Self-Worth Revolution: Tips for your Transformational Journey

Reflecting Self-Worth: Embracing the Love Within and Beyond Pain

• Vivian Medrano • Season 1 • Episode 12

Share episode

Send us a text

Have you ever held a mirror to your heart, only to see it reflecting someone else's pain? Our journey today takes us through the winding paths of self-worth and the essence of love, especially when the love we've known has been shadowed by hurt. On the Self Worth Revolution podcast, I, Vivian Medrano, guide you to the realization that your value isn't determined by others' limitations. Together, we'll redefine love on our own terms, embracing the idea that the purest form of affection begins with the one you see in the mirror.

As we embark on this transformative expedition, we'll tackle the remnants of past pain—how the sting of trauma and abuse can linger in our concept of love. But fear not, for this episode is a beacon of hope, illuminating the importance of self-love as our compass. Discover how to cultivate a love for yourself that's as deep and compassionate as the ocean, and watch as it sets the stage for the kind of love that resonates with your truest self. No need for a guest when we're discussing matters of the heart that touch us all—this conversation is about finding strength in your story and using it to attract the love you are rightfully due.

Wrapping up our heartfelt dialogue, we celebrate the many colors of life and the joy that blossoms from recognizing our worth. I'll share a few personal stories that highlight the importance of self-affirmation and the bliss that comes with embracing our achievements. So take a moment, dear listener, to appreciate the resilience within you, to honor your journey, and to bask in the warmth of the love that you hold. And remember, by subscribing and following my podcast, you're saying yes to embarking on an empowering path where your greatness is not just a possibility, but a beautiful certainty.

Some ways to support my podcast and its mission:

Buy Vivian a coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/vivianmedrano

Follow and subscribe to my podcast:
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-self-worth-revolution-podcast/id1706384557
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7hs2SVwnhjWu60aoA9fDii?si=a8918280b50d41fb

Rate & Review the Podcast

Share with Friends & Family

Follow me on IG https://www.instagram.com/vivmedrano/
TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@selfworthmentor?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

Disclaimer:
The "The Self Worth Revolution" Podcast may, at times, cover sensitive topics including but not limited to suicide, abuse, violence, severe mental illnesses, sex, drugs, alcohol addiction, psychedelics and the use of plant medicines. You are advised to refrain from watching or listening to the Podcast if you are likely to be offended or adversely impacted by any of these topics. Neither The Company, The Host nor the guests shall at any time be liable for the content covered causing off...

Speaker 1:

And that's a great question to ask yourself, because until you start asking that question, then you start understanding that that is how they viewed love for themselves.

Speaker 1:

Their actions were a projection of their own pain, and they were instilling that pain onto you by having control over an innocent person, breaking the spirit of somebody who glowed so brightly.

Speaker 1:

They didn't want you to be able to love in a way they were incapable of loving, so therefore they wanted to break that from you.

Speaker 1:

And so now this is where the question comes Is that the kind of love you want for yourself, or is it a different love that you want for yourself?

Speaker 1:

Welcome to the Self Worth Revolution Podcast hosted by Vivian Medrano. I am not only a podcaster, but a mother, a nurse, a life coach and a survivor. This podcast is about turning your pain into your power, your experiences into your lessons, and to start living a life full of abundance, inner peace and fulfillment. My higher purpose are for my listeners to find their self worth and their value by following their path to greatness. We are all deserving of living our best lives. It is time to stop identifying with our past. Start living in the present for a better future. This podcast will have guest speakers that will share their stories of how they transformed their lives and found their worth. My mission is to let my listeners know this is your time to shine, to know that you are not alone. Healing is empowering. It takes courage to be vulnerable, and our voices have power. Hold on to your lives, because this will be an incredible ride of self transformation, self empowerment and radical change. It is time for us to take our power back.

Speaker 1:

