Protect Your Energy From Selfish People

As entrepreneurs, we build our lives around growth, purpose, and meaningful relationships. But along the journey, many of us encounter people who operate from selfishness. People who only think about themselves, who do not see your kindness, who avoid connection, and who may even make you question your own worth.

This conversation comes from my own personal experience. There was a time when I blamed myself and thought something was wrong with me because certain people rejected my kindness or avoided me. I later realized the truth: not everyone carries the same heart, the same mindset, or the same emotional capacity. Their behavior reflects who they are, not who you are.

For entrepreneurs, protecting your energy is essential. Your focus, your mindset, and your emotional strength are critical assets that must be preserved if you want to build something meaningful. Trying to convince selfish people to understand you only drains your time and distracts you from your mission.

Sometimes the strongest response is simple: ignore, walk away with respect, and stop investing energy where it is not valued. You do not need to change who you are. You do not need to become cold or bitter. You remain kind, but you become wise about where your energy goes.

If you’ve ever felt hurt, confused, or drained by people who don’t appreciate your heart, this message is for you. You are not the problem. Protect your energy, focus on your growth, and continue becoming the entrepreneur you were meant to be.

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(0:08) Hey everyone, welcome to the Breakthrough Entrepreneur Show, where we empower entrepreneurs (0:12) to overcome the challenge of work-life balance, burnout, break bad, old, unhealthy, negative (0:18) habits, behaviors, build new habits, create new rituals, new routines. I'm your host Muhammad (0:25) Faraj and today our topic is Protect Your Energy from Selfish People. I'm sure you've had this (0:34) kind of people in your life as work.You see, there's a kind of people in our life where those (0:43) people, those group, they seem like they're selfish, they think only about themselves, they don't care (0:52) about others, their heart is limited and not open to others. So those people, they don't share (1:04) care with others, they don't care about other people, they only care about themselves and the (1:12) people that are closest to them in their circle. So my best advice for you, if you have this kind (1:21) of people around you, please do this.So the best revenge you can do is to just ignore those people, (1:31) just ignore them, simply. This is the best thing you can do. Do not try to get closer to them, (1:39) do not try to be more kind to them, do not try to do kindness to them, do not try to express (1:50) yourself, do not try to convince them to like you or be people pleaser, do not try to build good (2:02) relationship with them, do not try to connect with them, do not try to get closer to them because (2:12) those people, you know, they don't understand, they will never understand you.This is how they are, (2:19) this is who they are, this is the environment that they come from. Unfortunately, they have (2:27) lived in this environment where it's selfish environment, there's so much selfishness, (2:35) there's some, there's so much eagerness, they only think about themselves, (2:42) they only think about themselves, they don't care about anybody else. You will try to be kind to them, (2:52) you will try to be more nice to them, you will try to make them understand that you have a beautiful (3:03) heart, that you want to help them, that you want to support them, that you want to do kindness to (3:10) them, that you try to be as much as nice to them as possible, but those people, they will never (3:19) understand it, they will not get it.They will translate your kindness, your support, your love, (3:27) your care to them in a different way, in an opposite way. They will think that you are trying (3:35) to get closer to them, they will translate your kindness that you need them, that you want to get (3:43) something from them. This is how they will think, this is how they will view you, because they are (3:53) selfish inside their hearts, so nothing helps, so all they see is just themselves, it's just (4:02) selfishness.They don't see your kindness, they don't see how beautiful heart you have, (4:10) so unfortunately what ends up happening with so many people is that what they do is they react, (4:20) they become reactive, they react on themselves, so what they do is they start to blame themselves, (4:28) they start to criticize themselves, they start to look at themselves negatively and this (4:34) unfortunately impacts their limited belief, it impacts their trust on themselves, their confidence, (4:46) it impacts their self-esteem, it impacts their mindset, it impacts their personality, (4:54) so they look negatively about themselves, they criticize themselves, they blame themselves, (5:02) they think that there's something wrong with themselves. This is what ends up happening so (5:08) many times with people, because the reason why I'm saying this is because I've experienced this (5:15) in my own personal life, I've made the same mistake, I used to blame myself, I used to (5:23) criticize myself, I used to look at myself negatively, when I looked at mirror, I would (5:32) look at myself that I don't deserve them, that I don't deserve their relationships, (5:38) that I don't deserve success, that I don't deserve a happy, fulfilled, healthy, successful life, (5:46) but that was the dumbest thing I've done in my life, that was one of the biggest mistakes (5:53) that I've done in my life, because as much as I looked at myself negatively, criticized, blamed (6:02) myself, or thought that there's something wrong with me, or I'm shy, or I don't deserve