10. Be TRU

Sometimes life be lifin' and we don't have a choice in whether or not certain tasks need doing.  Whether or not strong emotions are involved, whether or not this has to do with a job you hate or just chores around the house, we all have to occasionally navigate the need to just get a job done.

In this episode, Jason discusses his take on how we do the hard things in life, and even why.  

Chapters

• 0:08 Discovering the True You Through Action
• 19:53 Manifesting Truth Through Thoughts and Words

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:08

you. Greetings, hi and hello everyone. My name is jason pizzi flair, I'm a speaker, I'm a podcaster and my life's work is centered around allowing the world to meet the true you, by helping you think, speak and eventually live better than yesterday. We do this, first, by establishing a good reason why, a strong and powerful motivation to keep going when the going gets rough. Second, we need awareness and acknowledgement of what's holding us back. And, third, we need scalable steps forward as a reliable bridge between who we are right now and who we need to be tomorrow and the day after that, and the day after that and the day after that. This, my friends, is how you go from stuck to thinking as, speaking as and living as, the true you. The true you. Be true, my friends. Be true.

Speaker 1: 1:13

Now, in the context of today's episode, the term be true is referring to your source or your inspiration, your why, when you are doing something that needs to get done. Emotions aside, comfort aside, convenience, not withholding, being true in the doing of a task involves what you are pulling from as your reason why. Now, today, I want to reference three difficulty levels that I've kind of labeled for your convenience, as far as places where you can draw your passion or your energy from, in doing things that need to get done, because we live in a world where we are constantly faced with decisions or tasks that we may not always find savory or favorable or like doing, but sometimes they need to get done anyway. Hashtag discipline it is a word that comes up very often when it comes to doing something that you don't feel like doing. So let's hit these three difficulty levels and make this a nice short and sweet but powerful episode. Difficulty level number one, which is the easiest it is doing something that you already love to do If it happens to be a hobby of yours or connected to a hobby of yours or just one of your talents that when you are engaged in that activity, the world just seems right.

Speaker 1: 2:50

Like, for example, one of my go-to activities is speaking. It's what I'm doing right now. I've got no script in front of me, there's no person holding a gun to onto my head saying talk, my man, talk. I'm just out here speaking because I enjoy to speak. I am not just talking just for the sake of talking. I enjoy speaking, and this is kind of a hint towards difficulties level two and three, but I'll flesh that out a little bit later on. I just enjoy speaking because of the results, and by results I mean the impact, the impact that it has on the people that hear what I have to say, and not just because I'm speaking gibberish, but because I'm sharing with them some values or some principles or some tools or some cheat codes, essentially, that make their lives technically kind of sort of easier.

Speaker 1: 3:53

I don't really like that. It makes their lives a little simpler. I don't like to use the. I don't like to say that it makes it easier, because there's still difficulty, there's still trial and and tribulation that you have to go through, and it's it's difficult. So if something's difficult, it can't be easy.

Speaker 1: 4:14

I believe a lot of people confuse easy and simple, simple. So that's. It's just one of my quirks, guys. So you're learning about me in this episode. I don't like to confuse easy and simple. What I am sharing with you, what I like to share with people that I'm so passionate about, that makes speaking relatively an easy thing for me, is that what I share helps to make people's lives simpler. It helps to brush away the confusion, and so that drives me, that makes it easy for me to do public speaking or simpler for me to do public speaking. It's something that I don't have to draw a whole ton of willpower for. So that's a clear example.

Speaker 1: 5:04

An example that you might be able to relate to is anybody who's an artist, as in painting or drawing. If somebody comes up and tells you hey, can you get these five drawings to me by tomorrow, and that's a part of the work that you do, or that's the career that you're in, depending on the complexity of the request you're in, depending on the complexity of the request, you're not going to be racking your brain and pulling your hair out because you have to do all these drawings. It's more of a okay, it's kind of difficult, but you get to. You get to just get paid to draw, and so that makes it a lot easier than for someone who is, let's say, not passionate about drawing. Okay, hopefully that makes sense.

