybe it is how I talk, with that kind of cadence and structure. It just makes me think like AI has sped up my production and work a hundred times. It has helped me find such depth and clarity and what I'm talking about has helped me keep focused on a reoccurring theme and messaging, where I used to talk about everything, but now I talk about many different things, but always tying back to the same similar core themes and topics, and that's something I struggled with in the past. But now, co-creating content with ChachiBT, I find that really helps keep me almost like. It makes me think of like bowling, but with the little guardrails up, it's like cool, I'm still the one bowling, I just got guardrails. Chachibt has been told who my ideal client is. It has a very well understanding of all of the services that I provide, all of the different tools and techniques that I utilize, and we've had some really deep conversations, her and I, and so she's really, really familiar with what I'm doing, and so it's almost like I have another employee, another team member, someone here to bounce ideas off of and to help me get to where I want to go, to help get the right messaging to you guys, because, look, I've been creating for about 15 years.

Finding My Business Purpose

Speaker 1 4:25

I have had moments of virality. I've had accounts that did really well. I have gotten death threats from those accounts. I've had mental spirals. I have eventually deleted those accounts and now been rebuilding from the start, which is a whole new ballgame in itself. I've had moments of clarity, moments of confusion. I've tried all sorts of different tactics and strategies and techniques and funnels and da, da, da, da, da da.

The Value of Tangible Workbooks

Speaker 1 5:00

The one thing that I'm learning at this point in my career, at this point in my journey, is that nobody outside of myself is going to tell me what's best for me and my business, for me and my business. My personal makeup is not meant to be a nine-to-fiver, is not meant to work for or build someone else's thing. It just isn't and I've accepted that. And I've also accepted that I function and work in specific ways and I have to work around that and I'm not here for volume. I'm not here to work with thousands and thousands and thousands of people. Now I do have an intention to impact thousands and thousands and thousands of people, but the way that I'm going to do that is through working with people who also impact other people. That way it's trickle down effect. It's me impacting others who create waves of people impacting other people, and that's how I will reach all of those people. It doesn't have to be me. I don't personally have to work with all of these people. I can work with 10 people at an extremely high level and a hundred people in a community format and make the impact that I'd like to make on this planet. And that's what I've accepted is that I'm not here to sell low ticket things to high volumes of people, because I think I figured that out in my cleaning business that I would rather not have thousands of people all asking for a discount. Instead, I'd rather have a handful of people that I spoil but pay me well for the work that I do, because they highly value who I am and what I do, because they recognize that, yes, they could get the service elsewhere, but they can't get the experience elsewhere. So I'm here to focus on the experience that I am here to give, the one that lights me up, that gets me excited, that wakes me up at 4.30 in the morning and gets me wanting to come outside, to come and work. That. What is that? It's like I had a coach once.

Speaker 1 7:19

I love workbooks, absolutely love them. I am a journaling fanatic, absolutely love a workbook because I can go back to it. I can go back and I can resource these things when I want to look back and remind myself, and it has a tangible physical recall for me. I'm a kinesthetic person. There is something to that. So I had said to this coach hey, I'm going to make a workbook for my people. And she said don't waste your time on workbooks. Nobody wants a workbook. Well, because she was my business coach at the time, I listened to her and I bought in on that and I kept telling myself okay, workbooks are a waste of time. Well, let's fast forward a few years. I started to ask the people who are going through my courses for some feedback, won't you believe? The number one feedback I got was I'd love to have this in a workbook so that I can sit and do it and come back to it in the future. And I was like you know what? I'm going to make those. And now fast forward even more. Come back to today.

Speaker 1 8:21

My workbooks are things that people attend my retreats and then ask can I get a second one? Is there a digital version of this? I'd like to do it again. Can I get one for a friend? Like my workbooks are things that people look forward to, that they get massive transformation from. Had I stopped making workbooks and not allowed myself to continue to do that because one person believed that workbooks were not worth it.

Speaker 1 8:47

No, I'm here to be me, and I am someone who clearly enjoys both using, creating and putting out and seeing other people use and get benefit from my workbooks. Because it's tangible, because I have them printed. I have them printed with my handwritten affirmations from that event in them and I utilize them. I tap back in, I'm telling you I look forward to the day, 10 years from now, where I have boxes full of these and I can see, literally, I can sit down and read my own transformation because my thoughts will be written on paper and my thoughts will change as I evolve. That's something that I absolutely love my clients having, because they often forget what they think and feel, and so we write them down so that we can go back to them in six months and go wow, I really was in a low place six months ago and I really am in a good place now. That's change, that's growth, that's transformation.

