Perspective

Perspective is the reason why we are all narcissists because it makes the world revolve around us. But, there would be no creativity if we did not own a perspective. Our creative talents reflect our perspective because we are constantly translating our thoughts and ideas into reality. Our perspective is also always developing so we are in charge of sculpting it along the way to make it work with us...


New Earth:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/New-Earth-LIFE-CHANGING-otherworldly-Breakfast/dp/0141039418

Chapters

• 0:00 intro
• 0:31 perspective brings us uniqueness
• 4:21 our perspective makes us narcissists
• 7:40 inferiority & superiority
• 8:10 perspective brings connection
• 8:31 how do we make our perspective work for us
• 12:52 time pass...
• 16:20 navigation
• 17:50 let them theory
• 19:12 thinking
• 20:41 space
• 23:42 conclusion

Transcript

 In this episode I talk about how our perspective makes us narcissists, how our perspective makes us creatives, how our perspective gives us an ego, and how our perspective allows us to connect with people. This episode is basically about the danger and the beauty of our perspective. Everything that happens to us essentially surrounds us.

So, we are basically, our perspective allows us to be the main pinpoint of what we see. Everything that we see is a reaction to who we are, or a translation of who we are, a reflection of who we are. Meaning, we are the center of our existence. Because everything that we perceive is through our own perception, we have all of the freedom to essentially just decide how to react in a situation, what we think of a situation, um, we can obviously form opinions of things and that gives us the freedom to translate the world in our own eyes.

Even forming an opinion is a creative thought because we have created that. It's not anything that is creative is basically not factual. And that just means that our whole existence is based on our own perception and how we translate that and how we decide to use our ideas to formulate our own life.

And. It's a gift. I really think it's a gift. And I think when we create, we express our ideas to life, we reach out to the world, and we build connections with people who resonate with our creativity, with our ideas, with our, with our expression. And when we express more, we reach out more to the world and we allow us to be more vulnerable and to see who resonates with us and I think it's a gift as humans and when we create, we express our ideas to life, we reach out to the world and we build connections with people who resonate with our work, with our lifestyle, with the way we think, with our vibe, with our style, with literally all of the tiny things that we do.

And we could only connect with such people who are creating themselves. So without a perspective, we're not able to create anything, and we're not able to formulate any opinions, and therefore we would never be able to form any deep and meaningful connections with anyone, because everyone would just be compatible in a sense.

Because we're not building on anything, we're not developing ourselves to come out as a certain type of individual. And when we take ownership of our perspective, and when we realize that we literally have the power to create, and we have been creating our own existence for this, however long we've been here for, and when we take ownership of that responsibility, that everything that we do, the people that we are, isn't so much the external world's problem, it's ours.

We accept our perspective, we accept our, we accept our ideas, we accept everything. I was actually thinking about this weirdly enough, um, I was whistling today, and I was thinking like, how do I know what note, or like what, like what, yeah, like what sound, like what note to go off. Because it just, I do it automatically.

It's like, I was like singing um, espresso. I was whistling it, and I was just thinking, how does my mouth know what note to go on? I feel like I'm barely moving my mouth, or like my, tongue to formulate a note. And then I kind of thought about this episode and I thought that's so weird because like, it's me already, I already know what I'm singing.

I've accepted it and it's like it, my brain is automatically translating that into a whistle and it's more, and it, it, it works the same with our own thoughts and our own ideas. The second that we accept something is the second that our brain automatically Delivers that to us and that's how we are able to create.

I want to move on from this and I want to talk about narcissism because our perspective is the reason for most of our human behavior. Because you know that saying that the world doesn't actually revolve around you? Why do you think the world revolves around you? It doesn't revolve around you. Well technically it does because our perspective makes us seem like the world revolves around us because it technically does, because everything that we're experiencing is being perceived from us.

The people that we interact with are interacting with us when we're watching something or watching something from our own perspective. So technically everything does kind of revolve around us, but that's the same for 8 billion, 8 billion people on this planet. So that means that we are kind of all narcissists because we, are all living in our own perspective and we all have our own lives and the way that I feel like we could all measure our narcissism is actually from how we express ourselves and how we deliver our ideas and how we deliver our thoughts.

I feel like there are two ways with this because I don't want to say that, I almost wanted to say that people that are expressing themselves and are creative and they are not so much narcissistic, but that's not true in any way. If anything, if, if we're, if we're successful and if we've built something big of ourselves, it's not easy to think that we're not the shit.

