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Ever wondered how a simple switch to a microSD card could solve a world of podcasting woes? In this episode of Bonus Dad, Bonus Daughter, we share the roller coaster of technical difficulties that led to our two-week hiatus and how we emerged with even clearer sound. While we laugh about saying "Happy New Year" way past its expiration date, we also reflect on how January can be both a beacon of new beginnings and a shadowy uphill climb. Join us as we reconnect and promise smoother sailing ahead in our podcast journey.
Tattoos and travel tales take center stage as we recount my tattoo artist's unexpected career detour into music, only to return with a special offer that I couldn't resist. As plans for a new cottagecore and witchy tattoo unfold, we also tackle the hilarity of a family holiday planning mishap involving a trip to Florida and some humorous confusion with my partner, Sharon. Despite the comedic chaos, we've lined up not one but two exciting trips to America, setting the tone for an adventurous year.
From the irony of TikTok users hopping to an even less secure app amid its U.S. ban to our favorite wardrobe staples sparking joy on Instagram, we explore the quirky nuances of personal favorites. The conversation then takes a thoughtful turn as we discuss the importance of understanding the full context before reacting to situations, paired with the joy of sharing our favorite English words—mine being "laugh" and my co-host's "crunch." This episode is a patchwork of laughs, insights, and heartfelt connections, making it a must-listen for anyone seeking to add a bit of color to their day.
Technical Difficulties and Life Updates
Speaker 1Hello and welcome to Bonus Dad. Bonus Daughter a special father-daughter podcast with me Hannah and me, davie, where we discuss our differences, similarities, share a few laughs and stories within our ever-changing and complex world, Each week we will discuss a topic from our own point of view and influences throughout the decades or you could choose one by contacting us via email, instagram, facebook or TikTok links in bio.
Speaker 2Hello and welcome to another episode of Bonus Dad, bonus Daughter. We are well.
Speaker 1We've had a couple of weeks off, haven't we?
Speaker 2We have Unexpected two weeks off. Actually, we had some technical difficulties. Do you want to tell our listeners what was going on? Because I don't understand.
Speaker 1Yeah so kind of what happened is that when we record, we record into a Rodecaster Pro and that goes into the PC into GarageBand and then I download it as a WAV file, I then take it home and I then put it through Audacity to mix and master. Yes, however, everything sounded fine when we did the last five episodes, and then what happened was when I got home put it in Audacity, there was just basically no sound. Well, there was sound, but it was distorted. It was absolutely horrendous.
Speaker 2It sounded a little bit like we were underwater. It did, it did.
Speaker 1And I played around with it, I tried all sorts, but it just wouldn't work and we had to end up ditching the episodes. We even came in, didn't we? On another night and we did.
Speaker 2We really tried hard for you guys. We came in on a tuesday evening after work. We were both tired, both annoyed about the thing not working. We went home pretty grumpy. To be fair, we did, yeah, and but I did loads of diagnostic checks.
Speaker 1I tried everything. I could not figure out what the problem was Until it kind of dawned on me I thought it might be a cable issue. Yeah, so I think the cable that was going from the Rodecaster into the PC could have been dodgy. So what we've done is I've gone out and I've gone and bought a microSD card and we're recording straight onto a micro SD card. We have just tested it and it works.
Speaker 2And it sounded better. So we're hoping that this podcast episode sounds better than normal. Yeah, We'll continue with this method going forward. So yeah, sorry about that, guys. Obviously, this podcast to us is something, an excuse to hang out at the end of the day. And we don't get paid to do this, but we are truly very, very sorry for it.
Speaker 1Yeah, we are. It's the last two weeks, it's gutting. It was weird waking up on a Thursday and not seeing an episode. Yeah, and not having to put it on socials and stuff it was really weird, although what made me laugh was when you put the apology up on all the social networks.
Speaker 2What when you put?
Speaker 1the apology up on all the social networks. Ellie, what Ellie said, go on. Ellie thought that we were actually doing an episode on technical difficulties, so she was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 2Just a normal day for Ellie.
Speaker 1Yeah, exactly, she was expecting the podcast to come out.
Speaker 2Yeah, no, yeah, no. Unfortunately, technical difficulties stopped us from doing it, and that happens, which is one of them things. Yeah, it does. We didn't. You know we don't own the studio we come in here. We were very fortunate to be able to have access to the studio as well. So, it's not anyone's fault.
Speaker 1It's just. Yeah, it's just one of them things I mean we have it all the time in the band.
Speaker 2Exactly yeah cables when.
Speaker 1Exactly yeah cables when you're looking at that many cables and that many things and things go wrong all the time and it just I mean it could just have been a broken cable.
Speaker 2Yeah, that's what I think it should have been. I mean, in IT cable is most stable, but sometimes you know cables aren't that stable, that's. Mitchell talking right there, that is your husband talking right there, cable is stable. Cable is stable, my friends, but not in this instance. No, absolutely not. So this next uh uh episode that we're gonna do, hold on, hold, on hold. On. All right, sorry, what else have you been up to?