Surrendering to Life's Opportunities

Speaker 1 9:47

Part of my job as a coach. Part of my job as a mentor is to help you become aware of how far you've come, because we lose sight of it and we see ourselves and experience ourselves every single day, and so we incrementally experience those small 1% changes every single day, and if we don't stop and look backwards, we'll never notice it. So, as a coach, I write people's words down word for word, put them in quotations and I'll have the date there and that way when I go back to them and you know we'll be in a future session they'll be saying something very different and I'll be like just wait one second, and I'll go back to the old notes and say do you remember two weeks ago, a month ago, six months ago, you said this thing and you fully believed it. Those are the moments where they go wow, I really have changed. So I don't even know how I got on this tangent. How'd I get here? See, now, that's how you know. I have no script. That's how you know. There is no outline. That's how you know. We're just hanging out and I'm curious if you can hear the rumbling storm outside, because it's actually quite soothing to just have the rolling thunder. There's no lightning so far, just this nice deep, rolling thunder.

Speaker 1 11:11

You know, life gets easier when we get out of our own way, and I say that because that's partly what I'm experiencing right now. So yes, this is a projection and it's for me so true because I read this book the Surrender Experiment and it was. I don't want to give it away, I don't want to spoil or any of it, it was just a really good book. So the premise of the book is that if we stop thinking and just start accepting the opportunities that show up and feel good to us, and just follow the opportunities, that life can lead us to some pretty amazing places without us even planning to get there. And so quite interesting book.

Following Energy, Not Logic

Speaker 1 11:58

And I've been doing more and more of that as just letting go and letting life. My motto for this year is what's meant for me will be, and yet I'm not being passive, I'm not sitting back and saying that I'm just kind of waiting for things to come to me. I'm very much taking action. I've done so many things to find additional clarity and take action, even in the confusion. I still ran to different events, even as I was still unsure of who my ideal client really was and who I was speaking to. What's my core offer? Still figuring all of these things out because I still pivot on the run, I guess that's one way to put it. And so, as I'm going through these experiences, I'm recognizing what types of women I absolutely adore and want to do more of, what types of events I love and want to do more of, what kind of locations I enjoy and want to do more of and which ones, well, you know, we'll just not be doing as much of in the future. And that only comes with experience. That only comes with actually showing up and doing the thing. And so I've been showing up and I've been doing the thing, and I'm still very broad in who I was helping.

Speaker 1 13:14

And it wasn't until I really started to push myself and I thought I was going to be working with corporate girlies. I thought I was going to be working with executive women. I thought that my route was going to HR events, shrm events and chief events to go meet all these executives and these women at high levels. Because if I work with leadership leadership in companies then by trickle down effect, they impact and influence all of those who work with them and for them, and so I could have a bigger impact, and I was really excited about that to a degree, till I started to actually put things on my calendar and then recognized my body wasn't excited at all. In fact, my inner child was like almost looking at me, like do we have to go? This is going to be so boring. In that moment I knew, yeah, I'm not going to be too excited about this for too long, so maybe this isn't the right next step, because there's this resistance and it should be easy, right, easy and effortless. And so I stopped and I thought about it.

Speaker 1 14:27

I'm like, where are events that I have willingly paid, not only for a ticket but to fly out, for room, for food, for all of the different aspects of going to an event? Where are the events over the last five to 10 years that I have been investing into in all of the different aspects of going to an event? Where are the events over the last five to 10 years that I have been investing into? And all of those events have been creative events, podcasting events like PodFest, podcast Movement. We've got video events like VidSummit, we've got VidCon. We've got all of these massive events that creators gather. That excites me. That's something I'm already naturally doing because I want to expand my networks, I want to meet new friends in those areas.

Speaker 1 15:08

I love hanging out with creative people, the conversations. I could just have them for hours and it comes natural and easy and I can connect with them and I can relate to them and I get it their experiences, their fears, their struggles, and that's when it hit me. I was like, oh yeah, I don't necessarily want to sit and talk about the struggles of a CEO, not necessarily like an entrepreneur, but like a corporate CEO or an executive at a high level in a massive company. I don't want to talk about those problems. I don't know how to navigate them. I don't know how to navigate the political landscape. I don't know how to speak in the language of someone who is so literal and so logical that I question everything that comes out of my mouth. And I have to really try and really think about it. I have to become a master communicator because I really have to step outside of what is natural to me as a communicator very inferential communicator, very emotional communicator.

