24. Fresh Perspective

Sometimes life be life-ing. Will you just sit around and complain about it? Or will you maybe shuffle around, lean right or left, and do what you can to gain a "fresh perspective"? Sometimes, that's all it takes for worlds to be transformed.

Chapters

• 0:08 The Power of Fresh Perspective
• 12:03 Embrace Fresh Starts Daily

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:08

you. Greetings, hi and hello everyone. My name is jason pizzi flair. I'm a speaker, I'm a podcaster and my life's work is centered around allowing the world to meet the true you by helping you think, speak and eventually live better than yesterday. We do this, first, by establishing a good reason why, a strong and powerful motivation to keep going when the going gets rough. Second, we need awareness and acknowledgement of what's holding us back. And third, we need scalable steps forward as a reliable bridge between who we are right now and who we need to be tomorrow and the day after that, and the day after that and the day after that. This, my friends, is how you go from stuck to thinking as, speaking as and living as, the true you, the True you. Greetings, hi and hello everyone. Gentlemen, gentle, ladies, boys and girls around the world, my friends and family in town and out. Thank you so very much for joining me on yet another episode of the True you podcast. My name is Jason and I would like to take these very short next few minutes to simply lay upon your bosom, your open heart, thine chest, these humble few nuggets that I've been kind of ruminating on lately, especially today being Sunday, where I actually used it in a speech that I performed. Well, did I use it? I at least planned to use it. I don't think I ended up actually using it, but it laid the groundwork for what my speech actually was about, which is the topic of gaining, or the power of fresh perspective.

Speaker 1: 2:16

How oftentimes we feel stuck. Have you ever felt stuck in a situation, whether because of your own sticky bad habits or some sticky slash, unsavory persons that refuse to let you breathe? You know people that you, for some reason, can't seem to shake. Maybe it's co-workers, maybe it's family members, or maybe it's really clingy friends. Whatever it is, it might be a person. What, if it's your actual job not necessarily the people, but the thing that you do that you just feel like it's a dead end, like there's no progress to it there, there's no higher level for you to reach, there's no fulfillment right, it just feels stagnant. Maybe it's that or maybe it's. You know your romantic relationship. It feels like it's dead or it feels like it's actively dying. Do you just succumb to that? Do you just give up at that point? Or maybe is it possible that all you need is a fresh perspective?

Speaker 1: 3:30

Here are three things that I mentioned during my speech today, in performing my speech earlier with two of my fellow speakers, martin and Dupre In my speech I spoke about a fresh perspective and I use these three keys, keys which I'm going to share with you right now and then, at the end, I'm going to bring in two quotes that really inspire that. The three keys are this are these? Firstly, a fresh perspective demands humility, and here's why, in any time that you are seeking a fresh perspective or you get to the place where you realize you need a fresh perspective, guess what is the first and biggest thing? That you are admitting that you don't know everything, that you don't have the answers for this particular situation, and that's okay. But bear in mind, before you can ever even entertain the idea of a different way of looking at things or a fresh perspective, you must first come to terms with the fact that you don't have the answers yet. Enter humility.

Speaker 1: 4:41

The second thing a fresh perspective brings about disruption. Raise your hand or, you know, just give me a nod if you've ever been in a situation where you've either said or heard it said that, quote, unquote this is the way we've always done things, or this is the traditional way of doing it, or we've always done that. As simple as that. If you ever said it or if you've ever heard it, just nod along with me for a quick second, because that is called a quote unquote status quo. And when you need change in an organization or in a family or in a relationship, what you don't want more of is the status quo. What you don't want more of is the same old, same old. What you need at that point is disruption.

Speaker 1: 5:40

Disruption isn't always negative. It has a negative connotation socially. But to disrupt something is to simply change its state. Anytime you wake up out of bed, anytime you get up from sitting down for a long time, you are disrupting the state of rest or repose that your body has entered into. That's all it is. It's a change from one state to another, a disruption. You're changing what is turning it into what could be.