Speaker 2hannah I've literally been up to nothing. I haven't got a life update. I said to you oh yeah, let's do a life update because we haven't had. You know, we've had two weeks off and yeah, we had two weeks off at christmas as well you've got nothing interesting well no, because I probably did say a life update when we actually recorded this the first time, but now I've forgotten. So we haven't actually spoken to anyone since the new year, right?
Speaker 1We really haven't.
Speaker 2We haven't had an episode in this new year. So, happy new year everyone.
Speaker 1We're now like three quarters of the way through January and still saying happy. At which point do you stop saying happy new year?
Speaker 2I was just about to ask that because, like in an email at work, if I haven't spoken to them yet this new year, I do put. Oh, I hope it's not too late to say happy new year. I mean, I've spoken to most of my clients now but yeah, it's hard to know when to stop. I feel like mid-January as well, mid-january is where everyone's just like yeah, okay, it's the new year, now Stop wishing me a happy new year.
Speaker 1It's funny as well, isn't it, Because January is supposed to be the most depressing month of the year and everyone's going around going happy new year, unfortunately.
Speaker 2I mean this is a bit of a downer on the episode, but yes, most suicides do happen in January.
Speaker 1They do.
Speaker 2It's the highest month for it. They do it because it's after the Christmas period and people with their families and families can be tough at times to cope with, and some people's families aren't not our family.
Speaker 1No, we're alright.
Speaker 2Our core family is good but yeah, sometimes that can cause a bit of a ruckus, so you got anything interesting coming up. Oh, I tell you what. I have got something interesting coming up and I don't even know if I've told you.
Speaker 1Go on.
Speaker 2I may have booked in another tattoo.
Speaker 1I need to book mine in, right, yeah, but it's a but. Go on, sorry, tell me about yours. Tell me about yours.
Family Holiday Planning and Tattoo Updates
Speaker 2It's going to be in March because she's like super, super, duper booked.
Speaker 2So the lady who done my pumpkin on my left arm, yeah decided that after she tattooed me, pretty much after she tattooed me, she was like I'm not gonna be tattooing anymore. I didn't take it personally, don't worry, yeah. And then, um, she was like I'm gonna focus on my music career and I was like that's pretty solid and pretty cool. So I found someone else that does a similar style and then he bloody moved to birmingham yeah, I was gonna say birmingham, brighton, sorry, brighton and I was like, oh okay, so all my, all my favourite artists are leaving me. I get an email from her like just before Christmas saying I've come back to tattooing. Like you know, 25% off in the new year, and I was like you know what? Yes, yeah.
Speaker 2I'm here for it, I'm ready, cool, so yeah.
Speaker 1Where on your body?
Speaker 2It's actually like back of my ankle calf.
Speaker 1Okay, that's going to be painful.
Speaker 2I don't think it's going to be as painful as the collarbone.
Speaker 1No, that's, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2That that mother trucker hurt. Yeah, but um yeah, I, um, yeah ankle.
Speaker 1Okay, what are you having?
Speaker 2Basically lots of like uh, sprigs of not flowers but like earthy things.
Speaker 1Okay, so still sprigs of, not flowers, but like earthy things.
Speaker 2Okay, so still sticking with the same kind of theme I've got this whole theme going on in my body, so it's kind of like cottagecore okay, what I mean by cottagecore I know what you mean, yeah yeah, um, that's what I'm going for, uh, but with a slight witchy, witchy, vibe, so I've sent her witchy vibe one and I've sent her a really elegant one. I was like, can you kind of like come on?
Speaker 2yeah so she, um, she said, yeah, this is right up my street and I'll be more than happy to do that for you, hannah. So I'm like, yes, um, so yeah, new tattoo in march, which is a long way off yet. So I've got a lot of time to uh save for it, which is good. But yeah, I don't really think I've got any like updates but now I want my tattoo.
Speaker 1I'm gonna my on my other A phoenix, so the idea is that I'm going to have what I want is like the tree of life at the bottom, so a small tree of life, this is very. Hannah, yeah, but then out of the tree of life coming, the phoenix, A phoenix, a phoenix coming out of it. Yeah, very Harry Potter. Not, really, not really Harry Potter.
Speaker 2It's kind of Harry.
Speaker 1Potter, Not like. It's going to be black and white.
Speaker 2I know.
Speaker 1It's going to be black and white, so, yeah, that's what I want.
Speaker 2I'm still going to call it Forks. Okay, you can call it Forks.
Speaker 1Thank you, yeah, you can call it Forks.
Speaker 2Just like we call your guitar, eliza.
Speaker 1Yes yes, yes, but I don't know when I'm going, because we've now got to save some money up.
Speaker 2You're going to America again, aren't you?
Speaker 1The thing is, we're going to America twice this year. Yeah, so did you hear about the story? What happened?
Speaker 2Well, I did.
Speaker 1Where I'm in trouble with my entire family.
Speaker 2Yes, I did hear the story, and can I just preface this a little bit that I'm actually taking you to Stansted, so don't be so.
Speaker 1I know.
Speaker 2Heathrow. So don't be. So, don't I know heathrow? Oh, is it heathrow? Well, that's good to know. Cool, I was prepared to go to stansted, but heathrow, I think that's a bit too far for me.
