No Pillz with Gordon McGhee

Did God Really Say Divorce? | No Pills Podcast Ep.64

• Gordon McGhee • Season 2 • Episode 64

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Did God Really Say Divorce? | No Pills Podcast Ep. 64 🔥

In this episode of the No Pills Podcast, we tackle one of the most controversial topics in Christian relationships—divorce and God's will. 🤯 Can God really tell someone to divorce their spouse? What does the Bible actually say about marriage, commitment, and faith?

Join Brother Gordon as he breaks down scriptural truths, challenges modern relationship mindsets, and calls out the dangers of following emotions over God's Word. 🙏🔥

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00:00 Introduction to the No Pills Podcast
00:19 Personal Marriage Journey
00:29 Divine Intervention and Divorce
00:35 Podcast Welcome and Mission
01:14 Biblical Guidance on Relationships
01:58 Listener's Story: Early Marriage and Divorce
03:21 Reflections on Divorce and Faith
03:46 Debating Female Pastors
04:23 Rationalizing Divorce Decisions
05:42 Consequences and Generational Curses
13:47 Biblical Principles and Self-Denial
14:37 God's Grace and Love
16:21 Final Thoughts and Convictions
17:06 Introduction to the Topic
17:18 The Consequences of Leaving a Good Relationship
17:43 Advice to Men on Abuse
18:19 Reflecting on Personal Growth
18:43 Questioning Faulty Logic
19:12 The Importance of Courting
19:52 God's Blessings Despite Hardships
20:22 Biblical Perspective on Grace
20:43 The Temptations of Satan
21:55 Misconceptions About God's Will
22:05 Personal Testimony on Marriage
23:16 The Role of Feelings vs. God's Word
24:53 Biblical Teachings on Divorce
27:41 The Seriousness of Marriage
30:54 Consequences of Sin and Grace
33:35 Final Thoughts and Advice

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Today on the No Pills Podcast, we were together for 15 years. We were married for seven. It was a beautiful thing. And we still had like, you know, the, the normal ups and downs, but I will say, we didn't have a relationship where we argued all the time. We didn't have a relationship where we were dealing with infidelity or stuff like that. You know, during those times we didn't have that type of relationship. It was like, I was battling myself. You feel like. I'm trying to do the right thing, but it's something that's pulling me away from doing this, but why would it pull me away from my husband? God told me to divorce my husband. Let's get into it. You are now listening to the No Pills Podcast, your best resource for cultivating meaningful, healthy, long lasting romantic relationships that bloom into strong marriages. Welcome to No Pills. Welcome to No. That's with a Z if you couldn't tell. Ha ha! Love. Fully. Scripted. We are back, beloved. Gee, man, your man, God's man, brother Gordon, let's get into it. Your love life is the vehicle. That vehicle comes with the owner's manual. That owner's manual is the Bible and God is the manufacturer G O D. Let's get some today, friends, because we need it. It makes sense to go back to the manufacturer, right? To understand how to operate the vehicle in today. We have some ladies. One kind of insinuating, another saying God told me directly, God told me to divorce my husband. God is telling me to divorce my spouse. After 15 years of marriage, France, God said, that is not your husband. Mercy. Well, let's get right into it. Let's play, let's just roll our first I got married and divorced in my early 20s. I got married when I was 19 to my first boyfriend I ever had. We started dating when I was like 17 or 18. And then a couple years later, we got not married, which is also known as divorce. I literally never talk about this because I just, I never speak publicly about it. Honestly, it's been such a hard thing to ever speak about, but I remember. I wonder if there's not, because there's some shame there. You know, the conviction of like, I failed, it didn't work, right? Nobody wants to get divorced. Most normal people don't want to get divorced, especially if you have a Christian background, Christian upbringing. You know, there's shame there, right? I'm feeling really lonely through that process, and just in case there's one other girl out there who can relate. I will share a little bit. The person I married was an amazing man. He was great to me. We were really, really young when we got married. We got married during my parents getting a divorce and I really wanted to make a stable family of my own. Our family, her parents are getting divorced. She's with this young man and they decided to get divorced. Just, you almost wonder like, man, what's that? Was that a good time, season in your life? Were you healthy? Were you in a good mental state? Just the impact of divorce on children, you know. Nobody forced me to get married. If anything, people were like, are you sure? And I'm like, yeah. Years later, I ended up getting a divorce because I woke up one day and I realized I'm best friends with this person. I'm roommates with this person. I'm coworkers with this person. We were youth pastors at the time, which I really, really hated, but that is for another. Everyone said that being a youth pastor was my calling, and I'm pretty sure it was a prank call. Welcome to No