Play Bigger in Real Estate with Raquel Q.

Building Something That Lasts in Business and in Life

• Raquel Quinet • Episode 365

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What if the people you choose to build with are the very reason you're stuck—or the secret to your next breakthrough?

In this episode, I’m getting personal. I share what 20 years of marriage have taught me about commitment, consistency, and the power of aligned partnerships—and how those exact lessons apply to building a business that lasts. Spoiler alert: it’s not the highlight reel that creates success, it’s how you handle the messy, unseen moments when no one is watching.

From navigating family drama on my anniversary (yes, that happened) to building multiple businesses while being a mom, wife, and coach—I’m pulling back the curtain on what it really takes to play the long game in both life and entrepreneurship.

💬 Things I cover in this episode:

  • Why who you partner with shapes your ceiling
  • The 4 lessons that apply to both lasting relationships and sustainable businesses
  • The truth about supportive spouses in demanding industries
  • The unsexy secret to long-term success (hint: it’s not just hustle)
  • A 3-part challenge to help you audit, align, and protect what matters most

If you’re tired of chasing balance and want to build a business that supports your life—not consumes it—this episode is your starting point. Dive in, then check out letsplaybigger.com to learn more about how I help entrepreneurs create life-aligned success through Play Bigger Coaching.

🎧 Whether you're new here or a longtime listener, thank you for being part of this powerful community. Let’s keep building something that lasts.

Ready to play the long game? Press play now.

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Who you partner with shapes your ceiling. We've heard this plenty of times, whether it's your spouse or your business partner or a team member, the people you choose to build with will either expand you or limit you.

If you choose people who don't share your values, your vision, your work ethic; you will spend more time, believe it or not, managing conflict rather than building a future. That's where all the fights happens because you are not on the same page. You don't have an aligned vision or a shared vision.

And as you get into different seasons or into the end of the year, ask yourself, "are you around people that are expanding you or shrinking you?"

Welcome back to The Raquel Show. This show is for entrepreneurs who want to play bigger in business and in life. And I just want to say whether you are new here and listening for the first time, welcome, or you have been a listener and have been there from the very beginning. I just want to say thank you for being a part of our community. 

You know, today's episode is a little different. We are going to talk about what it really takes to build something that lasts. Whether it's a marriage, a business or relationships that matter most to you. People often ask me: "Raquel, how do you manage to be a wife, a mom, run multiple businesses, travel to speak, invest in real estate and still show up fully for all of it?" 

And the truth is it's not always glamorous. It's not about having the perfect balance every single day. It's about commitment. It's about consistency. It's also about season and it's about choosing the right people to build with. 

So today, I'm going to share some of the most personal lessons I've learned from celebrating 20 years of marriage and how the same lessons can apply to growing a business that lasts. And by the end of this episode, you'll know exactly how to strengthen your most important relationships, create relationships that expand you and play the long game. So you're still winning 20 years from now. 

You know, a few weeks ago, Brad and I had celebrated our 20th Wedding Anniversary. Can you freaking believe it? Now, you might be picturing us on a white sand beach renewing our vows or simping on some drinks, champagne at sunset, nope. Instead we were in California, I was sick in bed and in the middle of it, an email started circulating with a few parents upset that their kid wasn't getting enough playing time. That turned into phone calls, drama, and a whole lot of nonsense. 

Not exactly the dreamy anniversary I had pictured, but here's what I realized; the celebration isn't in the perfect moment. It's just knowing that if we can get through this, we can get through anything. And isn't that the same with business? It's not the highlight reel that determines success. It's how you handle the messy, the most inconvenient, the unplanned moments that no one ever sees. 

So lesson number one is commitment and consistency are the real growth hacks. In marriage, it's about showing up for each other even when life gets messy. In business, it's about doing the work that no one's willing to do and no one's clapping. And most people struggle with starting something, believe it or not, they struggle with continuing when it's hard. 

