EPI 65 - Finding Your Medicine

Welcome back! This week, I'm pulling back the curtain a bit to share why I missed last week's episode and what's been consuming my creative energy lately. I've been in what I call a "creative vortex", pouring everything into building and curating my brand new 21-day speaker series, "Feel Your Rest: Holistic Practices for Energy, Vitality, and Confidence in Perimenopause and Beyond". It's been an incredible journey, thrilling, exhilarating, exhausting, but ultimately incredibly fulfilling. This experience has really reinforced a core truth: when we create something big, we often have to let other things temporarily fall away, and that's completely okay. This episode is a gentle, yet powerful, reminder that healing is never one-size-fits-all, and the profound truth that "you already carry the medicine inside of you". I challenge the common approach of immediately reaching for prescriptions and instead advocate for diving deep into lifestyle changes, inner work, and exploring various holistic practices to truly find what works for you.

Key Takeaways:

• Embrace the "Creative Vortex": It's okay to temporarily let other things go when focusing on a big creation.
  
  
• Decide, Commit, Do the Damn Thing: If you want to achieve something, make a decision, commit, and take action.
  
  
• "Chop Wood, Carry Water": Growth requires consistent, sometimes unglamorous, daily effort.
  
  
• Listen to Your Body: Symptoms are your body's messages asking for balance and guidance.
  
  
• Find Your Unique Medicine: Discover your specific combination of tools, practices, and beliefs for well-being.
  
  
• Question Limiting Beliefs: Midlife is an opportunity to re-evaluate and reshape old belief systems.
  
  
• Prioritize Lifestyle First: Focus on lifestyle changes like diet, movement, and stress reduction before relying solely on medication.

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Transcript

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Hello, welcome back to the habit within I'm Camille Kinsler, your host. And if you didn't notice last week, I did not drop a new episode. I just simply didn't have the time.

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I've been in what I like to call a creation of vortex or a creative vortex for the past several weeks. I've been pouring absolutely everything all my time and my energy and my creativity and to building and curating this 21 days speaker series where I have one speaker a day for 21 days. I'll tell you more about that later.

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It's called feel your rest, holistic practices for energy, vitality, and confidence and perimenopause and beyond. It's been amazing. It's been thrilling, exhilarating, exhausting, but incredibly fulfilling.

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And the truth is when we create something so big and we try to fit it into our life, that's already on, you know, already flow in has a full schedule where we already have these routines and commitments that we have. The truth is, is that we have to let something go in order to fill it with this new thing. Welcome to the habit within this podcast is for high achieving women, 35 and older who seem to have it all together, but feel like they're constantly running on fumes, struggling to balance it all and losing sight of the woman they used to be.

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I'm Camille Kinsler, a former physician assistant turned transformational coach, blending science, positive psychology, and a metaphysical approach to habits, health, and vitality. If you've ever asked yourself, why am I so exhausted even after a full night's sleep, or I feel like I'm juggling so much, but I'm just barely keeping my head above water. You are in the right place.

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Each week we'll explore the real reasons behind feeling overwhelmed, trapped in the cycle of overworking and constantly running low on energy and how to break free from the patterns, keeping you stuck in survival mode. It's time to stop living on autopilot and to start feeling like yourself again. Let's dive in.

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Hello. Welcome back to the habit within. I'm Camille Kinsler, your host.

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And if you didn't notice last week, I did not drop a new episode. I just simply didn't have the time. I've been in what I like to call a creation of vortex or a creative vortex for the past several weeks.

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I've been pouring absolutely everything all my time and my energy and my creativity into building and curating this 21 day speaker series where I have one speaker a day for 21 days. I'll tell you more about that later. It's called feel your rest, holistic practices for energy, vitality and confidence and perimenopause and beyond.

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It's been amazing. It's been thrilling, exhilarating, exhausting, but incredibly fulfilling. And the truth is when we create something so big and we try to fit it into our life that's already on, you know, already flowing, has a full schedule where we already have these routines and commitments that we have.

