God Told Me to Divorce? A Deep Dive into Faith, Marriage, and Accountability | No Pillz Podcast Ep60

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In this powerful episode of the No Pillz Podcast, we tackle one of the most controversial topics in relationships and faith: "Did God really tell you to divorce?" Join Gordon McGee as he breaks down the myths, biblical truths, and societal narratives around divorce, accountability, and the impact on children.

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• The role of faith and the Bible in marriage decisions.
• Shocking statistics about fatherless homes and societal outcomes.
• Misinterpretations of "God's will" when it comes to divorce.
• Real advice for building strong, lasting relationships rooted in faith.
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00:00 Introduction: A Shocking Revelation
00:24 Podcast Welcome and Mission
01:56 The Story of Divorce
03:11 Impact of Divorce on Children
03:46 Statistics on Fatherless Homes
10:14 Analyzing the Comments
14:23 Personal Stories and Reflections
17:16 Addressing Common Phrases and Misconceptions
17:43 The Importance of Getting Closer to God Before Marriage
18:13 Taking Accountability for Actions
19:22 The Role of Commitment in Marriage
20:53 Statistics on Divorce Initiation by Women
21:34 Reasons Women File for Divorce
24:46 Biblical Perspective on Divorce
31:55 Encouragement for Preserving Marriage
34:08 Final Thoughts and Sign Off

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Today on the No Pills Podcast, God told me to divorce my husband. I asked my husband for a divorce after one year of marriage. Let's talk about it. So everybody that's saying you're so strong, I couldn't do it. I was exactly where you are now. I've shared a life with my husband for seven years, but God said it was time. As bad as I wanted to question, God said it was time. This is what she said. She said, God said it was time. You're now listening to the No Pills Podcast, your best resource for cultivating meaningful. Healthy, long lasting, romantic relationships that bloom into strong marriages. Welcome to No Pills. Welcome to No Pills! That's with a Z if you couldn't tell. Ha ha! Love. Fully. Scripted. We back, beloved. Get some of that. Listen, friends, your man, God's man, brother G man, brother Gordon, your guy through all your life's troubles when it comes to relationships, love, life, and all of the above, man. Trying to get it right with your heart. Listen, no blue pills. No red pills, just the pill of truth, friends, just the truth over here. You know how we get down. We're back, man. Love fully scripted. We're getting to the word of God when it comes to our relationships in the context of our relationships, in the, in the context of love friends, in the context of love. Your love life is the vehicle. That's right. Mm hmm. Every vehicle comes with an owner's manual That owner's manual is the bible. Come on, and the manufacturer is god g o d We're gonna get into it today. God told me to divorce my husband. I can't make this stuff up. I can't make it up friends God told me to divorce my husband. I was on the internet, you know, I'm often trying to see what's going on in the realm of relationships online. And to see what, you know, there's so many podcasts, so many, I know there's so many of us out there doing different things in different spaces. But, um, in my perusing, For some, uh, topics and things to discuss. I ran across a woman who has been married, or was married for one year, filed for divorce after a year, had been together seven years with her partner, who she then married, and after one year got divorced, and I, it, I think she has two children, uh, by her husband and her lover. And now she's, uh, you know, posting that online, doing a, uh, you know, lifestyle or life podcast or vlog or whatever, you know, she has going on and put that on the internet for the world to see. And that broke my heart. And what even broke my heart more was the comments. So we're going to look at that video today, friends. We're going to look at those comments, which just, Oh my goodness. This blew my mind. Um, broke my heart, made me feel like. Man, like, just the amount of people that are being hurt and harmed when we're talking about divorce. Um, the, the, the adults, also the children, and let me, let me give you some statistics, friends, because we be forgetting what's going on. When we, when we're dealing with divorce, we take it so lightly, you know, I think it's, it's, it's being accepted now in our culture. We're definitely in that place where it's like, Oh, you get divorced. Not a big thing. Who cares? You know, it is what it is. Do you love you? You, you, you, you, I, I, I, I, me, me, me, me. You know how we get down friends. Children from fatherless homes, specifically, I'm going to give you some statistics on children from fatherless homes. Children from fatherless homes often face statistically significant challenges compared to those raising the homes with both parents actively involved. Okay, and then more research is going on to say children even fare better in the household if it is single with just the father. Okay, now every child's situation is going to be different. Every child's experience is going to be unique. So I'm not saying this is a blanket across the board for everybody, but we got averages going on here. Okay, studies highlight