Have you ever wrestled with the decision to post about your partner on social media or not? Well, we've been there too. Join us, Tony, Loyalty, and Jasmine as we exchange personal stories about our relationship experiences in the digital age. We talk about the pressure to 'go public' with a significant other, the potential repercussions if the relationship ends, and how long we prefer to wait before sharing snaps of our partners online. If you've ever found yourself caught in the conundrum of whether to post or not to post, you're not alone!
Switching things up, we dive into the regular relationship updates some people seem to be devoted to. You know the ones - the endless Instagram stories, the multiple profile picture changes every week. We question if this digital PDA is a display of love or a need for attention. We also discuss the curious case of never-ending engagement and wedding posts that fail to materialize into actual ceremonies. If you've been guilty of oversharing or been on the receiving end of an excess social media indulgence, this segment is sure to resonate with you.
Finally, we turn our attention to the darker side of social media. We talk about the risks, the potential embarrassment, and the unwanted attention that comes with posting about your partner. We also delve into the trend of women using Facebook groups to investigate their partner's dating history. While it might seem fun at first, we highlight why it's crucial to use intuition over social media sleuthing when it comes to understanding your partner's past. Join us for this lively and thought-provoking conversation on love and relationships in the era of social media!
Have you ever wrestled with the decision to post about your partner on social media or not? Well, we've been there too. Join us, Tony, Loyalty, and Jasmine as we exchange personal stories about our relationship experiences in the digital age. We talk about the pressure to 'go public' with a significant other, the potential repercussions if the relationship ends, and how long we prefer to wait before sharing snaps of our partners online. If you've ever found yourself caught in the conundrum of whether to post or not to post, you're not alone!
Switching things up, we dive into the regular relationship updates some people seem to be devoted to. You know the ones - the endless Instagram stories, the multiple profile picture changes every week. We question if this digital PDA is a display of love or a need for attention. We also discuss the curious case of never-ending engagement and wedding posts that fail to materialize into actual ceremonies. If you've been guilty of oversharing or been on the receiving end of an excess social media indulgence, this segment is sure to resonate with you.
Finally, we turn our attention to the darker side of social media. We talk about the risks, the potential embarrassment, and the unwanted attention that comes with posting about your partner. We also delve into the trend of women using Facebook groups to investigate their partner's dating history. While it might seem fun at first, we highlight why it's crucial to use intuition over social media sleuthing when it comes to understanding your partner's past. Join us for this lively and thought-provoking conversation on love and relationships in the era of social media!
Speaker 1:
Hello, I'm Tony and this is Boojee Bayou Witches Podcast, and today the topic is going to be should you post your partner on social media? So today I have with me Loyalty. Again, this is my guest, and also Jasmine, this is my other guest. So we're going to go ahead and get started on if we are okay with posting our partner on social media and you know, whether or not, how the world feels about posting their partner on social media. How do you feel, miss Loyalty, about posting your partner on social media? In the beginning? It's going to be a hard. No, because I'm really really big on energy and people and when people know, like, who you're talking to or who you're dating, then they tend to do a little bit extra. So I feel like you have to protect that at first, and once y'all have a stable relationship and y'all know each other, yeah, okay, but in the beginning hard, no, okay, alright, Miss Jasmine, how do you feel about posting your partner on social media? I'm with Loyalty on this one, y'all mean and like, I posted my man one time back when he had social media and one of my acquaintances went and tried to befriend him and girl look and I no, ma'am. So, yeah, the beginning. No, it's a hard. No, it's a hard, no, and especially if he has social media, it's a hard.
Speaker 1:
No, I'm not tagging him, don't ask me. No, you're not getting tagged. You might get posted. Maybe I will not tag you in anything, because the girls is y'all, you girls, y'all. Saw something else today in today's world.
Speaker 1:
So, yeah, at this point it's been, we've been together five years. So yeah, I'll post him, but he doesn't have social media anymore. So there's nothing. So, yeah, but I barely show his face like that. Look, we might. Okay, sorry, people are weird, right, people are weird. Okay, well, me personally. No, I don't believe that it's social media or anybody's business who I'm dating or who I'm with. I'm kind of private and personal.
Speaker 1:
So, with that being said, no, my man ain't posted on social media and that's that point blank period. Unless he becomes my husband. Now that's a different story, but he won't be on there all the time, it'll be very random. So, yes, so you know, I just I see a lot of people, you know, posting their boyfriends and then every couple of months later it's a new boyfriend, and then another couple of months and I'm just like, okay, that's your business If you want to, you know, constantly date multiple men, you know, cool. But I just feel like you know, sometimes we get them. You know, just feel a little careful with who. I would post it and show them because we're setting up. You know a name for ourselves and they mentioned things like that Especially. You know we change a man like we change draw.
