Self-Worth Revolution: Tips for your Transformational Journey
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Self-Worth Revolution: Tips for your Transformational Journey
From Conventional Constraints to a Life of Passionate Purpose with Marigol Era
In a world where education is a one-size-fits-all affair, we chart Marigol's personal experience with unschooling, painting a vivid picture of children flourishing on their own terms, learning from passions that pulse with their heartbeat. We address the shortcomings of traditional schooling and the excitement that bubbles when learning is led by joy and discovery. Whether it's a child teaching others about their favorite subject or an adult pursuing a heartfelt vocation, we illustrate how following our bliss can lead to a life rich in both satisfaction and service.
This episode is not just a discussion; it's an invitation to challenge preconceived notions about parenting and education. We share intimate stories of personal awakening and the shift from rebellion to responsible, intuitive living. We spotlight the transformational power of parenthood, the beauty of an unconventional lifestyle, and the promise of a community that supports the growth of lightworkers and healers. So, buckle up for a heartfelt journey that reaffirms the power of embracing your true self and the incredible worth you hold within.
Marigol Era is an Ayurvedic Wellness Coach, a Creative Force, an Unschooling Mother and the host of the podcast Shakti's Gift. On her podcast, she talks about the feminine form of Ayurveda, Healing Modalities, and Spirituality.
In constant evolution, she spent the past four years living her daily life according to Ayurvedic Principles. Ayurveda is a Sanscrit word which means the Science of Life. Although she's not a doctor or a psychologist, she's very passionate about the Human Experience and the Body-Mind-Soul connection.
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Yeah, it's like you were saying every experience we encounter is an opportunity to grow.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, so that's how we grow up.
Speaker 1:So do you feel that also, that means the pain and the struggles and the trauma that we've gone through has come to us for a higher purpose in life?
Speaker 2:Yes, definitely, definitely. I'm not. I'm not the one to shy away from struggle, like I feel I'm not running after it. But if it's coming, or like the past experience I had, which imply a lot of struggle, I'm not. I'm not ditching on it, I'm not rejecting it. I mean it's part of what needed to happen so that I can be a better person. That's how I see it. I mean there's always for me, there's always something to learn and when, when you encounter anything, there's something to learn, if you're trigger, there's something bigger to learn. For me, it's like sometimes we just like see something beautiful and you can learn from that, and it's easy, it's fun, it's light, and when something heavy comes your way, you got also something to learn and you're also in control of that and you're also choosing that. And sometimes it may seem harsh, but it's not. It's, it's still like, no matter what the trauma I've been through and I've been through a lot of trauma I take responsibility for all of that.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the self worth revolution podcast hosted by Vivian Medrano.
Speaker 1:I am not only a podcaster, but a mother, a nurse, a life coach and a survivor. This podcast is about turning your pain into your power, your experiences into your lessons and to start living in life full of abundance and peace and fulfillment my higher purpose for my listeners to find their self worth and their value by following their path to greatness. We are all deserving of living our best lives. It is time to stop identifying with our past. Start living in the present for a better future. This podcast will have guest speakers that will share their stories of how they transformed their lives and found their worth. My mission is to let my listeners know this is your time to shine, to know that you are not alone. Healing is empowering. It takes courage to be vulnerable and our voices have power. Hold on to your lives, because this will be an incredible right of self transformation, self empowerment and radical change. It is time for us to take our power back.
Speaker 1:I want to welcome you to the self worth revolution podcast. I am here with Mari Gol Eira. She is also a podcaster and her podcast name is let's Create the Revolution Together. She's also an unschooling mother and we'll get a little bit into that, so you know exactly what that means and also you, vidya wellness coach. So, without further ado, you are the best one to introduce yourself, so let us know a little bit about yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, thanks for having me. So yeah, so I'm an Ayurvedic wellness coach. Ayurveda is the medicine from India, so I've studied that and I'm living by its principle pretty much every day and I really like to help people get better in health and like energetically, because Ayurveda will like just take everything in perspective to heal yourself. So it's not just because you're eating bad, you're not doing well, like it's a whole thing. So that's what I love about it. As you said, I'm also an unschooling mother, so my kids, my three kids, are not going to school. They never been for the most part. My stepdaughter actually went to school a little bit and, yes, I have a podcast that is called let's Create the Revolution Together. So we're pretty close in our knees, right, so we're both talking about revolution. So that's pretty cool, yeah.
Speaker 1:It is time for us to evolve into our higher beings we're. It's time for us to evolve into the life that we are deserving of living, and we have control over that. So how we're going to do it is the tools and tips that we're here to give our listeners, and so I want you to talk a little bit more about what you mean about Indian medicine and how that works and what has worked for your clients, because I'm sure a lot of people have not heard that and it's interesting.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all right. So, as I said, ayurveda is an ancient way of healing, like I don't say I'm not saying that most people in India are still doing that because of British invasion and like they got the Western medicine as well over there. But some of them are still like rooted into, like old practices, and the main principle is that they see, they see our illness as imbalances. So it's not so. You just need to rebalance yourself to ill, you know. And so you got like three dosha, three realm of imbalances and it's all working with nature. So you got like the kaffa, which is the earth and water.
Speaker 2:So when you have an imbalance in that area, you might be feeling a little sluggish or like you don't want to really get into things, or you have trouble waking up in the morning, that kind of stuff. We've got the pitta imbalance, which is like more fiery. So if you have like hard burn or you feel angry all the time, that kind of energy, so that will be an imbalance in the fire in you right and so, and the last one is Vata, which is like more airy, like the wind, the air, and so that might be looking like somebody that is very anxious, somebody that over things, stuff, have trouble focusing or like you know that kind of stuff. They might be gassy sometimes, so and so with since it's with the elements, it's so cool. So when you have too much fire, then you can put in a little earth and water onto that so that it can just like ease itself up.
