Welcome to another empowering episode of "Obstacles to Opportunities," where hosts Heather and Jess sit down with the incredible Carlene Murray, a coach, business owner, mother, and dedicated encourager. In this enlightening conversation, Carlene shares her profound insights gained from years of experience as a MindPower Coach and how she's turned challenges into stepping stones for personal and professional growth.
Tune in as Carlene guides Heather and Jess through a transformative morning routine designed to kickstart the day with intention and positivity. Discover the secrets behind facing each day with resilience and purpose, as Carlene imparts practical tools to enhance mental well-being.
Carlene takes us on a deep dive into the world of MindPower coaching, explaining how she has applied these tools in her own life to navigate hurdles and seize opportunities. Through her warm and caring demeanor, Carlene shares invaluable wisdom on teaching the mind to move through obstacles with greater ease, empowering listeners to overcome challenges they may face.
Prepare to be inspired as Carlene reveals the art of turning setbacks into setups for success. Her genuine and relatable approach to coaching will leave you feeling motivated to strengthen your own mind, equipping you with the tools needed to transform obstacles into opportunities.
Whether you're a seasoned professional, a parent juggling multiple responsibilities, or someone simply seeking personal growth, this episode offers practical guidance and a renewed perspective on facing life's challenges head-on. Join us for a transformative conversation that will leave you empowered, motivated, and ready to embrace the opportunities that lie beyond every obstacle.
Welcome to another empowering episode of "Obstacles to Opportunities," where hosts Heather and Jess sit down with the incredible Carlene Murray, a coach, business owner, mother, and dedicated encourager. In this enlightening conversation, Carlene shares her profound insights gained from years of experience as a MindPower Coach and how she's turned challenges into stepping stones for personal and professional growth.
Tune in as Carlene guides Heather and Jess through a transformative morning routine designed to kickstart the day with intention and positivity. Discover the secrets behind facing each day with resilience and purpose, as Carlene imparts practical tools to enhance mental well-being.
Carlene takes us on a deep dive into the world of MindPower coaching, explaining how she has applied these tools in her own life to navigate hurdles and seize opportunities. Through her warm and caring demeanor, Carlene shares invaluable wisdom on teaching the mind to move through obstacles with greater ease, empowering listeners to overcome challenges they may face.
Prepare to be inspired as Carlene reveals the art of turning setbacks into setups for success. Her genuine and relatable approach to coaching will leave you feeling motivated to strengthen your own mind, equipping you with the tools needed to transform obstacles into opportunities.
Whether you're a seasoned professional, a parent juggling multiple responsibilities, or someone simply seeking personal growth, this episode offers practical guidance and a renewed perspective on facing life's challenges head-on. Join us for a transformative conversation that will leave you empowered, motivated, and ready to embrace the opportunities that lie beyond every obstacle.
Welcome to the obstacles to opportunities podcast.
Speaker 2:I'm Jess Pau, your host and I'm your co-host, heather Kane.
Speaker 1:And today we have Carleen Murray in the house, and she is I. When we first started this podcast, she was on my short list of people that I wanted to get in. She's been busy, but now we've got her in the studio, so I'm so excited to have so honored, so happy to be here with you guys.
Speaker 3:Thanks for the honor. Really it was so jazzed when you asked me like, let's go.
Speaker 1:So what is unique about Carleen is that she she does a lot of different things, similar to our guests. I feel like we all wear a lot of hats in our lives, so I'll go through a few of her hats. So she's a mother, she is a life coach, she is a local Naples business owner and recently we recently gotten really passionate about mind power coaching, which we're going to get into, and it was so. I'm just so excited for you guys just to hear the theme of this podcast being obstacles to opportunities, and I would almost call Carleen like a expert pro coach at helping people overcome obstacles. So we've got to ask, like, how do you get to a place of becoming a pro obstacle tackler?
Speaker 3:We all want to know I appreciate the accolades of the pro. I am as you. We all are a work in progress, a life in progress, right? But I have had my hardships and, as we say in our mind power world, that our hardships fuel our resilience. And because of the things that I have experienced and the things that I've learned along the way and the way I've been inspired, I have learned the tools and some of the great techniques that have just really ignited my own passion to pour back into women that have been in similar places that I have been. So I have just I'm here today because my hardships have fueled my resilience.
