#DDMS Episode 9: A Rollercoaster Ride: Anniversary Bash, Law Enforcement Insights, and Personal Walk Down the Memory Lane

Let's take you back to our whirlwind anniversary weekend in Tulsa, where the revelry never stopped! Picture this - open bar, casino nights, and a grand conference featuring the legendary Gil Carrillo. We'll transport you to the crime scenes of the Nightstalker, with Carrillo's riveting narrative, peppered with unexpected humor. But it's not all fun and games, as we also dive into our hotel's peculiar rules, our sneaky alcohol antics, and the wild ride that was our anniversary celebration.

Next stop, law enforcement - but not as you know it. We're peeling back the blue uniform to explore what happens when the camaraderie ends and the 'members only club' mentality persists post-retirement. How does it feel to lose your purpose, your mission, your 'why'? And here's one for the debate club: Should our community protectors - teachers, first responders, military personnel - be allowed an OnlyFans account? Controversial, yes, but a discussion worth having. 

Finally, we're getting personal. Walk with us as we revisit our engagement story, relive the last-minute proposal mishap that almost ruined our vacation, and confront the judgment of others. More than just a trip down memory lane, we're discussing mental health, the importance of support, and the power of partnerships in facing job stress. All this while keeping the humor alive, because who doesn't love a good laugh over a story about a cross-dressing cyborg that works for the CIA? So, buckle up, this journey promises to be a rollercoaster ride of highs, lows, and laugh-out-loud moments!

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:04

Warning, warning, warning. This content may be sensitive to some. If you feel the need to leave, it is completely understandable. Content may contain examples of death, suicide, sexual content and other shit. We don't know what we're gonna get into. This is not to offend anyone or upset anyone on purpose. This isn't your typical deputy dane, so listen at your own risk. Sit back and enjoy.

Speaker 2: 0:43

Good morning everybody. Welcome to the deputy dane morning show. I appreciate all y'all for being here. We got some stuff to get into. I really don't know what we're gonna get into, but we'll get into something. Sit back. Oh, oh, yep, there's a sirens. I think we're all gonna be detained. Sit back and enjoy the show. Good morning everybody. Hopefully everybody's doing great. It's October 15th. That is actually my wife and I's anniversary. Holy crap, 47 years we've been together. It's been amazing. She's a good lady, A boy a boy.

Speaker 2: 1:27

Wow, it's actually been. This is our seven years together. We're all married. We were together a lot longer before that not a lot longer.

Speaker 2: 1:34

I think we've been together 10 years altogether, something like that. We got to go recently to a conference which was pretty cool. I was pretty excited to do that with her. We got to go stay at the hard rock in Tulsa. Let me tell you about the hard rock in Tulsa. There's a few things about it. First and foremost is they don't allow outside alcohol, even in your room. I was not aware of this, really. Okay, let me rephrase that I didn't really care at this point. We have the room, it's our room and we're gonna do what we want to in our room.

Speaker 2: 2:17

So my wife and I we did a getaway for dinner. The dinner was for the first night we got there. We wanted to do our anniversary dinner because we had no babies and boy. Sweet to get away from that. It was awesome, cool deal. So we went there.

Speaker 2: 2:38

Right next door to the restaurant we went to, coincidentally, was a liquor store. So we went and got all the stuff we wanted to for the week, because I knew it was gonna be a long week and I'm not paying hotel or the casino prices for some of the alcohol, because I knew what was gonna happen Everyone's gonna go after the conference and then everyone's gonna drink. It's gonna be a fun time, but I'm not gonna sit there and I'm not gonna pay those prices. I don't live on that kind of salary. We're doing a lot of that. So we went, got our alcohol, had a lot of fun, took it back to the hotel. As we're going back to hotel, we also knew that there was gonna be some friends coming to our room, probably to make some drinks as well, which, it happened, is a lot of fun. I say that a lot right now. For some reason, I noticed I'm saying a lot of things. When I do these podcasts I say the same thing over and over. The other day was crazy and now it's a lot, I guess I don't know. So we took it and, as we're going by the front desk, I've got a bag, a brown paper bag, full of alcohol bottles that are just ching, ching, ching, ching, ching, ching, just clinging together. But I still did it. We walked right past the front desk. They didn't say anything, took it up to our room. They also said no firearms on anybody. But there's a lot of cops at this conference and there's a lot of firearms, so there's that. So we go to the room, drop everything off.

Speaker 2: 4:04

First night, we get there, have fun, and after that we go to the casino with everybody else at the end of the casino and we're all having drinks, kind of getting a meet and greet and everything. We're having a good time. Well, after this well, you know, the next morning, after you've had a night of you know your drinks and a fun time, you got a boo boo. We all know about boo boo. I need to be sponsored by old man wipes or something.