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The truth is, is that we have to let something go in order to fill it with this new thing. And I knew that what I was doing was kind of a temporary, you know, 60 days of really putting it all into this creation. And so later on, I could get back into my habits and rituals that I've that I know are really there to nourish me long term, but short term, that short term cortisol and adrenaline that we get when we're creating something new is completely fine and it's completely healthy.

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And we all need to feel that moment where we're like, this is the only thing that I want to do right now. This is the only thing that matters in my life. And that really meant that I didn't get as much sleep because I would want to wake up early and start my day and really creating some of the content that I'm going to offer you guys in this series and connecting with these amazing speakers, y'all.

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I mean, truly, they tell you, they teach you what has worked in their lives during perimenopause and beyond. And they just have so much wisdom. So I cannot wait for it to go live next week.

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But here's the thing is that, like I mentioned, is when we are creating something new, we have to let other things fall away for a time and it's completely OK. So I'm not beating myself up over it. So I hope that you forgive me for not being consistent in your world.

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But sometimes we just have to, you know, do the thing that works best for us in the moment. But here's the other thing that I really want to share with you is that this summit, this creation is something that I had done in a smaller format a few years ago. But I, you know, I had seven speakers and not 21.

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And it was seven days, not 21 days. But it was live. And this one is not live.

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But the thing is, is that I knew that it was going to take a lot of time and commitment. And so I was putting it off for quite a while. I also knew that I really love doing it because I love connecting with other people in my field.

And so often when we do a virtual practice like this, we don't have that human connection. So that was one of my biggest things. And I love learning new things and sharing them with other people.

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It's another part of one of my values and something that I'm really committed to. So. But here's the thing, I was dragging my feet doing it because I knew it was going to swallow up a lot of the other extra things that I do in my life.

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But you have to decide, you have to commit and you have to just do the damn thing. And that's what I told myself. Just you decided you want to do it now, commit and now just do the damn thing.

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And, you know, I because it wasn't my first rodeo I had done for some months in the past, I knew that I needed support in certain areas. And, you know, I also knew that I wanted to do this a lot bigger than times before. And I also knew that I was going to have to just chop wood and carry water.

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That meant that every day I was going to have to do the same thing over and over and over again in order to get this thing out in 60 days. And this is your invitation. If there is something that's dangling in front of you, maybe you want to finish your book, maybe you want to start a book, maybe you want to learn a new skill.

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Maybe you want to, you know, become a color coordinator or something like that. It's like this person who sees what colors work best on you. If you're like a fall, spring, winter, I can't remember the name of it.

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Anyway, a friend of mine recently just got her certificate in it, so that's why it's coming to mind. But if there's anything like that that just pops into your mind, just decide, commit and do the damn thing. OK, that's what we're doing here in this stage in our lives.

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We're not going to get stuck in like the muck if we can do it, if people are going to show up, just do it. And this reminds me of one of the speakers that we have coming on. And she talks about community building and the importance of community as we enter the stage in our lives or really any transitional period, how important it is to have community.

And one of the things that she says when she is building a new community, she's OK with the fact that people might not show up the first time or maybe a couple people show up. She is like, but the consistency there. Is what's so important is to continue to show up every Tuesday and that group will get bigger and bigger and bigger, and I guess that's what I'm doing here with you on this podcast, is that if I show up with some sort of consistency that more people will know about it and gather.

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So this is sort of my community piece to that. So I'm going to talk a little bit about that phrase, chop wood, carry water. One of my mentors a while back used to say that and I loved it.

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It made so much sense to me. I think it's like a Zen proverb. Like before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.

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After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water. So in other words, no matter how much we grow and evolve and create, life still asks us to just show up and do the simple, often unglamorous work. And oftentimes when we're building something, that's what we have to do.

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We have to just chop wood and carry water. And it hopefully is really worth it to us. So this episode is especially for you.

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If you've ever felt really stretched thin while pursuing something that matters, if you've ever wondered like, what should I do when my energy is limited, but my purpose feels so big. But the bigger thing that this episode is about that, that I wrote notes to is really talking about if you're navigating perimenopause or midlife shifts and trying to figure out like what your body is telling you. Right.