that trends in education, behavior, mental health, and socioeconomic outcomes. Are not that great. Let's talk about education, lower academic performance. When you come from a fatherless household, higher dropout rates. When you come from a fatherless household, lower college attendance. When you come from a fatherless household, you have behavior issues, increased risk of delinquency. Substance abuse goes up when you have a father missing from the home. Teen pregnancies go up, alright? Mental health. Emotional struggles increase with no father in the home. Higher suicide rates when the father's not in the home. This is statistics, friends. Economic hardships happen. Poverty is more likely. Reduced opportunities. Okay, when there's no father in the home. Makes sense. Social and relational issues. Difficulty forming healthy relationships. And incarceration rates go. So my first thought is like, this young lady, this woman who posted this, and all the women that are getting divorced, and people that are getting divorced, are they, are they even coming from fatherless homes? Which is going to increase their difficulty, right, in forming healthy relationships. So, friend, be careful who you marry, you know? Um, I'm coming from a home that was broken. My father authored a picture from drugs and alcohol, and as many of you know, you know, I'm widowed. And if I happen to find someone who I thought I wanted to marry, and she was interested in me, and she factored in, like, mmm, you know, was your dad in your life? I'm not mad at that. Like, because it's so crazy out here. You've gotta, you've gotta factor in everything, you know? And you've gotta really judge and see if a person is healthy in their mental state and capacity. But just note, coming from a fatherless home is not a good thing, and it comes with some, some bad statistical outcomes, alright? Um, also, 63 percent of youth suicides occur in fatherless homes. 63%. 90 percent of homeless and runaway children come from fatherless homes. 85 percent of children with behavioral disorders come from homes without fathers. 71 percent of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes. 70 percent of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes. If you wanted the percentages. I'm not making this up, friends. This is, this is real. And what are the contributing factors to that? The absence of the father correlates with reduced emotional support, economic disadvantages, and a lack of role models. Friends, you better have a real, real good reason, a biblical reason, a God reason, to be divorcing a spouse. Just the impact on your children alone is worth making it work. Figuring it out. Come on. This is a serious thing, man. Divorce is not some light thing. Not only does it have eternal impacts on us, but just the immediate impacts and outcomes we're going to see in our, in our family that we're destroying is, man, it's incomprehensible. It's almost, it's like, wow, how, how are we going to do this to our families? Okay. So we need a real, real good reason. To divorce. And let's see if we're going to find that in this video here. I asked my husband for a divorce after one year of marriage. Let's talk about it. To everybody that's saying you're so strong, I couldn't do it. I was exactly where you are now. I've shared a life with my husband for seven years. But God said it was time. As bad as I wanted to question. God said it was time. God said it was time. This is what she said. She said, God said it was time. I didn't understand why, but it felt like the harder I fought to stay, the worse my heart felt. The last thing a woman wants to do is leave a man she shared kids with, built a family with. This decision tore me apart, and after months of being separated, healing my trauma, trying to figure out where we went wrong, I knew why God chose this route for me. This is not the God chose this route for me. Jesus is going to be blaming God for this whole, like the whole divorce is like, it's God's fault. The, the, the whole entire divorce is God's fault. So he, he chose this man for me. He gave me these kids. He, I mean, literally Adam and Eve in the garden and they both turned around and blamed God. Human beings don't change. It's always God's fault. It's always God's fault. Route I would have picked, but I also trust him. I've given all I had to this family I created, and I couldn't understand that if this marriage wasn't for me, why would God place me here? Why would God bless me with these children in this marriage? But when you really sit and think about it, everybody is not supposed to experience you forever. What? I've given this marriage all I, God did, God did it, God did it, God fault. I'm not supposed to experience people forever? No, marriage is, is exactly that. You're telling a person, I want to experience life, you're going to experience me forever until one of us dies. Or is it just me? Do we, do we not know the definition of divorce? People stop getting married. Stop getting married. If you don't understand the definition and the commitment level, let's And sometimes it's not about you. God put you in places where you're needed. You may have been put in that marriage to teach your partner something. So for everybody What are we talking about? What is Asking for my advice. The best advice that I could ever give you is to get closer to God. He will guide you through. Just like he did me. And