This Is Soul Therapy

9. Embracing Release: A Journey into Letting Go, Manifesting Desires, and Rewriting Mental Narratives for Personal Growth

• Jennifer Hulley • Episode 9

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Are you ready to walk into a new year, clutching onto old baggage? Didn't think so. Welcome to the newest episode of Soul Therapy, where we're embarking on a transformative journey to explore the profound art of release. We're not just talking about tidying up your living space or calling it quits on toxic relationships. This is about shedding emotional and energetic weight, cutting invisible chains to past traumas, and replacing them with vibrant, positive energy.

Do you ever feel like an overstuffed closet, brimming with items that no longer serve a purpose? We get it. And that's what we're addressing - the struggle of letting go, of releasing those familiar, comfortable things that stifle our growth. We're taking a deep-dive into the various aspects of release - physical, energetic, emotional, and mental - and how they synergize to create balance in our lives. But it gets better - we'll also walk you through practical strategies like using vision boards, visualizing your desires, and asserting your expectations to the universe. 

Finally, we'll tackle the toughest part of letting go - releasing embedded mental beliefs and patterns. With the aid of tools like meditation, hypnosis, and tarot cards, we'll guide you through a journey of introspection and self-reflection, helping you unravel outdated narratives and weave a new, fulfilling reality. Remember, your mind is a dynamo, a power plant of incredible energy that, when harnessed correctly, can help you manipulate your environment to achieve your goals. So, let's embark on this voyage of release to create room for the new, the exciting, the fulfilling. Welcome to Soul Therapy. Let's get started!


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Mind, body, spirit. This is Soul Therapy and I'm your host, Jen Hully. This week we are talking all about the art of letting go so that we can welcome in exactly what we're calling in and manifesting in our life. We are entering a season of more, more, more, want, want, want, have, have, have. As we enter into December, you're going to be inundated with messages about manifesting your dream life, building your vision board, setting goals, buying the planner that's going to fix your life. All these things, all these strategies, all these supports, all these aspirational pieces of content or solutions are going to be in our face, about transformation and personal transformation and tangible transformation like manifest, the car of your dreams. Call in the relationship you've always been wanting up level in your career, whatever right, we're entering this season, december it probably has already kicked off with Black Friday's done in the States and now we're really into the I can say the holiday swing. It starts. It's going to be in our face, it's going to be everywhere and, naturally, with the end of the calendar year, we're in a cycle where it comes to a close right. We're like 2024, it's a brand new number. What do I want? And we start focusing, we get off our little hamster wheel of doing the same thing every day and we're like, oh, what hamster wheel do I actually want to be on? And it's so exciting to sit down and make a vision board, like I have one in my office. I look at it all the time, fucking love cutting out pictures and being like this is where I'm going to go, this is who's going to be in my life, this is, you know, whatever. And doing that is fun, so we can kind of rush into this like almost like making a Santa Claus list for grownups. You know, like, dear universe, this is what I want to receive and that is so important. That is so, so, so important to get clear and to be um, what's the word? Assertive with what we want, like with ourselves and with the universe, and have these expectations.

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But one of the things we don't talk about is the fact that you have to release and let go of some stuff in order for things to come in. Imagine you have a jar filled with water and you're like I want to put juice in this. If you just pour juice in the jar that's filled with water, all the juice is just going to flow over the top. It's never going to get into the vessel. So we're going to talk today about what kind of release needs to take place, what we need to let go of in order to welcome things into our life, and we're going to talk about different strategies and things that you can put into place in order to do this.

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And it's important to note that, like when I'm talking about letting things go, that's multi-dimensional. When things go can mean like physically removing things from your space and your life. It can mean like clearing out your closet If you want to welcome in a new wardrobe. It can mean getting rid of um, not getting rid of, but like it sounds really awful to be like get rid of relationships but ending let's say it a little gentler ending relationships and removing or bringing them to a closing point so that you know they, they leave your energetic space. That could be those like physical things that need to end. It can also mean energetic release of things that are just sort of in your energy space that you need to let go of. There's emotional release and emotional, emotional letting go that needs to take place as well as mental. So we've just thrown a lot of words at you physical, energetic, emotional and mental release and letting go.

