Have you ever faced a challenge so daunting, you doubted your ability to overcome it? Angel and I reunite for a heartfelt episode of FLIPPED Mindset podcast, where we candidly unravel the essence of bravery, revealing that true courage often emerges amidst fear and uncertainty. Our stories of vulnerability may offer encouragement for those facing life's hurdles.
Ever considered that starting your year in March could bring you closer to your goals? This episode sees me sharing why this unconventional timing resonates with the rebirth of spring, symbolizing my pursuit of balance. Join us as we navigate the complexities of juggling new ventures, like launching a business or nurturing a podcast, while still making time for self-care. Our laughter-filled banter sheds light on the importance of celebrating the small wins and finding equilibrium amidst the chaos.
As we wrap this episode, Angel and I reflect on the transformative power of taking action, how it can turn past anxieties into distant memories of wonder. So let's raise a glass to the wonderfully weird you, and remember to tune in for these genuine conversations that just might be the nudge you need to embrace your own journey of self-discovery.
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Have you ever faced a challenge so daunting, you doubted your ability to overcome it? Angel and I reunite for a heartfelt episode of FLIPPED Mindset podcast, where we candidly unravel the essence of bravery, revealing that true courage often emerges amidst fear and uncertainty. Our stories of vulnerability may offer encouragement for those facing life's hurdles.
Ever considered that starting your year in March could bring you closer to your goals? This episode sees me sharing why this unconventional timing resonates with the rebirth of spring, symbolizing my pursuit of balance. Join us as we navigate the complexities of juggling new ventures, like launching a business or nurturing a podcast, while still making time for self-care. Our laughter-filled banter sheds light on the importance of celebrating the small wins and finding equilibrium amidst the chaos.
As we wrap this episode, Angel and I reflect on the transformative power of taking action, how it can turn past anxieties into distant memories of wonder. So let's raise a glass to the wonderfully weird you, and remember to tune in for these genuine conversations that just might be the nudge you need to embrace your own journey of self-discovery.
email: FlippedMindsetPodcast@gmail.com
Facebook: Flipped Mindset Podcast
Okay, let me get it started.
Speaker 2:I mean welcome back, I'm back.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the Flip Mindset podcast. Hi, I'm Janet, I'm Angel we got her back.
Speaker 2:I got her back. Yes, yes, like it's my will maybe, but no, I'm excited to be back. I like doing the first one.
Speaker 1:It was a lot of fun you kind of get a little like yeah, you do it, and you're like, ah, that's my friend, Kelly is going to come back too. Oh, Kelly, and she was like yeah, like the first one, she was real nervous and all this stuff. And now she's like yeah, I can't.
Speaker 1:We were talking today and it was just like, yeah, like I'm so excited, so it's, I'm going to get some more guests on and we're going to have some fun. I have another girl I'm going to be talking to soon and of course, I always bring Travis back every now and then, so it's kind of like, no, I just Everybody's like going to start avoiding me, like she's going to get you on your podcast if you're not careful and I was like, okay, I got to go over there for Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2:You know she's going to pull out the microphone, you know she's going to do it.
Speaker 1:I do ask permission. I'm like do you want to do the podcast?
Speaker 2:You're like yeah, I also. I saw this thing. That said, I don't know if this is true or not, I saw it on the internet, but after the 18 years you spend with your parents and hopefully it is 18, you only spend like another year with them as an adult. Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1:And then, what do you?
Speaker 2:Well, just like you don't get that much time.
Speaker 1:You know you're not with them all the time.
Speaker 2:All the time that you do spend together, it could probably make up a year.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, that's kind of sad.
Speaker 2:That's kind of sad. I'm kind of thinking about it.
Speaker 1:Don't put that on me, like you're right.
Speaker 2:No, so I will do as many of these podcasts with you. I'm going to be able to use it as my guilt trip tonight.
Speaker 1:My guilt trip. Well, you know, you created a monster. I did, I did, but I don't. I think it's great, so I'm glad to have you on, I love talking to you. We should actually record more of our conversations because we just like, yeah, we go off, like so anyway, okay, we'll jump into it, because otherwise we'll sit here and talk forever.
Speaker 1:So today, what I kind of want to talk about is just going to be a conversation is I wanted to touch on something that you had told me last time we had kind of talked after the podcast and I want you to say it in your words.