Speaker 1:So that's a very yeah. Do you give them kind of tips on how, on what it is, what elements can we use in order? Like candle could be fire, earth could be other mother nature, or wind or water. So it's like you have the elements that we're able to use physically with ourselves in order to create this harmonious balance with the earth, the fire and the wind.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That is so great.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's with actually, yeah, it's so amazing. And so it's like Peter can like if you have a fiery in balance, it could be because you eat too spicy, and then we can, we can go ahead and like, just like, cool down your the way you're eating, and so it will maybe calm down all of those art burn or that kind of stuff, and so every everything has those elements in them. So when we're a lot in front of a screen, like most of us are, so it will bring that airy, you know, because we're all in in the headspace right, and like getting information and digesting all of that information might be a lot, and so it can be overwhelming. So so, yeah, so it's like. So you need a little grounding then, but you need a little hurt and like kaffa kind of energy to just like ground yourself and move in a way that is that feels good for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Do you feel that you this type of medicine. Have you seen it a lot in trauma survivors and how it works with them and how it helps them become more functionable and understanding what their body is telling them, such as, a lot of times, people of trauma because of their cortisol hormones. It's so elevated because that's a stress hormone. So when that's elevated, then our inflammation, our bodies elevated and then we're more predisposed to different diseases. You know we put stress on our heart, we put stress on our gut. It's just a whole multitude of things. How has that helped people who have been survivors of trauma or lived in trauma basically get out of their subconscious and into their conscious and be more aware of what their body is telling them in order to align themselves in a more healthy or way between their mind and their body and their soul? How has that?
Speaker 2:helped. Well, you know, like the key to healing is to get to know yourself better. And so when you're in that survival mode whether it's because you have too much stress or you had abuse or you know whatever happened to you if you're in that level of stress you need to calm it down. And so by getting to know yourself better and Ayurveda is a tool to get to know yourself so when you see there's like too much fire and you associate that with, like the stress level, you can just like calm it down because you understand what's going on. So that will be one way to do that. You know to implement like a deep knowing in yourself.
Speaker 2:And there's like in Ayurveda there's a lot of like daily routine to help us like nurture ourselves. And so that is that that is so helpful for people that have like that high stress level, because you're you're you're implementing in your own routine stuff that are helping you to ground yourself, to understand, to fill your body, to be in your body, you know, and not just like overthinking or like stressing about something that may like you're talking about survivor, of trauma, you know. So if you're survivor, well, you're not necessarily in that trauma anymore, but sometimes our mind will just like keep on going there because there's, it's so used to, we're kind of addicted to that kind of chemical and so by understanding how, like, what's going on, I feel like we have so much power, you know. So that would be how, the main thing, that would be how, like that, all of those little routine that I do every day are helping me grounding myself, you know so. So I love that.
Speaker 1:I think that's important and, like me, I never had a daily ritual Before I started on my journey. I would just get up, maybe eat, maybe not eat, watch television, maybe not watch television. But I never had like a routine, a healthy routine.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 1:I never started my day the way I wanted to end my day, so I never set my intention on. Today is gonna be a great day. Therefore, no matter whatever comes to me, no matter how difficult it is, I'm gonna still end my day the way I started my day, which is a great day, and so I feel like it's something that's so important for people to understand that having a simple daily ritual, whatever it is that's for you it could be prayer, it could be meditation, it could be setting your affirmations or your intentions for the day, manifesting what you want your day to be and truly believing that that is what you're worthy of that day being for you. It's not just saying I'm gonna have a great day. You actually have to really feel it in order for it to come to you.
Speaker 1:And so now, through my journey, I meditate, I set my intentions, I say my words of affirmations for myself and I look at myself in the mirror and I'm like you got this. I don't question myself, I don't ask myself anything negative. I know that I'm okay the way I am and I'm just learning and growing every day, and that's the part of evolution right Evolving into our better selves. And so, when you mention daily rituals, I feel that just the simplicity of 10 minutes of your morning, of doing something like that, goes such a long way. What do you?
Speaker 2:think, yeah, I think so, I think you're right. I mean all of those little, those little moments that I take every morning that help me ground myself. But not only that, but like clear, you know, physical stuff, because we're just like accumulating stuff in our body all the time. And so, yeah, so it's just a matter of like taking in Ayurveda we call that Amas which is like the toxins that we accumulate every day, every year, every month, every week. And by taking care of that and like getting rid of the most that we can every day, and then by cleansing twice a year, like we get rid of those toxins and we can like renew ourselves, like in India it's so usual to have people like purge themselves in the morning so they can like get rid of old energy, you know, and to just like start their day with something new.
Speaker 2:And so I'm not advocating necessarily for that, I'm not doing that myself, but I will do other stuff. So I will do like oil pooling, so you put like coconut oil in your mouth and you just like like whoosh it in your mouth for like 10 minutes and it will just like take all the toxins that you have in your mouth and like it will like trap it in the oil and then you just like spit it and you brush your teeth and so you start out that is fresh, right, because when you sleep at night, all the toxins are just accumulating in your mouth. That's why we may have like the white tongue in the morning, or bad breath or that kind of stuff. It's like because we have too much hummus, you know. And so by clearing that, we all have that Like. I mean, like there's nobody perfect, we all have that, but some of us like it may be more intense, and so it's just a matter of like clearing those things every day so we can have good habits, I know, I totally get it.
