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EP #14: Embracing Change: Transform Anxiety into Growth with Love and Kindness
What if the very change we fear could be the catalyst for personal growth and transformation? Join me, Marilisa Lawless, alongside my insightful guest Marilisa, as we navigate the tangled web of change and anxiety, exploring how these forces shape our lives. We reflect on the seemingly effortless adaptability of childhood and the restrictive societal structures that amplify anxiety in adulthood. Through the lens of personal stories, including my journey of seeking a new space after 35 years, we unravel the power of perspective in transforming challenges into opportunities. Amid the backdrop of current global events, we stress the critical role of self-love and kindness as tools to manage stress and foster resilience.
Our conversation takes a hopeful turn as we discuss my exciting quest to find the perfect property for business expansion in Davie. With dreams of creating a multifunctional space featuring a meditation labyrinth, classrooms, and a retail store, I share the joys and frustrations of the search. The support from friends, family, and my dedicated realtor, Leah Lonnie, shines through as a beacon of strength. We delve into the significance of addressing personal triggers, harnessing energy, and prioritizing self-care, wrapping up with the empowering belief that our own well-being is the foundation for supporting others. Embrace love and kindness as your guiding principles and discover how presence and creativity can lead to meaningful change and healing.
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All right, let's go. Welcome to the Hemp Del Sol podcast. All health, no high. Here's your host, Mary Lisa Lawless.
Speaker 2:Hello, hello everyone and welcome, we are back. Can you hear me now? I hope you can hear me, mary Lisa.
Speaker 3:Oh, I can, I can hear you now.
Speaker 2:And you can see me, it's so funny. We were going to talk today about change and anxiety. There's a lot going on right now and we were having some technical difficulties, almost on cue from the universe, to deal with change and anxiety. So here we are, Marilisa always a pleasure to see you Excited to get into this topic for today.
Speaker 3:Are you ready? I'm ready, let's roll.
Speaker 2:So hopefully this goes off without a hitch and we have no more glitches, but if we do, we will roll with the changes, because that's what we do.
Speaker 2:Yes, I want to ask you this question because this is something as I've gone through my spiritual journey and I've become more and more aware like. Hyper-awareness is phenomenal in many ways, but also it can make for more anxiety and more difficulties processing things, because you're so aware of everything and things come up. And why is change so difficult to deal with? We all know that in most cases when we have a difficult thing to deal with and we need to go through a process of change, it usually works out. On the other side it usually turns out well, but there's so much resistance to it. You often get triggered from these experiences. Why do you feel it's so difficult to change in life?
Speaker 3:Change is inevitable. There's nothing that's stagnant. Ever, ever, ever. And what I would tell my clients is that if change were easy, everybody would do it. It is really interesting because when we're born, we're so accustomed to change, we just sort of flow.
Speaker 3:You just go, and then the, the, the adults in our lives are the one that set up these boundaries and these restrictions about how we flow and how change occurs, and it is quite interesting that change is something that creates so much anxiety in us, and I can tell you I'm in this place of anxiety right now. Even though I understand change, I move through it a lot quicker than I did when I was younger. I realized yesterday I'm actually really stressed out. I get stressed out with the news and the changes that are going on. I don't watch the news, but I'll listen to NPR and get highlights in the morning and then I'm done for the day. However, there's so much going on in the world and it is really challenging to say no. In my little world, right here, I'm safe, I have a roof over my head, I have food, my life is okay, I am safe. Many people in the world cannot say that right now.
Speaker 3:Yeah we are very blessed and very fortunate for what we have, absolutely we are we are, and despite the chaos that's going on around us on a global level, the only thing that I have to offer the world at this point is love and kindness. The world at this point is love and kindness, and so what I've learned for myself, and continue to learn on a regular basis, is that that love and kindness also has to be directed towards myself, and sometimes that's more of a challenge. So I'm a giver in general, so it's easier for me to do for other people, and it has definitely been a process to learn how to do more and more for myself and to not feel selfish, that I'm actually just loving myself and taking care of myself. So, for instance, what's going on right now is that I have been in this location, this awesome location, for almost 35 years, and I found out last week that the building has been sold to the town and that somebody said well, can you rent it from the town? Well, the town is leveling the building because it's really old. It really doesn't need a lot of work. I mean, the water that comes out of our pipes is orange you know the cast iron pipes, which means there's rust, whatnot. I mean, I've been here a long time.
