Finding Joy in the Hard
Finding Joy in the Hard is a testament to how incredibly powerful we are.
In this daily podcast, I offer two-ten minute episodes: words of inspiration, thought provoking questions to shift from rigid thought patterns and actionable healing tips.
Once or twice a month, I'll offer interviews with people who have found joy in the hard of life. Those who found their way to light, no matter their circumstances.
I'm your host, Suzanne Andora Barron. I've been teaching yoga, meditation, and mindfulness and mindset for fourteen years. As a Jin Shin Jyutsu practitioner, I teach students how to use the placement of their hands and breath to ease pain and discomfort in their body, support themselves emotionally and balance mind, body and spirit.
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Finding Joy in the Hard
#130 What if the Unsolicited Advice We Give Is Really for Us?
What if we're really the ones who need to hear it?
The next time you go to give advice—especially unsolicited advice— ask yourself whether the advice is really meant for you instead.
We think it's for the person we're talking to, but what if we consider: if it came to us, it's for us.
This morning while journaling, I had a huge aha about advice for my sister. As I continued to journal, I wondered what if this is really for me.
I was lucky I was in a meditative experience because I could receive it and reflect on it.
It actually was really good advice.
For me.
If we're set on offering the advice, here are some things to consider:
One, before giving the advice, notice the feeling that precedes the advice.
Am I seeking to soothe them or me?
Do we feel anxious or helpless holding their pain?
Are we seeking to feel useful?
Are we merely wanting to alleviate their suffering?
The answer can be different at different times.
Two, are we seeking to fix or hold space?
When my friend's adult son comes to her for advice, before they start a conversation, she asks: Do you want me to listen? Solve the situation? Or give advice?
Often he picks the first option.
Even when we give the advice, what if we allow ourselves to receive the advice as well?
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