As we journey through life, we're constantly stitching together the fabric of our legacy, thread by heartfelt thread. My conversation with Nisha, who's as effervescent as her laughter is infectious, dances around this profound theme. We're not just talking about the legacies left in our wake, but those vibrant imprints we make every day. From spreading beams of positivity to fostering self-love and joy, we reveal how our personal aspirations intertwine with the lasting echoes we aim to leave behind. This episode isn't just a reflection—it's an invitation to ponder the reverberations of our existence.
Ever consider the harmonious balance between your dreams and the mark you're destined to leave on this world? Nisha and I sure have, and we're peeling back the layers right here. We're weighing in on the role of music as a motivator, the curation of our digital selves, and the weighty responsibility we carry as torchbearers for future generations. This isn't just chitchat; it's a recognition of the delicate dance between nurturing personal goals and crafting legacies that resonate with our deepest values. Tune in as we confront the complexities of social media influence and the importance of setting a virtuous example for the youth who follow in our digital footprints.
Wrapping up this heartfelt symphony of thoughts, we touch on the celebration of individuality and the audacity to chase seemingly unattainable dreams. It's about paying tribute to icons like Oprah and recognizing the strength found in self-love—a cornerstone for empowerment. We leave you with a call to action: to weave a legacy that's as positive and kind as the intentions we set forth. Be part of the community that's building legacies with love at their core; your engagement matters, so reach out, share your thoughts, and hit that subscribe button.
As we journey through life, we're constantly stitching together the fabric of our legacy, thread by heartfelt thread. My conversation with Nisha, who's as effervescent as her laughter is infectious, dances around this profound theme. We're not just talking about the legacies left in our wake, but those vibrant imprints we make every day. From spreading beams of positivity to fostering self-love and joy, we reveal how our personal aspirations intertwine with the lasting echoes we aim to leave behind. This episode isn't just a reflection—it's an invitation to ponder the reverberations of our existence.
Ever consider the harmonious balance between your dreams and the mark you're destined to leave on this world? Nisha and I sure have, and we're peeling back the layers right here. We're weighing in on the role of music as a motivator, the curation of our digital selves, and the weighty responsibility we carry as torchbearers for future generations. This isn't just chitchat; it's a recognition of the delicate dance between nurturing personal goals and crafting legacies that resonate with our deepest values. Tune in as we confront the complexities of social media influence and the importance of setting a virtuous example for the youth who follow in our digital footprints.
Wrapping up this heartfelt symphony of thoughts, we touch on the celebration of individuality and the audacity to chase seemingly unattainable dreams. It's about paying tribute to icons like Oprah and recognizing the strength found in self-love—a cornerstone for empowerment. We leave you with a call to action: to weave a legacy that's as positive and kind as the intentions we set forth. Be part of the community that's building legacies with love at their core; your engagement matters, so reach out, share your thoughts, and hit that subscribe button.
Hello, this is Tonya with Bougie Bayou Witches Podcast, and this is our episode 11. And I have two wonderful guests again and we got right here.
Speaker 2:Zerk.
Speaker 1:All right and Nisha All righty Again, like I said before, this is episode 11, and we're going to talk about what are some things you would like to be remembered for. And I think that's a real good, important topic to talk about, because sometimes we don't really sit down and discuss on why we're here, like the path that we're, on what we want to be remembered for, because you never know, you could be here one day and next day be gone. So it's always good to sit down and discuss and talk with your family and friends on, you know, what you want to be remembered for. You know, and some people might not want to be remembered for nothing it's cool, but for the ones who do, what would you want to be remembered for? And some people might not want to be remembered for nothing it's cool, but for the ones who do.
Speaker 2:What would you like to be remembered for? I mean, spreading love is my word. You know what I'm saying. And spreading love don't even mean loving on people or nothing like that. It could just mean just giving somebody positive energy or some positive advice, bringing them out of a dark place into a place where they can learn to love themselves, like you know what I'm saying, Like cause everything I do is about love Like that's how I live. You know what I'm saying. I'm a Leo, so you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:So yeah, I want to be remembered for love.
Speaker 2:You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean Okay.
Speaker 3:What about you, nisha? Number four, I'd say for me that, knowing that I fulfill my purpose and that, um, I have this thing with, this wicked laugh that I do all the time when I find something funny.