Speaker 1Yeah I think we're. No, you're the takers. So I got, I got a phone call.
Speaker 2Can I drop you at stansted? Instead, we'll walk the rest of the way. Yeah, yeah, I mean, they're so close oh yeah, they are, aren't they?
Speaker 1yeah, I, I've got to take you to Heathrow.
Speaker 2Yeah, oh man. Why did I say yes to this. Go on.
Speaker 1So what happened was was I had a conversation with my sister, the queen of the voice note, and honestly, is this Manda?
Speaker 1This is Manda. Yeah, hi, manda. Honestly, the voice notes she leaves us are absolutely hilarious, so much so that my brother, anthony, wrote on one of our chats. He just went well, there's five minutes of my life, I'm not getting back. I mean, she's just amazing. I love my sister.
Speaker 1But she called me up and she, we were talking, and she mentioned this fat big family holiday in florida and did we want to go? And I said, well, look, I said we're going on to another. Um, we're going to amer America later on in the year, so I don't know if we can go twice. And bloody, bloody, blah, dah, dah, dah dah. And I said, look, I'll have a chat with Sharon about it. So I then didn't have a chat with Sharon about it, but what happened was was I spoke to my sister again about the holiday. Now, in my head, that second conversation I had was with Sharon, so I thought she knew all about it Right Now. What then happened is that Hilary went out, sister number two, sister number two went out with Sharon for the day and mentioned this holiday, and Sharon knew nothing about it.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1She puts her in a bit of an awkward position, you have to admit. I get a phone call, uh, telling me off because I hadn't told it, and then sharon said we can make it work. So we're going to america twice.
Speaker 1But what the funny thing is is that I am just getting my entire family, my brother, my sister is very cool oh yeah, at all it's gonna be a very good holiday even my niece is having a pop at me about it, jesus, even my niece left me voice notes saying that she was going to throw me in the pool because I didn't tell Auntie Sharon about the holiday.
Speaker 2I see, I see that is quite, that's quite the threat.
Speaker 1I even got proper bollocked by Annabelle. Yeah, yeah, yeah, as she should be. Yeah, she proper told me off, she proper told me off.
Speaker 2So when is the second America? Because I feel like I might need to know about this as well. Oh, June, okay.
Speaker 1June. So we're going to America end of March for a couple of weeks. And then we're going to Disney World in March and then we're going to New Jersey in June to see my family in New.
Speaker 2Jersey. Are you going to go to Six Flags again? Yeah, I think we might. Yeah, nice.
Speaker 1I think we might have to go to Six Flags again.
Speaker 2Very jealous about this because Mum got to go on Kingda Car, which is the tallest roller coaster in the world. Currently it's not there anymore, and it's now been debunked.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's not there anymore. Defunked, I should say not debunked.
Speaker 2Yeah, so I'm pretty mad about that. Are you sad, but I do have a hoodie where?
Speaker 1because, true to form though, 10 minutes in and we're on roller coasters, to be fair, you brought up Disney World.
Speaker 2I was just. I was just segwaying into a nice yeah tidbit that I knew about New Jersey Six Flags there you go.
Speaker 1Okay, it's just when my brain goes yeah so and anything else. I know you've been pretty boring. I've been pretty ill to be fair, I've been pretty ill.
Speaker 2To be fair, I've been a bit poorly. I had flu, you had the flu as well. I had proper man flu Cor. Cor Cor that put me on my arse Cor.
Speaker 1Worse than childbirth man flu.
Speaker 2Oh, really, yeah, it is. Oh, I can't really attest to that. I've not birthed a child, it is a well-known.
Speaker 1This man flu is worse.
Speaker 2Man flu is worse, nay nay soldier.
Speaker 1And I've got a ganglion gungaloo lump on my hand as well.
Speaker 2A ganglion cyst. Is that what you want to say?
Speaker 1Yeah, the nurse told me to smack it, but I haven't actually quite got the balls to do it.
Speaker 2I don't think I've got the balls to do it. What if I whack a brick on your hand and then I end up fixing your?
Speaker 1wrist. Why do we go with brick?
Speaker 2It's just like the heaviest thing I could think of, that I could wield.
Speaker 1Yeah, I mean well, because it is broken anyway.
Speaker 2Yeah, so what's the problem?
Speaker 1Medical marvel I am, according to the doctor. I wish I was a medical marvel, Because I shouldn't be able to move my wrist but I can.
Speaker 2You're like the lucky version of medical marvel, I'm the unlucky version of medical marvel. What's wrong with you? I have absolutely no idea.
Speaker 1But there is some other news.
Speaker 2Is there.
Speaker 1Why do you keep? See, I've been a busy boy.
Speaker 2You have been a busy boy. I've been in hospital.
Speaker 1I've nearly died of man flu, going to America twice.
Speaker 2So dramatic, so so dramatic.
Speaker 1And the most exciting news of all, go on. I went and met some people last week.
Speaker 2Did you?
Speaker 1Yeah, who did you meet? I met with Peach and Benji and Joe Sounds like the band to me. It's the band, it's happening.
Speaker 2It's happening.
