Episode 82: Reciprocal IVF

summary

In this conversation, Alisa shares her journey through reciprocal IVF, exploring the emotional and physical aspects of the process. She shares her experiences of pregnancy, the challenges faced, and the decisions made regarding embryo selection and sperm donation. 

The discussion highlights the unique aspects of reciprocal IVF for same-sex couples and the importance of emotional support throughout the journey. In this conversation, We explore the multifaceted journey of motherhood, discussing the emotional and medical challenges faced during pregnancy, the significance of placenta encapsulation, the realities of breastfeeding, and the leadership role that motherhood entails. 

We share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of intuition, self-acceptance, and the diverse paths to motherhood.

takeaways

• Alisa and her wife chose reciprocal IVF to share the biological connection to their child.
• The decision-making process in IVF can be emotionally challenging.
• Elisa felt a strong connection to her baby throughout the pregnancy.
• Choosing the gender of the baby was a significant decision for Elisa and her wife.
• The IVF process involves numerous medical tests and procedures to ensure success.
• Emotional support from partners is crucial during the IVF journey.
• The cost of egg retrieval is a significant factor in the IVF process.
• The experience of pregnancy can feel abstract until the baby is born.
• The role of the sperm donor is an important consideration in the IVF process.
• The placenta takes over hormone production around the 10-week mark of pregnancy. There is a possibility to have less medication during pregnancy.
• Choosing an embryo can be an emotional experience.
• Encapsulating the placenta may help with postpartum health.
• Breastfeeding can be challenging and varies for each mother.
• Motherhood is a leadership position that requires assertiveness.
• Trusting your intuition is crucial in parenting.
• Managing emotions is key when dealing with children's big feelings.
• Sleep deprivation can impact parenting effectiveness.
• There are many ways to become a mother, including adoption.
• Sharing experiences can provide hope to others on their motherhood journey.

Sound Bites

• "It's a numbers game."
• "I felt very connected to her."
• "If you can afford it, freeze your eggs."
• "Don't overthink it."
• "The placenta is what's pumping out the hormones."
• "It's possible to carry a baby in menopause."
• "I did choose to encapsulate my placenta."
• "Motherhood is a leadership position."
• "I want to give other women hope."

Chapters

00:00
Introduction to Reciprocal IVF

01:08
The Journey to Motherhood

03:42
Understanding Reciprocal IVF

04:10
Pregnancy Experience and Challenges

11:13
The Delivery Experience

12:42
Decision-Making in IVF

15:28
Emotional Aspects of IVF

17:17
The Role of the Sperm Donor

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