to have (6:12) relationships, to have people around me, I used to look at myself that maybe there's something (6:20) wrong with me, maybe I have a weak personality, maybe I don't deserve to have love in my life, (6:29) maybe I'm not meant to have friends around me in my life, see this is the mistake that I made, (6:37) I used to look at myself like this, but literally that was the dumbest thing I've done in my life, (6:46) because I was letting those people impact me, impact my mindset, impact my self-esteem, (6:52) impact my confidence, impact how I look and view myself, (7:00) so after I changed my mindset, after analyzing and viewing things from different perspective, (7:10) I found out that there's nothing wrong with me, I'm a good guy, I'm a good person, (7:18) and you too, you are a wonderful woman, you are a wonderful man, you deserve love, you deserve (7:26) care, you deserve support, you deserve kindness, you deserve happiness in your life, you deserve (7:35) success in your life, you deserve all wonderful things in your life, (7:45) so do not let my best advice for you, listening to this episode in my podcast, (7:53) my best advice for you, please if you have this kind of people, just ignore them, just walk away (8:01) and make yourself think that they don't even exist around you, they don't exist in your life, (8:11) they don't exist in your circle, they don't exist in your environment, just walk away, (8:18) ignore them, do not pay attention to what they do, what they say, and this is how they are (8:25) unfortunately, this is who they are, this is the environment that they have born or they have (8:33) lived in, this is their lifestyle, this is their character, this is their personality, (8:40) they are just selfish people, they live alone, they're negative people, they only like themselves, (8:47) they don't agree with anybody else, they don't expect kindness, they translate things differently, (8:56) you do good things to them, they understand it negatively, so those people, they will live all (9:03) their life alone, unhappy, unsuccessful and definitely unhealthy, so do not let (9:16) those people, let their negativity impact you or impact your self-esteem, (9:24) do not let their bad behavior, their negative behavior of selfishness impact your lifestyle, (9:34) your entrepreneurial life, your mindset, you are born the way you are, you were created by (9:42) our wonderful God, the way you are, God created you, God love you, God support you, (9:52) God care about you and God sends you wonderful people, so when you see wonderful people, (10:02) when you see wonderful things happening in your life, wonderful people come to you in your life, (10:11) these are a big signals that you are wonderful, that you are awesome, that you are beautiful, (10:18) that you are handsome, that you are great, that you are special, that you are kind, (10:24) that you are lovable, that you are respectful, that you are talented, (10:31) that you are gifted from God, so those people, they are wrong, they are wrong about you, (10:42) the way they treat you, they treat themselves, the way they react to you, they react with others as (10:52) well, the way they treat you or they look at you, they do the same with others too, (11:00) do not think that they do it particularly with you, if someone is selfish, is selfish, (11:07) this is all I know, if he or she is selfish with you, that means she or he, (11:17) they are selfish with others as well, that's their character, that's their personality, (11:23) that's who they are, that's how they are, do not think that they are only like this with you or (11:30) they treat you this way only or they react to you this way, no, they are like this with everybody, (11:40) it doesn't matter how much kind you are, it doesn't matter what you do to them, (11:47) they will continue to be the same, it's a bad habit unfortunately, they have a bad behavior (11:52) and they don't realize that their negative behavior, their negative habit is impacting (11:59) their life, I've had those people, that's why I'm talking from my heart, I've had people, (12:07) some people, families, I used to say hi to them, they would say hi and then they would just walk (12:14) away, they ignore me, I used to ask them, can I come help you, can I give you a second hand, (12:21) can I support you, can I do something kind for you, they say no, no thank you, we don't need you, (12:28) we don't need your kindness, we don't need help, see I've had those people in my life, (12:33) they try to ignore me, they try to reject me, they try to isolate me, they try to avoid me, (12:45) I'm not guilty, I haven't done anything wrong, I'm just the way I am, I am kind, I am (12:53) lovable, I am wonderful, I have a beautiful heart, I know myself and I'm sure when you're (12:59) listening to me, you know yourself, you know who you are, you know how you are, that's you, (13:06) that's me, see we can't change, we can't change based on others, but we become the way we are, (13:16) that's our nature, that's our normal life, we are the way we are, those people, they will never (13:26) make me feel sad, they will never make me disappointed, those selfish people, they will (13:34) never, ever, ever make me feel like there's something wrong with me, or I don't deserve (13:42) love, care, kindness or relationships, they will never, because I know myself, (13:49) I know myself very well, I am the only one who knows myself in whole world, (13:57) so they will not impact my mindset, they will not impact my entrepreneurial journey, (14:03) they will not impact my goals, my dreams, my lifestyle, I feel sorry for them, I feel so sad (14:14) for these kind of people, because I'm happy, I'm very satisfied with my life, I'm very healthy, (14:24) I'm successful in my days, I'm super happy, I'm excited, I'm enthusiastic, I love people, (14:33) my heart is open for everyone, not