Speaker 1:
So you know, with that being said, I just feel like, until you serious, like in a real serious relationship nah, he ain't coming on my posts, he, she, whatever, and it's a lot of work to have to go back and delete posts. Oh, my goodness, you tell me, how do celebrities be doing it? Okay, we ain't with the celebrities, no more. Let's go back and delete all them photos. But I like the way I looked in that picture of now. I got to crop you out Like cause I'm still fresh, like you know, ain't nobody got time for that, right, cause you still looking fly and fresh. I just I could just angle it and the whole picture torn up. Yeah, no, I think it needs to be serious, though. Be serious and and be be careful, right? So how long will it be before you are in a relationship with a guy, before you feel like, okay, now I can go ahead and just post in the show the world on Facebook and Instagram and TikTok, my man, hello, I think I have with my, with the relationship that I am in now. I think we already had our daughter before.
Speaker 1:
I felt comfortable enough to just post him and that was only because, like I said, I barely in the, not the beginning, but like I would say, it was like maybe eight months in. I kind of posted you barely saw him, but I tagged him, okay, and and the skeezers were skeezing it, like, let me follow. I'm trying to tell you, I'm trying to go investigate and figure out where he from, where he come from, what he do, what he marital follow. That's right. And the young lady that went and followed him, she was also into sports, he's in sports, and so they so it. It just came off like, oh, you thought you was finna, no, no, no, no, no, we not even finna, sliding that thing out. Yeah, so for me it's out of, like it's got to be solid, but I do believe we already had our daughter before.
Speaker 1:
I just, okay, instagram, facebook, tiktok, y'all can blow up and this is my man, like when you see him, you see me, you see him. But yeah, it was, it was, it was some, it was a time, it was a time before y'all saw him, right, right, right, oh my God. What about you, miss Loya too? Hmm, oh, six months. Oh, I got a hold of Dan for six months before he uh, I'm up on your age, I mean, like you know, you might see me standing there and maybe, like the back of him, right, you feel the side, you feel the part, you can just justify who he is. See his hands up in his hands, like with your plate, right, right, two cups sitting together. Maybe they're trying to investigate Now who that could be. What could that be, with his hand right there? Okay, hold on, I'm gonna take a photo of another picture of a foe. Check his cell phone out, you know, go to you know. So, maybe six months.
Speaker 1:
But I'm just like she said, there's so many mean girls, so my intention is to find something on them or bring it up, or just to not see me happy. Yeah, are you? You know what I'm saying? Like just whoever it is in general and for what. Yeah, I'm still and don't get me wrong, I don't say this being funny, you know my spine and it's going to be a bit in the business one day. But, like, just for the sake of me, my business, him, his business, mutual friends, because everybody's intention is in the good, everybody's intention is in the good. That's why I'm dating who I'm dating. It ain't nobody's business. Yeah, and I want to make it their business. Yeah, yeah, I mean that, don't get me wrong.
Speaker 1:
When he bring it up, it's gonna be my man. We go become a left-hand driver on the whole neighborhood, right, right, you know. Then, yeah, but you know, but, and then after that, but right now, that's what. I don't even think I ever posted his name on any of my. Yeah, I don't even think. We on it, you know, on it, I don't. Five years later, I don't even think instagram knows his name. Instagram knows his name. No, yeah, because if you know, you know, if you know, you know, you know.
Speaker 1:
And so it's like Cuz, baby, these little side chicks ain't playing, hello, these side chicks over here trying to win, and we'll sit in your face and be all in your know, friends or socials or coinets, whatever you want to call them and I'll play about my man like I, they, they're jealousy our situation, so they trying to squeeze in there and try to get it. They try to see what they can get up out of him, what dollar or what they get Penis quarter, hamburger fries Especially if you say you're working with a package. That's my years. Uh, be an attention, I ain't even gonna say none. You gotta be careful with who you shake up in this one, yes, stuff like that, because you never know who might be scheming and right in them DMs. So, yes, no, that's so true what they say, like how you post a reel or something or your Insta story and all the views are there, but the likes ain't. So they watching? Oh, yeah, they watch it, always watching what they won't, but they won't like it or comment. You know they watch it. No, so, no, y'all don't need to know for what. For what? Wow, y'all helping him with the light bill, because these lights work real good over here, baby. This is why they're doing that. Okay so, um, okay so.