Speaker 3:I'm always always excited to either talk to people or laugh. Just, you know, give them good advice and knowing that I live my life the best way, I know how. So if I always say, uh, this is, it's a thing I always say, if I live my life the best way, I know how. So if I always say this is a thing I always say, if I didn't get the mansion, I'm there to break the yard because I'm not perfect, right, but I enjoy my time here on earth. I enjoy my time.
Speaker 1:All right, what I would like to leave behind and some things that I would like to be remembered by, I would say it's just that I did what I was called and put here to do. I listened. I try to listen all the time, but sometimes I'm a little hardheaded. But I listened to my team, my spirit team, and I was able to do what they wanted me to do help people out, because I do love helping people Not everybody you're going to be able to help, but for the ones that listen and allow me to help them, I enjoyed helping them out and then also just being able to make a change and wake people up, because so many folks are sleeping on spirituality.
Speaker 1:Wake up, wake up, wake up. So, just as long as I'm able to get to people and just spread that spirituality and just spread the love and help heal folks, I'm good for that and I don't mind being remembered for that. And being a hard worker too, because y'all don't understand, man, I be feeling like I'm overwintering sometimes, but what legacy or impact do you hope to leave behind?
Speaker 2:Definitely my music, my family. I ain't really like a type I ain't gonna lie and say like I'm a family guy or nothing like that. I ain't really like locked in like I should be because I feel like I'm so busy out here trying to get to where I feel I need to be in life so I can have time for that.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying? Because today is about getting business done today. Every day that I wake up, that's the first thing I think about. I don't think about. You know what I'm saying saying nothing else. That's the first thing I think about, like, alright, what do I need to do to further myself, my career in my life, like, and you know, okay, but yeah, like my legacy. Like my family, my children, I ain't gonna I got two girls, so I ain't gotta have no more kids. They do all the kid having from now on.
Speaker 1:Oh, wow, yeah, like you know what I'm saying, reproduce me.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying? What about?
Speaker 3:your niche. My legacy, when I have kids, to let them know that I did all I could to make sure I put things in order for them. So wherever I lead off, they can continue and the gifts that I have, you know, they continue to do the work that I left for them to do. So Okay.
Speaker 1:Well, I would say the legacy or impact that I hope to leave behind for my children and my beautiful grandson is for them to take on my businesses and just live it like you or your mom, busting her butt, working and doing this to help provide and be able to take care of y'all when I'm gone.
Speaker 1:I hope so, but if they don't, hey, it's understandable. Not everybody's going to be you, and that's one thing I have to understand and learn, but just respect the fact that I sit here and I really bust my butt trying to be able to provide and get that legacy and build that empire, you know, for my family, so they don't have to sit here and have to work for someone. They could just run the business that I'm leaving behind for them to run. And I mean, if you don't want to get deep into spirituality like I am, it's cool, I respect that, but at least hire some folks that can run my business, or either my niece can, and so you know you continue to be very uh, because she is a little me to me.
Speaker 1:So, yes, so that's basically what I want to, um, you know, leave my legacy. I want to let the world know that I did break the generational curses, that I'm going to continue and continue and continue to break. So, yes, so can you share any specific accomplishments or contributions that you believe are central to how you want to be remembered?
Speaker 2:I mean, mine ain't happened yet, but it's about to though there you go I just got to take this little trip and finalize this little thing I got on the table right now. Okay, so then my record label will be official.
Speaker 1:Okay, there you go.
Speaker 2:My music kind of been making waves, so it should be up next year, Like all the way up.
Speaker 1:Alright, that's what's up. You got to stay positive and just keep manifesting and putting that positive energy out.
Speaker 2:Yes indeed, yes indeed.
Speaker 1:What about you, Miss Nish?
Speaker 3:For me. Right now I'm working on my master's, so for me it will be Welcome to the family. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. Help wise side of what I like to do in my degrees. I'm really big on being an advocate for mental health and besides just general health. But for my legacy for my children, I want them to continue to do the right path of going into working in health care but still stay on their spiritual side. And then, if you see that I've accomplished these things from master's to doctorate, I want them to continue the same thing, Go back and help their community as they get older.
Speaker 3:Spread their love and not always depend on medicine you know, herbal treatment right herbal treatment and naturality is the thing right now. So I want them to continue that and you know, don't let nobody tell them that you can't do anything.