only for the people in my circle, I mean I have friends just (14:42) like you, I have wonderful people around me in my life, I love them, I feel so proud of having them (14:49) in my life, and I feel very lucky, I feel so grateful to have them in my life, but I would (14:58) never show them that I'm selfish, I would never reject their invitations, I will always show them (15:09) how much I love them, how much I care about them, how much I believe in them, how much I trust them, (15:15) how much I'm willing to stand for them, to support them, any friend ask me for help, I go help, (15:22) any friend call me, message me, I will answer it, so I'm not, I'm not like those people, (15:33) so I want you to say, I want you to think like this, you're not like them, you should feel sad, (15:42) sorry for them, you're not like them, you see, the reason why they treat you like this, (15:48) the reason why they avoid you, the reason why when you see them outdoor, they don't say hi to you, (15:55) even though they know you, or they saw you, but they don't greet you, they don't say hi to you, (16:01) trust me, I've had those people, I've had them, I saw them in the hockey games, I met them (16:08) at the grocery stores, I've seen them driving cars by me, and they were looking at me, but they (16:15) don't say hi to me, they don't greet me, they try to ignore me, but I'm not like them, my heart is (16:24) open to everybody, I greet people, I say hi to people, I do kindness to people, I support people, (16:32) I show people that I'm respectful, that I'm lovable, that I'm gifted from God, the way I am, (16:42) I am wonderful, I love people, I love doing nice things to other people, because I'm not like (16:50) those selfish people, I don't feel proud of being like them, the reason why I told you earlier, (17:00) you should be happy, you should be grateful, you should be proud of yourself, the way you are, (17:09) who you are, because you're not like those people, you're different, you're lovable, you're unique, (17:18) you're special, you're confident, you're amazing, you're handsome, you're beautiful, (17:26) whether you're a man or a woman, you're not like those people, you should feel so happy with (17:33) yourself, you should feel so proud of yourself, when you look at yourself in the mirror, the way (17:40) you are, not everyone is like you, but this is who you are, this is how you are, you're not like those (17:47) people, you should celebrate, you should feel grateful when you wake up in the morning, to be (17:55) the way you are, and having those wonderful people in your life, and you should feel sorry, you should (18:04) feel sad for those selfish people, and you should ignore them, please ignore them, avoid them, (18:12) if they say hi to you, if they greet you, you can greet them, I'm not saying go be mean to them, (18:19) go do revenge to them, or treat them the way they treat you, I'm not saying this, but (18:28) don't try to be people pleaser, don't try to do kindness to those people, don't try to show them (18:35) that you care about them so much, that you love them so much, don't, don't try that, because (18:42) that means nothing to them, I'm telling you from my own personal experience, because I used to be (18:48) this person, I used to be guilty of this, they will not understand, they will not accept it, (18:55) they will not welcome you in their lives, so if you see them, greet them, say hi to them, (19:02) smile to them, that's the best thing, this is the best revenge you can do to them, (19:08) and just walk away, you don't need to talk to them, you don't need to ask them about their (19:14) lives, you don't need to tell them about your life, what you're working on, what you're doing (19:21) right now, what you are doing in your daily entrepreneurial life, you don't need to talk to (19:28) them, do not, do not make this mistake, because those people, their ignorance, their selfishness (19:38) is controlling them, is controlling their mind, their heart, but your heart is not controlled (19:47) of anything, your heart is natural, your heart is beautiful, is open for everybody, not limited, (19:59) so I've had those people in my life, and unfortunately, some days I felt so sad, I felt (20:08) so disappointed, and I always told myself, like, why those people are doing like this, why? (20:16) I'm so kind to them, I invite them, I go and visit them, I try to be as much as nice to them, but (20:26) why they don't understand me, why they translate my kindness in the opposite way, not in the right (20:35) way, but I stopped that, I stopped criticizing myself, I stopped analyzing it, I stopped (20:44) overthinking it, I stopped repeating the same thoughts, the same blame, the same critics, (20:51) critic, I stopped, because what happened, what ended up happening is that it was, it was taking (21:01) so much energy of my life, I was wasting so much energy because of those people, but I changed my (21:10) focus, I changed my mindset, I changed the way I think, I forgot about those people, I just ignored (21:17) them, whatever they do, whatever they show me, I just ignore it, I don't even think about it, I (21:23) don't waste my time, waste my energy, waste any effort thinking about those people, thinking about (21:31) their attitude, about their reaction, about their bad negative behavior, instead, I focused on my (21:39) health, I focused on my life, I focused on my business, I focused on my future, I laser focused (21:49) on my goals, on my dreams, and I only think about the people that I love, that I care about, (21:56) that I respect a lot, and I feel so happy, so grateful, so wonderful about having those people (22:06) in my life, because they are different than those selfish people, they are not like those selfish (22:13) people, the people that I have in my life, they're nice, they're kind, they're beautiful, they're (22:19) handsome, they