From Diagnosis To Discipleship: Building A Disability-Ready Church

We walk through how churches can respond when a diagnosis or tragedy first introduces disability, from urgent care to long-term inclusion. We ground practical steps in a biblical vision where every person is indispensable and healing hope holds alongside sovereignty.

• scale early tangible support with meals, childcare, rides, and respite
• validate grief and fear while answering hard questions with care
• root identity and purpose in the image of God and indispensability
• hold healing hope with God’s sovereignty without false promises
• shift from crisis response to long-term physical, social, and spiritual access
• create buddies, parent support, respite, and flexible discipleship
• honor lament and joy together as part of community life
• move from seeing people as recipients to partners with gifts

If you want to dive deeper on your own, you can check out the indispensable-people blog or my books on Amazon called The Indispensable Kid or Gospel Accessibility and the Indispensable People

Transcript

Framing The Challenge

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Hey, hey, my name is Tracy Coral and welcome to Indispensable People. I'm a pastor, a teacher, a missionary, a mom, a wife, and I believe that every person should have access to the gospel so that they can know Christ, grow in him, and serve him with the gifts that he has given. Over 65 million Americans have a disability. That's 15 to 20% of every community. And over 85% of those individuals do not attend church. 90% of pastors believe that they are a disability-friendly church, but only 20% of parents and families agree. Let's dive deep into hard topics, big questions, perceptions, stereotypes, and so much more. Hey, hey, and welcome to this episode of Indispensable People. Today we're talking about church support at the onset of disability. We don't spend a whole lot of time talking about what happens when a person receives a diagnosis or when there's a tragedy that occurs that leads to disability. We spend a whole lot of time talking about what to do with the person with a disability and how to support them and accommodate them and their families in the church. However, supporting the individual at the onset of disability and their family is incredibly important. Not only do we need to consider the tangible assistance, you know, what would you do if anyone was having a surgery or there was a car accident or whatever it might be, right? You're offering meals to the family, whatever support there is, maybe you're caring for their other children or providing distractions of some sort. But the next piece really is answering questions, right? There's a gonna be a lot of hard questions like why did this happen? Did I do something wrong? What is this gonna mean for the foreseeable future? How do how like how do we wake up tomorrow? What do we need to take care of this person? How are we going to take care of this person? What does that look like? And can I do this forever? Does it does this mean they're gonna live with me forever? Does that what about my house? Does is my house accessible? How are we gonna get in and out of the house? Or, you know, is the it's safe for the child who just received an autism diagnosis and is the struggle that they've been having because of the space that they're living in? You know, there's just uh it's it's an overloaded piece of conversation. Now, some of those families are going to have lived with the disability for a time and have not had a diagnosis. So there's a a bit of finality that comes with that and acceptance of stepping into, right? Once you hear that diagnosis, you can't unhear it. You can, before the diagnosis, you have hope that maybe it's something else, and maybe they'll grow out of it, or maybe they'll, you know, something where where your circumstances could change. And then there's the tragedy that happens all of a sudden that is a change for life, whether it's your child, your spouse, you know, your parent, or whatever that you walk into being a caregiver. And so we need to have the scriptural foundation of where to answer those things, you know, sometimes, especially with like an autism diagnosis or Down syndrome diagnosis or something like an ADHD diagnosis where a parent's gonna start questioning, you know, was this my fault? Did I do something wrong? Those kinds of things. And don't get me wrong, there are consequences for things like a parent choosing to do drugs or alcohol or, you know, things like that that impact the life of a child. And that's a different uh walkthrough with that parent, right? If they're able to keep their child. But a parent who didn't make those choices will still begin to question themselves and understanding what is the purpose in all of this, but we know that God has created the members of the body and they're each purposed, set a purpose inside of them because God has chosen them for his family, and he has something to accomplish through their lives. And there are things that we understand that every person is created in the image of God, each has gifts and talents that are in them because they are in the body of the Christ, in the in because they are a part of the body of Christ, and that we know that God's power is perfected in weakness. We know that each person is considered, especially those who are considered weakest, are indispensable. So that means that we can't be without them, and that God has a purpose and a plan through their lives. And so from there, in building that, and they may not be able to hear all the things at first. Maybe they just need to talk it out, maybe they just need to say all their feelings, and they need someone to validate their feelings, and sometimes they need a time of grieving, grieving the life that they thought that they would live. And and and they can have that for a time. And then as the church, we can start building into the scriptural understanding, we can pray with them. We can listening and praying is going to be a huge, huge, huge piece of importance to them. We are then going to move into the we talked about tangible assistance at the beginning or onset with meals and respite and caring for children, and that's the immediate tangible support. But then we're gonna move into long-term tangible support of how the church can help the family be a part of the body of Christ, how we can have physical accommodations, how will we disciple them? How will we help them become socially make the church socially accessible for them in the church? All of those types of things that we're going to want to support in a multitude of ways, whether that's in buddies and respite care and parent support, Bible studies, all of those kinds of things that that we can do alongside of that. And one of the things that long-term the parents or spouse or whatever may really kind of battle with are these ideal ideas of healing. Now, this is always a tricky conversation, but the understanding is that our God can heal, and I don't doubt it for a second, and I have been a recipient of his healing. But and the but isn't in his ability, the but is in what he chooses to do because he is a sovereign God and he has a purpose to fulfill that he may heal at some point in time in that person's life here on earth, but or he may heal when that person enters into heaven and becomes whole. But God has a plan and he has a purpose and he will do it in and through the ways that he chooses because he has something to accomplish through that person's life. Now, the desire isn't to harm and hurt and cause pain. However, we live in a broken, marred world where pain and brokenness and difficulties exist. And because we live in that marred world, we that doesn't mean that God is not in control, he is sovereign and he chooses to allow things that accomplish his purposes, and he loves his people, and he has chosen them. They are considered royalty, and he has a story to tell through each and every life, and we uh need to know that our God is bigger than we could ever dream, and he understands his full purpose, and we only see minuscule pieces of it, and so we have to trust him, and we can do that because we know him. So coming shifting from healing to being, moving beyond viewing people with disabilities as just recipients of healing and recognizing that they are truly essential members of the church. And with that, throughout their life, these families and these individuals with disabilities are going to need the opportunity to share in their lament, but also in their in their joy. And we know that we weep with those who weep and we rejoice with those who rejoice and we validate the emotions that they're walking through, right? We don't get to pick and choose what emotions they can feel, we get to walk through them with them and help them not to remain in those negative pieces that will that won't continuously lead to honoring and glorifying God. And so we understand that we value the independence, but also in the dependence on not only the God who created them, who knows their every every situation inside and out, but also that the dependence on God who will enrich their life and the rest of those who they come in contact with, but also that the body of Christ was meant to hold one another up. And so no one walks this walk alone, and we get to support each and every person in it, through it, with it, together, because that is what being a part of the family of God is. Why do we do that? So that every person has the opportunity to know him, grow in him, and serve him with the gifts that he is given with an accessible gospel, accessibility that includes physical, social, and spiritual. I can't claim to have all the answers. I can't claim to know all the things, but here's what we are gonna do we're gonna keep this conversation going. We're gonna make the accessible gospel available to individuals with disabilities in our churches and in our communities so that every person has the opportunity to know Christ, to grow in him, and to serve him with the gifts that he has given. If you want to dive deeper on your own, you can check out the indispensable people blog or my books on Amazon called The Indispensable Kid or Gospel Accessibility and the Indispensable People.