Speaker 1:Never listen to the naysayers. If it's something that you want to do, go do it. If you don't want to work with someone and you want to start this business, bring me the business idea. If I like it enough, I'm going to invest in your business. I'm going to push you to make sure you get to it. But just never sit here and just settle for less. I want my sons to know that sky's the limit. Anything you want to do, you can do it. Don't sit here and say, well, I can't, I can't quit making a million and one excuses and get to it. We make so many excuses on why we can't accomplish and sit down and do so many things when in reality we're the only person holding ourselves back. It's nobody else's shoe. So trust me, you can do it. If I did it, Thanks. I'm trying to tell you In what ways do you strive to make a positive difference in the lives of others? We'll ask that part B later. That doesn't be too long. You've been forgot the first part.
Speaker 2:In what ways do you strive to make a?
Speaker 1:positive difference in the lives of others.
Speaker 2:Just everybody I'm around. If I see them slacking somewhere, I'm going to point that out. Like I'm going to push them to be a better them. Like I push myself. You know what I'm saying when I see myself like slacking off, like yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like that weed making you lazy Like all right, put the weed down, right, hey.
Speaker 1:hey, that's his example. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:then come back then you know, smoke you want, or something if you want. But like, balance the everything in your life, like even the people around you. Like you gotta keep them balanced too, like that's your like. I mean me in the position that I'm in. I was always one of those people like I got friends that'll call me and be like hey bro and be like hey bro. I'm really going through something right now. I need some advice. It might be woman relationship advice.
Speaker 1:Of course I can give them that.
Speaker 2:I've been in relationships where it was the most difficult dynamic of a relationship you can have.
Speaker 1:That's one of them. The type of relationships you'll learn from those.
Speaker 2:Even if it don't work, you'll learn, you'll grow. So I try and push that growth on my homies too. If I see them like they brought a street life, it ain't nothing yeah eventually you're gonna get older, you're gonna grow out of it. So you might as well grow out of that shit now that part, get it out of your system like being a tough guy ain't nothing, it's nothing.
Speaker 2:Cause them same dudes I can't running with. If they don't get locked up with you, they're not going to take care of your kids, your family, they're not going to do nothing for you. Speak on it. You might as well grow up fast in a positive way. Get on your business stuff and your teams 19, 20.
Speaker 1:Get on it, stand on your business. So true, I'll be having to tell my son that ain't nothing out there in the streets. Folks sit here and act like oh it is you. Listen to all these rappers sitting here and talk about all this stuff they ain't never even done. They live in the suburbs.
Speaker 3:Of course, let's just keep it 100.
Speaker 1:But I understand you gotta rap and say certain things to make yourself look like this tough big bad guy and stuff like that. But don't try to imitate and be them. Be better than them. Thanks.
Speaker 2:That's why I started making player music.
Speaker 1:I'd rather that, something like that.
Speaker 2:Goodness, a lot of these rappers don't even think, or they don't even like rap about women, no more. You know what?
Speaker 1:I'm saying they rap about what they want to do to them but you know not about, like, what Tupac was putting out and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying Facts that was a good year 98 oh boy, you got me through some stuff with that.
Speaker 1:Keep your head up and all of that, there was some positive music, but I mean some of these young folks do putting out some positive music.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Some do I can't say that yeah, for you yeah, so yeah, but um, I guess, uh, in what ways do you strive to make a positive difference in the lives of others? Me personally, it's just influencing people and just letting them know that you know you can do whatever you want to do, like I, you know, piggyback off of what I said before. You know, don't never doubt yourself and just stay positive. You know, keep a positive mindset. You know, stop with all that negative energy and stuff like that. And true, true, I'm trying to tell y'all could do whatever. Y'all telling y'all man, y'all gonna be out here building empires on top of empires on top of empires. You just gotta. It's all about that manifestation and manifesting and stuff like that. So on part b, I would say how does that factor into your desired legacy? So, basically, from everything we said, how does it factor into your desired legacy?
Speaker 2:you gotta think about that wall I mean because I do the same thing with the music like in my music I'm motivating like whether they take it the right way or not. I'm motivating people like to you know, like be your best you.
Speaker 1:That's my whole thing.
Speaker 2:That's what I want to push Be the best. You Don't be the you that you think you should be, because of society. You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Portray you or the social media? Are you trying to have this big image for this friend and that friend? What are they trying to follow folks and start being leaders.
Speaker 2:Yeah, facts.