Speaker 2: 4:34

So I go to the bathroom by far the worst toilet paper I've ever felt in my entire life. God, it was terrible. It was the thinnest, roughest toilet paper I've ever felt in my life at the Hard Rock Casino. You think it'd be some nice toilet paper. It doesn't have to be like made with baby tears and unicorn wings or something like that. But my God, how can something so thin be so damn rough that you feel like your sandpaper, Needless to say, throughout the day? Well, you know how it is when you do something rough like that. It was an uncomfortable day. I know this is we're getting deep and we're getting in, but you guys know you have the same thing Like hopefully, maybe I'm just nasty, I guess I don't know, but it was rough. It was rough the whole day. You're just kind of like, oh, this is awful, but you know you get through it.

Speaker 2: 5:27

We go through the conference all day and then we repeat the thing the next day, the second day awesome day that we're there. Well, the third day, technically, because the first day was check-in, second day was some of our conference stuff. The third day was Gil Carrillo I can't say I don't know about his name. It's a guy that caught the night stalker in Los Angeles. Cool, cool dude. Broke down on a lot of how he actually caught him and a lot of the stuff. We got to go through the crime scenes. Look at the crime scenes, look at everything. What pointed him there, pointed him here. Funny dude.

Speaker 2: 6:03

Throughout the whole thing, everything he was doing was pretty funny. So the very beginning of it he plays a video and it was from like I don't know 90s, maybe from the UK. It's like a video breaking down the night stalker and I was like, okay, this is all right, this is kind of cool. And then it gets to a point where, like the music's very just suspenseful and in the video they're about to go open a door in a very, very suspenseful way and then he yells through the mic. A lot of us jumped. I'm not going to lie, it's kind of funny, though, real funny. Dude Kind of made you laugh. A lot of the things he said was pretty funny. Someone's phone rang. He'd tell him it wasn't me, something like that. His phone rang. He's like I told you I'll turn your phones off. He's actually a super cool dude.

Speaker 2: 6:46

Later on that night he went and did some shots with us. It's a cool deal, me and him doing shots. It was a cool deal, very cool. I'll actually try to post it so that way you can see me taking shots with the old Giel.

Speaker 2: 7:06

Yeah, then the next day I got to meet another Another one of my idols. I love first 48. We watch a lot of first 48 in our house and I got to meet Jason White from Tulsa PD. Super, super cool dude, not just like you know. Hey, thank you. Blah, blah, blah, just down to earth. Super awesome guy talked to us for a little while, talked to my wife, took photos with me and my wife. It's kind of funny. So I went to the point to go take photos with old Gil and Jason White was in front of me and he looks at me, is like hey, man, can you take a photo of me? And gil, I was like a hundred percent, as long as you don't mind taking a photo with me after I take a photo with gil. So I'm taking a photo you two together, then I'm gonna take a photo with gil and then after that I'm gonna come take a photo with you. He was like, absolutely man. So we sat there we talked, he BS with my wife, you know, talked about M E's and all that stuff. Awesome deal.

Speaker 2: 8:03

Next day I had his class. In his class he's, he's got these little giveaways he's given to people. And he did, like you know, draw your, write your name on a thing, put it in a hat, and he just put it somewhere and he pulled it out and he's like, bam, this person won this. I don't want any of those. But then, as he's going through showing a lot of his cases, he's showing us photos and he's like does anybody see anything that's off here or off there? And no one's really answering a lot of these things. You never. You don't want to be the guy to answer in this and I was like, oh well, I'll answer a lot of this stuff. So I start answering a lot of the things. And Sorry, how do you get my a drink of my ghost energy? Thanks, tom, if you're listening to podcasts. Thank you so much for sending us from the Amazon wishlist. It means the world to us. Well, it's me. My wife could really care less.

Speaker 2: 8:54

She doesn't drink them so, take the class, I'm answering the questions. He ends up give me a cup. The Tulsa PD it changes colors. Whatever cool thing is, I'm not gonna use it for that, I'm just gonna use, I'm just gonna keep it. It's gonna go in my office because, awesome deal, get to meet one of my idols.

Speaker 2: 9:11

My all-time goal is to be a homicide detective. This homicide detective it's cool dude. So I'm answering questions. He's like man, you're on fire, gives me a cup. I was like, okay, yeah, whatever, I'm not really on fire, I'm just answering some damn questions. But he gave me a cup pretty cool deal.