Speaker 1It's happening, it's happening, it's happening. Pierre couldn't be there because Pierre was in London, but I spoke to Pierre yesterday.
Speaker 2And Pierre will be joining you, pierre will be joining us.
Speaker 1Yes.
Speaker 2My brother.
Speaker 1Yes, your brother. Yeah, yeah, full band. Such a funny story. We are all getting back together and I'm not going to say much more on that, but there are things planned.
Speaker 2Cool.
Speaker 1There are, and I might have already started writing again.
Speaker 2Oh no.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Oh no.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, I was playing around. You're playing new stuff, are you? I was playing around with B flat, f minor B flat, b flat, I know.
Speaker 2What a chord. It's horrible.
Speaker 1B flat, A flat.
Speaker 2I hope every other musician just went. What's wrong with B flat? Well, at least it's not B sharp.
Speaker 1B flat minor, actually B flat minor. Yeah, the B sharps.
Speaker 2That's what Homer's barb sharp quartet is called Very clever and E flat doesn't exist.
Speaker 1Right, e flat doesn't exist yeah, b sharp, well, c flat doesn't exist either Well, C flat, either yeah, yeah, cool, okay, anyway, music, yeah, music, music theory there. So yeah, mammal, not Fish, is going to be, reborn Is reborn.
Speaker 2The mammal has reborn into a fish.
Speaker 1Indeed, indeed, yes, we're back, we are back.
Speaker 2Back with a brand new scar rap papa's got a brand new pig bag oh, do you know where I was yesterday? Sorry, this I don't know, how it was reminded me we were at west runton yesterday I love west, I know you do, yeah, and have you seen that? They're because of the cliff erosion? They've stopped you walking on the coastal path.
Speaker 2But good they have um got this little space like this little viewing point. It's called grandpappy's corner, oh so I imagine that might be named after something yeah, oh, that's really sweet, and I was sitting there and I was like, oh, grandpappy's corner, I've got this lovely picture of a bird. Really, I've really got old in my. 2025 is the year I grandma like, not like physically. I haven't had children, so I can't be a grandma, have you ever started knitting and crocheting yet?
Speaker 2I mean, I was crocheting way before this. I was crocheting when I was a teen, were you Before, it was cool.
Speaker 1Anthony crochets. You know that? Yeah, I did. He's bloody good at it as well, yeah.
Speaker 2I did know that. I did know that.
Speaker 1I think he was teaching Annabelle to do it. That's very cute. Yeah, yeah, veryparter.
Personal Favorites
Speaker 2Two-parter episode yes. So I came up with this episode, well, probably a couple of months back now.
Speaker 1We've already recorded it twice.
Speaker 2We've already tried to record it twice as well. So, yeah, this one isn't really that fresh off the press for us, but it's fresh off the press for you, so this is good news. So this episode is all about the best of the best, and what I mean by that is that I basically came up with a few categories and we're going to discuss the best of that item, personal to us. Yes, Maybe not item but best thing of that, it will become apparent when we start. It's quite an eclectic list, isn't?
Speaker 1it.
Speaker 2Yeah, I tried to make it very varied. So this isn't going to be a generational difference, although it might come up a couple of times, but there might not be as many generational differences in this particular episode. Podcast podcast episode.
Speaker 1It's just our own kind of personal preferences.
Speaker 2We thought you might want to know our preference on things, and if you don't, you can just skip this episode, because we've already given you the life update and that's the bit you're really here for don't skip nothing.
Speaker 1Don't skip nothing. We need, we need our, we need our views, we need our views. We need our views, not views um audit, actually sorry. One other thing to do before we kick into the thing talking about views yeah tiktok, yes, tiktok, today. So this is, this is we're recording this on sunday off the press.
Speaker 2sunday, the 8th 17th 19th sunday, the 19th Sunday, the 19th of January.
Speaker 1Is TikTok got banned in America?
Speaker 2That is shocking, that's nuts isn't it. So does that mean the app just ceases to stop because of the IP address of?
Speaker 1their phone. I think so. Yeah, I think so. But the interesting thing is, what was quite funny is that the reason why TikTok was now banned in America is because the American government was saying that the Chinese government was stealing data via TikTok and it was a national security threat. But a lot of the TikTok users have now gone on to an app called, I think, red Note, which is the Chinese app, which is actually less secure than TikTok.
Speaker 2I thought TikTok was owned by Facebook, like Meta.
Speaker 1No, no, no, I think it's owned by a company in Hong Kong.
Speaker 2Oh, it is Chinese owned, hong Konger owned.
Speaker 1So they're flipping over to this other app that is actually less secure than what TikTok is, ouch. So they've kind of played themselves a little bit, yeah. But yeah, trump's going to.
Speaker 2There's a whole thing about Are you saying that Trump has built a wall on the internet?
Speaker 1Yeah, but no, they think he's going to save it.
Speaker 2Save it.
Speaker 1He's going to save it because he's got many views. He loves his views. He's got the best views.
Speaker 2Okay, that was a pretty good impersonation. I know it's like he was here in the room. He's like that yeah, we steer away from politicals.
Speaker 1Thousands of people follow me on TikTok. I'm going to keep TikTok alive. It's the best, the greatest ever.