Speaker 1:There's so many followers in this world, so many folks jumping on the bandwagon instead of getting out there standing up on their own two feet and making things happen. Social media, teaching them that, though, I'm trying to tell you, and that's why I stay away from social media. The only time I'm on there is advertising my business or answering questions from folks. Other than that I really try to stay off of it because I'm not knocking it. I know a lot of people make a living off of it, but I mean.
Speaker 3:It'd be false information.
Speaker 1:It's a lot of negativity, like if you ever go into people's reviews or when people post pictures and stuff, go check and see how many negative comments you see versus positive comments.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, absolutely it's a lot of miserable people in this world are so negative. It's like misery loves company and there's a lot of folks that's miserable and they love and they ain't probably doing nothing when they like. They ain't probably got nothing going on, probably working a dead-end job. I'm not trying to be funny, I'm just saying, but they're just so negative that they want everybody else to be miserable and negative like them.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so yeah and then they always say what they always say too, for I think for me it's more like they always ask if I had a role model, and I always tell them I am the role model like I don't look up to. That was gonna be one of my questions you know you gotta I don't.
Speaker 3:I tell them I don't look up to celebrities, I just I look to myself, because if I'm doing something different, then hopefully I'll. You know I'm getting the attention of younger people, or you know people my age, you know to do better. And then not only that, like you said, you always want to be a leader instead of a follower, because followers, if they run out of people to follow, then what? What they're going to do next?
Speaker 1:So they're following the wrong right person and they leading them down the wrong path. Then what's going to happen? You know I'm saying it might not be something. You're going to be there, either in jail or you know what a dead end. So you know you want to have somebody positive to look up to him, you know I might want to be that, that, that woman that's in that, you know that textbook.
Speaker 3:You know that they have in the back of the left the end of the year. Still be like you know, yeah, you know, nisha did this back in 2000 and something. You know it'd be 2065. They'd be like oh, you know, you know it's like a history book yeah, you want to set an example.
Speaker 1:You know always, because I mean, it's not enough role models and people to set. You know these positive examples for people. It's just like us, as they call us, old heads, is sitting out here. I'm just like I didn't know. I didn't know we were.
Speaker 3:Oh no, I know what I'm saying, but that's what they say. Young folks call us. Yeah, we all talk like that we all heads and not setting up enough examples for the younger.
Speaker 1:You know generation and stuff. So sometimes we got to be the ones to step out there and set that example for them, because at the end of the day, they're looking up to us and if we sit here acting ignorant and stupid just like them, who are we to sit here and be trying to tell them what to do? We acting just like them. You know, that's all I mean. It's like come on y'all. Y'all got to grow up one day.
Speaker 3:We're not going for MBT night.
Speaker 1:It goes by quickly Because they are watching and paying attention. And you sit here running your mouth talking about them and they turn back around coming for you talking about you.
Speaker 3:It's just like come on, because I'll tell them I'm gonna be 52, I'm gonna be a bodybuilder.
Speaker 1:I got what 11 years ago I'm gonna be a bodybuilder they can like yeah, whatever, old lady about seven years, for me seven years yeah, so I'm knocking on them doors in my damn cell. I'm right there knocking in 50 almost yeah and how do you balance personal aspirations with leaving a meaningful impact on society or your community?
Speaker 2:say how do I balance?
Speaker 1:personal aspirations with leaving a meaningful impact on society or your community. Something to think about?
Speaker 2:huh, that's a hard question.
Speaker 1:Not really.
Speaker 2:I only put in their faces the things that I think they should see. I don't put the things that you're not ready for. It's just like we were saying with the internet when the internet came on cell phones it exposed these kids to everything.
Speaker 3:To everything Like porn.
Speaker 2:We used to have to sneak and hit your mom's videotape and remind her back to that spot.
Speaker 3:I'm not looking at this, I'm reminding her back to the spot. You know what I'm saying? Right, mr Marcus? Back in the day we had Mr Marcus Watch that the USA up all night trying to watch them movies that you can't watch in the daytime.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll be watching.
Speaker 1:BET Uncut because you know they're going to show them next. Videos you can't see during the daytime.
Speaker 3:Yeah, tim Drill. Yeah, I know, I was like look at all this stuff. I was like ooh that tip drill video will come out. Cab confessions yeah, ooh, that's so long ago.
Speaker 1:I know right, they know our age, but it was like that stuff was like taboo back then.
Speaker 2:Now it's just normal stuff, yeah. Like even like I don't tip on me, but like look, even just seeing gay people, like just in the black community, it was like taboo. You'll see somebody, everybody stopping me like damn bro got like tight pants on and you know what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying nipples out of us.
