Protect The Child

“Give me a child until the age of seven, and I will show you the man” isn’t just a quote we repeat, it’s a blueprint that empires and abusers have used for centuries. We follow that thread from the inside of a child’s nervous system all the way out to culture, institutions, and war, because the earliest stories don’t stay small. They become policies, relationships, and repeating family patterns that feel “normal” until we finally name what they are.

I’m Claudie Carucci, a clinical psychotherapist, and I’m looking at why children are such a predictable target in domination systems: kids are wired for attachment, trust, and survival, which makes them capable of deep love and also vulnerable to manipulation, secrecy, and abuse. When harm happens early, it can rewrite how we see protection, power, and our own worth. That’s not just personal psychology; it’s the seedbed of generational trauma, chronic anxiety, and the quiet “war vibe” that shows up in homes and then scales into nations.

We also tackle vengeance head-on: a real human feeling that turns destructive when pain has nowhere to go. Treaties can end battles, but they don’t heal wounds, and ungrieved wounds look for symbols to punish. From there, we pivot into alternatives that don’t deny human competitiveness, but refine it, drawing on the ancient Olympic sacred truce and the idea of competition with integrity where rules are honored, losing has dignity, and children inherit pride instead of hatred.

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Transcript

The Seven-Year Strategy

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There is a phrase that has echoed in the halls of power for thousands of years. I use it all the time when I'm teaching about how our stories get written. It's been spoken by emperors, by priests, by philosophers, by cult leaders, by generals, by institutions, and it's very, very strategic. The phrase is this give me a child until the age of seven, and I will show you the man. It's often attributed to Aristotle. It's been repeated by the Jesuits, by totalitarian regimes, by every system that has understood with clarity that if you want to control the future, you don't start with adults. You start with children. Now, this is true on the whole spectrum. It's true on this side of the spectrum where we understand that if children are treated beautifully with love, with security, with stability, with understanding, it will show you that adult. And it's true all the way to the other side of the spectrum. It holds the same approach because children are not just small humans. Children are a blank slate for the future. They are, in fact, unwritten futures. They are the next generation of every value, every principle, every wound, every story that a family, a culture, a civilization wants to tell about itself. And whoever writes first is the one who determines how that future is gonna go. Today we're gonna spend some time inside of that phrase. We're gonna look at it across human history, in war, in religious institutions, in cults, in systems of trafficking and abuse in our day-to-day lives as a family. And for those of you who are asking, why are we talking about this? We're talking about it because it's happening in real time. We're talking about women, we're talking about children, we're talking about the systems that come in and dominate that. We're talking about it. And today we're going to ask why, just from all sorts of points of view, including the psychological. And then because this podcast is called Heaven on Earth, and we are here, it is my total belief that we are here to build something and build something new. We're gonna deeply ask what it would be like if we were to channel that human competitive drive that we talked about in the last podcast into something that could exalt rather than destroy. This is so now moment, y'all. Welcome back. This is episode two, season four.

What Heaven On Earth Examines

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Let's go. But first, thank you to everyone who stayed with this podcast. Your presence here means everything, not just to me, but to you, because this means that this type of information is resonating with who you are and who we want to be. Welcome to Heaven on Earth. I'm Claudie Carucci, clinical psychotherapist for over 25 years, and someone who can't look at anything and not get all of these connecting little fires going all over my brain. So I'm always trying to make sense. The show is not religious, although its title can be confusing. It's actually psychological and spiritual, and there's a real difference. So we don't do doctrine, but what we do do is explore the human being, explore humanity. On each episode, I take a topic that is alive in the world right now. It might be something that you're feeling, but that you can't name it just yet. It might make you curious. And I study it from every angle. I study it from a biological angle, historical, psychological, spiritual, like spokes on a wheel, all leading to the same place, the center. I have a very signature approach. It's called the all is in the small, and the small is in the all. And what that means is that what happens inside of one human being is happening all the way out there in humanity. So we work from the inside out, there's no bypassing, and we try and do it all the way through. Casey Kasom used to say, keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars. And that's what we do here. We build connections, we build bridges from humans to humanity. And we start with where we actually are, but we're reaching for possibility. That's the thing. This is heaven on earth, a portal to possibility. So let's dive right in. Last