Speaker 2That's a pretty good impression I know Way to go. Anyway the best of the best, the best of the best. So, davey, can you tell me what your best item of clothing is?
Speaker 1My hat.
Speaker 2Your hat.
Speaker 1My hat, my pork pie hats. I love my hats.
Speaker 2I had a feeling you'd choose hats. Why did you think that? Because hats is just your thing. It's your stage thing.
Speaker 1It's your life thing. Yeah, you wear hats.
Speaker 2Yes, it's a thing. Do you know what? I was even thinking the other day. Well you never wear them in the studio. Well, because I Like in-ear monitor style. That's what I was thinking, but I have. I've got quite a few yeah.
Speaker 1I have. My favourite hat, though, is my maroon one. Yes, I like your maroon one, my maroon pot pie hat Maroon five. Which I bought off Camden Market. Yes, I bought that in Camden.
Speaker 2Sentimental value it is yeah. My favourite item of clothing is my yellow trousers.
Speaker 1Are these your cords?
Speaker 2Yes.
Speaker 1Your yellow mustard cords.
Speaker 2Do you know what I love those trousers so much? I bought the yellow ones first.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2I love them so much that I have them in two other colours as well, okay. They're the exact same trouser, but I've got it in maroon, weirdly enough, and I've got them in like a khaki green I'd call it.
Speaker 1I'll tell you what about your particular yellow trousers, your mustard trousers, my mustard trousers, your mustard trousers. They look very good on Instagram. So a lot of your Instagram shots where I think Amy's taken them. Yeah, you are wearing your mustard trousers in a lot of those shots. Yeah, and the colours Autumnal and because they're quite nature shots, as in you've taken them in forests and things like that. The kind of clothing you're wearing suits.
Speaker 2The background of the of the shot and I've got a spring shoot coming up as well. Have you really wear some sparring items? In that same photo shoot we did a beach shoot um in the middle of October I was freezing.
Speaker 2I was wearing a dress and I was cold and I said to Amy in the photos I try to obviously not look cold and she was like, yeah, you look cold in some of these in between shots. She'll take a few test shots and it's just me going like this and my feet were in the sea and the sea must have been, I would guess, like around 5 degrees and my feet were in degrees right and my feet were in there constantly and my feet were just numb by the end of it that I didn't.
Speaker 2Why didn't you wear?
Speaker 1what didn't you say?
Speaker 2you could have borrowed my wetsuit shoes but I was having pictures of like me in the sea in a dress, wet suit, wet suit, shoes, photoshop of. Well, she'd have to photoshop my feet. Yeah, yeah, no, no, I'm all good so yeah, my favorite item of clothing is my yellow when did you get your trousers, god? Two years maybe really yeah, I've had them for about a couple of years now, I'd say so my hats.
Speaker 1I mean, do you know what I'm trying to think? When was when did I start? Well, it was, it was when I was on stage. Definitely when you started gigging you.
Speaker 2You started out with the black hat. Yeah, the maroon hat definitely came after. I would say yeah. And then that become a staple kind of look of the band as well, that kind of you kind of look punky even though you're a ska band, because it's like that Well we kind of the funny thing is. It's like Green Day but, it's almost like we are. We are kind of like scar.
Speaker 1A lot of our stuff is quite scar punky yeah, yeah, but it's not at the same time. Yeah, we've got that kind of look, but but it's we're.
Speaker 2It's kind of like scar funk yeah, it's not like you're all like wearing black, or you're not all like wearing on, like not sorry, it's not like we're wearing black, but you don't wear a uniform we've got like the real big fish look that's kind.
Speaker 1That's kind of what we yeah, absolutely Sublime, yeah, sublime, et cetera, et cetera, that type of thing, like Jake and yeah, I mean we were talking Benji was saying the other day actually he said we were talking about Espere, which is a song that I wrote that we play, and we were really love that song. He said, but it's just not us. Oh, you know, it's like it, which is true.
Speaker 2It's not a mammal song it's a brilliant song.
Speaker 1It's a davey whale song. It's a davey song. Yeah, it's um, yeah, yeah okay um, but yeah, hats and trousers, hats and trousers, hats and trousers so next one.
Speaker 2What is the best style of briefs and I'm talking like UK pants, undercrackers, undercrackers.
Speaker 1Well, I must admit I am a boxers kind of man.
Speaker 2Nice. Yes, keyhole or button man.
Speaker 1Keyhole.
Speaker 2Keyhole. Is that a weird question to ask your dad? Not really no, because if I ever need to buy you pants, oh sorry, if Santa ever needs to buy you pants.
Speaker 1What do you mean? You said you then.
Speaker 2You've ever needs to buy you pants. What do you mean?
Speaker 1you said you, then you've just destroyed.
Speaker 2My favorite pants are shorts come at me, bro, but shorts, women's shorts, oh yeah, they're, and cotton based so you don't like a thong, then no I, I own one thong and I just do not understand why you'd want a wedgie all day I remember when you were young yeah and you cried.
Speaker 1I did cry. You cried when you were really young, and I don't want to grow up?
