Ever been blindsided by the truth in a relationship, while the world watched? We've all been there, right? Well, maybe not exactly. This episode sees SieDah joining us as we pull back the veil on the scandal surrounding Real Housewives of Potomac star, Robin Dixon, and her ex-husband Juan. We tackle the difficult themes of honesty, open communication, and trust – and the repercussions of their absence.
In the madness of the holiday season, we all need a moment to breathe and recalibrate. We share our personal anecdotes and tips on how to navigate through the festive frenzy without losing your sanity. As we transition into the topic of celebrities rekindling old flames, we question the wisdom of this current trend. We analyze the return of familiar duos like Ashanti and Nelly, Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, and question whether history really needs to repeat itself.
Breaking up is hard to do, but moving on can be even harder. We explore the tricky terrain of letting go of past relationships, resisting the temptation to reach out and the importance of recognizing when it's time to call it quits. We highlight the critical role of growth and maturity in dating and the compelling difference between mere attraction and deeper connection. So, buckle up as we take a meaningful journey into the world of dating, accountability, and the significant art of moving on.
Ever been blindsided by the truth in a relationship, while the world watched? We've all been there, right? Well, maybe not exactly. This episode sees SieDah joining us as we pull back the veil on the scandal surrounding Real Housewives of Potomac star, Robin Dixon, and her ex-husband Juan. We tackle the difficult themes of honesty, open communication, and trust – and the repercussions of their absence.
In the madness of the holiday season, we all need a moment to breathe and recalibrate. We share our personal anecdotes and tips on how to navigate through the festive frenzy without losing your sanity. As we transition into the topic of celebrities rekindling old flames, we question the wisdom of this current trend. We analyze the return of familiar duos like Ashanti and Nelly, Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, and question whether history really needs to repeat itself.
Breaking up is hard to do, but moving on can be even harder. We explore the tricky terrain of letting go of past relationships, resisting the temptation to reach out and the importance of recognizing when it's time to call it quits. We highlight the critical role of growth and maturity in dating and the compelling difference between mere attraction and deeper connection. So, buckle up as we take a meaningful journey into the world of dating, accountability, and the significant art of moving on.
Then we're going to start talking about you with your mistress all around Georgetown. They're really going to go right there. Come look at these pictures. And now let's talk about you being with this mistress that goddamn Andy fucking Cohen, exactly. But every episode is so annoying because first we all stole Robin's joy. No, we didn't, we stole her. Let Robin tell it. Just to be in this level of delusion, is it's really something? I don't want any parts of it. It's fun to watch though. Oh, it's a lot of fun to watch. I don't want to be a writer. I hope you all are enjoying listening. I haven't even introduced it. We great keep going, so I'm going to do it now.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the things you should know podcast feature in Trenisha English. Hi, my name is Trenisha English. Welcome back people. If you haven't realized, at the moment, obviously I'm here with my good friend Sadea, aka Miss Diddy. Take that on the social needs If I ever get it back. Not looking good for guys, somebody has it out for me. Oh, I don't know. I really need to explore that a little bit. But first of all, thank you for being here. I'm so excited to have you. Thank you so much for inviting me, friend. Well, I'm actually going to push back. I mean, I did invite you. I don't want it to sound like you, I invited you, but you are actually a first for my podcast. You're the first person to request to be on the show. Oh, yes, I did because we have something to discuss that I do not like what's happening right now at all and I have something to say and I hope it reaches somebody. That is just like sitting there, just like going back and forth. I hope you listen to this and be like okay, I'm going to listen to Sadea. Well, and here's the thing right, because we're kind of I know what you're we're alluding to and we're kind of talking about it now, because, yes, we're talking about Robin and Juan Dixon Of real housewives, of Potomac fame and maybe some basketball fame. But I think right now, if you search Juan Dixon, what comes up is that he has all of this scandal around his second marriage to the same woman, to the same lady, and it sounds like their second marriage is really starting off exactly where their first marriage ended. Yeah, did it end? Well, the marriage ended, the yeah, leave this never ended. But I mean, and here's the thing right, and so we were just talking about this.
Speaker 1:Like I have two rules for friends that are in relationships Cause, also, I would say this like I'm the type of friend that I am your friend. You can bring your significant other around Right, and I'm going to be cool and cordial. Of course we maybe even make connections right, but when you decide that this is no longer your significant other, that's it Is that they're dead to me. When the divorce happens, you come with me, we go, we leave it where we came with and you're my friend, you're leaving with me, you're leaving with me. So because of that, I show up with like two rules around your significant other.
