The Goddess Rising Podcast
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The Goddess Rising Podcast
Ep 11. The Transformative Power of Parenting: Lessons from Our Children
What if your children are your greatest teachers? Join me, Gemma, as I share my transformative journey of parenting, inspired by nearly a decade of experience and a friend's struggles with their teenage son. We'll explore how the dynamic, reciprocal relationship between parent and child fosters profound growth for both parties. Through heartfelt anecdotes, we’ll uncover the lessons our children bring into our lives and the importance of embracing them. Together, we'll see how recognizing these lessons can lead us to a more enlightened and empowered path of parenting.
We also tackle the challenging yet essential task of understanding and healing parental triggers. By reflecting on our own childhood experiences, we identify the root causes of these triggers and break generational cycles of trauma. With compassion and practical strategies, we discuss how to release these triggers energetically and prevent burdening our children with unresolved issues. Finally, we celebrate the unique bond between parent and child and emphasize the importance of support in this spiritual journey. Let’s transform parenting into an empowering journey of healing and growth, guided by the wisdom our children offer us.
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Welcome to the Goddess Rising podcast, the place where heartfelt stories, love, kindness and laughs are always shared. I am your host, gemma, and I am an intuitive channel bringing you all kinds of stories from my own experience, my own life conversations, as well as channeled messages from my guides, to help bring each of us into a place of peace, love and acceptance of who we are, why we're here and where we are headed. If you love growth, changing your thoughts and habits, finding your belief systems that need changing, then you have come to the right place. Walk with me hand in hand as I help you uncover more of who you are, letting go of the old and stepping into the new. It is my greatest honor to have you here on this journey. Welcome, incredible human, and thank you for joining me for today's episode. If you haven't already done it, go ahead and hit the subscribe button, because these episodes are dropping whenever they're kind of coming through, so sometimes it's a bit more often than others, but make sure you don't miss them, because they have been incredibly powerful.
Speaker 1:Today, I am inspired to share some messages, I guess, from. I guess, some messages that are really quite loud in my ears at the moment about parenting essentially, um, it was really sparked by a conversation I had with a friend whose teenage boy is just driving them crazy, you know, really pushing the buttons, really finding it hard to get to any point of common ground and just not enjoying it at all, which can be very challenging. And I'm definitely not going to sit here and give parenting advice for a 17 year old boy, because I haven't been there yet, so I'm not going to do that. But what I am going to do is share my experiences with my children so far, you know, because it's always changing, it's always ebbing and flowing and new challenges arise in every season, and that's something that I definitely can see. You know, coming up, the end of the year will be a decade of parenting, which is kind of crazy, um, and you know we're we're always constantly shifting and evolving as humans, and that means that we're shifting and evolving as parents.
Speaker 1:But something that I definitely realized through that conversation and through other conversations with other friends is that I definitely have a unique perspective on parenting, in a way that not necessarily that I'm doing anything different or you know better or worse than anybody else, but I feel like we're all just doing the best we can do, but more so in my perspective around what my purpose is as a parent and what my children's purpose is as my children as well, and that's really something that I guess I take for granted, in that I don't share a lot about it, because I don't sort of realize that I've had that different perspective. So my view of my children, the one of the things that I have come to really cherish about them, is that they are the greatest teachers, but we, as parents, have to allow them to be that and to step into that role. They came here to teach us as parents just as much as we are here to teach them, and I really believe that if it weren't for my children, there is not a hope that I would be sitting here doing this podcast. They are shifting and shaping my parenthood because of their experiences, because of my ability to sit back and go okay. So what's the lesson here for me?
Speaker 1:And that's something that is also not an easy path to walk, and I say that because there are times when we're looking at our children and we are going. They are just driving me crazy. Why do they have to do that constantly? Why is there never a break from that particular thing that they do and why are they always pushing that button, you know, and it's not until we actually step out of that and step back and then go oh okay, so where is this resonating in me? Where is this vibration, where is this attachment, where is this program message? Why is it grinding on my system so much? And the answer to that is because the energy that they are putting out is within your system as well, and so it's got this push and pull happening.
Speaker 1:We are willing to deep dive into ourselves and see what it is, where it came from, whose was it? What perspective do we pick up? Whose thought belief pattern, program did we choose to buy into at that time? And I'll give you a little tip and this is something that I just find so fascinating is, when we're doing this work, we need to look at the age of our children, and we need to go back to that little 10 year old self, that little eight year old self, that little 17 year old self, and go what happened and where is this particular issue, whether it might be, you know, their frustration or their anger or their, you know, pushing somebody or shoving someone like what is that value? And what happened at that age for you that sets that little trigger button off. That sets that little trigger button off. And this isn't necessarily easy work to do, which is why so many people struggle with moving past that point of things always having to be difficult and things always having to push your buttons.