Speaker 2:It went along the lines of in order to be brave, you're not going to feel brave in the moment. Yeah, never.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So you'd said, yeah, you don't feel brave while you're being brave, yeah. And so we were talking about this and being brave and that just blew my fucking mind. Like it really did.
Speaker 1:I went. I just stopped Holy fuck, you're right. Like because I had it in my mind that, like for me to be brave, that for me to do these things, I have to feel brave. I'm putting my superwoman you know, wonder Woman, whatever you know on and I'm gonna be courageous and I'm gonna be ready and I'm gonna be all those things. And then I started thinking about I'm like, you're right. Like it was almost like some of the times that I was the bravest. I didn't realize at the time. It was just like this is what we're doing, this is how we do it. I'm jumping in, I'm scared out of my mind, I'm uncomfortable, it woo. And then afterwards sometimes I don't even realize it until somebody else says it.
Speaker 1:Maybe you were really brave when you did that and I'm like, oh, you're right, you know that's when is so?
Speaker 2:that concept just blew my mind, so I and that goes into so many other things too you know, like you don't feel strong, like you, and your strongest moments are when you're weakest. You know, like that show I don't know, it's very there was a lot of things that are 100 victory.
Speaker 1:Well, there was a lot of things backwards like we I've talked about this before on the podcast is kind of like I think B'nay Brown talks about this is like the whole being vulnerable. We think being vulnerable is weakness and being strong is being strong. You know like, oh, I'm strong, blah, blah, blah. But if you think about it, which one's harder? It's harder to be vulnerable and to be open, and that's actually strength. That's actually being strong. Being the oh, I'm always the strong one, I'm never gonna show anybody my emotions that's actually being weak, because you're picking the easy route and you know. So it's kind of like there's a couple of these things are kind of like, yeah, they're backwards.
Speaker 2:In order to grow in life. Life is gonna give you some challenges, so that I feel like it's just showing you, you know, like if you really want to do this, I'm gonna give you a situation where you can do and be exactly the person that you say you wanna be. But are you gonna do it Right?
Speaker 1:so yeah, well, and then like the whole thing, like I've seen this on the internet too, love the internet, right.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Got all these little gems on it and stuff. But this other one that resonated with me was kind of like I'm not necessarily religious, but you can put whatever you want in there. It was like kind of like, if you're praying to God, god give me strength. Well, god isn't gonna make you strong, god is gonna give you situations to build your strength that you're gonna have to be strong in, and so like that was just like oh, that makes so much sense, because you know, like you did that just a couple years ago, right, you said I wanna learn.
Speaker 1:I wanna learn detachment, detachment.
Speaker 1:so life said we're gonna start removing people from your life and you're learning detachment. So it's just kind of interesting. Yeah, it's like what we pray for, but what we want or what we put out into the universe, it we're not gonna get that. We're gonna get the lessons to make us that way, yeah, and so it's just like mind blowing right Like wow, wow, this stuff is crazy. But you know, for me, for me, knowing that like learning, that like life is, these things are lessons. So when life is like shitting on me and crappy, I go what is my lesson, what am I learning from this? So I can get fucking past it, right, to be the buffalo and just fly past it. What am I gotta do to get past it? What is it learning? I've done that to you before too. You come to me and you're like I'm like what are you learning right now, angel? Now you do it automatically when you-.
Speaker 2:Well, I liked Adrienne, our personal trainer. She phrased it as it's just a season. You go through different seasons in life and that's just like again, like that mindset of okay, it won't last forever, I just gotta put my head down, get through it now, learn something from it, and then just you know it's temporary, Like the only constant in life is it's gonna change, and realizing that, yes, these are emotions this season.
Speaker 1:It's temporary, it's not always gonna be like this, but we sometimes live in that motion and, oh my God, it's gonna always be in this way and it's like-.
Speaker 2:No, I'll fixate on stuff and I'm like, oh, I'm just going through so much right now and I'm like, am I even gonna be worried about this any year from now?
Speaker 1:No. It's gonna be a whole new set of course, or six months or three months or whatever. So, yeah, we focus on and fixate. I love that. You know, yeah, and then you're just like oh, this is really madder. I saw another video.
Speaker 2:We're just internet crap out of things, but I saw another video that like blew my mind is.