Speaker 1:One if you're going to tell me the bad, you have to tell me the good, because I'm not about to lose my friendship with you, thinking you stupid, because I feel like you're choosing to go through dumbness, right, so you got to give me the good. And people like to vent about the bad, right, right, like sometimes we don't share the good, so you got to tell me the good. And if you are going to choose to believe a lie, I mean just flat out, flat out Not even a good lie, not even a good, if you are going to choose to believe that to, for your sanity, for your relationship. If you are going to choose to believe that, cool, I love that for you. Just don't tell me that lie Exactly. Don't repeat it to me. Don't expect me to accept it as you have chosen and then you have to show what. I don't accept it. Yeah, don't do that. Yeah, don't do that. You can't. You can't force me to do that. Keep it to yourself. And that is exactly what we find Robin Dixon in the middle of.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying Juan is lying, I'm just saying it's extremely hard to believe the narrative that he's saying. I mean, it doesn't add up. I just I want to figure out where do I have to be in life to believe Juan Dixon? Because the girl calling you because she lost her wallet and you go and put your credit card down and your name is on the room. It's, it's a lot. The math ain't math and Robin's just but. But here's the thing with Juan in his lives. Juan doesn't have to do too much for Robin to believe him.
Speaker 1:No, and I just said that, like, as long as he tells, as long as he says something that it feels like it's not possible, robin's thought is well, why would he make that up? Which, if everything that happens to you is the response or the story behind it is, why would you make that up? The algorithm doesn't. And listen again, like and I think this is where I'm at Like, if you, if you just listen, I love this man, I have two kids with this man, I'm invested in him and so, unless he X, y, z, I'm not going anywhere. Stand on that. That, that's what I want to hear from Robin.
Speaker 1:Like you said, stop repeating the straight bullshit that he's telling you and then getting upset with me when I'm like oh okay, girl, that makes sense. Yeah, these are people there out to get you in your marriage to the one Nixon. That's what it is, but that's what I want to do. I want Robin just to come out and say I'm going to be stuck on stupid because I'm going to be married to Ron, to one Nixon, point blank and period. Leave it at that, ma'am. And if that's what you're going to decide to do, I think no one is going to bat an eyelash. No one is going to, because there are women, there are people who choose that right. They choose to live in that deep that they choose to live in the delusion and even sometimes the love ain't even that deep. It's just a simple fact that I want to be with this man. So bad Because you cannot tell me that you, that you're in that much in love that you're going to sit up here and listen to the BS, believe the BS, repeat the BS.
Speaker 1:Because I'm in love, no, just say that you want to be with him. That's what it is, and I will get it. I will not. I will bring it up, I would. I could walk into somewhere and see him on a full-on, cozy date, hand in hand, in a corner booth candlelight. This man is on a date and you know what I would do. My, my good black business is because, no, ma'am, I'm not. I'm not doing this and that's it right. But if you don't say that I then am investing your health and well-being. I'm going to keep trying to convince you. Hey, like, listen to me, friend, let's have a heart to heart. I don't think this is what you want. This man is cheating on you. And here's the thing, right, because I want to listen.
Speaker 1:My girl, giselle Bryant, gets a bad rap. She really does, she really does, she does, and some of it she deserves, but she it all comes from a good place and she's very right. If this man truly loves you and respects you in the way that he says he does, and I hope he does, and I hope he does Like, this is what I hope for you, Right, and what my understanding of your relationship is. If that is all true, then there has to be a conversation, some consequence, some type of a toning for him showing up this way, and what you don't want to do is then see him in a laundry mat with another woman after he has put his credit card down for a hotel room that another woman lost her while was in and, for whatever reason, she couldn't contact the Baltimore Ravens player that she was there for, but she contacted Juan Dixon.
Speaker 1:Okay, let me just back up. I'm just trying to put myself in this situation Because, listen, I like Robin Dixon, I enjoy her. I just I don't think I have to justify that. I like Robin, I think she's a great girl. Yeah, like, I love her. I like Robin Dixon, right, and I like to try and see, I like to try and just make sure that we can get there. I'm just, listen, I'm going to try and put the pieces together. You're trying to like see her point of view. I'm trying to see her point of view. I'm trying to give us all the opportunity to do it.
Speaker 1:So if I tradition English of the things I think you should know featuring tradition English podcast had lost my wallet and needed to check into a hotel, I'm trying to figure out how my lifelong ends up being Juan Dixon. And the thing is the fact that Juan knows that Robin will not try to think of that. That is the reason why he does what he does, he says what he says and he just doesn't care. Because the thought, the training of thought that you're trying to get to Robin, I'm convinced that Robin does not. She doesn't do that.
Speaker 1:Whatever Juan says, she's like oh, okay, that makes sense, listen, and that's where I like it's always something and cause I'm with her in the okay, there's some okay, and then there's always a glaring like okay, you're in the laundry mat with this woman, but you're doing the team's laundry and a laundry mat. There's no facility on site. Because, again, I don't follow sports, but I'm pretty. I've heard of Georgetown before. Maybe was a Dave East Now, then I would have been watching games, but uh, but I'm pretty sure that's a very well-known basketball team, I think they're. You know, they're kind of whatever. At the end of the day, I'm pretty sure they have enough money to have a washing drawer on site. The high school teams go washing dry oh, my high school did, I remember, for those jerseys. So I'm really confused as to why one had to be in the laundry man with miss ma'am Do in laundry for the team.