Pills. Love, fully scripted. So something I'm noticing here, female pastor, not biblical. Okay. So I don't know what church denomination she's a part of with Christian sect, but it's not biblical. You won't find scripture anywhere supporting the ordination of women in a priestly priesthood type role, um, over the body, over the church of God. All right, so that's the first thing that's a little telling here, um, and, uh, what did she say? Let's go back one second. What did she say here? Right before that? Yeah, right here, what she says. It's because I woke up one day and I realized I'm best friends with this person, I'm roommates with this person. I woke up one day. We wake up every day if God permits. So one day your feelings and thoughts just change to the degree of I want to get divorced after you've already made this covenant before God. And man, until death do us part and you just woke up one day, you felt a different way. You feel like I'm co workers with this person. We were youth pastors at the time, which I really, really hated, but that is for another really hated being, I mean, if there's any indication that you're not called to an office in the body of Christ, the fact that you hate it, that's crazy story. Everyone said that being a youth pastor was my calling and I'm pretty sure it was a prank call, but I remember a prank call. Even that's kind of like a little. I don't wanna, I don't wanna call it blasphemous, but even that statement's a little like It lacks reverence. I don't know this young lady, but my goodness thinking I messed up and I don't wanna keep wasting this man's time specifically. Remember getting the thought and hearing myself say, I'm married to someone else's husband. The sooner I let him go, the sooner that he can start that process with the person you really should be with. Who's gonna love him the way he deserves. I growing up, thought that I was gonna be like. Breaking the generational curse of divorce and parents have been divorced. My parents are divorced when I got married a lot of people were like you're gonna break this generational curse of divorce and So I wonder I know that seeing my parents get divorced encouraged me not to get married Like, I didn't make the decision to get married until after I had become a Christian and started reading the Bible. So it had the inverse effect on me. I was like, no, I'm seeing people get divorced. I don't want to get married. Then God put me around older people in my family who had been together for a long time that I hadn't noticed. I said, oh, marriage does work. I just wonder how coming from Generations of divorce. Does that not almost encourage you or at least always give you the option or the back door to say, you know what? I know I can divorce, you know, just, just thinking out loud here as I hear this not coming from a good healthy place. Like most of us are not coming from a good healthy place when it comes to marriage and good examples of being married for a long time. In healthy marriages. It's gonna be amazing. So then when I wanted to get a divorce, I was like, but what about the generational curse I'm supposed to break? I also was very depressed at the time, but I had this feeling of maybe I'm supposed to break the generational curse of staying married far, far, far, far decades longer than you should. And then So she's she's talking so first of all, she's depressed. Making this decision while she's depressed and then she's saying well, I'm gonna break the generation curtain now. She's gonna you know, we're gonna We rationalize our decisions, right? We all do we all do this, right? if we don't allow the the word of God to be unsheathed and just Nakedly laid to our hearts to cut us under all our false ideas and ideologies. We'll do this We'll rationalize every wicked Decision we make. Okay, so she's saying well, I'll break the generational curse of not being married too long Like everyone else in my family. They were married so long and then they divorced that's terrible It's better just to marry or divorce quicker. I have not heard any scripture up until this point friends This is love fully scripture. We're gonna get into love fully scripted I have not just actually have you heard any scripture up until this point? Any. Any scripture. And here's why I wanted to cover this today. You run into this stuff online as a Christian, and you're going to run into other Christians that are justifying their sins and calling on God or saying it's okay in the eyes of God with no scripture. So friends, I would just plead with you. Do not just take what you hear online for somebody else's personal experience and create and develop doctrine off of somebody else's personal experience. You need a Thus Saved the Lord. You need it right from the owner's manual. Don't get it second hand, you know? Having people and yourself start over. 20 30 years down the road, especially when there's kids involved or ministries involved or all these things that you've built I'm not saying this because I'm telling you go get divorced if you have a how to fight with your husband and you're like Let me divorce this man But I remember going through the loneliest time of my life when that was happening I was so the Bible says that we are not to Prevent. Okay a spouse an