2026 -- Urgent: The Lag Time Is Gone. Here's What Matters Now.

The warning signs are here, and the mountain is moving. Using a vivid avalanche story, we explore how subtle rumbles in our bodies, homes, and institutions have become undeniable shifts—and why the lag between cause and effect is disappearing. I walk through the patterns many of us noticed from 2020 onward: domination without accountability, image over integrity, and the empath’s flip side of people pleasing and self-abandonment. Naming these dynamics isn’t about blame; it’s about orientation, so you can find the safe path off unstable ground.

We talk plainly about what changed in 2024 and what accelerates through 2026: more exposure, less delay, and consequences that arrive in real time. That compression can be terrifying if you’re unprepared, but it’s also a gift. It rewards clarity, boundaries, and nervous system regulation. I share the exact five-part plan I use with clients: start therapy or a trauma-informed group, don’t isolate, educate yourself on trauma bonding and power, treat anxiety as information, and choose healing mode over reaction mode. These moves stop feeding narcissistic systems—at work, at home, and in public life—and return you to choice.

If you’ve been doing the work, you’re likely standing on firmer ground. If you’re just beginning, the window is still open. The veil is lifting, and the light helps. This conversation is not “content” for clicks; it’s a manual for becoming the kind of human who steadies the room without performing heroics. One boundary at a time, we shift the algorithm of humanity toward responsibility, courage, and care. If this resonates, help amplify it: subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find their footing. What sign are you ready to stop ignoring?

Transcript

A Sudden Urgent Check-In

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And secure it. We ride in the country. It's an earthquake where we sensually embrace dynamic living.

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Listen up, y'all. I wasn't even intending on jumping on today. I am working on a podcast for the weekend, and I have other stuff that I'm working on for to post here, but today I wasn't intending on jumping on. So this is going to be a little bit, you know, fly by the edge of my seat type of situation. And I need you to listen. I need you to listen. Okay. And I almost want to call this listen up, y'all. I was inspired by the sessions that I'm having in my private practice that I'm having all day long. That's why I didn't want to jump on here. It's because I'm busy. I'm seeing clients all the time, but I keep hearing some themes come up. So let's just jump right in. And the way I want to jump right in today is with a story. I just want you to, you know how I do my cloudisms and I work in visuals because visuals help us remember. So let me start with the story. And we're going to call this story the avalanche. And don't talk about me today. I know I look a mess. I know, I know, you know, I've got flyaways everywhere. But again, I did intend to jump on. Okay, this is an avalanche right here. That's an avalanche. Okay, let's jump

The Avalanche Story And Its Warning

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in. Imagine you're on a mountain and you're there to ski. You decided, let's take the fam up to the mountain to go skiing. You're excited, you've planned the weekend, you've bought the tickets, you have the little cabin. But early in the morning, before the lifts open, there's a warning. There's no panic, there's no hysteria, there's a real warning. So the folks who manage the ski resorts say there's been a shift, pressure has been building, is unstable. Now remember, they don't want to say this. They're gonna lose. But it's important enough that they're saying it. Some people listen, they pack up, they change plans, they leave the mountain, even though it's disappointing. In parentheses, even though there's a price to pay. Maybe they can't get their tickets back, they can't get a refund because all of that was in the fine print when they signed for the cabin. Others say it's probably fine. They've skied here for years, they don't want to overreact. Parentheses, these are some of the people that say I'll pick my battles. I see it, I hear it. It's not how it usually goes. So I'll let this slide. Then the snow starts moving. At first, it's subtle, dust. There's some noise in the distance, some rumbling. Maybe you feel it in your body, something is definitely off. In parentheses, your body starts giving you signals that you're more irritable, more anxious, more alert. And then the avalanche hits. And so here's the thing, right? The avalanche didn't come out of nowhere. There was a warm-up. There were signs, losos red flags, the famous red flags, pink flags that turned red. There was time to prepare. That's where we are right now, my loves. And here we go. Listen up, y'all. Listen up. From 2020 to 2023. A lot of us were in a phase of awakening and recognition. Lots going on. This was after COVID. Everyone went inside. Lots of stuff coming up, lots of awareness, lots of asking ourselves questions about ourselves, about our families, about our work. Questions, questions, questions popping.

