Balancing Being And Doing: Electromagnetism As A Map For Alignment

Ever feel like you’re either sprinting on fumes or sinking into the couch with zero momentum? We unpack a clear, no-drama framework for understanding your internal balance using the language of masculine and feminine energy—redefined as doing and being. No gender boxes here, just a practical way to spot what’s missing and how to restore it fast.

We start with duality as a simple lens for everyday life, then reframe masculine energy as action, structure, and forward motion, and feminine energy as presence, creativity, and receptivity. From there we dive into the electromagnetism metaphor: electricity as the active push, magnetism as the steady pull. Too much electricity overheats and leads to burnout; too much magnetism gets heavy and can feel like depression. You’ll hear real-world examples of personal ratios—why some people function best at 60 percent being and 40 percent doing, while others thrive in long stretches of high action—and how partners, teams, and families can honor different blueprints without judgment.

We lay out a seasonal approach: how to intentionally tilt toward doing during launches or deadlines and then schedule deliberate recovery on the other side. If you’re burned out, the fix is subtracting, slowing, and reconnecting to your body and creative flow. If you’re stuck, the fix is small, decisive movement—one email, one task, one win—to shift the field and re-engage your momentum. Along the way, we highlight how your state attracts or repels opportunities and people, and why mindful awareness of your energy is the most reliable way to design days that actually work for you.