Speaker 1:It's the way you also create yourself. Whatever that is, you do the coconut. Somebody else may want to journal their thoughts out, to release the thoughts out.
Speaker 1:Other people may want to sit under the sun and just sit in quiet and stillness for themselves. There's just so many ways that people could reconnect and ground themselves in a healthy way in order to let go of whatever doesn't resonate with them and to invite good spirits, good energy, good frequency into themselves. So that's the beauty of this. There's not one thing that works for everybody. You have to find the one thing that works for you. Now let's go into like. This is so amazing. Other people would probably be like what is she talking about? How does she do this? I don't get it. I don't understand it right. But the beauty of it, I think, is that you did not align yourself with what society considers the normal thing to do.
Speaker 1:You know what we're programmed to believe is we go to normal school, we wake up in the mornings, we get dressed, we go to school, but you, on the other hand, you turned it around, completely around, and you decided to unschool your children. Please, please, let us know what this is about.
Speaker 2:All right. So unschooling yeah, I know it raises a lot of questions. So the name yeah, the name can seem a little radical and it kinda is, you know, so might like people might know homeschooling. So you're schooling your kids at home and unschooling is like another level of freedom, I will say that. And so in unschooling we're not following a curriculum. So my kids I have three kids. I have one, my daughter, my oldest daughter is 12. I have a stepdaughter which is 11. And I have a youngest daughter which is six, all right, and so all three of them are learning every day, according to their value, according to their interest, according to their level of energy, according to how they feel, and so it's different every day.
Speaker 2:I feel like, as adult, we're always trying to get back to that state of like getting to know ourselves, or like questioning like what do we have to do, how do we work, what am I here to do? And we're questioning that all the time. And so my journey as a human brought me to a place where I wanted to know who I am, and so that's what I did throughout my whole life, and so when I got pregnant, it felt just supernatural for me. It wasn't like out of principle or because I didn't love the school system, because I was always in the school system. I think there are lacunes in there. I think that it's not perfect, but I felt when I got pregnant, I felt like the being that I was caring inside of me had something else to do in this world. Then, just like sitting on the bench and getting filled up with information, and I was like I just wanted to go through the life with her, understanding who she is. And by understanding who she is for her and for me, I can support her and she can know who she is. So she knows her interests, she knows what fits for her, where it feels right, where it doesn't feel right.
Speaker 2:And so when we're in school and we're kind of forced to go into that system, we have to go every morning, as you said. You wake up, you brush your teeth, you take your breakfast, you do your lunch, you go to school. This is the way it is, and for some people it works good and that's perfect. I love that. And for some other people that are more independent and more anthropoc it doesn't fit quite well.
Speaker 2:And so my oldest daughter started four businesses up to this point, and my stepdaughter is taking music class because that's her interest, and so she's learning English. We speak French in our house, and so she's got this amazing teacher that speak English, and she learns English by doing what she loves to do, and so it's the same for everybody. They're all learning stuff according to what feels right for them, and so, as they do that, they know they understand who they are, and so when there's like a boundary to put, they're very comfortable doing it because they know who they are. So, yeah, so that's pretty much. Yeah, that's pretty much unschooling. It's just a lifestyle. It's just a different lifestyle.
Speaker 1:I think what's so beautiful about that and I don't think none of us really think of it is that you take away the stress of having to mold yourself into a society, things that you should be or how you should act or behave or speak and stuff, so that kind of takes away from your children having to worry about that, because a lot of times that is when sometimes trauma begins for children the bullying, the negative talks, the negativity that they hear too, and stuff having to fit into a certain crowd, having to do a sport even though they don't wanna do that sport because they wanna look like the cool kid in the school, right, and things like that.
Speaker 1:So you start doing things and you start losing your authentic self because you start trying to fit into this mold of who you're not and then in return, you just end up being a very unhappy person, which then grows with you as you're an adult. And then again you start accepting things that are not meant for you, that are not aligned with you, because again you're trying to do the same thing, you're trying to conform to what others think you should be, how you should act, what you should accept, and at the end of the day again, you're losing yourself even further.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:And so I think, with you acknowledging what your kids love to do. One loves business, it's clear she has four businesses already and she's so young, so she understands what the value of money means to her, yeah. And then the other one loves music, so she's also learning the language of music and learning how to speak the language that she's interested in. So nothing's being forced to them, they're just gradually learning everything at their pace, which, in hindsight, sometimes I wonder whether they're learning things in a better quality and retaining the information.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know what I mean, because a lot of times we go to school and I don't know everything I learned in school. And I've shared things I didn't like doing in school and school nowadays, I feel they've taken away the fun part of being in school, of education, and so how would you feel? Do you think that seeing your children grow up like this and how you see your other friends and other peers, children who are in school, what would you say it's the biggest difference that you've seen between your children and their children who are going to school?
Speaker 2:in regards to their person, I'd say the maturity and the creativity is so huge because, well, in school you do. I was just talking with someone before our call and we were talking about how, when in school you're not good at something, you have to do more of that thing so you can get better at that thing. And so for me it was math. Right, I was so bad at math.
Speaker 2:It was not good, it was not for me. I just wanted to write stuff, dance, create, do poetry, whatever. That was my jam when I was in school. But I had no time to do that right, because I had to focus on math, because I wasn't good at it, and so I had like more math to do and less of what I really wanted to do. And so by doing that is what she said, it's like you're you're depriving people of the thing that they would thrive in, because we want to I don't know implement stuff that we think they need. We think that they need to do math or we think they need to do science.
Speaker 2:And for myself, I know that my history class was so boring and I got interested in history later on, when I was an adult and I went to study art history and then I was like, oh man, history is so cool. I never thought that history could be cool because the way it was taught and the timing of it, it was just not for me at that time. And so in my mind I got stuck with history is boring. That sucks, you know.