Extending Sovereignty To Children

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episode, we talked about the biology of the feminine, about the egg as sovereign, and about one of the deep wounds in civilization today that sovereignty has been inverted. And it's been inverted through ownership and property building. Go check it out. But it's the deep, deep, deep wound of who we are as human beings today. Today, I want to extend that analysis to children. It's the same logic, but actually the stakes are even higher. So, what most powerful systems have known is the following. Adults are harder to break, they're already set in their ways. Adults have formed identities, they have memories of who they were before you got them. They already have the neurological architecture. Adults can resist, they can question, they can leave. Children do not. Children are neurologically wired for attachment, for trust. They absorb their reality that surrounds them as truth. They're sponges. They just take in what not only are they being taught, but what they're seeing. They absorb it all. Let's say it's a human design feature. It's one of our operating systems. It's actually how species transfer knowledge across generations. You can see it in all sorts of mammals, right? The parent mammal will, let's say, jump onto the next ledge, and the little cubs will jump onto the next ledge. It's how cultures, it's how species survive. But let's say, in that same exact design feature that makes children exquisitely available for love and capable of learning also makes them exquisitely vulnerable to exploitation. A child cannot contextualize abuse. Their little psyches cannot frame it as the abuser's dysfunction. So a child can't separate what's being done to them and what they feel they deserve. It's also too dangerous to blame the adult because the adult might be the person they think will protect them. So it's very confusing. This is where disorganized attachment begins because it's so confusing. Why is there cruelty? Why are they abusive? Why are they a bully? Right? It's confusing. Especially for a child since they have no power. They're children. So the only little response they have is that this has to be my fault. If something is going wrong in the home, it must be me. That's what the child realizes, even though it's not true. So when you harm a child systemically, repeatedly, with intention, you're not just harming a person. You're almost rewriting code. You're drafting a new program. One that will run invisibly for the rest of their life. And that goes for all types of how we raise our children, even though it's not an abuse. This is the way that we begin to write our child's story. So imagine what it does if that programming begins with abuse, volatility, fear, bullying, meanness. Imagine alcoholism. That child is just, you are just coding the child. So it's not just one human that's breaking their root chakra, it is off. It's an actual fracture that multiplies across time. It's generational. So you're getting where I'm going, where heaven on earth always goes, which is when we injure a group of people, one person, this is what keeps going on in ancestral lines. And that's why we're here to talk about it, because it's time to change that algorithm.

How Systems Rewrite A Child

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This is why children have always been the target of systems that want to dominate, whether that's a religion, a cult, a family system. It's not a side effect, it's not collateral damage. Let's be really clear. It's the point. Every cult knows this. In fact, a lot of cults separate the children from the parents. For this reason, the first strategy isn't the recruitment of adults. You raise the children inside the system where the group, the group's reality, the cult's reality, the religion's reality, the cultural reality is the only reality that they know. We see this in countries that have dictatorships. First thing they do is isolate the group of people from the rest of the world on purpose. So if you question it, you're actually feeling like you're questioning reality. Every totalitarian regime understood this. It's usel to reprogram the generation that remembers. You build the next generation from scratch. You erase history and you program them inside your ideology so that they can literally not imagine another. I'm thinking, for example, of the Khmer Rouge. Certainly in most revolutions, that's the first thing that happens. So every institution, including families, that stay silent or protects the abuser, understood this. A child who is abused by an authority figure, someone who might be in a position of sacred authority, for example, priest, a teacher, a coach, a parent, doesn't just suffer harm. It actually impacts the way they begin to see reality. And how we see reality begins to create our life. Remember that because this goes for all of us. What was handed down to us, whether it be a verbal or nonverbal teaching, is how we are going to see our life. Give me the child, and I'll show you the adult. For example, the child might have a belief system that the people who are meant to protect me are actually the people who hurt me. So then it's logical for me to not trust protection. It's then logical for me to not trust anyone at all. Therefore, I'm alone. Therefore, I deserve this. When that message is instilled in childhood, it is one of the most durable and destructive messaging a human being can carry. And it's passed on. It's passed on to our children, your children, and their children's children. This is exactly what we mean by development psychology. Trauma research, epigenetics, attachments. This is unambiguous scientifically. Childhood trauma reshapes the brain, the nervous system, the immune system. It completely rewires the stress response for a while. We actually live in our bodies differently, jacked up all the time. And it changes how we relate to power to our own bodies. So let's expand that out. Let's move it into the the the all. Imagine entire civilizations full of unhealed, unconscious, or conscious childhood wounds. It's not just like wounded individuals, it is a collection. It is a wounded, deeply wounded civilization. Yes. You too. Me too. This is what we're talking about when we're talking about ancestral healing. And the child is at the very center. It is the wound of the culture. What grows there grows everywhere. What a beautiful resource children are. So now let's talk about how wounds become wars. You think,