Speaker 1:This lady was on there and said imagine, like in a hundred years, nobody that knew you was gonna be alive, the house you lived in, somebody else is gonna live in your car that you drive, probably in the junkyard somewhere. All these things that you're focusing on is not gonna be here. So Live your fucking life like, go do it like it was just like it kind of take a lot of like. Oh, you're right, you know like we do fixate on these small little things and it's kind of cool to like. So I guess it goes back to the whole bravery thing, like being brave doing the things that we want to do.
Speaker 2:Not only do you show others what you're capable of, but you know that's kind of like showing yourself to mm-hmm. Yeah, it all starts from within.
Speaker 1:I love it, I love these guys. This makes mom so proud and you hear the way you talk about these things. But you're right, it comes from within. And then you're showing yourself like oh, I did that, yeah fuck yeah, I did that.
Speaker 2:you know, Damn, I didn't think I had it in me oh yeah, I remember looking back sometimes and been like shit.
Speaker 1:I used to live out in California under house out there and I used to drive in the fucking traffic. I Got this dude. You know, like some of that, I'd like to do those pep talks. Yeah, I got this, I could I can handle this next hurdle you know I think we talked about that too when you're Like you're eating disorder and stuff like that, looking back and I'm like yeah, I fucking did that.
Speaker 2:I. If I could do that, I can handle this. Okay, what are we doing?
Speaker 1:Yeah, let me put my boots on. We're gonna take care of this. Like you know, sometimes it's hard.
Speaker 2:Sometimes it's so hard. A lot of the times it's hard In the moment and then you look back on it and it's worth it.
Speaker 1:But that's one of the ways that I used to. I used to get through. I still do. But you know, like one of my mindsets Do life when I come across things, especially when there's things I didn't want to do, like work. You know, like when I had to go to India right, I don't want to go to India by myself and fly all the way over there and then be around a bunch of people I didn't know and trying to tell them you know Stuff they needed to do. So that was scary as fuck, right, and so like. But what I would think about is like I would think about I would look past it and what it would be like the day after. So like, oh, I got to go do a meeting and stand up and do this training in front of people. I'm gonna imagine my dinner at that night, right? So so then, if I'm thinking about that, I'm like, well, the next thing.
Speaker 2:I know I'm gonna be past that, so I'm gonna get through that and I'm gonna have a kick-ass dinner and I'm already thinking about where I'm gonna take myself to eat and stuff.
Speaker 1:Now it's not as scary because I'm already. I'm already looking past it and I'm not looking at this is, you know, like the wall basically, and so that's really always helped me, like push past that fear of you know.
Speaker 2:And do you ever feel like afterwards? You're like why was I scared? Yeah, you look back and you go. Why?
Speaker 1:was I so scary? Yeah, sometimes you kind of kick yourself going. Why don't I do that sooner? You know, like it, like this, dammit, yeah, the podcast that we talked about for like at least a year, before I ever did it like, oh, I'm scared.
Speaker 1:And then I started doing it and I'm like why was I scared of yeah? So sometimes you, you know thinking about that going, oh, I'm gonna look back and go. This is nothing Kind of helps you get through that little hurdle. Like it's little life hacks. I guess we're tricking yourself. So it's scary sometimes.
Speaker 2:Los times.
Speaker 1:Fears, that fear is a big thing.
Speaker 2:So, and being brave, but being brave also is like on those days where you just don't have it, but you still continue to get through your day. It's not perfect, but you still continue you know, you don't just give up like that's brave too.
Speaker 1:It is brave. Yeah, it doesn't have to be a big thing, it can just be. Like you know, if you're battling depression, it could be just hey, I got up and put my feet on the ground today.
Speaker 2:Hey, I'm here. I took a shower.
Speaker 1:I took a shower today. Yeah, I made. I ate something like, yeah, it could be, anything, could be brave, anything that you, you're showing up for yourself.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:You're doing. You know it's very interesting, and now we're getting all quiet like.
Speaker 2:I know my son, we were like.
Speaker 1:Turn the mic on like so what is the word I got? We can talk about anything, I'm just gonna have the same one.
Speaker 2:I had a. I had a question earlier. Now I forgot it. Typical, I'll remember it. At like two in the morning to the morning. I remember what my question. I remember when I was gone. I asked mom so um no worries. Okay, let's talk about New Year's resolutions and how that's going. Okay, yeah, do you have yours?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I had my resolution Okay my New Year's resolution was Putting more time into myself and things that I enjoy doing or used to do as a kid, and I just don't have time to do it anymore, mm-hmm. So Putting more time into that and also being more in the moment actually not Rushing to the next thing or looking, you know, just being present, just being with the people. I love Making memories, you know, like Chilling out and smelling the roses is kind of right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so how's it going?