Speaker 1:Now, the one thing that I will give him as someone who frequently gets their, their nails and feet done right and Like, but when you go with your husband, I mean, I've gone to get my like my feet done with friends, but I've done that before, yeah. But when you go with your significant other, yeah, I mean, but I could see like, here's what I will say, here's and this is not has nothing to do like if I don't think I would have a problem with now. So you will be okay if Mr Trenisha English was like hey, babe, I'm going with. Oh girl, we're gonna go get her toes done. I Would need to know now, here, now, that we're gonna jump franchises real quick, because now I'm Simone with field talking about you. So let me try it lightly here, okay, cuz. I'm saying I mean, I think I would need some context around, like who this woman was like.
Speaker 1:I think, if we're talking like a long-time co-worker I don't know what Robin said, robin said they were issue with that or like great friends, I don't know. Now I think, like, if this was like a, I Think like a couple, one officer, every once in a while you're going to get your feet done and y'all having a conversation. Yeah, cuz I do that with my good male duties, right, male, straight in you know, right, yeah. So, but my If, oh Jesus, am I to put myself on Robin shoes? This is a once in a lifetime thing.
Speaker 1:Um, if I was Robin With Wands past, I'm gonna need for you to put my best interest in heart. I don't care if you and this girl do each other from diapers, exactly, and the block is hot and the block is right now with you there when we add that into it, exactly, I'm with you and we're reality TV person. I just need for you, sir. So don't be, you cannot be caught out with anybody Unleashes me. That's just where we are. That's where we are right now. Responsibility because we're here because of you. Okay, yeah, so I'm just saying I agree. That's that's where we Listen.
Speaker 1:I tried, robin Dixon, if you ever hear this, I really try hard for you, boo. I really did, she did, she was really trying hard. But you, you have to hold one accountable for something. You cannot keep allowing him to have you out her looking crazy. And if he really loves you the way that he says it he do, when y'all With a whole scene with him crying about when they met the medium or whatever, if he really, if he just has respect for you, forget love.
Speaker 1:If you respect me, not as your wife, not as the mother of your kids, but as Robin, if you respect me, you will not be out here like this. And even though you don't care what people say, I'm gonna need for you to care on my sake. Yeah, because when I walk out that house, out the house, and I'm not with you, these are questions that I'm gonna have to keep answering constantly, a hundred percent, and you have the luxury of shielding yourself from these questions. One like you cannot show up. You are not contractually obligated to show up in this way, but I don't get that luxury and the fact that you keep putting me in front of a firing squad is Extremely shows that you really don't care. Yeah, you know you aren't considering me at all, exactly. With that being said, and if him not being, if him being blatantly inconsiderate of you, right, it's not a deal breaker for you. I'm one confused because you're worth so much more than that, thanks. And now I don't like, now I can't, yeah, I can't, I can't, I can't and I'm not gonna protect you. I'm not gonna stick my neck out for you. I can't, I can't. I'm not doing anything up the sort. I can't do it. Nope, I'm not doing it. The last thing that I was saying Robin's defense, at least in this moment, is we have all, in some ways, been in Robin's shoes, maybe not as blatant, right, and definitely not on television, I was about to say, and not on television for Million people to have opinions on agree Enough about Robin Dick's incident.
Speaker 1:How are you? I am well, life has been life and yeah, I am here getting ready for the holidays. Yeah, it's gonna be a fun time. The people, the Families, are going to be there. It is a time of rest and reflection. Yeah, I know you're preparing to host. I am. This is my first year hosting. Well, yeah, this is my first year hosting.
Speaker 1:All of my family is coming in. They're gonna be at my house. Are you cooking everything? So that was my one thing. So that was my one thing because normally, because my family Doesn't live here, so sometimes they would be going to other relatives house out of town, and with my work schedule, I did it one year where I because we have family in Illinois, so I drove up for the holiday and it came there right back. Oh, my work schedule. We don't like doing that all the time. So normally it just be me and the kids and friends will come over when they get Want to get away from they family. Yeah, and I will cook something. I will cook everything, but it's small because it's just me and the kids or whatever.
Speaker 1:So with everybody that's coming, I said, hey, I'm host but I'm not cooking everything. We're not doing that. I'm going. We're gonna have a little spreadsheet. Okay, I put a project management in here. You know we're gonna everybody put your name in what you're contributing to the meal. Come on, potluck, yes, but um, somehow it got to. Well, I know how it got here is because my sister she put in the group text put what you're bringing, or what ingredients you are bringing that you want me to cook. So with that last line, everybody's like, okay, cool, I'm just going to buy everything. Right, here you go. So it sounds like it's going to be me, my sister-in-law and her mom in the kitchen cooking, but at least it's just not me, because I was like I'm not about to be cooking everything, because I will cancel the whole thing. Here we go.
Speaker 1:This is probably about to be like such a millennial statement. Right, because I remember being a kid watching my mother in the kitchen cook everything. Right, like my mother cooked everything. Right, and I remember wanting to be like older and wanting to be that. Right, that's just for the birds. It really is. Because, let me tell you something, I have cooks. I want to say I have cooks every year for Thanksgiving, give or take a couple in my adult years. But I have yet to get to where I'm getting up at like four and five in the morning, or I'm cooking two and three days prior. I'm not about that life, I'm not my mother, and my mother has this shit down to a scientist. They do Like what she's making the night before, what she's prepping, yeah, she has like, oh, I'll get up and put this in the oven by this time.