Vengeance As A Human Mechanism

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oh, this isn't me. It is you because if you're wounded, trust and believe that you will be warring against yourself. You will be warring in your intimate relationships, even if you're nonverbal, you will be warring in your mind. This is where the war vibe begins. It begins in one person who's deeply wounded. This is the meaning of projections. So do not think this is not for you. If you have anxiety, if you have depression, you are warring with yourself. If you are using substances, if you're using sex as escape, this is you. And of course, for those who are exploiting children, women, young boys, this is how it starts with deep woundedness that is unconscious. Period. So let's continue. Let me introduce a concept that I talk about a lot because it's a concept that we don't discuss enough in terms of emotional regulation. And yet it drives humanity like crazy. And that concept is vengeance. Vengeance is a feeling, you all, that we can carry into an action. It begins with envy. It begins with the desire to dominate. It can be really exploitative desire to win at all costs. It begins with a desire to feel superior. It begins with a desire to alleviate our pain. It is a normal human experience where it gets extremely distorted, is how we move it outside of our internal experience to the outside. It's a mechanism, and it's a mechanism that has been intentional throughout civilization. One group will want vengeance for another group. This is an eye-for-an-eye type of thinking. So it keeps these cycles of violence running, going, going, going, and we see it happening between countries on the planet. There's a logic to vengeance, and it's almost it's simple, it's elemental. You hurt me. I cannot process my pain fully. I cannot metabolize it. I cannot release it because I never learned how. Because the wound was too early. It was too deep, too unspeakable. So the pain lives in me. It's unprocessed, it's pressurized, it's like a big intolerable lump. And it's so intolerable that it needs a place to go. And the somewhere it goes is outward, projected, projectile vomiting of this pain. At whoever, whoever I frame as the cause of my pain. Pick and choose at the group that harmed my group, at the child of the man who harmed me, at that man's child, at the person who I feel has more privilege, more prowess, more rights than me, at that group over there that's weaker than me, easy target, at the nation that represents the nation that wronged me, even if it's four generations ago. Vengeance does not require the original perpetrator. It only requires a symbol. Sex trafficking, pedophilia, war, all of these systems, including narcissistic systems, are all about an unprocessed wound that gets projected outward. The addiction is a wound that first starts in the person, it's projected outward, and believe that this will last generations. So wars don't end when treaties are signed. They're a good start because the treaty ends the original conflict, but it doesn't end the wound. The wound goes underground if we don't heal it. It goes into families, it goes into stories, it goes into cultures, into the way a mother might describe the people across the border dressed that way, acting that way. Definitely the war between men and women. Absolutely. In the way that one religion frames another religion, in the way that one ethnic group frames another ethnic group. This is what we're teaching as stories. And then one day, centuries later, the child that has that wound put in them, just it's been passed on generationally, does one thing that reignites everything. It inflames. It's like, it's like striking a match. And what do you know? All the isms are based on this wound. This podcast talks about that. I want to say almost every episode. Because we have to understand the causes before we can heal and why there is such a need for healing. That child was given the wound before they were given the wisdom to even question it. This is a cycle, this is an ancient cycle. So let's bring it back. Let's bring it back. Can you see that the targeting of children is not just brutal? It's not just horrific. It is so strategic. In the most horrifying sense. Because when you harm your enemy's children, Zeitgeist, Zeitgeist, Zeitgeist, you guarantee that the next generation of your enemy will be raised on the story of what you did to them. Please do not think that this does not relate to you because these are stories about how men should treat women, how women should treat men, about how we have to treat our children, about how we have to treat everyone else. This is a guarantee that the wound will be passed out over and over and over. So the war, my loves, will never end. Will never end. When you plant vengeance into the soil of the next generation, before they're even ready to choose it, it's golden, you've got an evergreen strategy there. So any war that targets children, including sex trafficking, religions, cults, families, is a need to keep on winning, keep on dominating, and on and on and on and on. And here's what makes it so hard to break the person that's acting from unprocessed vengeance isn't lying. Their pain is real. The history is real. The harm done to their people, to me and to you as a child is real. Vengeance isn't irrational, it is an actual primary human feeling. It says, I want to protect myself. I want to make something right. This is wrong. What's been done is wrong. I need to make it right. So it is a predictable result of pain that is alive and has no closure. It wasn't given a proper container. And so when we do the vengeance meditation, when we talk about vengeance, the feelings of vengeance in the container of therapy, in the container of allowing emotions to come, we're actually alchemizing it, we're digesting it, we're moving into action, but the action is to get it outside of your body, of the body, and not putting it into someone else, which keeps perpetuating that war that I just described. So there is a way to honor, acknowledge, validate the desire for vengeance as a means to put something right without moving into action against another, because then you're just perpetuating the wound, the war wound. This is what I really, really want to make clear is when I talk about not bypassing our emotions, bypassing what how how the pain has been put into us, how the injustice has wreaked havoc upon our souls. We validate that, we honor it, and like every other emotion that has so much messaging there for us, we process it, we give it a container. Where humanity has gone absolutely awry, is that we're putting it into other people. We're putting our vengeance for our pain, our unprocessed pain, into other people, and that just keeps it going. You feel me? This is why punishment does not end the cycle of violence. You cannot punish a wound into healing. Yes, people will get quiet, yes, it will suppress it temporarily, but you better believe it's building pressure underground. Just waiting for the next pressure point. People who harm children are putting their hot potato of vengeance into the children, they are recreating vengeance in an ancestral line. Anyone who harms children, and that includes parents, all they're doing is inserting process pain into these beings. So the only thing that ends the cycle of vengeance, my tribe, my people, isn't what military systems do, isn't what religious systems do, political systems do. They