Speaker 2:It's going pretty well. It's hard to manage. I'm still trying to find the balance of doing both things, but I made like a morning routine and a night routine. That way I had like little things that I made sure I do for myself. Um, you know.
Speaker 1:Start of the day ending the day. So I have a question on that because, excuse me, so because you have a, you have your normal day is backwards for most people.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:So she's a bartender, so she, she works at night and then it's usually sleeping during the day. So when you're talking about morning routine and night routine, Does it start when I wake up?
Speaker 2:so like I feel like I'm on the night shift right, I wake up at noon or noon is pretty early actually. Yeah, it's more like two.
Speaker 1:So are you included, like when you're creating this. You have that in mind that works for you Always yeah, which I think is important for people to realize I'm not gonna make unrealistic goals and then that's only gonna defeat myself.
Speaker 2:You know like I'll just be really hard that. No, I always try to work it with the schedule that I have, because it is different.
Speaker 1:See, I think that's important right, and I think that sometimes we forget that when we're trying to set up something I was just talking to Emery about this you know about, like you know, if you're not a morning person, don't schedule to like I'm gonna get up at 4.30 in the morning and work out. You're gonna, you know like, if you're more of a night person, work out at night. That's when I'm gonna put the time. So I think that's just wanted to put that in there of taking an account. You're like your cycles, your routine, what works for you, yeah.
Speaker 2:Because you're the only one that knows yourself best. And if you actually want to like follow through with goals, then, yeah, you have to be, you have to know yourself, yeah, so what are some of the things you've been doing for yourself? Um.
Speaker 1:Or that you have planned to bring back or to do that.
Speaker 2:Well it's just like making sure I do my skincare morning and night, Not slacking on that. Taking showers every day, stretching, that was one thing. Yeah, oh, wow. So it was just like little stuff that I can do. Load the dishwasher. Unload the dishwasher and.
Speaker 1:I Okay okay, I'm gonna do a sidebar. We're gonna go in a side change on that, that's okay. I mean, you had this conversation that I wanted to get it down somewhere. I might edit this out. But okay, now loading the dishwasher and unloading the dishwasher and all this stuff. I hate doing dishes, okay For everybody out there, I hate doing dishes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I always do dirty dishes in my sink and I look at it and it drives me nuts. And every now and then I will get and I will wash the dishes and I'll be like, yes, I feel good, and then I turn around and make dinner and it's all done again. Yeah, I mean you were talking about this like man, how much time would we have if we didn't have to eat.
Speaker 2:If we were like vampires?
Speaker 1:and didn't have to eat food like you, wouldn't have to make dinner, you wouldn't have to grocery shop, you wouldn't have to like wash dishes so much time and money. So much time and money you wouldn't even have to clean the kitchen because there wouldn't be a kitchen. This is like how much time would be with okay. I'm sorry, that's a sidebar.
Speaker 2:So they don't tell you about this whole thing like, oh, you're going to be an adult.
Speaker 1:Now you got to figure out what to eat three times a day, every fucking day, for the rest of your life, and you have to grocery shop. Okay, sorry, that's a sidebar.
Speaker 2:It's also not helpful when you're like, okay, what would you like? Like I need some ideas because it's boring after a while. You can't eat the same thing over and over.
Speaker 1:Over and over. So you have to like yeah, add variety. And then when you have other people, it's, it's. I think it's easier when you just have yourself, but when you have other people involved now you're like okay, I got to take an account. What do they want? What are they not like? What are they Leftovers?
Speaker 2:Like, how long is this? Like girl chicken? I'll grow all my chicken Like the beginning of the week and then that way I have it throughout the week. So if I want to make tacos with it, or I want to make a quesadilla or something fascinating, I don't have to cook it.
Speaker 1:So I like that, but I don't have the foresight, like I might think like yes, this is what I'm going to do.
Speaker 2:It either sets in my fridge and dies because I forget about it A lot of the times. It does die. It dies in the fridge Cause after two days. We're like no, don't we don't feel like that anymore.
Speaker 1:We don't feel like that anymore. Yeah, Um, so yeah, I mean like, so it's like balancing all that, so Okay, but that whole like dishwasher, like that should be something I need to do. It's like I need to learn to like.
