Episode 9.5- Family Ties

Episode 9.5- Family Ties

Join us for an unfiltered and raw episode of "They Call Me Daddy," where hosts Torrean and Mack, minus Mondo this time, delve into the real and sometimes messy world of parenting, personal growth, and the challenges that come with it.

This episode, titled "Family Feuds," kicks off with a relatable and humorous discussion about Thanksgiving experiences – from awkward dinners to the value of family connections in lifting spirits during tough times. Torrean shares his journey from stress to rejuvenation over the holiday, highlighting the unexpected ways family can turn our moods around.

The conversation takes a more serious turn as they explore the complexities of growing up in the public eye, referencing T.I. and his son King's recent public spat. They delve deep into the challenges of parenting in the spotlight, the struggle of youth to find their identity, and the delicate balance between discipline and understanding.

But it's not all heavy. The episode is sprinkled with light-hearted banter about holiday traditions, the oddities of kids' YouTube content, and the ever-changing landscape of parenting in the digital age. They even touch on the bizarre requests from kids to Santa – from horses to hammers – and how these moments, though puzzling, are precious in their innocence.

Wrapped in humor, honesty, and a touch of nostalgia, "Family Feuds" is more than just a podcast episode – it's a slice of life, a reflection on the ups and downs of being a parent, and a reminder that in this crazy journey, we're all in it together.

So tune in, laugh, reflect, and maybe see a bit of your own family feuds in ours. Welcome to "They Call Me Daddy."

Transcript

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Speaker 1: Yo, yo, yo, what's good, y'all? Welcome to another episode of the They Call Me Daddy, a parent's podcast. Let me introduce my co-host today. We got Mack. Unfortunately, Mondo couldn't join us today, but he will be back next week. 

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Speaker 1: My name is Torrean, aka Daddy. What's going on, Mack? How you doing? 

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Speaker 2: What's going on, bro? Happy to be back. You know what I'm saying? What's up with you? How you feeling? 

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Speaker 1: Man, I'm doing good, bro. Just got this little lingering cough. But other than that, life is good, man. Just, you know, business is going good right now. So just excited man excited for I Wish it was warmer here in Minnesota for show Yes, it's cold in a bitch, but you know 

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how was Thanksgiving man? I guess we tap in with the audience since the last Thanksgiving episode. How was your your 

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Speaker 1: Thanksgiving? Man, it was good, bro. I ain't gonna lie, man. I went into Thanksgiving extremely stressed out. Man, just life is just was hitting me that day, really that week, you know, had COVID and just may come out of being sick for a long period of time. 

00:01:09 - 00:01:27

Speaker 1: You know how you just be feeling stressed like, man, everything starts to pile up and shit. And it's just like, man, 1 thing after another. And so, man, I get to I went to Uncle Gilbert's house and, you know, I get there and I'm just like extremely stressed out. Like, you know, usually I'm a holiday guy. I usually I love the holidays. 

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm trying to text everybody on my phone, wish them a happy Thanksgiving and like, you know, send in the pictures of rainy or whatever. And man, I just wasn't feeling it this week, this year, you know? But you know, my girl, she had made a homemade apple pie for the first time. And that was, that, that was banging. I'm like, okay. 

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Speaker 1: And I get to Uncle Gilb's house and, you know, we're just, you know, I'm sitting here talking to Uncle Gilb and, you know, we had a dope conversation and just all the love in the house. You know, really, man, by the end, by the time I left out of there, I was feeling rejuvenated. I really was like, you know, I was talking to our cousin, Destiny. And man, she just she is hilarious. Like we are our cousin. 

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Speaker 1: She's a she's an artist. She's also an actress. She does like impromptu comedy. But she 

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Speaker 2: was very, 

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Speaker 1: very, very talented. But man, she was. Coming up with all these different NFL names and basically blaming it on uncle Gil But by saying like yeah, my dad didn't give me a proper education on sports So therefore like I don't know what's going on So like the the Seattle Seahawks were the I don't remember what name she said that they were, but basically every team was wrong. She got about 8 NFL questions right. And it was it was from a sport, a sports perspective. 

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Speaker 1: It was bad. But for like what I needed at that moment in time, it was just so hilarious that, man, it made all my worries go away. So shout out to you, Destiny. You had no clue you did that for your older cousin, but I really appreciate that. 

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Speaker 2: Yeah, shout out to you, Destiny, man. That's like the beauty of gathering with family, right? It's like you might go in with low energy, but all that love always helps and it always gives you a boost that you need even if you're not aware that you need it like you just walk out feeling better you know I mean so that's dope. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah for sure man I wish I could have made it to grandma's man how was grandma's crib? 

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Speaker 2: Man it was cool as soon as I walked in it's like nothing but big-ass niggas in there bro I'm like man it's crazy to believe how big the house felt when we were younger. But now that we're all grown adults, it's like, man, just big dudes everywhere. And then it's like kudos to grandma. It's like, grandma, look what you did, man. Like, for us to all still be getting along still loving on 1 another and no problems like And we all look forward to getting together. 

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Speaker 2: It's like something we all miss because we did it more often. We were younger So it was cool, man We all ate joked around sat around they had the football game on so we watched a little bit of football but it was a good environment man I felt the same way as you man went in there you know tired whatever but I'm like super grateful I went because you know me bro I be trying to be in the crib but man when I went I Was so happy I went though all the smiles and all the jokes and you know Just being around that family environment made like you really feel the love. So it was a good time For for cooking man, you know food was good. Yeah, I had a dessert some point She made pies cakes and all that man. So yeah, shout to the women of the family as well 

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Speaker 1: Yeah, man, I'm I'm mad. I didn't I didn't make it over there, bro. I ain't gonna lie I just didn't I ain't gonna lie. I just had the energy for it. But All that stress ain't that bad man, It's like 15 20 minutes, but then you gotta We gotta go all the way we had committed to going to Uncle Gilb's house and then going from grandma's to Uncle Gilb's house 

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Speaker 2: Yeah Okay, yeah, 

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Speaker 1: yeah, and I just would have been a long way but yeah, man shout out to moms and and and kiki for that bro that's it 

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Speaker 3: you were 

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Speaker 2: missed though you were missed everybody brought you up like oh where's tater like all these well could go so you you your spirit was in there with us man nah 

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Speaker 1: that's dope that's dope so what's your favorite like Thanksgiving meal bro? Like if he was gonna like what's the first thing you grab was like I got to eat this 

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Speaker 2: I rate your I rate your cooking off for the dressing bro. I'm addressing this guy, right? Like your grandma shit was fire. My mom should be fire. So I always, rate everything by the dressing, but I'm addressing, do I eat that shit, you know, 3, 4 days. 

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Speaker 2: How long, how long do you eat leftovers though? 

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Speaker 1: Man, I'm a leftover guy. So for Thanksgiving, I give it some regular ass food You know, I got like a two-day limit. You know I'm saying after 2 days I'm kind of done but like, you know Thanksgiving. I mean we keep we eat the same shit For Thanksgiving we do is Christmas nigga. So Holiday. 

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Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. I mean I gotta add my dressing on both fucking Christmas and Thanksgiving, but that's just 

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Speaker 2: I always Cuz we adopted the grandma way so on Christmas over here. We do Mexican dishes for Christmas. I don't know. Maybe I mix it up, bro. 

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Speaker 1: Ain't nothing wrong with that either. But I'll be you think I can. I love dressing, bro. I'm the same way as you. You think I'm only going to have dressing 1 time a year? 

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Speaker 3: I got at 

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Speaker 1: least have it twice a year. But like for things given leftovers, Should I eat them for 4 or 5 days? Bro, I ain't gonna lie. 

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Speaker 2: Do you do the do you do the cranberry shit? That's a I don't either. Right. And I was going to say, oh, that's the white people shit. But grandma, when I went by her crib a few days later, she was tearing that shit up with some cranberry sauce. 