Grief Ends Cycles Of Violence

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haven't done this at scale. Grieve. Grieving is an action. Grieve. Grieving is an alchemy. An alchemy means that we take a base matter that's icky hard. It looks like it's not useful, and we turn it into gold. Grieve. Rock back and forth. Grieving is in the human operating system so that we can work with our pain, with our wounds. We grieve what happened to us as a child, as an adult, as a family, as a culture, as an ethnicity. We grieve. We acknowledge, we make space for the pain to be witnessed, to be processed, so that it immediately isn't converted into what? A weapon. Everything I've been talking about is about weaponizing wounds. And anytime you're thinking this doesn't relate to me, oh yes, it does. It relates to you, even if you're just at home cooking dinner, because it relates to humanity. If we don't grieve, process, validate, acknowledge our pain and our wounding, it will find a place to go. In other words, I know I'm boring. Healing is your biggest act of revolution. It's your biggest activism, healing. As we discussed in the last episode, this is exactly what most unhealed power systems, domination systems, dominant relational dynamics between two people are most afraid of. Because get this, a healed person does not make a good soldier. A heeled person can't unsee what they've seen. A heeled person asks questions to start with. Why am I feeling like this? Why do I respond like this? Why am I so triggered? Why do I react like this? A heeled person, get this beauty, get this beauty, can imagine a different world for themselves and for others. So any system that needs a war, that needs superior, inferior paradigms, that needs to dominate or win at all costs, that includes in relationships, needs wounded people. Do you see? Do you see that your biggest act of revolution is to heal? Because anyone that wants to control you, dominate you, perpetrate you needs you to be wounded. And wounded people are the most reliably produced as children in childhood. So dominance at all costs and what it costs. If