Speaker 2:It doesn't solve my problem, but it makes it easier.
Speaker 1:It's one of those things.
Speaker 2:If I don't get to it. It's totally fine Right giving yourself grace, but yeah.
Speaker 1:I've had to do that, trying to trick myself like I deserve to have a clean house, I deserve to have clean dishes. I mean, I always have clean dishes. That's why I have a bunch of plates and I buy shit ton of books. So I can wait a while before I have to like do something about them.
Speaker 2:Oh, like in a clean space, I feel more relaxed and. I don't know what that is. I always feel like I have to deep clean everything and then I can relax.
Speaker 1:So there is something to that, right? Yeah, um, it's the same with me too. It's like, oh, but then when I sit there to relax and I'm sitting there like I should clean that, I gotta pick that up, yeah.
Speaker 2:I wanna scrub the floorboards, for whatever reason, cause it looks like dusty yeah what is that that makes us see that, so we can relax.
Speaker 1:and yeah, I don't know Big digress right there, but I do like I love that you're like.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to have a routine and kind of have a show up for myself. I love that, I love that.
Speaker 1:So for me I don't usually do New Year's resolutions because when I guess in the way, like the way you're doing, it's not really you know, I don't do that.
Speaker 2:Oh, I'm gonna you know, I'm gonna start going to the gym every single day. I'm gonna start going to the gym every single day. I'm gonna do dry January, which a lot of people are actually doing this year. Yeah, I did not succeed. I think I lasted like three days.
Speaker 1:So one of the things I'm doing this year is I'm actually doing where my New Year's resolution, like the new year for me, is kicking off March 1st. Because it's so dreary and cold and like it's still the winter time, it feels to me like we should still be hibernating. I still want to hibernate.
Speaker 2:I still don't want to like.
Speaker 1:I'm like I don't feel productive right now because the sun's not out and all these things, so I'm kind of delaying. Like right now is me preparing to bloom in March. I love that and so like. So what I'm doing now is getting you know, there's a lot of activities that I've got some exciting things that are coming out soon, but I'm not gonna mention it. It's like, you know, got exciting things happening, so to me it's like that's where my New Year's is gonna start it's March 1st and so but I do have a word. I have a word this year and it's balance.
Speaker 1:Heavy word Heavy, so last year, my last year word in Adrian, who our trainer, she you know, she got me to do a word last year and I really liked it because it was intentionality and we used it all year long and like being very intentional and that one was a big word. But this year it's more of balance, because I'm realizing me. You've had this conversation. I'm realizing, like, like you know, I'm doing my spiritual work and stuff, but I also have like a family and a corporate job. Like how do I balance everything? How do I balance? You know, I want to live a healthier life but I also have a busy life with a. You know, like my son is in wrestling and runs and you know, like, how do I balance all that to make sure that you know I can take care of me and take care of the people in my life? So it's that creating that balance.
Speaker 2:And also, I feel like, too, finding that balance of like meeting goals, setting goals, being productive, being a mom, being a you know, working, balancing all that, but also letting yourself also have fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because sometimes we yeah, we tend to go one way or the other. It's like oh, I've been so productive for the past couple of months and then I go on a, but nobody wants to be around me because I know what's so hard, yeah, and then I go on a bender and then I'm not, you know, and then I go down that rabbit hole of like and then I have to read course correct.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so it's. Yeah, finding that balance. So that's kind of what I'm working on. It is hard, yeah, well, that's, you know, that's the whole point right it's like it's not always going to pick your heart right.
Speaker 1:Pick your heart. So that's what I'm working on is the balance, and it's very interesting, like that's just the season of life that I'm in right now and learning that balance and stuff, especially now that I'm about to embark on starting a new business, continue the podcast. You know like there's a lot of extra stuff I'm adding into my schedule. So now balance is going to be even more critical for me so that I can still, you know, and not be burned out going.
Speaker 1:Come April, I'm going to be like in a straight jacket, going what the hell happened. I want to still enjoy life and still like not be just crazy.
Speaker 2:Just do whatever works for you. Yeah, got it, it'll happen. Thank you, manifesting it. Yes.