Speaker 1:
Do y'all have like friends that's constantly posting their man's on social media and I would say, like you know, within a year or so later they're posting their new man and stuff like that. Like, yeah, I'm talking about y'all. I know y'all have friends like that. Yes, I have a couple. And at that point I began to wonder when do you stop posting that? Okay, like, what do you like on your list? And quit embarrassing that. The heck out yourself. Friends is such a strong word. All of my friends are pretty level headed and we kind of all have the same belief system.
Speaker 1:
But I would definitely say I absolutely follow people and or I have a queen says yeah, where it's always a new situation. And you see these, you know extravagant weddings, and then you stop seeing him all of a sudden and then you stop seeing the ring on the finger and then you and like, things happen. So I don't judge, it happens, but then, like, the new boo comes, you know immediately after. And then the new boo comes immediately after. I'm like girl, I can't keep up, but you know it just did not get a time. Oh, the gay gays become regular.
Speaker 1:
Like sis, if you've been engaged, you're getting engaged Right. Like if you've been engaged five times and you've never had a wedding, that's not a flex. Like that's not a flex. So I don't know who y'all be on here trying to look good for Right, as you say, flexing for the ring collector. Let me not be posted, I'm engaged. Then, okay, you're like I'm engaged. And then another day you're like I'm engaged, like come on now you, just you just like being engaged. Yeah, and a year and a very generous, very generous, I don't know, I'd be three or six months. Ladies, I'll let y'all know I'm not engaged. I'm not engaged, ladies, I'll let y'all know, I'll let you know.
Speaker 1:
They use no marriage candles or something. Every couple of years they engaged, open all the roads, but they ain't getting married. Look what happened. They ain't getting married, though I don't know what y'all. And then, to make it worse, like she said, and then you go on their Facebook page and you see all the old pictures. I know y'all seen that. Yeah, I know you know it ain't gonna be the old pictures. So then you have to wonder which one it is, and that's why I say that's a lot of work.
Speaker 1:
Me personally, like I told y'all, I've been married before, divorced and moved on with my life, but you got to go on Facebook and not have 15,000 pictures. You got to go scroll up I'm sorry Wherever my other Facebook page could be. He's still on there because I didn't even delete him. It was too much work to scroll through all them years that we was together To try to go delete all his pictures out. And if anybody had the time to go scroll through there and try to look at his pictures, then who doesn't see you? Now you know good Well, people be going on Facebook and actually they may have to go in and do a plan, because why are you on stuff from 2010, back when my middle child was born?
Speaker 1:
Because they ain't got no life and they want to be here and investigate on your life, your life, they want to be used. I was like, if you are my ex-husband honey his name is and you can have him Not by my new boo, I don't play by him, y'all better watch your mouth. But when you go to the old stuff, it'd be like, really, I'm not even that person anymore. Girl, where you find that picture? Oh, okay, thank you for reminding me. That's still there, girl, look where I came from. Honey, don't do that. Oh, it'd be like that you had an off day today. You was just born. Yeah, nothing better to do but to go through that finding his old trans picture.
Speaker 1:
But look, honestly, I wouldn't knock anybody if they do want to put you know their man, their woman, whomever, both of them. If they're, holly, push up there, it's your business. But we're just basically just giving our opinions on whether or not we'll post our booze, our husbands, boyfriends, side men, whatever it is oh, not the side. You know, we're awesome, not the side. But y'all post inside. That's real bull, that's all right. Hey, it's something I hear that's bold enough to do it. Now, you right, you show right. Yeah, they post some side chicks and side men, whatever they call them. But, yeah, you right. No, that's not. It Should've been the daddest. Oh, not the sh that's why you came postin'. I need hard facts first. I need to know you are who you are.
Speaker 1:
Now, how do y'all feel if y'all have a partner and they're really deep and heavy into the internet? Do you feel like that'll be a problem for you? You say the internet like social media. Social media, yes, social media. And when you say deep and heavy, like, is social media cutting them a check? It could be cutting them a check if they got plenty of followers and plenty of likes and, you know, have a whole gang of women that's loving and liking them. Ooh, a whole gang of women, wait a minute.
Speaker 1:
So you mean the ones that post like their Twitter, like they're on Twitter just all day long, just posting their sales. You know, like the men that says what their sales are, they posting them and making them know, like their fitness bodies. Yeah, they just post it. They just post it in their sales page. Yeah, that's gonna be a hard. No for me. Thank you, it's gonna be a hard. No, that's worse than what it is. Yeah, like I mean. So it's worse than what you miss loyalty. I don't post like that all day. I have a problem posting and I run a business.