Speaker 3:So there's a lot of changes that need to happen. Just for upkeep, and it was more beneficial for the landlord to sell the building to the town. The town is leveling the building, they're going to raise the building, so I must find a new home and because I've not had to do this for over 30 years, I am discovering that my anxiety is quite high because I've created this little niche here where I've got my offices. I have all these alternative healing practices that go on here and these different kinds of groups reiki circles, angel healing, mediumship classes and media. You know I have all of these different activities going on here and I have a retail store where I'm selling all of these crystals and the cbd products and these things to help with anxiety and the different stuff that's going on in the world. Yes, so my little world has gotten a little chaotic and it's a little bit overwhelming.
Speaker 2:It's okay to shake things up from time to time though.
Speaker 2:Yes yes, I mean, if you think about it, it though a lot of this stuff. It's all a matter of perspective, right, it comes back to the stories you tell yourself and when, and it's easier said than done, but I'm trying to train my mind. When I encounter difficult situations and situations such as yours, you could look at it one of two ways, really, right, you can get overwhelmed and get fearful of everything and start thinking about all the things that you need to do. I need to find a new place, I need to move, I need to do this, this, this and that or you could just look at it from the lens of like this is what I've been given by the universe, and this is an opportunity for growth and to get better and to make the best out of the situation. And you can.
Speaker 2:Really, it just depends on what lens you look at it through. And if you look at it through that lens and you do that with all situations like, the destination is going to be the destination right At the end, we're all going to arrive. Where we arrive, you might as well enjoy the ride along the way, cause I'll argue to say that if you enjoy the ride, the destination is going to be better because you're going to be at a better mindset along the way. If you're stressed out and worried and you're not going to make good decisions, you're going to be overwhelmed all the time. You're going to be miserable getting to that destination, right?
Speaker 3:So you might as well enjoy the ride and you'll be better off at the end. So I'm trying to enjoy the ride. I have needed a little bit of help from my friend CBD, the new CBD, their new CBD gummies called peaceful mind. Oh, I got the bag backwards. Peaceful mind, peaceful my home. So I've needed a little help. So I've been taking one of these in the morning for the past, you know, the past week and with a little help, it's my friend, you know so, and on occasion I will need one from my other friend, the sleep gummy.
Speaker 3:So it's knowing what I need to do to take care of myself and that whole process of looking for a new home, because I consider this a second home, of looking for a new home because I consider this a second home. This is where I come for my own sense of peace and serenity. When I leave my home, my physical home, I come here to my second home, which is my office, and this is a place that it was my mom, my sister and I that started this in 1991. Right, and we have been in the same location since then. So this is a huge opportunity and I do agree that it's an opportunity to truly see what else we can do.
Speaker 3:My ideal, and what I'm trying to put out to the universe, is that I want to buy. We want to buy a single standing structure where we can create a labyrinth for meditation in the back, where we have rooms for classes and all of the things that we do here, and can also have the little retail store in the front. And while I understand that we've been growing the retail store and adding more and more products, because I really like buying crystals and then like sharing them and selling them, as well as the CBD products. It's an opportunity to truly see how flexible can I be.
Speaker 3:Some of the places that I have looked at so far are not suitable for me. One is do you know the area off of Griffin, at Uncle Al's? There's a furniture store in that little strip mall that's leaving and they said look at this place and it is just a retail store, but I don't think having a therapy, although that could be interesting, having a therapy center location next to a bar, my God, maybe not. It might not be the best place to have a therapy center, but on the other hand, it might be a really good place to have, you know, a mental health facility you know so hard.
Speaker 2:Have you looked at the build? Have you looked at the water building on Griffin? It's on Griffin, between Palm and Hiatus. I'm trying to think I'll have to get you the details of that building. There's a bunch of offices. It's a very, very I think I know the one.
Speaker 3:It's like three stories high. It's really thin looking Ponds and nature nature. It's like a perfect place for I actually thought about it last night when I couldn't sleep, I was thinking where could we go with an office and where could we? And I was like I wonder if that would be, and I and actually thought about that particular building um, definitely so, it's interesting. My mind is a little bit on overload. I texted my son last night and I'm like don't ever rent anywhere, Buy, buy land, buy property.