unbelieving spouse from leaving you I want to interject this now. So her rationalization that, hey, better to divorce now than to have kids, to have a ministry, and let all these people down, and destroy all these other families, and the witness, etc, so forth and so on. If we're talking about mitigating risks and collateral damage, I guess if you want to say that, there's some logic there that works as far as, yeah, you're hurting less people if there's no children. Okay, if you're not in a, in a leadership position and then you divorce. Yeah, but here's the thing. Does God approve of divorce? Does God approve of divorce? That's the question. Is this the will of God? Is this what God would have me to do? So, maybe, to her husband, you know, praise the Lord for him. Like, I mean, praise the Lord that he didn't have to sit there and go through 20, 30 years of being lied to and maybe being in a terrible marriage or one day waking up 30 years later and getting divorced. So, this is the rationale she wants to put out there. I guess I would say, yeah, I mean, the sooner an unbelieving spouse wants to leave, yeah, let them leave, per the Bible's instruction. We'll get to those verses here in just a moment. So embarrassed. I was so embarrassed. I lost all of my friends, and What kind of friends do you have? I mean, that's wild to me. And this is true. Christians, we've got to do better. Losing all of your friends because you chose to get divorced? Like, man, I mean Give her the encouragement, give her the rebuke, give her the love and keep it moving. I don't, I don't know why she lost all of her friends. That's true. That's terrible. Basically, my life had to start over from scratch. You gotta question your Christianity if you just, you gotta, you have to question your Christianity if you're not friendly with the person because they've sinned. Because they made a decision that you didn't agree with. Let's just be honest, that's wild. Especially because I worked in ministry, my life was over. My, my life is over. God is done with me. Even though I knew that wasn't Completely true. I still felt like, well, my life won't be as good as it would have been if I had stayed married. That is potentially true. That is potentially true. Doesn't mean God is done with you. Doesn't mean God has completely forsaken you. But, I mean, consequences, friends. I don't know. This is a generation that hates consequences. Maybe every generation is that way. Men, we do not like consequence, like, human, humanity does not like consequences. To settle into the idea, like, hey, you know what? I've made a decision that may have negatively or has negatively impacted my life in my future to some degree. God still is good. He may still work that out to the benefit of my salvation. But you know what? Go in this path, I've, listen, the person who chooses to be a criminal, gets incarcerated, is a drug addict, et cetera, alcohol, their life would have been better. Without drugs, alcohol, incarceration. Period. Just, period. Just because God can pull you out of that situation and glorify you, or glorify, he can be glorified in that situation and use you to be a testimony, doesn't mean you have to, this is like the, okay, the prodigal son and the son who never left. It's like, well, I have to go be a prodigal in order to have a testimony. I have to go be a prodigal in order to have good glory. No. The son who stayed home and never went out into the world, he always had what the father had. Oh, this is, just don't have these, these, these unbiblical thoughts in your mind. Um, Mm. I really felt strongly that this was not the right situation for me. I remember people telling me, you know, I'm not in the will of God anymore. Are you in the will of God? Forget what people are telling you. She, when she was told this, she should have gone back and double checked it. People are telling me I'm not in the will of God. What does the Bible say, sis? ZZ. I, I, Christians are like some of the, like, most unbiblical people. It's wild. This is like the profession of Christianity, but we will not go to the Bible and let it actually navigate. Impact, control, influence our lives and our decision making, especially in the area of love, it seems like a lot of the time. It's just do whatever I want to do. I'm a Christian, but I don't read my Bible. I'm a Christian. I don't know. I don't know if divorce is in or outside the will of God. Why do you need someone, another Christian to tell you that if you're a Christian yourself already? I'm just saying we're going to be as happy as God would have intended me to be if I made this decision told a very close friend of mine who was a pastor. Hey, I have to choose myself in this moment. I know that sounds corny, but like I have to choose myself in this moment. And I wondered that pastor was a female. I don't do this. There's not going to be a Mariah to even be mad at, like, I am at the end of my rope. If I don't do this, it's not going to be Mariah as if she's going to unalive herself. Like, if I don't do this, if I don't get divorced, then I'm gonna die. That's the implication of what I'm hearing there. That sounds a little exaggerated. Ladies, this sounds a little exaggerated. Like, I am at the end of my rope. I really need to figure this