Speaker 1:Are you ready to go into a?
Speaker 3:few of those.
Speaker 2:Are you ready to share?
Speaker 1:Like what were some of those key moments for you.
Speaker 3:I think it began when I was a child. I absolutely adored my family, but I was the oldest and the achiever and felt like a lot was expected of me. And I adored my dad. He was larger than life and I'm the oldest of two. My younger brother is a Marine and undercover, so I can't say anything more about that, which is kind of cool. But our dad was our emotional nurturer. He was larger than life, ran a lot of political campaigns in Boston and so we learned early how to shake people's hands, look people in the eye, how to kind of conduct ourselves. And at 17, just before I launched to go to college, this larger than life dad suddenly became immobilized and laid in a hospital bed in the middle of our family room and it rocked our world. It changed our lives. My mom was a stay at home mom and my dad we had that very traditional upbringing.
Speaker 3:I can't even tell you to this day how this book landed next to my father's bedside, but it really ignited my desire to know about the mind. And it was called Love, medicine and Miracles and it was written by Dr Bernie Siegel out of Massachusetts General Hospital and it was the story of his patients, true accounts of the way they visualized their healing, the way they changed their self talk, the way they envisioned light entering their body, down to the cellular level. And he's a he's a science guy, right, this is a writer. And these were his true accounts of his patients healing at 17. I drank it up, I read it cover to cover, and then I sat next to my dad and I read it aloud to him over and over.
Speaker 3:I figured I had a short amount of time before I went off to college and I was going to pour it in and he said don't worry, boo, that's what he called me. I'm going to fight this and I'm going to do everything with dignity and pride. That was the ethos of our upbringing. We would do everything with dignity and pride, go off to college and then, shockingly, 30 days later, at 45, my dad died and my world was never the same. So continue to go on through college. And I think I had this desire within me to make him proud. I'm a believer of faith and I'm deeply faithful, and so I felt like he was always watching me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I had a guardian angel. Yeah, right and so.
Speaker 3:I had this pressure I wanted to achieve in school and so I did and I went on very early to get married right out of college. That was a surprise, but I fell in love and got married and I went and worked in Boston. But I would say that was the very beginning of this challenging life that I had without my dad.
Speaker 2:Isn't it amazing, though, how one book can change your perspective Absolutely. You know I was sharing with you before we got started here, that I hosted a healing service here at our office, and the gal that hosts her name is Julie Thomas, and she wrote the book the Lord's Report, and she had stage four breast cancer, and she healed herself through the power of prayer, the power of visualization, the power of speaking positive thoughts over herself, the power of envisioning every cell in her body renewed. Yes, you know, it's amazing what your mind can do.
Speaker 2:It's so you're absolutely right it's so powerful and sometimes it's just that one book that can change that perspective. Can you say the name of that book again?
Speaker 3:Sure, it's Love, medicine in Miracles by Dr Bernie Siegel. That, and along with the book Another Hardship, another Obstacle. At 34, I had had my children, and at 34 I was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma, a rare cancer which rocked my world again. And so here's another book that strangely came into my hands. It was called you Can Heal your Body, you Can Heal your Life, by Louise Hay, and through that book, and also just the way that I had discovered and kind of honed over the years, but it ebbed and flowed Like I wasn't constantly working on my mind all the time.
Speaker 2:I was raising kids and had a family right.
Speaker 3:Absolutely so. It's like life. But then that book appeared and again it was the same type of thing, and so I really honed in on that and I worked with a coach prior to two or actually three surgeries during my cancer diagnosis and I went through those and so before the surgeries actually during before I was actually sedated when I was laying in the OR and then, as I was coming out and going through my healing process, I tapped into that power of the mind and I came through all of those without any pain meds which is incredible right.