Isn't that the trying to figure out if what your body is telling you is the same as what the quote unquote experts are telling me that I need to do. And this is my just really gentle reminder that healing and fixes are not one size fits all. Healing and treatment are not one size fits all.

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And that most often, even though a symptom can feel like an enemy, can feel like our bodies are betraying us, they actually aren't. And that you already carry the medicine inside of you. And typically when we have these symptoms that your body really asking, help me get back into homeostasis, help me get back into balance.

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And because of the assault that we have in the world, from just normal everyday toxins to a really busy, stressful life to maybe some trauma that we carry, whatever it might be, our bodies are or the foods that we're choosing to eat or what we're choosing to drink. Your body oftentimes just needs a respite. It needs to actually rest in order to heal and to come back into balance.

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So even with the perimenopausal symptoms of just feeling brain fog, sleeplessness, irritability, all of these things could actually actually be like screaming at you or like knocking at the door and saying, come on, you need to check in with me. You need to see if what we're doing currently in our lives, what we have been doing, are working. And, you know, if that lands, it really landed for me when I really viewed it that way.

Oftentimes, you know, when I really connect it back into that, this isn't something that's being done to me, it's being done for me, it can really help me have massive breakthroughs in my life. And one of the reasons why I created the summit around holistic practices in perimenopause and beyond is because we all have to find our own unique medicine. OK, and I'm not talking about like supplements or prescriptions and things like that, but you have to find the unique combination of tools and practices and beliefs.

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OK, beliefs, a belief system that will wake you up and allow you to remember how to feel like you again. And something that maybe works for me might not work for you. And I definitely have a framework within my program that helps people figure out like the three most important pieces in order to figure out what your particular medicine is.

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But one of those prescriptions, I would say, is that you have to try new things. You have to break some of these beliefs that you've had in the past in order to kind of walk through the fire and see if you'll get burned. So for me, breathwork has been one of those tools.

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If you've listened to this podcast at all, you know that it truly cracked me wide open. I hear from a lot of my clients, too, that it releases so much more than even like years of talk therapy. It can release emotional blocks.

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And for me, it helped me reconnect to my body in a way that just really traditional approaches really never did. And another thing that works really well for me is working with mentors to release some of these old patterns. And some of the big patterns are releasing from victimhood, being the victim in the story and also reclaiming responsibility for my experience in my life, which specifically is around whatever that whatever I'm complaining about in my life.

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I have 100 percent control to change. And even when that feels like it's not true, it is. So even when it's like, well, I can't move because I have a family.

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I don't have any money for a down payment. Excuse me. My my parents live close to me and I don't want to leave them.

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The truth is, if it's making me miserable, I can figure out a way to change it. And actually just saying that right now, I have this one thing that I'm not taking full responsibility for in my life. And maybe I'll share it later.

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It's actually not that deep and personal, kind of super superficial in a way. I'll just share it now. We are actually looking to move closer to my kids school in South Austin, and that requires us buying a house over there.

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I mean, we could rent a house. So again, when I'm trying to take responsibility for the full thing, we don't necessarily have to sell one of our properties in order to buy another one. We could just rent this house out and move there.

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So that's one option. But the other thing is, is that, you know, I keep saying like the more and more we've been wanting to move for a long time. We have a really small house.

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I have three, two grown men in this house, one grown boy, one grown man, and then like another kid and a dog. Anyway, it's a small house. We need something bigger.

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We also need to be closer to school. And I'm stuck on the fact that we have to sell one of our properties in order to be able to put the deposit on the house, which is a hundred percent true. We do need that.

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But I'm sure there are some other options that I haven't looked at because I'm so stuck with that one thing. Or I can just enjoy the house that I'm currently living in. We've lived here for 13 years.

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There's nothing wrong with it. And I can change my perspective on it so I can enjoy the place where we are. I mean, be extremely grateful that we have such an amazing neighborhood.