stuff out on my own. And that person said to me, you know, we don't choose ourselves. We don't live for ourselves. We live for our husbands and God. That is correct. That is correct. That is a biblical principle. Die to self. Deny thyself. Pick up that cross and follow me. Your body is not your own. First it's God's, then it's your husband's. Your body is not your own. First it's God's, then it's your wife's. This is sound biblical principle. We do not live for ourselves. Here unto where you call, to what? To suffer. Self denial. This is the narrow, strict path, Christianity. What is going on? I'm sure he meant the best that he Oh, it was a he, okay. He No, he's giving you Bible. That's scripture. Could that those people meant that in a good way, I don't know. But let me tell you something, no matter what's going on in your life, whether you're Getting married, getting divorced, having a baby, watching your babies grow up, going through a big change in life or you're grieving or whatever. There's nothing we can do to mess up the grace of God. Is that biblical? Please friends, there's nothing we can do to mess up the grace of God. Is that biblical? I'm challenging that. Is that biblical? Can we find that in scripture? Okay. Remember that we're going to cover this later. There's nothing we can do to extract ourselves from the love of God. And I know that Nothing we can do to extract ourselves from the love of God is that biblical. What about the wicked, friends? I can't, I can't even wait. I can't, I can't even wait for these. I can't wait for the scriptures. Hold on. This is, this is, what about the wicked, friends, that are destroyed by God? What about the wicked whose prayers the Lord doesn't hear? We turn our foot away from the Lord. Like, what, what is she talking about? What Bible is she reading? The, the, the, the, the scriptures is conditional. If, if, if, if, if, Come on, this is Proverbs 28 verse 9. One who turns away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer is an abomination. God detests the prayers of a person who ignores the law. What is she talking about? Please, I'm begging you. Please, listener, please. You're watching this. Listen to it. Do not listen to people, Christians, giving you experience, justifying their wrongs in their life, telling you that God's okay with it, without you going to check it for yourself in the Word of God. This is why we're here, friends. This is why we exist. This is, this is why the ministry exists. This is insane. This is insane. This is why this podcast exists. Love fully scripted. God is not in love with the sinner who is bent on doing evil and is rejecting reproof and correction. Okay. I hear this all the time, but I need you guys to know I really thought my life was gonna be so over that everything was gonna crumble around me and that I would never live a good life, but I still did what I did because I felt that much conviction to get a divorce. Because I felt conviction. Now, in Christian circles, conviction comes from the Holy Ghost. So, I don't know if she's trying to say or imply that the Holy Ghost was convicting her. to divorce a husband, which we know is not true, not biblical. Mm hmm. Right? So, what was this conviction coming from to divorce? My ex is now married with two beautiful kids. He's very, very happy. I went through Shout out to him! Man, that he was able to bounce back. Shout out to him. God is good. What kind of crazy A pretty bad relationship after that. Kind of abusive. Let's play it off. Kind of ab Yo, this is crazy. So you leave a husband that loves you, cares for you, doing right by you, you don't feel like being married anymore, and then you run right into an abusive relationship. Isn't this the thing you were fearing initially? Like, life's gonna be worse not doing it God's way? You can't improve on God, friends. Alright, so This is not good. I'm, I'm, I'm so sad that she ran into an abusive relationship. Men, let's, side note, let's do a little, let me talk to you real fast. Do not put your hands on a woman. Come on man. Do not be verbally abusive, mentally abusive, abusive, physically abusive. Period. Real men are not that way. A man is not physically abusive to his wife, to his children. He's not emotionally abusive, he's not mentally abusive to his wife and his children. They are an extension of his body. They are an extension of his flesh and he loves them as Christ loved the church. If that's you, man, do better. Get the help you need. I got out of that and I wouldn't trade any of it for the world because that experience made me who I am. Uh, yes. Okay. Yes. Like I had to be, I had to be a drug addict to be who I am today. I had to be a murderer in order to be who I am today. I had to be a thief. Yo, this logic is bizarre. When you really peel this back, I like, have you thought about this? This is foolishness. You what? Oh, I wouldn't change it. Yes, I hope the thief would say, I mean, I wish I wasn't a thief. I would hope the liar would say, yeah, I wish I wasn't a liar, right? I hope the divorcer would say, I wish I wasn't a divorcer. Like, what are you, come on. We gotta stop, we gotta cut this out, man. Anything to not feel conviction, anything to not feel like we're wrong, like it's crazy. I look around my apartment in