I Realized I’d Healed When I Felt Nothing: Neutrality Over Triggers

A Millennial's Guide to Healthy Emotional Regulation with Jayna Swan

A Millennial's Guide to Healthy Emotional Regulation with Jayna Swan
I Realized I’d Healed When I Felt Nothing: Neutrality Over Triggers
Oct 28, 2025 Season 3 Episode 16
Jayna Swan

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A stranger at a hotel bar said, “You don’t look like you’ve suffered a day in your life,” and the room went still—not because it hurt, but because it didn’t. What followed was a surprising proof of growth: calm, clarity, and a clean boundary where an old trigger once lived. We unpack the entire moment—from camera talk to invasive questions—and how it revealed the quiet power of a regulated nervous system and a well-practiced “no.”

We walk through the realities of medical trauma, consent, and dignity after seven surgeries, then pivot to a fiery exchange about marriage, tradition, and social security that says more about projection than persuasion. Along the way, we share practical tools for staying grounded: how to recognize when someone’s pain is spilling onto you, how to hold your line without escalation, and how to leave with your peace intact. The takeaway is simple and hard-won: healing isn’t a highlight reel; it’s the ability to choose your response when life hands you disrespect or disbelief.

Expect a clear framework you can use today—building an inner “bubble” of belief that filters what reaches you, spotting the difference between advice and projection, and honoring the friends who help co-regulate in tense moments. If you’re on your own healing path, this conversation will help you name the subtle wins: the trigger that doesn’t bite, the projection that bounces off, the self you return to with ease. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs stronger boundaries, and leave a review to tell us where you’ve noticed your own quiet proof of healing.

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