The Goddess Rising Podcast

Ep 7. Breaking Free from Generational Patterns: My Journey to Becoming a Cycle Breaker

• Jemma Wheatley • Episode 7

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What if you could break free from the invisible chains of harmful generational and societal patterns? On today's episode of the Goddess Rising podcast, I, Gemma, share my transformative journey of becoming a cycle breaker. I'll recount the challenges and eye-opening realizations that spurred me to question and ultimately dismantle the unconscious cycles that had been holding me back. By making a conscious choice to change, I've paved the way for a healthier future for myself and my children. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the importance of personal responsibility in healing and the profound empowerment that comes from actively choosing to reshape our lives.

We honor the courage and commitment of all cycle breakers who are making a difference, one step at a time. Celebrate with me as we acknowledge the vital work we do for ourselves, our families, and future generations. I'll share my gratitude for the progress made and offer a glimpse into future episodes where I'll introduce the tools that have been instrumental in my journey. Until then, I send you love, happiness, and a reminder to cherish the small moments each day. Join me in this powerful episode and feel inspired to take charge of your own transformative journey.

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Speaker 1:

Hello, beautiful goddesses, and welcome to today's episode of the Goddess Rising podcast. I'm Gemma and today I am going to be sharing with you a bit about my journey and how I became a cycle breaker Because, to be honest, I didn't really know that I was one, and maybe you don't know that you are one, know that I was one and maybe you don't know that you are one. So when I look back at what I have overcome in my life, I could see certain challenges that I definitely decided weren't going to be part of my future, weren't going to be part of my future. There were quite a lot of generational cycles that I felt were not serving me, and before I even really truly knew what healing or, you know, energy work or anything like that, was, before any kind of spiritual awakening, I was breaking cycles. You know, I used to be that kid that would ask questions about why, why does it have to be like that, why can't it be like this? You know, why do we do this and why do we do that? And I used to take so much notice of what was happening around me and how people were interacting, and I was always very interested in just wanting to understand people a little bit better, and it's so interesting that now, fast forward you know, 30 years I find myself being able to look at people in a different way and understand them in a much on a much deeper level than I ever have before, and that has given me so many insights into what in my life isn't working and when I'm looking at what I don't really enjoy about certain aspects of of myself or the stories that I've chosen to believe I, I understand now that I can choose something different, and that's what it is really about being a cycle breaker. It's about choice. It's about choosing something new that maybe you haven't been exposed to before, something that may be a completely new, completely new thing to you.

Speaker 1:

Um, you know, there's so many aspects of being a cycle breaker that I would never have thought that it would be. Like you know, I, I didn't ever consider that by me choosing to look at the patterns you know through from myself to my mom, to her mom, to my aunties, my uncles, like you know the wider family, and on, you know, on both sides of my family, on all sides of my family, on my in-law side of the family. You know, I look at, look back through and like it's like I can join the dots and go okay. So this has all been brought to me, to my attention now, brought to me to be able to do something about, because the buck stops here. You know, I don't want to pass these things on to my children. I don't want to be in this loop forever, you know, and some things are small, some things feel really big, but, in essence, every time I choose to make a different choice. So every time I choose to make a new decision, every time I choose to look at something for what it is instead of just taking it on as my own, I get to break those cycles for for my, for them you know, it's not just for me and so when I first started realizing that I was breaking these cycles and I was healing myself and healing my emotions and healing my you know disconnect from life and my disconnect from people and all sorts of different things that were popping up in my life, I realized that being a cycle breaker isn't the easy path, and so I'm really sorry to break it to you, but if you are listening now and you're like yeah, I'm going to be a cycle breaker too, I am a cycle breaker and you're like, yeah, yeah, all good. It's hard work sometimes and it has been a really interesting journey for me to accept that as well.

Speaker 1:

You know, I feel like so much of it is. We're in this society of things being a quick fix here, come to me, I'll fix it for you. Here, come to me, I'll give you this. Here, come to me. And it happens in the healing world, in the spiritual realms as well. It's not just a go to the doctor for a pill type fix. That's not just what I'm talking about. I'm talking about going to a healer who says I can do all of that for you. That's not actually what it's about for me. It's certainly not something that I want to be for my clients either, but for me, going to somebody and expecting them to fix it is basically just asking them to put a band-aid on it for me because they're not there to break this cycle.