do y'all hear this? Y'all hear this? Alright, let's, let's, let's Just wanna recap She tried everything she could Been together for seven years Married for one year Two kids I see in the video She tried everything God led her this way God did it all All God's fault Now, let's get into the comment section Let's look at the comment section together It gets crazier Alright, look at these comments Let's read these comments together Uh, first comment here, trust God with all your heart and do not get weary. A blessing is on its way. She turned the comments off. For this video, for this post, this nonsense, she turned the comments off. Alright. Next one. Everybody has so many questions. God is always the answer. You got this. What was Excuse me. You got this. Alright. That was me after ten years of marriage, two children. But God is a keeper and a rewarder to those who diligently seek him. Ten years of marriage and two children. Toodles! Adios, amigos. Oh, come on. This is just a general comment. Sometimes we step outside of God's will and we may, and we marry people that Maybe we shouldn't, and we make decisions that God might not have ordained. Even when we listen to God and do His will, and do His will, alright? She spelled it well, but His will. Um, we will have problems and tribulations, especially when we do not listen. I know in my life I have not listened to God in many important areas of my life, and I accept my mistakes. But I do feel that even in the midst of our mistakes, God is merciful and can still bless you. Oh, bless us. I'm still persevering, persevering. Listen, listen. Once there's children involved, okay, we've gone over the statistics already. Once there's children involved, we're having a whole different discussion. You marry a person you're not supposed to marry, and friends, unless there is abuse, physical, I mean, I mean real abuse. None of this made up stuff. None of this I feel, oh, I don't, no, no, no, no. None of this feel, ladies, none of this I feel stuff. I'm talking about legit abuse or legit infidelity. You gotta, you gotta work it out, man. You gotta make it work. Your mistakes should not have to impact the future of your children. Like, let's be adults. Close your legs. Put it back in your pants, men. Look, look, we don't have to have sex. We don't have to have children. Come on, like, all right, let's keep reading these comments. Um, Patterson over here says, the best advice is to talk to your husband. Not social media. I'm not mad at you for that. I'm not mad at you for that comment, sis. Not mad at you for that comment on this video. How about that? Then someone just flawless over here goes, you did the right thing for you and those kids. Keep growing. You live and learn. Let me say something. Just flawless, 98, 82. What are you talking about? What are you talking about? We don't have any context here in this video. We don't know if there was, we don't know if there was infidelity. We don't know there's abuse. We don't know. We don't know anything other than she packed it up and left. Hey, maybe, you know, something I don't know. You did the right thing for you and for those kids. She did not do the right thing for the kids. Statistically speaking. Talk to me. I'm backed by facts. Statistically speaking, she did the worst thing for those children. Mm hmm. But by not giving them to the father to raise, she did the worst thing for the children. Statistically speaking, they're more likely to be in jail, to be poor. To have behavioral issues, come on. And you posted this. She did the right thing for her, that's right. Yeah, how she felt. What she thought was right in her heart, what made her happy. Forget her husband, forget the kids. This stuff, I can't believe y'all commenting on posts like this, man. This is crazy. I went through the same thing, next comment here. I went through the same thing, but was married for 15 years. God released me. Blaming God, gonna blame God. I went through the same thing, was married for 15 years. Yo, man, be careful, brothers. Be careful, brothers. Fifteen years, God released me from that marriage. How do you know God released you from that marriage? We're gonna get into the owner's manual here in a minute. God released me from that marriage that became toxic and revealed things to me through my divorce that were happening behind my back. I hope it was infidelity. God saved my life. Helped me heal with him and a therapist. I found me and my identity in God and he moved me and my two kids to another state to start over. Man, I hope this man was abusing you and there was infidelity going on because you done took the kids to another state. Like, can he even see his kids? Like what? Oh, man. God help us. This journey had its ups and its downs, but it is so worth it. So worth it to break up a home. Stay encouraged. Stay close. Listen, I don't know the background. Okay, keep fighting. Forgive those who misuse you. Set boundaries and move on. Be better. Lord, I, I don't, I don't know the, I don't know the context, the background to all these comments, right? But just what was being provided us, this is, these don't seem like good reasons to set your kids up for failure or to increase your children's chance of failure in life. I hope somebody, man, y'all get in my comment section on this, on this, on this live, on this podcast. Get in my comment section. This happened to me with three kids, 16 years