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Ep 8. Understanding "Simmering": Breaking Free from Repetitive Cycles
Ever wondered why the same frustrating issues keep cropping up in your life? Discover the fascinating concept of "simmering" and how it can help you break free from repetitive cycles. In this episode of the Goddess Rising podcast, I, Gemma, guide you through understanding the subtle stages of awareness, emotional processing, and the physical manifestations that signal a cycle in need of breaking. By tuning into your frustration and allowing it to simmer like water slowly heating to a boil, you'll uncover transformative insights about your habits and thought patterns.
Learn how to identify the emotional rollercoaster that accompanies cycle breaking, and the constant mental chatter that often plagues us during these times. We'll explore how physical symptoms like backaches and upset stomachs can be your body's way of communicating unresolved issues. With practical tips and a compassionate approach, this episode aims to help you navigate your journey of growth and self-discovery, offering a holistic view on breaking free from stubborn patterns. Tune in and start your journey towards a more liberated you.
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Hello, beautiful goddess, and welcome to the Goddess Rising podcast. I'm your host, gemma, and today we are going to be talking about the ways that we actually break cycles and what we can do when we feel a little bit stuck. So what I mean when I say the ways that we break cycles? Cycle breaking isn't just something we think about, not just something we talk about, not just something we do. It's something we feel through, it's something we embody, which means we look at our actual physical bodies. It is something we also need to sleep on and allow it to what I like to call simmer.
Speaker 1:I come up with this term of something simmering. It must have been a while ago, probably 12 months ago, and I just love the concept because you can just understand it when you're working through something and something just simmering, because you can just understand it. When you're working through something and something's just simmering, you're just leaving it to simmer and it just bubbles away and then, all of a sudden, it's like coming on to full boil and you're like, oh yeah, I can see it now. I understand and I just love the way that it feels when you actually think about the feeling of it, and it's a perfect way to look at cycle breaking. Because, let's be honest, when we aren't aware of a cycle, it's not doing anything, like it's just the water in the pot. And so when we start to notice that we have a cycle, which generally comes through frustration in a lot of ways For me, certainly, it's frustration Like what is going on? Why isn't this working? Why does this same thing keep coming up over and over and over again? Like what is going on here? And so when I'm looking at that, I'm like'm like okay, so what is the actual problem here? What is the cycle? What is this really about? And so when I'm at that stage, I feel like I've just turned the water on to like a quarter, you know, turned it around to a quarter, and so then I turned the heat on. I should say I don't think I said that, turned the heat on to a quarter of the way, right. And so it's starting to warm up. So things are starting to happen in that water, in that pot, and the more I kind of look at it, the more I'm turning up the heat, right. And then I get to a point where I'm like okay, I can fully see what's happening here, but there's some puzzle pieces missing, and so I just let it simmer, and it can simmer for days, it can simmer for weeks.
Speaker 1:It just depends on how big and deep the actual feeling and the emotion and the thinking and the pattern actually is. Because this is the thing with the Simmer right, the Simmer will go through different stages. It goes through an emotional stage where all of the emotions to do with this come up and down and up and down, and up and down, and so we actually are processing this cycle on an emotional level. So we need to allow these emotions to come up and down and allow it to settle in. Once that's done and this isn't in any particular order, this is just the stages then we can have a mental layer. We can have the mental stage, which is all of the thinking of things. It's the memories that are popping in and like all the different thoughts, and you realize yourself saying certain things and you see yourself like just not being able to stop talking about it because you're thinking about it so much, and so it's all of these things that are then coming in and being processed through the mind that is then helping to break the cycle.
Speaker 1:Another stage we have is the physical stage which manifests in physical symptoms. So sometimes you might find you've got an upset tummy, you might have a cough, you might have a dry or runny nose, like there's different symptoms depending on what it is. You might get a sore foot, a pain in your hand, just something happening in your body. A backache is a really good sign that there is something shifting here and depending on what part of your body it's in, it can mean a different, whole host of different things. Know, I've got a beautiful book that I love that talks about what the pain is, where it is in the body, and you can kind of join the dots and see whether that's a new layer of your cycle that you're trying to break and you don't have to look at it. But I find it helpful to look at it and do some healing on that because physically it's showing up. So physically you can do something about it. And when you do that, whether that's through energy work, whether that's through using homeopathic remedies, whether that's through essential oils, whether that's through sound, whether that's through seeing a massage therapist, whatever it might be moving the energy through helps to process the cycle as well.