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But I want you to think of that image of the jar that's already filled with water and you're trying to pour something new into the jar or a cup, whatever. It's not going to go in anywhere unless we have room for it. And another image that I like to use is like if your fists are closed and you're like clenching onto something, you're holding onto whatever you've got in your hand and you're like I don't know say you're holding onto buttons. I don't know why. I've thought about buttons like buttons and you're like I really want some gemstones, I want some crystals, and you've got a handful of buttons. You have to unfurl your hand and let those buttons come out of your hand so that then the crystals and the gemstones can come in.

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There's always a swap. There's like a give and a take. It's like release and come in, let go, welcome. This is just sort of how the world works. Whether you believe in the universe or not, nature, science, whatever, everything wants to balance, everything wants to exist in polarity. There's always the flip side to the thing that you're seeking and we have to understand that. You got to be in both spaces. You have to sort of engage in both energetic states, the giving and the taking, the releasing, the welcoming, in order to have a balanced existence and also to experience both of them. You can't just be giving and giving, and giving and giving and releasing, and releasing and releasing and never receiving, and you can't be standing there expecting to receive without releasing. We have to have one foot in each world, so to speak. And where are we going to start? Where are we going to start? I don't know. There's so much that we could talk about. I think before we get going, let's pay some bills. That means let's do like a promo and a shout out.

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This podcast is not sponsored. It's sponsored by me, and so I'd like to take this moment to just remind you of some of the ways that we can work together. As we talk about a lot of these things and a lot of these practices that I'm going to introduce you to and discuss this week, remember that we can work together through a process called soul therapy, and soul therapy is a very multi-dimensional coaching process that includes all of these things Looking at your physical existence, looking at your emotional and mental existence, and looking at your spiritual and energetic experience and it is a process where we work together to engage in self-exploration, but also therapeutic strategies that move you from where you are to where you want to go and, just like, get through your icky, sticky stuff. It helps you release what needs to be released, but also helps you move forward. And before we head into the rest of this podcast, I just want to remind you that we can work together in a multitude of ways.

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I have therapeutic tarot readings, which are deep dives. They are personalized tarot and oracle readings combined with therapeutic practices. I've got quick fire readings, which are audio notes. I've even got DIY guides that can help you put these things into practice in your real life and do it on your own. So there's different entry points depending on where you are in your life and how much support you are looking for, and I want to read you some feedback that I got this week for a quick fire tarot session that I did, because I think it really illustrates how helpful these processes can be in terms of, like, turning on the light and showing us what actually needs to be let go of, what we need to release, what we need to lean into in order to move forward, because we tend to just, in our life, like hamster, wheel it around an issue. We talk and, talk and talk about it and we get stuck. And I did a reading this week that was really impactful and she shared some feedback that I think would be wonderful for everybody to hear. All right, so here it goes. Jen is amazing. The quick fire session was absolutely spot on. Coincidentally, I saw my clinical therapist this week who said many of the same themes Jen gave throughout her reading.

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Jen's tarot reading helped me to see through the shock and pain of past traumas and understand how to practice self compassion. This reading changed my way of thinking, to be more open minded and accepting of opportunities that are coming my way. Five stars, lots of hearts, thank you. Now, this reading, we talked about something specific that was going on in this person's life and it was like I want some answers, I want some clarity, I want some guidance, and we always set it up that way, and then the cards give you what you need to hear, right, and so what came out of it was here's what you're not seeing, here's what you're not letting go of, here's what needs to be leaned into.

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And from that, reading sparked a conversation about different practices that can be taken on at home different resources. I think there was like meditations that I shared, as well as daily practices of like release and gratitude and things that were specifically tailored to this person's energy and this person's goals. And that's why I love starting all of the work that I do with people with an energetic reading. Whether you're doing soul therapy, coaching or you're doing like a big therapeutic tarot reading or even just like a little quick dive, I love setting the stage with the energetic reading of what's going on and then using that as a jumping off point, because it's sort of like, like I said, it turns on the light and it shows you Little monsters that are hiding under the bed or little things that are in the corners of the room that we need to move in towards.

