25. Try Again

Life knocks us down all the time. We go through so many different situations where we wonder if thing really had to be as bad as they are.  Whether the severity is of your own doing or not, we can all relate to things being tough and going through struggle. Are you open to some encouragement on that?

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Speaker 1: 0:08

you. Greetings, hi and hello everyone. My name is jason pizzi flair. I'm a speaker, I'm a podcaster and my life's work is centered around allowing the world to meet the true you, by helping you think, speak and eventually live better than yesterday. We do this, first, by establishing a good reason why, a strong and powerful motivation to keep going when the going gets rough. Second, we need awareness and acknowledgement of what's holding us back. And, third, we need scalable steps forward as a reliable bridge between who we are right now and who we need to be tomorrow and the day after that, and the day after that and the day after that. This, my friends, is how you go from stuck to thinking as, speaking as and living as the true you, the True you. Well, do I, I think.

Speaker 1: 1:26

I have a habit of saying I'm gonna keep it nice and simple, or short and simple, or whatever. That whatever and simple, but it doesn't always turn out to be short or sometimes even simple, so this time I'm just gonna keep it real. I'm just going to tell you what is on my mind, and what's on my mind right now is simply encouragement. So I want to speak directly to those of you that you know you've got something to do and you don't want to do it, you don't feel like doing it, or you failed at a task and you dread having to face it again, if you know you have to face it again, but you dread the? E having to face it again. You know you have to face it again, but you dread the having to face it again. I'm talking to y'all those of us that are just tired of, you know, coming up short. You know that you're either going to have to try again or just continue on, knowing that you've accepted defeat in this particular area that you shouldn't have backed down from. Don't get me wrong. There are some places where we're just not meant to be there, you know, where success just isn't written in the stars, proverbially, for us in a particular industry or career, and that's just not what we're called to. Therefore, walking away from those is good. Once you know that that is the case, you know. But if you haven't heard the word from God to say go somewhere else, and this is the last place he told you to be, then guess what we need to do, my friends. We need to stay, we need staying power, and so I want to just encourage those of you that are kind of struggling with staying power right now with yes, you guessed it some more quotes, because I just think it's really cool that other people, whether dead or alive, have had these similar thoughts and in moments of inspiration or moments of difficulty, or moments of triumph or ups and downs whatever you find these quotes in various situations. But all those different people have the kinds of thoughts and say the kinds of words that you and I today really need to hear in order to get that boost that we're looking for. So here goes.

Speaker 1: 3:48

Duke Ellington said gray skies are just clouds passing over, and what I want to share with you from that, my own gleanings from that, is we call it gray skies, but it's not really the sky itself that's gray. We call it a a bad day, but it's not really the day itself that's bad. We call it a sad life, but it's not really the life itself that's sad. There are different moments, different events, even different people that come and go, different thoughts that come and go and, depending on the shade they bear, we feel the need to just call the whole sky that Don't get me wrong. Some people just simply use it, much like myself just purely descriptively Just oh, gray skies, and you don't think a second thought about it. But I'm not talking to y'all. I'm talking to those of you that see gray skies, call it gray skies and you are attributing gray skies to the dark mood that you're currently undergoing, or that you're currently undergoing or that you're currently feeling. I would encourage you to view it as simply clouds passing over, meaning there will come a time where they won't be there anymore. I'm not saying walk around, you know, ignoring the sky and saying, oh, it's not gray skies, it's not gray skies, I'm not sad, I'm not sad, I'm not hurting. No, don't be in denial, but just don't stop at saying it's just grace guys. Okay, that's my recommendation. Anyway, moving on, here's a name you've heard before, in case you haven't heard, of Duke Ellington.

Speaker 1: 5:43

Dr Martin Luther King Jr said we must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope. Let me read that again we must accept finite disappointment, and he says that because life is going to give you many, many, many, many finite disappointments. It's going to give you many disappointments, but it's up to you to determine and to realize and to come upon the epiphany, you know, and to decide that these disappointments, each and every disappointment that life gives you is finite. That bad breakup can be kept or held in the period of time that it happened. It does not have to bleed into every single year of your life thereafter you failing the test to get into the school that you really, really wanted to, or that every other family member of yours has gone before and your siblings have made it but you didn't.

Speaker 1: 6:51

That is a finite disappointment. Does it hurt? Yes, should you mourn that? Yes, properly, I think you know, because what you don't mourn, you keep, you carry with you, and you don't want to carry with you a bunch of disappointment, and you don't want to carry with you a bunch of disappointment. Now, if you take that and you transform that into hey, because of this, I want to make sure that I give my absolute best in every sort of academic venture I take, you know and you carry that memory as fuel, sure, if you're going to turn into a positive thing, by all means knock yourself out. But if it's just going to be in the form of I failed, I messed up, I suck at this, I suck at that, then you're making the disappointment infinite. And, as Martin Luther King said, we want to make the hope infinite, not the disappointment, and believe you me, it is a choice.

Speaker 1: 7:53

Let's wrap it up with two more quotes. One is William Samuel Johnson. He says he knows not his own strength who hath not met adversity. I think that's pretty darn straightforward. It basically means you really don't know what you're capable of until you've seen some stuff. You really don't know how strong or weak you are until you've been through a storm or two, because then those will actually test you.