Speaker 2: 9:26

So, yeah, the, the, the conference was great. You know it's not. You don't really go to learn a whole lot of these things. You learn a little bit, a little bit, things help you here and there, but it's really not something that you go to, that you're gonna go. Man, I Felt like I learned a lot on that. You're gonna learn some stuff, you're gonna go through some stuff, but it's really mainly a networking thing. It was cool getting a network with people and see people and everything. It was a cool deal on that aspect. So you know. So took shots with Gil. Awesome. Met Jason white Awesome. You guys are first 48 fans, jason, why, it's actually a legit dude, awesome guy, really cool. So we're doing all that, had a lot of fun, and then it you know, we're going through other things.

Speaker 2: 10:08

This conference and one of the things came up was suicide and first responders and the brought up suicide and and brought up suicide of law enforcement officers that After they retire they've got, they feel they have no longer have a mission After they retire they're like man, what am I gonna do now? You know every day they'd wake up, they'd meet with their friends and everything. And it's sad to hear that so many of these retirees, once they retire, they're no longer welcome at the agency they retired at. You know this is a Members I would say boys only club, but that's kind of sexist. It's a members only club. You think about you go to the door, you enter a code or you have a key that you get in that door and you've been going in that door for 20 years meeting with friends, talking with friends, and you were in the club. As soon as you retire, you're kicked out of that club. You're not allowed in that building. You're not allowed to go and Mangle with your friends, have coffee with people before you start your shift. You're no longer allowed in that members only area and think about what that does to you mentally. Some place that you've had a members only two for 20 something years and as soon as you say, guys, I think I've had enough. 25 years has been a rough, rough deal and you're no longer allowed in there.

Speaker 2: 11:25

What's your why? You know you have a lot of these guys that they woke up, they did this, they did that and they had a reason to wake up. They had a reason to do this. But now what's their why? Why are you doing it? What are you gonna do now?

Speaker 2: 11:38

And it was just Just crazy to think about. And you hear about these old, these old timers that put in so many years doing amazing things for the community and stuff, but they didn't know how to take care of themselves because they didn't have a why. Their missions over objectives completed. You made it to retirement. You've been trying to make this whole time. But as soon as you got there, what are you gonna do? What's your why now? Just just wild to think about. And how many of these officers are ending their life because they no longer have that why? And it was sad and sad to think about, but it's just crazy and it's true. It's how it is, you know. So you know it just eye-opening, very eye-opening, you know.

Speaker 2: 12:23

So Just kind of got me thinking about other things. You know, what am I gonna do in a tire? That's why I try to do a lot of social media stuff and so many people get on to me. My social media. Some of the people the conference are fans of it, some people not so much. You know it is what it is.

Speaker 2: 12:37

Some this isn't for everybody. You, whether you like me or you hate me, this isn't for everybody, even if you'd like me. There's stuff I'm gonna do that's gonna piss you off, but I am who I am and I'm gonna be the best of my ability to be who I am. That's, unfortunately, what you're stuck with me. I'm a weirdo. I like zombies. I love this. I love to make people laugh at the most morbid things. That's how you get through, and it really Started getting me kind of thinking about some other stuff and I saw a good question and it made me wonder All right, so think about this.

Speaker 2: 13:13

Should teachers and first responders and military men and women, should they be allowed to have an only fans, not that I'm gonna make one. Last time I made one. I had to pay people to watch me put clothes on. They begged me to put clothes on and I had to pay people. It was really weird, really real dear deal. So it just kind of got me thinking about it.

Speaker 2: 13:34

Should they and that's a hot topic and a lot of this stuff I was reading people like hail know they shouldn't be able to? Hail know this hell. Know that they are professional and that's unprofessional? It's all this and that, and it got me thinking why are so many going to only fans? Why are so many going to these things and then they lose their job? The same people that say that you're always a cop, you never change, are the same people. They're saying you shouldn't be allowed to do stuff on duty. Well, in that kind of the Thing where, like, I'm trying to do something other than being a cop and now you're trying to say you can't do it because you are a cop, it's a weird thing to think about and so many of these men and women aren't allowed to do these things, such as only fans, because of their title of their job. So my question is should you be allowed to? I'm gonna post this video and I want some, some answers. Should you be allowed to have a job One of those spicy pages, being a first responder, teacher or military?

Speaker 2: 14:38

And another thing I want to ask, instead of us wondering what they're doing on their free time and how they're doing their free time and how they're doing this again, guys, I'm not making one, I don't, I don't money for people to watch. I Think our our true thing. What should be asking is should they be allowed to? Should be why are they having to do this? Why are men and women in law enforcement, teacher world and the military? Why are they having to supplement their income by doing one of these spicy pages? I Think that should be the bigger question, instead of judging someone what they do on their time off. I think it should be why are they having to do this? What makes them to the point where they're saying I, you know, and the answer is we don't get paid enough. We know that, you know. We should be thinking what, what can we do to help you? What can we do to help you so you don't have to do these things that are unprofessional and it it kind of is a question that was a heated subject.