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't understand the combination, but hey, she like it. I love it. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I remember I used to, I think as a kid I had cranberry, like, I think I liked it the first time I had it and then like the first couple times then after I started eating that shit more and more I'm like this no I have no I get this don't match for me like it doesn't it doesn't mesh well like there's no point of having it in there or whatever but but 1 thing I think it's funny though when you were talking about you rate everything based on the dressing, I do the same. And so like, but like nigga you ever just look at some dressing and you're like, oh I'm not finna eat this shit? 

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Speaker 2: Yeah, nah for sure. Either that shit be super wet or it be too dry, It's like 1 of the 2. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like that meal I was describing last episode. I remember their dressing now we bringing this up. We had like wild rice and shit in it and like cranberries and raisins and all this weird ass shit that don't belong in the shit. People are like, oh, what's the difference between dressing and stuffing? I'm like, I never really thought about it, because I just always call it dressing. 

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? But I guess stuffing is You put it 

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Speaker 2: in the turkey. Oh, that's what. Okay. What I think of stuff and I think of, like, the box shit, the stove top. 

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Speaker 1: A stove top. 

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Hey, a girl made that shit throughout the year. But during the holiday, it's dressing. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Now, for sure. 

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Speaker 2: Also, also macaroni, too. You can tell somebody's macaroni is on point or not. You know what I mean? Like, some shit be too watery. Some shit don't have no color to it, like oh they season their shit or they boil it, they cook the cheese all the way. 

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Speaker 2: Like, macaroni too. It's kind of a big deal for me. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah, nah, for sure. Give me a, on my fork, some mac and cheese, some dressing, 

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Speaker 2: some greens, 

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Speaker 1: and some mashed potatoes. I'm eating all that shit, bro. 

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Speaker 2: Mashed potatoes? 

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Speaker 1: Nigga, I'm saying on the fork, bro. 

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Speaker 2: I know, bro. No, nigga, you got- It can't be potatoes, bro. It gotta be yams 

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Speaker 1: on that joint. I'm tripping yams, bro. 

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Speaker 2: Oh, okay. 

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Speaker 1: I don't know how I love yams out there, motherfucker. Yeah, bro. 

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Speaker 2: Yeah, bro. You gotta have yams. 

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Speaker 1: You're right. You're right. You're right. 

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Speaker 3: I'm trippin'. 

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Speaker 2: I want to travel, because there are places who serve that shit wrapped in a burrito form. It's like a soul food wrap. Bro, I got to try that shit. Look at you. You look interested, bro. 

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Speaker 2: You the traveler. 

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Speaker 3: I'm 

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Speaker 2: about to put you on. I think it was Atlanta, but mac and cheese, greens, yams, and dressing in there. I'm like, man, I gotta try 1 of those. 

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Speaker 1: Hey, I did see that viral video when that man said, I know your pussy tastes good or some shit. Whatever he said. 

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Speaker 3: The food 

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Speaker 1: was good? 

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the food was good. No, for sure. Are you a ham guy, or are you turkey? Which 1 do you prefer? Man, we sit here talking about food and shit. 

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Speaker 2: I'm getting hungry. 

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Speaker 1: I know, man. I'm hungry than a bitch now. But now I'm more of a I'm more of a ham guy you know you know smoked turkey tastes good but yeah I like leave 

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Speaker 2: that fucking swine alone bro 

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Speaker 1: my bad my bad but you're good but yeah what else is good with you though, Josh Giddy? 

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Speaker 2: Hey man, relax bro. Hey, I ain't never been on that. I mean, that situation is crazy. Like I'm shocked that the lack of attention is gaining on like all across the networks and on social media like I feel like they're trying to you know hide that shit a little bit how you feel about it? 

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Speaker 1: So for everybody that doesn't know Josh Giddey plays for the Oklahoma Thunder, Oklahoma City Thunder. He's a 21 year old, a 21 year old 

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Speaker 2: Caucasian 

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Speaker 1: male, Australian player. So and he was accused of having sexual relations or being in a relationship. Like the details are still kind of blurry with a 15 year old. But I've also heard that she's 17. I heard she was 15 and I heard she was 17. 

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Speaker 2: Okay. 

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Speaker 1: And so but either way, she was a minor. And the Details aren't all the way clear because then people were saying that this happened a couple years ago and possibly when he was 19 and she was 15 or 19 and 17. So man, it's a lot of blurred lines in this, But to kind of your point, I feel like the circumstances were different. You know what I'm saying? It would, the story would be a hell of a lot, a hell of a lot. 

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Speaker 1: Publicized. Yeah, publicized, bro. 

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And like my biggest thing is the Malika Andrews chick. You know about her? For ESPN? Man, yeah. 

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Speaker 2: She's always 1 out there dogging, you know dogging the the black athletes, you know I'm saying soon as the investigation or some pop up she's on they hair but For some reason she's been pretty fucking quiet this time around And like, you know, I really don't understand that. Like, how do you think race plays a big part in these like in the NBA and the NFL is like, how do you feel about that? 

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Speaker 1: I do, especially when it comes like news stories and whatnot. But, you know, Stephen A. Had kind of said, like, you know, the reason I don't comment on it is you get sued. So you get sued, you know, you get sued for talking about stuff like that. And I'm like. 

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Speaker 1: Cool, but I never stopped job before. Like they never stopped job before from talking about some type of scandal or if somebody's accused of something or whatever the fact is. You know, and a 

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Speaker 3: lot of time. 

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Speaker 2: Yeah, did he, did he have you there right 

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Speaker 1: now? Right. 

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Speaker 2: Like, come 

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Speaker 3: on, man. 

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Speaker 2: Hey, facts, 

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Speaker 1: facts. 

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Speaker 3: You know, so. 

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Speaker 2: Do you think he should be suspended or something? Should he have some type of punishment Until the investigations over so that so all right. We're looking at 

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Speaker 1: it from an older perspective right and the same me trying to be you know The same me trying to be like no pervert or nothing like that, but I'm trying to think about it when I was like 19 Right like Did I ever date anybody younger? And like when I was 19, I think I dated like a 16 or 17 year old like in that situation, but like we never had sex or nothing like that. But it was just like. You know, It was kind of weird at the moment at that time for me to be like, man, I got a younger person in my life. But at the same time, that was like, you know, 2, 3 years difference. 

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Speaker 1: Like it's like we were, you know, freshly out of high school or whatever the fact of the case may be. So I was just trying to think of it like that, and I'm like, I feel like that type of relationship is a little bit more common. You know, but the nigga was like 35 and she was 15, like at that point in time, like man, he needed to get his ass beat, he needed to get burned. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, fuck jail. 

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Speaker 1: Burned him, motherfucker. 

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Speaker 2: So what's the age gap? 

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Speaker 1: What's the max, what's the max, like you think? That's what I'm asking you. Like, did you ever date anybody younger when you were younger? No, that you could think about that you could think of. 

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Speaker 2: No, that shit always gave me a weird feeling. And I was always attracted to older women because they were harder to get, you know what I mean? Gotta be the young, fresh dude. If you pull an older chick, then you get a little more cool points. But nah, dating younger chicks always felt weird to me. 

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Speaker 2: Like, I don't know, I always felt like people would be judging and you know, like why you dating that young ass girl? Especially when if I'm 18, 19, I'm not in school and she got it go to class. That's she kind of weird. You know what I mean? Yeah, no, what no 1 really for me 

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Speaker 1: damn man. I start thinking I'm like man. I don't even You know I started thinking about rainy, and I'm like man I don't even think about the fact when she starts dating, but I'm like I definitely am gonna have a problem like if she tries to date Somebody older like I feel like what is somebody out of high school have to offer somebody in high school, right? 

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Speaker 2: Exactly. Or she gonna be a sophomore and she gonna like, oh, my boyfriend's coming to pick me up before his work shift, you gonna be like, the fuck? 