Speaker 2:And then it took me opening my mind to see that there's other versions of history. There's other way to talk about it. There's not like just the wars and the date and you know that kind of stuff. There's other stuff that was going on as well, you know. And so sometimes I feel that kind of learning is limiting, and when we actually learn something that we care about and that we love to learn you're right it's just like it sticks. It sticks because you're enjoying learning that, and so the joy of learning that is just like so powerful that the children are retaining the information a lot more. And it's so crazy the way they're just like going to come to me and explain something that I have no idea of and I'll be like, oh, that's so cool, and they teach me stuff that they've learned according to their interest and they're able to teach.
Speaker 1:And if you can teach it, that's because you integrated it, you got it Like you got it, you're good and so, yeah, now, I love that because, like you just said right now, because they're so passionate about it, then they're going to put all their effort into learning it instead of and I never thought of it this way, but you're so right when we don't understand something, we put more work into trying to understand something that we do not understand and we do not, and it becomes as a challenge to us so we do not enjoy it, instead of focusing our energy on something that we do enjoy and that will make us grow. You know, and like you said in time, that challenge maybe something we do appreciate, but at this time, it's just we're getting pushed into trying to just pass that class and understand it, that we lose sight of the things that we do enjoy and love. Yeah, so I think that's so great and it's kind of like us growing right. We, a lot of us, think, oh, we need to be an attorney, we need to be a doctor. I love being a nurse. I'm a nurse because it's my calling, it's my passion. I wasn't told I needed to be a nurse. I did it because, in my heart, I knew I wanted to help people, and so that's why I became a nurse.
Speaker 1:But a lot of people become who they become not because they passionately love it, but because they feel that they need to become that in order to live the life that they feel they need to live.
Speaker 1:You know where they need to like attract the person they want to attract. You know, like that and at the end of the day it's like something I teach my son, and now a lot is money will come to you. As long as you do what is better, not only for yourself, but you're doing it for others. That is looked upon as something huge. So then it's going to be delivered to you, unknowingly, doesn't? You're not working towards it. It just means that you're being seen for the hard work that you're giving, and not only helping yourself but creating that positive change in others. And that's because, as human beings, we want that human connection, and through that human connection is when we grow a life full of abundance, and through that is an abundance of love, abundance of happiness, financial abundance. You know so it's like I keep telling him keep doing what you're doing, keep following your passion, keep making people happy, and before you know it you will start living that life of abundance that you're deserving of because you're giving service to others.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know and it's the same thing that you're doing for your children right now is you know what I want you to do, what you're passionate about? If you know, for some reason, in a year from now, you decide that's not what it is and now you want to start something new, then we'll start something new and you'll learn that now and that's evolution.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, and that's stepping into our power at a young age. You know, like sometimes we don't trust our children. We don't trust that they're able to do that, we don't trust that they are going to be able to put like a limit for themselves. But it's not true. It's just not true. I've seen it. I've seen it with my kids and with my friends' kids, like, when they have enough of sugar because they ate too much, they're going to stop. They're going to learn really quickly what it does to their body. You know, because they're going to be in the experience of, like what is going on, you know. And so, as parents, my role is to be there and to ask good questions to them. So, if they want to binge on sugar, and I'm like, all right, just go ahead and do it, and then I'll be there after and I'll be like so how does it feel?
Speaker 1:Well.
Speaker 2:I feel like it is sluggish and excited and nauseated and I'm like, all right. So do you think that might be the sugar? Yeah, I think so. So maybe we can eat less, right? And so, yeah, all right, so we can eat less. I'm not going to take it away from them, you know, because if I take it away from them, think like because I'm scared or because I'm triggered that they're not going to be healthy or whatever they're going to get fat or whatever my fear may be and I take it away, I take away their power to make that decision for themselves, and it's it's triggering. It's triggering as parents because we want the best for our kids. But for me, the best for my kids is for them to be able to take those decisions in the hindsight, you know, like really knowing all what's going on and so they can actually make a decision. And so it's it's not a matter of trusting them and asking the right questions.
Speaker 1:So this may be a deep question, I don't know but do you think there was something within you that made you realize that this is what I'm choosing for my children? For this reason why?
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, I mean, even when I was very young, I was just very aware of the thing that we're wrong in quotes. Like I was, I was already like. In first grade I was already like asking what's up? Like, why do I have to go to school every day? Why do I have to eat that? If it doesn't feel right, why do I have to go to bed? At that moment, you know, like I was always questioning.
Speaker 2:It wasn't easy for my parents because they didn't have this open minded, because, like they were like it was the 80s, it was different time, you know, it was like something, something else. But I always knew that we would drive more out of freedom than being in those golden cages that may bring us to prosperity. And for me it was just not right. I was just like it was not right. So for all my life I was trying to get to that freedom state, to have like, and I was like rebellious and I was against the system and I was like, because it was the way it was showing up, it was easier for me to go to that angry state of mind and then, when I got pregnant, it just like everything just calmed down. It was like all right. So I had like a being now that I am going to take care of, and the love that I have for this being is way bigger than all the anger in the world.
Speaker 2:And so, as I was pursuing that authentic lifestyle I was, I was already not wanting for her to sleep in a crib. I was like this is not natural for me, this is not what it says inside of me. And so I was cold sleeping, even though everybody around me were like this is dangerous and you're going to kill your baby. And I was like you know, this is what my intuition is saying. Like I had this being for nine months in my belly and I it's, we're not, like I don't think it's going to be supportive of her if I just live her alone. Like go in your crib, you know it didn't make sense for me, so I was always on the fringe side of the things. Like pretty much the whole, my whole life is.