Speaker 1:I feel it, you know, I feel like I can and this is the time like I feel like it's my season and that's why I'm just yeah, I'm getting things set up. You know, I'm making products, I'm doing all kinds of stuff right. I'm like allowing myself like kind of like what you were talking about, like getting back to stuff that you were doing when you were like a child, that you couldn't, you know, that you haven't been able to do lately. So I'm actually allowing myself to follow what's excites me and following that down and following through with it. That's. The other piece is have a look. I used to have or I still kind of sometimes have that analysis, paralysis. Have you ever heard that I have so much stuff?
Speaker 2:to do, I'm going to do nothing.
Speaker 1:you know, like it's the, so now it's the following through with it, and when I do take, do something that I'm excited about, I then celebrate it, and then I celebrate it with you.
Speaker 2:I have people that support me and be like I should stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but it's interesting. It's interesting, just interesting how life plays out sometimes and following it out, giving yourself grace, being brave when you have to be yeah. Even doing things you want. I feel like that's the beautiful part. I don't know.
Speaker 2:I had that realization, breaking up with my ex.
Speaker 1:And how traumatic that was.
Speaker 2:I don't even want to talk about it, but I was so sad about it and it was kind of like, you know, like going through heartbreak, you feel one of those pains. That's just like I don't want to ever feel this ever again in life. And then I realized that I would not be human if I didn't get to feel this way.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Because I feel so low and so sad now. That means I can feel so much better.
Speaker 1:So much better so high, yeah, yeah. So yeah, because if you start cutting off, that's the one thing that, yeah, you become known after a while, because if you cut off all the bad feelings, you're never going to feel the high high on your feelings. So you have to like.
Speaker 2:But if you just accept how shitty and like again you're in a season, you can yeah, you can say that I'm having a terrible time and I'm having a bad season, but I feel like once you say it and you just wrap your head around it, kind of accept it and accept it. It's not as bad?
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, and you feel it. And then you yeah, you feel it, you accept it, and then you go what am I learning from this? Yeah, and then you move on. Yeah, we make it sound easy. It's not easy, it's not easy.
Speaker 2:Oh, it's so sad because I love so much, and that is a good thing. That's something that I don't want to lose, and it's not a bad thing.
Speaker 1:No, just because somebody else decided not to treat you well. Yeah, that's going to happen, it's going to happen.
Speaker 2:It's going to happen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, especially when you come across people that are like not not healing or not working, you know it's going to happen.
Speaker 2:Yeah, people are going to disappoint, people are going to mess up, people are going to break your heart, but it hurts so much because you care so much. So, yeah, bad days going to happen like the good days. So you just kind of it's going to be a little duck, just let it all just kind of flap off.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just keep on swimming. I know what you're saying, so to go back to kind of what you were saying is I do that sometimes when I'm having bad days I like to drive, drive and listen to music and you know, cry, See, driving scares me so I.
Speaker 2:it doesn't mean like I'm just like get out of my way.
Speaker 1:I like to listen to music, but I like to drive and and and you're like, as I'm processing it, and sometimes, well, probably cause I'm on the move a lot too with all the stuff I got going on. But but one of the things I said, and you know, I'm like God, this sucks and I'm sad and I and I do that thing like you were just talking about. I'm like I am human and having this human experience this is part of it and it's beautiful. And when I think of it that way, I'm like okay, it's not you know, like oh, cool, you know. And then, like you said, it's it's like temporary, and then I'm going to, I'm going to feel the other side. Before long I'll get past this. You know, the rain will go away and the sun will come out, so it's just it's kind of beautiful, it really when you look at it in that light.
Speaker 2:It's like you know what it's so bad, you know like it's kind of pretty, and then we'll be on the other side of it and look at that and go oh yeah.
Speaker 1:And then turn around and then like here's the next season, right. And I think the other thing is sometimes and I think I had this mindset at one point too is is I'd been told like we're always looking for when everything's going to be absolutely perfect, like the euphoria the utopia, the perfect, the perfect day it's going to be perfect and it's like it's never going to be perfect.
Speaker 1:So, when I can accept it's not going to be perfect, that's when you can find your like joy and your gratitude, Like I'm going to find the joy today and and it could be as little as you know, I'm seeing hawks everywhere, you know, and, and those of you that know me and my mom, I always feel like my mom's around whenever I see hawks and I'll see a hawk and it just lights me up, you know, and so that's like a little thing that's tiny, which, okay, this is very off topic Speaking of, I put my little moccasins in there.
Speaker 2:Oh good, yeah, so she's a part of the whole thing.