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the fuck, like exactly, like, you know, but at the same time, like, that's the older perspective Because like, you know a lot of times man, like, you know teenagers, you know It's like I feel like Hollywood kind of glorify that all that experience But a lot of times when they're innocent, they're trying to figure out, discover what life is. You know, sometimes they do be, you know, it just be these innocent ass relationships where there ain't no cheating going on. There ain't no abuse going on or whatever. And so, man, it's It's hard out here, man. I'm not looking forward to them dating days when you know, like I said when she when she gets to be that age, but so if the 

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Speaker 2: Rose were verse and the girl was older and it was a 16, 17 year old boy, do you think people would feel the same way? 

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Speaker 1: I mean, we'd be like, hey, go get your shit, bro nigga. Like, you know what I'm saying? 

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we'd be, 

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Speaker 1: you know, like. But 

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Speaker 2: that's us as males, but it would be interesting to have a female's perspective on this conversation. 

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Speaker 1: It would, and that's why I'm trying to look at it objectively, right? Like, I'm not trying to even... Like, motherfuckers is calling him a rapist and all this shit, and I'm like, man, we don't even know the details for 1. But, like, you know, at the same time, it's like, you know. I don't know, people are like, well, consent is 16, and I'm like, man, fuck all that. 

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Speaker 1: So that's to me, that's more of a rapist mentality. I used to start looking at laws and shit like, hey, nobody worry about no more fucking consent like the fuck. I mean, you know, obviously you want her to consent to doing the action but like, Oh, well, it's legal at this age. So it's it's fine. Like, fuck, fuck that shit. 

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Speaker 1: Negative. But it actually 

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Speaker 2: at the same time, no pictures of that niggas wild over 

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Speaker 1: not a is and she don't 

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Speaker 2: She like I just had sex with Josh Giddy I'm like oh there ain't no way he getting out of this 1. 

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Speaker 1: And she don't look 15. And she sure 

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Speaker 2: as fuck don't act like 

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Speaker 1: it either bro. Nah she don't and so yeah it's it's interesting And I seen that 1 the 1 dude might have saved him. Like there was a picture of them in the club together or whatever. And so it's like, I mean, we don't know, man. We don't we don't know. 

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Speaker 1: I don't I'd rather build some money up than tear them down, you know, and now let's say like she was 21 and he knew she was 15 and all that shit. Then yeah, I mean, you got to face the consequences, but 

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Speaker 3: You 

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Speaker 1: know, it's just it's mad interesting man dating in general is interesting, you know, cuz you got some people right now that are 45 with 22 year old women Yeah, no, right and it's like I shit's fucking weird cuz she wasn't even born when 

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Speaker 2: She wouldn't have you born. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah when you graduate high school motherfucker like that shit nasty. I don't know 

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Speaker 2: But we do that we gotta do we gotta stop sexualizing these kids and start protecting these kids. Like us having young kids, I pay more attention to that shit than I probably should. But like, you know, all these sex trafficking shit that's going on, all these kids end up missing and all that shit, bro. Like that shit gets to me more than than anything right now is because, like, you know, We say the kids are the future, but if ain't nobody protecting them, then our future don't look too fucking bright. 

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like, man, you're right about that. I think the whole man. My having a daughter has changed me a lot, Because to your point, like, you know, over sexualized. I feel like this whole world is over sexualized now, man. And like, I look back at some of the movies from like the 90s when we were growing up and bro, I'm like, how the fuck was this movie PG? 

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Speaker 1: Like, so just as I was actually Thanksgiving Day, Rainey started watching this new Christmas movie that got to do it from American Pie, Jason Biggs in it. And yeah, we saw Randy, Eddie Murphy. Yeah, I might have started that movie. So at the beginning of 

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Speaker 2: the movie, he ain't in a joint where 

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Speaker 1: I thought I seen that he was we didn't get that. Well, I think that's 

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Speaker 2: a different movie. 

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Speaker 1: OK, well, Rainey watched the whole movie, so she watched the whole movie on her own and she was like, Oh, daddy, I like that movie, I want to watch it again. So I'm like, cool, because, you know, like sometimes you might have her watching the iPad thing, her and her mom went and did something or whatever. And then whatever the case. So we started watching as a family and. There is like a whole sex scene in the whole in the movie, bro. 

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Speaker 1: And it's PG is PG. I'm talking about in the show, nothing but the beds moving is knocking all this stuff 

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Speaker 2: oh I know what thing you're talking about 

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Speaker 1: it was like oh what do you you know what was going on oh we were just moving furniture and Ricky looked at me and said man turn this shit off I said yes Irene you can't watch this no more. And she was like, why? And I'm like, I don't know, man. So. 

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Speaker 2: Do y'all try to hide y'all's intimate times from Rain at the crib? 

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Speaker 1: Yeah. 

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Speaker 2: But you got to wait till she sleep or out the house? 

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Speaker 1: It just be weird, bro. Well, first of all, she's the biggest cockblocker in the world, man. My daughter is because- 

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Speaker 2: Nah, bruh. She gotta be third or fourth. My boys is wild with it. Number 1, 

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about dead in the bed from the age of when she was first born, just all up in the bed. Then it's like, that's how you was trying to get it on. When she was, she would start crying, wake up or whatever. And at some point, at 1 point, I had to look at her when she was mad young and be like, Yo fam, like 

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Speaker 4: you killing your dad right now. 

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Speaker 1: I got a girl. 

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you're killing your dad right now. 

00:20:43 - 00:21:08

Speaker 1: Yeah. You know, but then she also went through like this, like jealous age, like any time like Ricky was sitting next to me or You know like we would you know try to cuddle or whatever rainy would get real mad And be like and basically push her mom up off me And so I don't be understanding that shit either. It's like Like come on man, like, you know, but yeah, we went but you're gonna tell a 2 or 3 year old at the time. 

00:21:08 - 00:21:10

Speaker 2: Yeah Yeah, but you're gonna 

00:21:10 - 00:21:12

Speaker 1: tell 2 3 year old at that time. 

00:21:12 - 00:21:27

Speaker 2: Yeah, you heard me like this my daddy Wow But yeah, speaking of the the kid movies, I think 1 that came up recently, and I thought this movie was a shit back then it was blank check. Remember when he kissed the 

00:21:27 - 00:21:30

Speaker 1: older chick? Yeah, bro. 

00:21:30 - 00:21:37

Speaker 2: Every kid want to be that kid during that scene, bro. I'm like, oh yeah, he won. Shit, she was bad too. 

00:21:39 - 00:21:41

Speaker 1: Yeah, you just showed the boys that movie? 

00:21:41 - 00:21:54

Speaker 2: Nah, they haven't watched it. They don't really have the patience to sit down and watch it. Like Maro does, Mac ain't got time for it. And the younger ones, you know, they just want to watch like animation movies. But some of them movies, they'd be having some gyms. 

00:21:54 - 00:21:56

Speaker 2: But some of them do be kind of crazy. 

00:21:57 - 00:22:16

Speaker 1: Yeah, we yeah, kind of our we had We did like a family or just being rainy. We had a movie night in the basement. So we turn off all the lights off and she's got her snacks or whatever she wants. And I showed her a jingle all the way. You remember that movie with Arnold and Sinbad? 

00:22:16 - 00:22:28

Speaker 1: Like I said, that was shot in Minnesota. And we watched that movie and I'm like, you like this movie? She's like, no. I was like, I could turn it off then. She's like, no, it's fine. 

00:22:28 - 00:22:39

Speaker 1: You could just leave it, you know, playing it off. She's like, Daddy, this movie just isn't funny. And I'm like, Oh, okay. And a turbo man, turbo man, bro. That movie was cracking. 

00:22:39 - 00:22:47

Speaker 1: I'm like, I ain't seen this movie since that shit came out or like around that time. But man, I'm like, this movie was, was dope. But then there was a Christmas 

00:22:47 - 00:23:02

Speaker 2: classic for me bro but you I wonder if it's just I wonder if it's just cuz we're in Minnesota and it was filmed here are we like all that movies elite you know me I thought the movie was dope though I do we do watch that but the number 1 for us is home alone over here during the holiday yeah it's just time 

00:23:03 - 00:23:08

Speaker 1: for show yeah so any name a call home alone that shit's called Kevin 

00:23:10 - 00:23:17

Speaker 2: But do you know they have like 10 of them motherfuckers? Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, why do y'all keep remaking this? 