are wonderful, they are supportive, they are ambitious, just like me, they are respectful (22:28) people, they're simple people, they are humble people, I'm sure you have similar people in your (22:35) life as well, not everyone is like those people, but I don't want to have those people in my life, (22:43) to be honest with you, I don't want to have those selfish people in my life, because they, what they (22:49) do is, they just bring posing into my life, they just bring negativity into my life, why would I (22:57) have them in my life, I just ignore them, I just avoid them, I don't visit them, I don't want to (23:03) make relationships with them, I don't want to call them, I don't want to talk to them, (23:10) waste my time, I don't waste my time with those people, why, why the hell would I waste my time (23:17) with selfish people, if they are avoiding me, if they're ignoring me, if they don't want to talk to (23:24) me, if they don't want to translate my kindness, well, the best thing I can do is just not having (23:31) them in my life, just avoid them, just ignore them, I mean, I have nothing to do with those people, (23:39) I'm not angry, I'm not overwhelmed, I'm not frustrated, because of their attitude, because (23:47) of their reaction, because of their behavior, no, that's their life, that's none of my business, (23:54) that's who they are, that's how they are, and this is the environment that they came from, (24:01) some people money changes them, some people luxury things change them, some people (24:10) wealth changes them, but for me, nothing changes me, I'm the one, I am the way I am, I am the way (24:20) I have been, so I don't change like those people, I don't change for my friends like those people, (24:29) I stay the same, I'm the same, it doesn't matter if I'm wealthy or not wealthy, if I have (24:35) luxury car or a luxury house or not, I am the same like I always have been, so I don't change those (24:44) like those people, I don't become selfish, because I made money, because I made wealth, (24:50) no, it's wonderful feeling, I feel so happy, I feel so excited, so enthusiastic, so healthy, (25:01) when I am the way I am, when I don't try to be more kind, when I don't try to create relationships (25:09) with people who don't want it, I'm so happy, I'm saving so much time, so much energy, (25:17) when I'm not trying to be people pleaser or try to get closer to those people, I just live them, (25:26) live their lives, I live my own life, so please, if you have this kind of people who see you outside, (25:34) they know you, they see you, and they know they should greet you, they should say hi to you, (25:41) but they ignore you, or they don't accept your invitations, or if you try to visit them, (25:47) or if you try to support them, or do kindness to them, and they refuse it, they ignore you, (25:53) they avoid it, do not try that, do not let this bad habit ruin your life, and then you will blame (26:01) yourself, and then you will criticize yourself, and then you will look at yourself negatively, (26:07) and blame yourself for doing kindness to those people, no, just protect your health, protect your (26:15) time, protect your focus, protect your mindset, protect your energy, so you can use these resources, (26:25) so you can save these resources for your future, and not waste it on those people, (26:33) I've had those people in my life, and to be honest with you, before they used to make me feel angry, (26:41) frustrated, overwhelmed, stressed, but not anymore, because I became aware of those people, (26:48) let me share with you this simple story, as an example of what I'm talking about, you see, (26:56) I remember I have this friend, my best friend in my life, and I'm still having this friend in my (27:04) life, and I always care about this individual, so I remember I was complaining about someone (27:14) to that friend, and I told him, you know, that individual, or that family, I'm always nice to (27:23) them, I'm always kind to them, I'm always supportive to them, I always accept their (27:29) invitations, I go visit them, I do kindness to them, I support them, I help them, I have donated (27:38) an enormous amount of time and energy to those people, but suddenly they changed, (27:45) suddenly they became selfish, and they ignore me, they avoid me, they don't accept my invitations, (27:52) they don't want to hang out with me, they don't want to continue their relationships, (27:58) they ignore me, they avoid me, and I told them, man, you know me, you know how wonderful I am, (28:06) you know how kind I am, I'm a very simple person, I'm a very humble person, (28:10) I'm not like other people, I love people, I care about others, that's why you have me as your best (28:20) friend, you know, if I wasn't like that, you would have left me a long time ago, and then that friend, (28:28) he replied to me, he told me, Mohammad, he was laughing, he told me, why are you even saying (28:36) this, why are you thinking negatively, why are you complaining, why are you even blaming, you know, (28:48) we people, we are different, out there, there are so nice, wonderful people, but don't expect that (28:57) everyone is like this, don't expect that everyone will understand you, don't expect that everyone (29:05) will translate your kindness, your care, your love in a certain way, or in the right way, (29:14) so he told me, let me tell you this thing, he told me, you know, Mohammad, (29:22) I know who you are, I know how wonderful you are, and I know your heart, I know what kind of heart (29:30) you have, but he told me, Mohammad, that family, those people that they do this to you, (29:39) they don't have that, he told me, they don't have similar hearts, your heart is not like their (29:46) hearts, you have love, but they don't have love, you care about them, you care about others, (29:57) you care about me, your best