Speaker 3:So you're absolutely right. Like what we think is so incredibly powerful and we think it has to be these big moments, but actually it's the little moments throughout the entire day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I got cancer at the age of 25. Wow, Patients of your and I thank God every single day for that diagnosis because I feel like it shook me to the core to know that tomorrow is not guaranteed and that whole obstacles to opportunities. I feel like God put that on me because he saw a bigger purpose and he needed to me to open my eyes, to say Heather, it's not all about you. You have to surrender and you've got to live your best life. And sometimes we don't understand in those moments why we're given a cancer diagnosis. But looking back, would you say that that cancer diagnosis ignited a whole nother fuel in your body. Oh, 100%.
Speaker 3:I mean I'm grateful for it too. It brought me to my knees. I mean, I was born and raised with faith. But I'm going to tell you, until I got that call and I literally fell to my knees, I had to hand the phone to my husband. I could not take it in. My children were young they were six and seven at the time and I didn't know. I mean, he said it's rare and God love him. He called me the day after Christmas. He knew this information and he let me enjoy my holiday and so absolutely I agree with you 100%. It brought me to my knees, but it brought me so close in my faith and what was really important in life and you reprioritize everything.
Speaker 2:You do Give it a clean.
Speaker 1:And it's funny because I know independently your two stories. So I was waiting for this moment.
Speaker 2:And I'm like you guys kind of have some similar, so mine happened two weeks before I was supposed to get married and my husband. So it's actually really funny and this is amazing how God works. So I had a wart on my ring finger that popped up out of blue and I was like that's ugly, like you're going to go have your hands photographed for your wedding and here, you are like a wart.
Speaker 2:I've never had a wart in my whole life. And then when I was there getting the wart removed, they saw the mole and that is how they found my cancer and I remember getting that call and I looked at my soon to be husband and be like you have an out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, do you want to take this on?
Speaker 2:We don't know what this is going to entail for us. You know what I?
Speaker 3:mean.
Speaker 2:Like we were supposed to go to Aruba, Like that got canceled right. No Aruba vacation when you find out you have skin cancer.
Speaker 3:You know it realized the timing.
Speaker 2:So you know. But that also created this burning desire with the two of us to know that we had that obstacle so early in the marriage. It creates like a whole other level of intimacy Absolutely and commitment. And commitment to each other, because I was like here's your free pass dude, you can get out right. That's really beautiful. That's really beautiful. But it's interesting how sometimes I feel like people that have achieved a lot in life, like yourself, is because you've been through a lot in life.
Speaker 3:Thank you, I think it's true. I don't I actually, we talk about this in the mind power coaching. It's called the satisfaction state, and I am really trying to work on that, and that is basically about taking a breath and actually honoring the accomplishments that you've achieved. I don't tend to do that. I go one thing to the next thing, to the next thing. I'm sure you are too. You're high performers, right? So you're moving and you're achieving and you're moving on, and I don't typically ever sit back and relish or revel in anything. So, thank you.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that just reminds me If I'm a coach and I'm coaching about that to my clients I also too need to practice what I preach and just to be able to sit back and just really take that in. But for me, I always say, this is a glory story, and I am a woman of faith, and so I give God the glory for every step of the way, one of the things I love about this podcast is they learn all kinds of new things about Jess.
Speaker 2:Did you know that she is a musician and that she played at jails?
Speaker 3:I do not.
Speaker 2:Did you know like she is? I played in jails Court ordered no but like. But she used that to bring the light to people that were in the darkness. You know, you were the hope and the way that people could overcome their obstacles and see someone like yourself who's pouring into people with literally not wanting anything to be received right.
Speaker 1:It's kind of like what Carleen said, though I was never the hope, I was only the conduit to the hope, because I mean, if you want to be completely rattled in your faith, if you want to see God at work, go to a jail, wow. And people think, oh good, they're in jail. The bad people are in jail. I know this is a little bit of a tangent. No, it's a purposeful, but that's not how God sees them Right.
Speaker 1:And so when it in the Bible it says first of all, visit those in jail. And I just challenge anybody who has a little bit of a chip on their shoulder about this to challenge themselves to go. My stepbrother is actually murdered in a drug deal gone bad, and so I could be very angry and I could not go there and say they're all bad. But God has taught me so much in my life and through my challenges and there's a bigger picture. Absolutely. I haven't had a cancer diagnosis, but I've had other things that have opened my eyes. It's almost like you could be walking through life in black and white and then it's technicolor. When you go through something you're like oh wait, that's a little bit, this wasn't how I was supposed to see everything. Yeah, that's so true.