00:23:18 - 00:23:34

Speaker 1: Man, they be getting ideas. And they're like, yo, this 1 brand is so lucrative that we're just gonna keep doing it over and over and over again And to your point, it's like at least change the niggas name up like why can't he be Tevin or some shit? You know what I'm saying? 

00:23:34 - 00:23:35

Speaker 2: Like change. 

00:23:35 - 00:23:40

Speaker 5: Yeah, like change Tevin. Yeah, Tevin ain't never had, like yo, they 

00:23:40 - 00:23:48

Speaker 1: ain't never had no black, no black Home Alone character. You know what I'm saying? Like, but yeah, change his name to Tevin. Change the characters names up 

00:23:48 - 00:24:11

Speaker 2: instead of buzz cuz and it's 2023 nigga they think Tevin and cuz around this bitch hey somebody a it's 2023 breast somebody to call CPS bro cuz a you can't leave this nigga alone tapping and cuz. Hey, that's wild. 

00:24:12 - 00:24:14

Speaker 1: Yeah, man. Imagine. 

00:24:24 - 00:24:26

Speaker 4: Can you imagine them niggas be like, I go 

00:24:26 - 00:24:30

Speaker 1: to Teva's crib. Nope. No more. Right. 

00:24:30 - 00:24:32

Speaker 4: Hey, you know, you know, 

00:24:32 - 00:24:33

Speaker 1: **** **** 

00:24:33 - 00:24:49

Speaker 2: Tevicky **** us up. Straight up. Hey, bro, That's funny as hell. And there's social media and s**t now, bro. You probably looking up how to build bombs and bro, it should be real 2023. 

00:24:49 - 00:25:04

Speaker 1: Nah, we do this. Straight up though. Yeah, we need a trap movie caught, you know, the home alone black version of star and severed it cuz man Let's let's make that shit Hey, yeah, that's it. Let's make that shit happen. You know I'm saying 

00:25:05 - 00:25:12

Speaker 2: so speaking of Christmas and shit man like do you You tell rainy about Santa 

00:25:14 - 00:25:31

Speaker 1: Or yeah, man, we went to go see Santa Larry yesterday. He's a black Santa. So we went to go see him yesterday. She's going to she has gone to see Santa or Santa Larry since she was. So she was first 

00:25:31 - 00:25:32

Speaker 2: born in a Larry. 

00:25:32 - 00:25:55

Speaker 1: So Santa, Santa, Larry, Santa, Larry. So he's he's the black Santa actually my guy's son Kingston Darwin son He was like 1 of the first kids to ever see Santa Leary here in Minnesota when he was just a baby baby. Yeah, it was an actually in the newspaper and everything. But that's kind of how we we found out about it. And it was just like, 

00:25:55 - 00:26:00

Speaker 2: oh, it's the name of the black Santa. Yeah. Santa Larry, 

00:26:00 - 00:26:04

Speaker 1: Santa Larry, L.A. R.R.Y. OK. OK. Yeah. 

00:26:04 - 00:26:16

Speaker 1: Never knew that. Yeah. But now his experience is like a Santa Larry experience. So he's here for a couple of weeks and he'll go to a different city or whatever. But they're always sold out. 

00:26:16 - 00:26:23

Speaker 1: So I guess soon as Santa Larry's here, we got to book that appointment like ASAP. And it's just it's a pretty low experience. 

00:26:23 - 00:26:28

Speaker 2: How about say what makes that experience, you know, better than, you know, the traditional? 

00:26:29 - 00:26:58

Speaker 1: So, you know, They they probably have us, you know, hopefully, you know, kids out here that still believe in Santa Claus, we we're giving you out a game, unfortunately. But, you know, so they basically have us fill out question a questionnaire about rainy prior to go into the experience. And so, you know, yesterday he knew that she had a birthday coming up. He knew about the Disney cruise about the take her on. He knew different things about her. 

00:26:58 - 00:27:13

Speaker 1: And she's just wowed. Like, man, Santa knows all these things about me. But, you know, he can also sing. He's got personality. So Santa Larry ain't just like the old grumpy ass Santa, like, oh, what you want for Christmas this year? 

00:27:13 - 00:27:31

Speaker 1: Like he asked him questions, but man, At least he got some personality to him. But you can tell, man, he just, it's really important for him to put smiles on kids' faces. And he enjoys that. So like, you know, the pose we chose is, they got their hands like this, you know what I'm saying? Oh, that's dope. 

00:27:31 - 00:27:38

Speaker 1: They're back to back and it's the Santa and Rainy experience. So that shit was dope, bro. 

00:27:41 - 00:27:56

Speaker 2: Before your story, so y'all niggas lying on my knees, y'all bringing her to fucking Wayne Brady. Wayne Brady dressed up as Santa, bruh. Nigga singing, tap dancing, and shit. Y'all, he's like, oh, so you went on a cruise. 

00:27:57 - 00:28:20

Speaker 1: Nah, he ain't checking to driving or nothing like that. But yeah, man. But yeah, I mean, I love kids. Kids should be innocent in my eyes, you know So like, you know, let them have that innocence for as long as possible I mean eventually it'll come out like, you know, I mean rainy be calling me Santa. So maybe she she secretly has some idea of what's going on. 

00:28:20 - 00:28:52

Speaker 1: But, you know, like for me, it's just like my I want her to remain a kid, be innocent, like dream. Don't worry about no adult shit. And so you need to You need to worry about it, you know, and then once you we got to worry about it, then, you know, we'll make sure you got the proper education that's needed to strive to the world. But but yeah, 1 of my favorite rainy and Santa Larry stories is so during covid. During covid, they had they were doing videos, So it was like a Zoom call. 

00:28:52 - 00:29:11

Speaker 1: You call into Zoom and you get the Santa experience. And they had like recorded the, what they would do is they recorded the interaction between the child and Santa Larry. And then they put it in like a some production. So it was like an entire production around it. And it was like a virtual experience. 

00:29:11 - 00:29:31

Speaker 1: It was super dope, actually. But Santa Larry asked Rainey, she's like, Rainey, what do you want for Christmas? And Rainey was, she was 2 or just turned 3 at the time, and her response was, like saying, Rainey, what do you want for Christmas? She said, I want a horse and a hammer. 

00:29:32 - 00:29:35

Speaker 6: And I said, the fuck? I said, what? 

00:29:35 - 00:29:41

Speaker 2: She's Xena, nigga. I didn't... She's Xena around this bitch. 

00:29:44 - 00:30:03

Speaker 1: I ain't know what the... Bro, I didn't know where she was going, what she was thinking, but yeah, bro, she... I was like, huh? And she said a horse and a hammer And I said what and then her mom was like a horse and a hammer and I'm sitting here like man. What the fuck? 

00:30:06 - 00:30:19

Speaker 2: Yeah, you raised an Avenger over there it's all good She gonna be tearing niggas down and building niggas up. It's all good. But, hey, that's important though, man. I agree with you. That imagination, man. 

00:30:19 - 00:30:31

Speaker 2: Keep the kids innocent as you can for as long as you can, man. Like, let them live, man. Cuz the world's, you know, real enough when they, as soon as they turn, you know, 16, 18, bro, that **** smack you in the face. 

00:30:32 - 00:30:37

Speaker 1: Nah, for sure. What about you, man? So I didn't know 

00:30:37 - 00:30:58

Speaker 2: about Santa Larry or nothing like that. But in the neighborhood, man, shout out to Uncle Michael and Aunt Tassie. Man, they always, every year, put on something at the coffee shop. Sadie's brings the boys there faithfully man and RIP to Eric Eric Coleman man. He was when I was younger, he was actually a friend of my dad's and he always was a black Santa. 