New York City, dating the most wonderful man in the world. Should be courting, should be courting, not dating, should be courting, not dating, ladies, gentlemen. I am not depressed, I have hope, I have joy, I know Jesus loves me, I'm living the life that Shout out to that, Jesus loves you, shout out to that, okay, alright. Not if you're a continual sinner though, just go, go and talk, go and talk to him about that. Baby me would have dreamed of and like wouldn't even believe I'm living. The career that I love and that I'm passionate about. I'm not saying that this is because I got a divorce. I'm saying that even with all that I went through and all the things people thought would be the end of me, I thought would be the end of me. God has still blessed me. He's kept me. He's given me the most beautiful, beautiful, beautiful life. And There was a time I never would have thought I would even make it past the age of 24. So the fact I'm here is such a blessing. And no matter what you're going through, I just want you to know that you're loved and you cannot outrun the grace of God, the love of God. And no matter what's going on, you're never alone. And it'll always, always, always work out for the good of those who love him. Listen, biblically speaking, can you outrun the grace of God? Biblically speaking? Yeah, we make little songs. That are not theological, that are not Bible based, eh? Does the Bible say that? You cannot outrun the grace of God? That it just goes on forever and ever? Live however you want, do whatever you want, and you'll be saved. It's giving me a good life. Yeah, Satan's out here giving people good lives, too. I want to recall, draw your attention, friends, that when Jesus was tempted in the wilderness, Satan's last request, right? And his last temptation was just bow down and worship me. Ultimately, he wanted worship. Before that, he goes, I will give, I will give you the world. I will give you riches, women, gold, silver, houses, land. You haven't physical, let me be clear here, friends, you being blessed monetarily, you being blessed physically. You being blessed with a job, a partner, a someone, that is no indication. That you are in the will of God more than the sinner. Because God makes the rain fall on the just and the unjust alike. So physical, temporary, temporal blessings are no indication of your internal destiny. And that you are approved of God. If that were true, then we could all say with Job's friends, Oh, Job, you must have done something wrong or something evil because all your temporal blessings have been taken away from you. You must be a sinner now. God did not love Job any less than he loves you and me. God desires that all men would repent. This is logic that is in not beating up on my sister here, but just this is, this is logic that is not based. Let's play, let's play the next video. We were together for 15 years. We were married for seven. It was a beautiful thing and we still had like, you know, the, the normal ups and downs, but I will say we didn't have a relationship where we argued all the time. We didn't have a relationship where we were dealing with infidelity or stuff like that. You know, during those times we didn't have that type of relationship. So, cause we were friends first, you know, so it was always like, that's my homie. It was just something. In me as a woman, I cannot explain it to where. After 15 years, 15 years, that's my homie. Does that bother anybody? That's my homie. I'm your husband. I'm your man, your father, defender, your baby. So I'm just, that's my homie. I mean, friend, I don't know, homie, just, I don't know. Maybe it's just me. It was like I was battling myself. You feel like I'm trying to do the right thing, but it's something that's pulling me away from doing this. But why would it pull me away from my husband? I'm battling in the midst of that with religion, like with the people telling me at church and what I'm getting spiritual advice from. And then I'm battling with it with myself. Like, why am I feeling this way? Hopefully the people at church are giving you Bible, the Word of God. The Bible is the Word of God, and the Word of God now is conflicting with your feelings. Ladies, please pay attention. Your feelings Versus the word of God. The word of God must win out every time. You cannot trust your feelings. The heart is desperately wicked. Who can know it? Feelings come and they go. You feel this way today, you'll feel that way tomorrow. She's literally saying, I'm at church. I'm, I'm, I, I, there's wisdom. In the multitude of counselors, I'm being instructed what to do, but mmm, but my feelings, mmm, disagreeing with the word of God, God have mercy. I'm talking about, I'm going to therapy for myself to figure out why am I feeling this way. Was the therapist Christian? That person needs to be fired. Crazy. Towards my husband. And the way I was feeling, it wasn't like I felt resentment towards him. It was almost like I was withheld a piece of me that I couldn't give him. I'm sitting on the couch and we had a small issue and that small issue was back that pattern. Now I, you didn't want the therapy for this. We'd have had talks for this. I done talked to you. What did you get from this one? After I see it to make sure you understand