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So anyway, so working with somebody, working with multiple people throughout the last almost decade to really dive deeper into that emotional work and releasing limiting beliefs and patterns and glass ceilings, if you will, has been my medicine. And yeah, so yeah, so like feeding back into the rewiring limiting beliefs is when I really dove into that work where I rewrote my beliefs about everything, even my belief system around drinking. So when I didn't drink for five years, the work that I did around that were all of the belief structures that I had about how drinking was helping me, helping me relax, helping me connect with my partner, helping me feel better.

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I had to make sure that I updated all of those beliefs and those beliefs were no longer true. And then five years into it, when I no longer identified as somebody who drank for those reasons because those beliefs were already shifted, and then I now occasionally drink again, it was actually this whole belief system of like who I believed I was as somebody who couldn't control themselves with drinking. Now, this is my experience.

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It might not be yours. We all have our lived experience. And again, this is why we all have to figure out what works for us and not nothing as a one size fits all approach.

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But I had to really recreate the beliefs that I had about having a problem with drinking. And I was like, actually, that's not my story anymore. And so I personally was able to move through that just based on reshaping my belief system.

But another really big thing I play with with beliefs, and I think this is something that a lot of times people get like stuck on because they don't really want to break a tie with the belief system because maybe that belief system was passed down through a family, through your family, through your family lineage, through a culture, through a religious institution, you know, through an educational environment or something like that. So it's something that feels very personal. And so if we change that belief system, we're often worried that it will affect kind of that downline.

And we don't want to we don't want to be isolated or ostracized for this new belief. And so it's really worth asking you yourself, like, how do you continue to honor that belief system without feeling like it is yours? Right. So how can you honor it without repeating the cycles that maybe aren't very helpful in moving forward in our lives? So just kind of some things to think about with that.

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And I love this midlife because this gives us this really great opportunity and really a portal to ask ourselves these questions that arise. This is, I think, one of the shakeups that happens in this time in our lives. And we're like, yeah, we need to ask ourselves like where the irritability and fatigue might be coming from.

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And I noticed that for my irritability, sometimes it does come out of nowhere. Y'all and I'm like, if y'all have that perimenopausal rage, like I'm so right there with you. And sometimes it just comes out of left field.

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But other times it's because I'm ignoring what I really need. And it's I, you know, I needed more alone time or I needed to sleep in or I needed somebody to take over, you know, doing the 290, the street, the road that we take to get to the kids school, they go to school about 30 minutes away. And so we have to take Mopac and 290.

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So I call it the Mopac 290 shuffle. So I need somebody to take over that because I become way more irritable now when I have to do things that I don't want to do, basically. And, you know, some things we kind of have to.

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But again, that goes back to taking responsibility. I'm rambling a little bit here, y'all. I just like missed being here and talking with you.

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And so I'm, yeah, so a little bit of rambling. But I hope that you're following me with what I'm saying. And that's really paying attention to the symptoms that you're having is not something that's like that you should shame or you should ignore or you should just like cover up with a hormone patch, but really like ask yourself, like, what is happening? What message am I supposed to be receiving right now? So this is kind of one of the steps, especially when somebody comes and speaks to me in early perimenopause, 35, 40, even maybe around 45.

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And when we're looking at not necessarily jumping straight to hormonal prescriptions for hormone imbalance because your hormones are still there, they just need to be balanced a little bit more. And so this is kind of what is driving me crazy about the conversation with hormone treatment is that we're bypassing the lifestyle changes. And I see this in Western medicine, in pharmacy talk a lot, is that we skip through the first line treatment, which is always lifestyle changes and go directly to prescribing the medication.

And we're doing it with this too. And it's like flipping driving me crazy. And again, like if you've tried some of these lifestyle changes where you're looking at detoxing your environment, some improving your nutrition, moving maybe differently than you've had before or moving more than you had before, reducing stress or other ways to support your nervous system.