Speaker 2: 15:46

Some people are very for it, some people are very against it. I Don't care. Whatever makes you happy, I'm not watching it. If it works for you and people are paying to say, oh, I can see what a cop looks like without a uniform. Cool Story, go for it, bro. I'm not doing it, but I don't.

Speaker 2: 16:05

I think it'd be bad for me to judge someone doing it, you know, not knowing their circumstances. Does that officer have three kids and they're struggling to pay for their kids because majority of us get divorces because of our career? So is that officer having to do something to be a single mother to take care for three kids because she got divorced? Or father, who knows, are you do whatever? Maybe you're a helicopter, you're hung, you don't ever know. So what should I judge someone? What they do on their free time? You know I don't care. You want to do this stuff.

Speaker 2: 16:38

Why does it bother other people what someone does in their time off? And then they're like well, teachers, I, my kids, shouldn't see that, 100%, you're right. Your kids should not see that. The question is, why aren't you watching your kids that they have paid for a teacher's only fans. I Think now it comes down to bad parenting, not really what the teachers doing. I'm not gonna lie, there's some teachers when I was going through school I'd like, hell yeah, watch that, just to see your teacher boobies, and then be every day of class. You'd be like I saw your boobies just internally, but at the same time, why are your kids watching it? I think you need to watch your kids. You know. That's all new in my opinion, but it's just. It's just crazy, you know, and it's crazy to just sit back and you think about it.

Speaker 2: 17:31

And in this class they kind of were talking about some stuff that to us in first responder world and cop world it's normal and it's what I deal with. This is what I deal with, this is normal. But when you tell other people, they're like, oh shit, that's that's why you deal with all this, that's not normal. And you're like, oh Well, shit, I guess that isn't normal and it was just kind of funny to think about. You know, and you hear someone talk about it in this guy. They talked about suicide and talked about what's your normal and all that stuff actually was one of those gung-ho officers that Thought all these other people that talk about their feelings was stupid and talked about that and I've been there. I mean, I'm not gonna make fun of someone doing it, but I was like I'm not doing it. I still haven't done it.

Speaker 2: 18:15

My outlet is talking to other people and make a people laugh and that's why I do my podcast. That's why I do my just started podcast and it's still growing. It's not not the best thing, but that's why I started a lot of things. I started a tick tock, instagram, twitch, all those things are so I can feel better internally to say, oh shit, I've seen some shit, but I still am human. I can still make people laugh. I'm not a salty dickhead. I'm not any of that. I'm still who I am and I'm staying true to myself.

Speaker 2: 18:46

And should I go talk to someone? Probably will I go talk to someone. It I'm pushing more to towards it. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just me taking time to go work on myself. It's not something I like to do.

Speaker 2: 18:59

Finally went to the dentist and got some work done. I've been needing to get done and it sucked, I'm not gonna lie, but it was something that needed to be done and my mental health is something I need to focus on, if I want to be here for my babies, if I want to see my babies grow, see them walk down the aisle. You know, it's just it's. It's crazy, I don't know, it's just crazy. It's crazy that you have to. I Don't know, I don't even know where's going with that. See, there's my mind for you. I don't know, but yeah, awesome, awesome week. Had it would, did all that with my wife, got to do all that. Like said, today is the Seventh anniversary of us, and boy it's been an up and down, up and down, right. So I figured I'd kind of break down. Since it's 70 or anniversary of our getting married, I think I was gonna break down our engagement story. Funny deal.

Speaker 2: 20:04

So my wife and I were dating at this point. She had been through me thinking, then been with me through the hospital. I was in the hospital for a while. She was in there for that. I had internal bleeding. I might as well go through that. I was internal bleeding. I was partying too much, taking too much ashrin doing stuff, stupid stuff. I was a medic, I knew better, I saw the signs but I kept doing it. So she stayed with me thick and thin.

Speaker 2: 20:29

We went to Gulf Shores. We went down to Gulf Shores, that's where we like to go. We went down to the beach for our vacation. I had everything planned. I'm a romantic. My wife Not so much. So I'm a romantic. I had everything planned. I had a Beach lit like a beach dinner, with photographer candle lit, everything Set out. So this is all set up. Have the money saved for it, have everything ready. So my photographers there were setting up the Dinner. So they were set up the dinner, so they have the dinner on the beach.