Dominance Versus Integrity In Competition

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you're in that mindset, it costs you. In our last episode, we traced the biological blueprint of creation. We also talked about the blueprint of competition. Right, we talked about the sperm. Two million sperm competing with each other, striving, working hard, enduring to present itself to the sovereign egg, the decider. Now that's competition for a purpose that's much greater than just to compete for creation itself. It's competition in service of something. What we have instead in most of our political and military history is competition with a completely different goal. The goal is not excellence, the goal is not worthy of striving, the goal is not what's best, it's not win-win. How do we both win? For both competitors. And I actually want you to be thoughtful about your own relational style. The goal in these situations is dominance at all costs. And that includes dysfunctional ego, pride, needing at all costs to feel superior. And dominance of all costs is fundamentally different than competition with integrity. Competition with integrity has rules, it has limits, it has an understanding that the competitor is also a human being, that the other is a human being, that their excellence makes your excellence shine. It also makes your excellence meaningful. The opponent, then, is not your enemy. They are your partner in reaching for higher. They inspire you to reach for higher. Dominance at all costs does not recognize this. The opponent must not just be defeated, they must be humiliated, erased, prevented from ever competing again. Now, I'm going to sadly say that this sometimes happens from a parent to the child. The child cannot go past the parent, even though, in psychological development, in evolutionary terms, that's what we want. We want the next generation to be better than us, to explore more than us, to go beyond us. But not in this type of system. We see it in cultures, we see it in families. Children must not grow up to challenge you. Really interesting. You just want to keep them the same so that the parents don't feel bad about themselves. Dominance at all costs is not a sign of healthy competition, of competition with intention. It's actually competition that just gave up on itself. That sole purpose is to put someone under their finger. And the targeting of children is the clearest sign of this dynamic. Even when a parent is hitting the child, children are not combatants. They pose no military threat. They can't be justified as enemies under any coherent framework of competition, including for the father or the mother who feels that children must be dominated to have an organized home. I mean, have you ever seen a child versus an adult? There's zero competition. The only logic for targeting children is I'm not trying to win this contest, trying to make sure that this contest never happens again. I am trying to eliminate the future. Yes, yes, children are the seeds of the future. And this whole podcast is about that. Whether that's a military campaign that targets civilians, a cult that isolates the children from outside contact, from their parents, even, to prevent exposure to options, to alternatives. Whether that's a parent in a family system that sees their only means for control is to literally squash the soul and the spirit out of their children. And a lot of them will say, hey, this is how my parents did it. Again, this ancestral passing down. So this is a perpetrator who selects young victims on purpose because they can't report. In fact, they become too afraid to resist or report. It happens in institutions that just keep transferring the perpetrators around rather than exposing choosing self-preservation over protection of young people. And I've talked about this in the before. Sometimes that happens to the spouse of the narcissist who will not protect their own children for fear of the wrath of the narcissistic parent. All these are the same logic. Dominance at all costs, even at the cost of the future itself. This perpetuates rupture. And they all produce the same thing. Generations of wounded people before they were strong enough to consent to those woundings. So a civilization, a culture, a group, a family system, an ethnicity that targets its own children to maintain power has already lost. We talk about issues and problems and what we see as wounds, but we're also here to talk about possible solutions as we move forward as a humanity. And by the way, for those of you who keep thinking, why are we talking about narcissism so much? It's because we're not just talking about a narcissistic lover in a coupling dynamic. We are talking about a way that humanity has been that keeps showing up everywhere. So in order for us to really start with solutions, with healing, with figuring out ways that we can be a new humanity, a new earth, if you will, we have to look at the characteristics and at the system of narcissism. And I keep talking about it in different types of ways. So let's talk about alternatives.