Speaker 2:Don't pay somebody else's mortgage, pay yourself. Yes, it's an opportunity. Mary Lisa, right it?
Speaker 3:absolutely, is You're going to?
Speaker 2:find the perfect property, you're going to buy that property and then you'll start paying yourself instead of somebody else. Absolutely Blossom into something beautiful.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I really want to stay in Davie.
Speaker 3:Davie has been my physical home. I grew up in plantation in Davie. My first I was thinking about it in Davie, I was thinking about it. This thing that I'm doing with the town next month is interesting because I have to come up with a biography and my history and I know that I've been here for over 30 years. And yet I was also remembering when I was a teenager.
Speaker 3:One of my first jobs was at the universe, what's now the Whole Foods Plaza. There was a Kmart in there and the Stoll Strip Mall stores and it was a clothing store called Can't Miss Clothing Store. It was a girls, women's clothing and I worked there. So, like as a teenager, I was working in Davie and my first apartments were in Davie. You know the one of them is not even an apartment building anymore the crosswind. You know the car used to say we were going to do the crosswind chronicles because it was so much drama all the time every weekend, and my next apartment was the College Square Apartments apartments, which is on the other side of davy road. I've been here in davy a really long time. I've been in florida since 1974. We've been. You know I went to south plantation high school. There's so many things that are about being in this area, so I truly do want to stay in this area and I have asked our mutual friend Leah Lonnie, the realtor, to help me find a place. And she's awesome she really is.
Speaker 1:I mean, I'm so grateful to have her in my life.
Speaker 3:I'm so grateful to have her in my life and I know she does the podcast with you as well, and yeah, so there are a lot of good things. I've got support. I've got people that are holding my hand and saying we're going to get through this and, um, I just keep going along trying to let clients know, because clients don't always handle change. Well, you know me as a mental health professional. I'm aware of my own challenges with handling stress and handling change, and I move through things pretty quickly, but I still experience them. I just don't hang on to them.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:My clients are here for a reason. My clients are here for a reason, and so I've had to start letting each one know I'm moving. By May We'll be in a new building. So, as of yesterday, the 90 days started. So we were given 90 days notice. Tiktok, tiktok, tiktok. So a deadline.
Speaker 2:On the clock, Marilisa. Well you're welcome. We're happy to have you in Cooper City. I know you want to stay in Davie, but come on Cooper City, it's a sister city.
Speaker 3:Come on into the fold, come in, let's go, let's go. Well, I'm halfway there with the chamber, because it's the davy cooper city chamber, and we will be in cooper city this month. Next week we'll be in cooper city for our uh monthly luncheon. So there's, there's a lot of different. There's just a lot of different things going on, and trying to figure out what direction is up sometimes can be a challenge, and that's when I know, when I know I need to reach out.
Speaker 3:I've reached out to my two closest friends, I've reached out to family. I have support, I know where to go to get my needs met, and that's the piece that's really important for people when they're dealing with anxiety or dealing with change is know where the resources are. So even with me, with the CBD, you know it's like I know that I have that as a resource, so it's something that I can use as a supplement to help me through anything that feels a little bit over the top for me, which right now, this is a little over the top for me. It's not a crisis, it's not major. Nobody's being injured. It's just change, and change is really difficult for many, many people.
Speaker 2:Indeed, it's so funny because we've been taught from early on that you need to create habits and routines in your life, and you do right. You need to program your mind. You need to do whether it's exercising, whether it's having the right diet, your mental attitude you need to do these things and you need to implement these into your life in small doses, and what that does is it creates a situation where, when you do need to change, there's a lot of resistance there, because now you have these things programmed in your mind and you're used to doing the same thing over and over, and, over and over again, which does lead to success in many cases, but then all of a sudden, you need to make a big change and it's like your world comes down. So you have to have tools to deal with all that. So you talked about some of the tools that you use with the CBDs and some of these things, which really are just tools, right, because you don't want to use it as a crutch. Let's talk about some of the like more of the holistic type tools that people can use like real life.
Speaker 2:It's one of the things for me that works really, really well when I'm going through a difficult time whether it's a big thing coming up or even just a stressor, whatever it is is going back to the breath, like breath work.