Hey everyone, welcome to the Self Worth Revolution podcast. I don't really come on here and do a lot of mini episodes about myself and the things that I view in life, and so I thought today would be a great day, especially because today people have made this date in particular a date of celebrating love, and for some of us, it's really hard because we're still in that space within ourselves where we question what is love, what truly is love. So we feel alone and we feel sad and we feel depressed because we feel that love will not come to us. So we stop believing in love. And the thing is that love is something that we, neatly, were born with. It's something that wasn't so natural to us when we were born. We didn't have to learn how to love. It was just a way of living, was loving, and I think once that got lost within how we feel about ourselves, how we view the world, the things that we've gone through in life, our pain, our trauma, things that we wouldn't see as love, we started to see that maybe we're not enough, maybe we don't hold the value, maybe I'm just not lovable, and these are things that you start believing within yourself because of the pain that somebody that you felt should have loved you, should have protected you, that you should have trusted and had trust within them, hurt you. So how can you believe in love or the meaning of love when the person or people that you thought should have loved you and showed you what love is hurt you? And that's a great question to ask yourself, because until you start asking that question, then you start understanding that that is how they viewed love for themselves. Their actions were a projection of their own pain, and they were instilling that pain onto you by having control over an innocent person, breaking the spirit of somebody who glowed so brightly. They didn't want you to be able to love in a way they were incapable of loving, so therefore they wanted to break that from you. And so now this is where the question comes Is that the kind of love you want for yourself, or is it a different kind of love that you want for yourself? Because if you want to continue for that to be the type of love, then you don't need to create change within yourself. But if you realize that that's not my love, that's their love, and why should I bear the hurt or the pain of not receiving the love that I want to receive for myself because of the type of love they showed me that I'm worthy of? That has nothing to do with me and everything to do with them. And this is when you start creating that love for yourself. This is when you start acknowledging that you have to create your own beliefs on the meaning of love, and so you start understanding that love actually comes from within you. And so you could keep identifying with the pain and the hurt that was caused to you and keep believing that you're just not lovable, which I'm going to tell you right now that's not true, because you are lovable.

Speaker 1:

I was once there. I felt that the only type of love that I was worthy of receiving was the type of love that I grew up seeing, which was love full of pain and hurt and abuse. It wasn't the kind, gentle, empathetic, compassionate love that I believe love to be. That's not the kind of love I grew up with, but I knew that's not the kind of love that I wanted to continue to attract into my life and into myself, because all that love did was break me, and I honestly didn't want to feel broken anymore. I didn't want to feel as though I needed a walk in this world as somebody who I am not Bearing the pain that was given to me when I had no voice, when I identified with what other people told me I should be or how I should act. And so I sit here now and I know that that had nothing to do with me. And not until I started creating the love for myself that I know now that I am worthy of receiving was I still attracting that unhealthy love to me.

Speaker 1:

And so when you're sitting there and you're questioning whether you're lovable, you are lovable and you're entitled to be loved in a way that you deserve to be loved. But that love has to start from within you first, and it's not just telling yourself I deserve this love, it's actually believing in yourself that you deserve this love. And this love starts in little steps. It's not something that you're just going to tell yourself well, this is the love I'm going to receive, because this is the love I'm entitled to receive and this is what I'm deserving of. It goes beyond that. You can't demand love to happen in that way. You have to create it and you have to believe it internally.

Speaker 1:

Once you start creating that love within you, which is now loving yourself through everything you've been through, even through that pain, even through that abuse, even through that trauma, then you start accepting yourself fully. Then, whenever anybody says anything to you in relation to what happened to you, you could now stand up strong and proud and say, yes, it did, it sure did happen to me. But that is not an identification of me in the love that I know I'm deserving of receiving, accepting and living with, because now you believe in yourself, so now you are able to create that love for yourself. So that's why self love is so important. It doesn't mean you're selfish, it doesn't mean that you're not humble and it doesn't mean that you don't believe in others. It just simply says I have so much radical self compassion for myself to accept myself completely and fully.

Speaker 1:

And now I love myself, regardless of what I went through, because if I didn't go through that, I wouldn't be the person that I see standing in front of me, standing up tall, being proud and knowing that you're a stronger person because you've overcome what others may seem impossible and you have made it possible by changing the outcome of what could have been different. You could have decided to keep hurting people because you were hurt, but instead you turned all that around into such a powerful thing and you said that was your pain to carry and it was selfish of you to instill that pain onto me. But I am stronger than you and I will not instill that pain that you instill to me onto another. I am breaking the cycle, and I am breaking the cycle with myself by loving myself completely and fully for who I am and for what I have overcome. And once you start doing that, you start creating your self-worth, your self-value, your self-acceptance, because now you know that it's okay not to be perfect, it's okay to have gone through everything you went through, but what is not okay is to live in that space, because you are so much more than that and there's so much value that you have within yourself. Every moment you get up, every moment that you take a deep breath, every moment that you open up your eyes and you're able to see the beauty around you. Those are moments that can't be taken away from you, not anymore, because these are the moments that you've created for yourself.

Speaker 1:

Now you're starting to live the life that you are living because you're creating that life for yourself. You are creating your own beliefs for yourself, your own agreements for yourself. You are becoming authentically you, unapologetically you, free to have the freedom to be exactly the person you're meant to be, without not molding yourself or changing yourself or being in this camouflage or you have to blend in with everybody because, little by little, you keep doing that, you just lose sight of you and the value you bring into this world. So now, when you ask yourself, on a day like today, where is love, you know exactly where love is. Love is with you, standing right next to you, within you, 365 days a year, with you, 24-7, a 360 degree. That you do. That's you Everything, fully, completely you, your love.