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Transcript

Masculine And Feminine Explained

Beyond Gender: Unique Energy Mix

Personal Ratios And Burnout Cycles

Partner Contrast And Practical Balance

Seasons, Goals, And Recovery Planning

Electromagnetism Metaphor For Energy

Burnout Vs Depression: Fix The Imbalance

Respecting Differences And Finding Fit

Conscious Showing Up And Next Steps

SPEAKER_00 1:12

Let's chat about the masculine and feminine energy. This is a duality of energies that plays a part in every single moment of your life, every single day. Whether it's the energy that you're bringing to the table, the energy that your reality is projecting back at you, whether it's energy and creation of something, as duality is required for anything to exist, right? So what do I mean by that? To be able to have something that's hot, you must also have cold. To have light, you must have the darkness. The opposite of the sun is the moon. The opposite of going inward is going outward, right? Everything in life. As you now begin to hear this, you might begin to notice that everything has duality. Everything has an existence and a knot. Because even if it comes down to having, it's not necessarily to think iPhone versus Android. No, it's iPhone versus no iPhone. That's the duality, right? Or Android versus no Android. So there is a duality in everything in life. And one of the main dualities that we like to talk about or reference because it is it is well documented for centuries and centuries of time is the masculine and feminine energy. Now I talk a lot about this with my clients, with my peers, with people that I meet in day-to-day life. But the one thing that I find reoccurring over and over as I speak about the subject is that people presume masculine equals male and feminine equals female, which is absolutely incorrect. We all have both energies. Every single being on this planet has both masculine and feminine qualities. There are no positives and negatives to either of these. There just are, right? So you can look at them also as the masculine is the doing energy. It's it's outward, it's forward motion. And then the feminine is the being energy. It's a little bit more stationary and still. Now that duality shows up in multiple ways. The masculine is the one to chase, the feminine is the one to attract. The masculine is the action taker, the strategy, the systems. The feminine is the creative, the flow, the nurturing. There's the masculine traditional values, there's the masculine ROI-driven values in business, or there's the opposite of that. There's the feminine innovation, the change and the optimism for the future. Or there's the opposite of every aspect of life falls into either the category of masculine or feminine. And again, these are completely disconnected from gender. All of us have a balance of both. And the beauty is that all of us have our own unique balance of both the masculine and the feminine. Now I say this because when I talk about generalities, right, they are just that. They're general. We have outliers that are life is a spectrum, right? Everybody falls on the spectrum somewhere. And there's no right or wrong to where you are on this spectrum. What's happening is that people assume that because they are a specific gender, they must only ever show up as the inappropriate assumption that that gender is strictly one energy. Say they are born as a, I know I'm getting into weird territory with this with a lot of people in the world right now, but I'm just going to stick to what I know and believe, right? And if you don't like it, you don't have to listen to this podcast. Cool. If you were born in a male body, if you were born uh with that anatomy, then it might be presumed that you should show up a certain way in this world. And society has told us that you're more likely to play with trucks, you're more likely to like the color blue, right? You're more likely to want to get your hands in the dirt outside, right? All of these things are things that the society has projected onto this being because it was born into a specific body. Now, what happens when that young boy grows up and decides that he loves dance and art and expressing himself and singing and making music? When he doesn't fall into the traditional masculine energetic values, he is a more predominantly energetic being in the feminine side of things with the creativity and the flow. That is the difference. And there is no right or wrong. As long as that young man leans into what feels good in his body, then he will be in energetic alignment. And if that's a more feminine take on the world, then so be it. That is what's right for his body and his energetic makeup. So what I'm getting at is that every single one of us has our own formula, our own percentage. Um, it's the percentage distribution between the masculine and the feminine. For example, in my world, I've found that I tend to be much better and more um balanced and maintained my energy for a longer period of time when I have about 60% of my energy going towards the feminine and only 40% going towards the masculine, which means a majority of my time I should be connecting with people. I should be creating art. I should be moving my body and staying in a flow state, relaxing, recovering. And then only that 40% of the time should I be strategizing? Should I be chasing leads? Should I be doing these other mechanisms that leave me in the masculine energy and more in my head thinking versus being in my heart, the feeling? So for me, that's the shift that works. Now there are times in my life when I need to push a little bit more. Maybe I'm in a sprint season. And so I end up shifting and being a little bit more 60%, maybe even 70% in my masculine, but that's only a short period. And then I always end up recognizing at some point a reach nearly or always burnout. And then I need a couple weeks or even months where I'm completely the opposite, maybe more 80% feminine to recover and recoup. So to keep a maintained energy all year round and balance myself so that I don't burn out, keeping that 60-40 split and making sure there's enough space, rest, and recovery in my schedule, that's what's going to keep me from burnout. So you might find the same thing with you, or you might find that you're like my partner. My partner, he is the complete opposite. He does much better in his masculine, in the performance mode, in the doing mode, taking action all the time. He does a lot better in that. He struggles with slowing down and relaxing, recovering. He struggles with being more creative outside of the engineering and the data management and the tech and all of that. That's where his creative shines. But outside of that, in the work environment, which is still partly his masculine, because he's doing those things out of a necessity to solve a problem, not because he's having fun building a computer, right? So he does much better in his masculine. And I think that what people have a hard time with is finding a way to balance all the things that they're responsible for, that they need to get done, that well, that they tell themselves they need to get done. All these things that they put on their calendar, put on their plate to try