Speaker 1:And my family likes to eat early, like we're one of the like y'all be talking about. Oh, we ate at six o'clock. What the hell? Like? No, we need to eat at twelve o'clock. It is Thanksgiving. Yes, like one or two at the absolute latest is what we're eating, because we're eating this all day long. This is going to go with shit. This is going to go with shit. Yes, and I see and see, oh, my goodness, I'm about to call and cancel because I'm sorry, I'm sorry to the family, no, sorry, I'm like here's the number you need to call this one canceling because, again, when it was just me and my kids, you know I can get finishing anytime. You know it's just me and the kids. We know nobody scheduled, we just in the house chilling love, whatever.
Speaker 1:But now, since the bigger thing, I'm like so we ain't say nothing about times yet. Yeah, and I told my sister and I was like hey, I have to work all day Wednesday and I got a bartender Wednesday night. So she, because she keeps it over just going to get up early and start cooking, and this early has not a time has not been attached to it. I and I like again, like I used to, I used to think I aspire to this the thought of waking up at five, six o'clock in the morning to cook I'm not the girls not going, it's so. It is so much and you have to like time everything out as far as what you're doing. Okay, this is going to go in last, going to go first. Everything like, if you get some random numbers to your Texas, like I think it's going to be good, I'm going to take a couple shots and just yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, you know we got to do the mental health check. It is that time of the year where our families and loved ones are all coming to connect. So what are you doing to keep your mental health together? Your shock was aligned to help the people. Let's see. Let's be completely honest.
Speaker 1:Sadea is horrible with self care. Come on, I am Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. That is one of the things that, if anybody's on here, they're one of those. I hate people that make new year's resolutions. You should make a change every day, whatever, whatever. Sadea talking about job, yeah, I am, because leave people alone If they want to do it.
Speaker 1:The first start of the year, at least they acknowledge the change needs to be made. Because it's a lot of people walking around here with bad attitudes and nasty mouths and just shocked with all the land and just a dark cloud around them and don't never make a change about anything. So somebody wants to change at the first of the year? Let them, okay, every single time, every single time, come on, like friend, you can do it. Yes, yes, I didn't forget what I was talking about. I'm like myself. So yeah, I am horrible. Okay, so yeah, I am horrible with self care. So that is one of the things that I said I'm going to start doing is just to take time out for myself, because I have been on go mode, just making sure that because of the start of COVID, I just found myself just in a really bad situation and I said I will never have get back here. So I'm constantly, constantly just trying to just make, keep moving and, you know, just doing things, but self care is falling off.
Speaker 1:I use a lot of things that I just need to do for me, rather, is finding a therapist is number one. I have a. I have a best friend, twisted sister. We call each other that is a home massage therapist and yes, and I, she's been doing this for how long? And I have got one massage for her, because I just never, in each birthday she tells me, tell me when to come over and bring my table and we get together, but I just be like, well, I'm only going to be home for two hours. I kind of leave out it goes for it to something, but that's one of the things that that I need to do. So right now, the only thing that I do when I feel my mental health being bad is by flights and concert tickets, which is not healthy. Okay, it's not healthy. No, I hear you and I want, yes, I want to guess. I'm supporting you, friend, I'm supporting you and I'm hearing you, but for the people out there, I do.
Speaker 1:It's funny that you say that because I've actually been talking about this. So a few months ago, you and I went to go see Mario and Neo and Pleasure P, yes, and there was a lot that happened. There was so many moving parts. It was a lot. It was a lot, it was a great time. But I was just recently like talking about that with someone and was saying, like they were asking me. Oh, like I bet it was so good. And I said to them you know what that concert made like teenage, like freshman, sophomore year, trenisha, very happy, yes.
Speaker 1:And there was a moment where and you know, cedillo is not playing with me at all I was like I don't know if I'm going to go, like I'm tired, I want to get some rest, and Cedillo forced me to go for different reasons. I was about to be pulling up in her driveway, but I don't think I've ever actually said this to you, so let me say it to you now I really thank you for pushing me to go, because it really like killed my like, really started this journey of feeling like in her child. And so I understand you saying like flights and concert tickets are not healthy, but in there are some ways where they are extremely therapeutic. Right, you get to have moments, yeah, but it's, it's bad when you're just like I'm looking at my budget and I'm like there's things that I need to do. I'm not going to do them. I'm going to instead do this, and I mean, if you can afford to do it, that's great.
Speaker 1:However, it's just, it's just that it's some adult things that I could have gotten done already, I feel you, but I'm just like, no, I'm having a bad day. You know what? I'm going to buy this flight to Vegas, I mean, and I'll have a great time. I mean, I'm going to have a great time, so it's so, it's basically, I can still do the things that I'm doing, yeah, but I just need to be in a better place mentally so that I can do them. And then, because the thing about it is, once I do go to Vegas and have a great time, I'm going to come back and still be the same. Yeah, that's right. Yeah, that's right. So, yeah, yeah, I just, I hear you, I hear what you're saying, but I didn't, you know, I feel you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so that's number one, that I'm going to try and do more self care and just get me mentally together. So, yeah, I love that for you. Well, I support you, friend, thank you, thank you. It's going to start January one of 24. Yeah, we're going to have to have you back so that people can hear about your you know, your journey and what you learned. Yes, yes, yeah, number one yeah, it's good stuff.