And that makes us more narcissistic. But at the same time, I feel like if we're not creating enough, and if we don't know how to create, we somehow have this insecurity. If we're not doing anything with our lives, if we don't know how to, if we don't have the motivation, if we've accepted x, y, and z, thoughts and ideas about ourselves, we feel stuck, etc.

It's quite difficult to live in a world that revolves around us and see people that are thriving and doing better than us. We can all accept that. That is human behavior. That is why, that's why there's envy. That's why there's insecurity. I feel like, I believe that in every single friendship, the only reason why there's ever any maliciousness is because there's a bit of insecurity, or a bit of envy.

People don't like feeling like they are inferior, and I feel like we all express that feeling of inferiority and envy in different ways. We don't like sitting down with someone and them not shutting up about their life. Because what, how is that going to make us feel? Perspective is literally the root of human behavior.

It means that we're all on the narcissistic spectrum. We're just on different levels of it. It means that we are all able to create something, but we're also on different scales of that. It means that we all carry an ego, because depending on how much we create and depending on how much we do, that translates to how big of an ego we have.

And I used to think of an ego as a really bad thing, that you shouldn't have a big ego, um, you should always You shouldn't have an ego at all, if anything, but it's quite impossible to, like, we all have an ego. And I think the only time that it could ever become toxic is when we are trying to hide something.

We're trying to hide our own insecurity from putting up a big ego. That also, that also comes from inferiority. Inferiority comes from owning a perspective. We put ourselves on a pedestal almost to other people. And I, and that's another thing. Inferiority and superiority is something that comes with perspective because we all like to compare ourselves to each other because We, again, life is always surrounding us, so we always like to know where we stand with other people.

We're social animals, that's something that we do naturally. And perspective also builds a connection with people. When we perceive things in a similar way to another person, we share the same thoughts and ideas and we're able to understand each other in a deeper way. That is what connection is. You see through someone more than you normally would in just a simplified conversational environment.

So how do we manage our perspective? How do we make it work for us? Because we need to make it work for us. I think it's definitely important to note that our perspective works hand in hand with our creativity. I feel like creativity has recently been such a big thing in this world. I feel like everyone's starting their own shit, doing their own stuff, like really emphasizing on creativity, even people taking the piss out of it.

But it's great. And I actually think obviously creativity has always been such a big thing, but I feel like now compared to Two years ago. There's definitely so much more of it and I feel like a lot of people are embracing it and really prioritizing it But I feel like it's definitely a trend. So how, without following a trend, how do we own our creativity?

How do, no, wrong question. How do we? How do we make our perspective work for us? Firstly, I think by owning it, accepting that the way we see things is purely because we accepted a way of seeing. Also accepting that nothing is factual. not being so ignorant, not being so arrogant to the way we see things. I feel like we definitely need to accept that our perspective is as much wrong as it is right and it's always changing.

In any argument that we would ever hear of someone, if we ever hear someone complain about something, we would always hear them being in the right and they will prove anything to be in the right. Even if we're in an argument with someone, if we're complaining to someone, we're in the right. Because Our perspective makes us believe that we're on the right, but then also the other person will also believe that they're right because that's how they see things.

There's so much disagreement and so much ego when there's this lack of acceptance that our perspective is as wrong as it is right. The more arrogant we are, the less able we're actually to accept that we have decided what our perspective is. And when we accept that, we see how easy it is to see things in another perspective.

That is such an important skill. I think Being able to acknowledge what our perspective is and then taking ourselves out of it and putting us into another person's shoes and accepting that maybe sometimes we're wrong or sometimes you didn't see things in the way that another person did and that makes more sense to us or I don't even know like just getting out of our own head will definitely aid us.

in not being so limited in our worldview. Another thing is may is also not just only being able to get out of our own heads and get out of our perspective but also change our perspective when we need it most. I feel like because when we were growing up we obviously had no idea that our minds have been programming and we take, we took everything for fact and sometimes in our environment.

Sometimes that's not a good thing. Sometimes that's a great thing. Sometimes we've been programmed to believe really good things and therefore our perspective works for us really well. But there are times that it doesn't and I feel like we all sometimes can battle with that. And that's why it's so important not only to accept that our perspective is not right and that we're not right all the time, but to also be able to change our perspective when we need it most.