Speaker 2no, because I didn't want to wear thongs exactly because and I stand by that as a 28 year old. Right now, right here, right now, they, they're just so uncomfortable I cannot. It's either I've bought the wrong ones, but I just cannot. I just know and and also like uh sorry, tmi, but my menstrual cycle is all over the place. Yeah I was to wear a thong, I can't then wear like sanitary wear in it properly yeah so it's just not practical for me no the thong is stupid.
Speaker 2I will. I will never accept a thong as being a b I can't imagine.
Speaker 1I mean, I suppose, I think it's suppose because your mum wears thongs. I'm sure she does yeah, she wears thongs. But I just can't imagine how comfortable that can be. Yeah, you know going right up your crack.
Speaker 2Yeah, that can't be right. That's like if you accidentally leave a little bit of tissue stuck to your ass. It's the same principle, Like ugh Anyway shall we move on?
Speaker 1Yeah, shall we move on.
Speaker 2To the best insult you have ever heard.
Speaker 1Okay, the one that you've written down here. You're going to have to explain this to me, because I don't get it.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 1I really don't. This seems to me like this is a Gen Alpha thing. I just don't. That just makes no sense to me. Okay, so I.
Speaker 2I just don't. That just makes no sense to me.
Speaker 2Okay. So I was scrolling through Instagram and I came across this. It must have been some sort of like clip from a reality TV show. They were definitely American for sure, like Valley Girl American, I would say. This girl just turns to her like friends or the group of ladies that she's with on the show, and goes none of you own a basic white tee. And it shows. And it was just the funniest insult to me, because it's basically saying that they're so snobbish that they don't own a basic white tee like they're like okay they're like so like the things that they wear, and they're very glamorous people and that there's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 2By the way, I'm just saying that this woman had a particular thing with her friends. It's like like, basically, they were just being a bit snobbish about what other people wearing which I don't like, did she have a valley girl accent, like you just said?
Speaker 1yeah, she did.
Speaker 2They all did, they all did but this girl was like a little bit, like more down to earth. I would say okay and she was like yeah, none of you are in a basic white tee and it shows. And I just I just thought that was like the best insult ever. That's just so backhanded. They're being snobby about people not wearing basic things and she just come out with that.
Speaker 1It was just so funny to me.
Speaker 2Yeah, what about you and your best insult?
Speaker 1You add nothing to the situation except drama.
Speaker 2I feel like that fits mine. Maybe the girl was adding drama to her situation.
Speaker 1Yeah, because I can't stand that. Yeah, I can't stand it. I'm not about drama. I want a stand. That, yeah, I can't stand that.
Speaker 2I'm not about drama. I want a chill life.
Speaker 1Jesus Christ.
Speaker 2In my little house yeah.
Speaker 1I can't be arsed. I just can't be arsed, because guess what? No one cares.
Speaker 2No one gives a shit.
Speaker 1No one cares. That's the thing People really think. People really care about other people's lives.
Navigating Upset and Miscommunication
Speaker 2I've got enough going on in my own life. I don't give a shit, move on. I think people get I don't know. Now this might be a bit controversial to say actually, but I'm going to say it anyway.
Speaker 1Go on, do it.
Speaker 2I feel like people do get upset about things that they don't need to get upset about all the time right they. I feel like there's a lot of things going wrong and there's a lot of things in this world that you could be very, very upset about yeah and I don't know if it's just because I've got a lot going on, so that something of that nature is so minuscule to me that it does not phase me at all and doesn't upset me I just do like this, this kind of I kind of like the snowflake culture a little bit, but I don't agree with that term and I don't like that term.
Speaker 2I'm quite sensitive as well myself, so maybe I'm being a bit of a hypocrite, but or some people would call me soft, but I just don't I. There are just some things as well that you just don't need to get upset about, just move the f**k on yeah like I just, I just don't understand. Sometimes I don't know if it's just my grasp on people's. No it is.
Speaker 1I mean I think as well, because I don't.
Speaker 2Normally. I'm not very good at empathising with people's feelings.
Speaker 1Yeah, and I think also because of the job that I do as well and what I'm kind of exposed to on a daily basis. I'm talking about within and also external factors as well, because things happen in my job and I can see the worst things that can happen. Yes, yeah, it's like so when you put.
Speaker 2It puts things into perspective right, yeah, and I know you probably shouldn't compare, like you know, it's the same as like the chronic illness side of things. Like, yeah, I can't compare myself to someone else's pain because what they're experiencing could be the absolute 10 maximum pain that they are feeling yeah which might be my two, but similarly my two could. I'm sorry, my 10 could be someone else's three, like you know there's no way.
Speaker 2It is so subjective, so yeah, you know, I say I say this a little bit with a pinch of salt, because I do understand that people feel differently and more strongly about things than others. But yeah, I, I don't know, I just feel like sometimes, um, take a breath yeah, take a breath, take a breath and just look at the problem.
Speaker 1Can the problem be solved by you? Yeah. If not, can it be solved by someone else? If not, it's out of your control. Yeah, and don't get all dramatic about it yeah, I just oh melod.