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And so for this person, we had this conversation about a practice that she could put into place to help her release past pain that was associated with some traumas that were really Having her get stuck at a certain point and the stuckness was preventing any future movement forward, and A lot of that is like what we're going to be talking about today this idea of we need to release Things, feelings, beliefs, ideas in our lives and in our souls in order to move forward and to bring in new experiences. And so this reading was about like, how can I have x y z come into my life? And it was like, when will x y z come into my life? And this is like will not. Until this happens, right, and we're going to talk a little bit about that today. I want to remind you, if you'd like to book your own session, you can go to the show notes and you can, like I said, you can read all about the different options that I have available and you can pick the one that feels most aligned with you. Of course, if you read like I don't know where to start to me an email. I'll help you decide what's best for you, maybe like starting your own DIY practices, what you need. Maybe you do need a deep dive, maybe you need like six weeks of coaching or whatever will have a conversation and we'll figure out where is your best jumping off point.

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Without further ado, let's get into this idea of release, release, release, release. Now I had a tick tock up, I think, like a week ago, talking about how, in our lives, we, we cling on to things. In fact, I say I had a tick tock I've had multiple tick tocks a lot like recently about this a lot, this idea of like clutching onto something with our hands. We get something that we wanted, maybe, or we thought we wanted, or kind of fits a need that we have, and we just, like death, grip it and we hold on to it and we get to this awareness of like this isn't what I wanted or this isn't working for me, or I just want something different. I want a different experience, I want a different job, I want A new type of relationship or whatever.

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But we don't let go of the thing that's in our hands. We like clutch onto it and it's like I want this new thing, but I'm not letting go of this until the new thing comes in. And we do that because it's really comforting, right, we're like a security blank you think of a little child holding onto their stuffy or their blanket. It gives us confirmation that everything's okay, it's comfortable, it can be comforting, even if it's not serving us. It's just because it's usually something that's been with us for so long, whether, like I said, if it's a job or a partner, or if it's just a belief that we have about ourselves in the world.

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The fact that this has been riding shotgun with us for so long Leads us to believe that it's more valuable than we think it is. And, like you want to like go geek out on that. That's called and sunk cost fallacy or sunk cost bias. We're like the more time you have invested and the more energy you've invested in an idea or a thing, the more valuable we think it is, so the more that we cling on to it. And that's why these like beliefs about ourselves and the world Can be so addictive, because they've been with us for so long and our brain literally doesn't know what it's like to exist without them.

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So we get to the state we're like I'm manifesting this, I'm putting this on my vision board. Here's my list of the universe. I want blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but we're unwilling to release something in order to let it in. And the problem with that is nothing can be put in your hand if your fists are closed, absolutely nothing. It's impossible like try, like put something in your hand and clench it really tight, and then you're like Clench it really tight and then try to stuff something else in there. It's not going to go anywhere.

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And if you think of another image, for this is like think of a glass, a drinking glass or a cup or whatever and fill it all the way to the top with water, and then you're like I actually want orange juice. And then try to pour the orange juice into that glass, the orange juice is going to hit the top and just over the edge over the edge you're going to maybe see it, you'll be aware that it's around, but it's not going into the vessel because there is no space for it. And with that image we're talking like there's no physical space. The orange juice has no way to get into the container. There's no room for it to take up, and that can be the same in our life. We do need to physically release things. Like if you want New clothing, you're probably going to have to release some stuff in your closet right. You're going to have to make physical room for this. If you want to get a new couch Because you're, the couch you have is like uncomfortable or it's all stained or whatever I know your dogs and your kids have been just Ripping it up you gotta get rid of that couch in order to get a new couch. You cannot put a new couch on top of the old couch nor would you want to because, like that's not stable or comfortable and it's not going to look or feel good.