So when we have a new idea, when we have a new vision, and when we want to work towards that, we need to Allow our perspective to change in order to work with our own ideas. We don't wanna start a new project and halfway through, not be able to even finish it, because our perspective doesn't allow us to do that.

We don't wanna be, we don't wanna be a slave to our perspective, especially because we are always changing. We are never the same person every single day. Or maybe, I don't know, but like, every year we're a different person, every year we experience different things, we meet new people, we fall out with people, we change our opinions, we change our ideas, and we don't want our perspective to hold us back from that.

And we also don't want to be unaware of our perspective because we don't want to start changing our ideas and going into a whole, like, rat hole with it. We definitely don't want our perspective to limit us. I think if we let time pass us, and if we let our perspective take ownership of our existence and of our life, our lack of creation, our lack of change, our lack of getting out of our heads comes to genuinely haunt us.

It's like planting a rotten seed in our heads. in us. We kind of walk around life with a rotten seed. We lose track of time. We think time is infinite. We think, we also think that we are so superior because we haven't tried anything new. Trying something new is such a humbling experience and it's such an important thing.

I feel like if we're not often putting ourselves into a difficult position, then we forget how little we are. We go around with this sort of superiority because we think we are so good at everything and everything's so easy because we're not actually doing anything and we're in fact lazy and we don't have any track of time.

We don't, we don't need to be anywhere. We don't need to do anything. And because of this easiness, we have this We just, we just have a fake idea of who we are and then we carry around a massive ego because we believe that we are so superior and then also deep down we are so unhappy because we're not doing anything.

Also when you think about people that have genuinely succeeded in such a difficult journey, like masters of every sort of field. I'm thinking like Olympics, fashion industry, finance, business, like anything. People that have genuinely worked so hard to fulfill their passion. To work that hard and to be that successful, it naturally humbles you because you accept the difficulty, you accept that you're a learner, that if we're in that process of developing ourselves, of putting ourselves in a certain journey, it's our own responsibility to commit to it.

And that's what our perspective also gives to us. Perspective gives us the self belief. Perspective gives us the courage to do more, to see the vision, to not deny the vision, to accept it, and to change in accordance to whatever that strong vision is. To also just see the light out of the tunnel and to see that, yes, it's difficult, but that just means that we're on the right route, that everything's going to be difficult until we surrender to it and accept it and we remove our ego.

To put it simply, I actually just think high ego means we've either been hurt or we're trying to mask off some sort of insecurity, so we carry an ego to pretend that we are amazing. Lack of ego means that we have been humbled so much and we've been reminded so much that nothing's easy and we accept that and we succeed and we don't need to put a mask on anymore because we've managed to do what we've wanted to do and we own it and then we move on to the next challenge.

We don't want to plant a rotten seed in ourselves. We don't want to let time take us and be behind. When we also do nothing, we just, we take for granted so much. Our brain is also rotting in that process. And when we have an unhealthy brain, we have a more unhealthy perspective. And we, we become a lesser version of who we are.

We take everything for granted. I also just think that that's just the challenge of life. Navigating our way through success and achievement. Because we're always, we're sharing a world with like 8 billion people. I promise you, half of us are very unhappy. And we're going to experience that. We're going to experience meeting people that are so shallow, that carry such a big ego, that want to put us down and that's the whole game of this life.

We need to, we need to take ourselves out of our perspective and put ourselves in theirs and understand that maliciousness is not personal. Envy is not personal to us. We haven't done anything wrong. It's not our problem and I feel like if we don't take ourselves out of our perspective we would think why are they being malicious, why are they envious, why are they ABC, any sort of negativity.

It always comes from that, it always comes from thinking that we are superior to someone else. which also, which also means that we're carrying an ego, or we're malicious because we feel inferior and we want to put you down. Even if you're superior, you still want to put that person down because I feel like superiority is just a reflection of once feeling so insecure and then that person holds on to it.

And we hold on to it and then we wish it on everyone else. So that's why, that's why it's so important to let go of our perspective and remove it and change it when, when we have to change it and not hold on to the past and keep on renewing ourselves and letting go and honestly let them theory. It's so helpful.

It, it allows us to not be tie down to other people. It allows us to detach from people, to detach from expectation, to detach from just anything, really. And it allows us to take more accountability of our own shit, of our own things. And it allows us to move forward with our life. For anyone that doesn't know, Let Them Theory, created by Mel Robbins.