00:30:59 - 00:31:41

Speaker 2: You know, I went to the coffee shop. They hand out gifts and you know the kids go in there take pictures and they have a good time with him and also man Sadie's and her brother man shout out to Christian too every year Christian to call and put on his Santa voice Sadie's you know change her contact on her phone to Santa picture Santa pop up and he calls the boys and talks to them every year, you know, has a good conversation, saves the chorus, so hopefully, you know, when they get older, we'll put it all together and get the, you know, watch the videos together for the holidays. But yeah, man, it's that village, man. Like, you know, I'm not so much sold on the whole idea of Christmas and all that, but you know, family and you know, the people around you, just that energy, you know, is a beautiful thing, man. So, so yeah. 

00:31:41 - 00:31:54

Speaker 2: So that's normally what we do, but you know me, bro. Nigga, We spending our bread and all that shit, nigga. Who the fuck is Santa? You know what I mean? Like, nigga, you see Santa get up every day at 5.30, nigga? 

00:31:54 - 00:32:08

Speaker 2: Hey. Hey, where my cookies at? Well, I guess, but no, like, it is important for that imagination piece for us, So, you know, we keep a balance around here because, you know, I got older Mac Mac over that shit. He like that. I want this. 

00:32:08 - 00:32:48

Speaker 2: Maro Maro gets the little catalogs in the mail every year. But he's circling, you know, 50, 50 items in that bitch. And here's what I want. But, you know, this year is kind of smooth I was shocked because you know they got the whole tick-tock shop but you know Maro tick-tock King so he you know he's like hey this is what I want it's the whole bunch of shit on tick-tock bruh that shit was like a dollar 38 258 399 I'm like oh shit This nigga by the had a best Christmas ever bringing everything he want this year That shit ain't nothing but so, you know Quarters and dollars brah. Hey, this nigga shit about to be lit Well, yeah, It's just it's just about family man and just putting smiles on 

00:32:48 - 00:32:49

Speaker 1: the kids faces, but that's 

00:32:49 - 00:32:54

Speaker 2: that's all it's about man But we ain't doing a white Santa shit over here 

00:32:55 - 00:32:59

Speaker 1: So do they know what do they think man? Do they know about Santa Claus or do they think 

00:32:59 - 00:33:12

Speaker 2: the 2 younger ones? They're still innocent and they still you know get excited for Santa and all that, but Maro and Mac, they, nah, they're too old. They like, hey, Mom, Dad, this is what I want, so. Yeah. 

00:33:12 - 00:33:18

Speaker 1: So did they always, like, Did they ever believe in Santa or were you just kind of like... 

00:33:18 - 00:33:55

Speaker 2: They did. Man, because you know, we had the boys young, right? So I was kind of immature still in some ways and the conversation I just had, me and Sage just go back and forth on it. She's like, no, they need to know Santa. And me, I'm like, we ain't going to be lying to our kids about some white man you know coming jumping down the chimney giving them gifts but you know the imagination piece and then you know if you have Santa look like them then it's not as bad for me you know what I mean cuz keep it a bug nigga what white man ever you know really want to give some niggas in the hood or really, you know, do something for us in our type of environments or households like that shit. 

00:33:55 - 00:34:12

Speaker 2: I just I wasn't feeling that aspect of it. But, you know, it lighten the blows when you have the village community, You know, let's go see a Santa Larry or you know, black Santa Eric, you know, I'm saying Just let them know that their people would look out and they give and you know, they're dope too. So that was the biggest thing for me 

00:34:13 - 00:34:21

Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's dope So like how do you like, you know, how do the older kids keep the innocence going, you know, innocent moments going? 

00:34:21 - 00:34:32

Speaker 2: It's sad because they don't bro. Like they're exposed to too much now. Like we have to check on Mac and just see what he's seen on his Tik Tok and on his feed. You know what I mean? It's like the older they get man. 

00:34:32 - 00:35:00

Speaker 2: It's like they're missing so much like They're missing innocence bro. Like they're exposed to so much because of social media is hard to Hide or you know I'm saying like you just have to have real conversations now Like I remember growing up like as soon as I hit like junior high or sixth grade, like it was a big thing for me. Like I used to love coming home from school, being able to watch recess, like watch all these cartoons. And they go 1 day all that shit stopped, and they get with Stray Mori and Judge Judy. And like, 

00:35:00 - 00:35:01

Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying? 

00:35:02 - 00:35:48

Speaker 2: So not having cable at grandma's crib you know I had to face reality quick bro like oh shit well my childhood's over so I see a whole lot of that you know what I mean and I try to do things like you know to keep them young but name they don't be trying to hear that even in the music nowadays where it's like what there ain't even no kid artists no more that you know says cool shit to make them feel cool or make their youth valuable it's like nah you gotta grow up you know what I'm saying you gotta want to be grown So it's a hard thing to juggle for me over here. There's not too much, too much stuff out there for kids anymore. Teenagers to keep them young, all of it's to keep them, you know, focusing on being 18 and being grown and just being adults. It's like, it's hard, man. 

00:35:50 - 00:36:17

Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's, that's real, man. I think, I would say like, yo, tell your kids not they can't even use social media, but. Then it creates something where, you know, they go on their friends' phones at school or their friends talking about it. And I think it just makes things a lot more curious versus just kind of finding out, right? But I think it's also figuring out what that right age and all that shit is. 

00:36:17 - 00:36:36

Speaker 1: Like, I remember, you know, we tried to keep the iPad out of Remy's hands and that worked for I would say that the first couple years you know tried to just not have her be on the phone, but I Remember like she started watching these kids and calling Emma and Jimmy. And it was just like they would just play with toys. 

00:36:36 - 00:36:38

Speaker 2: Yeah, we and 

00:36:38 - 00:36:50

Speaker 1: that shit was so fucking weird to me. And that shit pissed me off. So my bags, I'm like, yo, fam, you got your own toys. Go play with them. And so like, you know, we had to phase that shit out, man. 

00:36:50 - 00:36:56

Speaker 1: Like, you know, and like I asked Rainey now, like, do you remember Emma Jimmy? She's like, No, who's that? And I'm like, Oh, well, that's good because. 

00:36:56 - 00:36:57

Speaker 2: Perfect. Yeah. 

00:36:57 - 00:37:13

Speaker 1: Like, you know, I'm glad like the YouTubers made money or whatever, and they hopefully have their set up for life or for whatever. They got that jump start. Nothing wrong with that. But it was just the point of like, man, why are we watched? Having our kids watch other kids play like that just. 

00:37:14 - 00:37:36

Speaker 1: Seems weird, man, like, you know, like I know people, you know, there might be kids that watch other people play video games and I'm like, y'all don't want to play the game. I just want to watch them play the game. Like it's different now man YouTube. YouTube was a game changer for show like man and is in is different man. And like for myself, I'm just like, you know, that just doesn't. 

00:37:36 - 00:37:51

Speaker 1: I want my daughter to to live her life a little bit more and to experience the shit on her own. You know, there's nothing wrong with observing or, you know, Like, oh, I need to beat this level. Let me see how this guy beat this level so I could try to beat it. Then cool. Right. 

00:37:51 - 00:37:55

Speaker 1: But like, I don't know, man, just sit there on YouTube all day. 

00:37:55 - 00:37:56

Speaker 2: Hello, we're 

00:37:56 - 00:38:03

Speaker 1: hoping to avoid that, man. I'm hoping to avoid that because It's just not I don't I don't get it. I don't understand. 

00:38:03 - 00:38:03

Speaker 3: I'm gonna 

00:38:03 - 00:38:04

Speaker 2: limit her screen time now 

00:38:06 - 00:38:34

Speaker 1: We need to start doing it more but rainy also doesn't just sit in front of the screen or her tablet all day So she'd rather color or like lately man she's been coming home and we've been the teachers like she all she wants to do is learn, like literally all she wants to do is learn, man, like she wants to play school where she's a teacher and she's a mean teacher. Like I don't even like going to her classroom because she's too fucking mean. 

