How I Had My Busiest Month And Didn't Burn Out As A Musician

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The Busiest Month Without Burnout

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This past month was literally my busiest month as a musician, practically ever, and I didn't burn out. Why didn't I burn out? Because I understood that this is what I asked for, and I was able to hold what I asked for. We're gonna talk about exactly how I did that and how you can do that as well. Welcome to the Confident Musitioning Podcast. So let me break it down. Let me talk to you about this. So basically, last month I did so much. I did multiple concerts, I did multiple recitals, I did multiple auditions, I had so many rehearsals for all of these things. Um I did video auditions, I did in-person auditions, I did so many things all within like one month. And I was so super busy, but I wasn't burnt out and I never did burn out. Why?

Becoming Who Can Hold Success

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Because I understood that I was becoming the version of me who could have the things that I wanted, who could hold the things that I wanted. I say this all the time. The people in my program to get musicians confident know this. But when we want something, when we want outcomes, we aren't actually chasing the outcomes. We are chasing the version of us who can have the outcomes, who can hold the outcomes. Because if you want those outcomes, but you and yourself are not actually equipped and ready to be the version of you who can actually sit with those outcomes, sit with the stuff you need to go through in order to get those outcomes, you're never gonna get the outcomes. And do you know how I know that you are not that person yet? Because you don't have the outcomes. It's literally that simple. But I was sat underneath a stage because I was in a pit orchestra, thinking, oh my gosh, I have so much that I am doing right now. My day are my days are so full. And I think literally in this memory, like I had this thought because I had um a last minute schedule change of something, and I was like, how can my life get even more chaotic? Like I feel so hectic. And the and the thing is, I was literally under this, under this this stage, I was under the pit or in the pit, I was under the stage. Ballerinas were freaking like jumping around on top of the the stage, literally like on top of my head. And I was realizing this is what you wanted. My brain was like, Eleanor, this is what you asked for. You wanted these things, and you're just leveling up to become the person who can hold it. And so, what is being asked of me in that moment was to sit with the discomfort. It was, let me tell you, it was so uncomfortable to have so much happening. It was like, I feel like this is a lot. I felt a little overwhelmed, but I was like, this is the person who I want to become. I want to have all these things. All of the things that I was doing had a reason. You know, I was like, like everything that I was, all the auditions were for things that I wanted to get into, you know, for the the musician, like who I wanted to become, the performances also were so important for me. I really wanted to do these things. I wanted to have these opportunities. This is what I had been asking for. And I knew that I had to become the version of me who could hold that. And the version of me who can hold that is a version of me who is comfortable with a hectic schedule. And so I was sat under this stage thinking, okay, I'm gonna hold it. I'm gonna hold it because and and honestly, the thing about it is like it was so much easier to hold that capacity of responsibility when I realized that it was a natural part of the process.

Trust Vs Scarcity Mindset

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Okay, if you haven't listened to the episode, I think it's the one before this, um, about sitting in the middle, like the idea of the middle or the dis the in-between. In the in-between. Um, yeah, the podcast, sorry, I'm trying to think about it, but yeah, the podcast about the in-between. Yeah, the podcast about the in-between, the episode about the in-between. Um, that is what we talk about. The idea of yes, the in order for you to get the things that you want, you have to have the lessons, learn the lessons, become the version of you who can hold those things, which includes a whole lot of discomfort, a whole lot of doing things you've never done before, a whole lot of stuff that you're like, oh my gosh, I feel honestly. Sometimes you feel cringe doing it, you feel you know, stressed out doing it, but you're like, the version of me who I am becoming can do these things and they do them regularly and they do them with with ease. So I'm going to do them, even though it feels stressful right now, it feels overwhelming right now. And so, in that situation, I just followed the person that I was becoming. And I didn't freak out, and I didn't burn out because I trusted. Trust is so important. Trust, when we trust in our process, we trust that we are becoming the person that we want to become when we can trust that. Like burnout is from lack. The idea of lack, and we talk, oh my gosh, there's there's so much that we talk about in the confidence program, my program to get musicians confident. There's literally a whole module about mindset. There's a video about lack, like scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset for musicians. Let me tell you, it changes your reality, the way you see the world, your mindset. If you if you see the world from scarcity, you are gonna get scarcity. You are not gonna get the things that you want. You're gonna wonder why you are not getting the things that you want. If you see things from an abundant mindset, then you will receive abundance. You will receive the things that you want. And if you're like Eleanor, tell me more. Like, how do I do this? It's inside, get inside the confidence program, because that's what the musicians inside the confidence program are doing. That's what they're doing. That's literally like that's what they're doing, you know. And so, um, that's that's how I was able. That's how I was able to do these things. I didn't

