28. Harness Your Emotions: Manifestation & Healing Through Feelings

In this episode of This is Soul Therapy, we explore both sides of the critical role that emotional embodiment plays in manifestation. I share personal stories and dive deep into how feeling, processing, healing, and releasing emotions creates space for the expansion you desire. We’ll also talk about the powerful connection between aligning your nervous system and priming your subconscious mind for taking aligned action. This stops self-sabotage in its tracks and helps you create the space and energy needed to manifest what you truly want. If you’ve ever wondered why manifestation feels stuck or inconsistent, emotional embodiment holds the key. Listen in to discover how embodying your emotions can unlock the life you’re craving.

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This is Soul Therapy. I'm your host, Jen Hully, and on this podcast, we explore the tools and insights that lead to a more aligned, fulfilling life. Together, we're gonna learn how to regulate your nervous system, deepen your intuition, and reconnect you with your true self. This week we're talking all about feelings. We're talking about emotions, feeling your feels. Like it is the key to being a human. It is the key to like thriving as a human. Our emotions actually are for survival. You know how you say surviving and thriving, or I want to thrive, not just survive. Your emotions will help you do both, right? Our emotions are built into us and wired into our system to alert us to things that are going on in our surroundings or, you know, to keep us alive, basically. But we can take our emotional state and we can go beyond just using it for information to be like, do this, don't do that. We can use that information to actually learn how to thrive and evolve as a human and heal some things on a soulful level. Not just that, but it's really, really important in manifestation. And I'm gonna share some stories with you this week about how I have manifested lots of things in my life. And most often it only comes after I like let myself get deep into the feelings of things. And I think it's important to talk about that because in the law of attraction, you know, people say, Oh, you gotta be high vibe and you gotta be like in the vibration of the thing that you're trying to bring into your life. And I don't think that's totally true because I think it's just oversimplifying it to say that, oh, when I get that new job, I'll feel powerful and confident. And so I have to be powerful and confident. Because yes, you will feel like that when you get that job, but you're human. You're gonna go up and down the roller coaster. So when we'd say like we have to be in this high vibrational state, or we have to be, you know, only feeling a certain way to manifest something, I don't think it's necessarily true. And I think it just puts another barrier between us and what we're trying to change in our life. And so I want to share some stories this week. I want to talk about feelings, I want to talk about emotions, I want to talk about the idea of, you know, what you feel, you make real. That's the part of the manifestation. And you feel it to heal it. Like there's there's so much to be said about our emotions and understanding our emotional state. And there's so much to be said for it now, but depending on how old you were, where you grew up, like I grew up, we didn't really learn about our feelings as much. Like we learned like happy, sad, don't be angry, don't be mad, you know, be agreeable, be nice, be quiet. And we we live now in a space where like our understanding of the role of emotions and what it means to have certain feelings and process them, it's so, so different. It's so, so different. And so if you like me are raising children, it's almost like you're teaching them, but you're teaching yourself because we're playing catch up on all the stuff that is in the research and just in terms of like how we do things now, like breath work to move emotions up. I did that exist in the 80s? I don't know. I never heard about it until like a couple years ago. Okay, let's get a reading in. Let's see what we got. I am using the modern witch deck. Okay, for anyone who wants to know, isn't this an appropriate card? The Ten of Swords. This is about painful endings when stuff is over and finished and it hurts. It's funny, I put my hand on my heart and I sort of just connected into energy and said, like, give me a card that will facilitate this conversation about feeling and emotions. And my ear is ringing. Thank you. Like, oh, thank you, spirit. Okay. Maybe they could just dial it down a bit so we could get through this episode. The Ten of Swords is like really painful and it hurts. And you just, it's one of those things, like you get into a breakup and you lie down, you're like, I'm gonna lie in my bed and listen to sad songs for weeks and I'm never coming out. And it's about the necessity of those hard moments to create space and to release things and to make room for other stuff, but it's about like don't deny the pain that you're in and feel what you're feeling because quite often this card comes up when like you're not expecting something. And so, you know, as we go into this conversation, it's like it is literally the perfect card. There's no such thing as a perfect card, but this is pretty close. We have to feel the hard feelings, we have to let