Speaker 2:That was weird to see, it was different. It was a culture, it was a shock and then after a while, like the 2000s, hitting it.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying then it was, you know, I didn't, it was, everything was mixed in. Okay, normalize, you see what I'm saying. You look up and it'll be.
Speaker 2:You know, Better turn into a whole girl. He walking down the street. You know cheeks hanging out anything.
Speaker 1:Then find out that's a guy and it's like you know, then it becomes normal.
Speaker 2:I am and I don't anything. You look at. You shouldn't just be looking.
Speaker 1:You look at you shouldn't just be looking, because I was like they were like hold on, that's a guy, I'm like you a lot, that's a woman. And I'd be like oh my gosh, because I was like oh damn, she cute. But yeah, so I mean, I feel you, you know, these days, um, they say good, they throw it in your face it's normalized.
Speaker 3:They damn good and that's like. I already know I'll watch a movie. Oh, they about to start kissing.
Speaker 2:I'm like come on now get to the next scene vampire movies, yeah why you gotta have a game, get a vampire bro, like even the old soaps, like, oh you know, watched One Light to Love and you know General. Hospital and All.
Speaker 3:My Children. Now it's like the new General Hospital is more like okay, let me just throw this, this scene, in there so you will know that we not disrespect. You know we didn't leave them out every scene. Now you got a couple. Now that's on the why why but you gotta but.
Speaker 1:But I feel like the reason why it's because, at the end of the day, we can't really knock anyone for what sexual preference they choose. Because you know you got the women liking women, you got the men liking men, you got the men that like women and men, and then you got the women that like women and men. You know. So, at the end of the day, you know, so many people were so scared and were in the closet because they were scared to come out, and now that they are able to, then it's like y'all quit talking about them, quit bashing them.
Speaker 1:You know, you know you can't force a person to be with who you feel like they should be with you. Let them be with who they should be with you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:I love that Shout out to the LGBT community because I ain't anything against them. Yeah, shout out to y'all, but leave the kids out of it.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:You can't be a gay. You might be a little confused or trying to figure out what you're into, but sexual orientation is a sexual thing. That means you know what I'm saying. If you're gay and you like men, you have sex with men. You don't be like, okay, I still want to sleep with women, but I'm going to be in a kind of a relationship with the guy. We're just not going to be physical. You'll never see that. If you're into that, you're into that. So to push that on a kid, like it's weird, like because it's population control yeah, I mean, I don't feel like they should push it on children.
Speaker 1:I feel like if that's how that child feels and is as they get older, then it will come out. But no, I agree, you shouldn't force to push it on them yeah, but if that's what their preference is as they get older, become teenagers by the time you're a teenager, you already know what you like, so then that's all on you. But I would never, ever, just not want to deal with my children. If they would have ever come out and tell me some stuff like that. I'm going to still love them for who they are.
Speaker 1:But to each his own.
Speaker 3:Just tell me some time and place for everything.
Speaker 1:Our next thing is what advice would you give to others who are contemplating their own legacy and how they want to be remembered? So like, what's some advice that you would want to give someone who don't really know what kind of legacy or what they can leave behind, because they just they an internet kind of stuff?
Speaker 3:I think, finding what makes them happy in their craft, find what hobby or something that they like to do um. For me it was more like um I was pushed into watercolors, painting, drawing. Um music. Music was my thing. I can't really say, but I can go platinum in the shower but.
Speaker 3:I like dancing. So I think if it's something that you want to dance or if you want to, you know craft. If you want to make things, put them in an environment or get them somewhere set up to where they can be around those type of um activities, and push them, you know, hey, if this is something that you like to do, go for it, because only you know what you want to do, and then when that light bulb, you know, cuts on, they got it. They know, like this is who I am, this is what I want to be.
Speaker 3:And then too, I do this all the time every few years I'll write down a list of myself and say something never happens. Or blah, blah, blah. I want this and this and this and this, in this order, and get it notarized. So if someone ever finds it, they know like OK, she likes this, she wants to donate to this, she wants to do this. You know things like that. So I think, by pushing people into the environment, that that'll kind of give them some focus on what they want to do next.
Speaker 1:OK, yeah, how about you, zark.