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We know that we physically need to remove things in our life, but sometimes even the releasing of something physical can be scary. Right, if you Want to call in a job sometimes not for everybody this is where you know discernment and really understanding yourself and your needs comes into play. But sometimes you need to release the job and remove the job because it's taking up physical space in your calendar and your day and your life in order to create Something like a vacuum that the universe wants to fill right. The universe always wants to exist in balance. It wants to fill spaces that exist. It wants to have you to have when you let go right. It's this concept of we can't just have, have, have, have, have, and we can't just give, give, give, give, give. We've got to be Able to teeter, totter back and forth. Between both there's a tarot card, the six of pentacles, which is all about this, this balance of like giving and taking, releasing, receiving, and I really believe that is like the natural order that the world wants to take.

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So, yeah, like physical release, we know, like, looking at your life, okay, what is it that you're calling in and what physically needs to be removed? Maybe a relationship needs to end. That's a physical, you know removal. You need to actually stop seeing the person and not have that relationship in your home and in your environment. Relationships are a little more complicated because they also have like energetic ties emotional and mental, and we'll talk about those later. But we want tangible objects. We need to release some tangible objects.

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So it's a great idea, like as you're calling something, and Go look in your environment and be like, well, what do I have that I can get rid of? Or what do I have that I don't need anymore? What's taking up the space of the thing that I want? And I remember like I once didn't have a dining table for like two months. It drove me nuts, but I could not find a dining table that I liked and I had this like other one and I just got rid of it was like it's going out, I gotta get rid of it. And I had no dining table for two months but it created space physically in my room that I could see and I was better able to like align myself and understand what it was that I was looking for and then my brain was better able to find that thing that I was seeking. If you want to geek out on that, that's called confirmation bias. Your brain is programmed to find the thing that you're you're believing exists or that you want, if the conditions are right for it.

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But often the release in the letting go that we have to do isn't physical. I think the physical release is Easiest, right, like it's easy to clear out your closet. It's easy to go through your covers and chuck shit out. It's very cathartic to be like I'm gonna run this and this and this and also like you know that you can get rid of a sweater and if you need a sweater you can just go get a sweater in a store, like there's no real fear attached to it because it's you know it's not a life or death scenario getting rid of your home. That's a little different, right? If you're like I gotta release this house, I gotta put my house up for sale and hope that something comes in, that would be a little bit More scary. But for the most part, physical release of objects, people, things can usually be a bit easier if it's you know little things that we're trying to manifest, but we tend to hang on to the energy, the energy and the thoughts and the emotions that need to be released in order to bring in this new thing or this new existence.

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And there's a lot of reasons why we hold on to beliefs and thoughts and feelings and energetic ties. You know, like I said, they, um, it's very scary. It's very scary to release a belief about the world or ourself, like, maybe you believe that, like I don't get picked, nobody chooses me. Even though that's a belief that's not very, um, empowering or very supportive of your dreams, it's very comforting to you because it's been with you your whole life. Right, and your ego, that's your logical brain. When I say ego, I don't mean, like your egotistical, the part of your brain that likes logic and order and reason and processes and predictability. That part of your brain knows hey, this has been here with us our whole life and we're alive and we're okay.

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So if that belief was to no longer exist, where the fuck are we and where are we going? And your brain will do so many things to stop you from changing your beliefs and your thoughts, because it doesn't know what happens when you think something else. So we hang on to these thoughts, we hang on to these emotions because we're afraid of what it's like without them. We're afraid of what it's like and sometimes we can also, in a weird way, be pacified and soothed by these thoughts and feelings because they're comforting, because they're familiar, and it's really hard to wrap our heads around how a belief about ourself that's not empowering can be comforting. But it's because it's part of your programming and your subconscious programming and your wiring. It's the operating system that was installed in your brain, computer, right, it matches up with the building blocks of your thought process and if something matches and fits, you're like not dangerous, cool, even if it is dangerous and even if it is not working for you.

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Joe just spends a talks about this a lot. He talks about how whatever you practice you become really good at and whatever you become really good at becomes really comforting. So if you practice fear and you practice anger sitting in the feelings and the thoughts and the state of anger and fear is you're really good at it. You're really, really good at it and it probably serves you in some way. But in order to become that different version of yourself, you're going to have to remove the anger and the fear and the release and sorry, and release it.