ourselow a little bit with boundaries, wallowing with like, you know, like we're gonna cut it off at a certain point, because there is something about getting stuck in emotions. And we'll talk about that this week. But this is a big part of the human existence: feeling good, feeling low. And if we can process and understand feeling low, we can almost harness the energy of it to move us forward. And I'll I'll share some stories this week about when I went through this. Every time I pull this card, I'm like, ugh, I sort of have this like feeling because it reminds me of some stuff about two years ago where I was like pulling it all the time, because literally it was like ending after ending after ending, and things were so painful, painful. And but it was necessary. It was necessary pain to create space for what was to come. Side note before we dive in further, monthly readings go out in my email, and there are weekly readings that go up on YouTube. So if you'd like to get a little more details and like go dive deeper with intuitive insights, make sure you're on the email list and make sure that you've subscribed on YouTube so that you get those readings when they come up. And also, of course, you can always book your own. You can go to jenniferhully.com/slash links, and there's a button there that says book a reading, and you can book your own. We can get all into it. And I promise you, they're interesting readings because sometimes. Oh, we'll just cut this part out. Okay. So, yeah, we're talking about feelings and feeling our feelings so we can heal things, but mostly so we can move on, okay? So we can move forward in our life. I know that you can't manifest shit if you are detached from how you're feeling. That means if you're in the lows of the lows and things are not jiving and things are not moving well, you need to actually connect with what's happening and feel the crap that you're going through in order to release it and move on. But I also know that if you're trying to manifest something that is like above you or beyond you, and I don't mean like it's out of your reach, like it's like you're not good enough for it yet, but I mean like it's so different than what you are used to. You're manifesting, say, even money, if you're manifesting a lot of money, but all you've grown up with and all you're used to is like scarcity and lack and you know, scrambling to make ends meet, and you're used to that like frantic hustle, that's what your body's attuned to. Okay, that's what your nervous system is attuned to to be normal. So when you're manifesting this feeling of like being supported and being cared for and being safe and like just sort of like, uh, like relaxing into that feeling of like I have my needs met, that feeling, that emotional feeling can be so jarring and scary for your nervous system and your brain and your body. And so learning to harness feelings to release them, but learning to harness feelings to embody them safely and get comfortable with them, it's both ends are so, so important when we're talking about manifesting. And the man, I've made something this last week called the um manifesting magic playbook. And it's come from conversations I've been having with clients, conversations I've been having with friends, conversations that we've been having here on the podcast, and just talking about the process of building a life that you want to live in. Like the word manifesting sometimes gets like a bit of a woo-woo lens on it, where we think like, like, do you know what I mean? Like it gets so taken, it's it can be almost too out there. And I want you to understand that like manifesting is for everybody. Everybody manifests. I don't care who you are. Uh, if you're not manifesting, then you're just sort of on, you're flatlined and you're on autopilot. Because manifesting is really just like looking at your current circumstances and saying, how do I feel about this? Do I feel fulfilled? You know, is it tick in the boxes? And do I feel like I'm growing as a human? And when you realize that you're bumping up against that threshold where you're not growing, you set your sights on something else. And you say, like, oh, I want to get a new job or I want to get a promotion or I'd like to learn this skill set. It's because your soul is wanting to sort of like push the edge or push the boundary of like the bubble that you've created of your existence. You want to like expand your aura, expand your energy, expand like your energetic imprint, is what I'm hearing. Okay. And let me go back. The manifesting magic playbook is something that it's just literally, I'll be honest, it came to me when I was in the shower. It was one of those moments where I woke up, I was in the shower, and I could like hear in my head like, you have to make this, you have to guide people through this process, you have to show people what needs to be done to change your life. Because, like, manifesting, like I said, we all do it. Everybody does it. Doesn't matter if it's like you're just saying, I'm gonna run 10K today, or like, I'm gonna get a new car. Like, we're always wanting things and moving towards things, but quite often we're moving towards the wrong thing. And I say that with like my own experience. I'm very good at manifesting, very, very good at manifesting. I'm also very good at manifesting shit I actually don't care about and like stuff that I'm like, this'll make me happy