Awakening 2020–2023: Seeing The Patterns

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Is this me? Do I like this? What's next? This is when many of you, especially if you're an empath, a highly sensitive, open-hearted human, or an intuitive, you started realizing, oh, this isn't just my family. This isn't just my partner. This isn't just my ex. This isn't just my boss. You began to see narcissistic dynamics everywhere. And let's be clear about what I mean about narcissism. I just did the whole vlog series on narcissists declassified. Go ahead and check that out. But go all the way back. That's my point today. This isn't just a personality trait or a disorder for one human being. Other words for narcissism are domination, control, imperialism, entitlement, image, overintegrity, power without accountability, strategic denial, strategic willingness to overlook harm to others. And what's the other side of that, right? Because we've been talking about the wounded empath too, or when we're unhealed, when we're just normal human beings who keep carrying all the trauma from our past, from our ancestors, from our lineage, from our ethnicities, from our racial structures. What are some of those other words? Codependence, people pleasing, trauma bonding, hyper responsibility, hypervigilance, avoidant coping, self-abandonment, taking yourself out of the equation. Whether one or the other, it's super low frequency, low vibration, super toxic, even. So that period from 2020 to 2023 is why I started my podcast, why I started to show up on YouTube consistently, why I started to write not one book, two books, three books really, but I don't ever talk about the book Diversity in Humanity. I will. But right now I'm emphasizing the empath leader, transforming humanity, its algorithm, and healing from narcissistic abuse. It wasn't because I wanted to be trendy.

Defining Narcissism And Its Opposite

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It wasn't for aesthetics, it wasn't even for credibility because I don't see myself as an author. I'm not a writer. It wasn't because I wanted to be spiritually in fashion, because it takes a lot of courage to come out and be public, you guys. It's because I was sounding. So from 2024 through 2025, like literally, literally, if you feel it in your body, in your skin, you'll know. Oh wow, if you retrace your steps, you'll feel it. The message began to shift. The neon light started to flicker a little more. And what did we start talking about? Shadow work, towers falling, the illusion cracking, cord cutting from families, from our traumatized ancestry, friendships, communities that had banked on old dynamics. We started talking about old earth and new earth, new ways of being as humans. We started talking about addiction coming to the surface has always been around. But the the need for us to stop sleepwalking, the urgent messaging, we must stop sleepwalking, the truth becoming exposed more and more and more and more into the light. And I know I've become boring. I've beaten this drum over and over and over. Heal, heal, heal, go to therapy, go to groups, get your support, go to YouTube University. Everything here is free. Do your trauma work. We are the ones. We are the ones to change, to heal our lineage for the babies to come. Because we know better. On this planet in 2026, we know better. History will not repeat itself. I keep saying that. History will not repeat itself because we are an aware, more conscious humanity. A lot of us, right after COVID, we started looking around and we started saying, is this where I want to be? Is this the relationship I want to be in? Is this the dynamic I want to continue? Is this who I want to be? That's the really big question. Is this who I want to be? And it's okay if I was this for all these years. But who am I today, now that I know so much more? What's coming next? What 2026 is bringing to us is exposure without lag time. It's going to be IRL in real life and in real time. So when I'm having sessions with folks that I've seen for many years, we've been talking about it. What I want to say, you guys, really, those books are manuals.