Speaker 1: 6:13

So a fresh perspective secondarily brings about disruption. And last point, most importantly, this is what everybody really cares about. Most importantly, this is what everybody really cares about. A fresh perspective is almost always going to be a prerequisite for true breakthrough. Let me break that down as simply as possible. As simply as possible Think about any time that anyone of any note, has ever done anything that truly matters for our world or for humanity, or for themselves or their families. Look through the timeline that led up to that big moment, that big decision, that big sacrifice. You will almost always be able to point to an instance in which they gained a fresh perspective.

Speaker 1: 7:10

Let me give you a clear example, and I'm pretty sure I've used this story before on this podcast, but I'll use it again because it's such a great one 1954 Olympics, roger Bannister. I'm pretty sure it's the 1954 Olympics, but it's either the early to mid 1950s. Roger Bannister was an Englishman, a young doctor in training, around 25, I think. At the time. He is the first man to break the four minute mile barrier. And shortly after he broke that record what was it? 40 something? Days afterwards other people were breaking that record, broke his record. His record was three minutes, 59, 50 and 59 point. Uh point, was it four or six point? Yeah, there we go. 0.4, I think it was three minutes and 59.4 seconds. So 0.6 milliseconds he went. He broke the barrier by 0.6 milliseconds. Think about that. And nowadays we've got high schoolers breaking that record like it's nothing. It's an, it's a, it's a has-been record. So what happened? Was there a genetic mutation that happened in roger bannister's era, that where humans suddenly were able to just run faster? No, all it took was just a daring young man like himself to sit down with himself.

Speaker 1: 8:39

Not necessarily it doesn't have to be with a bunch of people or with some huge focus group, it's just. You just have to ask yourself maybe I can do this Instead of what if I fail? Maybe what if I mess up? What if they judge me? Who cares? If you're here to make an impact, if you're here to change your life, if you're here to break out of the muck that you're stuck in, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. Look at yourself and ask yourself some more encouraging questions like what if I do make it? What if I do succeed? What if I do, you know, knock this out of the park? What's that going to feel like? And start to dream. Because it's those kinds of questions, it's those kinds of thoughts that allowed him to open the floodgates for everyone after him who broke that milestone, and that's all.

Speaker 1: 9:47

It took A fresh perspective. His fresh perspective paved the way for a breakthrough in athletics and Olympic history. No one had ever done it before him, at least not recorded before his time, before his instance of a fresh perspective. Think about any other invention made. Think about any other crazy advancement either in science or in psychology, or in theology or any other ologies. What's, what's a eureka moment? What is an epiphany, if not someone suddenly gaining or unlocking a fresh perspective?

Speaker 1: 10:40

So let me run through the three points one more time and we'll wrap it up with the two quotes. Point number one a fresh perspective demands humility, because you are admitting that you don't have all the answers. Number two a fresh perspective brings about disruption. So be ready for that. What I mean by that is, sometimes other people may not be so open to a fresh perspective because it is disruptive. Disruption itself is not negative, but depending on someone else's quote-unquote perspective, they may think that this situation being changed to something else is too uncomfortable and dipping far too deeply into the unknown, that they do not want it and therefore it becomes a negative thing for them and therefore you become an enemy to them. So be mindful of people not being as welcome to a fresh perspective because of number two it brings about disruption. But guess what? Number three, which is breakthrough, cannot happen without the prerequisite of a fresh perspective that brings about disruption of the status quo that kept things the same way they've always been anyway. So again, number three any and all breakthrough are almost always dependent on someone's fresh perspective.

Speaker 1: 12:03

Okay, I hope I've really clarified that for you and solidified that in your mind, because there is almost no other way that you can actually get your life to the place that you want it to be. I can yip and yap all day long, you know, till I turn. I don't know if I can ever turn blue in the face. I might turn like a shade of purple, but I doubt actively blue. Anyway, I digress. I can talk all I want, but if you are, if you yourself are unable to see things not just things but if you yourself are unable to see yourself differently, then, yeah, your life is going nowhere.