ago. I had been in church for 17 years. And boys are men now. I did it. God is good. This is real. This is real. The hardest thing I ever did in my adult life, after 30 years, Exclamation point. Three years ago, I filed for divorce, closed my business, and left my then home and half the stuff in it. 30 years? Where you going after 30 years? I'm sick and tired, unhappy, and didn't know what I was. Oh my goodness. I was sick and tired, unhappy, and didn't know who I was, and not happy with who I was becoming. I did not hate anything about infidelity. I did not hate anything about abuse. But it's about how I felt God told me let it go and we're blaming God again. God told me let it go We go. Oh stick around friends. Don't leave listen this whole podcast What does God say about God told me to let it go? It was toxic. What does that even mean? These words. Oh toxic narcissist abuse Well, I don't hear abuses. It's toxic. It's narcissist. These are the top two words. These are top two. I All right, I can't read this no more. All right, let's, let's keep going. I can't even listen. Next comment, man. Oh my goodness. What we should all learn is to get closer to God before going into marriage. Thank you, JessB605. Somebody, this is a man. This is a man in the comments. This is the most sane, rational comment at the old girl up here who was saying, yeah, probably don't get on the internet. You should have been talking to your husband in person. The male here's cause we need to get closer to God before going into marriage. Praying for you, sis. Love, fully scripted. This is why I'm here, friends. We need to do all the, the, the upfront work before we go ruin somebody else's life, go break somebody's heart, slow down, put your, put it back in your pants, pull your skirt down, stop laying down with everybody, and just get to know God now, not after you go break up, have kids, ruin their life, come on man, why, why do, friends, why are we, you don't have to have sex. We don't have to, I mean, I'm having to repeat it because I think sometimes people are dumb and then we blame God. People are selfish, then we blame God. It was not God's fault you got pregnant. You did that. You chose the person you wanted to be with. You did that. This, this unwillingness to take accountability for wicked actions and selfish actions drives me crazy. You did this, not God. And if you were the cheater, if you, if you were cheating, you did that. You broke up your family. God has nothing to do with any of that. This drives me crazy. It goes on here, Robin. I did it after 15 years. It was very hard to walk away, but I did it because I trust, listen, I was married, okay. Before my wife passed away. We were together almost 20 years married together. Almost 18 years. Listen, I know it, it, it can be hard because we're selfish. Okay, I'm speaking from first hand experience. Because of my selfish heart, my marriage was difficult because of my selfish heart. But beloved, 15 years, 18 years, you've got to stop in those moments when you think about giving up and go, yo, I got 18, 15, 30 years in this thing. Like, no, we need to figure this out. I, praying, going to God, going to counseling, going to therapy, church, I mean, you got to try. Everything, there's no, you, listen, are you gonna be a person of your word? You gave this individual your word, you tell them, you told them that you love them, and you said, until death do us part. But you didn't mean it. And now, as a society, should we trust you to do anything else? You don't keep your word, you're not a person of your word. These are the thoughts that need to enter your mind before you, before you pull the trigger on getting divorced. Look at this, next, the next comment. Trust me, when God says go, you will literally get sick trying to stay. Boy, alright man, alright, I'm done with the comments. Let's, let's, I can't, I can't take anymore of the comments. We gotta, we gotta move on. Oh my goodness. Alright, so why do women divorce, statistically speaking? Alright, so women divorce more than men. Okay, file for divorce more than men. Alright, so ladies, I just. Not trying to beat y'all up this episode, but we're just going off that we're going she divorced a husband Let's let's let's just women file for divorce more often than men Okay in the United States studies indicate that approximately 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women This percentage increases to around 90 percent for women with college educations United Kingdom same thing Western civil countries same thing. All right now here are the reasons Here's some of the top reasons that women are falling for divorce. Dissatisfaction with the marriage. What does that mean, friends? What does that mean? Women often cite emotional neglect, lack of intimacy, or feeling undervalued as a reason for divorce. Those are not, those are not reasons to get divorced. Those are not reasons in the eyes of God to get divorced. Blaming God. God did, God, God, God. No, no, we're gonna get to it. Wait till we read it. Wait till we get to the word. This is crazy, man. The owner, praise the Lord I have the owner's manual. Listen, if you are, if you are a woman, send this to somebody who knows about to get divorced. Especially if she's a girlfriend, a female. Have you listened to these type of women online? That are rationalizing and making excuses for them, for them giving up, for them