Speaker 1:She's all those.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's keeping all your gaju juju away.
Speaker 1:I knew I had gotten. I knew that those needed to come home and it's time for him to come home with you so that my mom, my mom passed away when Angel was two months old, and so she had actually got to come out and meet Angel a month before she passed. And when she came out she brought her these little moccasins, because you know, we're part Indian on that side, and so she, they're beautiful.
Speaker 2:They're so pretty, so cute little. If I ever have a kid, they're going to wear them Right For a nanosecond. Right. That's probably love, yeah.
Speaker 1:So yeah. So this year I've had them in a keepsake box for you, and this year, for Christmas, it was time for him to come and stay with you, because now you're settling in your home and it's super sentimental too, like you saying like this is like she's actually touched the box, she's actually held this, so it feels like she she's here yeah. Yeah, she'd be so proud of you. She is now part of my home, yay.
Speaker 2:Are you so happy? No, that was probably the most. That was probably the best gift I got for Christmas this year. Honestly, Universal was awesome. But, yeah, yeah, that was, that was my favorite gift. I did.
Speaker 1:At first I wasn't sure, but I just knew mom.
Speaker 2:You almost made me cry. I had to distract myself, Right. I was like yeah, think about it.
Speaker 1:Who's Kat Nangans, kat Nangans right now. I just got something in my mind. That's one thing I think I I I might add to my this year thing is being more vulnerable, because I was in a workshop today. That was awesome, and one of the things is like, being vulnerable is how you, like, can connect with people and being authentic and we were just talking about that too like that's a strength to be vulnerable and really to be vulnerable is how you connect with people.
Speaker 1:To have that really deeper connection, you have to be vulnerable, and I have a really hard time being vulnerable. I do too. So I've always had to be strong and and you know, and and kind of like the way I was raised and everything, it was like, oh, you don't show emotions, you just laugh it off, blah, blah, blah. And so I need to become more more vulnerable, like showing my, I guess, not being more vulnerable, but showing my vulnerability. So that's going to be one of my things, one of my balances that I got to balance out. I can be strong, but I also need to be like hey, you know, I am human.
Speaker 2:I always think of like balancing life as the cat in the hat. You know the picture where he's got all the plates and dishes and books and all the stuff and he's on a. What are the little unicycle?
Speaker 1:Oh right, he's a cycle that just goes with his cycle. Yeah, he's like balancing all the stuff.
Speaker 2:That's how I feel trying to balance my life.
Speaker 1:I might put that on my vision board. I think that's what I'm going to do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm going to make my vision board and I think that like, rip that out of one of the cat to have books, right yeah.
Speaker 1:Like this is balanced. This is what we're doing. That's what it is, so welcome to Afterthought. This is Janet.
Speaker 1:First off, I want to apologize for the abruptness of the ending of the of the podcast with Angel. So what we did was me and her got to talking and I never really did like a sign off, we just continued to talk. So those of you guys that are following on my Facebook, I posted a video about how we're doing some shifts and changes in the in the podcast. So for those of you that are listening and haven't been over on the on the Facebook and stuff is and I'm making a shift and and so you know we have a new one coming out every other week and so I'm bringing on people. Like we got Angel this week, kelly next week Travis will be back on, and then I've got some new people lined up. So some fun things that are happening. And then the new thing that I'm doing is I'm extending and just keeping the recording going and continuing to have these conversations. So me and Angel talked for, like I think I recorded like two and a half hours and I eventually had to cut it off. Now, again, what I'm going to do is I'm going to start having little mini episodes. So during those weeks that I don't have full episodes coming out, I'm going to have little minis, which will be, you know, little snippets of me, of things that I talk with my guests. So keep listening for that. And also, I think I'm going to do some. I've got some things planned for doing some which is me little rant or mom talks or whatever. So stay tuned, you're going to hear more of that, so.
Speaker 1:So now back to the little bit of the episode. So me and Angel started talking about bravery and then later, you know, start shifting into some other stuff, talking about the new year and our new year resolutions and stuff. Really had a lot of fun having conversations with her, talking to her about this and we do talk. We will talk a little bit more about fear, overcoming fear. I think that's a big thing. In the next episode I have Kelly on and me and her talking about fears and some of the fears we're going through in our lives right now and how do we get to the other side. So I'm so happy you're here and until next time, stay. Wonderfully weird.