Speaker 3:That's so fascinating. I love that. How did you what?
Speaker 1:called you to do that. Oh gosh, it's all short. In the story there was a woman I was completely inspired by. She was bringing a program to a jail in Texas and she brought some people that had graduated from the program to church up in Chicago in Barrington, and I left the service and I said we've got to go there.
Speaker 1:And my husband's like what I said I want to go see that, I want to go volunteer, I want to be a part of that, I love that. And he was just like OK, all right, and we had a very small child at the moment and I said we're going to go and I was still nursing. So I brought my pump with me, I loaded the plane, found some child care and we headed down there and I remember leaving and we were in the car and he was like what do you think? And I was like I can't verbalize it right now. I need time. So I started a blog and I started just writing about it and so if you ever want the account of going into a media, it's a medium security prison with these very intimidating men and I was sitting knee to knee with them. You could read that. But that was the beginning of the journey for me.
Speaker 1:And so since then it's been a lot of other random things, but God shows up there and honestly, he shows up in very dark, the dark places, the places that other people would think are hopeless. That's where God brings hope. And so, to bring it back to you, carleen, so I feel like that as a mind power coach, which I think we could probably all use. A mind power coach, I mean goodness, I mean I battle with my mind a lot, but you are in this work. I can see that it could be fulfilling to you, because it is providing people hope when possibly they feel hopeless, they feel like things are always going to be this way or they're in patterns that they can't get out of.
Speaker 3:That's where you just hit the nail on the head when you said patterns, because most people, most of us, right until we come to a place of consciousness, we tend and this is based on science most of our behaviors and thoughts are 95% unconscious. That's from the book the Biology of Belief by Dr Bruce Lipton. So we're walking around 95% of the time on autoplay and those are the programs and the blueprints from our childhood or from a traumatic event, things that we've unconsciously absorbed. And we have unconscious actions and we don't even realize why we have them. We all have triggers. That's not a new word. People get quote triggered and so when we can bring that consciousness and bring that awareness into our daily life, right.
Speaker 3:So I always say I think it's awesome, go to a Tony Robbins event or go to some mountain top event, why not? That's incredibly uplifting, it's empowering. But most of the time we walk away from that and the high leaves us or the tools leave us soon after. And I always share with my clients or in a keynote. We brush our teeth every single day. We, hopefully we do. We are showering every day, hopefully we are, or every other. Whatever works for you.
Speaker 2:Every day Exactly right yeah.
Speaker 3:Why, then, would we leave our minds and minding our mind and training our mind to occasionally listening to a podcast or going to an uplifting event? It really needs to be on the daily and those are where the most successful people live, because they make the effort to live in that conscious realm and they practice minding their mind.
Speaker 2:Because every thought yeah like how does that work? Because I'm so fascinated. Ok, I always feel like I'm a diligent person, I feel like if I put my mind to it, I can just go right, but so many times I feel like people they can't break the pattern, exactly. So, like what is like a practical tool of someone that's listening right now, of how can they break this pattern?
Speaker 3:I love that you asked me that. So remember I just said, based on science, 95% of our thoughts and behaviors are unconscious. Now, 80% of those are negative, believe it or not? Wow, yeah, and that's based on science, it's it right. And then 95% of those negative thoughts are on repeat from the day before, and that's according to the National Science Foundation study in like 2005. So if we're walking around with saying like, oh, I have a positive mental attitude, well, yep, we have positive mental attitudes. But think about the stats I just gave you, like that's really hard to break through the barriers that 95% of our behavior and thoughts are unconscious and then 80% are negative. So a great tool I use and I share this with my clients, so thank you for asking is I ask them are you focused on what you want or are you focused on what you don't want? So, for instance, let's talk about COVID, the pandemic.