Speaker 2: 21:04

My wife and I would show up to the beach and like, oh, looky here, and it would have photographer dinner on the beach and everything. Morning up we get there. I'm still a little nervous, I'm pumped up, but I'm nervous. We get to the beach, we get to our hotel room, we're doing our thing. Morning of I get a text message From the photographer who is heading up everything, saying I hate to cancel last minute but I won't be able to be there. I was like okay, shit, and this whole time you know I'm trying to keep this secret from my wife. So my wife's in the hotel room with me and she could tell my demeanor change and it's kind of funny looking back. But so I'm sitting there, I'm stressing out like, oh fuck, what am I gonna do it on photographer? And they're like, oh yeah, by the way, you're also not gonna have your dinner Because they were coming with me. I was like, well, so not only I got a funny photographer, now I have to find a dinner on the beach and a photographer.

Speaker 2: 22:04

So my wife and I are still doing stuff through the day. We're doing this stuff. I'm on my phone and I'm looking. I'm like, oh shit, I need to find a photographer. Well, it's last minute, guys Not gonna find a photographer. I was like, okay, I got to find a way to get dinner on the beach. How can I find a way? So I start trying to find a way again last minute, unable to find it.

Speaker 2: 22:25

So this whole time I'm stressed out. We're in a hotel room and I tell my wife I'm like, hey, I'm gonna go to the store for a minute. So my wife's like, okay, let's go. And I was like, can I just get a minute alone? Now, take it mine. I'm on vacation with my girlfriend. Okay, who says, can I have a minute alone on a vacation? Like, hey, let me go do something on my own real quick. My wife's like well, fine, then fuck you go.

Speaker 2: 22:56

So I ended up going down the street to a liquor store and got some champagne because again, my dinner's canceled, everything's canceled. I got some champagne, I had to get a cooler. I got the ice with cooler, some champagne in there, and I put it in the trunk, the very back of the trunk, so she wouldn't see it, and get back to the hotel room and she's pissed. And just if I have to, she's pissed. I mean I'm on vacation with her and I tell her let me go to the store by myself. I'd be pissed too. Kinda find out. She was telling her mom oh, he's breaking up with me. This is gonna be real awkward. This drives 13 hour home. It's gonna suck. I might just leave him. Thanks, babe, gonna leave me. I wouldn't blame you. I'd leave my ass too if that happened.

Speaker 2: 23:39

So my wife loves Jurassic Park. So I take her to go see Jurassic Park. My wife is a sucker for popcorn. I was like, well, let's get some popcorn. I don't really. I was like let's get some popcorn. She's like, okay, let's get popcorn. So we get popcorn, we watch the movie, and I'm figuring this all out as I go. I knew I was gonna take her to the beach so I had to wear swimming trunks I'm not really swimming trunks, just shorts. So that way, if I did get in the water either way, I'm wearing shorts, I'm not wearing jeans to the beach.

Speaker 2: 24:09

So I tied the ring on my drawstring. Looking back, she told me that she's kind of looking at me Weird. I kept checking the drawstring. Which, where's the drawstring? Yeah? So I kept patting it throughout the movie, kept patting it throughout everything throughout the day, because I have it tied there. I'm stressed out. I spent a lot on this ring. I got it. I'm not gonna lose this ring. And then that ruined my plans even more. So I'm doing this whole thing, patting my area, checking throughout the day. She never recognized what I was doing. So I take her to the movie.

Speaker 2: 24:46

After the movie's over, I was like let's go refill our popcorn. She's like well, what about dinner? I was like let's go refill our popcorn. At this time, take a mind, she's already pretty pissed off with me. I've already told her hey, let me go to the store by myself. Can I not get a minute alone on my vacation? So we go down to the beach, I get the cooler out. At this point I don't know if she realized what the hell, but at this point she probably still think I'm breaking up with her. So she's like, whatever, get your cooler.

Speaker 2: 25:14

So I grab the cooler. I had some, bought some cheap ass candles that I couldn't keep lit to save my life and I bought, I brought the towel, I laid the towel out, put that there and put the candles out and I hid the champagne at the very bottom. There was other stuff there, so I had to like hide it underneath the ice and then I had some beers on top just to look like she looked in there. So we're sitting there. We're sitting there and I'm trying to get up the nerve. Everything's falling through. Is this? What do I need to do? Is she gonna say yes, you know, ladies, you don't understand. It's nerve wrecking. You think that you know what I'm gonna say? I've seen women say no, or let me think about it. That's whew, that's a lot. So I'm nervous.

Speaker 2: 26:05

So I get my phone out and I'm kind of still waiting for the perfect time and some dolphins swim by and I was like shit, I gotta do it. I gotta do it now. I've gotta do it. You know, I had this thing planned to a tee. I had it set somewhere where, across this little inlet, where I was at on the beach, there's this restaurant that's been there forever and there's a big light, and I was like I can always come back to this spot to look at where we got engaged.