The Olympic Truce As Alternative

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Let's pivot. And we're going to pivot dramatically, because this is where visioning comes in. We can't just drop an addiction and leave a vacuum. We've got to always think how I'm going to fill this vacuum when we stop doing something. This is really, really important. What are we going to fill that whole? So we've been sitting in this wound for a very long time. 12,000 years, we've been sitting in this wound. It's stinky. It's stinky. It has gangrene. And are you just shocked that we are still seeing it today? It's playing out in real time. We cannot build a different future. You cannot build a different future for yourself without being really honest, brutally honest with what has happened before, with what this moment is built on. But here's a question. Here's a question. And this isn't just a fantasy, it's an actual, it's an actual question. I want you to be really reflective and curious about this. What if competition had never left as a global strategy? What do I mean? Here's what I mean. Take the ancient Olympic Games. In their original conception in ancient Greece, check this out. They weren't just athletic events like they are today. They were actually a substitute for war. There was something called the Ekeshera. And I'm I'm like totally not pronouncing that well. But what it means is the sacred truce. The sacred truce. It's spelled E-K-E-C-R-I-A. And it required that all Greek city-states halt military operations during the games. What? So enemies would lay down their weapons and they sent their best athletes instead. For those weeks, excellence was the only weapon that mattered. Is that amazing? So something amazing, extraordinary would happen. Extraordinary, meaning out of the ordinary man who won the foot race, that athlete who threw the disc the furthest, who wrestled with the greatest skill. He brought glory not to just himself, but to his people, to his entire city. His victory was his people's victory. His excellence was his people's honor. Now we still see that in the Olympic Games today. And we could still see the rivalries between nations. But it's all done through competition with integrity, through honor, not through sore losing. No, without a single death, without a single child orphaned or abused, without a city or village pillaged, without women raped. The contest was real. The stakes were real. The pride was real. The emotions were real. The glory was real. The method was different. So competition didn't stop. The arena changed. And in doing that, they actually changed the outcomes of competition. So, okay, let's not be naive. Ancient Greece had plenty of war because war has been around for 12,000 years. The Olympic truce was not always honored. I hear some of you already pointing that out. And I'm with you. I agree. Humanity is complex and extremely messy. But the idea embedded in the Olympic Games is one of the most radical and unexamined ideas in human history. And it just feels more congruent with our biology. Hence, last episode. What if the drive to compete, to prove your people's excellence, striving for better could be built entirely into arenas that produce excellence rather than devastation and ultimately extinction? What if the warrior was actually an athlete? What if the field was the actual battlefield, the track, the swimming pool, the snow cliffs? What if winning meant that your competition, that your opponent saluted you, saluted, honored your achievement, then their army burning down your village? What would have to be true for us for that to work? Remember, I told you that I was Obsessed with Formula One, because there's a lot of painful losses and a lot of glorious wins. And it's done with honor. It's done with how do I, how do I become better for the next one? So, how do we do this? How do we do this as a humanity? So I've thought about three things. Let's think about three things. First, we play by the same rules, and the rules are honored. We understand that whatever outcome there is, that that's what we honor and respect. It's binding, just like the Olympics, at least for the next four years. That if you perform better, you win, you get the victory. That the idea isn't to contest the result with force. Are you thinking? Are you thinking of the big countries and the little countries? What if the little countries were actually better? Number two, there would have to be honor in losing as well. See, that's nuance. The culture would honor and concede to the losing. There's like a graceful concession as equal and as much as a brilliant victory. You know, like the warrior who says, Hey, I shake your hand. You are amazing today. You deserve the win. I salute you. I celebrate you. I do not shame you. Third, you're like, but where did the children go, right? Children would be raised in this system as well. These