when. And this uh playbook has come out of a process of me like looking at my life and just sort of reflecting on my spiritual journey and how I got into the energetics of manifesting and how I used it to like build a lot of things in my life, like a career and all the, you know, stuff I thought would like tick the boxes and make me feel great. But then I got to this point where I was like, oh, like I still feel unfulfilled. And I had to really look at myself, what beliefs I had, what feelings I was avoiding, what feelings I was chasing but not embodying, and really take all the like tendrils of my life that I had like thrown out there that I was trying to create and bring it back into this core that is really ref was really reflective of who I was and connected me with that like deep emotional fulfillment that I think we're all seeking. And so I'll talk about the guide as we go through this episode and also like just give you some, share some stories about my own experience in terms of feelings and working through feelings because I don't care who says like what. I don't think you can change your life just by sitting at home and saying some affirmations like, I am rich, I am wealthy, I am abundant. Like you could say that till you're blue in the face, but like you have to bridge the gap between wanting something, thinking it, feeling it, believing it, and then acting. All these parts have to come into play. And if they don't, nothing changes. And if lots of them are together, but like a few are missing, what happens is you start manifesting stuff in your life that is like, like I said, not what you actually want. And it just sort of like digs you deeper into this hole. And so, as we're talking today, if you're interested, you can go uh have a look at the book. It's 50 pages. There's guided meditations, there's audio affirmation tracks, there's journal prompts, there's printable templates, there's playlists, there's all sorts of stuff in there for you. And the whole purpose of it was to be a very systematic process that guides you but also holds your hand through the process of looking at what's going on in your life, feeling what needs to be felt to be released, feeling what needs to be felt to be brought in, and then aligning all of that with your actions so that you move forward. Because we all deserve that, let's be honest, right? So you can get that at jenniferholly.com slash manifesting magic. That's one word, or you can just go to the show notes and you can go read all about it. And if you have any questions, you can um just DM me. But yeah, like what we feel, we make real. What we feel, we heal. We know that. And we're very well, like we know it, but do we do it? Probably not. We're really good at numbing out, and we're really good at putting a barrier between what's really going on and our reality and what's deep within us, like so deep down. But let's start with what we feel we heal, okay? Doesn't matter what you want, whatever you want, it represents a future version of self, right? Whether you're saying, I want a new jacket, I want a new car, I want a new job, I'm gonna move. Whatever you're trying to manifest, it represents a future version of you. It doesn't represent who you are right now, it represents somebody in the future. Maybe it's like one step along the path, maybe it's two, maybe it's like 500 yards. We don't know. But what has to happen is this detachment from who you are now, who you were in the past, and where you want to go. You need to detach from the baggage, for lack of a better word, that is behind you or currently on. Because in order to step into this new identity of this person who has this job, who's confident, who has these friendships, who has these relationships, who makes this money, who goes on vacation, who just has a house or like a day-to-day life that makes them feel joyful and ease and peace. In order to be that person, we have to release some stuff that we've been hanging on to. Old identities, old feelings, old traumas. You cannot run a marathon if you're holding 10,000 suitcases. Okay. Does it mean that we like get rid of our suitcases? No. Sometimes we put wheels on them, it makes them easier to move. Sometimes we put them on a luggage trolley, make somebody like get somebody else to move them for you. Sometimes we put them on a shelf and we say, I'll come back to you later. But we can't be carrying all this stuff. And there is so much that we accumulate as we grow and we go through life. There is a lot of talk about childhood trauma and healing your inner child. And that is important. Excuse me, squeaky chair. That is important, healing your inner child, but there's also a lot to be said for like healing the version of you from like last year or like last week, or like literally 30 minutes ago. And we don't actually give ourselves space to close the like the trauma cycle or the stress cycle. Or I'm gonna use that as an example because like when I say like we need to feel things to heal things, I'm typically talking about like sadness, anger, you know, regret, grief, things like that. Because we're pretty good at like feeling the good feelings. We're not so good at feeling the heavier feelings. But animals, okay. So if you look at animals and they have something that is like upsetting to them or scary, they think they're gonna die, whatever, they'll like literally lie down and shake. Like they'll just go, they'll shake, or