Five Simple Moves That Make Your Advice Land

A Millennial's Guide to Healthy Emotional Regulation with Jayna Swan

A Millennial's Guide to Healthy Emotional Regulation with Jayna Swan
Five Simple Moves That Make Your Advice Land
Nov 11, 2025 Season 3 Episode 18
Jayna Swan

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Ever notice how the smartest advice can land like a brick? We dig into why that happens and share five moves that shift conversations from friction to flow. Drawing on a decade of one-on-one work and group coaching, we break down a simple framework that anyone can use: ask for consent before feedback, let people fully empty out, validate feelings in plain language, prep before so you can be present during, and—when the moment taps your shoulder—just say it.

We start with consent because “advice without consent is criticism.” A quick “Would you like my feedback?” flips the listener from defense to choice. From there, we explore the discipline of space: resisting the urge to fix and instead letting the story breathe until the nervous system softens. Then comes validation—the tiny, powerful phrases like “That sucks” and “Your feelings are valid” that make people feel seen. We talk through practical ways to prepare—reviewing notes, clarifying outcomes, and setting targets—so the conversation can stay focused on what matters. And we share how to reverse engineer change from identity to behaviors to beliefs, turning big goals into doable steps.

Finally, we lean into intuitive coaching: trusting that nudge to voice the insight on your heart. When combined with consent, space, and presence, those moments often unlock exactly what the other person needs to hear. If you want your feedback to land, your relationships to deepen, and your coaching—formal or informal—to create real transformation, this episode gives you clear language and repeatable steps you can use today. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who coaches (officially or not), and leave a quick review to help others discover the conversation.

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Themes: Emotional Mastery, Mindset, Storytelling, Confidence, Health & Productivity, Creativity, Communication Skills, Business, Movement, Meditation, Mindfulness, Manifestation, Resilience, Letting Go, Surrender, Feminine Energy, Masculine Energy, Love, Personal Growth.

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