Speaker 1:

I'm here to break this cycle and that's a really hard truth. That is a really hard pill to swallow to start with, but once you can understand and step back and look at why you don't want someone else to break your cycle, you can really step into this. What would you say it is like this role. You know, I really feel like breaking cycles is part of my mission. You know, it's part of why I'm here. I'm here to break these cycles for myself and my children. I'm here to break cycles in society as well. You know, not just generational patterns, but there are so many societal patterns that we all come into that it's now time to go. No, this is not working. Let's look for something new.

Speaker 1:

But if we were to hand that over to somebody and they were going to fix it, and they were going to break that cycle for you and give it, you know, write the piece of paper and say, well, here we've broken this cycle, here you go and you go, okay, cool, thank you. And take your prescription home and and off you go. You then will find that that cycle will pop up again, because that's what happens it pops up, there's a new layer, and then you look at your prescription and go, but it's fixed. And then you go well, what's wrong with me? And you sit here and you, you go into this spiral of what's wrong with me. They told me it was fixed, but the thing about that and and when you understand and when you experience that you've given away your power to somebody else instead of going to them and saying, okay, I'm at this point in breaking this cycle.

Speaker 1:

I feel really stuck and lost. Can you please give me a balance of some description? Can you peel back a little bit of a layer, not expecting them to heal it for you, not expecting them to do the work for you, but give you the tools and the energy upgrades and the uncovering that is required for you to step in and break that cycle, and for you to step in and see what's actually under the surface and what's going on, and for you to make those choices time after time after time, when they jump in, when these cycles pop back up, and that, once you can get to that point and that took me a while to really understand, it took me a while to get to that point of, okay, this is actually on me. I need to take responsibility for my own healing and my own cycle breaking, because these are my cycles that I have chosen to take on. It's all been a choice this whole time, you know, know, I could have chosen not to take that on. I could have chosen to look away and just be like, well, that's not mine, that's yours. You know, I could have done that from five years old, but I didn't. And so now when I'm looking at my cycles and now when I'm working through them, I can see the power I have in stepping up and into that fire pit with my cycles and going, okay, let's do this, let's have a look at it, let's really get to the bottom of it and let's really break free of this. And once we can see those stories and once we take responsibility and ownership of what is ours, it becomes so much lighter and so much easier to shift and move through. And because I can guarantee you that if you try and pass it to somebody else, it will get passed back and it will be bigger.

Speaker 1:

And healing takes time. Healing has layers, cycles have more than one level to them, and so it's an evolution Like. This is what I'm looking at. It's the evolution of becoming someone new. It's not just waking up one day and being someone different to who you were yesterday although, yes, that does happen at times in small parts. But that part also comes back, and so you haven't evolved past it, you've just moved through it or, you know, pushed it to the side sometimes because we think, oh no, we've done that, we've done that, we've broken that cycle and off we go.

Speaker 1:

So there is many ways to look at it, but my journey has definitely been one of a love-hate, with breaking cycles and wanting to be that cycle breaker and desiring change and having choice for myself and my children. You know it's being willing and brave enough to step back and look at it and go okay, this was mine and I chose to take it on, not passing the blame to somebody else who may have, who you may have inherited it from you know, or who showed you that. That was the story that was told and that's what you needed to take on. You still had responsibility, you know, in that you still was able to take that on. You chose to take that on, and so it's a very interesting way of being able to move through into this place, of actually welcoming the cycles that need to be broken and moving through them, and I'm not saying that I welcome them with open arms and then fall in love with them, because some of them are really hard, and so it's.

Speaker 1:

It's a really big journey when you open your arms up to go okay, I'm ready for the next cycle to come, for me to break, and you can look at it with open arms, open heart, open mind and go, okay, let's, let's do this. And then you have to go through all of the emotions, go through all of the stuff that comes with it's. It's not just a, you know, it is. In a lot of ways, it is a simple process, um, but it's also not an easy path, but it is one that every person that I come across that is a cycle breaker needs to step deeper into.

Speaker 1:

And if you're listening to this, there's a fair chance. You probably are a cycle breaker and you are one of the beautiful goddesses rising right now and it is such an honor to be able to do this work for ourselves and our families and generations to come, you know, because we are the ones changing the world bit by bit, cycle by cycle. I'll leave you with that today, but I will come back and do an episode on some of the tools that I use and some of the tools that I've, I continue to use and have used in the past, about, you know, working through to you, using them to work through some of these things, and we'll start to take a bit more of a deep dive into how we can start breaking some of these cycles for good. Until then, I'm wishing you so much love, so much happiness, and enjoy the little moments in every day. Talk to you soon. Bye.