Play Bigger in Real Estate with Raquel Q.

When You’ve Outgrown the Business You Built

• Raquel Quinet • Episode 387

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Have you ever found yourself saying, “This used to light me up… so why does it feel so heavy now?” Yeah, I’ve been there too. In this episode, I’m getting real about something every entrepreneur eventually faces — misalignment.

After two decades in business, I’ve learned the hard way that you can’t outwork misalignment. No matter how hard you grind, when what you’re building no longer matches who you’re becoming, the result is burnout, frustration, and loss of peace.

In this episode, I share:
 ✨ 3 signs you’re out of alignment (even when everything looks “successful”)
 ✨ How to tell the difference between growth and friction
 ✨ 3 principles to help you pivot with clarity and rebuild from purpose, not pressure
 ✨ Why your next level isn’t about doing more — it’s about doing what’s right for you

If you’ve been forcing what used to flow, or chasing goals that no longer fit the woman or leader you’re becoming, this episode will help you hit pause, reflect, and realign. Because true scale doesn’t come from adding more — it comes from letting go.

🎧 Things I Cover:

  • Spotting misalignment before it costs you peace and purpose
  • How to realign your business around clarity and intention
  • What it means to rebuild with systems instead of stress
  • Why peace is the new metric of success
  • The powerful mindset shift from “I have to” → “I choose to”

 If this message hit home, DM me “AgentCEO” on Instagram @itsraquelq
to learn more about joining our Agent CEO Accelerator, where we help entrepreneurs build aligned, sustainable businesses that grow with ease and purpose.

Because you can’t outwork misalignment… but you can absolutely build in alignment with clarity, confidence, and conviction.

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When something used to feel exciting, but now it feels like constant friction, I'll tell you that's a red flag, right? Or when you are thinking about something too long and too much, that might be a red flag. You find yourself saying this used to work or I should be grateful, but your energy always tells the truth. So I want you to ask yourself, am I doing this because I want to or because I feel like I have to? And that's two different things.

Welcome back to another episode of The Raquel Show. 

This show is for entrepreneurs who want to play bigger in business and in life. And I got to tell you, there's just been a few things on my mind lately, and I'm going to talk about one of them. You've probably heard people say things like, just keep grinding Raquel or work harder or push through or keep going or keep it moving. Right. But here's what I've learned in after being in this industry or being in entrepreneurship for over two decades is that you cannot outwork misalignment. And I would say that the more experience you have, or should I say the more stuff that you've gone through is you realize that you can't outwork or even sustain misalignment. No matter how many hours you put in, if what you're building doesn't align with who you are or where you're going, the result will always be burnout. It's always going to be frustration or even resentment. 

So today, I want to talk about how do we spot those misalignment before it costs you peace, time, risk, money, and all the things, right? There have been so many seasons in my life and in business where everything looks successful on the outside, but didn't feel right in the inside. I can even look at this last year when I knew things were off. 

When I took on coaching clients to fill my schedule or because of a referral or because of a situation. And the moment I got on those calls, it felt off. I mean, I thought I would be excited about the contract, but I knew from the interview to their first phone call to the next few phone calls thinking it would get better. It just felt off. And at first I thought, maybe I just need to work harder or maybe somebody's challenging me when I would have these businesses or these things that I had scaled or these people that I actually wanted to work with. I would think to myself like, maybe somebody is just trying to challenge me because it's going to expose me to the, my next level. would reframe some of my things. And I even realized when I got into partnerships, I found that it wasn't the same focus and I ended up resenting it. 

And I knew it wasn't how our company wanted to run or our brand wanted to serve our clients, because our clients are the most important things. So I don't want to do things last minute. I do not want to do things at a drop of a dime, right? I want to plan to make sure that our clients have the best experience and have the most knowledge of whatever we are teaching, right? So that's when I realized something was off. It wasn't my alignment. I wasn't just building just to build. I knew I could do it. I knew I could help clients, I knew we could fill rooms. I knew no matter how challenging their business was, I could help these coaching clients simplify and help them truly scale. 

But here's what I realized. What I was building was no longer matching who I was becoming. That was my old identity. You know, chasing the next things or helping people build the next best thing for them. You see, like I was chasing goals that once excited me, but now they felt a little empty and that's something high achievers don't always talk about. That's sometimes success becomes your biggest distraction from going to your next level. So once I gave myself permission to actually pivot, to slow down, to reassess and realign everything, and I mean everything change; my lens, the way I looked at things, the perspective, the way I analyze things, the way I even just sat back and looked at things. Even when I started saying no to a lot of different things, speaking engagements to partnerships, to collaborations, it was a little uncomfortable at first because I really wanted to say, yes, I was in the area of impact. I was in the area of helping others. I was in the area of what a quote unquote playing bigger. And sometimes 

And I would say sometimes I push myself so much that I put myself and my own goals last. So I want to break it down into two parts. Part one is the three signs you are in misalignment is what I wrote down. 

The second part is the three principles to pivot with clarity. 

So once you can spot them, right? 

So the first one is sign number one, is you're forcing what used to flow. Yeah, you are forcing, you are rushing what used to flow and it just feels hard. When something used to feel exciting but now it feels like constant friction, I'll tell you that's a red flag, right? Or when you are thinking about something too long and too much, that might be a red flag. You find yourself saying this used to work or I should be grateful but your energy always tells the truth. 