Speaker 2It's kind of like making mountains out of molehills just for the sheer hell of it. If you're genuinely upset. It's narcissistic, it is but if you are genuinely upset, that's also okay to say, that's absolutely fine and you're allowed to be upset. That's not the issue. The issue is making. I guess making it out.
Speaker 1Making a drama, drama, yeah, making it to be more than it is, exactly, if that's what I mean. And also quite often as well find out the full story first.
Speaker 2Yeah, find out the full story?
Speaker 1Yeah, because sometimes you only hear half the story. Get all the facts before making a fuss. I was talking to someone the other day about this and I said about something that happened to me where I said an off-the-cuff comment and it then went to. Somebody heard that, went and told someone else what I said, someone else to someone else to. Then somebody come back to me and ask me uh, this is being spoken about and this is what I said. And I burst out laughing. I said, actually I can tell you how that's happened. Right, that's not actually what said, but I can see how that context has got around. And when I explained it the person went oh, that makes sense Exactly.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1There you go, it's the whispers as they go around Chinese whispers, yeah, as they go around and people add their own interpretation to it and sometimes it gets completely wrong they, they, um.
Speaker 2They make assumptions based on the, the context of it and their own narrative to it which you know I'm guilty of this as well like sometimes, I totally misremember things all the time, but um and also things change as well.
Speaker 1I say this to people, I say this people all the time, I say don't, don't believe anything anyone ever tells you, including me, because things change. What I might tell you today might change tomorrow. Yeah, so you know. And if it does change, don't get arsy with me about it.
Speaker 2It's very weird to come out of a boss's mouth, but yeah, sure, let's go with best word. Oh yeah, we're on the best, of aren't we?
Speaker 1I thought we went on a proper tangent we did.
Speaker 2We did, yeah, best word in the English language.
Speaker 1Laugh.
Speaker 2Laugh.
Speaker 1Laugh. I love laugh, love laugh, live, laugh, laugh, live, laugh, laugh, live, laugh, laugh. Put them on posters on the wall.
Speaker 2Mine is crunch, why I love onomatopoeia, onomatopoeia is like one of my favourite things in the world If you don't know, basically, when a word sounds like what it is. So crunch is a very good example. Boing, bash, anything that you see in a comic book, that when someone is hit or something, it's like pow, boom, they're all on a mat. Yeah, but crunch, I think, is the best one. Crunch just sounds like a crunch, yeah it's so good.
Speaker 1Do you know why I like the word laugh? Go on, because to me, similar to that, it's not how it sounds, it's how the word looks when it's written down. To me it looks like the word is actually laughing.
Speaker 2I can't see it. You said this when we recorded it the first and second time. Yeah yeah, yeah, and I still don't see it. You can't see it.
Speaker 1No, the way the A and the U and the G almost look like they're kind of laughing. No, you can't see it. I can't see it To me visually.
Speaker 2Yeah, I can see that I think you've got a visual brain and I just no, I can't see it. I can't see it, I'm afraid.
Speaker 1Just visually that word looks amazing.
Speaker 2If anyone else can see laugh in the word laugh hit me up Am.
Speaker 1I the weird one, or is?
Speaker 2he the weird one.
Speaker 1I can just see it. I can just see it in there. I'm looking at the word now and it looks like the word is laughing to me. I don't know, mate, I don't know, okay.
Speaker 2What about best takeout option? What is your go-to takeaway takeout?
Speaker 1My favorite takeout is I like Chinese food.
Speaker 2You do like Chinese?
Speaker 1food. Do you know what I even cooked? Because your mum's in Derbyshire at the moment she is she's doing I think she's Spoiler yeah, I think she's doing like a scout thing, cute. So last night I sat there. You know what am I going to have to eat? I thought I really fancy some Chinese food right.
Speaker 2Okay, solid.
Speaker 1So I thought but do you know what? I'm not going to go to Golden Blossom, I'm going to make it. So I went to Morrison's and I made myself salt and pepper chicken, nice, and egg fried rice, cool, and I did the salt and pepper chicken in the air fryer.
Speaker 1Nice, yeah, nice yeah but, ah what happened, but and I realised this when I got home I automatically bought chicken breasts and salt and pepper. Chicken needs to really be done with thighs yeah and when I cooked, because of the moisture and because when I cooked it in the air fryer it was dry as hell. It was tasty because I had the the chilli in there, the ginger, the garlic, everything all with the cornstarch.
Speaker 2Could you whack some soy sauce on it? Did that help?
Speaker 1I had some of that, because when I did the no because then it would have been really salty, because the salt from the soy sauce, and then the fact that it's salt and pepper chicken as well. It would have just been way too salty, do you?
Speaker 2think they add salt to soy sauce, or do you think that?
Speaker 1soy naturally is salty. I think soy is naturally salty oh okay, because it is always salty.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, because you can get light and dark and I feel like the dark is salty.
Speaker 1Yeah, I made what was it like a honey and garlic, it was almost like a Korean dish. The other night, Nice, and your mum said to me she said it was too salty, but I think it's because I used dark soy sauce rather than light soy sauce yeah.
Speaker 1And it was, and I did salt the chicken as well and I must admit, even I thought and I like salty food and I thought, yeah, it is a bit A little, too much. I did try and put some more honey in it to try and take the saltiness out, but yeah, no.
