No Pillz with Gordon McGhee

Would You Date Someone With Tattoos?

• Gordon McGhee • Season 2 • Episode 85

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Episode 85 
In this episode of The No Pillz Podcast, host Gordon McGhee tackles a question circulating in the dating world: Are tattoos on a female a deal breaker? He explores how people feel about tattoos on men and women, citing studies that link tattoos to certain personality traits and mental health concerns, as well as a preference for novelty over long-term commitment. McGhee also looks at biblical passages, such as Leviticus 19:28, which states, "You shall not make any cuts on your body for the dead or tattoo yourselves". He discusses the concept of the body as a temple and the importance of glorifying God in all things. While acknowledging that a person with tattoos can be a delightful and restored individual, McGhee advises listeners to use wisdom and look for a partner whose heart is devoted to the Lord.

Welcome back to the No Pills Podcast with Gordon McGee! Today we are looking at tattoos and whether or not they are a red flag in relationships.  Is it a deal breaker? Let's get into it and discuss these tattoos on women.

- Tattoo and mental health 
- Tattoos and trauma
- Tattoos and personality disorders
- Tattoos and substance abuse
- Tattoos and promiscuity
- Tattoos and cheating
- Tattoos and feminism
- Body as a temple
- The Bible and tattoos

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Are women with tattoos serious about relationships? And do people with tats in general have mental issues? I know in 3, 2, 1. Welcome back, beloved. I'm Gordon McGee and this is The No Pills Podcast, love fully scripted, and today are tattoos on a female, a deal breaker. You heard me right? Tattoos on a female a deal breaker. We're tackling a question that's been circulating on social media in the dating space for quite some time. This is not a new idea, new topic. It kind of gets trendy. I think every so often. Are women with tattoos serious about relationships and do people with tats in general have mental issues? I know. I didn't ask the question, friends, that's the question that's being asked online. So before all the people with tacks come at me, come for me. Just sit back, listen up, hear me out. So we're gonna see first what the world is saying. Along the way, we will interweave some counsel from the owner's manual as we normally do over here at no PS as far as academic research goes. There were two studies I found, uh, online, uh, one from 1990 and a more recent one from 2015. That linked tattoos to certain personality traits, mental health concerns, a history of trauma, a, a preference for excitement and novelty over long-term commitment. I know not sounding good, it gets a little worse. Higher rates of antisocial personality disorder and substance abuse, a preference for excitement in addition to novelty, often associated with the sensation seeking. Personality trait and other personality traits, like a desire for new experiences. Sounds like you might be cheating more if you have tattoos. I'm just saying just, just not, not sounding good. France. And what about the amount of tattoos, right? A person has, I asked that question like, well, what if you have more tattoos like. So check this out. The presence of even a single tattoo has been linked to certain personality and psychological traits. The number of tattoos a person has appears to play a significant role based upon current studies, particularly in the context of trauma and more serious mental health concerns. The amount of ink friends can be seen as an indicator of a stronger. Drive for self-expression. A more pronounced history of trauma. Hmm. Or a higher degree of sensation seeking perhaps. Hear me out here, friends, hear me out. Listener, no Pills podcast gang. Hear me out here. Perhaps this is why the owner's manual states you shall not make any cuts on your body for the dead or tattoo yourselves. I am Yahweh, Leviticus 19 verse 28. Who would've thought so? The, the cutting and the marking of the body were often associated with idolatrous, um, mourning, rituals, and the worship of false gods during the days of Ancient Israel. If anyone is curious. Okay. Some of the feedback that I saw from everyday people online was interesting. Interesting. It, it, it varied. So I saw how females, you know, how, how do females feel about tats on men, right? One of the first things I ran into, the answer seems to be that a substantial number of women find tattoos on men attractive. You know, who you are ladies. You know who you are. Mm-hmm. Some of y'all like the tatted brothers. Y'all out here like, Hmm. The man has some tats. You know, y'all be into those neck tattoos and yeah, I see you. I see how you're moving out there. But it's not a universal preference. Attraction is, you know, influenced of course by a complex mix of factors. Friends, you know, including the woman's personal preferences, her age, cultural context, you know, how she