Speaker 2:It was just the pursuit of that, you know, and schooling was just the pursuit of that. It was just like the more natural things to do for me because I was already living out of my natural cycles and it was like it brought me so much anxiety, the thing that I had to wake up super early to make a lunch and like dress my kid and and put her in a bus so that she can go to school, and then it was just tiring just to think about it, you know. And so it's all about like learning who we are and going to every day with that thing, with who we are right, and so for me, I was valuing more of sleeping with my natural rhythm, eating when I'm hungry, you know. All of that like just like being in that natural state. It was more valued for me. So that's that's how like it was. Yeah, it was just the more natural thing, yeah.
Speaker 1:Just having more connection with oneness, just being more in connecting with yourself and instead of trying to question whether what your body is feeling is right or not right, so you're like, like you said, more intuitive with what you feel is right for you. You know, knowing that this is something that's so new, I don't know a lot of people who do on schooling for their children and let their children learn at their pace and actually learn according to what their passion is. How do people perceive it that you have spoken to, how you know when your children speak to their friends about it because I'm sure your children do have friends People are probably going to ask you well, if you're on schooling them, how are they socializing with other peers? Right, I'm sure that's a question All the time. And then also the other one, which is a big one, is what are some comments or some things that you have received from other people not really understanding it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, Well, all right. So for the most part, like the kids, my children's friends are understanding. They get the thing that we're doing on schooling. They're like, oh my God, you don't have to go to school. Well, that's amazing. That is so cool. What do you do all day? You just chill. That is so cool.
Speaker 2:I would love to do that. And the kids, they want me to be their parents. That's usually how it goes. The parents not so much. Most of the time. For the parents it's scary, you know, because it feels too radical. It feels like I would maybe be a bad influence for their kids.
Speaker 2:Because I'm not advocating for on schooling, I'm not like I'm not there anymore. I used to be there wanting to burn all the schools, but I'm not there anymore. I respect what they're doing in school. It's not my jam and if people are really in tune with that, I'm so glad that the system is there for those people. But what I've seen is the children are like kind of sick of it, you know, and the parents are stressed and so they don't want to have something else to deal with. And because it raises a lot of questions for themselves how is that possible? Some of them may think that I'm going to screw up. My kids, like members of my family, are not agreeing with what I'm doing because they don't see the value in it, and that's okay. You know, at first I was angry about it, but then now I understand that it is radical, it is different, you know it is different and that's my core value, but I understand that it's not for everybody.
Speaker 2:My daughter was. She went to do her nails, all right, and so the lady that was there, she was curious of why is she there on the school day? She was like, well, I'm not going to school. And at first that lady was curious about it and she told me stories about her kid. That is not fitting in school, that it's very hard, she's depressed, she feels like she has to force her, and I had an opening, you know, and I was like, all right, that's cool, maybe this person might be open. But I don't know what happened After that. She never wanted to speak to me again and so there's like I think it just brings a lot of questioning and fear for parents. So, yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 1:I was just going to say that sometimes school brings a lot of tension between parents and the children and that's a lot of times where the separation starts to happen, where the children start disconnecting with from their parents, because it's really hard for them to communicate, it's really hard for them to speak up. I know as a mother, I will say that I went through that with my children. Doing homework was a battle. Yeah, doing homework, it was like the worst thing of my day to come to do.
Speaker 1:And there was times where I just was like I'm not going to make them do this. This is ridiculous. Look at the amount of homework that they're giving them. I'm like where is family time? Where is rest time? And I would honestly write a letter Sorry, my child was too sick. Yeah, I'm just like it's just ridiculous. You're taking away from healthy family time to this.
Speaker 1:And so there's actually schools out there who do not believe in homework. Yeah, which I think is amazing, because they're understanding the negativity that's bringing between the family dynamics. Yeah, just a simple thing as homework. People don't understand how negative that could be. The child's frustrated, the parents trying to teach them what they probably forgot, that they learned in school. And so now they're both frustrated and it's like it's not helping the situation at all.
Speaker 1:So what I did with my daughter because she was a little bit tougher with the homework was I got a tutor and I said, whatever, you don't finish with your tutor. I'm good because I was right. I can't do this. I didn't want to keep creating a negative relationship with my child and myself because of what homework brought.
Speaker 1:And so to me and you know people, when it comes to school, I think a lot of parents are going through that and a lot of children are wanting to speak to their parents, and it's hard because we as parents always feel that we should have the last word or we're always the right ones, right and so we don't listen and we forget how it is to be good listeners, and so then our children shut down and then the whole thing comes about about anxiety, depression, withdrawal and stuff like that. So, yes, I mean I could definitely see the benefits of it. I could also see how some people could be resistant to it because it's so radically different. But I would be so interested in you doing a study of some sort so therefore people could see the benefits of it and how highly functional your children are in society and how they have attained an amazing outlook on life, but also how they're living a life that is healthy for themselves, free of stress.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, yes, I cannot wait to see them as an adult. Like what they're going to look like, what they're going to do. They're already so amazing, you know, like they're so generous, they're so they know who they are and it's so powerful. You know, like my kids, they will interact with kids that are younger, kids that are older. They have friends that are older. Why not? I mean, like, if you get along with them like and if you're, because that's the thing like sometimes they're like like my oldest daughter socially she's like at an adult level, but if you ask her to write a text she's very low, you know. So she has skills that are like very good for her to have that maturity, that entrepreneurship she has, like all of those, and so these are not necessarily valued at that moment in the child's life. Like that's where you go to college to get those skills. But what I've learned is that they can have those skills whenever they want.