Speaker 2See, I like Chinese, but I actually wrote down often. But also we do have a fairly local Chinese that does Chinese and Thai. And I think if we went to that particular Chinese, I would choose Thai. So I don't know if it's because I don't have Thai that often.
Speaker 2Or if it's. I just really like Thai food and we just don't get it as often as we should. But we went out just before Christmas to a Thai restaurant in Norwich, or was it just after Christmas? No, just before christmas went to thai restaurant and oh, it was just incredible I just I know it's technically not takeaway, but yeah, thai food is just amazing and I just, I just really love the taste of it. It's like it's the right amount of spice for me, because I don't like things mega spicy.
Speaker 1I don't like things mega mild either yeah, it's a little bit of a kick, a little bit of a.
Speaker 2Because I just don't see the point in having something spicy for the sheer hell of it being spicy. Because I just don't think it tastes, as my mouth is so on fire that I can't taste the food. So that's just yeah. It's just not my thing. Mid-spice.
Speaker 1My friend Ben not Benji, but Ben Ooh.
Speaker 2Ben.
Speaker 1Ben Ben Ben, who I used to live with years and years ago. He wasn't a very spicy person and I didn't know that. And I made these enchiladas and I whacked a ton of Tabasco in there you are the Tabasco boy and he literally went red in front of my face. I could see his steam just coming out of his ears.
Speaker 2I bought my husband this year for Christmas in the stocking Mustard, can you remember?
Speaker 1Oh, my God.
Speaker 2Tell the stocking mustard. Can you remember? Oh my god, tell the stocking one, then we'll tell the mustard story. So in his stocking I managed to find an advent calendar which every single door was a new.
Speaker 2Uh, hot sauce, right, okay, yeah, really into his hot sauces, but it wasn't the type of advent calendar that has windows, so it was a bit shit. So I was like what I'll do is I'll fill his stocking with 24 bottles of hot sauce and he's, he's cracking through them. He's, oh brilliant, yeah, he's cracking through I. Uh. Yeah, I thought it was a well good idea. Like in my head I was like, yeah, I'll get, I'll get him a, I'll get him a, like a spice bottle advent calendar, okay, or like. And it was really rubbish when I got it, so I put it in a stocking instead and he just kept pulling out bottles of hot sauce. Very funny.
Speaker 1But yeah, so Story, story time, the mustard story, and what we'll do, hannah, after we tell this mustard story? I think we'll end this episode here, okay, okay. And then we'll come back onto the cinematic universe.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, there's still a lot to go.
Speaker 1Next week, but yeah, this is a little bit of a funny well next week for our listeners, but probably in about 10 minutes for us.
Speaker 2Yes.
Speaker 1Yeah, but yeah, the mustard story. So we hadn't met Mitchell, we hadn't known Mitchell. That long had we at that point it was early doors it was early yeah.
Speaker 2It was early doors. We'd sat down for a roast dinner and it was beef.
Speaker 1you did, yeah, I did beef, yeah, and I didn't have any horseradish and I got out Coleman's mustard. Now, considering Mitchell's from Norfolk, this did surprise me slightly, that Mitchell had never had Coleman's mustard before. He'd only ever had like the American mustard. Yes, which is got. I don't even know what it is. What is the point of this? It's just like there is no point.
Speaker 2It's very different in terms of hot level Mustard is to me mustard is hot, it's Coleman's, it's the.
Speaker 1Give me the hot stuff.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1And I like spicy food and I love mustard and I think it's possibly because, being raised in Norfolk and being so close to Coleman Factory, it's a staple of our diet. Yeah, staple of Norfolkian diet Coleman's mustard. Nor, norfolkian diet, coleman's mustard.
Speaker 2Norfolkian diet, Norfolkian diet and I whack a lot of. I can't stand the stuff myself but carry on.
Speaker 1I whack a lot of mustard on my beef.
Speaker 2Why does that sound like the worst euphemism ever? I whack a lot of mustard on my beef, you do? You man Chow on that.
Speaker 1Oh sorry, line crossed on your door. Sorry, you do, you, man chow on that.
Speaker 2Oh, sorry line crossed on your door, sorry line crossed so.
Speaker 1But Mitchell, when I looked across at Mitchell and I saw the amount, of mustard yeah, my son, the amount of mustard he was putting on that beef, I was like man, he's brave, what is? He must really like mustard. That's a lot of mustard and then I saw him put it in his mouth and I think the realisation hit that English mustard is hot yeah and that he's only been having the American or the French mustard. Yeah and yeah he went he almost died, he almost died.
Speaker 1There was an issue, wasn't there? Yeah, bless him. And I think I was trying not to laugh.
Speaker 2I was trying to help him, but I was just Just like the paddle boarding incident. Yeah, terrible.
Speaker 1Oh, that was funny.
Speaker 2We've already told that story. Yeah, we've told that story Poor Mitchell. So we will stop the episode right there, um, but part two is coming up, because we barely got through the best of the best. We've got loads to go. We've got loads to go, so join us next time for the rest of the best of the best. Bye. Outro Music.