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From Wounds to Wonders The Path of Reparenting

Trish Stanford Season 1 Episode 4

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When faced with the aftermath of narcissistic abuse, the journey to healing can seem daunting and unending. Yet, I found liberation and profound transformation through practices like reparenting and Quanta Freedom Healing. Join me, Trish Stanford, as I share my personal odyssey over the past year—a journey of confronting deep-seated wounds and nurturing my inner child back to wholeness. This episode is your gateway to understanding how these powerful techniques can be catalysts for emotional growth and unlocking your potential.

Get ready to reclaim your power with a guided meditation designed to reconnect you with your past self, offering compassion and unconditional love to the parts of you that need it most. We'll explore how reparenting isn't just a healing tool but a pathway to manifesting your desires and living your best life. Together, let's embrace this shared path of self-discovery and weekly insights as we strive to unleash the transformative power within ourselves.

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Speaker 1:

Thank you. You are listening to the Awaken Wild One podcast. I'm your host, Trish Stanford. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, this podcast is my gift to other survivors. I am here to show you healing is possible and guide you in all of the ways that you can get to your very best life as soon as possible.

Speaker 2:

I am thrilled to be recording this podcast for you today. It has been nearly a year, it has been many months since I have put effort and consistency into my creative project, into my podcast, my creative project into my podcast, and this is the return of the podcast. So, for those of you who have listened especially those of you who have sent feedback and comments regarding my previous episodes mostly regarding survival of narcissistic abuse and the beautiful renaissance of life that can come after the healing that can come after, this is, for you, entirely dedicated to your healing and to helping you create your best life I can say this last year of my life has been one of the fullest, most healing, most prosperous, abundant times of change and receiving that I've ever experienced in my mid-40s some odd years, and I'm going to give you the blueprint of exactly how I've done it and hope that you can find the same level of healing and peace and prosperity in your life. I've created some simple, actionable items that I'm going to share with you over these next couple of episodes. Actionable items that I'm going to share with you over these next couple of episodes. The things that have impacted me the most, the things that I have learned from mentors, coaches, highly expensive paid coaches, therapy all of the modalities I have used to create this life that I am living now, and I can say with full humility that I have grown into, stepped into being the woman that I have always wanted to be. This podcast, specifically, is about how to integrate your child, your younger you, into your adult life.

Speaker 2:

We all know that women, people who have experienced childhood trauma, especially narcissistic abuse, childhood abuse, anything from domestic violence to I mean my childhood trauma list is long, but the most profound wounds that I have healed have been my father wound, my mother wound and my ongoing healing of reparenting the little me, the childhood me. Some of the modalities that I have used one that I would love to leave a link for you on and this is not a paid sponsorship, this is what I put money and time and energy and trust into is Quanta Freedom Healing by Melanie Tanya Evans. She has a program called NARP it's the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program and I've been using this program for we're going on seven years now and her messages are transformational, not only in her explanations but in the way that she created a healing environment. So Quantum Freedom Healing is her own developed system, divinely guided, as she claims, system where you strategically spend time in meditation calling out these pieces of you, these parts of you that have been hurt and damaged and I'm not going to give you spoilers. I would love for you to go and look up this, this person, her she's got some YouTube videos.

Speaker 2:

She's got this program that you can subscribe to in in a membership, where you get these modules, and it teaches you how to gather the hurt at any age of your life, at any point in your life, some repressed memories, some items that aren't even necessarily memories, just ancestral, generational issues that you, primarily you, ball them up inside the core of your being and you create this energy around this hurt, this pain, and she shows you how to release it. She shows you how to remove these balls of energy from this core of your being, from your DNA, from your mitochondria down to the atoms of your life, and expel them back out into the field full of love. And this transformation for me has been not only profound in my healing, but in also learning how to reparent my inner child. Combined with therapy and intense personal and business coaching, I have learned how to to recognize the little me, the teenage me and be the source of healing from my higher self, from my divine being, from my created being, for all of the various age groups, even ancestrally, that have dealt with these issues that have caused problems and pain. And pain really are the explanation for why I was so comfortable with the narcissism and the abuse that followed in my 40 years of life. So let's just start right now.

Speaker 2:

I would like to give you an exercise that I was provided with an opportunity to do, this exercise with a group of women and have since performed this ritual with myself on a number of occasions and with my loved ones and people that I care about, who also have some reparenting, some internal parenting to do. So, if you will honor me with this time of meditation, I would like to guide you through a short meditation on how you can accomplish this on your own, in your own time and in your own space, and with those that you care about. Feel free to replay this as many times as you need in order to kind of learn the steps of, of how you approach this. But if you are driving, I would ask you to not close your eyes, but if you can find a comfortable place to sit or lie, walk in a beautiful space, be outside anywhere where you can feel comfortable and confident that you're not going to be interrupted. For the next I'd like to say five or 10 minutes, but we'll edit this as necessary and take some time for yourself, all right.