like dogs will shake off, or whatever. They do something to close the loop so that their brain knows, like, it's over, it's done, you're safe. That happened, it's good, you can release it now. Humans need to do that too, okay? We need to close the loop of whatever is we've lived through or whatever feelings we've had, but we don't do it, and we don't do it because we're so busy. We're busy and we're overscheduled, and we have a lot of demands on us, and we think this and this and this. So we kind of like stuff our days full so we don't have time to do that. I will say, like, we kind of do that so we don't have to do that and don't have to look at our feelings. Um, but also like a lot of us grew up in a you know, in a time where we were told like, chin up, stop crying. It's fine. Like, we're not, we weren't raised in a space where like, yes, feel your feelings, feel it, heal it, you know. And like I said, we're not gonna sit and cry for like 72 years, but we're gonna, we're gonna do it within a container that is specifically for that feeling. Okay. There's a show uh called Shrinking. It's on Apple TV. They're coming out with a season two. I'm very excited because I loved it. But in, and this is like not a spoiler alert, so if you haven't watched it, it's fine. You can still watch it, but there's this concept. One of the characters, the main character, he's lost his wife. You know that like immediately that he's a widower. And there's a process that he goes through called grieve hard, where he gives himself like 15 minutes to just grieve the shit out of it. Puts on headphones, gets really emotional. He's like, let me like really like make a little cave for my feelings. And he just releases it like a tidal wave. And then the timer goes off and he's like, boop, okay, we're done. Now I gotta get on with my day. And there's something to be said for this process. And I have used this strategy myself in my own life. I lost my dad two years ago to suicide. And it was, you know, if you lose somebody in your life, it hurts, right? If you lose somebody in a way that is really unexpected, or, you know, it hurts even more. And when you have a parent who has mental health issues, there's all this other pain that's like tangled up in it. And my uh therapist says it's called complex grief, right? Like it's not just grief, it's like grief with a gold star. But I remember watching this show as I was like going through it, and I was like, I need to give myself these like little grief windows because I wasn't having a lot of time to grieve things. I mean, I would, but when it would like bottle up to a point where I was like, I'm gonna explode. And a lot of it is from like, I'm a single mom. I had a son who he's he was three at the time. He was, we were, you know, busy, and I was the uh what do they call, the executor on the estate. And it was like when you're in these positions of like responsibility in so many different ways, you saying, like, I'm gonna sit down and grieve this and not just grieve like the death, but grieve things from your childhood, grieve like, because it's just like this train pulls up to the station, right? When you go through a trauma like that, where it's like there's the event, but then there's all the cars that are connected to it. And it's like, we're gonna look at this, we're gonna look at this, you know? And I started using this process of like, I'm gonna do the grieve heart. And I'd find like sad music. I was like, I'm gonna put it on this really sad song. I had like a playlist, like literally, I had a playlist for for grieving, just stuff that just made you feel so sad. Cause I was like, let's bring it up, let's bring it up. And I would do it like on a scheduled thing every day at a certain time. I'd sit down and be like, This is my grief cocoon. Here we go. And you feel so much better. You feel so much better. And when it would be time to stop, I was like, you could actually stop. And I remember like when I first started, you'd think, like, oh, once I let this out of the bottle, I'm never gonna be able to get it back in, right? We think like, especially if we don't get into the um habit of feeling things that are very intense, they become this like monster in the closet where you're like, if I let it out, I don't know what's gonna happen, right? But if you let it out in increments and with containment and with support, it just it's like when you shake a bottle of pop, and instead of opening it, you go like you let a little bit of the steam out to the point where eventually you can then open the bottle. And then you're like, okay, now I can pour this out. And then after I've poured it out, we have an empty bottle. It's like, what do I want to put in this bottle? So there's this process of like healing and deep feeling that has to happen before you can move into this new version of who you are. And I use that example of like grieving hard because it worked. It was funny. I remember watching, it's it's funny the way they do it in the show because the show's like a comedy, but it there's so much to actually like learn and take from the show. I recommend it to like everybody. Go see, go watch it. But it doesn't have to be that way. Like, you don't have to sit and cry your eyes out, but like you can do things like journaling. My friend and I were talking about like how we've been doing rage journaling recently, where you just sit down and you're like, all