breaking up a happy home, or breaking up a home that doesn't have to be happy, for messing up their kids, nonsense. The Bible does not support this, friends. Okay, the owners, man, God does not support this, all right? Everyone, God, God, God, no, no, no, no, what does God actually say about it? I gotta, I don't want to get ahead of myself because I'm getting fired up. I'm fired up this episode, friends. Higher expectations, second reason. For another reason, higher expectations. Studies suggest women may have higher expectations for emotional fulfillment and partnership in marriage. This is all feelings. Women are getting divorced because they don't feel, I don't feel, I don't, what are you talking about feelings? Do we feel like going to work every morning? Do we feel like, do we feel like protecting you? Do we feel like risking our lives? There's a lot of things we don't feel like doing that we do because we've made commitments and we've given our word. Listen, I pray there's still men out here on planet earth. That, that value in a man of their word. If you said you're gonna marry your wife, don't be cheating on her friends. You said you're gonna love her, be faithful. Don't cheat on her. This is, this is, you're giving her your word. Next reason. Changing social norms. Okay, this is why women are getting divorced. Increased independence, education, and workforce participation have empowered women to leave unsatisfying or harmful relationships. Harmful relationships? I'm cool with. I understand what's going on there. Safety. And I would still say if you're in an abusive relationship, don't file for divorce. Separate. Get into another apartment. Get into another dwelling. Try to get some counseling. Don't, don't. That should not be your first thing. Okay? And females abuse men too, physically. All right. And emotionally. So it goes both ways. Get the separation, but don't run off and get divorced right away. And then if there is infidelity, go ahead. But just because you're beat, you're unsatisfied. What does that mean? If you're unsatisfied, you can work it out with a person. And if not, you chose them. Why didn't you do all the pre work? Why didn't you investigate them before you got married to them? And it's the kid thing, then you have the children thing. Trust me girl, oh lord have mercy on our souls. Domestic issues. Women are more likely to leave marriages involving abuse, infidelity, or addiction. I'm on board with that, I get it. I can't hate on that. Hey, I can't hate on that. But what does God actually say about divorce? Because the reasons women are choosing is nonsense. Garbage, and then got the nerve to say God, God said, God did, God, God told me to do it. There's nothing new under the sun, friends. There's nothing new under the sun. The same issues that God, God's people had in ancient Israel are the same issues they're having today because in ancient Israel, men were the problem and they were divorcing women for any reason. And it was, it was paining God's heart so much and troubling Moses so much that he gave them a divorce. Deuteronomy 24 verses 1 through 4. When a man hath taken a wife and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her, then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it to her hand. and send her out of his house. This guy, uh, yeah, something in you that's unclean. I'm not feeling it anymore. Men out here just divorcing. This is in the Mosaic Law. God have mercy. Okay? This regulation was intended to manage and limit divorce, okay? Not to encourage it, by the way. Let's be clear with that. Was not, this was not given to encourage divorce, but to manage it. Okay? Because it was happening. Because men's hearts were hard and evil. These were the men, but now it's women doing it. Now it's women doing the divorcing. Right? When you read it in the Old Testament, because of the cultural context, it wasn't even addressed to women for divorce. Because a woman would never divorce a man in that context because it's like, she didn't have her own fully. Because she needed a protector. She needed a provider. Right? But now, since the tables have turned, right, and everybody has money, everyone's able to get money, now it's like, ah, I'm leaving you. Okay. Still in the Old Testament, in Malachi 2 verse 16, for anybody thinking that, oh, because we find divorce in the Old Testament or in the Bible, that God was actually okay with it, Mm, Malachi 2 verse 16, For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away. He hateth divorce. He's clearly expressing through the Prophet Malachi his disproval of divorce. Thus, emphasizing what? Faithfulness in marriage. God condemns treachery against a spouse, friends. God is not encouraging abusing, being emotionally neglectful. Uh, he's not encouraging, uh, condescending talk. Uh, uh, some type of slavery situation. So, so, you know what I'm saying? He's encouraging love. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. Just because you don't feel like doing it anymore is not a valid reason in the eyes of God to get divorced. Facts. And I'm tired of seeing this stuff online and folks that are probably barely even reading their Bible, ladies, bringing God into your, your sinful Cardinal, fleshy decisions to break up and ruin your family. Get out of here. Get out of here. I can't even. New Testament, onus manual, Matthew 5, verse 31, 32. It has been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement. He's referencing Deuteronomy. Okay, this is Jesus speaking, Yahshua. But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, except for a saving for the cause of fornication, Adultery, sex outside of marriage, cause of her to commit adultery, and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced, committed adultery. If your partner has not stepped out on you and committed a sexual sin against you, has not committed sexual immorality, you do not have grounds for divorce. Period. Now, I think the only common sense exceptions that you may be able to add on to that Right? As if you're literally, literally getting abused, and your life is in danger. And then I say that, yeah, that's separation. Until the abuser steps out on you and sleeps with somebody else. Because you chose, you chose the relationship. You, you were an adult. You made a commitment before God and before an audience of people, of witnesses, and said, No, I'm with this sickness and health, good, better, or worse. Alright, you got some worse going on. You chose them, friends. Okay, this is what the Bible, this is what God says. We, we, show me where God is leading anybody to divorce. He hates it. He hates it. He hates divorce. God does. Don't, listen friends, don't get your relationship advice from other people who obviously are not reading their Bibles. Okay, obviously don't know what the Word of God says, doesn't know what God says. Do not take advice from just anybody online. Go fact check it yourself, man. Please, please, Matthew 19 verses 3 through 9. What therefore God hath joined together let no man put asunder. No human being. God has brought two people together in the holy matrimony and let no man put asunder. Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commit of adultery. So you put your husband away, you divorce him, and now you're gonna go marry somebody else? You're committing adultery. In the eyes of God, ladies. God did Oh, God let me God So, God does not lead someone to commit adultery. Say amen. Say true, say facts, say one, keep it a hundred. God does not lead people. Oh, God, let me down this path. He did not lead you down a path to adultery because you put your, if you didn't put your husband away for fornication, for adultery, then you are committing adultery when you go sleep with somebody else and marry somebody else. Facts, get some of that. Just leave God out of it, friends. Mm. Listen, man, marriage is for Christians. Mm hmm. Marriage is for people who are gonna follow the insights and wisdom and instructions from the owner, from the, from the creator of marriage. One Corinthians seven, 10 through 11, and unto the married I command yet not I, but the Lord let not thy wife depart from her husband, but if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband and let not the husband put away his wife. This is what God is saying. This is what the Word of God is saying. These people online, I don't know what they're talking about. This is what people do. We commit sin, we want to justify that sin, and then we'll bring God into it. We'll use the Word of God to pervert so we can stand okay. Yeah, I know I'm doing something that's outside the will of God, but I'm going to lie about that, lie to myself about that, lie to other people online and say, this is good. And then you females got a nerf nerf. Oh Lord. Not all of you. Some of you females. Or, or putting a battery in your sister's back. Oh, you go girl. You did the right thing for your kids. No you didn't. You did the selfish thing. You did the selfish thing. Listen, God's ideal is that marriage is lifelong, friends. Okay, that's what the owner's manual say. That is what the owner's manual says, friends. That, that, that God's ideal is that marriage is a lifelong commitment. Genesis 2 verse 24, Matthew 19 verse 6. There's only limited grounds for divorce. Okay? Reconciliation over separation. These are God's ideals. Reconciliation over separation. And God is disproving of all treachery within the confines of marriage, in relationships, in courtship. You better believe it. Listen, the Bible clearly teaches that marriage is sacred, friends. And it should be preserved whenever possible at all costs. Divorce is only allowed under certain specific circumstances, primarily that being infidelity. Marriage is serious. And so here's what I recommend for you. Take your time. Be super prayerful about a person you are thinking about marrying because it's until death do us part. And I don't care what the laws of the land says in God's eyes. If you separate from your spouse and it's not for infidelity, you are committing adultery with the next person you marry. This is not a game, friends. Marriage is very seriously and is very serious. And friends, you, man, the children. Literally, we have the data in front of us that shows what divorce does to society. It's not positive what it does to our kids. Friends, if you're thinking about getting divorced, stop being selfish. Stop being selfish. Stop for a minute. Think about what you're doing. Get some insight. Get some counsel. Go to the owner's manual. Talk to people who have been married for a long time. Find some healthy marriages, some healthy married people to talk to. And do it God's way and not your way. I'm Gordon McGee. This is the No Pills Podcast. Love fully scripted. And I'm signing off and I will catch you next week.