because I love to communicate and I'm sitting on the couch and I kid you not. God told me that is not true. Yo man, this dude talking about. Wow. What you saying wow for? Wow. God did not tell you to divorce your husband. Brother Gordon, how can you say that? Alright, let's get into the scriptures. Genesis 2 verse 24. We gonna get it right now, friend. Let's go. Genesis 2 verse 24. That is why a man leaves his father and his mother and is united to his wife and they will become one flesh. And for this cause shall a man leave his mother and his father and shall cleave his wife they shall become one flesh. Not two flesh, not two separate flesh. Can a man separate himself from himself? Yes or no? No, friends, a man cannot separate himself from himself. One flesh, one body, one person now. God hates divorce, friends. Malachi 2 verse 16, he hates it. The man who hates and divorces his wife, says the Lord, the God of Israel, does violence to the one who has, come on. God hates it. Isn't that something that God, oh yeah. So why would God ever come to you? Where, where there's been, let me, let me, let me, let me, listen. Mm, mm, let's keep going, cause some of y'all still not. Matthew 19, okay? Verses 3 through 9, friends. Pharisees asking Jesus, pressing Jesus about divorce and all that. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate. Friends, let no man put asunder. That's man or woman, human being. Let no human being, humanity, let no human being put asunder that which God has joined together. You've been joined together in holy matrimony before God, you simply become one flesh until death do us part. Neither party has the right before God, the authority to separate that which God has joined together. Period. Now, when God did allow or permit divorce, it was because of the hardness of people's hearts. What has been is that which has been. There's no, which that which shall be. There's no new thing under the sun. People's hearts are just as hard in the time of Moses as they are now. But it was men that were in a position to divorce. So men were coming to Moses. Oh, I want to leave my wife. My wife is no, I want to, Basically, I want to swap her out for a new model, whatever it be, and it troubled Moses so much, God said, Alright man, listen, Moses, I'm gonna give you a letter of divorcement, man. So we can, I have time to deal with this all day. I'm not gonna force you to be stuck with this person that you don't want to be with and that you're not gonna honor. Not God's ideal perfect will at all. Now there's one reason given in the Bible, like, clearly spoken by God himself, by Jesus Christ in the flesh on earth, friends. One reason for infidelity. That's the only reason. Anyone who divorces his wife except for sexual immorality and marries another woman commits adultery. There we go. If you have divorced your spouse, listen to me. If you have divorced your spouse and it was not for the cause of adultery, and I think it's one of the exceptions we're going to talk about. Adultery for sexual immorality and you marry someone else, you are now in an adulterous relationship with that new person you're with. God, this is, marriage is not a game, friends. Right? Marriage comes from God. So we listen to these Christians online, who are, who profess Christians online, don't know what they're talking about. Rejecting what the Bible says, and then bearing their testimonies, and we go, Wow. Wow. Wow. That's deep. God told you to get divorced? No, he didn't. No, he didn't. One reason, friends, sexual immorality, friends. When you get over to 1 Corinthians chapter 7, Paul goes into great detail about marriage and on this issue of being married to someone who's unbelieving. He said, listen, if you marry an unbelieving spouse, or if you were already married together, then you, you convert, and you become a believer, and they're a non believer, don't divorce them. But maybe through your prayers, your lifestyle, your actions, through your conversion, they also too will be converted. But if the unbelieving wants to leave you, let them leave. Okay, and this is the, and this is another place we say, okay, well, that means obviously the believer would be free to, right, move on because you've moved on and left them and abandoned them. Okay, that's the second reason now, all right? Third reason I'm gonna give is if you are getting abused, all right, mentally, physically, spiritually, you should separate first. This is my advice for you from biblical counsel. We know the Bible says, okay, only for this reason, I would say Separate first if there's no sexual immorality, because you need to be safe. God does not want you to just be beat to death. Have mercy. And give opportunity for that person to repent in turn, and stay separated until they make changes. And then, I'm sure, they will eventually step out on you, be with someone else. If they're not straight, psychotic, and you need to just flee for your life. Then, divorce them, move on. They'll divorce you, or the covenant will be broken. But even in that situation, even in an abusive situation, I would not say immediately divorce. Run to divorce, but definitely, immediately, as soon as possible, get yourself from under the same roof and from under the abusive strikes of that individual. Are