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Ep #170 Yada, Yada, Yada: talk less, FEEL MORE!

Andee Martineau - Podcaster, Best-Selling Author, Parenting Coach Episode 170

Have you ever caught yourself waiting? Waiting to feel confident. Waiting for your kids to behave so you can feel calm. Waiting for the house to be clean so you can feel peace. 

I see you. I've been there, lying in bed, praying tomorrow would be different. That somehow I'd wake up and magically feel like the parent I wanted to be. 

Here's what I discovered after my baby powder blizzard moment 17 years ago: Those emotions we are waiting for? They're not coming in a specially wrapped package. 


What We're Exploring Together
 

We can manufacture the emotions we want to feel. 

Not by forcing. Not by bypassing. But by understanding that we are the creators of our emotional experience. 

I promise this episode isn't about toxic positivity or pushing away negative feelings. It's about recognizing our power when we're ready to use it. 


The Five Truths That Set Us Free
 

  1. We're not supposed to feel happy all the time (and thank goodness for that)
  2. Every emotion belongs - they're all part of this messy, beautiful human experience
  3. Our thoughts create the meaning - it's not the situation, it's our story about it
  4. We need the contrast - without the hard, we can't appreciate the beautiful
  5. Embracing negative emotions makes them less scary - resistance creates suffering, acceptance creates freedom


The Practice (Because Love Is a Verb)
 
Creating emotions is about:

  • Recognizing what you're feeling without judgment
  • Deciding how you want to feel (yes, you get to choose!)
  • Finding thoughts you actually believe that support that feeling
  • Practicing, practicing, practicing (like going to the gym for your heart)

 
You are the author of your emotional experience.

This Week's Loving Challenge
 
What emotion do you want to create? Not someday. Not when things get easier. But right now, in the messy middle of your real life.
 
Pick one. Maybe it's confidence. Maybe it's compassion. Maybe it's just plain old peace.
 
Then ask yourself: What would I need to believe to feel this way?

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