Speaker 2: 26:33

I had it all set and I was like well, dolphins swim by, gotta do something. Now let's do it. So I told her to stand up and at this point again she's like why? I was like well, let's go up the beach, the dolphins are swimming. So she stands up, I get down to a knee and I ask her to marry me.

Speaker 2: 26:46

And at this point again, take a mind, all day she thought I was gonna just break up with her and I was gonna be done with her. There's a few people kind of standing behind her, kind of looking, just looking like what the hell? Well, I gave her a fake ring, then I bought it in a novelty store, asking her if she'd go to prom with me, and she's like what? And then I show her the real one and she's looking at my drawstring and at that point she's like oh, that's why he's been petting himself all night. Well, couldn't get it untied because I'm holding my camera. So I'm holding my camera at the same time I'm like, okay, jesus Christ, I'm, I can't, I'm trying to untie it and everything.

Speaker 2: 27:21

Just real awkward, and I had it all in video. I gotta be my own cameraman. So I was. It was just funny to look it back and then to realize that she thought I was trying to leave her and she was calling people and she was mad, which, again, she had the right to be mad. It's awkward as hell. So we went through it. It's funny, like thinking about it now. It's just crazy, you know. And then she said yes, obviously, because we're married. She said yes to another guy and then she got divorced and then we got married.

Speaker 2: 27:56

Oh wait, nevermind, nevermind. So that's the point. But yeah, so getting married, we moved to the beach same place. We moved to Gulf Shores area, lived there for a couple years. We struggled, we struggled hard. You know, I worked in law enforcement. She was working for the AME's office. We didn't know anybody there and we struggled. We made it work for a couple years. We loved it, got to go to the beach. A lot people came and visited. It was a lot of fun. Well then she knew I was one of the kids. She was not really the biggest on kids, so she knew I wanted kids and she told me that if I wanted to have kids we're gonna have to move back. So I said, okay, let's do it. Yeah, I really want kids, let's move back. So we did moved back.

Speaker 2: 28:50

Long story short, got on the police department, law enforcement here, mp Officer with the State Haddock Son, been together, had our next baby girl, blakely, and it was a. It was a really really cool deal just to have all that. And, babe, if you're listening to this, which I hope you do I don't know if you do anymore I hope you do. I understand, I love you, you're my world and let's see here, let's play a little something for everybody. I ended up getting this. We'll break this down too.

Speaker 2: 29:25

I ended up getting a thing called Songbird and you and they play you a song, they make you a song and stuff. So I bowed it and I got it for, I think, our last anniversary. And I go to the kitchen and I saw these videos where the people were like, oh my god, you made me a song. So I did that and I kept playing it. It was probably a weird time. She was watching dishes. I was like, yeah, you're where you belong, let me play you a song. So I played a song and she wouldn't. She was like what the hell are you doing? Why are you playing this random song loud? And I was like, oh, hey hey relax.

Speaker 2: 30:01

So I play the song. And then finally I was like, would you just shut up and listen? She did and I figure I'll play that for you and, babe, I know you'll be listening. Hopefully you're listening. Let's go ahead and we'll play our song.

Speaker 1: 30:14

I got done.

Speaker 2: 30:17

Hold on, we're not connected to the old Bluetooth. Let me connect it.

Speaker 1: 30:25

Bluetooth connected.

Speaker 2: 30:26

Oh, there you go. Bluetooth connected, here we go.

Speaker 3: 30:40

Thinking about what we meant. We're working at hotel. We kept it a secret as long as we could. I took you to the beach and I was stressed. You thought it was going to end, but as we watched the dolphin swim I asked for your hand.

Speaker 3: 31:14

You are my everything. I can't breathe without your love, Like the breath that's in my lungs when I'm with you. It's heaven. Life has its ups and downs, but no matter where we are, I know down in my heart I'm blessed. I can love you every day. We moved down to the beach. The struggle made us stronger and you've grown into the greatest mother to Blakely in Harbor. My love grows on and on. You're the haunts to my friends. I love the life we've made. Girl, we did it all together. You are my everything. I can't breathe without your love, Like the breath that's in my lungs when I'm with you. It's heaven. Life has its ups and downs, but no matter where we are, I know down in my heart I'm blessed. I can love you every day. You are my everything. I can't breathe without your love, Like the breath that's in my lungs when I'm with you. It's heaven.

Speaker 2: 33:15

Well, there we go. I love you beautiful. Yeah. Yeah, that was the song I got made for. Again we're making, or she's doing, dishes and I play it and she's like would you just shut up and listen to the song? Babe, I love you, I couldn't do it without you. Man, crazy, crazy, crazy, crazy, crazy, crazy. There we go Crazy again. She told me I said crazy too much and I realized I do.