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And we don't like that. It doesn't always feel nice, it doesn't. And so what do we do? How do we even start with this? How do we even start with what it is that needs to be released? Let's just say emotional, maybe you want to be happy, and that's such a basic thing to think like. Oh, we want to be happy, everybody wants to be happy, right? And you think like that's a no brainer. But like there's so many products and books about happiness, how to hack happiness, you know, happiness in 10 days, the happiness project. And why is that? That's because a lot of us are not happy. A lot of us are not happy and we're addicted to not being happy and we don't know how to be anything other than unhappy. But we know that we want to be happy. Like there's that little part of ourselves, that higher self, that core self, the real you that knows like there's a different way to be thinking and feeling.

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We get so stuck in this loop that being unhappy becomes our day today. It's, it's just what we do. We get up, we view the world through this lens, we think that XYZ is going to happen, because we have a lens of unhappiness on in our brain and then, through the thing, the process called confirmation bias, our brain subconsciously goes out seeking out conversations, people, interactions. That then confirms what we believe. Oh yeah, I should be unhappy. Look at all these things. And then we're like, yep, I'm unhappy. And then we feel right and we feel powerful and we feel good and smart because we were, it was accurate. But it becomes this, this awful loop of being stuck in the sadness, because it's making you feel comforted. Right, you're comforted because it's predictable and I hope you're still with me because we're kind of going on like a twisty, twisty tangent here and this is a much deeper process than we can really get into in one episode. We'll talk about it in other episodes. But it is the core of doing really deep inner work and looking at yourself and your soul through a therapeutic lens. It's looking at these attachments that you have physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, and looking at how they either are helping you bring in what you want in your life or are they creating a block. Are they filling your hands and filling your cup in a way that is not allowing anything else to come in and then we work on the process of releasing them. But for the sake of the podcast episode, let's talk about a few things. So, physically releasing things, we kind of touched on that Decluttering, getting rid of stuff that you don't need.

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I guarantee you we all have stuff that and I am like so guilty of this, having stuff in my house that I don't like and it doesn't really fit, but it kind of fits the need that I had at the time. But I don't love it, but it's there and if I get rid of it then there's nothing else there. So what am I going to do? Get rid of it. Get rid of it, throw it out, go through your closet, get rid of stuff you haven't worn in a year, two years, donate it, give it to a friend you know. Go to your kitchen, go through your kitchen utensils. If there's a cake pan you've only used like five years ago, get rid of it, you don't need it, pass it on to somebody else.

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And there's always that, well, as soon as I get rid of it, I'm going to need it. That's that scarcity fear, that's that scarcity belief that you won't have what you need and you have to trust that if I find that I need something like this again. It will come back into my path, but right now it's just taking up space. So the challenge with the physical release and the decluttering is to push through the fear that something bad is going to happen to you or that you're gonna be in an uncomfortable situation once it's not there. Just know and trust and believe in yourself that you can figure it out. If you get rid of that sweater you have worn in three years and all of a sudden you need a sweater, you can go out and get another one. It's fine, it's like nothing bad's gonna happen to you.

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That's the easiest way to work through physical release, energetic release okay, so this is more about energetic attachments, and energetic attachments can be often like when you've been interacting with a person or a space, sometimes like when you've left a job that is toxic. You're not really attached to the negativity, but you're attached energetically to that state of being in fear or in. I'm thinking of like a job that I worked in, where I was like constantly in a fight or flight cycle and my body became used to that state of constantly feeling on edge and that became my normal. And in order to bring in a different type of existence. I had to cut ties with that. I had to cut cords, and you can even be energetically tied to people in your life your kids, your partner, your job.

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It's anyone that you have an energetic line or a connection with, a direct connection, and their state or existence tends to affect yours, whether you're aware of it or not. And one of the most effective practices for releasing the energetic ties that you have between people, places, things that are currently in your life or even things that you have removed but for some reason, like you're still having dreams about them or you're still kind of feel on edge, you can't disconnect from it, or it's still popping up in your head, like you're still thinking about them is to do a process called cord cutting. And if you go on YouTube and you just search cord cutting meditations, there are lots of guided meditations that you can listen to that will walk you through this process. But essentially it is about envisioning this place or this thing or these people that you're connected to and tapping into your body and feeling. Where is the energy connection? And if you identify as empathic, that will make a lot of sense to you and it will be a really easy process and if it's the first time that you've done it, it might be challenging. You might have a hard time initially, but I would recommend doing it again and again, and again.