Speaker 1:
So you will have a problem with a man if he, you know, had his little page and he's constantly posting himself and, you know, got his little Himself. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, oh Lord help me. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. What the hell, what you mean? But yeah, he's constantly posting this. I just had to make sure you know it wasn't me. Like when you say himself like us at breakfast and with us, or like just him at breakfast, like y'all think it's just him. Okay, let me read that. I guess we wanted this With his woman.
Speaker 1:
You'll see her every 15 pictures. No, no, not every 15 pictures, maybe a hundred pictures. You might see her because she ain't she gonna interfere with the women, that's. You know that he's entertaining and that's loving and liking his comments and following him. It's a hard. No, so like, but how far in the relationship? Because, remember, we don't post the other part, man.
Speaker 1:
So you saying, like, further down the line, when we've been together, wow, yeah, you gonna check out that video. It's a hard. No, you know, y'all gonna ask do you got an Instagram? Do you got a Facebook? Do you got a TikTok account so you can go on there and check it. You know, once y'all check it, fbi agent Right.
Speaker 1:
Then, once y'all check it, how do y'all feel? I mean, I'll see that, damn, he really love his stuff. He constantly posting videos. He got oh God, he got $15,000, $16,000. $15,000, $16,000 is my bag.
Speaker 1:
Oh, and they mainly women, not men. I don't think men are gonna really be watching and following men. But yeah, they got women. So I'm like, how much y'all feel about that? It's gonna be a hard. No, for me that's a turn off. So you don't like men that basically gotta be following on TikTok or Instagram and stuff like that. No, it depends on what the following is for, like if you're a real estate mogul and you're showing houses and then you then, yes, now if you are a fitness instructor, I mean it's gonna be a hard no for me, but I can. I understand it, it's business.
Speaker 1:
But if you just like, oh, today is Monday and here I am and look at my body, like that, you like you thirsty. Okay, so that's how you feel, like they're thirsty and they can give you some water not me, I'm a girl. How do you feel? I agree, I'm the same way If you. If you're thirsty on the book and I mean cause thirsty, I didn't even know on the book.
Speaker 1:
You thirsty on the TikTok, tiktok, instagram, any type of social media you're using as a fitness and so Twitter page, and you say that you're constantly putting like you still be on a date tonight? No, not me. But I'm like, damn, fuck Cause now I'm gonna have you probably got to be a fan of that. Oh well, that's the way. Like, plenty of it. Like, nah, I can't. Nobody got time for that. Nobody on this is you, you searching for when you on POF I don't know what the name is.
Speaker 1:
Excuse me when I say this my husband's fiance, boyfriend's, everybody, everybody. I don't mean nobody, I don't mean a drop of harm. I am the woman in the relationship. You're prettier than me, right, that part. Say it, say it. I didn't try to talk about it. We can't have no genuine Say it. Right, that part. You are prettier than me, that part. Look, I take an hour and 45 minutes to get ready. I saw you when I went to the baby's man. But you take an hour and 46 minutes to get ready. We got a problem. We got a problem. I'm the girl baby. We got a problem. I'm the girl Cause.
Speaker 1:
Why are we here? What do we know? It's like red scoot over. I got to get in the mirror too. No, you don't know where. You just want to masculine. You got to be a man man, a man man, a man man, a man man, a man man. That part I need.
Speaker 1:
Like, who don't like? Who know his place, without all the likes and the comments. Like he know he's the eater, thirsty, thirsty man. He got the big open. You know like it's women out there that do it, but it's okay, we're women. I mean, that's what we do. Yeah, we do that.
Speaker 1:
It that seemed a little thirsty that far, that loving themselves a little too much. But that's good though, because you know what, at the end of the day, you got to love yourself, you do, you know, man, you love themselves, you do, you do. But if you're a narcissist, oh, a little bit, if you're a narcissist, it's a different between loving yourself and being a narcissist. The narcissist is prettier than me. No, you look good, boo, you know you look good. I'm. I'm to let you know that I'm to pump your head, yeah, cause what you know is that the foundation for the bodies went in the fall, hab, but who they? You supposed to be part.
Speaker 1:
So, again, that's why you got to be careful posting your man on social media, because you know, if he is, you know Girl, into all of that, that everybody like wait a minute, I think that guy is on time, everybody, damn, you know. So you don't want to be embarrassed. So your man for you, go post him. And then everybody be like uh-uh, I know she didn't just post this guy, this dude, be all of it. My uh-huh girls, damn, you know. So you know that we already know. Right, they've been in many investigators. Oh, you know, there's a zombie on social media like when they be posting the man is a couple of them, sis, come, have we met before, for the girls will date and they'll put his picture up in girl I had angle lie.