are the values for this system. The competitor is not the enemy. And there's going to be children who don't even want to compete. That's honored. Because there's no danger, there's no war and non-competition. But for those who want to compete, the idea is how do I become the best competitor? How do I strive with integrity? Winning through performance versus destroying with envy, with vengeance, with unexplored rage, destroying through narcissistic wounds. So it's this understanding that whether you're losing or winning, you're engaging in a competition that has integrity and that will respect the outcome, not annihilate it. What would this do to the vengeance side? If my opponent beats me in a fair game, fair game, and I acknowledge it genuine, publicly, with honor, there is nothing to avenge. The outcome was legitimate, the process was clean. My children do not inherit a wound from that defeat. They actually inherit integrity. And this is true for families. Imagine if you said, My bad, my bad. That was a traumatic response on my end. I'm so sorry I didn't hear you. I was wrong. What if we said that in families to our children, to our spouses? I say that all the time. Like, wow, would we have a clean family where you just say, hey, I accept defeat, but not really accepting defeat. It's like I acknowledge you. But if my opponent beats me through deception, through hurting me in my worst wounds, through targeting civilians, through breaking every rule of engagement, through lies, cheating, stealing, doing things behind closed doors, behind your back, through harming my people, my children. Then my children have to answer for those behaviors. The cycle continues. So the vengeance cycle is not perpetuated because someone lost, y'all. It is actually perpetuated by losing in a way that's illegitimate, by being harmed in ways that violate the most face agreements about how human beings about what they owe to each other. So vengeance and war is not stopped by stopping competition. It's actually to compete with integrity, with agreed rules, with genuine honor for excellence on both sides. We're not gonna dilute the drive to want to win. It's how we win. And by the way, abusive dominance is always a loss for all of us. All of us. So the Olympic Games represent human nature at its highest, highest, highest level. It doesn't deny human, it brings it up. It's competition that builds excellence rather than destroy. So let's take this even further. The Olympic model is just something I'm using right now, but we could go way past it, right? What if this was not just athletics? What if geographical disputes were genuinely settled by each nation producing the highest scientific discovery to help the planet, to help humanity? What if it was done through who could solve a shared problem that we've all got, like water systems, like plastic? In the most elegant way? Who could do that? What about innovation? What if two countries could come together and say, all right, whoever has the best innovation for this issue that keeps reoccurring, for this crisis? And how do we do it? We do it with transparent data, with agreed metrics, with the willingness to be evaluated, to accept the verdict. By the way, the small is in the all, the all is in the small. This is true for couples. This is true for friendships. I know this sounds like out there and radical, but I think it's okay to start the conversation because we have to know how to replace the things that humanity has been so far. We can't just tell an addict who has used their addiction as a coping mechanism, as an avoidance strategy, to just face everything all at once. No, we've got to find a conversation solutions that could help, but also a North Star. Why are we doing this? And basically, in both those cases, it's to not self-destruct. To not self-destruct this planet, us as human beings and us, us as individual humans. Those are the real questions. We don't those ask those questions when it comes to war. We just do war. We just move into action, move into vengeance, move into toxic dominance. We just move into it. No matter the casualties, like war is just inevitable. Listen, lots of countries have not engaged in war. We have never, as a civilization, put equal amount of time into competition with integrity as we have done with war. What if we put all of that money? Can you imagine? Those would be consist competitive systems that do not require our young, our young people to go into massive death. Because even countries that teach its own boys, its own girls to move into their own death for war. That's a thought right there. The energy required to build one warship could build, I don't know, 10 Olympic training centers. What if scientists, artists, athletes, stealers? What if that was the competition? How do we create something that furthers humanity, not kills it? So let's tie it back to children. Let's