right, universe, fuck this shit. And you're like, like, put all your like your grievances out because anger is a thing. And when we're mad, it's usually because like a boundary's been crossed or our needs aren't getting met, like a violation of some sort has happened and the anger is there to be like, look at this. Like, look at this, fix this, like stop, you know, like stop taking this as status quo. But like, how often do you sit down and be like, I'm gonna just let myself be angry with all the angry things? No, we don't, because we tell ourselves, I gotta be high vibe. I have to be like in alignment with the thing that I'm manifesting. Yes, you do, but also you need to be you and you need to still embody that version of you in the future who will have that thing and still have days that are difficult and still have challenging emotions, right? It's not an either or, it's a yes and doing it together. And I have manifested so many things in the depths of despair, like to talk about the Ten of Swords and this time. Like, would if someone said to you, like when you're literally in the like hollows of like despair and being like, oh my God, oh my everything's terrible and dealing with trauma and grief and sadness and depression and like same shit every like same shit different day. Do you think that's when you can manifest something that you really, really want and need and desire? You would think not, but you can. And Like I said, there's so many times that I've manifested stuff and it's come on the other side of me letting out some emotions, whether it's letting out like deep grief or letting out rage. Like rage fits are really interesting because I believe that anger is really connected to your solar plexus, right? And so if we think anger is a really extreme iteration or extreme expression of solar plexus energy, we want to dial it in a bit. We don't want it to be like that crazy, but it activates it, right? Sometimes when something's been turned off for so long and we turn it on, it's like and then you bring it back down, right? So in my own experience, I think for me, experiencing like the fits of rage where I was like cursing the universe, and I was like, are you fucking kidding me? No more. I want this and this and this and I want that. It was like, it wasn't so much rage, it was coming out as rage, but it was really a self-expression of solar plexus energy, personal power, deservingness, speaking up, having boundaries and expectations of like what sort of care and you know experiences you deserve as a human. And like one of the things I manifested was what did I manifest? There was like three things in one year. I manifested my dog overnight, and I was like in the depths of grief. I had lost my other dog. He had died. Like literally 2022 was the year that like everybody and everything died and everything exploded. Like people, deaths, animal deaths, my car exploded twice. Like it was just, it was such a year. It was like tower times a million. But I also manifested really big things, like almost overnight. I manifested a car in the middle of a car shortage. I manifested a dog overnight, which I didn't think after having this whole like shit fest with this other dog. I manifested a job overnight and then like manifested a new variation of that job within that job. There were so many things. And for me, like I said, when you when you activate that, yes, you release the grief and you release the sadness, and you say, like, it's this about connecting with like, this is how shitty I feel. I actually feel this crappy, I feel this low, I feel this unfulfilled. Now what am I gonna do about it? So that's the one side of like what you feel, you heal, but you create that self-awareness to now be like, okay, so now what? Because as long as we're not feeling things, we can good, we can deny what's actually going on for ourselves. We can deny how unfulfilled we feel, because we can also think like, I should be grateful. Yes, you should be grateful, but also it's it's okay to say that things aren't going the way that you want them to go and that you're not happy with the way things have been. And you can ask for more and deserve more, and you can do that while being mad and sad. And I think for me, like when I manifested like the dog, and I was like just bawling my eyes out because we my dog had died, and I was really it was really hard. Like he was my dog came to me when I came home from England. I was living in England for many years. I was in a really dysfunctional relationship, like super dysfunctional. And when I left and came home, I was this like shell of myself. And I I remember I adopted this little dog, and he he was with me for so much of my life, and then having my son, and that came to a point where he he left. And he when he left, like my grandma had died, other stuff was going on, my dad had not died yet, like that was coming. But the second dog came after my dad died. Like it was like, like I said, it was a really, really weird year for me. But I tried getting a new dog. Like I was like, my dog died, and I was like, I'm getting a new one right away. And I didn't think about what I wanted. I wasn't really intentional about what I wanted to feel. I didn't wasn't intentional or clear on what that future version of me and my family felt like with a dog. I was just like, I need a dog. I need a dog. And I did manifest a dog, it didn't go well. Um, that's a story for