What happens to our sex lives when we actively practice desire? Everything changes. When we approach desire as a spiritual practice, our relationship with sex shifts from reactive and conditional to conscious and self-responsible.

Brenda and Catherine explore how this transformation unfolds, moving beyond old patterns, like withholding sex during conflicts or expecting partners to manage our arousal, and toward a more empowered, pleasure-led way of relating. They share personal experiences of letting go of outdated scripts, like believing we should always want sex if we love someone, or that desire disappearing signals a relationship problem.

Instead, they offer a compassionate view: sexual desire naturally ebbs and flows, and those shifts can be met with curiosity, communication, and creativity. From navigating life changes like new motherhood to finding new ways to connect physically, the focus becomes honoring what’s real in the moment.

A key insight is that turn-on is our own responsibility. This reframes sexuality from something dependent on others to a deeply personal practice of self-awareness and self-expression. By tending to the things that make us feel alive—rest, play, creativity, and meaningful connection—sexual desire becomes a natural extension of a well-fed life.

Episode Highlights:
• Recognizing that sexual desire naturally fluctuates and having approval for yourself when it changes
• Communicating what you want sexually, even when it’s different from yesterday
• Why women sometimes “forget how much they like sex” and how to reconnect with that knowledge
• Moving beyond patterns of withholding sex during relationship conflicts
• Taking responsibility for your own turn-on rather than expecting your partner to create it
• Navigating challenging periods like new motherhood with honest communication
• The importance of being “well-fed” in all aspects of life to sustain sexual desire
• Shifting from externally-oriented to internally-oriented sexuality

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