Speaker 2:

So I always like to start my meditative alignment with breathing. So if we can breathe together, in through your nose, out through your mouth, big, full, belly-filling breaths in and out, and make sure that you does not need to be an ultimately quieted mind moment, if you've experienced or practiced meditation before, then you know that the key to meditation is to allow your thoughts, to allow your thoughts to come in, notice them, make awareness of your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, and then mindfully return to your breathing. So I'm going to pause for a moment and take five deep, effort-filled breaths to clear my pineal gland, to clear my nervous system. May be activated. It may be relaxing. You may notice sensations through your body of calm. You may notice sensations of your body of anxiety. There could be tears. You could find a sense of joy. Any feeling is appropriate and normal each time you practice this.

Speaker 2:

As we move to the next stages of this meditation, please know that you are not to control your breath. Just use your breath to guide you back to this meditative state. So if you find that your thoughts have captured your attention, simply mindfully bring it back to the present moment, starting with your breath. Not trying to control your breath, just noticing your breath. No laboring here, no meditative sayings here. At this point, we just want to focus on the fact that we are alive and breathing.

Speaker 2:

Now I would like you to take your attention to whatever age pops into your head for you. First, just go with it. No right answers, no wrong answers. We're going to start with whatever age pops into your mind. For me, at this very moment, the age that my mind is offering me is 10 years old. I do recall some pivotal times in my childhood around that 10 year old stage, the thoughts and feelings coming up for me. Currently I do. I find myself at this moment putting my hand on my belly. If you find that you are, are called to hold yourself in your belly, your throat, your own hands, put your hand on your, on your shoulder, on your back, on your back, on your heart, uh, on your head, anywhere where you feel called to support your own physical embodiment of your human beingness. Please do so. I'm holding my belly and I'm feeling the awareness of the emotions coming to the surface of this 10-year-old me. Now take that awareness one step deeper, in recognition of having lived this day, this year, this decade of your life. Likely, this age is in the past, and a distant past seems to be the most frequent that comes up for me.

Speaker 2:

When I am talking about reparenting myself, I tend to go back to those years that are prior to my adult life, although I have spent quite a bit of time reparenting my early 20s, even my 30s. But for me, I feel that I need the most self-support, the most internal parenting of my childhood years. We're not looking for memories necessarily to pop up, though those can surface. Please take those memories and put them into this area of your being that you are, of your being that you are supporting. So I'm going to take this feeling, this emotion, this awareness of the 10 year old me and I'm going to pull that into this space of support. So I'm pulling that into my belly, pull that into your throat, throat, your head, your arm, just knowing that we are addressing the trauma, the physical being that you were at this stage in your timeline we see time linear, chronological, sequential, chronological, sequential although time has been proven metaphysically and physically to be stacked almost as if you're stacking chips or stacking dates that when compressed our timelines can be on the same plane, they can be within the same realm.

Speaker 2:

So I'm asking you to collapse the timeline of who you are today with the timeline of who you were during this age of which you are focused. So I have my mid forties year old me holding the trauma, the pain, the lived life of the 10 year old me. Now I would like you, whether audibly or in your mind, it doesn't matter if you can speak to yourself out loud or write to yourself. If you're in a place where you can't speak out loud, it has an extra benefit, but you will reap the benefit, even if this is just an internal monologue that you don't share audibly or in written form. Tell that 10-year-old me. Tell that, whatever age you are reparenting right now that you are here, just tell yourself that you are here.

Speaker 2:

Make it known that in this present moment, you have collapsed that timeline and you are now together. You are together in this moment and you are going to tell this part of you the following things. Please repeat after me, as you can, internally or externally Hi, hi, sweet girl, hi, my love, I am here, I love you. I love you. You are not alone. You are in partnership right now with the future you, the you that you always dreamt of becoming, the you that you spent years dreaming about, the year that you wondered about, the you that you made plans for and had dreams for. We are here. We are here now. We have made it. We have survived this earthly life to this day, to where we get to be together in this moment.

Speaker 2:

I would like for you to know that, as of this moment, you are no longer alone. You have the full support of all of my love, of all of our lived experiences from this time, of all of the change and decisions and life that has been lived between, for me, the 10-year-old me and the mid-40s me. We have three decades together that, in this moment, we're going to share and I'm going to offer you all of the lessons that have been learned, all of the care that we have given ourselves. We're going to take all of the mistakes and challenges and opportunities and we are going to combine them together in this true merging of love my 10-year-old self, with my mid-40s self.