Raising Children Without Inherited War

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tie it back to children because we're on the on the final stretch here. Any child that's raised in a culture of toxic dominance or narcissistic system, dominance at all costs, is trained implicitly, constantly, that winnings by any means is the highest value. It also raises children who are whose central nervous system is completely jacked up. Now, if you've ever been in a culture or a family or an ethnicity who's been oppressed, you know that. You're constantly with post-traumatic reactions and triggers. You are raised to not trust. You are raised if the outcome is war. Even between men and women, there's a ton of war vibing between men and women. On the other hand, every child raised in a culture of competition with integrity learns something completely different. That how you win matters just as much as whether you win. The rules are just the scaffolding that makes the meaningful victory that someone else being excellent is what makes your victory of excellence more real. It's like, how do you think you're winning when you're oppressing a child? That is just completely ridiculously and dramatic disproportionate. There is no word for it. It certainly is not excellence when you're wanting to beat, win, or dominate a child. Those are two entirely different humans, two entirely different civilizations. And it starts in childhood, which is why protecting your children is not just a feeling. Give me a child, raise in integrity, not all the back-handed stuff, and I will show you a future that does not need vengeance, my loves. From men to women, women to men, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Because it was never given a wound that demanded the vengeance. So let me pull it all together. Let's pull together the thread that weaves last episode and this episode together. And especially because it's all in real time. We began with the cell, right? And last episode. We began with the biology of the sperm and the egg. We began with the original competition, integrity, sovereignty. Listen to those words. We tracked how that design has become inverted, flipped, flipped on its head, how the sovereign became property, how competition actually became then domination. I own you, I dominate you. And how the sacred threshold, how a woman's opening has become territory to be seized in rape and pillaging, which is why almost all women have a primal, constant experience of feeling unsafe, even just walking to their car, because they are open for pillaging. Today we've looked at how this inversion targets children. It's all flipped. How the youngest and again, most open amongst us, because it's the folks that can be opened or opened. Shout out empaths, shout out sensitives, shout out elderly. The most open among us have always been the first target of systems, humans that run on domination. Now that starts with the Epstein files, it starts with global war, it starts with abuse in the home. Everything we always talk about. It starts in relational dynamics. The thread talks about how the wounds instilled in childhood becomes the next generation of vengeance that fuels the next generation of war. You know that whole saying hurt people hurt people. Not all hurt people hurt people. There are hurt people who heal, but hurt people who resist healing these wounds will hurt people. The cycle feeds itself through the bodies and through the psyche of people who never could even, who never even had the capacity to carry these wounds. And now we're asking a different question, right? What would it look like to channel the real fierce biological need to compete, to be excellent, to prove it, to be witness in our excellence? What if we move that into arenas that build rather than destroy? Just a thought. We don't eliminate competition, we elevate it. We get it. We all have a drive to win, maybe, to be excellent. Not all of us, but it's there. It's primal. What if we changed what winning means? And by the way, mamas, that's for you too. Because we always want our children to win. How do we do that? Do we teach them to be stoic, unemotional, macho? Do we teach our girls to be manipulative, gossipy? It's all there. We're not here to make humans something other than what we are. We're here to understand our operating systems and where they got faulty for us to start tweaking it, tweaking it, improving it. Humanity point 12,001. The sperm competes with integrity. The egg decides with sovereignty. The child is protected and honored so that they can grow up until their full prowess. The athlete who bows to a better performance says, hey, good win. A civilization that actually is measured by how they treat their most vulnerable, not by how it defeats its enemies or how it destroys its enemies. Those aren't the metrics. They're musings that I have. Literally, I have these musings when I'm seeing what's going on out there. Because, see, it's not just that we have to keep pointing out the problem. We have to find new ways of thinking about the solution. That's it. We know that war is a problem. We know that it's self-destruct. We've been talking about that for years. We protest against this, but what are the alternatives? What are the options? The Olympic truths. It's the parent who breaks the generational pattern, who says, my child is more important than my comfort, than my needing it to be the same way it's always been. It's the leader of the congregation that says, no more, no more. We're not just going to juggle the perpetrator around or keep silent. It's the community that chooses healing over retaliation. So obviously, this isn't utopia, and it's not knife tay either. We can't just eliminate conflict. We can't just eliminate abuse. We can't just eliminate war or addictions. We can't. That's not realistic. But can we like move step by step towards something different? Shifting humanities algorithm. What if we thought that the most important thing that we could do is protect our children at all costs? We honor women as the creators of life. We channel competitive fire into excellence. I always say that in the new world or with new humanity, it's like it starts shifting. We turn it around. What if we paid teachers more? Because they are direct conduits. They dropped stories into our children. What if the first responder was higher? We honored. We elevated. It's this moving, moving, inverted. This is what I mean about heaven on earth. It's not perfect, it's not naive. It doesn't bypass. Obviously, I've touched on really harsh subjects. It doesn't mean we don't struggle. It doesn't mean we don't have coping mechanisms for deep wounds. It means that our struggle makes us better. In psychology, this is my therapy style, which is called post-traumatic growth, is the belief that we can use trauma to be empowered. We can. Where the wound is the gift. Yeah. Just musings. Thank you for being

Closing And Share Request

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here with me. Thanks for being with the last two episodes. I am addressing with the beginning of this series what's happening on the planet. Please share it if it's moved you. If you want to tickle your brain with someone else, if you think that someone else might benefit from this, share it because we are shifting this algorithm little by little, person by person, subscription by subscription, like by like. Because the first step in not passing it forward is actually knowing, acknowledging that it's there, that it is there. So thanks again. This is heaven on earth. A portal to possibility. See you in the next episode.