She basically describes it as, let's say someone is doing something that you don't necessarily agree with, or like, It's not even a big deal or it's, I don't really know. Let them. Just let them. And then you will detach yourself from it and then you also understand that you have so much ownership to your life and you get back so much of your energy that you've been putting out into actual nonsense of things that you think you can control but you can't.

So let them is basically saying let go. of even trying to control someone or even trying to control the outcome, like, let them. Everything's going to happen for a reason. You are in control of yourself and yourself only. So as much as we let them, we need to let us do what we need to do without the fear of letting anyone down.

And that's again, removing. A sort of lens, a sort of perspective, an expectation that we had towards something at one point and changing it to something else. But I wanted to end this episode with saying that the more we think and the more that we reflect is the more that we develop our perspective.

There is so much distraction open to us today, so much overwhelming amount of media being thrown at us. every single day and it's our job to limit that as much as possible or to, to make it as relevant and useful as possible. I've started sleeping with my phone outside of my room and not going on it in the morning and it's been the most just clear, it genuinely clears my head so much.

I feel so clear, I feel so, I feel like I actually just have a direction when I wake up. I have a direction of where I am going, what I'm doing today. Waking up and picking up your phone fast thing and looking at social media is so bad for you because you actually, we forget what we're doing. We instantly go on our phones and we see everything that's going on in some on other people's lives, we compare ourselves to them, either in a good way or in a bad way, or we just forget that we have the whole day ahead of us, and we get distracted by other things, by funny videos, by TikToks, by news, whatever, and then we don't wake up as as grounded, I guess, as as directional, I want to say, like we don't wake up we get out of bed with a lack of direction, because our brain is now so fogged, and I've genuinely felt a difference, it hasn't even been a week.

Best thing you can do ever. And that's one way of allowing myself to reflect more on the things that I want to do. On giving me that space. Allowing space in my life. Allowing more space in my head to be more clear. That's a really, that's another really important thing. Space. I read this whole book about the importance of Having space in your mind.

I'm actually going to link it somewhere. It's so good. And it talks about how important it is to be aware of the thoughts that are in our head. And that's it. Like, we don't need to process them. We don't just if we are aware of the things that we carry in our head on our day to day, and if we're able to remove ourselves from it and detach ourselves from it and just have hope.

nothing and have no thoughts in our head for even like five seconds and just focus on our breathing because that's how we can remove ourselves from our own head, detach ourselves from our own hand, from our own head, detach ourselves from our perspective even. That is such a good tool to remove ourselves from our own head.

Don't be so attached to the things that we're going through in our minds, the thoughts that we go through. They're just thoughts. And the more attached we are to them and the more immersed we are in them, the less space we have for any actual growth and the more it actually consumes us and the less awake we actually are.

We're just running our day asleep to these thoughts that are controlling us completely. And our minds are so weird. Like, we think about the most random things and sometimes, sometimes like just Think about the most random stuff and then I'm thinking, why am I even thinking about this made up scenario that is genuinely making me unhappy?

Why am I doing that? And that awareness brings so much space and then we say to ourselves, no, no, that is not the perspective that I have. I don't want to, I don't want to have a negative perspective. Let me detach. Space in our minds. So good. But no one explains it better than I might even do a whole episode about it.

I might reread it. I'm not saying like meditate, sitting down and like doing whole, even five minutes. I was so difficult. We get distracted so easily, but it makes us realize how much we consume in our heads. And I think starting off with just five seconds of just focusing on our breathing can allow us to detach from our perspective and to realize how insignificant our thoughts are.

But apart from that, I mean, even, even alcohol, even, even shopping, like even anything that we just have so much access to so many different things. And like, Detach, like, have some distance, do something that's genuinely meaningful. I mean, I sound like a mum saying this, but even me, like, I need to listen to myself.

Like, we, we all need to do more for ourselves, and do less of escaping, and do less of consuming. And just be vulnerable with ourselves. We need to listen to ourselves, um, rather than going through a distracted state, which is so easy to do today. And it's what a lot of people want us to do. That's how a lot of places make so much money, through us just being asleep and from us just wanting to consume more and more and more.

So, in conclusion, Our perspective brings so much of our creativity to life. It's basically what I've been saying for the past 40 minutes of me recording this. Maybe it's going to be a lot shorter, but I've been here for 40 minutes. Um, and we want to get the most out of our creativity. We want to get the most out of our individuality.

We want to connect with people. We want to express ourselves. We want to create. So why don't we make that happen by making our perspective work for us?