Speaker 2: 33:49

When I'm doing this stuff, I try to think about what I'm going to talk about. Next. I end up doing what I'm doing right now, which is just kind of not talking about anything. But, guys, it's been a long seven years, just kidding, it's been a great seven years.

Speaker 2: 34:08

I could have done any of the stuff I do without her. She's my rock, she supports me in so many ways and, man, I couldn't do it without her. And I don't just say that I legit could not do this without my wife. She's pushed me, she's told me I can do it. She pushed me to get through the academy. She's done amazing things and again, I couldn't do this without her continued support. She deals with crazy things on her calls. She can come home and talk to me. I deal with crazy calls, I can come home, talk to her and it really helps. It helps having someone to talk to that's in the same line of work. That way you can just kind of work through everything and without her I'd definitely be seeing counseling a lot quicker than I probably go into.

Speaker 2: 34:55

But it made you realize that how much and talk about divorce in this career field all the time and I realized without her being in the same profession it probably would have been down the same road and that scares me. I love my wife more than anything. I couldn't imagine spending another day with her by my side. So it's just it's wild to think about all these men and women going through these divorces. The same guy taught the class about suicide and stuff. He ended up realizing a problem, got help. Now he helps other first responders. He had got a divorce but they got back together. They're back together and I don't want that to be our story. I want her story to be that we've made it. We've done it and we're doing it Every day is not easy. We do struggle. We're like any human being. We struggle but we're making it. We're doing it. I love her to death. I still love her. The same, if not more than the day I started dating her.

Speaker 2: 35:49

So if you're thinking about getting to law enforcement, you're thinking about becoming a first responder, man, guys, stay away from nurses, first of all. I love all you nurses, but, jesus Christ, guys, good Lord, by the same time you have someone talk to. So I guess, do you don't talk to a nurse if you're married? Okay, jesus, but it's good to find someone in the same career field. I know it kind of went off on a tangent there and you guys had to listen to a song and everything. But, babe, if you listen, that was for you. Hopefully it gives you kind of a tear, like it did me, like oh, you could have got out you could have left.

Speaker 2: 36:29

But yeah, I think that's we're gonna cut this. Well, let's talk about a random story, let's bring up hmm. So everyone asked me one of my funniest times, one of my funniest scenes, funniest calls. And Some people get mad about this because, yes, mental health is a real deal. But I'm sorry, when you have mental health, psychosis from drugs, I don't really, I don't put you in the same thing. There are people that have mental health problems and that's not something to laugh about. But if you have a mental health problem because the amount Of meth you've taken over the years, I'm sorry. I don't have a sympathy for you, I don't. I mean, it sucks. I'm not gonna sit here and say, oh well, I Hope something happens here, anything cuz I don't, but I'm not gonna sit here and baby you, you did it, you made that by in the bed you made. So I Was still in training.

Speaker 2: 37:14

We went out to a house. This house is all. Every time we went to this house, just covered in tics. Every time we'd go there, you'd get just oh, covered in tics. So we got to this house, go to the front door. He says that somebody is In his attic is why he's calling us. We're like alright, whatever, he's a regular. They know him. I still don't know him yet. I'm just getting to meet this guy for the first time. So my FTO walks in the house. My other partner that was with us walks in the house our canine officer. They're in the house. They're dealing with this guy.

Speaker 2: 37:48

That dealt with this guy numerous times and he's talking about how he's tired of, when he goes to Walmart in his high heels, people making fun of him and he's tired of it and he's tired of people laughing at him as he has his high heels on and I'm sitting behind him at this point, so I'm behind him. There's like a couch right here. I'm behind the couch and then my partners are in the living room and this dude whips his head around like an owl or an exorcist. Chick whips his head around. It goes. Why are you laughing? I was like I'm. I'm not laughing. What do you mean? What? I didn't laugh. What are you talking about laughing? Well, my FTO was like why are you laughing, dude? I was like I wasn't laughing. I didn't do anything. I'm sit back here. I wanted to laugh.

Speaker 2: 38:36

This dude's killing me because he was like did they not know every time they laugh at me at Walmart that I'm a cross-dressing cyborg, that I work for the CIA and I shoot laser beams at my eyes. I'm like, oh shit, I'm glad I'm behind him, don't hit me with those laser beams, don't turn back around them. Laser beams, dude. So my partners. And then they're like, okay, we're gonna search a house, dane, come in here. I was like okay, and as I'm doing it, my partner, the FTO, kind of looks at me and point like not points. But you know, when you're in this profession, he's telling me look in the corner, one the corner is a shotgun. So they start searching the house and I can hear them giggling down the hallway. I was like you, sons of bitches.