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And those things still aren't working, then yes, like I'm sorry. I'm going to also add like supplements and acupuncture and other types of integrative support. And if those things aren't really working for you, then yeah, like let's do a little bridge medicine where we give you some hormone, hormonal support to get you through and then maybe some trial periods off of it to see if then your your hormones are balanced a little bit more during this transition period.

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I know that there's some research out there that they're like started earlier, the earlier they're better. But I mean, here's the deal. Anything that becomes new, it's like everyone should be on a Ozempic because that's going to be really helpful in the long term.

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And I just don't buy it. So I feel like our bodies are these magical beings that are always trying to go back into balance. And so we just need to support it a little bit more before just throwing something at it.

And again, you know, it's your decision. It's your you're trying to figure out what is your medicine. And again, that doesn't necessarily mean it has to be a prescription.

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It just just you have to figure out what works for you. So no judgment, just really trying to maybe highlight that perimenopause could be just more of like this wake up call, the symptoms of it. And when you answer it and you get in a lot, you're you're more aligned with what your body is telling you, then it really can ease your symptoms and you can step into a whole new level of power.

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And this is coming from personal experience. I mean, I was thrown into my 40s, not with not gracefully. Let me just put you that put it that way.

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I was and, you know, my first mammogram at 40, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Very shortly after that, I had really dramatic perimenopausal symptoms with with very heavy menstrual cycles, one that actually like bled through my clothes while I was at work. It was horrendous and and cramping and migraine headaches.

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And I had never experienced any of this before with massive fatigue, fatigue and like I mentioned, irritability. And I am not on hormone replacement therapy. It doesn't mean that I won't go in that direction, but I definitely had I had to do a lot.

I had to do and I mentioned the word I have to do a lot. But I don't want you to be deterred by that because oftentimes, even like a really good friend of mine, she's like, but I don't want to do all that. And here's the thing.

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It eventually will catch up to you. You can't live your lifestyle forever without really looking at looking at how to, you know, clean up your your diet and the way that you move in, most importantly, because I'm all about mind, body medicine, the way that you think, because the way that you think affects your body. So the summit is like amazing because we get to talk about all of this stuff.

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We actually do talk about hormone replacement therapy. I have a couple people, maybe two or three women who come on and and talk about it. And there are other experts that come on who are on hormone replacement therapy in conjunction with some other things.

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And then I have some people who aren't and they use other types of support like homeopathy or frequency medicine or energetic healing or biohealing or CBD for symptoms. I mean, so many other ways to support us during this time. And it's not an and or it's a it's a both.

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Right. We can have this all. So, yeah.

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It's over two hours, which really helps increase your mood and really makes you happier. You'll start dancing down the grocery aisles, I promise. And then there's also a workbook in there with an audio companion.

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So if you don't get enough of me on the podcast and I kind of sit next to you as you walk through the workbook, there's a 30 minute guided breathwork session on there and also a VIP one on one complimentary check in with me where I can really kind of help you see where you maybe need to highlight some areas in your life to support you more during this journey. And that can be anywhere from hormonal hormonal support to something else. So definitely got the VIP pass, if not.

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But if you just want to like, you know, see how it is, grab your free ticket. The link is in the show notes. Yeah.

I mean, these conversations aren't just educational. These are truly transformational. So check it out.

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So here's what my takeaway is for you today is you don't have to wait until things fall apart. You don't need to be fixed and you just need to remember, you know, remember who you are, what you value, what your body is asking for, learning and practicing how to listen to your body more and ultimately what you find as your unique medicine. And that's sometimes or actually a lot of times trial and error, but your symptoms are truly sacred and your body is your guide and you are the healer.

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And yeah, don't just let somebody else whip out their prescription pad for you. Just really feel into your presence, your power, your willingness to come back to yourself time and time and time again. And until next time, my love, grab your free ticket right now and I will see you Monday morning for our very first interview.

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OK, bye. The world needs the vibrance and wisdom of a woman's intuition to help heal the world. When we learn to trust ourselves through leaning into and through discomfort, we learn to trust ourselves and in that space is our power and clarity.