grew up. In the church, outta the church and what the tattoo signals to her about the man's personality and suitability as a partner. How do males feel about tats on women? It varied. A significant portion no of men seem to find tattoos on women appealing. Uh, particularly in the context of casual encounters. You heard me write particularly in the area of casual encounters, but this attraction can be complex as well, right? And influenced by a variety of factors, including the man's age, right? The, the cultural context, uh, the type of tattoo it is. Check that out. The type of tattoo men, some didn't like certain type of tattoo, didn't look good. Placement I even saw right. Um, and whether he is seeking a short term or a long term partner translation, she's for the streets. She's for the streets, huh? If he thinks she's for the streets, it determines how he really cares about the tattoo. A worldly man will sleep with you. Let me, let me, let me wait. You, you may need it in subtitles. That means ladies, a worldly man will sleep with you, but potentially not marry you if you are tatted. Why you ask? Because he thinks you're for the streets. She belongs to the streets. I saw some men respond to pictures of tatted women, and when they were asked if they would date them, uh, some responded, I can't bring her home to mom. Fellas, let me say something to you, if you're gonna be that traditional, okay? And I I'm not mad at you for this. I, I'm, I'm not mad at you for this. But if you're gonna be that traditional, then stop having sex before marriage while you're at it. Stop doing that as well. Okay. Some dudes want zero tattoos on their girl, some, not too many. While others were like, your body, your choice. It's a canvas loaded up. Have at it. Okay. There was even a, a cool analogy that I ran into. Uh, you don't put a bumper sticker on a Bentley. Some men and women find tattoos on females to be masculine. I think this was probably. One of the, a area that I think is a lot more practical for people is a lot more relationship to why I think some people are, or a good number of people are adverse or kind of turned off by tattoos on females just because it, it's masculine, right? Like while they accept it on a male, some females, they reject it on females themselves because they don't want the tax. They don't wanna look masculine. And men had kind had the same response. Like, yeah, I don't care if I'm tatted up, but I don't want my girl to be tatted up because I don't want her to look like me. I, I want her to be feminine. Okay. So it definitely boils down to preference online among the common folks. Definitely a thing of preference, but what about the principle of your body is a temple, or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit within you? Mm whom you have from God. You are not your own for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. One Corinthians six verses 19 and 20. This is a powerful friends in essential truth. Our bodies are not our own. They belong to God. If you're married, then they belong to your spouse. We are called to be good stewards of them and not to deface them. Makes sense, right? Why would you deface the temple of the Holy Ghost believers? And if you're a believer, should ask themselves, does this glorify God? Everything we do, we should ask ourselves that question. Is it in accordance with his commandments? Am I walking in the spirit or in the flesh? Am I being conformed to the world or to Christ? Romans 12, verse two says, do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind. Come on that. By testing, you may discern. Mm-hmm. What is the will of God? What is good and acceptable and perfect. Fellas, I'm going to drop something heavy on you. Yes. The outside appearance is an index to the heart. I said it, I'm standing on it. It's true in like manner. Also, the women adorn themselves in modest apparel with shame, fatness and sobriety, not with broiled hair or gold or pearls or costly array. That's one Timothy two verse nine. Yes. When the exterior is hung with needless things, it plainly shows us. That the love for those things are in the heart of that person. Fellas, gentlemen, ladies, like they're concerned with that. So much so that they sought to put it on their body. It means something to them. There's some type of connection. Their thoughts, their heart is there, right? Amen. I mean, sometimes people just put things on and go outside, but when we're talking about tattoos and jewelry and necklaces, and you know, sometimes people have dead relatives around their neck, dead relatives tatted in their flesh, even though Leviticus 19 says not to do that, but nevertheless, it means something to them Now. I wanna be balanced here. Okay? Outward modesty does not guarantee inward purity. Yes, I said it outward. Modesty does not guarantee inward purity. Some modest people are terrible on the inside. You know who you are, okay? This means we need to look beyond the surface as well. Then gentlemen. So we need to see the person's