00:38:34 - 00:38:35

Speaker 2: Miss manageable, huh? 

00:38:35 - 00:38:57

Speaker 1: Yeah. And then like, you know, if I'm a teacher, then she got to try to control how I teach and all, you know, all the other stuff. But she's been wanting to come home and do a bunch of math. And so like it's kind of dope that like she doesn't even. I think it's because we don't like we never tried to weaponize the screen time like, hey, you can't, you know, have it for X amount of time. 

00:38:57 - 00:39:30

Speaker 1: But it's just like we try to show her a different way away from the screen, you know, so I mean, she has some days where she might watch TV or be on her iPad more. But then there's also some where she's just off. There's more time where she's just off doing her own thing or playing or, you know, jumping on me versus worrying about you know some type of screen or something so. No for sure. Parents man you got to find that balance man I know it's hard like especially when the kids won't stop moving they won't shut 

00:39:30 - 00:39:40

Speaker 2: up The easiest thing is like man here take this phone take this iPad go sit down be quiet But yeah, we got we got a we got to do a better job, man Keeping you occupied 

00:39:41 - 00:40:05

Speaker 1: especially working from home and Kovac was Kovac literally changed the game in so many fucking ways, like especially when you got kids at the crib and you're working at the crib, like if that was your situation, that shit was hard because it's like, yo, kids just want your attention. They don't care about. I mean, you could not buy your kids anything. And if they got your attention, they're going to be fine. Right. 

00:40:05 - 00:40:26

Speaker 1: But that ain't how we're conditioned at all. We ain't conditioned for that. We're like, yo, we got to we got to put food on the you know, you want to eat. Right. Like, you know, we got to we got to work to work for that you want clothes right you want stuff right or at least we think they They want things and so you know Man, I wish this shit was hard. 

00:40:26 - 00:40:40

Speaker 1: Oh man the 3 of us at the crib all the time And I you know for the most part it was it was mostly on me, and I'm like man like yo, I guess I'm not working today cuz You know like 

00:40:41 - 00:40:51

Speaker 2: you got plans for the day No, that shit get canceled ASAP especially when they're at the crib. No that shit's over with So do you do like the whole time out thing? Or what is your punishment look like for her? 

00:40:52 - 00:40:56

Speaker 1: Man, like I told you, man, just like go sit your ass down somewhere. Go lay down somewhere, man. 

00:40:59 - 00:41:02

Speaker 2: After I tell you the third time, bro, go sit your ass down somewhere. 

00:41:03 - 00:41:43

Speaker 1: Yeah, man. Like, man, lately, though, bro, I got to check myself, man, because I've been getting because she's at the age now where she's 6. And it's like things are coming off a lot more lippy, you know, like more like smart, smart, Alec, or whatever you want to call it like You know, so now it's like oh go do this. Well, you didn't say I had to do this and so now it's just like man. I've been angry man starting to come out a little bit like, you know It's testing my Switzerland this you know testing my inner Switzerland because it's just like Rainy go do it and then For the most part I would say like 70% of the time if I tell her to go do it, she'll do it right away. 

00:41:43 - 00:41:48

Speaker 1: If her mom goes and tells her to do something. It'd be dependent, right? Like, 

00:41:49 - 00:41:49

Speaker 3: but 

00:41:49 - 00:41:58

Speaker 1: it's just like your mom shouldn't have to tell you this time and time again. So then sometimes she tries to split me and Ricky up, where- Play her 

00:41:58 - 00:41:59

Speaker 2: cards, yup. 

00:41:59 - 00:42:04

Speaker 1: She'll say something like, mom, do I gotta do this? And I'm like, yup, go do it. She's like, I'm talking to mom. 

00:42:04 - 00:42:08

Speaker 2: Aw, damn. Yeah. She knows how you feel about it already. 

00:42:09 - 00:42:14

Speaker 1: Yeah. And it's like, look here, little nigga, I'm your daddy. Go do what the fuck I tell you to do you know 

00:42:19 - 00:42:59

Speaker 2: man the babies that yeah man like my boys it's harder for the younger ones, man, because when they get into that screaming mode, the 2 year old, bruh, that's screaming s**t. Man, I watched this thing where it says like, you know, you getting old cuz everything just seemed too loud Bruh, I fly I got a headache every other day birth like man It's like a screaming man. Go take your ass in the room and the baby man. I got so soft at the dad, bro he'll be like no and I'm like, come here come here lay down like I'm getting softer and softer, bro, but Like as a parent it gets exhausting fighting them same battles every day, bro. It's like, all right, you ain't gonna shut up man here, man. 

00:42:59 - 00:43:13

Speaker 2: It's like my phone to just be quiet for a second. So, you know what I'm saying? I'm most deaf can relate to needing to limit the screen time better. But man, that shit come through in the clutch sometimes, especially when we're out in public. Like that's the hardest thing for me. 

00:43:13 - 00:43:40

Speaker 2: Like we don't go out to eat as much as we should. Like we don't go out in public because I hate having my kids in public, bro Like baby's falling on the floor as soon as you like take his napkin or he's still a water or something crazy It's like say this is why we should have stayed at home, but it's not really fair. But I Gotta protect my energy breath cuz you hey, you know what dad walking around here pissed off It's gonna be a tough time for everybody. So it's hard, bro. 

00:43:41 - 00:44:08

Speaker 1: Yeah. And I mean, that is interesting. And I think like, you know, having 1, my experience is different than having 4. But I also kind of what you you know, the nice thing with you saying you're being soft, is it being soft or is it just the fact that you now have so much experience that you're like, man, that little small shit that used to piss me off with the first 1. Just don't make me as mad anymore with the second with the last 1. 

00:44:08 - 00:44:09

Speaker 1: You know, it depends. It depends on 

00:44:09 - 00:44:11

Speaker 2: who you ask, because, you know, 

00:44:11 - 00:44:11

Speaker 1: OK, 

00:44:11 - 00:44:36

Speaker 2: the old geez, you know, I'm saying they like, oh, you let him tell, you know, and then I'm like, oh, shit, am I am I being too soft? But then it's like, do I really want to fight that battle when at the end of the day nigga I know I'm gonna be the 1 losing because either way if I punish him he's still gonna be screaming you know I mean cuz he a baby he don't know so as you know I don't know maybe I'm being soft maybe I'm being wise I don't know 

00:44:37 - 00:44:52

Speaker 1: yeah man we're gonna have to ask the audience to comment on that 1, man. Like, yo, is it like, do we need to discipline our kids in every single action? Or should we lay off a little bit? What's the balance? 

00:44:53 - 00:44:53

Speaker 2: Is it 

00:44:53 - 00:44:59

Speaker 1: a balance? Or is it like, nope, you got to do the same thing consistently Every single time 

00:44:59 - 00:45:10

Speaker 2: is it appropriate for your kid to tell you no and you accept it or should that not be an option? That's another good question. Yeah, let us know, let us know parents. 

00:45:10 - 00:45:47

Speaker 1: Let us know. Speaking of which man, I know you've seen TI and his son King, I think his name was King, his youngest son, you know, What's your thoughts on that whole thing man so for people that don't know over the weekend Ti was performing at the Atlanta Falcons game and somebody said something to his youngest son King and King had just he went off he went off on the people and tiny who is TI's wife and Kings mom she asked she had some things to say back to King and 

00:45:48 - 00:45:49

Speaker 2: Torian's childhood crush. 

00:45:51 - 00:45:57

Speaker 1: Not at all. Not at all. 

00:46:01 - 00:46:03

Speaker 2: Yeah, but no, I mean, like, 

00:46:03 - 00:46:11

Speaker 1: but anyway, in the being a big ass fight between the family in it, you know, I ended up on finding social media. So what's your thoughts on it? 