Speaker 2: 39:13

So I'm in here in the hall, in the living room of this guy, separating him from the shotgun, and he's smoking and he's telling me all this crazy shit, cross-dressing cyborg repeats the whole thing and he's tired of wearing pantyhose and high heels. People at Walmart make fun of them every time he goes through. I was like alright, dude, that sucks, man, you know, you know you got, you're allowed to be you man, that's you know, you do you. And these starts looking at the wall and he points right at the wall is like fucking told you this would happen. I told you if you called him this would happen. And I was like, looking at the walls like yeah, dude, he fucking told you. Guy in there.

Speaker 2: 39:46

So they go through the house to clear the house. There's obviously nobody in the attic or anything. There's some random chick, yes, that's in the hallway with her kid and I'm like why are you here? This dude is bat shit crazy. So we leave and then they start telling me stories about this dude and Some of the stuff about this dude and I ended up dealing with this dude. They end up doing like this is a lot of this dude, until he burned his house down and we don't have to deal with the dude anymore. Thank God the dude's crazy. I'm sorry he is.

Speaker 2: 40:17

One time he thought there was a kid in his mattress tickling his butt. So he took a knife to his mattress over and over and over trying to get the kid to stop tickling his butt. Take a bind. Some random chick has been in this house with this kid and I'm like you better get that kid out. He's gonna think that was a kid that was tickling his butt. But you never knew what you're gonna get with this guy. We heard a guy that had a warrant.

Speaker 2: 40:39

My partner went to this house, heard that there's a guy with a warrant in this house, so he goes. He knocks on the door. The this chick answers the door. My partner goes hey, is so-and-so here. She's like nope, mm-hmm. Well, crazy cross-dressing cyborg from the living room. Goes yeah, he is, he's right over there. Points. She's like oh, you know he's, he's crazy, don't listen to him. They just say they went the house, got the dude. He was in there cowering in the corner trying not to be seen. So, man, you really never know what you're gonna get.

Speaker 2: 41:12

Yes, I know, guys, mental health is a serious deal. Please don't hate me, but I think it's funny. If you don't laugh this shit, I mean it's crazy, yeah. And then that's what. Like, I started thinking about some of these calls man, and we do think that's normal. That's not normal. We shouldn't be dealing with these crazy people, we should be dealing with the stuff. But that's what we do in this line of work. Our humans are meant to deal with some of the shit, the stimulus that law enforcement get, a first responders get.

Speaker 2: 41:37

But, man, you look back and I got a hell of a hell of jokes to tell, and it's crazy, man, I always make fun of the saying when you're getting to law enforcement Well, welcome to the front row. Tickets to the best show of the world. I was like, okay, bad ass, whatever. I saw that damn sign to and had a little cat hanging down saying inspire some shit, but you know Whatever. But it's true, looking back, you're like man, I have seen some shit and I really have had the front row seats to some of the best stuff in the world. And you're like man, this is crazy. People don't deal this. This stuff you see on TV and this stuff I deal with crazy, crazy things.

Speaker 2: 42:14

But and then you have these officers that end up Unfortunately committing suicide because of the, the trauma they dealt when they didn't talk to somebody. So, guys, if you're listening to this and you are having these thoughts and you're having these problems, please reach out. If you have to reach out to me, reach out to me. Let's talk, let's, let's figure this out. Life is amazing and it's as beautiful and as amazing as you can make it, but if you let yourself go down that negative path, you'll stay down the negative path and who knows where it leads so Much. I've seen officers in their life and it's sad, or do something stupid. It's just it's sad. So, guys, women, everybody if you're having these thoughts, find someone to reach out to. If it has to be me, reach out to me and I'll try to help you the best I can and we'll get through it. That being said, guys, thank you guys all for the continued support.

Speaker 2: 43:03

The people on patreon, tom ladybuck, eye pebbles, mommy Connor, kylie, guys, thank you so much. The patreon's growing. The patreon now has a cool thing where we can chat in there. So if you want to have some more like one-on-one messages or messages with like-minded people that we're not dealing with all the trolls, please check out the patreon. I think the lowest one I have is like three dollars or five dollars, something like that, just to kind of show hey, I support you. All those things help to us growing our channel. I need new Mike. This Mike sucks and that's kind of one of the things I use is trying to build our channel, trying to build it together, starting to get stuff to start doing merch again. So, guys, thank you again for all the continued support. I could not do this at all. Y'all, please, everybody, stay safe and if you have to reach out, much love everybody. Have a great week you.