Finding Joy in the Hard
Finding Joy in the Hard is a weekly podcast about how we meet life when it stretches us — in grief and growth, in ordinary struggles and unexpected turns.
In short minisodes, I share honest reflections, gentle nervous system awareness, and simple embodied practices to help you steady yourself when things feel uncertain.
From time to time, I sit down with guests who have walked through difficulty and found light in the dark and joy in the hard.
I’m your host, Suzanne Andora Barron — yoga and meditation teacher, Jin Shin Jyutsu practitioner, and writer. Through breath, awareness, and simple practices, I help people ease tension and reconnect to their inner steadiness.
Finding Joy in the Hard
#130 What if the Unsolicited Advice We Give Is Really for Us?
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What if we're really the ones who need to hear it?
The next time you go to give advice—especially unsolicited advice— ask yourself whether the advice is really meant for you instead.
We think it's for the person we're talking to, but what if we consider: if it came to us, it's for us.
This morning while journaling, I had a huge aha about advice for my sister. As I continued to journal, I wondered what if this is really for me.
I was lucky I was in a meditative experience because I could receive it and reflect on it.
It actually was really good advice.
For me.
If we're set on offering the advice, here are some things to consider:
One, before giving the advice, notice the feeling that precedes the advice.
Am I seeking to soothe them or me?
Do we feel anxious or helpless holding their pain?
Are we seeking to feel useful?
Are we merely wanting to alleviate their suffering?
The answer can be different at different times.
Two, are we seeking to fix or hold space?
When my friend's adult son comes to her for advice, before they start a conversation, she asks: Do you want me to listen? Solve the situation? Or give advice?
Often he picks the first option.
Even when we give the advice, what if we allow ourselves to receive the advice as well?
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