00:46:13 - 00:47:06

Speaker 2: I feel like is being like, blew up more like bigger than what it actually was but you know at the same time it's like kids man respect your parents enough to not have them explain this to the general public like don't do this shit in public like I don't think he said anything that was overly offensive to King like Everyone knows you grew up privileged birth like your dad gave you a great life And now whether you want to you know, I don't know what it is with this younger generation always want to prove themselves To to each other like oh, I'm tough. I'm from the hood. I'm this I'm that it's like dude your dad blessed you with a great life man do not take that shit for granted so all TI was pretty much saying is like you wanted to go to your grandma's house you chose to want to try to be hood when really we gave you an out. Like you were blessed, bro. You had a big house and all of that. 

00:47:06 - 00:47:40

Speaker 2: Like, I don't understand what the big dispute is about. I feel like it's just King, like, still being a little immature and still trying to find himself. I think that TI just got the, you know, he just got the worst end of it during this period of time but he kept his composure and sometimes as a dad man like if your kids stick his chest out you do gotta let them know like hey bro respect me I am your dad like and I can still beat your ass like they need that sometimes. So I feel like, you know, King was out of line and it's just him being young, still trying to find himself. But I don't like how social media is like. 

00:47:40 - 00:47:56

Speaker 2: I feel like they're overdoing it, bro. Just looking for, you know, storyline, a headline for clickbait and all that shit. But, you know, they didn't throw blows. Should I see some videos on on X and Tick-Tock where these parents is fighting, fighting? So, you know, I feel like you're just King trying to find himself. 

00:47:56 - 00:47:57

Speaker 2: How you feel about it? 

00:47:58 - 00:48:14

Speaker 1: Man, I think it's very interesting because, You know. King is T.I.'s son. Right. And so like it's T.I. Sitting there talking about, can you embarrass yourself, you embarrass yourself? 

00:48:15 - 00:48:21

Speaker 1: Well, negative T.I. That was you 25 years ago. And T.I. Knows that, right? Like, King is your son. 

00:48:21 - 00:48:44

Speaker 1: And so like, he's just, yo, why is he trying to prove himself? Like, everything you said, Mac, was 100% spot on, right? But from the perspective of, man, how many times have you seen where your kids do something that you used to do? And you're like, man, that shit was so stupid, or why are you doing this or whatever? And it's because they're your kid, right? 

00:48:44 - 00:48:49

Speaker 1: They, and King knew TI, when TI was still doing dumb shit, right? 

00:48:49 - 00:48:49

Speaker 3: And 

00:48:49 - 00:49:12

Speaker 1: so he's seen that and he said, okay. Well, that's how I got it. That's how I got to stand up I stand on business I stand on business Ain't nothing that I ain't ever said or wasn't King conditioned to be like that, right? Or I did not condition King to not be like that. And so like for myself, I'm like, oh, yeah, you just sit there yelling at your younger version of you. 

00:49:12 - 00:50:04

Speaker 1: And that probably makes you mad because now you realize, man, that shit was stupid. But at the same time, and like I do think that we can't silence or suppress somebody's passion right we can't they can't their passion can't be silenced And you know in that moment did it need to come out the Falcons game or whatever nah, but it's just like man, you know Somebody that was so passionate it's like man if you can filter that passion into like in and you can filter it into just like 1 thing or funnel it into 1 thing, man, when it comes out, man, it's beautiful. It is beautiful. So I think him trying to prove himself is like, man, that's just what he's conditioned to do. That's just how he was raised. 

00:50:04 - 00:50:11

Speaker 1: It's in his DNA But it's just like man was that at that moment was that this was at the right time in place? 

00:50:12 - 00:50:43

Speaker 2: Hey Listen bro, you fighting with your dad 1 who performed at the game? Also in a fucking suite So yeah, like I hear what you're saying Like he's a younger version of Ti but he had to face half the shit Ti did It's like sacrifices right like his dad went through the sacrifice. So he ain't got to go through that. It's like nigga you choosing to try to be hood. You don't have to take that route Why and even if you do choose that why put that energy towards your dad or like who gave you a great life? 

00:50:43 - 00:51:06

Speaker 2: I? Think that kid just Tripping bruh. He got he got to accept who he is like they gave find some new friends, bruh, like Somebody who accepts you for who you are nigga Like you don't have to try to prove yourself to nobody and I feel like this younger generation, bro They struggle with that so much every pic they post They looking for validation. Oh, do you like this? Are you a comment on my picture? 

00:51:06 - 00:51:10

Speaker 2: You think I look good? It's like, nigga, fuck all that. You got to be confident in you, bro. 

00:51:11 - 00:51:40

Speaker 1: No, I mean, like I said, I mean, you said you said not 1 line, anything that you said, You know, I think, too, like, man, we, you know, we we got to glorify what you try to culture glorifies the hood. You know what I'm saying? It glorifies it, because if we didn't glorify it, it would it be that our demise, right? Like growing up, it'd be our demise. Like, you know, Mondo mentioned, you know, previous episodes, like he grew up privileged, like me and you ain't grow up that way. 

00:51:40 - 00:52:16

Speaker 1: You know, we didn't grow up that way. But, but we had access to to it when we go to, you know, different family members houses and whatnot. So like, that was kind of the nice thing, but it's just 1 of them things when, I think the hood has been glorified, and so people feel like, oh, I gotta prove my toughness because of music, because of culture, because of all these things. And then like as you know, the OGs now are like a T.I. Or you know, whoever you want to say it, it's kind of like, man, they look at it like, hey, I bust them. 

00:52:16 - 00:52:44

Speaker 1: I'm a fucking ass to get you So you don't have to worry about these situations. Now, what I'm asking you to do is, you know, you don't got to be no sellout or no lame or or whatever. But all I'm asking you to do is is filter that energy in, you know, take it to the next level, right? Take what I have and build it to the next level. So we don't have to go back to that because, you know, it ain't all pretty. 

00:52:44 - 00:53:07

Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? There's so many people that, you know, how many friends, you know, we both know people that ain't around no more, right? From the street life, so That should name a shenan glorify. We do got to move forward to move on and but I think it's also a young I you think to man like, you know youth You know when you're when you're young can't nobody tell you shit, bro. 

00:53:07 - 00:53:08

Speaker 2: The young 

00:53:08 - 00:53:12

Speaker 1: mentality, especially when niggas is testing your nuts. 

00:53:12 - 00:53:31

Speaker 2: They can't be doing that, nigga. But I mean, yeah, like you said, and we gotta change that narrative, bro. Like, you know what I'm saying? Being successful and being a trailblazer and setting your people up, nigga, that's the new gangster, bro. Being broke on the streets, nigga, doing shit that ain't gonna get you nowhere but dead or jail, That shit dead, bro. 

00:53:32 - 00:53:39

Speaker 2: Like, we gotta change that. I don't know how, but shit, I don't know. Hopefully some young boys listen to this right now, bro. 

00:53:41 - 00:54:01

Speaker 1: So like, what do you tell your kids, man? I mean, they grow up, they live in the neighborhood, right? I mean, you know, your daddy ain't no punk. My main no punk. So what do you tell your kids when you confirm a confrontation, you know, adversity or somebody talking shit like what's the what do you tell them? 

00:54:02 - 00:55:03

Speaker 2: Man, use your fucking head, bro. So last week we're at the gym And there's a group of kids in there And you know, they're all they all come together, you know, they run like 20 deep to the gym, which is cool, man. I I applaud and I think it's dope because they could be out on the streets doing some some reckless shit but they come to the gym they're a little wild whatever but this kid like Mac was shooting and the kid like try to take his basketball and I'm just on the wall just just watching and the kid tried to take Max ball He wasn't trying to take it and leave like he was just trying to get some shots up but Mac like, you know He's a pretty boy, but he don't play that shit, right? So I'm just sitting there observing and then Next thing I see is Mac like grabbing this dude and like moving him pushing them trying to get his ball back Like hey, dude, get my fucking ball, right? And I'm just sitting there and I'm looking I'm looking at the scenery and The dude stopped and look and it was like a grown-ass Do I he had a beard a fucking mustache and Mac is in eighth grade, right? 