and balance that, that's where the struggle comes in. This is where we have to have clarity about what works for us in the long term. We need to have goals that are set for the long term or mindsets that understand that we are doing a short-term sprint, right? My goals will shift if I'm in a bodybuilding prep because I know that I'm in a bodybuilding prep. I know it's not going to be forever, it's only going to be for a period of time, and that's okay. And then I plan for recovery after the fact. So knowing this can help you navigate life. Now, I know that for some people it's still a little bit difficult to grasp the masculine and the feminine. So let's talk about it in a different way. I was given this visual from a friend, this metaphor, and it just stuck with me. It is for me a such an extremely easy way to explain a tangible experience with the masculine and feminine. And so what it is, is it's electromagnetism. So if you think about our bodies and our hearts, if we have a heart attack, then we need a um a defibrillar, right? We need to electrically shock us to come back to life. So our bodies, our batteries, we require electricity to run. It's not just the air that we need, it's not just the water and the food and all of the sleep and all of that. Like we literally run on electricity. So our hearts, they need electromagnetism to be able to survive. We need electromagnetism. So let's break that down even further. The electricity part of electromagnetism, in this metaphor, that is the masculine, the electricity, the active part, the movement, the action, the forward motion, the active component. I don't know how else I could say it without using that word, but the active component in this process, that's the electricity. The opposite side of that is the magnetism. That's what attracts. That's the thing that stays still but pulls things towards it. That's that aspect. So we have the electricity, the masculine, and the magnetism, the feminine, right? So these directly correlate to the same qualities that we talked about earlier with the masculine and the feminine. The masculine chases, electricity pushes and moves forward, and the magnetism attracts. And so what can happen is think about that going back to what I was saying about the percentages. So if you are in a world where maybe your body requires more feminine energy, but you're in a time in your life where you really truly have to just show up in your masculine to be able to keep you protected, keep you safe, keep your business moving forward, keep your family functioning, whatever that may be. So you end up pushing through. You know you need more feminine, more relaxation, more rest, more flow, more creativity. And yet you keep pushing. And what happens is when you have too much electricity, just like a phone or any other device with too much electricity, it will get hot and it will burn out. So when we have too much electricity going through us, we are gonna burn out. Which the resort or the solution to that is to just be more. Slow down. Have that cup of coffee with just you, not running around sipping it while you're answering emails or dealing with the kids in the morning. Slow down and be more. It's not about the doing. When we hit burnout, that's too much electricity, too much masculine. We need more feminine. Slow down, be more. And the same goes for the opposite. When we have too much magnetism, too much feminine in our life, that can also be a negative thing. Because if we're not having enough movement, we get stuck, we get drudged down, we get slow, we get depressed. That depression is too much magnetism. It's not enough movement, it's not enough doing. So the solution for that is to do more, to take action, to get up, to go actually select something on your to-do list and do it. Take a shower, brush your teeth, clean your room, answer that one email, get the ball rolling, do more, and it will pull you out of that depression. Because the depression is that feeling of heavy magnetism. You are so much in the being that you are beginning to spiral and you are sucked into that being and that stuckness. And so to get out of that, we need more movement. So we need more doing. So, do we see how the balance is different for everyone? For some people, they're experiencing more depression. And so what they need is more doing, more action, more masculine energy, more strategy, more systems, more showing up, more taking action, more calling, more chasing. And on the flip side, we have people who are struggling with burnout because they have way too much doing, too many tasks lists, too much overwhelm, too many things on their to-do list. They need more being. They need more space in their calendar, more time to just take a couple deep breaths between each meeting. There is no right and wrong. What is wrong is us trying to fit our energetic systems to what works for someone else. And for someone else to look at us and go, Well, I can do it. It's not that hard. And expect that person in front of you who might have a completely different energetic system to go internally, what do you mean it's not that hard? I struggle every day. Because the moment you realize that surprisingly, when you have billions of people on a planet, we're not all the same. Who would have thought? Who would have thought that the creator who created this entire complex system that we live in would think to add a little uniqueness to each of us? Would think that if we were all a little bit different, maybe, just maybe, we could fit together like a puzzle, create a beautiful, bigger picture together, support each other, hold each other, and build something bigger together. Instead of looking at someone and saying, Well, it's easy for me, why can't you do it? Why isn't it easy for you? Well, there are probably things that are super easy to that person that you struggle with, but you don't know about because it's not coming up in the context of your relationship. But to sit and to think that just because someone's not like you makes them broken, makes them not enough, makes them lazy. No, recognize here electromagnetism. Maybe you just need a little extra electricity or a little extra magnetism. Because life is all about balance. And the masculine and feminine energies, whether you want to admit it or not, are always playing a role in your life. Every single day. And how you show up, that depicts how the opposite end of the spectrum shows up. Because magnets attract, they also repel. And so if you show up in a certain energy, you're more likely to attract. And if you show up in a different energy, you can repel. We have to be super specific and very aware and conscious and mindful of the energy we're showing up in. Because a lot of people are getting frustrated because they're attracting the opposite end of the spectrum and not realizing that that's just how life works. You can't expect both. This is a complex topic, but also so simple when you really think about it. Being and doing. That's it. Just being and doing. Which do you need more of? Do you need more but time just being staying present? Calm. Relaxed. Or more doing. Taking action, getting that ball rolling, getting those ideas into play. Let me know. I'd love to hear more about it.