From 2024 On: Shadow Work And Exposure

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They really aren't a notch on my belt. There really are an invitation and now an urgent call to look at yourself, to look at your life and get this right. Because here we are in 2026. What took years to surface is now happening in months, in weeks, in days. Just think, we're not even done with January. Look at all that has happened just in January. And I would venture to say, look in your homes, because things are already happening in your homes, right? Not only out in the collective, but right next to us. It's already happening. The lag time is gone. We had lag time. You're seeing it in politics, in institutions, in our economy, in families, in friendships, in marriages, in workplaces. The veil is finishing lifting. We're gonna see the ugly, ugly, ugly, which we have been, and we're gonna see the beauty, beauty, beauty in the healing, in the boundaries, in the no more. It is becoming clear as day who and what you are surrounded by. And I want to say this gently, but directly. It's sort of my brand. It's sort of my style. If you have not been doing your healing work, this moment can feel overwhelming, anxiety-provoking, and disorienting. It is the legit dark night of the soul. I've been talking about the dark night of the soul. The small is in the all, the all is in the small, from the individual all the way out to humanity. It's in my clinical practice every day, and it's on TV every day. Sometimes I'm still surprised that people are surprised. It's getting dark, so I had to turn on the light. And I know you could see the glare in my glasses, but that's okay because what I really want is for you to listen, not see me listen. Because this right now is what I've been preparing myself and you along with me, my loves, since 2020. I took my work out of my workshops and my office and brought it out here, even though it's been nerve-wracking to do that. But I can't help this urge, this calling. So this isn't content. That's why I'm so imperfect at it. I'm so imperfect at content. This is a manual. I didn't write the books for fun, and I didn't create all of these pieces of work, this body of work, to just get myself out here to

No Lag Time: Truth Hits Home

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be cute. Although we do love all things cute. Empaths love all things cute. These books are meant as a guidebook, as manuals, as a resource as we go through this. They're there on purpose and right on time, my loves. Please take this seriously. I tell my people all the time, and you, you global community, are pirate of my people now. We're not messing around. We are not messing around. This work exists to give you options, to give you a path, so that you're not trapped inside of reaction mode as the avalanche, whether it's in your home or out there in the nation, is falling on top of you. It's so that we're not swallowed up by anything narcissistic. Anything. And we're not frozen in fear by systems, by ways of being collapsing around us, around you. So what's the to-do list? What is it that we've got to do right now? What you've got to do right now, okay? In it together, in it together. Here's what matters right now. Number one, if you're not in therapy, start. There are platforms since since 2020, platforms everywhere that take insurance. It's not all out of pocket anymore. There are trauma-informed clinicians, there are group options. If if you can't do individual therapy right now, and even if you live in other countries, I know what it's like to live in another country. Therapists are everywhere now. They're popping up from India to the Soviet Union to Colombia. Todo el mundo, todo el mundo está vendo therapeutas. Everyone is seeing therapists now or hearing about it. Start somewhere. YouTube University has N less options. I love YouTube because it's free. There's long form, there's short form. Even TikTok has healing messages. Get on it. Zero. Cero, zero excuses. We're talking about no lag time. Number two, do not isolate. As a humanity, we must huddle, we must come together, especially with what's happening on the globe. Find your people and people who are healing with you. Healing does not happen alone. It can. But when we find other folks who are on the same mission, it's like working out with people. It's like fasting with people. There's 12 step groups, trauma recovery groups, somatic healing spaces, conscious communities, plant medicine groups everywhere. Isolation. Listen, listen, don't look at me, listen to me. Isolation

Manuals, Not Content: Why The Work Exists

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is where narcissistic systems thrive. That's the first thing the narcissist does. They separate you from family, from good friends, they separate you from your resources, they start to separate you from other groups, other countries. They separate you because then they can have more dominion and more control and more brainwashing. They get all up in here. Number three, educate yourself seriously. Read, listen, learn, podcast it out. It doesn't have to be my books, so many books. So many books on tape, so many books on YouTube. What you must understand. Is trauma bonding, nervous system regulation, power dynamics, emotional addiction, sexual addiction. You know what? You want to control someone, have them be sexually addicted. Listen, even if you have eye uh high IQ, even if you have high IQ, you will be depleted. You will procrastinate because addictions are the greatest distractors. People did this all the time. Here, drink away, use away, sex away, eat away. It's not just you, it's me. It's all of us distracted. And and then all of a sudden your dreams are nowhere to be found. You stop being goal-oriented because you lose all focus. And how about this? Your internal negative self-talk begins. It's a cycle. I've been talking about it, talk about it. I'm not going to repeat it here. But addictions will seep. Everything, everything, everything that gives us possibility, so will trauma. So ignorance is not neutral. Ignorance is not neutral. And there's zero excuses. There's no room for it anymore. We can find it. We can find the information, the knowledge everywhere. And by the way, that's how most of humanity has been kept impoverished, is by keeping us ignorant. Nope. History will not repeat itself. Number four, treat your anxiety as information. It's one of my signature approaches. It's not pathology. Depression, what's it telling me? Anxiety, what's it telling me? What am I needing to notice? What healing, what pockets of healing do I need to do? Where am I where am I most afraid? Your anxiety is not random. It's your nervous system calling out for you. It's a call to action from your nervous system that says something here is not aligned at all or any more. Learn how to