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And the process is like you envision where you're connected with them and then there's a process of like unplugging them, and they're all different variations. Some of them are like scissors and you cut them. Some of them are more like you're gonna unplug them from you and then you're gonna plug them into a different energy source. So if you're like in a job or you're over giving, you might see like your boss and you're unplugging from your boss and you're connecting your boss into the energy of the corporation that they work in or into the energy of the world or into the energy of the universe, the sky, like their own energetic well, so to speak.

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That is something that I do frequently, especially if I feel like sludgy and I can't figure out why, or if, like somebody or something keeps popping up in my dreams. Because dreams are like when your frontal lobe shuts off and you're not thinking logically or rationally or sequentially, like all these random things pop up. They're like what did that come from? And it came up because there is still an energetic attachment that needs to be released. So if I find like something's coming up for me a lot, if I'm dreaming about like a person that hasn't been in my life for a while, I'm like time to cut the cords, here we go and there's nothing wrong. You can cut cords with your kid, like. I gotta cut cords with my kid many times because I just feel what he's feeling and it can be exhausting at times. Right, and I know that in order to be like grounded in my own state and space, I have to and also to be able to take care of him. I have to be charging from my own well or drinking from my own well of energy and not being in his, especially if he's having a hard time with something. Right, I need to be disconnected from it so that I can look at the situation, you know, from a distance and support in the best way. Same with that like emotional release.

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Emotional release is like looking at the feelings that we don't wanna face, the feelings that we don't want to get rid of, and sometimes we talk about like the things that we're addicted to. Feeling like maybe we're addicted to feeling excited, or we're addicted to feeling happy or we're addicted to feeling numbed out. That's a really big one. And how can we release those emotions? Sometimes it's things we're avoiding, like in the grief process we can really be avoiding the feeling of pain and rejection and maybe even shame that's associated with it. And if we wanna move into a space where we feel powerful and empowered and happy, we have to release those lower vibrational emotions. And meditation is really handy for this Just sort of sitting with the feeling that's coming up and being like I'm gonna dedicate like 10 minutes to feeling the grief or feeling the pain because I've not been wanting to feel it. If you've watched them shrinking the show shrinking on Apple TV, he does this thing. Where it's like Grief Hard, he calls it for 15 minutes. Where it's like you're gonna like hyper focus on that intense feeling, feeling it like everywhere in your body, in your mind, in your soul, and like really fully being present for the process of it happening and it moving out. And then you shut the door and you're like, okay, we're done, we'll come back tomorrow. And that is a really powerful process of giving, carving out time and space in your day to feel what needs to be felt.

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Journaling can be really effective. Art can be really effective just sitting with the feelings and processing them. Our emotions aren't really what's the word, they're abstract, right, we can't always wrap words around them, and that's where processes like art and just doodling and making marks or even just using colors to move the emotions out from our brain and our body and onto the page can be really really therapeutic. There's like a color wheel and emotions color wheel it's called that has different colors associated with different emotions, and something I was doing with some people that I was working with was having them create a daily check-in journal by just coloring, using watercolor every day, some splotches and sloshes of what they were feeling, and then looking at it over time to see how their emotions shifted and changed and blended and what came out and what eventually was no longer on the page as you went through the days. That's a really interesting process If you're looking for something really structured to do with like emotional release and mental release. We're gonna go into mental release next.

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I do have a resource on my website in the therapeutic art shop called Brain Bubbles and Brain Bubbles. It's an art process that, for me, it's energetic, emotional and mental release. It's a guided meditation where you sit down and just like the feelings, where you're like we're going to dedicate time to feeling the feelings so that we can move them out. It's dedicating time to the thoughts that are in our head, that we're addicted to or that we're looping on or that we no need to go away. And it's a guided meditation to tap you into that and to really really like sit with it and embody it. And embodiment meaning like not just thinking about it but thinking about it and making connections with what's happening in your body, what sensations happen. And then it guides you through an art process to actually release the thoughts and the feelings onto the page. So if that's something that you're looking for, go to the show notes. You can download it in my shop. I think it's like $24 and it's two guided meditations, a bunch of printables and then instructions and like guides for how to use it and self reflect with it. And you can use it with the principles or you can do it in your sketchbook, whatever, whatever. But let's like loop back.