Speaker 3:A lot of people are walking around and they're saying I don't want to get sick, ok. Or maybe in your industry, I don't want to fail, I don't want to be stressed. Well, the science is this the mind doesn't hear the negative, the mind doesn't hear the don't, it X's it out. So what? The mind here is sick, fail and stress Because we've phrased it, what we don't want. So the simple tool is this when you find yourself in that negative thought pattern, even if it's for a nanosecond in your unconscious mind because we all have that mind chatter, we all have self-talk, it's going on all the time we ask ourself this very simple question what do I want instead? And then that literally brings the mind into the positive. And so what do I want instead? Well, I want to be well, I want health, I want abundance, I want flow in life, I want ease in life, and so we focus on that. Now I will say one of the things we also share as mind power coaches is this isn't a New Age talk or seminar. I'm not going to say not to have a negative thought, because it's virtually impossible, because it's biological.
Speaker 3:Think about our ancestors. Right, they were threat assessing. I don't know. We're not that much different from our ancestors, ancestors, ancestors who were walking around in fight or flight, threat assessing for a warring member of a opposing tribe that was going to come in and steal their food, land or woman, or a saber-toothed tiger, whatever. That is right. So they're threat assessing. And so if you're a business owner or even somebody in the real world every day. It's really important to threat, assess right. Our negative thoughts can actually be the catalyst before great change in our lives. We don't need to shame ourselves for a negative thought. We bring it to our consciousness. Then we ask ourselves what do I want instead? And then we focus on the positive. So we don't need to overcomplicate it. It can just be a really simple tool and so that's kind of foundational in mind power. We share that with our clients. It's kind of very foundational.
Speaker 2:I like the don't because I think so many people they think they're doing a positive affirmation but really they're doing a negative, and I've always. One of the things that I've always worked on and you can tell me as a life coach is I envision it.
Speaker 3:Like.
Speaker 2:I put myself in it, like I don't like one of the things I said I will revolutionize real estate by design. I will be the brand, I will be the face of everything designed in real estate nationwide. Like that's something that I say over and over in my mind, because then I take all the steps to make sure I have it happen right. So I think it's like if people could just see it.
Speaker 3:That's one point and that's huge. Seeing it is the beginning and then actually seeing the movie play out and you can actually rise up and plop yourself ahead into your future movie even if it hasn't happened yet.
Speaker 3:I love that Even if the goal hasn't happened. You see yourself and you let that movie play and then you amplify it. So even if, like when I just said amplify, I just got chills. So you actually want to amplify the feeling, so that it's not just a thought, you ask yourself how am I going to feel in this moment? What does this feel like, what does it smell like, what does it sound like, what does it taste like? It really will encapsulate all of the senses and it actually is very powerful to actually increase that drive and to increase that focus and to increase it happening.
Speaker 2:What do you think about speaking it out to be accountable, like I? So, when we launched the real estate brokerage here, I told everyone I am going to be on HGTV because I am going to show everyone here, not only locally but nationwide, what our value proposition is. People were like, yeah, right, but I saw it, I envisioned it, I took every step right and we did it. We did nine episodes. So it's like how do we, though, train people Because I can see that, but if someone can't see that and play the movie out in their mind, what's like how do you because I don't know how to teach people that? Sure.
Speaker 3:So lots of tools, right. But, also we have to realize like most people and I work in transformation and I work in habit change, and so so many people want to change things so fast, all at once, and it's really like drinking from a fire hose it really is step by step, yeah.
Speaker 2:And one of the things Just why they need a coach, totally right. And one of the things so a couple of things.
Speaker 3:One of the things we coach and I train and I actually do every single day is a morning routine. So it's a morning routine for mental toughness and so it is based on three components and it only takes nine minutes. And if you don't have nine minutes to pour into your mind and prime your mind for the day, you need to re-prioritize.
Speaker 2:Exactly Amen.
Speaker 3:Yeah, then you don't have a life right If you don't have nine minutes. So before I get into that, I do find most of my clients when they come to me and they're feeling and they're high performers and they're feeling levels of overwhelm, they're feeling stuck, they're feeling stressed we talk about. I say walk me through what your morning looks like, because that will tell you so much about a person. Most of them maybe you too, I don't know, probably not, but they're grabbing their phones before their feet even hit the floor.
Speaker 2:Miracle morning is my favorite.
Speaker 3:Oh I love that.