Speaker 2:Like my daughter, like she's, I don't know she was just into money a lot when she was like six and she wanted to have money. She wanted to understand how to make money. She's, it was in her. So why not, you know, why wait until you're in college to learn that, like what's the big deal to learn it right now, you know so. So it's all like it's all a matter of staying open, you know, to our kids and I know a lot of people that are in the school system that are doing that as well. It's not a matter of like doing on schooling or, but to be there for our kids. That's what it is, and for me, the lifestyle of on schooling was more aligned with who I am. But I have friends that their kids are going into the school system and they're amazing. They're as amazing as my kid, you know.
Speaker 1:And I agree with that and that's why it's so beautiful. Like you said, there's homeschooling and then there's going to school. I think if we listen to what fit our children for who they are, some children want to go to school, they love going to school yeah, you know what I mean and there's nothing wrong with that. And for some, like what you just said, with that young lady there, her son has a really hard time fitting in and he doesn't know how to fit in. So I'm pretty sure he's probably withdrawing himself from even socializing and connecting because he doesn't know how and the fear of shame and the fear of what others may say and things like that he probably disconnects. I'm not sure, I'm just thinking out loud. And so I think it's important for us to recognize what is valuable for our children and then in return it's also what is valuable for us as we're adults.
Speaker 1:Right, if you don't, if you're not happy in a job, leave that job. I know it's hard. And when I tell people that you know because I have some colleagues at the position that they're in a nursing it's really difficult for them and because they just aren't happy in that place and I'm like then leave. If you're not happy, leave. You will find the right place. You will find the right place If you truly believe that this is not the place for you. The right one will come to you unexpectedly. Honestly, it will happen and I'm like.
Speaker 1:But if you stay, all you're doing it's just creating more tension, more stress and more negativity for you. You only have this one valuable life, so how do you want to live it? And that's the I'm like. I can't answer that question for you. You need to answer that question for yourself. And when you figure that question out, then you're going to know what's the right decision to make for you. And so I think, as like which you're molding your children into believing it's the best part of their journey for them. I think us as adults, we kind of have forgotten that journey for ourselves, because we've been programmed by society, by church, by parents, by teachers, coaches, to be somebody. We're not, because if we are somebody we are.
Speaker 1:A lot of times we got in trouble for it. So I think now it's our time to evolve into living the life that's going to make us happy, without outside influence, because the only validation that we should seek is our internal validation. The only acceptance we should seek is our internal acceptance Because, like growing up, we always thought, well, love had to be external. If they love me, if I dress this way, then I'm going to be accept, then they're going to accept me, then that means I'm valuable. Not so we were programmed to believe, even as children, and so, as adults, we did the same thing. If we dressed this way, we spoke this way, we acted this way, in the outside world accepted us, and that meant we're lovable, we're valuable.
Speaker 1:Now it starts with you first. It starts with you loving yourself, you acknowledging yourself, and you're saying I'm worthy of this, I'm valuable of this, and now you're attracting all that to yourself, that it's worthy for you, because you feel that within yeah, we're not taught that we're not taught that. We're programmed to believe that what society says is acceptable, and that is what we're supposed to be in order to be accepted. Now we're supposed to accept ourselves for who we are and love ourselves for who we are.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know, because we're all unique and we're all beautiful, and I love how, right here, one of the things that you wrote, that you wrote to me and I wanted to read it, is that we are growing up instead of growing old. What do you mean by that?
Speaker 2:I mean that when we're growing old, it's like we're depleting right, we're growing old, it's like it's tiring, but when we grow up, it's like we're just evolving. So that's what I mean by that. It's the way I see it, as I'm reaching my forties and I'm like I don't wanna be in that state of mind where I feel old, like this is not, I'm not old, I wanna be like evolving all the time. It's not a matter of like age. But yeah, I was talking with my husband and I was like, if we grow old like it sucks, it just sucks. We're tired all the time, we're cranky, it hurts, it feels like you gotta be like unshed down when you're old, but instead of I think of your- thought, I think of your thoughts, of you being old, because your thoughts are what you control your body with.
Speaker 1:So if your thoughts are telling you you're growing old, your body starts feeling as though it's growing old. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I like that. So it's like it's just a mindset. But as I was like aging, let's say that because I was like, yeah, like how do I wanna cross that line of the 40s, how do I wanna cross that line? Am I gonna start feeling old? Like no, I mean, that's crazy. Like, of course, like right now we live so much longer than before and we're not even at half point, that's, we're not. I've just say we're not old. But the body is not the same, right, when we get to those 40s. And it's fine, it's part of the process. But yeah, I was just seeing people growing old around me and I was like, yeah, it looks like it's heavy, it doesn't look fun.
Speaker 1:And I'm 47. I'm like, what's 47 supposed to feel like?
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Because I don't feel 47 at all. I'm very active. I'm actually the best that I've ever been in my life. Right now, you know, because now I am in love with myself where I wasn't, and this started out in when I was 46, where I started acknowledging myself.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Once I started acknowledging myself and whole world of like greatness just came to me. But I'm 47 now and I'm just so much to live that the word old doesn't ever come out of my mouth because I'm like, I don't feel old at all, you know, I'm just like, I guess, like you said, evolving into a better me and a greater me every day, and it's so beautiful and I wouldn't change it because I love it. Yeah, it's like you were saying every experience we encounter is an opportunity to grow.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, so that's how we grow up.
Speaker 1:So do you feel that also, that means the pain and the struggles and the trauma that we've gone through has come to us for a higher purpose in life? Yes, definitely.