Speaker 2:I mean, I'm the type person myself I only do things I'm good at. It was always a side for me, like art, painting, pastels, molding, sculpting, everything. When it comes to just taking something, that's just like playing and turning it into something like even silence, music, same thing, same thing, it's silent I make a beat and go put the beat into the thing and then press play on it and then think of the raps and you know I'm saying lay the music down so you want your kids to be able to remember you by.
Speaker 1:You know, like other folks, that if they're into music, you want them to be able to. I mean that legacy behind music, or if they're into music, you want them to be able to. I mean that legacy behind music, or they're into art and stuff like that. Basically, it's what you said, whatever they into like my.
Speaker 2:Both of my daughters were into like volleyball and like sports and all that, but like that's something we don't really tell our kids. Like, okay, you don't have to be a baseball, basketball, football player to get into an ivy league school. You can play volleyball and get into the schools with the money. You know I'm saying soccer and get into the schools with the money. You know what I'm saying? Like we keep everything like in this little bubble, like without going outside of that so like get outside that bubble.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you'll be surprised, like but keep to what you're good at you know what I'm saying yeah, totally, totally, totally agree.
Speaker 1:Well, me, let me see. Um, I guess the advice I would give to people is find something that you're passionate about, that you love and that you wouldn't mind leaving back as a legacy. And if you don't have anything that you're passionate, you care about it, that you want to leave, or if you're not trying to break generational curses, then continue to sit in that same um chair and do what you do. But I'm sorry, I'm trying to break generational curses. Oh no, I am breaking generational curses and I will continue to make, shall leave a legacy for my children and my grandchildren and my great-grandchildren, the ones to come on after that. So, yes, because, um, I'm sorry, I just I can't keep that same old slave mentality like a lot of our family members have. I can't, I'm breaking that.
Speaker 1:And it starts now like I can't stand that, because I always talk to my uncle. I'd be like why so many people like this and that? And he's like it's that slave mentality. And I said, but when is it gonna break? We gotta break that. And I'm excited, I'm gonna be the one to break that, because I just I don't like that being jealous of one another trying to compete, don't want to the next person go up, and you know always trying to bad mouth and you know it's just like. That's why we ain't never gonna get nowhere if everybody keeps sitting here and not everyone, but some people. We'll rephrase that keep keep putting folks down and bashing them and trying to destroy them because they're jealous because of where they're at in life and they're not there yet.
Speaker 1:Ooh you appreciate good enough, you know. And so we got to stop that, because look at all these other cultures. They come together, they help each other out, they building all these businesses, but then we're the main ones still sitting here struggling behind Cause. We're jealous because Bobby and and Joanne is doing that, and we wish we could be where Bobby and Joanne said but we're never going to be there because we're too busy competing and you know, bringing them down and tearing them down, and tearing them down, and they already put it in the book and thinking we're not going to read it.
Speaker 3:I'm nosy, I'm going to read that book.
Speaker 1:Baby, I'm going to do my research and I'm going to keep on doing what the next person said I couldn't do. That's right. And then come up and ask if they want to come out to eat.
Speaker 3:Just to be funny, I'm petty how you doing boo. Oh, I just thought about you today. I ain't talked to you in like 17 years, you good.
Speaker 2:You still hate her. You ain't hating no more. Oh, that's good.
Speaker 1:That'll be silent hating. Why she call me today. I know, hey, baby, how you doing. We was just over here talking about you. I can't stand it.
Speaker 3:My niece called me last week and asked me what was going on. You know it.
Speaker 1:You know it Big family, members, friends, associates.
Speaker 3:Acquaintance.
Speaker 1:Shout out to Sissy. You know it big fan of Milbo friends, associates, acquaintance being nosy. I'm gonna go put her out there, oh she gonna watch this stuff yeah, I'm gonna put her out there well, I'm just gonna say y'all know who y'all is cause y'all probably watching and bothered. Right now, no, I'm gonna tag her with all my haters.
Speaker 2:I'm letting to tag you Because all my haters.
Speaker 3:I'm letting you know I love you right now, and you all appreciate it.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Without you, I never would have got this far. I would have stayed where I was at. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Because you made us realize we could do whatever we want to do, regardless on how you feel. Yeah, right.
Speaker 2:And oh, I'm from.
Speaker 3:Atlanta oh, I'm from.
Speaker 1:Louisiana.
Speaker 2:Oh, yes, that's what I'm saying. Uprooted, yes, it's like being a tree with wings you can fly off it.