Speaker 1: 5:51

Level two the difficulty is up now. This is not something you automatically enjoy doing, but, bear in mind, the whole theme of be true means that it has to get done anyway. Therefore, you got to do it way. Therefore, you got to do it. So, level two we dial it back to doing it for someone or for people that you love, whether they love you back or not. And the reason why I bring that up is because you can do it for friends and family members, significant others, whatever, and those individuals can love you back, which makes the doing of it easier or nicer because of the appreciation and the juice that that fuels you up with.

Speaker 1: 6:39

But let's just say you are a very service oriented person. That's one of your love languages acts of service. You can be a barista and doing it for your customers that you love. You love your customers. You may not know every single one of their names, you may only see them one time in your whole career, but you love people, you love connecting with people, you love serving people. Therefore, your love for those people make your job as a barista that needs to get done, or you paying the bills as a barista, simpler, but it also technically makes it easier than for someone who does not love people. It feels weird to say that, but if you are someone that doesn't draw passion from just serving any and anyone and for you you prefer to also get the words of affirmation portion of it, a little quid pro quo, if you will, you scratch my back, I scratch yours Then that second level isn't necessarily automatically easy for you either, which means we come down to level three, and that is the hardest level.

Speaker 1: 7:57

Guys, we got level one. You're doing something, you're being true in something that you're already passionate about doing. You already enjoy this activity. You love getting up to do it super easy, not Not so easy, but still in the middle ground of you know, difficulty is doing something that has to be done anyway, but it's for someone or for people that you love, or for people that you care about. That is what's driving you to do the hard thing anyway. Level three, to wrap it all up and this is also the one that I struggled the most with, which is why I put it at the top as far as difficulty it is doing something that needs to get done anyway because you love yourself. That needs to get done anyway because you love yourself. Now, this is where I lose about three quarters of this bandwagon, if you were even on it in the first place.

Speaker 1: 9:01

Guys, I am talking about that healthy self-love, not a self-infatuation or a self-important image. But you care about your well-being, you care about your physical health, you care about your emotional health, you care about your spiritual health and therefore you will do difficult things that you don't feel like doing or that you don't really want to do. Automatically. Anyway, you will be true anyway in those areas because you love yourself. That automatically means that if you aren't true in those areas, if you aren't being true in those activities that need to get done anyway for your health, whether it's physical, emotional or spiritual, whatever if you aren't doing those things, then that technically translates to you don't love yourself enough. That may be difficult to hear, but if you disagree, show me how it makes sense, because, as I'm sitting here right now recording this, it doesn't make sense to me If an act of love to my spouse by the way, my beautiful wife Hannah, spouse, by the way, my, my beautiful wife Hannah if an act of love to her is making sure that the food that I prepare for her is, is healthy, is well balanced, doesn't contain any sort of, you know, toxic preservatives or um overly saturated with genetically modified chemicals.

Speaker 1: 10:50

If an act of love to her physical health is my expression of care in the food that I provide her and the work that that takes doing that work anyway, because it needs to get done, because I love her. That's level two, then, what about the food that I eat? And it's not. It doesn't just have to do with Hannah's preferences, it has to do with what her body needs to be healthy, to be truly healthy, in this day and age of the food industry. So if, if that is just generally for her health, because I love her, therefore I care about her health, if I don't care about my health and what I eat at all, I'm not saying you can't have, you know, a cheat day or whatever you want to call it, or eat something that's it. Well, can I truly convince you, listening right now, that I love myself? I submit to you that I cannot. And for those of you that said, yes, you are in denial, do not lie to yourself. You can't trick me, because I know the truth in this situation, if I'm actively making myself sick, I do not love myself. Now, I do not know why I'm on this tangent of food, but maybe one or two of you needed to hear this. Either way, I think I made my point.