Speaker 1 16:12

I like to tell stories a lot of times versus leaning into facts and figures, and that's okay. But that takes effort and extra energy. That makes me more tired. I was finding myself working on projects for leadership, for corporate, for these things, and I was finding myself falling asleep. I literally could not hold my eyes open. I wanted to be working on it. It was like the middle of the day, I couldn't understand why, but my eyes were like falling shut, like they felt so heavy, and so I'd end up just taking a nap every time and I'm like what is happening? Why is it that, on one hand, when I have something in a creative outlet for a creative person, for the creative community, I'm up at 4.30 in the morning so excited, working on it for hours on end, versus something like this where I can barely keep my eyes open and it hit me that I'm swimming upstream.

Speaker 1 17:18

I was chasing what I thought was the easier road because there was money, because a company paying another company is a lot easier to get the bigger dollars than it would be to go to a lot of individuals. At least, that was the belief I had bought into. Whether it's true or not, I don't know. There's a lot of different circumstances that would need to go into that situation to make that true or false. For real, it doesn't matter. I was buying into it, and now I'm not buying into it because I actually want to save energy. I want to do what's easy, what's fun, what calls me, what's exciting, what wakes me up out of bed. That's what I'm here to do, and so why not just talk to people who are like me, people who think like me, communicate like me, have experiences like me, have beliefs like me, are curious about things that I'm into? So I'm not going to be quiet anymore when it comes to the things that actually get me going, get me turned on, get me excited mentally, where I could just talk about it all day. I'm going to incorporate more of these conversations, talking about the way that I believe things to be, because, truly, this is the corner of the internet that exists, because I'm here to talk about my beliefs, because I'm truly convinced that for some people, for the right people, it will help. I'm not here to say what I have to offer is for everybody. What we're here to do together is for you, and if you are this far into this episode, it's likely for you, babe, Like it's, it's likely for you. And I just you know I I got so lucky about two and a half years ago I was invited private invite to a very small mastermind and in this mastermind I was given the opportunity to become friends with two women three, four, lots of women, but two in particular.

The Power of Female Friendship

Speaker 1 19:23

Right at the start, these two women were at the very first event, which is why they have such a deep impact. At the time I was still struggling with the belief that I could have girlfriends, because I have been burned so many times in the past by women and one of them was triggering me right off the bat a whole bunch. And the other one I just wasn't quite sure about yet, I didn't know anything about. She was very quiet at the time and I just didn't know. And then the years went on and we all grew and evolved and now these two women are some of the closest women that I have in my life. I speak to them more than I do most anybody else outside of my partner, my mother, my personal trainer. These women are everything and they, for the first time, are healing me and teaching me that I can have girlfriends, that it's worth continuing to look for the people who are like me and who want to grow in the ways that I have to offer friendship, because I recognize that that's what I offer in my business, in my world.

Invitation to Join Our Community

Speaker 1 20:37

My service is friendship. It is a deep level of friendship, a friendship that shows up when you need those SOS calls, when you're having those tough days, who helps to ground you when you really need it, who does have knowledge in business, does have knowledge in fitness and in health and nutrition, does have knowledge in multiple areas of life that I can guide you in those areas too, and I can just be here to help support you through all of the personal earthquakes you're going to experience while still managing and upholding the rest of the world. And sometimes we just need a business bestie to have in our corner, someone who knows about all the craziness that's happening behind the scenes, someone who can keep us grounded, someone who can keep us focused on the why, focused on where we're going, focused on who we're doing it for, and to remind us that we're not crazy. We just might be a little overwhelmed in the moment. That's okay, because emotions are a good thing, all of them, the good ones and the bad ones. Right, we're here to experience the range of emotions. We're not here to experience them alone.

Speaker 1 21:58

So, whether it's in a one-on-one format, whether it's joining the Her Collective, whether it's applying to be a part of the In Her Circle.

Speaker 1 22:06

Join a community, even just download the Her app and start doing some of the meditations, get into the journal prompts, feel the energy of the app and, whenever you're ready, join one of these, join the Her Collective and become a part of the group. Chat, really dive in, because we, as women, are meant to do this together. We're meant to have a sisterhood, and so if you're one of these people who's a creative, who's a high performer, who's an entrepreneur, who thinks a little bit differently about the world, who's into some woo-woo stuff you know the metaphysical, the spiritual if you're into empowering each other, you're here to stay on top of your health, your fitness, to be inspired by other women who are taking on the world and this is your space Join us. I would be more than happy to have you with us and if not, you're more than welcome to just keep listening to the podcast. I'm here to be that little whisper in your ear that keeps you going, because you are enough and you are loved.