Speaker 1:Right, you got to sometimes branch out and make moves. You can't just always stay stuck in the time. Okay, if you was born and raised, you could still be born and raised somewhere and still move somewhere else.
Speaker 3:That's right, and live and live.
Speaker 1:I just never was that type of person that just wanted to stay stuck in one little bubble. I'm trying to move here.
Speaker 3:You go there, I'm tired of Texas.
Speaker 1:I'm ready to go thinking where's my next move going to be in a couple of years? You never know where it is and where you want to go to. I just don't feel like I should be stuck in one or two different little places. I move to. If I want to move here and there, I'm gonna move here and there. Who's stopping?
Speaker 2:me. I just keep a place here.
Speaker 3:The next time I I ain't taking that furniture no more.
Speaker 2:Most of that shit do not fit anyway, it's time to restart. I can't wear no suits in Miami. It's time for a minute. It's time for a minute.
Speaker 1:Miami hot Don't even mind me. That's been over 20 years ago, when I was out there in Miami and I was just like man, I felt like I was right by the equator. It was hot.
Speaker 2:I loved it though.
Speaker 1:I loved that heat.
Speaker 3:I didn't go outside in the daytime. Well, just don't go to Arizona, you'll really burn up. I've been to Arizona. I've been to Phoenix, it's hot. I'm outside at nighttime, I don't travel baby.
Speaker 1:I don't just stay in no one area. Please, I better get out traveling to different countries, because I got that pass for it.
Speaker 3:Well, when you decided to go to Puerto Rico, well what was it Not Puerto Rico, Costa Rica? Call me, because I got to get some more coffee. I think I'm going to retire there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was thinking Dominican Republic.
Speaker 3:It's dangerous for black. No, can't go there. It's dangerous for black men. They black too, it ain't dangerous for me.
Speaker 2:I got people out there in Manchester. Them niggas hit me up with the Bel Air bottles. You got all the Bel Air Like yeah, you know I'm a black bottle boy. Oh, okay, I'm coming out there with time boy. Well, it could be certain parts.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I won't say all of it but it could be certain parts say the states, because you know they're divided into apartments now, instead of it all being as united. You know, that's how we say it now oh, okay, you know we're divided so are there any role?
Speaker 1:models or individuals who have influenced your thoughts on leaving a legacy and, if so, how kind of like she was saying about the role models.
Speaker 2:A role is a position.
Speaker 1:A model is an example.
Speaker 2:I don't need no example of a position I'm trying to get to. I need to set that in my head. Where do I want to be? Where do I see myself?
Speaker 1:You don't have no role models or individuals that inspire you.
Speaker 2:I got people that.
Speaker 1:Let me know it's somebody else doing this and people that influenced you.
Speaker 2:That may have like you know what I'm saying. Let me know like yeah, it's somebody else doing this and living like this too, okay, but like it wasn't like a role model thing. I don't never like trying like like model what I'm about to do after them.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3:It's kind of like I'm a Maya Angelou fan so that right there is motivation for me as being a black woman and moving to a black state where there are black people doing things, versus being born and raised in Tennessee, then moving to Georgia and then moving here. So it's like I got to see black people as doctors lawyers, school teachers nurses.
Speaker 3:My biggest thing that I want to do the next six years is run for city council. I don't know why. I just think I just want to be in control. I don't know. I like to tell people what to do. I'm a Capricorn.
Speaker 1:I can see it.
Speaker 3:I can see that for you. So look, my moon is in a capricorn and my um leo is in the eighth house, so yeah, and I'm a burgo, so what can I say?
Speaker 1:so yeah, the earth sign, yeah, and my rising sign is sagittarius. So yeah, that explains me.
Speaker 3:So yeah so I think this, I think this for me is more like when you write things on pen and paper, you express how you're feeling or you sing about it, you rap about it. It's what you're feeling at that moment. So when my biggest thing was at work, when I would say I rise, they think I'm being funny, but it's like OK, I made it here, I did this part, I can move on to something else. And you know, you know, nobody can tell me that I can't do it. But as a woman, they feel like that we always got to be second hand or we we're not equal. We're always going to be equal to the other half or to the other person. It's just the fact that they look down on us because we're women that we can't do it.
Speaker 1:So it's more of an inspiration thing.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying not you. We're talking about some people, some people, not you, some people.
Speaker 2:You know they still do. Yeah, they try to those like idiots, though those people don't have no, they don't have no life, no, you can't look down on a woman. And then your mama raised you.