another day. Unfortunately, she was just like not a good match for a family with kids, and we had to, I had to find a new home for her after a couple weeks. And I did. I found her a nice, like retired couple that had had a dog like that before, and it was quiet and people who were home all the time, and it's like she was gonna be good. But I got to this like low, like because then my dad died, right? So like I had tried having this second dog, and then my dad had died, and I was like in like the third wave of grief. And I had this experience with a friend's dog, and it like connected me with this, like, I do really want a dog. Because I'd sort of put it off and said, like, I don't need a dog, it's fine, it will make my life difficult. But I was with at a friend's house and connected with their dog, and it it connected me to sadness that I was like, that I didn't know that I felt where I was like, I'm so missing this, and this is what I'm missing. Like, this is like the type of dog that I need. I need this and that. And I went home and I was just bawling my eyes out. I was so sad. And I wrote this list really specific of like every single thing that I needed and demanded in this dog. I was like, it has to be house-trained, it has to be good with kids, it has to be like this. I want it to come from here. I got so specific and I was like, it can't be a puppy. It needs to be between one and two because I knew I couldn't take a puppy on. Like that was the other thing. That other dog was a still in the puppy phases, like six months old. Not a good match for my home and what was going on. And so I asked for like every single thing, crying my eyes out of like what type of breed, how old it was, what type of shots, like it needed to have all its vaccines. It needed to already have been like spayed or neutered, it needed to be here. I only wanted to spend this much. And I even said, like, it can be this breed or this breed. Like I got so specific, I said it's got to be an adoption. It's gotta be, I don't want it to be more than two years old. It has to be good with kids. Really hard. I don't know if anyone's done like animal rescues or shelter dogs. It's very hard to find one that says like good with kids. Not because they're they're bad, vicious dogs, but because they haven't tested them in a home with children. So they don't know. So they just typically, they typically say no if you have a kid. And I asked for everything, and I was like, this is never gonna happen. I was like, this is like the biggest wish list in the world. But I left it, I put it to the universe, and I was mad and I was like, this is what I deserve. This is the type of dog that we need. And like, I was like, you fucking figure it out. Like I was literally so mad. I wrote it down, I left it. And I woke up the next morning and I looked on this like classifieds listing thing that website, and there was a dog there, and it had every single thing that I had written on my list, every single thing, down to the fact that I said it can either be a Maltese or a shihtzu, and it was a Maltese Shih Tzu mix, and it was the same age, it said good with kids, it had like, and I like had just gone up and I like texted the woman and I was like, Can I come see him like tomorrow? And she was like, Yep, and she put him on hold and I went and saw him and we brought him home. And his name is Walter, and he's the best little dog ever. But it was this example of like instead of asking for what I thought I could get or what I thought was good enough, I like shot for the moon and I was like, this is how I want to feel. I want to feel like I don't want to feel stressed. I want to feel at ease, I want to feel connected, I want to feel calm and peaceful. I want to, you know, and I tapped into these feelings and then figured out like what the dog needed to look like and put it all together and didn't say like, oh, just get, I just want a dog that's hypoallergenic or whatnot. I was like, this is exactly what I require in my life because I need to feel like this and enough with this. Like I kind of got through that, like and like spewed out these emotions, but connected with the emotions that I wanted to feel in the future. And there it goes, right? It's right there. And none of this, like, oh, it takes time for your manifestations to catch up with you in the 3D. I think you can manifest miracles, I think you can manifest magic overnight, but I think the key is, like I said, getting really clear on what it is that you want, not settling, getting really clear on what you need to, what feelings you want to embody. And so this is all in that manifesting magic playbook. It's like I said, there's these processes that I guide you through that connect you with like past versions of self, current self, future self. You look at the emotional through lines, you look at where bridges need to be built, you see where there's gaps, and then you support yourself as you work through it because I believe you can manifest anything. If you can manifest a dog overnight, I manifested a car overnight with the same process. That's a story for another day. But in the middle of like a car shortage in the pandemic, got really pissed at the universe, and I was like, F everybody. And I was like, here comes the rage, which for me, I'm now learning my rage is really connected, like I said, to solar plexus energy energy and solarplex's personal power. And I don't know, if