Speaker 1:

So when you say I wish I had love, I'm here to tell you you're creating that love, you are love, and that's something that nobody could take away from you, because once you start believing that you are love and you start creating that inner love within yourself, then you don't need somebody to complete that love for you. All that's going to happen is when you attract your people, your person, into your life. They're just adding into your cup that's already full of your love, your happiness, your peace, your abundance, everything that you've created for yourself because you believed that you were worthy of it. And that is something that nobody could take away from you absolutely nobody can. So I want you to get up and I want you to look at yourself, look at that reflection back at you, and just know that that person is worthy of love. That person is proud of you for getting out of bed, even if it's making your bed or drinking a cup of coffee. The simplest things in life are sometimes the most hardest things to accomplish. Be proud of those moments. Those simple moments are moments of love for yourself.

Speaker 1:

Do not compare yourself to what you see in the external world, do not. A lot of people close the door and you have no idea what's behind closed doors. People usually tend to just show what other people want to see, and sometimes it's not the reality. So you make your own reality free of comparison, free of outside validation and outside acceptance, and you create that reality for yourself by creating everything from within, free of what others may think of you. Because as long as you see yourself for your value, for your worth, and you start building your self-esteem, your self-confidence, little by little, you're going to start attracting that same energy that you're creating within yourself from the outside world without not even asking, you're not even going to be looking. It's just going to come to you unexpectedly, effortlessly, because you have created that within yourself to attract that to you. And so that's the beauty of self-love. It is that now that you're loving yourself completely fully, now you're attracting into your life what you're deserving of and what you're worthy of. So it's for nobody to ever let you feel that you're unlovable or unworthy, because that is how they feel internally about themselves and all that they're trying to do is have them join them, and you don't want to join them. You want to create the beauty of life that you are worthy of receiving for yourself.

Speaker 1:

So I'm here talking to you from my personal experience on how I used to view love before I started loving myself. See, I used to think, if I loved myself, I was being selfish, and if I love myself, how can I think of others? But by loving myself, I am thinking of others, because now that I love myself, I'm able to show the ones who love me the beauty of them loving themselves as well and seeing themselves as beautiful on the inside and then radiating that love on the outside. So today, I want you to celebrate you, and I want you to celebrate yourself and the love that you have been able to conquer for yourself. And I'm here to tell you that I send you my love. And I want you to look at yourself and tell yourself I love you and I am proud of you for standing by my side.

Speaker 1:

Even through my darkest times, when I thought I couldn't get up, you did not give up on me and I thank you for that, because, at the end of the day, nobody could make you get up, nobody could guide you out of that dark place, but you. We could inspire you through our lives. We could inspire you through our stories, through our experiences. At the end of the day, you're the one with the courage, you're the one with the strength to get up and start living the life that you are worthy of living. So just know, love is innately or ready in you, ready to be exploded out of you, and for you to just let it out, it's in you and it's time for you to start experiencing that love, experiencing that love that you felt that you needed from another, that has been within you this whole time, for you to just look within. So thank you for taking this time in this moment to listen to my podcast and my words that I'm sending to you in my story that I'm sharing with you about the beauty of finding yourself and letting that light into your life when you thought the only thing that you could do is live in a life of pain and turmoil and hardship. Because once you turn all that around, the energy around you changes, the love around you changes, because now you're creating the life that you want to attract into your life within you. So, thank you, and I love you and I send you my peace, mm.

Speaker 1:

One last thing Go and celebrate you. Go and celebrate. You Go. Give yourself the biggest party that you could give yourself, and I don't mean that you have to like decorate your home into like balloons, on the stuff that you want to do, go ahead. But if you want to go by yourself flowers, if you want to dress up in your finest attire and take yourself out to a fancy dinner, go do that. What's stopping you? The only person stopping you is you, and it's time to stop that. So go celebrate you and all your accomplishments, because you deserve it.

Speaker 1:

And I'm here to tell you that life, after finding yourself and finding your love, it's the best feeling ever. Honestly, I don't want to change anything that's happened to me. It happened to me for a purpose, and now I'm here bringing you what I've been through and overcome into your ears and into your heart, to know that you're also worthy of it. So go celebrate yourself, cause you deserve it, and so that's how you deserve it. Thank you for taking your time and connecting with me on this beautiful journey of life. Please subscribe and review, and don't forget to follow so you don't miss out on any of these amazing and empowering episodes. Always remember you matter. If nobody has told you today, I am here to tell you that you are enough, you are worthy and you are deserving of the best. Every day that you wake up, I want you to take one moment and just look at yourself in the mirror and know that the person staring back at you is so proud of you and loves you beyond measures. You are a true warrior.