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Okay, to like the mental release. Again, it's releasing of an idea or a belief of like this is how something has to be, even like this is what I want. Often we like we're not feeling good because the things that we're calling in and have been manifesting or working towards goal setting and acquiring and achieving and building in our life aren't actually in alignment with what is our truth, and we have to release some mental energy. We need to release some beliefs that oh, I need this to be happy or I need that to be happy. There's so much in our brain that we are unaware of, and I think they said like nine, not 90. That's like 70% of your actions are dictated by your subconscious brain. So if you can hear that, I'm like leaning and pulling a sticky note off my wall because there was something I wanted to talk about in this Our beliefs. Man, like I'm trying to like figure out which is the most important thing to release, and I think this is just an ongoing process of everything we need to constantly be releasing emotionally. We need to be constantly releasing energetically. We need to be releasing mentally and programming our brain, like getting rid of the deeply rooted subconscious beliefs about who we are, what we want, what we need, where we're going, what is possible, what is not. That needs to get the F out so that new stuff can come in. And that is where meditation, like I said, is so important.

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Hypnosis hypnosis is so powerful in reprogramming your brain because the stuff, that's like the mental things that need to be released, they are well well-worn pathways, really well-worn pathways. There's an image of like a hill covered in snow and like imagine a toboggan going down the same path over and over and over again. It's going to like carve a groove in the snow and if you go up there with a new toboggan you're like this is my happiness toboggan, and I'm going to take the root down to the happy place and you put it on the snow. It's going to try to drive itself into the well-worn pathway and our brain. That's just the way it is. And they say things that fire together, wire together and they stitch and they wire together into a very well-worn path of programming that guides us through our life, whether it's where we actually want to be or not.

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So when we're talking about receiving and bringing in experiences and feelings and, you know, tangibles and intangibles in our life that we really want, that are really going to fulfill us on a soul level, and I mean like moving beyond the oh, my neighbor has this. This is what I need to feel happy like, moving beyond that and getting into a space where we're taking care of our needs and we're working on and acquiring the things that we actually desire on a deep level. That then has us feeling good about our life and has us, you know, being excited and energized for the future and having increased sense of like, self-love and esteem, because our external reality is reflecting our inner needs. In order to do that, we have to, you know, know our self on a really, really deep level. We need to be really, really clear on what we're doing, what we're not doing, and we need to look objectively at our experience. You know, the beginning of this podcast is mind-body, soul. We need to look objectively at all three points of that triangle what is our mind wanting, but what is our mind doing and experiencing? What is our body wanting, what is our body actually experiencing and what is the same with our soul, to see what needs to be shaken up and what needs to be removed and maybe what we need to make space for.

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I believe that we are such powerful beings and I believe that our mind is incredibly powerful. I believe that we have the capacity to manipulate the things in our environment and the things within ourselves to achieve the result that we want. But quite often it takes a different approach than we are used to and we have to, like I said, we got to get off that well-worn pathway in the snow and be like there's got to be a different route to the bottom. There's got to be a different way to bring in what it is that I'm asking for, because the things we've been doing, or holding on to the patterns that we have, the addictions and I don't mean like addictions to drugs or anything, I just mean like the micro addictions All of those things are so, so, so important and they come together and they weave together and they stitch this like this basket that is our life and our existence and we got to unravel it. We got to unravel it if we want to stitch a new basket, right. And so I'm going to leave it with that, not completely leave it, but put a pin in there and just remind us all that, before we get to this idea of like, what do I want to have in 2024?, who do I want to be in 2024?