Speaker 1:Listen, I did a. I don't like to. I hate calling it self care, because that has such a. I just feel like it just feels like self care. You know, because, because nowadays people make you feel so bad yeah, they do. And it's like I just had this conversation with my best friend because, like, people will tell me like, oh, city of you, the hardest working woman that I know, like you're doing this, and then it's one thing that I have done. They're like, well, why hasn't that gotten done yet? I'm like you just say it Right, there's 24 hours in a day. I work for 23 of them. So you know I'm a little strapped for time, exactly. So, yeah, but they do make you feel bad with the whole like self care thing. Yeah, like, how do you like you're supposed to balance it all, like you're supposed to be successful here, you're supposed to have a great family life, you're supposed to be a mother to your children and show up for them, and you're supposed to take care of yourself Sober, yeah, yeah, no, no, because some of the best are not exactly I hear raw dog in life. For what exactly? No, why I don't want to do this anymore.
Speaker 1:Anyway, well, sadiya, we tease it at the beginning, we kind of, we kind of dig into it, but y'all, sadiya requested to be on the show. She said you know what, trinisha, I have something I want to share with the people and it all sparked because a Shanti and Nelly are, I mean, at the moment, right, they have that old thing back. Yeah, no, like they're back. They're back together. Yeah, and I don't like it. So it's them wanting Robin are back together. We talked through that debacle. Debacle been Affleck and Jennifer Lopez. They're back together. Hello the thief, yeah, they're back together, all right together.
Speaker 1:So we're seeing, like this, a lot of people like revisiting that old thing and in the block, you hashtag spending the block, yes, and Sadiya, you have thoughts and feelings, you have something you want the people to know. No, we're not doing that, don't do it. No, do not do it, do not. This is one trend that I want to die out fast, because, before y'all start calling me bitter, I'm just sitting with me, for let me cook for a minute. Okay, we're going to work. Because, yeah, it's just, it's not a good thing. And because who else is it? Oh, it's scrapping Erica or back. Scrapping Erica? Yes, you haven't peeped that. Yeah, scrapping. Um, they went on vacation for Erica's birthday. They were just at usher's concert in Vegas yeah, they were. They were in Halloween together, yeah, hmm, yeah, so again, this needs to die out fast. This is in Q, it's not no.
Speaker 1:But on a serious note, the reason why I do not like this trend is because a Lot of the people that we're seeing that are back together like these, are not just relationships where they were just like you know quick, you know Flings or something. Yeah, these were relationships that were actually invested for a very, very long time, because I want to say Nelly and a shanty want to get like ten years. I don't know, I don't know the number on it, but I know they were together. No, because he was with Floyd Mayweather's Ex. What's shot? Is it shantel something? The other one yeah, he was with her for seven. Okay, so he is a serial. Drag you along, listen, I mean, and Nelly is an October has is an October Scorpio, and they do. They love commitment. They really do. Now they might. They're not gonna be fateful, but they do want a home base. Yeah, but that is their thing. It's sold from.
Speaker 1:What I read was Because I had to go back and look it up. It's like I remember Nelly and shanty being together and then they broke up and Shanti released that banger of a song the way Like you had me scream at the top of my lungs Okay, really did. Yes, I'm gonna have to go play that in the shower. I felt that we were living a lot, girl. I felt you all the way. Oh, okay, I don't even think I had been heartbroken when that song came out, but I'm definitely saying that at the top of my lungs. That's a banger, you're right. And they broke up because I think Nelly cheated, I don't know. But, um, they broke up and it was just really sad or whatever. We felt for a shot because, nelly, you got our girl messed up, cuz everybody loves a shot. She's always been our sweetheart.
Speaker 1:But I just feel some type of way because when you were, like, dead in love with somebody, like, and you were there through the trenches, everything, and this person constantly shows you that they are just not the one for you, mm-hmm, time after time after time after time, but you keep falling in love with the maybe, then you know, because you know exactly what you want. Yeah, you know what you want. You know what you deserve. Let's start there. You know what you deserve. You know the type of love that you want, you deserve, but you stay with this person and all they have to, and what you're asking for is not much, and just love me, respect me, give me the love that I deserve, and every single moment, they constantly do the exact opposite of that. So then, finally, you pull up by your root straps and you're like, okay, I'm done, deuces, what I'm you going to be great because I'm a. I'm almost definitely be great, I'm great. So you do all of that.
Speaker 1:Y'all break up. So room, I just want y'all to think about when you break up with somebody, in just that time period, you're trying to get over them, like just blocking them, deleting pictures and thinking about, you know, sending that pay big head text, you know, just just one more time. You know whatever, exactly Exactly, and you constantly going through the motions of just trying to, like, get back to you. And I heard our song today, exactly Like, so you don't miss me, you know, you know exactly what. It's crazy. I thought I would be doing this with you toxic, toxic, toxic, so toxic. So, even when y'all break up, y'all may do a little back and forth, back and forth, but when you get to that moment where you were over them. You were over them. You will see them and nothing will spark. Nothing happens, anything like that. Why would you go back and start all that over again? Leave it alone.