you're like me, you think, you know, we tend to think that safety comes in, like the if we think of the spectrum of emotions, like really, really high happies, really, really low, lows, we seem to think that like safety comes from the middle, from the gray. And that's just not true. And it's also that's not where the power lies. Like there is emotions are so intense when they're on either end of the spectrum, right? But it's that intensity that's that fire energy that you can then take to create and to motivate you for change. And so if you're getting to those spaces where you're letting yourself feel and release whatever needs to be felt and released, just know that, like it's like I said, like taking that lid off the pop bottle, emptying it, so then you have space that you can fill. And we've talked about so much here. Like that is just half of the equation is you feel it to heal it, to release it, to make space for it, to connect with what you need to connect with. But there's this other side of manifesting where, you know, the the state, the this the saying is what you feel you make real. And we talked about this a little bit at the beginning, where I said, you know, you have to connect with what it's not the thing that you're chasing. It's not the car or the job or the house, it's the emotional state that you're wanting to connect with. We want more money because we want to feel free and we want to feel safe and secure and relaxed, you know, or we we chase jobs because we want to feel powerful and confident. It's always the feeling that we're looking for, not just the thing, right? Because you can, the thing can shift and change. Like it's not so dependent that it has to be like this. It, you know, there's different ways that you can meet your different emotions. But I just anything that you're trying to bring into your life, let's say this, whatever you're trying to bring into your life, uh, look at it and ask yourself what you're trying to actually connect with feeling-wise. And again, let's plug the manifesting magic playbook. I put you through that process in the playbook where I help you realize like what it actually is that you're chasing. And then you have to get your body on board, you have to get your nervous system on board, right? We I mentioned it briefly at the beginning where, and just said it now, like we we think I keep hitting the microphone. This thing is like right in my face, but we need it. We think that like the gray zone is the safe zone, right? And so our our body wants to keep us in whatever is that safe zone. And for us, everybody's safe zone looks different. Like if you're used to feeling a certain way, that's your safe zone because that is what is familiar to you. And so anything that you're trying to manifest, or wherever you're trying to like move into a new space in your life, it requires you to move into something that is unknown emotion-wise. So, like if you want a new job and you're like manifesting a promotion because you want to feel confident, you probably don't feel confident where you are right now, or you haven't had a lot of experiences with that. So that chasing of confidence is enough for your brain to be like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, like that's weird. What is that? We don't know what that feels like. Let's shut it down. Be sure you want to do that. Let's sabotage the shit out of it, right? And that's why sometimes we work so hard on something and it never comes. Because our body, our brain, our mind, our soul, everything subconscious is going haywire, trying to prevent it from coming in because that emotional state or that feeling that might have an intensity that we're not used to is so unfamiliar that we don't know how to do it. We don't know how to gracefully and easefully and like just systematically almost step into that space. And so when I say like what you feel, you make real, if you can train your body to get comfortable with feeling supported, feeling confident, feeling loved, feeling whatever, when those opportunities come into your life, and I mean even like the smallest little breadcrumbs that will take you there, when those things come into your life, your brain isn't gonna stop you. It's not gonna be like, oh, hold up, wait, is this safe? It's gonna be like, yeah, this is cool. Yeah, this is fine. And so, yes, making space emotionally, clearing out the stuff is like a big part of manifesting, but the other side is training your body and stretching your brain and stretching your nervous system to get comfortable with what you're going to call in. Nobody actually jumps off a cliff because jumping off a cliff is scary. You know what I mean? Like we don't want change like overnight because if you did, your nervous system would not be able to handle it. You know, a lot of times like people win the lottery and then their life goes to shit because they they're not equipped to handle that big of a change. And it's the same with smaller things, it's the same with job changes or relationships or whatever it is that you're trying to bring in. If it's so different than what is new normal and day-to-day for you, it looks so new and scary. And so, you know, your brain thinks it's like you're jumping off a cliff. So we want to be like, we're not actually jumping off a cliff. Look, there's a little rope ladder and we're just gonna like climb down it and it's gonna be fine, you know? And