Speaker 2:Definitely I'm not the one to shy away from struggle, like I feel I'm not running after it. But if it's coming, or like the past experience I had, which imply a lot of struggle, I'm not ditching on it, I'm not rejecting it. I mean it's part of what needed to happen so that I can be a better person. That's how I see it. I mean, there's always. For me, there's always something to learn and when you encounter anything, there's something to learn. If you're trigger, there's something bigger to learn. For me it's like sometimes we just like see something beautiful and you can learn from that, and it's easy, it's fun, it's light and when something heavy comes your way, you got also something to learn and you're also in control of that and you're also choosing that. And sometimes it may seem harsh, but it's still like, no matter what the trauma I've been through and I've been through a lot of trauma I take responsibility for all of that. Yeah.
Speaker 1:When was your, what would you consider your true awakening in your moment in life where you were like it's time for me to find myself?
Speaker 2:Well, you know, it happened really at a young age for me, but then I shut it down and then it came back a few times.
Speaker 2:But the real moment where I actually listened was when I got pregnant. That's the moment for me that I was 27 and it was something bigger happening to me. You know, it was not just me myself and my little experience. It was like there was something bigger that was like drawn to me and even though I was gonna be a single parent, even though I didn't have a home at the time, even though I had no money, no job, I knew it's like, I knew I needed to have that kid, even though I had like nothing tangible to support that choice, you know, yeah, and so that was like my, even though I had like multiple awakening and I was always somebody that was like talking about shadow work and like healing the body when I was, like in high school, it was always something that I was very interested in. But when I got pregnant, something clicked, something switched in a way that was like irreversible, because I'm still living with that kid and I had like others after it.
Speaker 1:So I mean they're not returnable.
Speaker 2:There's no refunds from our children, yeah.
Speaker 1:That's what I always tell my patients.
Speaker 1:I'm like no refunds, no returns, Got them for life. It's a lifetime gift with no warranty, but it's the best gift. So, even those who are not parents per se, you're always a parent, even to like your nieces, your nephews, just to anybody. You're a role model, and, as a parent, that's what we are. We're role models, you know, and so we have to live the life that we want our children to live, cause that's what they're gonna think it's, or feel that it's acceptable for them, if it's acceptable for my parents and it's acceptable for me, and that's when the light bulb came out for me.
Speaker 1:When I started when I was realizing that the choices that I was making in my life were going to influence my children into probably not making the right choices for their life. So I wanted them to see that it's okay to be alone and not feel lonely. It's okay to go out by yourself and enjoy your solidarity, because the person you're supposed to love and enjoy first and foremost is you yourself. It's, and you're always evolving, you're always learning and you're always, you know, going through challenges too, because those are our lessons to become our better me. You know, and it's beautiful, it's just accepting everything that comes along the way for a better purpose and, instead of making excuses or saying or taking it negatively, just be more optimistic and more positive with what everything comes to you. And so that's why, when they ask, how did you convert your pain into your power and into your strength, is because I wasn't gonna let my pain control me any further.
Speaker 1:And by letting the pain control me, I was accepting toxicity into my life, whether it be from a person or just negative energy from anything, and I was living a life that I was always. I pretended to be happy, but deep down inside I was so sad, and so once I found myself and I accepted who I am and what's happened to me, and you know, I didn't make excuses anymore. I didn't see it as something to be shameful about, but something to be proud about, because I overcame it. I was strong enough. Now it's like there's nothing that you could throw my way that I could honestly say that I can't overcome, because I've overcome so much that now it's like all right. What are you trying to teach me now? What kind of lesson am I learning from this? Bring it on, I got this, you know.
Speaker 1:And it's like all right, you know I'm always learning. This is great and so, yeah, now I know that your podcast, let's Create the Revolution Together that's amazing, and you know you have a lot of reviews and a lot of followers, but you're gonna be relaunching and transforming that into a new platform. And I want people to also connect with you. So what's gonna be the change you're gonna be bringing to your listeners and to your audience?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I wanna. You know, right now I'm surrounded by amazing people, mostly healer, lightworkers, artists, that kind of people, the ones that are on the fringe and I see their beautiful power and I wanna help them create something together. So that's why, at first, the podcast was called let's Create the Revolution Together and it was a lot like rebellious and it was fun to do. Like it was my teenage years as a podcaster, and now I'm evolving and so I want it to be more mature. And you know, when you're a teenager and you wanna just chill with people because it's cool, you know to just chill with people, and now I actually wanna help those people like deeply, because I care for them, I love them and I wanna yeah, I wanna bring them like a space and I'm creating a platform. It's not just a podcast, it's gonna be a platform where there's gonna be community and I want it to be out of social media because of the algorithm that is, I don't know, like it's kind of choosing what we do and what we see, and I want people to have like real connection, not just like commenting on a post. I mean it's great, I love it, I love social media, it's a good tool and also I feel like those people and I count myself into those people we're kind of scattered all over the globe and it's perfect like that, because we need to shine light to make that revolution come to life.
Speaker 2:And if we're like all at the same place and we're shining well, there's like the ripple effect is gonna be really small. But if we're scattered all over the world, when we shine so brightly, the ripple effect is gonna be so huge, right and so. But to do that we need to have that support, because together we're way stronger. And we're not gonna be together all the time because we're all over the globe, but we need those moments where we can actually talk to each other for real for real like this, even though we're far away.
Speaker 2:The internet is such a blessing for us, you know, and so I wanna use that and I wanna create that community and I wanna help those people bring their business alive, because their business is the way they're shining right, it's the way we're shining. We still need that money and we might as well do something that makes sense, you know, and so I wanna support them and I wanna create. I've seen them and lately I've been coaching some of them in their business, even though I don't really have a business yet. But I see shadows, you know. I see them, I see where it gets stuck. So when we get rid of those things because we're healing those things, then the truth can come in and then they know what to do. They know what to do. We know what to do the minute these shadows, energies, are not there anymore.