Speaker 1: 12:47

Take it from me it's true, and that's not a rude thing to say, this is me trying to be real with you and trying my best if you're sleeping right now, proverbially to wake you up and to let you know that the control over where your life will eventually end up is not in someone else's hands. They may play roles, they may be factors, and somebody else may be controlling your nine to five, or somebody else may be controlling your curfew or whatever, or wherever it is. Other people will have influence over your life to a certain extent, yes, but you, within yourself, you decide whether or not you matter. You decide whether or not your voice matters. Other people can deny you some time. Other people can deny you attention or deny you validation. Other people can deny you attention or deny you validation, but if you decide, I'm actually worthwhile. If you decide, my effort means something. If you decide, my dreams can possibly come true. No one can stop you forever.

Speaker 1: 14:15

So, ending with the two quotes, prior Secretary of State I think he was Colin Powell said this general Colin Powell, always focus on the front windshield and not the rear view mirror. I think that's nice short and sweet, because we all know that. Well, there's this interesting phenomenon where, as you are driving, if you're looking, if you turn your head left, you tend to steer your vehicle towards the left. If you look right, you tend to favor steering right, even though you're not intending to. And why is that? It is because our bodies or our minds tend to follow the direction of our focus, and that's a very real thing in psychology as well. I do not know the actual psychological or psychiatric term, if there is such a thing, but I'm pretty sure there is, but nonetheless it is true.

Speaker 1: 15:09

This truth is also replicated in the analogy of uh or this, the metaphor of the, the dark wolf and the wolf of darkness and the wolf of light, or the the moon wolf or the sun wolf, I can't remember which culture really makes use of this actual example. So forgive me, but it talks about the wolves themselves don't grow by themselves. They grow and get bigger based off of how much you feed them. So if there's a wolf of life, as an example, the words you speak, if they positive, if they are life giving, if they are life bringing and fostering a spirit of embracing your potential and, you know, seeking success, not just you know you're not out here ignoring the bad stuff, you acknowledge the bad stuff but you're not just dwelling on it Then that wolf is going to live and the wolf of death, essentially, is going to be malnourished and be weak and less able to overtake you with its own negative thoughts. Conversely, if all you're thinking about, or the mostly thinking about, if what you're mostly thinking about is how things are bad, how people hate you or how you're weak, or how your voice doesn't matter. Guess which wolf you're feeding? It's the one of death. And so which one will be stronger and more readily able to overpower you in a moment of your own of weakness, of your own will? It's that one. So again he says always focus on the front windshield and not the rear view mirror. Remember, guys, the only time you're looking into the rear view, rear view mirror actively is when you need to turn around and go back. So if you're not trying to reverse and correct a mistake, what you should always be doing is focusing on what's ahead, not on what's behind you. So bear that in mind. Next and final quote was by Kristen Armstrong. She says oh, she's an Olympic cyclist, by the way.

Speaker 1: 17:24

I love big fresh starts, the clean slates like birthdays and new years, but I also really like the idea that we can get up every morning and start over. I think that's beautiful because it's it's got nothing to do with the sometimes intimidating you know, uh, huge, momentous, new horizon type moments. It doesn't always have to be a birthday or a new year or some major resolution or event sometimes, sometimes not all the time, but sometimes it is good to just relish and be grateful and sit down and acknowledge the fact that, hey, I'm going to sleep tonight and tomorrow I get to just start over and try to be better than I was today, and I can take comfort in the fact that I will do at least one thing tomorrow that I didn't do today and be proud of that. Start from there, guys. Start from the little things and guess what? That is what will grow into the big. I hope this has been able to foster within you something akin to a fresh perspective. Akin to a fresh perspective.

Speaker 1: 18:50

My name is jason. Thank you for joining me on the tree podcast and I hope to see you or well, I hope for you to hear me next week. All right, uh, I know this wasn't friday, but I'm doing my best and trying to post every week at the very least. So here's to a more consistent schedule in the future, but right now I'm just trying to make sure that I just post something and that it be something of value and not just filler. So, ideally well, not ideally I hope this was valuable to you. I know it was valuable to me as an experience and really fun to talk about and whatnot, and I pray that you would take this and share it with somebody else that needs to hear this message as well. Okay, have a good week and I'll see you guys next time. You get what I mean. Thanks, fox.