Speaker 2:No-transcript.
Speaker 3:That's an awesome book.
Speaker 1:I absolutely love it and you would be impressed to hear that some of the other people that have been on that podcast. When we talk about their mindset and how they're overcoming obstacles, they point to their morning a lot of times. I mean, you think about Vicky. It's your intention set.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I always say like whatever you do in the morning sets the intention for the rest of the day. 100%. If you start off frantic frazzled and you're going to have a frantic.
Speaker 1:Or reading the news. I mean, something that you said really hit me and I've been thinking about it for a while, and I even think about it with children Is that anything that we are watching is shaping our minds, whether we want it to or not. Anything we're taking in, whether it's a podcast, it's a conversation, it's TV, it's whatever that is in some way shaping our mind, always Unconsciously, you know, consciously whatever. And, like you said, we're kind of letting our day sometimes just happen right, and you've got your mind is just like kind of there and you're just letting it do whatever right, and kind of react to things. And so it makes so much sense to be intentional about training your mind Because, my goodness, it's the basis for our filter and everything.
Speaker 2:I'm dying to know about your nine minute routine.
Speaker 1:Oh great, yes, let's get back to that.
Speaker 2:Everybody wants to know. Everyone wants to know. It's a nine minute.
Speaker 1:What are we doing in the morning, Carlyne?
Speaker 3:This is based on my mentors. I study under the number one and I've trained under the number one resilient coaches in the world Steph and Shay Shafaital, and they're the authors of Master your Mind Power, so they are my coaches. I have trained under them, and this is what we all teach as mind power coaches. So it's called the morning routine for mental toughness.
Speaker 3:So the step one is the breath. Breath is flow, breath is life force, right, and so we want to bring breath and oxygen into every single cell into our bodies. And we've just come from a state of rest laying in bed, and so this is called the shining skull breath, and it's based on a Hawaiian ritual of reaching the arms. Imagine reaching both arms all the way up to the sky, and then you pull, you grasp your hands and you just pull your hands down to your shoulders, much like a goal post, right? So you just reach. Well, we do 30 sets of three, so we're going to inhale through the nose and exhale through the nose. It goes really fast, so I can do it, so you can kind of hear it.
Speaker 3:But it's like now. You want to do it. I know not, probably, and that's right. When you wake up 30. That is so nice. No, you don't have to be right in bed, you can be. I would say, maybe get up if you brush your teeth.
Speaker 2:And my cut.
Speaker 3:Whatever First, yes, you can. So I'm going to tell you one of the things that I do and the way I do it. But it's three sets of 30 breaths. You're priming the mind, you're getting the oxygen flowing, everything is flowing, and you keep your mouth shut because I just saw you.
Speaker 2:Did you keep your mouth shut In through the?
Speaker 3:nose out through the mouth, but you want to make sure it's a good tempo. You got it, but the hands are reaching to the sky.
Speaker 2:I'm going to ask Jess, every morning, did you do your Hawaiian breath and you're pulling down.
Speaker 1:Do you guys need?
Speaker 3:We're going to need a video of this. I know Shining skull breath.
Speaker 2:This is like You're using your mouth right now. No mouth.
Speaker 3:No, mouth In through the nose, out through the nose, in through the nose, you guys, and yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm like headed.
Speaker 3:I love it. So there's so many reasons for that. Right, there's oxygen coming in, it's life flow. You're just bringing that higher energy down toward you. You're reaching and grasping and there's a lot of science behind that. So you're getting those cells even in the brain. Some people say they feel like a little lightheaded, a little tingly, like it'd be interesting to see if you make those yeah, I did like 10 breaths, yeah, and it shouldn't be so.
Speaker 3:Three minutes of that, that's it. Three minutes, right. Then the next three. We cannot stay in a state of negative thinking or negative emotion when we are in a state of gratitude. So this is just being in gratitude, and so this is what I do.