Speaker 1: 8:29

And then it is in the testing that we discover our limits and also within those very same tests that we can discover sometimes how, non, um, uh, dang, what's the word I'm looking for? Give me a second. How, um, ah, those limits are not everything, is what I'm trying to say. He, somebody listening right now, is thinking of the word and I hope I. I wish I could think of it myself, but it's not uh, it's not the end. All be all those limits right, because you can break them, you can go past them. You can discover that, hey, up to this point I can handle it, but past this point I can't do that.

Speaker 1: 9:17

But then, after a couple different times of getting close to that point, you find that you actually have capacity for a little more. This is made most evident in the gym or in any sort of physical sport or physical exertion. Or, you know, down to a farmer, you know tilling his own field or taking care of his crops or his animals. Sometimes, growing up in that as a kid, you might think, oh, I can only do so much, I can't do any more. I can't lift any more hay bales, I can't. I can't lift any more buckets to go feed the pigs or feed the cows or whatever. I can't lift any more buckets to go feed the pigs or feed the cows or whatever. But then you discover after a couple of years of doing this, you could go on and on, and on and on and you got that farmer strength boy were at the time that you were going through what you were going through, unless you decided to stick your heels into the ground and just go through what you're going through. I do hope that makes sense. I won't, you know, uh, belabor the point any any further.

Speaker 1: 10:21

Lastly, let's wrap it up with a legend, nelson mandela the greatest glory in living lies oh, I read that wrong. Let me try that again the greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall or fail. So I read that wrong again. Let me try one last time. I'll get it on the third time. Here we go. The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail. That is the greatest glory and I couldn't agree more. So I'll end with this.

Speaker 1: 11:06

You are not perfect. I think you know this. I am not perfect, I can guarantee you. I know that, painfully aware. But our glory, the glory we can achieve as fallible human beings, is not in being perfect, ie never failing. The glory we can reach is the fact that we can get up and try again. It's the fact that we can rise again every time we are cast down, that we are pushed down, that we are held down or that we fall. You don't have to stay down and, much like Les Brown has said, if you fall, if life knocks you down, land on your back because if you can look up, you can get up.

Speaker 1: 11:52

I love that saying. It's a beautiful saying, it's a beautiful phrase. So you know coin that. Use that for yourself. Encourage yourself in the Lord. It's a great place to do that. I need some myself Going through some things, people, I'm going through it, but I am acutely aware that I have so much to be grateful for.

Speaker 1: 12:16

I have a roof over my head. If you've been following my podcast for long enough, you know that this roof and the four walls underneath this roof has been forgive my, forgive my my saying so, but it's been a pain in my ass. It has it has for so long and in so many ways, but it's a pain in the ass that I'm grateful for, and sometimes, guess what? Here's the major revelation for the religious Christians out there God can handle me saying that. God can handle me saying that because my posture right now is genuinely to say thank you for this house, because I could be in a much worse situation than I am, but I'm not. Does this house take a lot of work? Yes, has this house had mold that has made my wife and I sicker than we need to be? Yes, have I had to spend hours upon hours doing a simple thing that a plumber could do in minutes, because it's my first time learning it, but we don't have the money to hire a plumber and do everything else that we need to do, so I've had to learn to do it myself. Yes, all of that is true, but with this mindset, I'm becoming better for it and I'm grateful because of it. So it's not about how many times this house and its situation and its complications knock me down. It's about how many times I get back up anyway. So I hope, once again, that this entire message has been an encouragement to you. I hope that you will hear what I'm saying, feel the energy that I'm exuding through my voice and through this thing you're listening to through this podcast.

Speaker 1: 14:10

Take it, absorb it, internalize it and then fight back your own negative thoughts with a stick. Keep them at arm's length, because they serve you not. But any thought that tells you you are better than this, you are stronger than you think, you are worth more than they tell you. You are stronger than you think. You are worth more than they tell you you are, you are capable of great things. Any thoughts that sound like that boy, like girl. Hold on to that. Take hold of it, clasp it, grasp it. Don't let go. It's time to get up and try again. Just try again one more time. And it's okay if you fail.

Speaker 1: 14:55

Prepare for the worst. If you fail, remember, tell yourself, it's okay to fail. I am learning Prepare for the worst, but expect the best. Don't sit around expecting to fail. One of my favorite quotes from my dad expect the best and prepare for the best, don't sit around expecting to fail. One of my favorite quotes from my dad expect the best and prepare for the worst. That is being wise with your expectations. That is being wise with your mental energy. I could turn that into a whole different thing, but that's it. All right. You got what you came here for. Get out of here, go, have a great week, be blessed, take care of yourself, drink some water. Make sure to, you know, eat organic fruits and vegetables, if your life situation allows you to afford that, because we want you guys taking care of your bodies. Okay, all right, that's just. That's just a little. A little wishing well, know, well wishes from me to you, all right, but at the very least, drink some water, you know. Take care of yourself, all right. Yeah, thanks for listening.