Speaker 2:It's something that you can do. You could be sitting behind your desk and get a bad email and then you get triggered and you could just take 30 seconds, 60 seconds, and just step away and take a few deep breaths and just oxygenate your system and it just kind of centers you and you get back to it and it's just being aware of that. Right, it's how you react to the thing that comes up. Right, you can either let it drown you and take a hold of you and pull you down and ruin your day, right? Or you could recognize it for what it is. It's just a thought, it's going to go away and you can do something to distract yourself from that thought. Not to say don't feel the emotion, right. And you can do something to distract yourself from that thought, not to say don't feel the emotion right, feel it, but don't let it consume.
Speaker 3:you Feel it and let it go Correct Right, and when you start getting in the habit of feeling that and I do that for myself, I do that for myself. Every morning, I go out and sit in my backyard where it's just. I'm looking at the water, I focus on my breath, I listen to the birds. I listen to the birds. I try to figure out what is the conversation going on between the blue jays and the mockingbirds.
Speaker 2:the cardinals that are coming in Try to have anxiety while you're focusing on the birds and trying to decipher what the conversation is that they're having. It's nearly impossible, right?
Speaker 3:You're just so clear with nature at that point it is very helpful. But the breath meditation, having that opportunity, even when I'm triggered, I tell people you know I do this, but I tell people three deep breaths will shift how you feel in that moment. And you're right, I call it being hijacked. So when I get this information and it's like I feel like I'm being hijacked emotionally, I know that I need to take a couple of deep breaths and if that's still not enough, I phone a friend, I call out, I'll text somebody.
Speaker 2:Use a lifeline right Phone a friend. Use a lifeline, yeah.
Speaker 3:All of these, all of these are tools. So the getting out and the other thing that I do is I will go stand barefoot outside, not on asphalt. I'll stand on concrete, grass, dirt, sand, whatever I can find at the moment at this place, right here. It's the concrete, and concrete will still allow you to feel grounded. I go out barefoot and I look at the sun. I just close my eyes and I stare up at the sun and focus on my breath, and I do. I do that multiple times a day, every single day. That's just part of what I do. Um, for grounding, and there's so many ways to ground yourself. So that's one way. Another way is the breathing. Another way is to just listen to music that you feel like singing to.
Speaker 3:Exercise Exercise, taking a walk. There are a lot of tools. If you've got the opportunity, take a sea salt bath.
Speaker 1:I prefer ice baths, sea salt is actually really good.
Speaker 3:I know you like the ice baths. I'm just not a fan of cold.
Speaker 2:I haven't done one in a while. The last one I did a couple of months ago at the full moon gathering it was. It was intensely shocking to my system and I haven't done one since then and I used to take cold showers all the time and I've kind of stepped away from that. I I'm trying to get back into it and it's like the shock to my system all over again. Uh, that definitely takes, definitely takes some. You never get fully used to it, but it definitely. It gets a little bit better. So there's some resistance to that. So it's coming. We're doing an ice bath soon. I'm starting to talk about it more. I need more ice baths in my life.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and, and the sea salt baths are are also very detoxifying. And when you are surrounded or from people complaining and I'm not talking about clients it's actually really easy for me to hear clients I'm in a different mode and I stay in this mentally safe space where I can hear and process, but I don't absorb. When I am out in the world, I don't always stay that protected and I absorb more. So it's nice to just be able to go back to my sanctuary, which is my home, and take a sea salt bath, go, sit up back with a cup of hot tea, just sit and meditate and focus on my breath, just trying to figure out which way do I need to go right now? What do I need to do to take care of myself right now? And that is sort of the question of the day for all of us what do I need to do to take care of myself in this moment and move forward?
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:Even with us. When we started today with the technical difficulties, have you noticed that we haven't had any now?
Speaker 2:It always works out for the best.
Speaker 3:Always does it does.
Speaker 2:It's so funny. We were talking about triggers and how you, how you choose to frame things that come up. I'm starting to. I'm not quite quite there. It's a, it's a process, but I'm starting to look at the triggers that come up and the things that that really make my blood boil as an opportunity for growth, because that's really what it is right.