So I want you to ask yourself, am I doing this because I want to or because I feel like I have to? This is a big one for me. Every time that I had to actually remind myself, am I really doing this because I really want to, or it's because I have to. And that's two different things. The other thing that I see a lot of is, I doing this, especially for high achievers, to please others for my people pleasers, right? Or to prove something or someone wrong. And if you are living in obligation more than inspiration, you might be out of alignment. 

And sign number two is you're winning on paper, but for whatever reason you're losing your piece. This one's tricky because everything looks successful. The followers, the friends, the volume, the awards, the, all the accolades of all the things that you've done, but you still at the end of the day, don't feel fulfilled or like I was talking to a good friend of mine. She just hosted a retreat. 

Like everything on the outside looked beautiful and it was a great retreat, but for whatever reason she felt like it had cost her peace. Right? So when you wake up with that type of anxiety instead of like anticipation and like, don't get me wrong, she was super grateful and she was super excited, but here's one thing we caught that type of anxiety instead of anticipation. That's your intuition telling you something's off. You know, sometimes peace can be a real metric of success. 

And sign number three is you've outgrown your container. Sometimes misalignment happens, not because you're doing the wrong thing, but because you've just grown, you've just evolved. And that's what I've seen even looking back at this year, the last couple of years is like, I think I've just outgrown it. You can actually simply outgrown the structure that once used to fit you perfectly. You've changed, your values have shifted, your capacity has expanded. And that doesn't mean you failed. It just means that you're onto your next evolution and that's okay. Like for the five years that I have done retreats, like I thought they were amazing. I would go bigger. I would go, let's go do more. Let's go do how about three in a year or how about two out of the country? Like we just kept going and going.

Are they super profitable? No, my friends, right? But are they fun? Yes. I mean, you're out, you're traveling, and sometimes there's even a time zone difference, right? But when you are on retreats and you're worried about everybody else, you are on constant host mode. And I'm realizing right now, I'm just looking forward to what's next. What's the next chapter? As much fun and as much impact we have given to all of our retreats, I'm like, what's next, right? What's next on where we can impact on even a bigger scale or we can impact at a more deeper level, or it could be such a cool experience where you don't have to worry so much. And then the next piece is the principle that I believe will help you pivot.

When you find these signs with clarity is number one, reflect before you react. And I know that this is so hard for high Ds. This is so hard for high achievers. I see it over and over and I have to remind myself this the same is reflect before you react. Don't burn all the boats. Don't burn it all down because you're frustrated. Trust me. Like I said, I have wanted to do this plenty of times. Just take inventory first.
Reflect and ask yourself what's no longer working. What still lights me up? What doesn't light me up anymore? What season am I in? Am I in building? Am I in refining or am I just taking a rest? I sometimes will lean in to also what's my body saying? What's my gut saying? I think clarity comes from reflection, not reaction.

And then principle number two is I want you to realign around purpose and not pressure. Man, this one is a big one because when you realign, don't rebuild based on what others expect. I want you to build around what feels purposeful. Stop chasing validation. Stop chasing comparison. Ask yourself if no one could see what I was building, would I still be proud of it? When you are in purpose, I'll tell you momentum feels light again. 

And number three is rebuild with systems, not stress. Once you've realigned builds your next vision of your business, like a CEO. And I say that over and over with systems and protect your time and your peace, especially with all the distractions that are happening right now. Don't rebuild the same chaos you just left, even though it might even feel comfortable structure creates freedom. And remember,

The goal isn't to do more. It's to build better.

Here's what I want you to think about, or maybe even journal. This is so good that before you even start business planning, think about these questions. What area of my life or business feels heavy right now? Where are you forcing something that used to light you up and what would it look like to rebuild this next season in alignment with who you've become? And a bonus one: If I trusted that letting go would lead me to something better, what would I release today? I love that question. 

So I want you to sit with that because most of the time your next level isn't waiting for you to add something. It's actually waiting for you to let go of something because scale, my friends is in subtraction, not addition. And if this episode hit home and you're realizing that you've been working hard, but not necessarily in alignment, this is your sign to stop doing it alone.

And inside our Agent CEO Accelerator, we just don't help you grow your business. We help you build the right business for the season that you're in. Obviously, you know that we focus on systems. We focus on structure when we focus on clarity so you can grow sustainably without losing your piece. I want you to DM me the word "AgentCEO" on Instagram at @itsraquelq. 

If you want to come and join us and be a part of it because you can't outwork misalignment. but you can absolutely build in alignment with ease and purpose. And here's the truth. You were never meant to live in constant hustle. You were meant to live in clarity, confidence, and conviction. And I have found over and over when people are so freaking clear in what they want, conviction happens, and they start to move in momentum. The next level of business isn't about doing more. It's about doing what's right for you.

So take this episode, my friend, as your permission to pause, to reassess and realign because what's meant for you won't require force. It will click all into place. Thank you for tuning in to another quick episode of the Raquel show. If this message spoke to you, share the love on your social and tag me at @itsraquelq so I can celebrate you. And I promise it makes such a big difference to me and any podcaster when you share our episode. Until next time, keep taking action, keep executing and keep Playing Bigger, my friends.