Speaker 2:It's so easy, like the business part of it. It's just so easy, you know. We get stuck in like what kind of technology should I use, what kind of products, what kind of offer? And all of those questions are there because of those shadows, you know. And so the platform is gonna be around, that there's gonna be round table there's gonna be. I want it to have like shows every month, like so we can actually gather to do something fun together, you know. So that's gonna be very. It's gonna be so cool.
Speaker 1:I'm so excited it sounds so cool, like it sounds like it's just gonna be like a lot of energy coming together, you know, cause people don't realize that you're quite far from me and are so connecting. You know, yes, and it's so beautiful because I'm like, yeah, she's on the other side of the world.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's on the other side.
Speaker 1:We just connected and became friends, and now we're here talking about our unique selves and what we bring into this world and stuff and how we've involved into our better beings, and I can't wait to hear and see your platform, because that's the beauty of it it's like there's so much greatness all around us.
Speaker 1:I truly, truly believe that, no matter how much hate there could be in this world or unkind things that people could say, at the end of the day I truly believe that there's more love than hate. Yeah, there's more people out there that want to feel love, to be loved, to know what it is to love, than there is people who hate, and I think that's so beautiful, because a lot of times, people only see the negative part of things and they don't show the positive things, because a lot of times, negativity draws in more people, more audience, right, and so that's why you want that. You know fear Fear is really good at just attracting people to you. Yeah, to fear, and so, but I truly believe that it's love that prevails, it's love that wins over.
Speaker 1:And so, no matter what, as long as we spread the love, we spread the kindness, we spread hugs and understanding and the freedom to be who we are and to be our authentic selves and to grow in this world, there's just gonna be more beauty. Darkness is there for us for a purpose, because we need to go through that in order to see what the light is. You know, there's so much brightness out there, but we can't appreciate that brightness if we don't go through that dark place. Yeah, because then everything is gonna be given to us and we're not gonna work towards things and we also wanna feel accomplished.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and so yeah, there's no shadow if there's no light. No, there's just none. This is physics, you know. And so it's just a matter of hearing those shadows and focusing on the light. And so by doing that, we clear a lot of negative energy, bad trauma, limiting beliefs, and we're creating that for ourselves. We're creating those limiting beliefs. No one else is like implementing that into us. Like we're creating those because we're stuck in a realm of like addiction to those chemicals that are produced when we're in that state of mind. And so by realizing that and stepping outside of that and creating something better, we can actually change the world. I feel that that, like it's the truth. It's the truth, and the more of us that can actually do that, the shinier the world's gonna be. We just need to step into that power, and I wanna be there front row to help those people, you know, because I care for that. I care for this world to shine. You know, like we're not there to just do wars all the time. This sucks Like come on.
Speaker 1:No, like I never see anything positive come out of it. That's just me. But one last question for you. Yeah, what is one thing that you would tell your younger self?
Speaker 2:Probably something like I know you think you're weird and you are, and that's fine. You know, like I've always felt like I was misplaced, like I was wrong, like I was not like doing it right, you know, and I wasn't, I wasn't doing it right for them, you know, and that's okay, that's okay. I had to do it another way. This was my path to do it another way, and so, just like that's what I would do, I would say, and I would hold her, like, come on, she was so lonely, poor kid, poor kid, you know, like you're that young, alone in the world, like, oh my God, it's awful, it's awful.
Speaker 2:And I'm so glad that, as a parent, right now, my kids don't feel like that, you know, and it's not out of reaction, it's just like the way I think it should be. We're bringing those being into the world and we should just support them and love them, no matter what it feels like, no matter how it shows up. But I didn't have that and that loneliness made me feel like I was wrong. But I wasn't, and I'm realizing that right now and it's not too late. It's never too late.
Speaker 1:It's never too late. You'd be surprised how many people accept you just for being you. Yeah, you know. And so it's okay to be weird, it's okay to be different. It's you know what is weird. I think we're all a little bit weird.
Speaker 2:I know I could be.
Speaker 1:You know, I know that I'm definitely not the same like everybody else, but I would believe that that's what people love about me is that I'm me and I'm different the way I am and I don't need to be like you. You know to be me, yeah, and so it's beautiful. So, yes, your weirdness looks teardown you, thank you. Thank you. Well, I want to thank you for being here and I want to thank you for bringing so much value and being you and being free to be able to talk so freely about how you raise your children, why you're doing it, the importance on it you know, letting them be their authentic selves and just learning themselves, and then the value that you're bringing through life coaching, through other people, of connecting like with you know the earth, our fire and our wind and just bringing it all together into one to complete us, you know, and so I really thank you for everything that you shared with us.
Speaker 1:And here is there anything, any last thoughts you would like to leave us with, Anything empowering that you would say hey, this is your moment to shine.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know. This is your moment to shine. It's just the truth, right? It's just the truth. You just look at yourself in the mirror and you stop complaining, you stop seeing the bad things and you see the greatness that you are. You know, and then you move forward with that. Awesome that's beautiful.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's time for people to start looking at themselves for the beautiful person they are. Yes, yes, that's great, but thank you so much, thank you, thank you so much. Don't forget to link over to the notes, because I'm going to go ahead and put me our goals information on there with her podcast and then, yep, I'm going to link her, so just make sure that you reach out, you connect. So thank you for taking your time and joining us, thank you, thank you. Thank you for taking your time and connecting with me on this beautiful journey of life.
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