Speaker 2:Most of the time when a trigger comes up, it's basically something within yourself that you need to work on, and the resistance is you don't want to work on it because it requires change and it requires pain. It requires all that ugly stuff that we don't like to deal with, and so we have these triggers that come up. That basically frees you from dealing with the issue, and then you compartmentalize, you put it away. So I'm starting to look at these triggers like, oh, why is that coming up? And then you just engage it and try to have a dialogue with the thing, the emotion that comes up, like you get angry at something. Why is that happening? And really sit with that and try to figure out what's coming up right now and more often than not, again, it's something within yourself that you need to work on, whether it's to apply love to that thing or you need to implement new things, whatever it is. But again, it's all about the mindset and how you frame these things.
Speaker 3:And to understand that energy is real and it exists. I have a really good example of how crystals are very helpful. So I had an event this past weekend where I was out and I'm around a lot of people and there was a lot of negativity going on and, because I was already at a heightened stress level, the negativity was like just stay away. So what I was wearing was tourmaline. Black tourmaline is known to block negative energy, so I'm wearing a necklace made out of black tourmaline. It is so stressful where I'm at and I finally, you know, go through all of this insanity and get myself back to center and, as I'm standing at my table, finally everything is calm. I've gotten the situation handled. The tourmaline exploded, it went and I was like what just happened? The tourmaline apparently had absorbed so much negative energy it's like I'm out.
Speaker 3:It was so weird. I was like there was a stump left on my necklace. I was like there was a stump left on my necklace.
Speaker 2:I was like like, like if you, if you would have told, told me that, like if I didn't know you and you just told me that story, like five, six years ago, I'd be like what? That's crazy. That's not a thing, it's bad you have to do some
Speaker 2:editing. I got it. It's so fun, it's so funny. Yeah, like we're talking, we're having a conversation on here and as soon as you left and it was just me now I'm looking at myself in the camera You're not here anymore and I'm just like. I'm like, oh, let me just keep talking. And I feel like I'm talking to myself like a crazy person. I'm like what do I talk about? Marilisa Lisa's not here. Let's just close this one out. Thanks everyone for joining when you popped in. It's so funny how we get in our own heads what's the difference between you being here and then you leaving. Why do you have to be here for me to talk to the camera? It's so difficult for people. And it happens also when I play music. As soon as I hit record, like I'll play and I'll sing something, I'm like, wow, that sounds great. And then I'm like, let me record that. And I go and I get the thing and I hit record and I don't play it right.
Speaker 1:The singing is wrong. Like what is that?
Speaker 2:It's that anxiety, it's that expectation of trying to. That's a deep one.
Speaker 3:It's an opportunity to understand that sometimes we just need to be present. Yes, not worry about a good photograph or a good recording, but that moment was incredible. It was an awesome experience. I'm so amazed that I had the capacity to think that, to write that, to sing that, to yeah, to create, because we do create. Our life is about perspective, you know, and our perceptions are what change our perspectives, and all we've got right now is to be kind and loving and just keep taking care of ourselves. My mom used to end every single session with a client with take care of ourselves. My mom used to end every single session with a client with take care of yourself. We had it written on a board, on a dry erase board. After she passed For years, it was still sitting there Take care of yourself. And that's what it is at the end of the day Take care of yourself. And not a selfish. It's not a selfish intention. It really is a self-focused intention. It's not a selfish intention.
Speaker 2:It really is a self-focused intention.
Speaker 3:And if we do everything with kindness and with love we feel better about the end of the day.
Speaker 2:Yep, and that's all that matters. You can't show up properly for others if you don't take care of yourself.
Speaker 3:Exactly, exactly, and we have this tendency, as human beings, to beat ourselves up Exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2:Why would you tell yourself you suck if you do something like oh you're so you suck. It's so counterproductive. Like no we're great at everything we do. We are. Everything is a learning opportunity.
Speaker 3:Everything is a learning opportunity.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, absolutely. Yeah, all right, well, let's, let's leave it at that. Yes, with some mild technical issues, but we did well.
Speaker 3:Yes, and you're amazing at editing, so you'll figure it all out, oh yeah.
Speaker 2:Piece of cake. Piece of cake. All right, everyone. Thank you so much for tuning in. We are so happy to see you here with us on this journey and we look forward to it.
Speaker 3:And remember there are many opportunities for healing the next opportunity is just around the corner.
Speaker 2:Let's go all right, everyone, take care, stay blessed out there.
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