00:55:03 - 00:55:29

Speaker 2: But Mac is also like Bigger stronger than he knows like Mac when I'm kids like he'll come fucking work out by itself, right? Walk around with his shirt off this nigga fucking chills. I'll walk around the crib got me feeling away anyways Anyways so like he just like took dude, moved him, pushed him and just stood over him like man, give me my fucking ball, you doing too much. And then the dude and I'm like, hey, and the dude look, and like, dude was respectful. He said he must have seen I was his dad. 

00:55:29 - 00:55:47

Speaker 2: So he like, you know, walked away, but he looked at Mac like, like, this nigga just for real just pushed me? And I'm like, I called Mac over. I'm like, hey man, like, I get it. Like, you ain't no punk or none, but you know, is it really worth it? I looked down there and I showed him like, hey dude, them is all his friends. 

00:55:47 - 00:55:52

Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like, would it have been worth it? Cause if I'm not here, y'all probably would have started fighting. And it's just you and your little brother here. 

00:55:52 - 00:55:53

Speaker 3: Would it have been worth it cuz if I'm not here Y'all probably would have started fighting and it's just you and 

00:55:53 - 00:56:12

Speaker 2: your little brother here Would it have been worth it if he decided to tell his friends and they all try to jump because more than likely that's what would Have happened you know I mean And Mac he's so naive to it. He's like, man, no, dad. He was doing too much. And I'm like, OK, so, nigga, you must be ready to fight, right? And he said, yeah. 

00:56:12 - 00:56:34

Speaker 2: I'm like, so you know how to fight? He's like, yeah. I'm like, OK, but just make sure that you're conscious of What's your little brother and if the dudes try to jump you what something happen tomorrow? Like you know I'm saying what something bad happens to you, then I get a phone call About you getting jump. It should have been so unnecessary so me and Mercedes try to talk to him about his surroundings and just being aware of the outcome that could happen. 

00:56:34 - 00:57:28

Speaker 2: Worst case scenario, you know what I'm saying? Like he wasn't like, he doesn't have that street knowledge to know, like, damn, all of them niggas probably would have jumped on me just because I didn't want this dude touching my basketball. So it's just lessons like that bro like just got to stay in your ear and constantly just remind them like some things can be ignored and it doesn't make you a punk it makes you a more of a man to ignore the little shit that don't really matter even though you know I'm saying it is irritating and frustrating sometimes but you got to you got to pick your battles wisely so I just try to have those conversations with them you know hey cuz this is scary thing bruh like Sadie's just told me this morning there was a kid at Central High School who brought a gun to school you know I'm saying our situation with our little brother it's like niggas ain't really out here trying to fight no more, man. They trying to do you bad. Like I see the a report of some teenagers jumping his kid and the kid died. 

00:57:29 - 00:57:43

Speaker 2: And now all the teenagers are getting sentenced to prison time and all that shit it's like Pick your battles wisely man because this world is world a fair man and niggas don't show mercy no more So just be conscious of that. Yeah, I bet I ramble for a minute. 

00:57:43 - 00:58:05

Speaker 1: No, you straight Now you straight bro, you said a lot of shit that makes a ton of sense to me because I'll be watching, you know, I try not to watch some high school fights. You know what I'm saying? You see on Twitter and shit all the time. It's like my fuckers are so quick to be pussies and pick up a camera and record a shit, you know what I'm saying? But it'd be like, man, these fights, kids are getting embarrassed. 

00:58:05 - 00:58:13

Speaker 1: And it's like that embarrassment can last their entire lives. Like now it's like, man, we fighting for like, man, we grew up. We used to be able to make mistakes. 

00:58:14 - 00:58:14

Speaker 3: You know 

00:58:14 - 00:58:31

Speaker 1: what I'm saying? Or or, you know, you get into a fight and it was just like, you know, we move on. We're going to see that next day. I might not like each other or whatever, but at least you still see each other in the next day, which is the point, you know? And it's like nowadays, man, everybody's so I got to be famous or whatever. 

00:58:31 - 00:58:59

Speaker 1: And it's like, man, I got to watch that shit. Like, you know, little niggas are trying to put their hands on my daughter last year in school and I'm like hold on man like you know Rainey likes to play with boys she just you know she's a she's a boss and she just likes to play and you know boys play a lot rougher than girls do and so it's just like You know, but I don't give you the right to fucking hit, you know, and so I had to you know Go to the school Had to put 

00:58:59 - 00:59:01

Speaker 2: on the shelf for a minute, 

00:59:01 - 00:59:14

Speaker 1: you know No, it's what's gonna showed up and I'm saying But I had to do it. I did had to educate the, I had to let it be known that we ain't gonna do that. Like we don't play them games in these streets, you know what I'm saying? So that was known for sure. 

00:59:15 - 00:59:44

Speaker 2: OK, had to let them know. I feel it. Like the toughest thing is knowing us as parents, right? Like, what's our reaction, our thought process when we get a phone call or when our kid texts us something, it's like, fuck, nah. Now I'm in a situation that's like, man, what would I had did, like, all these boys try to jump on my son like mm-hmm What's my what's my consequence gonna look like cuz you know what I'm gonna do, but it's like What is that? 

00:59:44 - 00:59:49

Speaker 2: What's the aftermath look like like Mac? Don't put me in that position. You know what I mean? 

00:59:50 - 00:59:55

Speaker 1: Right. Nah, I feel you. I feel you, because, nigga, you would have started biting their ankles. 

00:59:56 - 00:59:56

Speaker 2: Man, here we go. 

00:59:56 - 00:59:56

Speaker 3: You know what 

00:59:56 - 00:59:59

Speaker 1: I'm saying? We in the Bulldog and you would have came out, nigga. 

00:59:59 - 01:00:00

Speaker 4: You started biting your ankles. 

01:00:00 - 01:00:05

Speaker 1: Ankles like started barking. Set them up like a breath. Started calling 

01:00:05 - 01:00:17

Speaker 2: him everything. But man, I know, man, but I don't know, bro. Kids, man, please be safe out here, man. And just, you know, know you ain't got to prove yourself to nobody, bro. Cuz **** can get dangerous. 

01:00:17 - 01:00:24

Speaker 2: Don't put your parents and the people who love you in bad situations, man. That's the first step of being a real G and a real boss. 

01:00:24 - 01:00:28

Speaker 3: Yeah, nah, for sure, for sure. Man, you wanna wrap it up today, bro? 

01:00:29 - 01:00:34

Speaker 2: Man, I I was hoping you was gonna wrap it up man, but yeah 

01:00:35 - 01:00:35

Speaker 1: All right. 

01:00:35 - 01:00:54

Speaker 3: I got you. I got you. So, you know Once again, man, we just want to thank everybody for for for watching this every week, you know clicks Clicking that like button subscribing whatever platform If you've made it this far, that means you really are a real 

01:00:56 - 01:00:57

Speaker 1: good. 

01:01:00 - 01:01:12

Speaker 2: Just so you all know, it was me that had a fire alarm beeping and I can tell that shit wouldn't be Who the fuck got 9b battery day we got 1 of the bitches though, so we all good. It's had to clear that up 

01:01:12 - 01:01:32

Speaker 3: Yeah, we good. We good. We good on that tip But yeah, like every every click does matter man. Every like does does matter and we doing it out here man. It's so like You know at the end of the day man as parents We just got to do our best but you know as adults like man is Times is changing and we got to stick together and work through work through it together. 

01:01:32 - 01:01:47

Speaker 3: So man, we just appreciate all y'all for listening. You know, like I said again, like, subscribe and, you know, follow us on all the social media platforms. But man, you know, it was, We definitely miss Mondo this episode. So but 

01:01:47 - 01:01:54

Speaker 2: yeah, yes, sir No, man love man appreciate all y'all for sure 

01:01:55 - 01:02:08

Speaker 3: cool cool so for Mac P I am Torian Aka daddy thank you for joining us for another episode of the They Call Me Daddy Appearance Podcast. We out!