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The Hidden Burnout No One Talks About

• Raquel Quinet • Episode 345

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I Wasn’t Burnt Out — I Was Resisting What Really Mattered

I used to think I was exhausted from doing too much, but the truth? I was drained from avoiding the one move that would change everything. In this episode, I break down the two types of burnout no one talks about — especially the sneaky kind that comes from emotional and mental resistance.

Inside this episode, I cover:

  • The signs that it’s not burnout but inner conflict
  • How resistance shows up in our everyday lives
  • The simple actions that helped me shift my energy and momentum fast
  • Why doing what aligns with your purpose actually fuels you

If you’ve been stuck, foggy, or just off your game lately, this one’s for you. Let’s stop circling our goals and finally take aligned action.

🎧 Tune in now and take your power back.

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Raquel Quinet (00:00.0)
When you're doing what you were meant to do, it energizes you. The moment reminded me, we don't always need rest. We just need to act on the right things, of course. So here's the truth. You're not burnt out. You might be resisting and resistance is heavy. It sounds like, let me give you some example. I'll do it later. I'll get to it later. I need a little bit more time to think. I need options. I don't feel ready. 

Raquel Quinet (00:29.997)
But what's really happening is this, you're delaying the thing that actually moves the needle. And that delay is what drains your energy. It drains your mental capacity. 

Raquel Quinet (01:18.703)
Hey friends, welcome back to the Raquel show. This show is for entrepreneurs who want to 

Raquel Quinet (01:23.185)
play bigger in business and in life. And first, I want to thank you for being here. Thank you for tuning in. Thank you for being a part of this journey, for sharing our episodes and of course, leaving reviews. I've connected with so many of you through this podcast. And when I get a DM from someone saying, my kids listen to your podcast or I shared 

Raquel Quinet (01:47.011)
your podcast with a friend, or I got a DM from you saying that a podcast episode resonated 

Raquel Quinet (01:54.375)
with you. I pause every time to feel that because that's what this is all about. Creating an impact beyond the download count. So if this show has ever helped you move or step forward, know that I am glad that you are here today. I am coming in hot with something that might 

Raquel Quinet (02:16.244)
make you pause. It might even make you feel a little uncomfortable and it might make you even feel defensive. So full warning, but I say it with love. You're not burnt out. You might not be doing enough. Yep. I said it. And I know that sounds backwards. You're probably thinking, but Raquel, I'm exhausted. I do so much. I get it. I've lived it. 

Raquel Quinet (02:45.452)
and I'm gonna walk you through something that could be the exact thing that gets your energy, your momentum, and the clarity back fast. So let's start with this. The two kinds of burnout most people don't realize exist. Me too. I had no idea that there were two types. So burnout type one is the obvious kind. You're overloaded, you're saying yes to everyone. 

Raquel Quinet (03:12.516)
You're doing 14 different things and roles in your business. Your nervous system is fried and your calendar doesn't even allow you to breathe. We know that one, but there's also a second type and it's the sneaky one. If you've ever felt tired or a lot of brain fog or just foggy, distracted and unmotivated, not because you're doing too much, but because you're actually avoiding what really matters. 

Raquel Quinet (03:41.701)
The burnout is emotional, it's psychological, and it's the weight of avoidance. And believe me, when I tell you I've been there, let me tell you what this looked like for me recently. I had such a long day. I was emotionally drained from dealing with my mom's care, new caretakers, new nurses, new CNA, new episodes of high sugar, all the things, infections, all the things. 

Raquel Quinet (04:08.388)
Then I also had a to-do list that was so long and I told myself, I am just going to go to bed early. But then my business partner, Kelly sent me a text about our retreat and one of our agents had a big retail deal that needed me to review his offer. And another one of my agents had a listing contract come in that I needed to review. And just like that, I was on. Why? Because it wasn't about more work. It was about aligned work. 

Raquel Quinet (04:38.656)
When you're doing what you were meant to do, it energizes you. The moment reminded me, we don't always need rest. We just need to act on the right things, of course. So here's the truth. You're not burnt out. You might be resisting and resistance is heavy. It sounds like, let me give you some example. I'll do it later. I'll get to it later. I need a little bit more time to think. I need options. I don't feel ready. 

Raquel Quinet (05:08.653)
But what's really happening is this, you're delaying the thing that actually moves the needle. And that delay is what drains your energy. It drains your mental capacity. And every time you resist, whether it's making that phone call, doing your follow-up, recording the videos, or having those hard conversations, you create emotional debt. And it stacks. 

Raquel Quinet (05:36.779)
until you're not tired from doing too much, you're tired from the weight of all that you were not doing. So how do you know if it's burnout or resistance? And I want to share three clear signs that I've discovered. Number one is you're tired and you're not producing results. Your calendar is full, but it still feels like you're not doing enough or you're not moving fast enough towards your goals. 

Raquel Quinet (06:04.247)
Number two is your overthinking instead of executing. You've made your plan. You've made some of your canvas graphics and now you're tweaking the font instead of hitting publish or you've had a long conversation with lots of chat GPT prompts and now you're wondering what action should I take? Number three is you're avoiding the one move you know will shift everything. 

Raquel Quinet (06:31.357)
and you feel worse every time you push it off. It's like you're letting yourself down and that's not burnout. It's inner conflict, my friends, and it's a hundred percent solvable. So here's how we're going to flip the script and get your power back. Number one is audit what you are resisting. Ask what's the one thing that I keep putting off that would move everything forward and two is shrink the resistance instead of trying to finish the whole project. 

Raquel Quinet (06:59.959)
Commit to maybe 15 minutes, start the draft, film the first take or create the outline. And three is take one aligned action a day. This isn't about doing more. It's about doing what matters. That one actions builds trust with yourself. It creates wins and the momentum creates its own energy. Remember energy doesn't always come before action. Often 

Raquel Quinet (07:29.257)
Action is what creates the energy. I've seen it in my business. I've seen it with our coaching clients. And if you are listening right now, it's likely true for you. So let's recap. You're not burnt out from doing way too much. You're actually weighed down by doing what you're avoiding and what you call burnout might actually be resistance and what feels like exhaustion may be a lack of clarity, alignment, and not capacity. 

Raquel Quinet (07:58.665)
This is not your breakdown. You are not failing. When you see these signs, you're just being invited to step up. And yes, it's a little uncomfortable, but that discomfort, that's the invitation to go play bigger. So today do the thing, start small, start messy, start now because everything you want is on the other side of action. 

Raquel Quinet (08:24.441)
Thank you for listening to another quick no fluff episode of the Raquel show. I hope today's conversation brought you what you needed to either shift gears or move forward. And if you are ready to stop circling around your goals and finally take action, join us inside of our play bigger Academy or go to let's play bigger.com. We've got systems, we've got support, we've got strategy to help you grow your business. You know, you were meant to build. 

Raquel Quinet (08:53.911)
And until next time, keep taking bold action and as always, keep playing bigger, my friends.