Speaker 1: 12:33

Difficulty, level one of being true, and again, this has to do with doing things that need to get done just because they need to get done right. Level one it's doing things that you're already passionate about. Level two it's doing things because you are passionate about the people. That it's for it's because you love and care the people, that it's for people. That it's for it's because you love and care the people that it's for Difficulty. Level three, the hardest one of them all doing things that need to get done just because they need to get done, because you love yourself, because you are passionate about taking care of your body or your soul or your mind.

Speaker 1: 13:13

I hope I broke that down in a very easily digestible way for you. I do not have a quote yet to tie this all together by some famous person that some of you may or may not respect and therefore make this an easier pill to swallow by listening to a voice that is relatable to you. Your pill to swallow by listening to a voice that is relatable to you. So let me pause the recording right now and I'm gonna go google something inspirational to throw at you as we close today's episode. Be right back, excuse me, and I'm back. I found two bangers for you guys. Number one is from super recognizable celebrity name, duanene Johnson.

Speaker 1: 13:58

He says success isn't about greatness, it's about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success, greatness will come. Now the next quote is by Helen Keller. Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet is by Helen Keller. Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. So the first quote lets us know that it's not about being able to just get up and do the hard thing, he says. Success isn't about greatness, it's not about looking good while doing the thing that you're doing, or making it quote unquote look easy. It's about just doing it anyway. Hence it's about consistency. He says consistent hard work leads to success and, of course, depending on what you are doing and how long you're doing it. For greatness will come. In Helen Keller's quote she says Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. You don't really grow by not pushing up against anything. So in being true, she says, only through experience of trial and suffering, not ease and more ease, just trial and suffering Can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. Now those are great for just inspiring us to not give up or to keep going or to not be blinded by a false perception of what true success looks like. But it doesn't.

Speaker 1: 16:03

None of those quotes, in my opinion, make the doing of the hard thing any easier to do, and, quite frankly, not many things will. I hate to break it to you, but that is just a fact. There is one way, though, that I personally believe you can kind of cheat the system, if I may use that term. It's a way to kind of how do I put this? I'm trying to find the words as I'm thinking of it, it's a way to kind of trick your brain or Swap labels on certain things. Essentially, let me just tell you what it is, and then you can figure out whether or not it makes it easier or it just makes it simpler Still hard, but simpler. Whatever, I think personally, it technically makes things a little easier, depending on your emotional state. But here we go.

Speaker 1: 17:07

I think when you are doing something that you really don't want to do, obviously level one is not really going to apply here. You're doing it because you're doing something that you are passionate about or that you already love doing. You don't really need to find motivation or a source of inspiration there. Now, with anything that you are doing that does not automatically involve other people, naturally you are left with level three. That's the natural thing that you are left with. Do it yourself. You know what's the benefit for me.

Speaker 1: 17:53

But even if you're not at the place of quote-unquote loving yourself enough to want to do that hard thing, then guess what? Maybe you can love. No, you can love, no, you can. If not, use your, if not Bruh words. If not using your own love for yourself, you can borrow from level two and use other people's love for you. Use someone that you know cares about you, that cares about your health, that cares about your safety, that cares about your success. Use that person that cares about you, that you also care about, and use that as the fuel for why you will not let yourself down, or you will not let yourself fall short, or you will not give yourself an excuse, because that would disappoint this person that you're thinking about, that loves you, that cares about you, and, by yourself. A way to be true, anyway, is to use someone else's standard for you that you respect, that you care about, whose opinion you listen to. If nothing else, trust me, you will have to get to the place at some point where you're doing things because you love yourself enough. That's just more healthy, all right. But until then, a way for you to be true is to borrow someone else's love for you, even if you don't believe in yourself, believe in someone else's belief in you. Take that chance, take that leap.

Speaker 1: 19:53

And it all starts in your mind. That's when you start thinking as but then a great way to apply it is to start speaking it out. That's when you start speaking as and when it manifests in your mind and then through your mouth and through what you say. It then translates to things, to things that you do, which is living as the true you. So, my friends, my family, fellow members of the jury, can we all just be true today? Life is full of just hard stuff. Let's do our best. Okay, we don't have to be perfect, but today give it your best and be true. Thanks for listening.