Speaker 1:Thank you, your mama carried you, unless, you know, he always pushed me and he inspired me to do better, be better, and when I sometimes felt like I couldn't do it, he was like, no, you got this, you can do it, did it like.
Speaker 1:He really like pushed me and I probably some of um my acquaintance and stuff that are around me, they, you know, also, you know, inspire me, as well as my spirit team, like they always telling me you got this, you're going to do this, dah, dah, dah, dah dah. And I was like, yes, yes, so we can't forget about our spirit team, because I don't know about y'all, but they communicate and they talk to me on the regular and so that's my um, I would say, individuals that influence me and I go like I am a big fan of don't y'all shoot the messenger Oprah Winfrey. I understand the stuff that's going on right now. I'm sorry, but she was someone I admired as being a young person. You know, seeing her out there in Chi-Town doing her thing and now you know, seeing her being this hard worker and standing up for us black women, I'm sorry. I really liked and admired her. You know I can't speak for what's going on now.
Speaker 1:You know, and I don't want to, because I'm not there, so I don't know, what happened, but that was one of the people that I did admire, you know, growing up with.
Speaker 3:So you mean, if I look up under my seat. I'm going to get a car, you know what? I'm saying If you get a car, you get a car Right?
Speaker 1:Yes, it's just her hard work ethic. That's basically what I'm talking about. Like me watching her when she was, you know, doing her little talk shows? I was this little girl just sitting down watching her and and stuff like that.
Speaker 3:That was before. Donahue and then, Sally came on after that. Oh pretty.
Speaker 1:But I would just basically say is there anything that y'all would like to share while we get ready to wrap this up, because I enjoyed this conversation? You know Anything you would like to share with the get ready to wrap this up, because I enjoyed this conversation? You know Anything you would like to share with the viewers on, you know, just making sure if it's something that they would like to leave, you know, as far as a legacy or what they would like to be remembered by, you know.
Speaker 2:Well, shit, take care of yourself, man. Love yourself and everybody around you. You know what I'm saying? Because you can't love nobody else if you don't love yourself, and make sure you spread that love too. There's people out here that don't even know what it feels like. You know what I'm saying that don't even understand it, and they might be around you and have their family and everything intact, but you know what I'm saying. So just start asking people questions around you. Make sure that they're there for you.
Speaker 3:Yes and yes, and also as well um, have this thing that you do every day love yourself first. Then ask everybody else you know, or the ones that are around you, they're close to you, that you find them as more than just friends, it's also a family. How are they doing? Are they okay? Do they need anything? How are they holding up? Because that small thing goes a long way and they'll really appreciate it one day.
Speaker 1:When you leave this world, they always remember such and such, always ask me every day how I'm doing wow, because I know I'll be quiet, I'll reach out to some folks, but sometimes don't y'all hate me because I know sometimes I don't reach out to y'all, but I get into my mode where I just be quiet and to myself, and it's not a bad thing, it's just me that's me, you know I'm into art. You know, and I know some people probably um be like no, you're not, you're lying.
Speaker 3:No, you're not, you love to talk anybody can sit here and put on the front and top.
Speaker 1:They don't mean that they love to do it, you know. But, um, me personally, I guess what I would leave with everyone is try to do things that you wouldn't mind the world remembering you by because, like I I had mentioned and said, when you're gone you want people to remember you by something and talk very highly of and not down and negative on, because you was out here jacking every person that came in sight. But you know you want to leave like that little boy that was at the funeral with somebody's uncle. Oh yeah, I was like whoa Whoa. I hope they don't do me like that little boy that was at the funeral talking about his uncle, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Whoa, I hope they don't do me like that at my funeral.
Speaker 3:But yeah, you want to make sure that when you are gone that you are remembered by something positive and not family up there bashing and talking about you when you're not even here, because, baby, I'm going to come hunt you, I'm going to be in your house, I'm going to be that spirit in your house coming to hunt you.
Speaker 1:If you talk about me, I'm just playing. So anyways, with that all being said, I just want to make sure that I be, you know, remembered by the things that I was able to do for the community and helping out folks and helping to heal folks, and stuff like that. You know what I'm saying. Other than that, you make sure you make a legacy for yourself and you make sure you make sure you get your flag before you go. And, with that being said, make sure, like always, like, share and subscribe. Leave your feedback and comments below and until the next episode, bye.