Speaker 1:
I had to make sure I scroll down to three years, make sure my man. I heard about I got a man click to be in the group because I wanted to see. No, I don't have a man. But no, I just want to say, even if you know when you do in the past, no, no, since I was being nosy, I want that right, what was in the group back, I want to know what was in the group. I'm afraid I just rather use my medium and just use my intuition and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:
And just right about this person, right, I see him on the almost, screenshot it and I'm be like, oh so this is the part I don't know by this, for the streets, that part. And then to talk, you've been a posting them on your page. Now you got a reward. So that's another reason why you know I ain't trying to post no man or slash woman. Oh, no, social media. I gotta make sure I fully know him and I fully know that he is not put a street and then he ain't sitting here and dated 60, 70, 800 women, you know. So I gotta make sure he Is that true, look a be okay regular. I got time for you on it. Yeah, I see them. Be okay, regular, loose.
Speaker 1:
No, ever post somebody and then try and then in her it particular back and hope nobody saw it and they just clowning the person right and he does like damn, I was just trying to show a base alone. Hey, look, control all the leader home. Nobody dang it. Hundred and forty five views. Hope they forget by tomorrow. Yeah, dang it. Pictures making sure. I know I seen her with. No, you didn't. Okay, so okay.
Speaker 1:
So question Y'all ever went on somebody's page that you were talking to and you see the pictures of the X still on there and then they make she wonder, like Missing around or what's going on, baby mommos and stuff like that. Hmm, that part I mean. Yeah, that's a red flag for me. Thank you, I'm gonna control all the lead on that from. If it's me control all the. Yeah, like forget, I ever forget, forget you ever met me.
Speaker 1:
Reset, um, though, but what do you say? Well, it's as quick as I came, as quick as I'm gone. Hmm, quickly, yeah, peacefully. Yeah, when I go to do, look and I got, I got my bestie. Now she, she's a cold investigator. She missed her calling should have been the CSI, but so you know, back when I was dating I used to slide her damn phone, that part.
Speaker 1:
Maybe I'm gonna say, oh, two pictures like you forgot you might have missed it, yeah, but I'm really big on through them pages to see. While I scroll up a little bit and I say, okay, that's cool. No, I got the baby. I know I'd be missing some stuff. I was communicating with, my employee was like, oh, boo, you didn't know he got a girlfriend. I was like, oh, okay, yeah, you already told me. Now, so you know, you just gotta be careful because if you don't go and investigate, trust me, somebody else will. They're gonna go and spy on you. All them photos. I can do it Back to 2014.
Speaker 1:
We are sisters. It is my duty to make sure that you stay on your peas and queues, girl, because nobody will catch you slipping in these. I'll let you not Look what we doing. I'm gonna send it to your sister. Did you see this Screenshot? I just need to make sure, and we all need that group of girls. Look, you might not have the time, but I'm gonna be. I don't Look. But I'm all for Sundays and court stays though.
Speaker 1:
We gonna put, I'll put, trying to relax. I just want my best, have better gifts than others. So you gonna investigate. Good, sister, I need you to handle this for me. I just need some downloads from Spirit. Spirit, what's the deal? Would you try and tell me? Is he the one or not? Okay, cool, we had moving on. I'm gonna keep it moving. I'll just come back again and then I'm gonna come with the confirmation Because boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
Speaker 1:
There's a screenshot. I get the tear cards. Hold up, hold up, Just pull a couple of cards. Nah, he ain't even the one, he ain't even the one man.
Speaker 1:
But, yeah, good, good Girl, that's funny, yeah, but again, you know, I guess you know.
Speaker 1:
In other words, when it just comes to posting your booze, your man's, your boyfriend's, your side pieces, just be a little careful, do a little research and stuff, because you don't want to be looking kind of crazy.
Speaker 1:
You ain't gonna be stupid out here because you gonna be posting more two, three, four, five, six, seven other chicks and posting at the same time. Oh, so you know, just be careful, that's all. Do your research, get your little CSI friend, fbi friend, you know, just give him the, do a little digging and, you know, just make a show that he, you know he is, make sure he check out he ain't married Now he's dating a couple. We can't do nothing about that because it ain't gonna show up that oh yes, he's in a relationship. It'll only show if he's married. So you know, other than that, you know you'll be good and we're gonna go ahead and write this conversation up on. You know whether or not it's cool to post your partner on social media. So y'all can always drop y'all comments below Y'all feedback and, like always, like, share, subscribe Until next podcast episode. We'll see you later, bye, bye.