Speaker 1:And on another level, the other stage is that energetically, you will find things are different. So when I'm processing something energetically which is essentially through the cells of the body, through the aura, which is your field outside of your body, this is a kind of stage where I feel quite spacey because we are giving it space to actually just fully process. So sometimes I'm really tired, sometimes I just want to just lay on the grass and do nothing, sometimes I just have to drop all of my plans and just have a day where I try and do very little and give it some space, doing the best to of pops up again and you're like oh, this is really interesting. But because you've already processed it all, it kind of flows through you a lot easier.
Speaker 1:If you find that a cycle pops up and you're still having that emotional reaction to it, then you haven't probably processed all of the emotions around it. If this cycle pops up and next minute you've got like a backache or, you know, period pain or like heart, sore heart, like not sore heart, you know, like like that, that aching like over your chest or lungs or anything like that, you know your heart might start racing. It means that you're not, you haven't fully processed it in your body and so we can use these four main stages as a way of understanding where we're at with this particular cycle, when it pops back up as well and it will pop back up because we haven't processed it somewhere, which is a really fascinating thing to look at when you notice it happening. So, when you're looking at a cycle and you're looking at the stages and you can start joining those dots, then you've got a choice. The choice is to allow that stage to fully open.
Speaker 1:So when I'm in the emotional stage, I'm like, okay, this sucks. Like I am really low right now. There's so many emotions going on. I'm left, right and center. I can't get a grip on anything. Instead of trying to get a grip on everything and anything, I'm opening up on everything and anything. I'm opening up Any moment I can like. If I've just had a massive outburst of frustration and anger, I'm like, oh, just let that go now, just open it up Instead of trying to hold on to it and get guilty about it and frustrated even more. Open it up and allow it to be released and processed, because if this is happening in the same cycles like coming in we feel like we're headbutting the wall all the time. We need to look at which stage we're in and whether or not we've allowed that stage to fully process.
Speaker 1:And so this is the simmering, simmering part of the process of breaking a cycle. When it gets to the boil, I find that that is the stage where the energetic part comes in. This is the stage where it's time to just have a little rest, allow it to all open up, allow those bubbles to all burst, and then it comes back to full circle and then we're back into rest, we're back into turning off the hot plate and it's back to zero. So this is what happens in a cycle. In breaking these cycles, it also what happens in our body. When our cells are breaking cycles and renewing, they go through this process of heating up and erupting Like this is actually what happens, and so it's a really great way of just seeing where you're at, checking whether you've got physical symptoms, checking whether you've got emotional symptoms, checking whether you've got the feelings of being tired or anything like that.
Speaker 1:You can really start to notice where you're at and with your thinking and whether or not you just can't seem to get this thing off your mind or you can't seem to stop talking about it, like for me, this is something that, like the emotions, come very fast and easy for me, so I find it easier, my emotions get processed easier, even though sometimes I feel like it's a hard process to go through. I actually find personally the mental side of it the hardest, because I feel like that causes my emotions to come up as well, because I'm like I don't to come up as well, because I'm like I don't want to be thinking about this thing all the time. I don't want to be talking about it all the time, and so I go through this phase of feeling like there's so much pressure inside my head that I I just want it to go, want it to be gone, and so that's when I need to really focus on opening up. Um, that would be my area of challenge when it comes to breaking cycles. Um, but when you're aware of this stuff, when you can see that you know maybe you are in that part of the cycle that's making your head feel like it's going to explode, that you can go.
Speaker 1:Okay, I have a choice here. I can choose to continue trying to make this really hard, or I can choose to open up and let it go, and it's just a matter of practicing and really visualizing things opening up and being released and processed. But essentially it's a such a great way of using those four key stages to see where you're at and understand what else you have to do in certain ways, and just understanding too that that's the process that most cycles go through before they're broken. You kind of start to expect that this thing's going to arise and then you'll be able to deal with it and work through it. So it just helps, I find, to make it a little bit smoother, if you can call it that.
Speaker 1:But anyway, I will leave it there and that is all I have for you on this particular topic. If you've got questions, if you've got anything simmering away you're not sure where it's at feel free to drop me a message and we can work through it. But apart from that, I am going to leave you with those snippets and we will take a deep dive in another episode, and we will take a deep dive in another episode, and I am wishing you so much happiness, love, peace and gratitude in your day today Until next time. I am sending you so much love. Bye for now.