Speaker 1:You know, I am very much a believer in taking a look and seeing why it's there and seeing what the trigger is and understanding why it exists in the first place, because most likely as children, we've taken on a belief or a habit or a program of somebody else's because we believed it would keep us safe. Program of somebody else's because we believed it would keep us safe. Because as kids, most of the time, depending on your household, you probably just wanted to blend in, so you didn't stand out, so you didn't get in trouble. You know that's a majority of people I find, is that we were just. You know we had to sit down and be quiet and that was that. You know, mind your own business type situation. Know we had to sit down and be quiet and that was that. You know, mind your own business type situation, and you know, I think that takes a lot of undoing and for every age of each of your children you are going to be looking at a similar thing, or in each of them they could all be triggering you in a different way.
Speaker 1:So you know, as the example of my friend with their 17 year old boy, it's also having compassion for ourselves at that age and compassion for our children at the age that they are, because, without a doubt, being a 17 year old boy in the world that we're growing up in right now would not be easy. There would be so many challenges, and if we can sit with an open heart and have compassion for where they are and then look at ourselves and what we needed as a 17 year old and maybe what's not being given to that child at that age, you know where can we start to honor that within ourselves? So then it's not reflected so much in our children, because I really do believe that we as parents have come here in this lifetime, in this time in the world, in our evolution, to grow and change and step deeper into our healing, because so much of it is generational. But the thing is, it's our responsibility to start shifting and changing it, because if we don't, then our children are going to have to, and I don't know about you, but I don't want to have to put that onto my children. They're going to have their own stuff to work through and, you know, if I can lighten that load just a little bit, then that's my job and I'm going to do that for them. Obviously, we're helping ourselves as well. We're shifting the burden off us, but we're also shifting it off our children, and to me that is incredibly important work and I can't not do that. So that is my advice as a parent.
Speaker 1:As I said, I don't have all the answers and this is just something that is my unique perspective and experience with my children. And yes, while we may not understand completely what our children are going through because sometimes they don't talk to us, sometimes they don't know what's going on, sometimes there is so many other things welling up inside of them that makes it very confusing. But if you can come back to that compassion piece and just go, I get it. There are days where I don't know how to feel, I don't know which way is up, I don't know how to pick myself up out of that place, I get it. And let's not put so much pressure on our kids to try and force them to understand what's going on when sometimes there's just no answer. It just takes time, it just takes love, it just takes compassion to help them feel safe and supported to move through.
Speaker 1:Whatever it is that they're moving through, and if there's parts of it that you're triggered by, then that's your job to look at it and to understand why. Where it came from, does it still serve your current adult being? And if it doesn't, you're allowed to let it go, you're allowed to send it back to where it came from. And if that's something you kind of need help with, please let me know, because I am more than happy to help with that, because you know, we don't always know what to do in those moments and I change it up a lot too. You know, sometimes it is sitting quietly and handing it back energetically and cutting those cords and giving it back to the person that came from. Sometimes it is just dropping it out of your basket and letting it roll down the street. You know, sometimes it is sending it off with an archangel or something to take and transmute and send back to the, to the earth, as light and love. Sometimes it is violet flame, sometimes there's just so many tools you could use, and so if you need help, please do not hesitate one moment to reach out to me, because I am more than happy to walk you through some of the things that I I do in these moments and, as always, I'm going to move on to the channeled part of my podcast and, for those, if you are new listening, I will tune into my guides and see what they have to say on this subject and, as they are speaking through me, I will sound slightly different, I find I do find my voice changes a little bit. So that's what's going on. When you start to hear me, come back in a moment, I will be channeling direct what my guides are saying on this subject, and I'm actually quite excited to hear what they have to say. I will be honest. So here we go. I'll just be a moment and come back to you with these messages, thank you. Thank you for being here.
Speaker 1:We find this a very interesting subject to be speaking of at the moment, because there are so many parents out there in such deep turmoil Turmoil that, unfortunately, they have potentially brought to themselves, but their children are doing that, as Gemma said, through a way of learning and teaching the parents and showing them what actually needs to be healed. As parents, it is often a challenging job to step aside from yourself and see your children as independent beings because as an adult, as a specifically as a mother for those of you listening the mothers are intrinsically wired to actually completely energetically attached to their children, especially until the age of about seven, where they begin to create their own aura and disconnect from their parents. And that is when you start to see the children really stepping into their own, really pushing the boundaries, really starting to question things, because suddenly they aren't their mother or their father. Suddenly they are their own person, their own being. And this can be quite a challenging time and a quite confusing time. Quite confusing time.
Speaker 1:But, as parents, when we understand that there are ways to see our children in either a, a how should we put this? Sometimes we see that parents tend to put their children in almost the too hard basket. It's almost like we've got to figure them out, but we can't figure them out, so we're just going to sit them over there until we know what to do with them. Other parents are willing to actually sit and look at their children in the eyes and see them on a soul level to really start to do some healing in that space with their children. And these are the two baskets a lot of parents find themselves in. They're either in one basket of we don't know what to do with my children when they are experiencing this and the other one of okay, let's do something about this.