Free Time And Nervous System Safety

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burn out. And and the thing about it was one of the big things about me um not burning out was I gave myself time, I gave myself free time. I um so many, so many times where I like I went to the park and I sat under trees and I went, you know, to the river in my city, and I I looked at it and I had time for me. And the reason why I could do that was because of trust. I could trust. And so when the the thing about it, right, uh, as musicians, I think, oh my gosh, there's so much discourse online, there's so much stuff online saying, like, oh my gosh, as musicians, if you don't want to burn out, make sure you have free time. But if your nervous system as a musician does not feel safe with free time when you are sitting under a tree and you are having free time and your mind's like, gosh, I gotta practice, then first of all, that's not proper free time. And secondly, how are you ever going to get to the point where you can hold the things that you want and become the musician you want to become if you can't trust in your own process, which includes free time? Like it makes total sense. If you struggle with free time because your nervous system doesn't feel safe enough to give you that free time because it's like, gosh, we got to practice, then you are going to burn out. And that in itself, that's just nervous system regulation. That is just nervous system regulation. That is what we do in the confidence program. There are literal, literal like um nervous system practices, there are literal recordings, you literally just put them on, and it's me um giving you a nervous system um regulation practice. That's literally in the confidence program. You know, all of the things that I did in this month are in the program. And so if you are listening to this and you're like, oh my gosh, like I see what you mean. I I I want to do this stuff. I'm sick and tired of trying to get somewhere, trying to become the person that I want to become. And after every setback, after every overwhelm, I freak out, I go back to the start, even subconsciously, you negotiate. You know when you're negotiating. We all know when we're negotiating. We lie to ourselves and say, oh no, it's not. But like we know.

Stop Negotiating With Your Goals

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If you're sick of doing that, get inside the confidence program. It's 98 pounds a month. And if you pay annually, is what is it, 70. Hang on, let me look. 73 pounds a month when you pay annually. That's literally it. And so this idea of actually becoming the version of you who you want to become so you can have the things that you want to have, like performing with confidence, like enjoying your performance, like stop comparing yourself to other people. You got to actually know how to feel safe doing that, trusting the process. That's how I didn't burn out. I felt safe. I felt safe sitting in the discomfort. If you want to learn how to do that, join the confidence program. Okay, seriously, truly. Like, like we we have like there's this client that I'm currently working with, um, and they are working through this specific idea. They have so much on right now, but this is what they wanted. They have so much on right now, but this is what they wanted. And so we we together we worked on how they can understand and sit in the discomfort and hold that discomfort and understand that this is how they are gonna get to the person that they want to become. And they are doing it. Like, I had like I talked to them earlier today, and they are literally doing it. They told me, they were like, Eleanor, I I can do all this stuff now because I'm not freaking out over every little thing. I'm not taking every little thing personally. I feel like I'm so much lighter. I feel like I can actually enjoy the things that I'm doing. And I'm like, of course, like of course you can. That's what this is. That's what that's I'm not the least bit surprised that they can do this now. But that's what the musicians in the confidence program can do. Okay, so if you're like, sign me up, please, get in the description of this video, or or if you're listening to it all like as a as a podcast, get in the show notes of this episode. It's in there. Okay. I'll see you, I'll see you in the program. It is truly a wonderful place, okay? But that's the gist the of the idea um of building like um yeah, of of the fact that I had the the busiest month. I didn't burn out because I trusted the process and I knew that this was what I needed to do to become the person that I'm becoming, and I'm a better musician now for it. I look back and I'm like, I'm so grateful that I stuck with it. I'm so grateful that I sat in it. I'm so grateful that I had the capacity to stop freaking out about it or to just not freak out about it in the first place. And that's what we build in the confidence program, okay? So that's about it for this

Join The Program And Next Steps

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