so what I like to do is do a lot of visualization, but paired with emotional embodiment where you visualize that thing that you want to bring into your life and you you feel it and you create narratives and you create storylines. You use your imagination and your power of creative thinking and daydreaming to trick your brain. It's just called like mental rehearsal, to trick your brain into like thinking the thing that you want is already done. And like athletes do this. There's a lot of studies that show Olympic athletes or professional athletes how their performance and their actions are different and they have different results when they mentally, visually rehearse whatever it is that they're going to do. And so it's not just like woo-woo stuff. It's not just like sit there and visualize and it'll happen. It's actual brain science about visualizing your brain. So your brain makes the neural pathways where it's like, oh, I do this and this and this, and that's what happens. But training your body and your emotional system to be like, and I feel like this, and this is safe, and this is okay. And so that's why that's the other part of what's in the Manifesting Magic playbook is because you have to hold your own hand and walk yourself through this and make a safe container and a safe path for you to be in the space where you receive what it is that you want. And so there's a whole section. There's I think four or five sections. I can't remember how many I divided it up to, but there's a whole section in there about emotional embodiment to create pathways of safety to your future version of self. And it's a process that I go through, it's a process that I put my one-to-one clients through. And I believe fully, like so firmly, that it's the other piece that's missing in manifestation. And it's like, yes, we set goals, yes, we do affirmations, but we need to release and make space to activate certain personal power to release baggage. And then we need to connect with safely and get used to something else so that it becomes our new normal. And so, like I said, go get the playbook if you're interested and you want to walk through this with me. I feel like you can listen to my voice. There's little audio tracks in there, and feel like I'm holding your hand and walking you through this because I am. You know, this is a way that I can work with you and support you. And I'd love to know what you're manifesting as well. Like, DM me, tell me what you're trying to bring in in your life. I've talked with a lot of people in the last couple of weeks about manifesting, shared some successes with people, some really massive wins uh after having conversations about like getting into alignment and making sure we're asking for the things that we really want and making sure we're doing the emotional clearing and the emotional containment and the emotional embodiment that's necessary. And I would just love to know what it is that you're you're bringing into your life. So, you know, as you go through the next week, make space for your feels. Make space to feel your feelings, whether you want to start journaling, maybe do rage journaling, maybe you want to do like grieve hard or just find a way to make space in your day to safely feel and just witness your feelings. You don't even have to make them mean anything. The first step, like I said, is just like letting them out and then seeing what comes out after and find, find the process that works for you. Right. So make space to release what needs to be released, and then also make space in your day to train your brain to feel the things that you want to feel. It's kind of like a double-edged sword, two-ended stick. I don't know, you know what I mean? Where it's like dipped. I'm seeing like those kayak paddles. You need to like do the one thing and the other thing, and the one thing and the other thing. And then your boat starts to go forward. And so we don't want to be going just one circle where we're just like healing, healing, healing, because your boat will go in a circle. And if we're like, let's just feel the good, feel the good, you're gonna go in a circle. You literally need to be like heal and release, feel and embody, heal and release, you know, embody and align. It's like foom, foom, foom, boom. And when you do that, you're just creating a state and a sense of balance on a really deep level. Like I mean nervous system, I mean subconscious brain, I mean soulful level. You're creating that state of balance and equilibrium that you need to like keep your boat going straight and to chart a course. But you're also supporting yourself to take more aligned action because you're not like all over the place, right? Like the boat is slow and steady and moving forward. And it's going to be easier for you to do the things that you need to do to change your life, whether it's on like a micro variation or like a macro variation. So take time this week, try those things out. Like I said, the Manifesting Magic playbook is there for you. You can go to jenniferhully.com/slash manifesting magic all one word or tap the show notes. Friends, please, if you like this episode, make sure that you subscribed on YouTube, your podcast platform, and share it with those in your life, your community, your friendship circle who would benefit from the message and need to hear the conversation that we've had today. 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