Speaker 1:There is actually also a third basket, which is the parent who wants to continually fix it. We want to fix it, we don't want to deal with it, we don't want to look at it, we don't want to heal it, we want to fix it, we want to distract from it. And that is almost as bad as the too hard basket, because we can often see that parents are very disconnected from their children in that way. They say there's a problem, but they're so emotionally attached to that problem that they just need to fix it, they need to distract themselves. So they go out shopping and buy the child things because they believe that the buying of things is a way to fix that child's problem. But it is just a way to distract the parent from fixing things or from feeling their own emotions around these things, because emotions are incredibly challenging when you have the child amplifying those emotions. And it's not until you can step back a moment and disconnect yourself emotionally from your child that you actually have the ability to do something about it.
Speaker 1:Because as a parent, as I said before, you are intrinsically wired to your children. Especially as a mother, you have your own special dna wiring, which means that you can feel and sense your children, no matter where they are and what they are going through. Sometimes you just have this, this instinct and that's what they like to call it the motherly instinct that sometimes you just have that feeling that something's not quite right. And then the school will ring and they say your child has had a fall, your child is sick and you're like I knew it. That's what you will say. I knew it.
Speaker 1:And so our point with all of this, our point with you being able to see the three baskets that you may put your children into, it's a way of allowing yourself to accept and acknowledge and appreciate yourself for where you are and where you have been on this journey so far, and know that nobody is perfect. Even the parents who are sitting there looking into their children's eyes and asking for the healing to occur, they too are not perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect parent. There is a such thing as a parent willing to do the work, and maybe you're on the fence. Maybe sometimes you find that, yes, you are willing to do the work, but other times it's just too hard and you can't do it.
Speaker 1:Our advice to you is to find somebody. Seek somebody that is able to support you through, because without the support, you won't necessarily get too far, especially when you are looking at your child, who may be 10 years old, and you are going back to your age of 10 years old and maybe that is traumatic for you, maybe that is very challenging for you, and that is when you need the support, because you don't have to do this alone. You didn't sign up to do this alone. Your children signed up to be with you, to show you what needs to be healed. It is then up to you to do that healing and to seek the people that you need. They will find you. If you desperately need it, somebody will come knocking Literally, metaphorically. They will find you. The universe will always give it to you through the path of least resistance, and sometimes that may be through a friend, that may be through a recommendation, that may be someone you just randomly see in the street. The universe will find you. They're the conductors of life. They will find ways to have you orchestrated in the most divinely timed moments.
Speaker 1:When you choose to start your journey of healing as a parent and to start seeing your children as teachers and allowing them to show you and guide you in this life, just as you are believing to guide them to show you and guide you in this life, just as you are believing to guide them. And when we say believing to guide them, your job as a parent is to keep them safe for as long as possible until they are able to make their own decisions. And when that moment comes, it's time to release that butterfly out of the cocoon. Because if you keep holding them in the cocoon, they get too big and strong and they begin to get fierce in a way that is detrimental, not in a way that is empowered. So the longer you hold them in that cocoon, the more ferocious they will become. So giving them following their lead and giving them the freedom that they need in the moments that they need it will make your parenting journey far more enjoyable, because you did not choose to come here as a parent to struggle.
Speaker 1:You chose to come here to enjoy your life, to see the blessings as they occur in front of your eyes. There are many miracles happening every single day in front of you, and we just pray and hope that all of you can begin to see those things, one at a time, because that is when you are on your healing journey and moving in a direction that is needed for this time. There have been many generations of parenting that have done harm and it is time to start a parenting generation of good. That is all we have for you. We hope that you have received it as we have meant it, with love and light, and you will step forward into your parenting journey more empowered than before, sending blessings wow, I am back, and that was some incredible wisdom for all of us because, as I said before, you know this journey it's there's no one doing it any better or any worse than anybody else. It's just our own individual journey in our own seasons, and that's going to ebb and flow and shift and change, and those messages just there really rounded out what I was trying to speak into earlier, in that we can always change our perspective.
Speaker 1:Our perspective is not fixed, unless we force it to be fixed, which just is so much hard work. And so when we can sit back and go oh yes, I know that I've, you know, brought things for my kids to distract myself from what I'm feeling, because I don't want them to feel that way, but they're not necessarily feeling that way, it's us that's feeling that way, and so we feel like we need to do things and and distract them from it, instead of sitting with it and allowing it to be there. Because I feel like the more we can allow our own emotions to exist and our children's emotions to exist without judgment, things just get better and better and better. Because that is something I have witnessed in my own life allowing my feelings to be there and allowing my children's feelings to be there and not trying to fix them, just holding space for them to be there, making room for them, and that is how we really do, at the crux of it all, begin the healing process.
Speaker 1:This, yeah, this podcast episode, those messages from my guides, definitely have really settled into my heart space and added a layer of peace that I don't think I had there before. So I am so grateful for them and I am so grateful for you listening. I truly hope that it has touched your heart just as much as it's touched mine. And, yeah, if you enjoyed this episode and feel that another parent needs to hear this, please go ahead and share it. That's how we can get these messages out to more and more people and start that positive parenting generation that is just so needed. So needed because a lot of the old ways haven't worked so well, you know. Know, definitely there are aspects of things that have served purposes, but there is room for improvement, I'll put it that way. But I appreciate you being here and until next time, sending lots of love and lots of light. Talk soon. Sending lots of love and lots of light talk soon.