Speaker 2:

Breathe into that feeling. Breathe into the feeling of a 10-year-old you or whatever age you're focusing on, knowing that you are not alone, you are wholly supported, you are safe. You are wholly supported, you are safe, you are loved, and there is one soul on this planet who still thinks about you every day, who sends you love and care every day, who knows what you have been through to this point in your life and is proud of you. I am so proud of you. You have taken every challenge to this point in your life and have faced it with curiosity and joy and hope and the dream for a better life, a dream for bigger, more abundant, prosperous days, and the adult decisions that you have continued to make day after day for 30 years to get us to this point.

Speaker 2:

I cannot begin to tell you how appreciative this adult me is of the love and care that you poured into this future me. Thank you, thank you for thinking of this future me as you dreamed with that childhood, vivacious, imaginative life. The dreams have not died. The dreams have only grown and we have lived a number of them, and I want to show you, through this intention, through these feelings, that you've done it. You've done it. You're here. You have made it. You've done it. You're here. You have made it, no matter what. You have faced some childhood trauma and I would like for you to have a moment that I have shared with myself. That has been the most pivotal words I've ever spoken to myself.

Speaker 2:

Please tell this little you for me, my 10-year-old me, I am coming to get you. I'm coming to get you. You don't have to live here anymore. You don't have to deal with these problems anymore problems anymore. I'm going to pack you up, I'm going to bring you with me. From this day forward, you are going to live completely integrated into the adult me, the me that is prepared to care for you, the me that is prepared to make decisions for you, the me that is prepared to give you all of the love, all of the pride, all of the lessons, all of the guidance, all of the advice that you have felt like you didn't have, that you feel like you weren't prepared for, that you didn't understand. We are here now. We are together. I do understand. I know exactly what you've been through. I am proud of you. Let the tears flow as you have this ultimate renewal and coming together, of this reunion, this graduation of who you were and who you have become.

Speaker 2:

If you're a parent, I'm a parent, I have three sons and I became the mother that I needed. I became the mother that I would have wanted. I became the person that the 10-year-old me would have asked to have in my life at that time. I am prepared now to be your mother. I am prepared now to guide you in every decision that you're going to make, going forward and you get to bring all of your dreams. You get to bring every ambition that someone told you was silly, all of your business ideas, all of your dance choreography, your poems, your art creations, everything that you create as the 10 year old. You gets to come and be a part of this adult me, and I'm grateful. I am grateful that you are teaching me how to keep my childlike sense of longing, my vivacity is that a word? My vivacious life force, my joy, my natural childhood joy of the simple things, my curiosity. Thank you, thank you for keeping that alive in me.

Speaker 2:

10-year-old me, I'm going to tell you that, in this safety, in this support, you now can let those dreams run free. Tell me what you want. Adult me is here, listening, ready to make that happen. I am ready to believe in us together as this integrated unit, and you will never have to go back to that situation again. You are, from here forward, loved and cherished and protected in every sense of the word. I've got you. I've got you. Word I've got you. I've got you. Let's go share some love and share some safety and security and healing as we move into these next times of our life where we're going to make the most beneficial decisions for every age of our being, going forward every day, from here until we are done with our time on earth. We are together, thank you.

Speaker 2:

Thank you for being here, thank you for being true to yourself, and please take a deep breath, integrating and anchoring in this decision to partner and reparent your younger self. Please move your awareness to any emotions, feelings, sensations, any embodiment, any body sensations. Don't label them, don't judge them. Some things could feel negative, some things could feel positive. Simply feel it with a grand awareness that you have just saved yourself. You have just ultimately changed your DNA to be a full parented, supported 10-year-old girl in a 40-year-old woman's body.

Speaker 2:

Thank you for going through this exercise with me. It is that simple. Use this as often as you like to go to any point in your life, even up to today, you can. You can use this as early as 10 minutes ago to go back and integrate any piece of you that needs love and care and support by the adult capable version of yourself, by the adult capable version of yourself. I'm proud of you, I'm honored to walk this walk with you, and in the next episode I'm going to share how this reparenting has changed the speed of which I have quantum leapt through every manifestation that I have ever wanted. So come back and listen, because I have some exciting, fun things to share. Thank you.

Speaker 1:

Thank you for listening to the Awaken Wild One podcast. I'm proud of you. You've done it. You've taken the next step in your healing. I hope that your best life is right around the corner. Please subscribe, as we're going to meet here every week, and continue to grow and develop into our best selves. Have a wonderful day and unleash your best life.