character, their intentions, and their relationship with God. Isn't that right? Ladies? In one Samuel 16, verse seven. Remember when Sammy was looking for a new king? The the Lord told him, do not look on his appearance. Come on, or on the the height of his stature. Ladies, that's for you. Do not look on his appearance or the height, how tall he is, the height of his stature. I have rejected him, says, God, some of the men that ladies you are selecting because they're so tall and handsome, God has rejected y'all about to get me preaching on here. Whoa. Watch out. Come on. For the Lord, sees not as man sees, man looks on the outward appearance. Mm. But the Lord looks on the heart. Mm. And Jesus himself, friends address this in John seven, verse 24 when he says, do not judge by appearance but judge with right judgment. Now the context of John seven, verse 24 is when Jesus is telling his accusers that, uh, they are making a superficial right, an unfair judgment upon him, they are judging him based on the outward appearance of his actions. Uh, that he seemed to be working on the Sabbath without considering the righteous, merciful, and life-giving nature of what he had done. Hmm. So to answer our initial question, our women with tattoos serious about relationships or long-term relationships, and do people with tats have mental issues? Answer. Maybe, maybe not. I know my research is telling me tattoos can definitely be a warning sign that you don't want to just look over. So I'm just saying if you meet somebody with tattoos, you, you may wanna pop the hood, you know what I mean? And be a little bit more cautious. Looking for the, how much trauma has gone on in the person's life? Where are they at? Like spiritually, like just. You should do this with all people, anybody that you're courting but you, you might wanna just do a little CL closer look just to make sure you wanna be safe now for everyone who has tattoos mm-hmm. And has given their lives to Jesus, especially the women I'm talking to right now. And you were saying, brother Gordon, brother G, what am I supposed to do? Why are you judging me, brother? Why I don't even like this podcast. What's going on this episode? I'm gonna give it a thumbs down. Lemme tell you. Lemme say, lemme tell something. Lemme talk to y'all real fast. Some of y'all be disliking my podcast. Why? You, you, you're free to do whatever you want, but you really giving me a thumbs down. You watched a whole thing and just gave me a thumbs down. There was nothing you could glean from it, my Lord. So before you gimme the thumbs down, let me just say this, okay. First thing, don't get more tattoos. Okay? That's the first thing you wanna do. Secondly, I know a Christian woman or two that had gotten tattoos in the past and they are fit, feminine, friendly, lovely. They love Jesus. They exude kindness and gentleness and meekness and love, and they are delightful. Young ladies who are married have children and they've gone on to serve God. Amen. So don't be tripping. Just we are just doing a sanity check here, friends. Alright? You can still be a delightful person. Even with past traumas and everything like that, we serve a God who restores and renews. Alright? You, you can't become a virgin again if you've lost that. But nevertheless, we serve a God who restores and renews. Lastly, uh, don't forget, tattoos have become trendy. So you probably have one because you followed the crowd. All right? So that means if you're a younger generation, you in your twenties, you're probably gonna run into somebody with a tattoo, even in the church circles. Okay? Just gonna keep it real with you. Not Dar, not guaranteed, but maybe a little bit more likely, especially here in North America. Okay? People are in transition. Don't forget this, friends, they change with God. Often over time and with life experience, people go through transformation. That's what it takes. Also, you don't know what you don't know, so the outward appearance may not tell the whole story is what I'm saying. Let us have grace. Let us not be foolish. Let us not overlook maybe some indicators, but let us have grace. All men have fallen short of the glory of God. Amen. What? What is worse than a tattoo? An ugly, terrible tattoo. All tatted up is a ugly personality, a ugly character. So while the outward may not tell the whole story, the fruit of the spirit does tell the whole story. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness. Come on, goodness, faithfulness and self-control. Tell the whole story. You should be looking for a person with those character traits. Let's pray for wisdom in our relationships, right? And as we seek for a partner whose heart is devoted to the Lord and wants to glorify God and whatsoever they do, and do all to the glory of God from how they behave, how they talk, how they eat, how they dress, how they treat other people. Amen. Friends, I'm Gordon McGee and this is The No Pills Podcast. Love fully scripted, and I'm signing off, and I will catch you next week.