The Five-Step To-Do List For Healing

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listen to your full body. Number five, choose healing mode. Healing mode on over reaction mode. Reaction mode off. Reaction feeds whatever toxic system you're in. Whether that's in your day-to-day, whether that's at the dry cleaners, whether that's on the political landscape. If we're just explosively reacting or implosive, we're doing it against ourselves, same thing. We're feeding into the system where we are controlled and dominated. And not just by someone else, y'all. We're controlled and dominated by our own reactions. By our own reactions. We feel powerless and helpless. Healing is the antidote. It dismantles it. Those of you who've been doing the work already, all these years, or just recently, maybe three years, but you've been doing the work. You're standing on stronger footing right now. You saw the avalanche coming, or you could no longer bear all the internal avalanches. I know I'm saying that with an accent. It's because I don't fully know how to use the American accent with it. Avalanche, I think it is. Avalanche. You saw it coming, you prepared, you listened, you packed up your people, and you chose safety over denial. This is what I'm doing. I want to pack up my people, you, my soul tribe, globally, because this is no longer just here. We know this. We are globally intertwined because of the internet. And that's good, by the way, because we've been seeing it, right? We're globally intertwined because the Netflix documentaries have been exposing narcissism all over the place, in cults, in Hollywood, everywhere, in countries, on dating apps. We've been seeing it. We've been talking about it globally. I am you and you are me, wherever you are. So let me end with this, mi gente, my people, my soul tribe, you. This is not meant to scare you. I am not here to scare because then we're just perpetuating all the fight, flight, fawn, freeze. No, we are not in reaction mode. We are in smart, emotionally regulated. I will plan my future. I see possibilities mode. This is meant to orient you, orient me, orient us. There is still time to choose healing. There is still time to exit toxic systems. We are the ones, remember, I keep saying, I'm like Samson. I am stopping all the trauma from one side of my family and stopping it like those two pillars on the other side of my family. It's gonna be me, just little old me is going to stop what's been passed down from generation to generation to generation. That is my little, as we say in Spanish, granito de arena, little grain of sand contribution towards what's happening on the planet today. And we're seeing it. There is still time to reclaim your nervous system, your clarity, and your power, because that will give you prowess to start helping everyone around you. And you don't have to help by actually actively helping, you are helping by being the new human. But let me say this the window for unconscious, unaware, oh, I didn't know living is closing. The invitation is here, the work is pretty clear, and the cost of not doing well, that's a way higher price to pay. And my loves, I was talking to a client today who keeps hitting the same, same, same places with their partner, and it's been so hard for her to see it because it's painful, because it takes big decisions when we know we must leave something toxic from the small to the all, and the all to the small. It is hard, but we're here for it. You're not alone. This is the moment, you're not going to get caught off guard, not anymore. So I'm gonna be posting a lot. If you haven't already, go all the way back. And again, I'm not a professional podcaster at all. I'm not an author, I'm not a YouTuber. What I am is someone who feels an urge to inspire folks to start this little wave, like shift this algorithm, my loves, to a new humanity. And we gotta keep repeating that history

Choosing Safety Over Denial

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will not repeat itself. We're not playing around anymore. We're just not, we can't, we cannot. There is no lag time. So I'm serious. Please subscribe, even if you don't subscribe, share, comment, suggest. Please help me shift this algorithm, transforming humanity's algorithm. And how do we do it? We do it together, all together. Okay. One by one, by one by one, all next to each other. I just had to jump on. I know it's dark, I know there's glare. This is all imperfect. That's okay with me. Because what I really want you to feel is the fire, the fire in my heart, in my belly. Okay, all over the world. Let's do this together. And twenty twenty six is the time. I'll see you.