Think about it. It's so easy to send a thank you card to a client once. It's harder to keep following up month after month, year after year when they have not referred anyone yet. And yes, we all know those people. It's the same in marriage. Anyone can plan a romantic anniversary trip. It's harder to keep making time for date nights in between kids' games, work deadlines, and unexpected curve balls that life happens to throw at you. 

So lesson number two is who you partner with shapes your ceiling. We've heard this plenty of times, whether it's your spouse or your business partner or a team member, the people you choose to build with will either expand you or limit you. 

Brad and I have had seasons where one of us was in the spotlight while the other was behind the scenes keeping it together. And guess what? We're okay with that because we have a shared vision and it's the same in business. If you choose people who don't share your values, your vision, your work ethic, you will spend more time, believe it or not, managing conflict rather than building a future. That's where all the fights happens because you are not on the same page. You don't have an aligned vision or a shared vision. 

So I'll ask you, "are the people around you expanding you or shrinking you?" And that's a real question. And as you get into different seasons or into the end of the year, ask yourself, are you around people that are expanding you or shrinking you?

And number three is one of the most important questions I get is: "how do you have a supportive husband when real estate is already so demanding, Raquel?" 

Because let's be honest, the industry doesn't always respect our evenings, doesn't always respect our weekends or our family time. For us, it came down to three things. 

  • Number one is clarity. 

Brad knows why I do what I do. I remember when we were first started dating, my phone would go off all the time. And I just said, real estate is not a job, it's a lifestyle. He understands that when I'm working late, it's not just for me, it's for our family, our future, and the life we're building. 

  • Number two is communication. 

We talk about my travel schedule, we talk about what's coming up so that there is no surprise, because he's also got a travel schedule with basketball and sometimes his own work functions. And yes, he does also have a full-time job, but basketball coaching is absolutely his passion. And we knew that from the start. 

  • And number three is boundaries. 

When I'm home, I'm home. I protect our time the same way I protect time for a keynote or a coaching call or a client or a partner. Your partner doesn't have to love your business and be so involved in everything that's going on in your business, but they do need to feel like they're a part of the vision and not competing with it. 

And number four is play the long game. Whether it is your marriage, whether it is business, the big wins come from the small aligned actions you take over time. Our marriage didn't get here because of one grand moment, it got here because of years of daily check-ins, shared goals, and be willing to pivot when life changed. Believe it or not, there have been some things in the air right now, and we have been asked, you know, would you move for an opportunity? And the answer to both of us is if the opportunity happens, we're gonna support each other and we will get up and move. 

And I think businesses are the same. I've nurtured relationships for years before they even became clients. And when they did, it wasn't luck. It was compound effect of staying in touch and adding value before the sale. The long game isn't sexy until it pays off. So how does this all translate to your business? So let's start with consistent touch points that keeps clients coming back; choosing the right partners expands your reach, your influence, your network, boundaries prevent you from burnout and resentment and a shared vision keeps your team aligned during growth and even messy moments. 

So ask yourself, what are the four areas do I need to focus on the most these next couple of weeks, this next quarter? 

This week, I want you to do three things:

Number one, I want you to audit your partnerships. Are they expanding you or are they limiting you? Or do you have these partnerships out of obligation? Really start asking yourself as you look at your North Star, as you look at your big vision is are the people, the partnerships around you expanding you or limiting you? 

Number two is identify one relationship worth playing the long game for and commit to that one consistent action that strengthens it. 

and Number three is decide on one boundary you'll put in place to protect the relationships that matter most. 

So if you are listening to this and you want to build a business that lasts without sacrificing your life, that's exactly what we do inside of Play Bigger Coaching. It's where I help agents and entrepreneurs design a business that supports their lifestyle, not one that takes over their life. You can learn more at www.letsplaybigger.com. 

Whether it's in your business or in your life, the win isn't the perfect Instagram moment, it's the messy, the real life moments that you navigate together and come out stronger. And if you can get through that messy middle, you can build something that lasts. I want to thank you all for tuning in to another quick no fluff episode and until next time keep taking action and keep playing bigger my friends.