Speaker 3:I think of three things, and it can be simple or profound, present or past, whatever works for you. I think of three things that I'm so incredibly grateful for, but I don't rush through them. I take one at a time and I just kind of bring my hands to my heart you don't have to, but I like to do that and I just kind of sit and I just feel that gratitude. And I don't just think about it, I actually try to feel it into my body. So we all have kids, right. So you know the moments when we're so proud of them or we're so happy for them, and the way it actually transcends our mind. We can actually feel it in our body. That's kind of what we're going for. So we're going to access a positive thought and we're going to sit with that for three minutes, maybe one minute each, right, Not too taxing. So do you sit a?
Speaker 2:timer.
Speaker 3:I said that's my first one. Now I'd be like I'm a timer for one minute.
Speaker 2:I have one minute for each.
Speaker 3:It should take you more than nine minutes and then I'm going to give you a great way so that you can kind of solidify it into your morning. And then the last step is your three goals, and I like to have them. Three goals for the day, but you can have a goal for the day, for the week, for the month. And I like to sit there and think about, okay, what is that, what is the goal that I'm going to achieve today? So at the end of the day, when I look back on this morning routine, I know that I've set that intention and I've done everything I can, to the best of my ability, to create that change, to make that goal happen. Right, so it can be for that day, it can be for the week, it can be for the month. And so I sit there and I kind of think about the goal and the plan to achieve that goal and what it is I need to do.
Speaker 3:I love it and that's it, and that's it, and then it's primed your mind and you haven't touched your phone. Because when we get into news and email, social media, all of the things that are firing at us, it actually scientifically has been proven to decrease our productivity, to increase our stress, to actually increase a lack of empathy, create envy or stain.
Speaker 3:So, let's push that all aside and just stay focused on ourselves and, in great gratitude for the ones that we love, for the things that we cherish, prime our bodies with the breath and then set our intentions for the day with the goals. And so you asked how are we going to do this, right? So this is what I do, and this is based on one of my favorite authors, james Clear. He wrote Atomic Habits. Oh yeah, yep, okay, so this is called habit stacking. So think about something that's a non-negotiable, that happens every single day in your morning. So you just said you're coffee, right?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, what about? What about you, jess? I mean coffee, same Same, same for me, yeah, so this is what I did. This is called habit stacking. We want to identify the new habit and we want to stack it on top of a habit that is actually an unconscious habit, like our coffee every morning, ladies.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's pretty unconscious, it's like the button gets pressed Right when I walk into the kitchen Exactly.
Speaker 1:It's amazing how it works.
Speaker 3:So, like half asleep, I write like out on a night like a little index card, this every morning after I have my morning coffee in my blue chair, I will do my morning routine for mental toughness. So basically, I've set the intention. I've said every morning, when it's happened, I'm stacking it. Is it before or after my coffee? Well, it's going to be after, because I want to enjoy my coffee first. I'm with you, I like to be in that place, but I'm not looking at my phone and going through emails or texts or looking on Instagram. Right, I'm sitting enjoying my coffee.
Speaker 2:So that's my time where I like I get my Bible out, I do my devotions and I read like perfect, and then I, but I don't. So that's interesting, I don't stack that. I. My thought is get on the Bible like read the Bible, set my devotions before I get into my emails and work and stuff like that. But I just need to stack that on the morning routine.
Speaker 3:So you would be. So every morning, after I have my morning coffee and read my devotionals, I will do my morning routine for mental toughness. So it's stacked with two habits that are already ingrained unconsciously, I need to wake up. Nine minutes earlier. Yeah, you can do it. Yeah, so it really is. I mean, like I said earlier, and it's kind of, you know, it's kind of funny, but like about showering or brushing your teeth, why would we leave training and minding our minds?
Speaker 3:to a once a month events or an occasional uplifting podcast. These are the ways that high performers really dial in their discipline and this is the way that you can navigate any obstacle, conquer any storm in your life and look, we're all going to have them. We're not denying that you're going to go through that and sing through it. I didn't sing through all of the obstacles in my life but through that we know that we have the mental toughness and the emotional resilience because we've trained ourselves. We know we have that within ourselves and we're able to easier flow and easier handle and really focus.
Speaker 2:I love it. I love it.
Speaker 3:This was a good one.
Speaker 1:This is so good.
Speaker 2:You need to listen to this one a few times, absolutely.
Speaker 1:And if any of this resonated with you and you want to meet one-on-one Carleen, I would include all your contact information so people couldn't contact you.