Speaker 1:This person has shown you and again, oh, I need to give my disclaimer. I haven't been thinking about this, how that this is. I'm only speaking from my perspective. Okay, and what city has been through Okay? Okay, because city has done a lot of Just reflecting, okay, and she has done a lot of, you know, looking at stuff like, okay, yeah, he did that. You didn't really miss me. Oh, he did. Oh, you was really not missing with me then, but I still stay trying to make it work. And now that I've gotten to this point where I wish nothing for the best for you, I want you to go get married and I want you to be the best husband, father to whoever it is. I just don't want it to be me, okay, so that's why I will never spend the block. I'm gonna stay on the other side of the street. We're safe. So I All right, insidious, I want to name. I am Also and I don't spend the block.
Speaker 1:I say why would I reaching the trash to eat something I've already thrown away, it's in the land field. But at this point I hear the, I hear the people. And what about time? What about change? What about maturity? No, because you had time to change and be mature when you were with me and you chose not to do it. So these are gonna this is just gonna be one that got lost. I'm sorry. And it's not even like like a, like a bitter, vindictive thing, like, oh yeah, you're gonna fill it now. I ain't there now. How does that feel? No, I'm legit in a place where I want you to find somebody that's for you wholeheartedly, baby, it's not me. Yeah, I again.
Speaker 1:I agree with you. You have already said show me that you aren't capable. Exactly, you are not capable. Like right, you show, no matter what time has passed, what you've experienced in life. The second you Sneeze a little too loud, I will be reminded of the fact that you show me already that you weren't capable, and so maybe that is like petty and immature, or right like, and I don't feel that's bad cuz yo, I've given you other chances.
Speaker 1:You've made a fool of me, probably multiple times before this. You had me out in these streets looking crazy. No, that's probably why I really don't like Robin, because I'm just like stand up, honey. Stand up, I mean or, and either and I agree with you stand up either to me or the outside, or him right. Stand up to me and say I Don't care, mind your fucking business, I want to do this, cool right. Or stand up to him and say, yo, you really got me fucked up and it's not cool that you got me like this at all. And so I'm going to because you people don't change until you give them a reason to change. And some people, unless they really really want to, yeah, and some people and I think and I think that's the biggest thing for me, because Everybody has them in it in it to change yeah, 100%.
Speaker 1:What a old girl say To me I was always your rule. You never made me an exception at all. I was always your rule. You was like no, whatever. You never was like oh, you know what? And I love that's a deal. Make me your exception. Yeah, make me your exception. And the fact that you don't want to let me know it's not me like that, that is so cool. You do not fuck with me like that and that is okay. It is okay and this is what I want the people to know.
Speaker 1:This this evening, this day, when I don't know, whenever you're listening to this, thinking someone is attractive, mm-hmm. And Liking someone is to our two different things, two different things. Like is an action word, mm-hmm. So you can be all up in my face and I'm cute, yeah, but if you're not putting no action behind it, no, you don't like me. I just hope this guy that and it's.
Speaker 1:It really makes me sad when I think about the dating scene for us in the time they were in, right now, because between these just downright Massagenistic, just podcast. Oh, I think that there are Men who show up that way because there are women who like it cool. Like, there are women who I love that Really, yes, not for me, that is my, that's, that's not my thing. Like I want my nigga to be a nigga, I can kick you with right. Like I want this to be. Like I say this all the time like I'm looking for my partner in crime.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I want to wake up in the morning and roll over and look at my nigga and be like yo, let's rob a bank today, and then it can be like, and vice versa, right, I want him to wait, want to wake up in him, roll over and be like, hey, yo, we're gonna take over the world today. And I'm like, bad, gas up the jeep, like that's exactly what I want, and I have not ran. I don't know where that nigga is hiding. I don't. I don't know where they stay. Yeah, I'm gonna hide me. Listen, I will come to you. Yeah, have car will travel. Yeah, I will listen.
Speaker 1:Am I not in the right spaces? I don't understand what longitude and latitude I need to be using, but I have not ran up on this dude yet. Yeah, and it's the like old school dude that be like oh, you know, I'm just old school, which is just cold, for I'm going to be a misogynist Mm-hmm, nah, nah, no, like we're, like we're, we're, we're not doing that. Let's. Let's be clear. I'm not my grandmother, because my grandmother was in a whole different time. Oh, listen, it's a. It was a whole different time and I'm a need for y'all to acknowledge that.
Speaker 1:Like this, this whole thing where y'all like you need to cook a meal, and and here's the other thing, right, and I think men hear that and they think like I was a sheena. I'm not saying I don't want to do that. I'm saying I want my relationship to be reciprocated. I want to be able to expect a meal, just like you can expect a meal, and that's and I feel like that's cool. Any woman that does that, like your Significant other, comes home every day to a home cook meal. I love that for you. I'm that is something that shy have talked about and established and you know you've instilled any. I love that for you.