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We need to really look at who are you now and what do you have now and how aligned no-transcript is your external reality with what your internal compass is craving? And that might mean deep work in self-reflection in terms of what you actually love and want. It might mean deep programming some beliefs about yourself, about what is possible and what you are capable of. It may mean using introspection tools or energetic tools to take a look at what's going on that you're not seeing. Remember, we're really good at ignoring things and like, if we wanna hold on to a belief or we wanna hold on to something that's comforting, even if it's not serving us, our brain is gonna do so much to make it not visible. And that's where using things like tarot cards, oracle cards, hypnosis all of that can give us an actual look at what's going on that we may not be seeing.

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Using these processes art, self-reflection, meditation, all of it to look at, okay, like where are we now? Where is it that we wanna go, and what's gotta come off the table, like I look at it like if we took all of the elements that are you and your life and your history and your beliefs and your wants and your desires, all of it, set the table with it. We see what we've got plates, forks, whatever, like what is on the table. And then we have this conversation of this like giant feast meal that you wanna be sitting down to and it's like, where are we gonna clear, where are we gonna put on the shelf, what are we gonna go put in the dishwasher, what needs to be repaired, what needs to be removed, and then how are we gonna reset it. And I promise you, if you consciously engage in a process like this before you set goals and before you make a vision board or a manifestation board, or if you do it along with it, you will be more on your path and well on your way to making the right decisions and developing the right habits that are going to get you to where it is that you want to be.

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And if you would love guidance and support as you work on this, because it is a process, it is messy, it can be painful, it can be confusing and having someone there to guide you as you go on this quest of like what is fulfilled, living. What does it mean to actually love myself, what does it mean to understand myself and make decisions that support me? Consider contacting me about sole therapy coaching for the new year. I have three spaces for a six week intensive program where we look at that. We look at exactly like where you are in your life, where you wanna go, and like what the disconnect and what is conflicting, like what is competing and not lining up. And, like I said, it's only six weeks because I think if, like what I've been talking about, hits home with you, then that means like we're not fucking around anymore. Okay, we're not. There's no more time to be spinning your wheels, wasting your time, wasting money, buying courses, doing things that aren't actually fixing the problem.

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It's designed to be intense and to get you going and to get you going forward and to get you out of that like loop of continual you know pain, that pain cycle where you're like, oh God, why is this not working? Same shit different day. Like we wanna move you out of that and into a space where you feel confident, making decisions. Your, you know, your intuition is speaking to you and the things that you want. You feel validated and confirmed that yes, this is who you are and where you wanna go and future guidance for yourself feels a lot easier. We wanna move you through that and, honestly, we're not doing that over six months. That's insane. We need to do this quickly. So it's very personalized.

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I'm not gonna go into details about what the program looks like because really it's tailored for you, but it's about giving you the supports to work through things energetically, emotionally, mentally, physically, so that you can be moving into the space that you wanna be. We look at releasing, receiving all of it and doing it in the way that works for you and feels good. It may not feel good right away, right, but anyone who's like gone to the gym knows that like it's gonna be work and it's gonna require dedication and patience and an energetic exchange, but it will be well, well worth it. So if you would like to talk about one of those three spots and I've only got three spots because it's intensive and I wanna be able to give the best to everyone that is participating, I'm not spreading myself thin. This isn't the kind of work you can do with 30 people at a time. So, like I said, three spots for the new year, starting in January or February, whenever you're ready and if you'd like to talk about that, I think the best thing to do is reach out via email, at contact, at Jennifer Hulley and let's have a conversation. Let's see what that might look like for you, what that process could entail, and then you can decide whether it's a path that feels aligned for you and ask whatever questions you have. And that's all for this week.

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Thank you to everybody who tunes in. Remember, share the podcast with people that you think that this aligns with or will help. And don't forget about the contest that we've got. I still am giving away one quick fire tarot reading every single month to a person who rates and reviews the podcast. All you need to do is go on your favorite podcast platform whether it's like Spotify or Apple or whatever and give a rating and leave a review of the podcast. Make sure you take a screenshot before you hit send on that so that we know that it's you, and then you email it to me. Contact at Jennifer Hulley and say that you're entering the draw for the tarot reading. And that's it. You're in and we'll let you know when you win. All right, have a great week, everybody. You can reach out to me if you want. Instagram, tiktok, all of that at Jennifer Hulley. Other than that, I'll talk to you next week. Bye, yazzy Channel.