Speaker 2:I would love that, and you're not just local here in Southwest Florida right Can people coach with you nationwide? Absolutely Okay, absolutely Worldwide.
Speaker 3:Worldwide, globally. So I meet with my clients. It depends. So I have three, six and 12 month programs and I meet with my clients on Zoom and for the first three months we meet 90 minutes once a week and we work through the Mindpower coaching program. And then I have a client currently she just signed on my newest client for a year. So we're gonna work three months every week and then after the three months it's every other, because we never wanna create any type of codependency. There's challenges that clients need to do when they're not with me on their off weeks, but there's always things and so we're leveling up and there's progression and there's purpose to every single session and the way that we bring the client from where they are to where they wanna be, and it's amazing, I know.
Speaker 2:For me coaching is the game changer, right. I've had a business coach and a personal coach basically for the last few years and I feel like you know, no professional athlete gets where they wanna be without a coach 100%. And so if you are wanting to change your habits or if you're wanting to hit that next level, you've gotta have someone in your life that's gonna hold you accountable and help you break through the obstacles, so that way you can create the opportunities in your life.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I know, and I think it's amazing. We see some threads right as we talk to people about obstacles and how they've gotten through them, like what got you through it? And I would say majority top two things. I don't know, heather, you jump in faith. A lot of people have pointed back to their faith as getting them through obstacles. But secondly, it's the people that you surround yourself with. Yes, and so I see Carleen as one of the people in your circle. So if you are dealing with something you know catastrophic, you can't see the way out. You have no clue how to get through. You've continued to have habits and you can't seem to break the cycle. Someone like Carleen could speak into that a little bit. Yeah, you knew tools.
Speaker 3:Yeah, the tools are incredible. And a lot of us don't really, you know, walk around and we don't really know them, and so it's just like it's pause, it's like someone a coach to just pour into you and focus on you.
Speaker 3:And for me and that's why I'm here today because working with a life coach for me was more than sitting and just talking about problems. Right, I learned the tools so that I could, inch by inch and step by step, begin to propel my life forward, and so that was what was so inspiring to me. I'm like, if I can do this and I love serving and I love pouring back into others, and I thought I wanna be a coach, and so I got my certification. You're making it a career, I am. It's amazing, yeah. And then once I discovered Mindpower, that was like a whole other level, but yet it all came back to that book when I was 17 years old it's amazing how these dots can connect in your life, you know it's not, it's God's plan.
Speaker 2:I mean, I'm a firm believer that he was just priming you, but you know everything's intentional. Yeah, but God is so creative.
Speaker 1:Yes To like. Plant that book by your dad. Right and then in a second, you know, I just get. I'm so amazed when I look back and I'm like, oh, I see it now. I see all these little pieces, this podcast room being open when I came here and you know, it's amazing. It is amazing and I just wanna thank you so much for spending time. I feel like we could. There are so many, there are people. I'm like we need an episode too.
Speaker 2:Yeah right.
Speaker 3:I mean, it's like all the time already up. Is it really You're gonna find it so fast?
Speaker 1:It did go by so fast, but it was just so great and I think you know your heart in our heart is the same that if someone, maybe someone, was encouraged today, maybe something that you said was encouraging to someone in a place of you know, in an obstacle, and hopefully this was a bright light in their day and I truly hope so.
Speaker 3:And whether somebody is inclined or not to work with a coach, all I would say is because I've been through that long dark valley and I didn't know when the light would shine or when I would get through it, and so my message would be hang on, hold on to hope. Hope is coming. And look for the lightbeers, look for the lighthouses, look for the beacons of light, because they are around. We just have to open our eyes and see that we're not alone, that there's always somebody there, and that I just and don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Right, right, right, it's so important. So, thank you, what an honor to be here with you, oh, thank you.
Speaker 1:I loved it. Thank you for your time.
Speaker 3:It was so beautiful.
Speaker 1:We are gonna wrap this up and I will put Carleen's information below in case you wanna contact her. I'm sure lots of people will, but we'll put your information down.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:And we really, really appreciate your time today. I appreciate it too.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much, thank you so much Thanks.
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