Speaker 1:However, like you said, whoever my partner is, we are going to have a conversation. Yeah, we're gonna know what expectations we have of each other. Listen, are you gonna walk into this house every day to a home cook meal? Absolutely not. No, you're not.
Speaker 1:I had a bowl of cereal for dinner, but I don't even. I had a peanut butter jelly sandwich. There you go and I slept well and excellent. No stomach growl. It was satisfied, phenomenal. Some barbecue chips to go with that thing Smack right.
Speaker 1:Well, I make you a sandwich. When I make you, I was cuz it's made with love, okay, but I'm gonna tell you what you can guarantee. I'm you gonna walk into this house because and it's gonna be clean, because that's what relaxes the girl after work. Exactly right, like I like that exactly, at the end of the day, like I don't like the fact that they try to be like this is what needs to happen in order for you to get a man that's not like yeah and it's like no. Like again, we're living a completely different time, love. We are living in a completely different time.
Speaker 1:If we know, bro and how you gonna talk about, oh, I want you to cook and clean and bust it wide open whenever, and I want you to show my Grandmother showed up, but you want to ask me to have an open relationship, to believe your bullshit Like you're not showing up, like Granddaddy was Mm-hmm, not at all, cuz Granddaddy did have a whole family across on the other side of town, but he made sure my mama didn't know you about. To stop us saying what I'm about to say, why I'm taking Because Granddaddy had a whole nother family. Okay To look, he's just running around here looking just like your grandpa, but and you got to keep listen. That's why people need to have their own set of expectations. Boom, and stop repeating this Bullshit that you're hearing from either.
Speaker 1:You need to list what you want, All of those things, and I'm going to tell you. These women are out here. They really are, like they really are. And y'all are putting emphasis on In social media and the social media world, on things that actually don't Matter, or talking about a relationship. Because the cost of food right now is high, we, it's probably cheaper if we go out. I'm just saying like it just really like these aren't the things right.
Speaker 1:I don't, what do you? What I value in a relationship is not and I'll say it happens on one like you got women who don't actually want to be married. They want to have weddings Mm-hmm, I want that, mm-hmm. I want to be in. Or I want to be with my partner in crime. I want to Dream big with him and I want him to dream big with me. That's what I want.
Speaker 1:So, if you've got that, hit me up. 239-696. Hit me up, leave something on the voicemail, we'll get right back to you again. That number is 239-696. That is funny. Yeah, no, I fully agree with that. But yeah, this dating scene is sad, but it right down your expectations.
Speaker 1:And do not spend a block at the end of the day. Yeah, that's that. Do not. Do not spend a block, because that person does not deserve your being in your presence. They did not deserve your time. They did not deserve your love.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, because what a Lori Hire say you are the prize. Come on, I will listen. I will quote Lori Harvey down you are the prize. I mean, she is what you want about it. But with she is sees that red flag, she's out, she's out of there and, to be honest, sometimes I don't even know she'd be seeing red flags. I don't think she's over it. Yeah, and I love it, and I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1:Y'all get bored with us. We can get bored with y'all. Exactly like I hate that men are upset that Lori Harvey is terrorizing black men in the way black men have been terrorizing black women for centuries, centuries, centuries. But y'all mad at Lori Harvey, but in the same sense, y'all feel sad for for Cassie. But if Cassie had that same Lori Harvey energy and got up out of there, what will we be saying?
Speaker 1:Okay, we gonna have a moment, we're gonna have a moment of silence on that, that is, that is yeah, cuz. That's crazy to me. It's crazy to me how they try to talk down about Lori Harvey, but the same, and they both dated diddy, remember. But I'm just. But at the end of the day. I just love how they try to just like nail Lori Harvey to the cross and I love her energy Because, again, if some women had that same energy, it would save a lot. Just get out of dodge.
Speaker 1:I gotta go not to blame women, cuz I Support when, yeah, yeah, I support women wholeheartedly, blaming anybody for being a victim of anything I want to know. Well, I was gonna say this like, sometimes men show up that way because that's how they're allowed to show, that's how they've constantly been allowed to show yeah, and nobody In just relationships. But a lot of these black men are coddled by their black mothers. Let me say something I don't think we, this podcast, will be three hours long if we get into that, honey, mmm. Look, it has been my experience, speaking for me, my experience that black mothers and grandmothers Because you go ahead and go green in there too, come on Just as bad is the reason why a lot of these black men Do and say the stuff that they do there, because, number one, their mothers don't know how to be Mothers.
Speaker 1:They try to be their girlfriends, mm-hmm, because I've never referred to myself as my son's first wife or anything. No, no, that's so weird, that is so strange. And if, um, it's so, if Father said that about his daughter, yeah, I was somebody. Come on, tanisha, I, I just said that to somebody. I'm like if the dad said that About his daughter, yeah, I would be on the phone with somebody so fast heads was being but yeah, so, yeah, a Number one red flag.