you with me? Grace is not licensed to sin. I can't believe I have to even mention this. Grace is not licensed to sin. So, can a person outrun God's grace? Hmm. Can you outrun the grace of God? Romans 6 verses 1 and 2. What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we that are dead to sin live any longer therein? So let's say some people out here, you know how people do. They marry, remarry, marry, remarry, marry, remarry, and think, Oh, I'm not sinning because I'm, I'm, I'm doing under the gods of marriage. No, you're just cloaking fornication with a cloak of marriage. It's deceptive friends. And if you think you're gonna fool and trick God, you're on your fourth, fifth marriage, you need to cut it out, man. You need to go sit down somewhere. Pull your skirt down, pull your pants up. Cut it out. Repent. You probably need to stay alone now, out here wrecking all these lives, marrying and remarrying for no Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? God forbid. A lifestyle of sin, friends, a lifestyle of sin will cut you off from God. We already covered about our prayers being blocked. When we, when we don't want to hear the law, God will not hear our prayers. We don't wanna hear the law. Hebrew six verses four through six, for it is impossible for those who were once enlightened and have tasted of the heavenly gift and were, and were made partakers of the Holy Ghost and have tasted the good word of God and the powers of the world to come if they shall fall away, to renew them again until repentance, seeing they crucify to themselves instead of God of. Fresh and put him to an open shame. The continual rebellion, disobedience, stiff nakedness, the stiff neck, hard heart, I'm just going to keep plowing away in my sin, you not going to make it friends grace of God, Hebrews 10 verse 26 to 27 for if we sin willfully after that, we have received the knowledge of the truth. There remain of no more sacrifice for sins. No more grace, friends, but a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation which shall devour the adversaries. We can receive the grace of God in vain, 2 Corinthians 6 verse 1. We then are as workers together with him also plead with you that not to receive the grace of God in vain. Um, so let's say, let's say this is you, it's all hope lost and gone for you. Let's say you're this young lady, okay, and you've divorced your husband because you think God told you to do it. You're wrong. Unless there was abuse, unless they left you, unless there was sexual immorality. Okay, you're wrong. What do you do going forward? Technically, from Jesus lips, you should remain unmarried. Technically. At the highest level, like, well, because you're going to commit adultery if you marry someone else. But, what will happen most of the time in practice amongst Christians and believers, because of the grace of God, is that, well, if you're going to give it another try and do it right, Ask God for forgiveness, and you get near, you marry your second spouse, and you lock in and do it the way God told you to do it, and maybe there's some redemptive power in that. That's what normally happens in practice, but of course people abuse that. Marry, remarry, marry, remarry, to keep going on. It's not one mistake, it's seven mistakes. It's crazy, friends. I want to remind all of us, we will stand before God on Judgment Day. And all this, all this rational, rationalizing we're doing, Oh, yeah, my sins, no, no, that's not really a sin, it's, God's law is eternal, friends. Jesus did not die so we could keep sinning, sinning. You should call his name Yahshua, for he shall save his people from their sins, not in their sins. So, if I've been divorced, does God hate me? No, God does not hate you if you've been divorced. He wants you to do right, friends. He wants you to turn from your sins, right? Turn from your sins. First John 1 9, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Praise be to God. But our sins sometimes do come with consequences. God love David. When David repented, got himself right with God with a heart posture that was correct, God receives him back. But David still bore the consequences of his sins in his family, in his own life. So yeah, you may not be able to do some things now because you have children, a broken family. You may have to make some Sacrifices because of the bad decisions that you made looking to your feelings and your emotions friends Do not trust your feelings do not trust your emotions Trust the word of god and definitely do not trust people on social media who are making bad decisions saying they're christians Living outside the will of god outside of a plane thus save the lord and telling you somehow inadvertently or directly God told me it's okay to sin. God told me it's okay to get divorced. God told me it's okay Just no friends Go to the word. I charge you before the living God. Go to the Bible for yourself. And when you hear these thoughts, when you hear these ideas, go and open the pages of the word, get online, Google, do whatever you got to do and see if the Bible is saying or supporting any of this that these supposed Christians are telling you. I'm Gordon McGee. This is the No Pills Podcast, love fully scripted, and I'm signing off and I will catch you next week.