Speaker 1:Because what here? What is your relationship with your mother like? Boom, I want to know, I want to know, I just want to see I interact. Yeah, I'm gonna stay, and I want to know because, yes, something about how they were gonna have to. They were married first or their girlfriends were gonna Something. Yeah, stop, ill, stop it. I just, I just know, mm-hmm, here's the thing, and y'all, but y'all want y'all, y'all want them to have wives and y'all want them to. Yeah, y'all want to be grandmothers, yeah, I want them to procreate everything else, but y'all don't want to hold them accountable. No, and that's nothing. Yeah, they though that was gonna lead to the mothers try to be their sons girlfriend and then also do not hold them accountable.
Speaker 1:Like my children will tell you, I am huge Unaccountability, huge unaccountability anytime they run to me and they tell me anything that happened in school. Okay. So what did you do? What did you do after? Like you, you're not gonna just keep pointing the fingers. You have to tell me the whole situation and we're gonna talk about how you can take accountability for this and how we can move forward. So I talked about that all the time. I try to talk to it, about my employees, but that, yeah, it is amazing To me how immature adults become when you start to try and hold them accountable for their actions. Oh yeah, they hate it, they hate it, they hate it. So everybody else's fault. So, yeah, I mean, obviously, this is why we're friends. I'm also huge on accountability. I say in a heartbeat Well, friend, listen, I'm just gonna be 100% honest from what I'm hearing, from what I'm hearing is and for, like, people get on me about that, right, because oftentimes, like especially when there is disagreement, right, mm-hmm, people will be like, oh, you're playing the fence.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no. I think I am just as willing to say you were wrong as I am to say they were wrong, right, and I'm gonna tell you that. And that's the type of friend I am. And so I tell people all the time. Listen if you don't want me to tell you if you don't actually want to know if you were wrong, don't ask me. Yeah, I'm going to tell you I had to.
Speaker 1:I had to like Back away from like being that friend that always, then everybody, you know, call for advice or everything like that. Because I found myself Especially like we're having girlfriends and relationships, it's like you said before they want to call until you all the bed and everything like that, and you will hold them accountable. Then guess who's the bad guy? Not him, you, oh. So listen, I'm not getting into that, I don't have. All I'm going to tell you is a.
Speaker 1:I Don't know that I would do that if I was in your situation. I don't know if I would accept that if I was in your situation. I don't know everything going on. So I understand that by the other things, right, but if the nigga hit me in the head, I would be out. I Just gonna be a hard, always gonna be a hard pass. Yes, I always a hard pass, listen, but you do what you do, no judgment. I'm not in no judgment and I'm gonna be here for you.
Speaker 1:So, speaking of Friends giving advice, going back to spin the block, do not be that friend telling your friend to spend the block. Don't, don't be there. But it's the first of the years, my new year's resolution support me. That's gonna be a hard no for me, honey. No, I feel you and I'm gonna support anything that involves you growing as a person. I'm not going to support, like you know, what I want to start crack, hey, fortune friend, something that I think is like really important and it could definitely be a really good spot for us to end right, because, as a true friend, I'm going to support anything that is going to promote your forward progress. I want you to push forward right and and I will say, I don't know, I haven't spent the block for real.
Speaker 1:For real, All right, I just done the little dabble that we all do, you know, yeah, just that right, but I haven't truly spun the block and, in my opinion, in my thought, there's nothing about Re-entering an old relationship. That doesn't and may not significantly, but there's something that some that act inherently does push you, it does push you back, it does push you back and, again, it's a bad place that you don't want to be in because you're literally opening a womb, killed right, and You're, you're back to Trying to fall in love with this possibility. Yeah Well, you've already fallen in love with the possibility. You're back. Right because you're back, but I'm just saying, as it progresses, you're still hoping because I, I hope a million, a shot to you do great thing, a hundred percent. I hope that. I hope that for Ben and JLo, that it really does. I hope that for our cut and scrappy, oh Jesus. I think I hope that for Juan and the. I do, Robin Dixon. I really do hope that for them.
Speaker 1:Another thing what pushes me there is legit one person rather, it's a good friend, who, whomever that has been there through it all that the second, that shit goes south. Well, I mean, you told you, you knew how he was from the get-go, so why are you surprised? No, honestly, sidiya, really run. It goes back to this, like when someone shows you who they are, believe them, how hardily they get for exact what it is. Stop falling in love with a possibility. Stop trying to create a future for reality that's not existed. Leave it alone. Leave it alone, let it go, let it go. And that is not a failure, it's. It's not a failure. Yeah, it really was. I love that. We, you know, circled it all the way back around.
Speaker 1:Thank you for being here today. Sidiya, thank you so much for letting me come. Hopefully, before this Airs, are you posted? I may have a new Instagram page? Yeah, yeah, let me know, because we'll get everybody to follow the new Instagram. Yeah, put in the episode. I would be in zero. I don't know why your boy Mark is tripping on your stuff, but it's somebody was out to get me, I'm convinced. Yeah, yeah, but okay, okay, whatever, it's whatever, all right. Well, everyone that is my homegirl, sidiya. Again, thank you for coming. My name is Trinisha English. This is the things you should know. Podcast. Thank you so much. Don't forget to Drink water. Mind your business, like, subscribe and share. See you next time, okay, bye.